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Two dads, Lee and Bobby, share their journey adopting siblings, from the validation of being approved as parents to navigating their sons' unique personalities and trauma responses. Their story highlights the importance of maintaining connections with foster carers while developing therapeutic approaches to parenting children who've experienced neglect. • Equal treatment in the adoption process regardless of being a same-sex couple • Building productive relationships with the foster carer who had cared for the boys for 18 months • Honoring children's life stories and past experiences rather than seeing foster care as just "a holding room" • Understanding and supporting different trauma responses • Accessing post-adoption support including play therapy and life story work • Learning therapeutic parenting techniques that help disarm fight-or-flight responses • Creating support networks through extended family and professional resources If you'd like to hear more from the Barnardo's fostering and adoption NI podcast, like and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. To learn more about fostering adoption with us, search for Barnardo's online or find the link in our program description. Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

Parent and child fostering brings unique challenges as you welcome both a vulnerable young parent and their baby into your home for an intensive placement. We explore the delicate balance between supporting new parents while documenting their progress, and how these specialised placements can transform lives. Ness chats with Laura, a Parent and Child foster carer, and Ben from the BFANI social work team.  • Placements typically last three months due to their intensive 24/7 nature • Foster carers primarily support the parent to develop their own parenting skills rather than directly caring for the baby • The first six weeks focus on support and guidance, while the second half allows parents to demonstrate independence • Foster carers often become advocates for young parents among the many professionals involved Search for Barnardo's online to learn more about fostering and adoption with us. Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

Therapeutic parenting recognises children's behaviour as communication and focuses on nurturing connections to help children who've experienced trauma develop trust and security. Unlike traditional parenting approaches, therapeutic parenting requires understanding a child's inner world and developmental needs rather than simply managing behaviours. • Therapeutic parenting is not about being a therapist but about healing through nurturing relationships • Children who enter care have experienced trauma and have different developmental starting points • Traditional parenting techniques like time-outs can trigger feelings of rejection in care-experienced children • Children learn who they are through how others respond to them • Care-experienced children often function at a younger emotional age despite their chronological age • Children with early trauma often develop internal working models where they feel unsafe and unlovable • Building predictable, safe experiences helps traumatised children slowly develop trust If you'd like to hear more from the Barnardo's Fostering and Adoption NI podcast, like and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts. To learn more about fostering adoption with us, search for Barnardo's online or find a link in our program description. Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

What happens when a child in foster care asks the profound questions: "Who am I?" "Why am I here?" or "What happened to my parents?" These seemingly simple questions require thoughtful, age-appropriate responses that honour a child's right to understand their own story while protecting their emotional wellbeing. Meet Emma, an Art Therapist, from our Barnardo's Glasgow service who shares how creative approaches offer unique pathways for children to express and process difficult emotions. With the use of a fictional case study, Sharon, a supervising social worker from our Northern Ireland service, walks us through how narrative work can help a child feel orientated within their own story.  Whether you're a foster carer, social worker, therapist, or simply interested in supporting vulnerable children, this conversation offers invaluable insights into how thoughtful story work helps children integrate difficult experiences into a coherent narrative that supports healthy identity development. Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

Thinking about fostering but feeling overwhelmed by the process? Too busy to listen to the longer episode? We've got your back! This bitesize episode pulls back the curtain on the fostering assessment, walking you through exactly what to expect from your first contact with Barnardo's through to the home visit and beyond. We address common misconceptions head-on: No, you don't need parenting experience. Yes, your spare bedroom currently being used as an office is completely fine. And that home visit? It's not about judging your housekeeping skills! Our fostering specialists explain the essential criteria (being at least 21, having some experience with children, and having a spare bedroom) while emphasizing that the assessment process is designed to be supportive rather than intimidating. We explore what actually happens during a home visit, why your support network matters so much, and how social workers help match you with the right type of fostering opportunity - whether that's short-term placements, long-term care, or fostering to adopt. Perhaps most importantly, we highlight that fostering assessment is a two-way conversation. It's as much about you understanding the realities of caring for children from the care system as it is about us understanding your motivation and circumstances. The journey to becoming a foster carer should feel informative and empowering rather than overwhelming. To hear more from Ben, visit https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224608/episodes/13498142-navigating-the-fostering-assessment-process-with-ben-rice Ready to take the first step? The children who need stable, loving homes are waiting. Search for Barnardo's online or follow the link in our program description to learn more about fostering with us. Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

This episode we meet Lee and Bobby, two dads who have adopted two brothers through Barnardo's in the South East.  They share their inspiring journey, from navigating the adoption to embracing the chaos that came with welcoming their two boys during lockdown. We discuss: • Choosing Barnardo's  • The significance of LGBT+ representation in adoption  • Navigating the assessment process and overcoming personal hurdles  • Developing bonds • Therapeutic parenting techniques  • Contact with birth family  • Tips and encouragement for future adoptive parents Join us for this special episode marking LGBT+ Foster and Adoption Week 2025 Image credit: Ashton Bingham, Unsplash Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

Barnardo's Fostering and Adoption NI, aka BFANI, is marking its 45th anniversary this year and so we decided to uncover BFANI's origins story and meet the person who is responsible for getting it all started in NI.  Lynda Wilson's journey from a senior social worker in 1978 to the founder of Barnardo's Fostering in Northern Ireland is a testament to her passion and innovation in child welfare. A dissatisfaction with the existing system, and a poignant story of a young boy looking for a suitable home, sparked the first professional foster care project in the region, Barnardo's Fostering NI. Lynda reflects back on her career, the families, the children...and the rabbit...who found their way to her office. Helen Browne, the head of Barnardo's Fostering and Adoption NI today joins us to shed light on the current challenges and hopes in Northern Ireland's fostering landscape. We discuss how fee-paying fostering has evolved from a novel concept to a crucial support mechanism. And we explore the unprecedented need for foster carers and the challenges we face in our ongoing quest to support children and young people. Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

Christmas may be 'the most wonderful time of the year' but we can all agree most families will face a few ups and downs during the festive season. But what might that look like if you're also fostering a child who might have very mixed feelings about the season? In this episode we chat to our foster carer, Marcy, as she shares her personal story of getting her foster child through the holidays and sheds light on the importance of managing expectations, the importance of consistency and finding ways to allow children to process feelings and regulate themselves during the Christmas period.  Join us as we explore the delicate balance between celebrating family traditions and catering to the emotional needs of foster children during this busy time of year. Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

What if the path to parenthood looked different than you'd imagined? Join us on a heartfelt exploration of adoption in the UK, featuring Emma, an adopter in the South East who has journeyed through the highs and lows of IVF, alongside Sharon, the adoption lead from Northern Ireland, and Kat, the Scottish adoption lead. Together, we unpack the adoption process, especially following the heartbreak of fertility struggles.   This heartfelt conversation doesn't shy away from the complex emotions tied to infertility and adoption, such as grief and anger and we explore how these emotions can impact relationships. We also dive into the practical aspects of the adoption process, from assessment to panel. Whether you're contemplating adoption or simply want to understand more, we invite you to listen and connect with Barnardo's Fostering and Adoption in Northern Ireland for further insights. To read more on Emma's journey, you can find her book, A Pastoral Theology of Childlessness here: https://scmpress.hymnsam.co.uk/books/9780334060512/a-pastoral-theology-of-childlessness Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

ICYMI - this was recording during an online information session with our therapeutic parenting trainer, Stella.  Stella brings a wealth of experience and knowledge about fostering and adoption, and she shares how therapeutic parenting can be a game-changer for children who have endured trauma. You'll learn how recognizing children's behavior as a form of communication rather than a challenge can build stronger, more healing relationships. And Stella should know she is a former foster carer turned adoptive parent herself.  Through our conversation, we delve into the principles of attachment theory and discuss the profound impact early caregiving experiences have on a child's sense of safety and trust. Stella sheds light on the unique hurdles faced by children in the care system, including the devastating effects of multiple placements and the importance of creating a predictable and supportive environment. We also explore the heartbreaking realities of developmental trauma and how therapeutic parenting can provide the stability these children need to thrive. Finally, we tackle the complexities of adopting traumatized children, especially for single parents. Stella offers actionable advice on seeking help, building a robust support network, and the critical role of continuous learning and training. By understanding and addressing children's emotional states, therapeutic parenting not only fosters resilience but also enables parents to build lasting connections with their children. Tune in to gain invaluable insights and practical strategies for nurturing children who have experienced significant life disruptions. Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

How would you navigate life if your childhood was marked by neglect and abuse? In this very special episode from our BFANI on Tour! series, we meet an English birth mum who experienced two of her three children being taken into foster care but then later, with her third child, found support from a Barnardo's in the shape of a Parent and Child foster placement.  Our birth mum recounts her own early life experiences and the fateful choices made whilst she was young, vulnerable and traumatised herself. She reflects on the heartache and loss of her children, navigating relationships with her children's foster carers and ultimately reveals how three months in a Parent and Child Foster placement turned her life around for the better. Don't miss this extraordinary story of transformation and resilience, healing and empowerment. Please be aware that, in this episode, we will be covering difficult and sensitive topics including domestic abuse and sexual violence - so please be mindful of your own self-care. Thank you.   Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

This episode we're in Scotland where we meet Carole, a foster carer who specialises in short term, temporary fostering.  Carole shares her journey from casually supporting a neighbour to becoming a short term foster carer. Carol shares her experiences of navigating the initial excitement of new foster children, transitioning them into structured routines, working with birth families and children from diverse cultural backgrounds -  and sitting with uncertainty in a time of change for the children placed with her. Carole provides a heartfelt and insightful look into the day-to-day life of fostering. She opens up about the impact these transitions have had on her family, especially with the arrival of her grandchildren, offering a relatable and eye-opening perspective for anyone considering fostering. Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

Meet Barnardo's foster carers, Gillian and Megan, sisters in law who support each other on their fostering journey. Together, they shed light on how their families support each other and reflect on the vital role support networks play in fostering.    In this engaging conversation, we dive into the heart of blended foster families, a world where birth children, adopted kids, and foster children grow up together. Gillian and Megan share their strategies for nurturing strong bonds with their foster children and reflect on the importance of a reliable support network, particularly when it comes to understanding trauma and the ways it can present.    Join us for this inspiring discussion with two foster carers supporting their foster children within one big family.  Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

Parent and child fostering is a very specialised type of fostering.  Parent and child placements give parents, with new babies or very young children, the opportunity to develop their parenting skills and gain support from a specially trained foster carer. These placements can help keep families together. In this episode, meet Laura a passionate advocate of parent and child fostering who began her fostering journey with Barnardo's in 2015. We're also joined by Ben from our team who gives us an insight into application process and the skills required.  We delve into the depths of parent and child fostering support, highlighting the crucial role of fostering connections and building trust.  This episode is a treasure trove of insights, experiences, and advice for those interested in this life-changing journey. Be sure to tune in and get an inside look into the world of parent and child fostering. Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.

Did you know Barnardo’s Fostering & Adoption NI is just one of a small group of voluntary adoption agencies in Northern Ireland? In this very special panel discussion, to mark Adoption Week,  Adoption Routes, Family Care Adoption Services and Barnardo’s Fostering & Adoption NI, got together to discuss what it is like to adopt via a voluntary agency, their assessment and matching processes and the kinds of support and post-adoption care you can expect. The session was followed by a Q&A session. Meet the Panel: Lesley Delaney from Adoption Routes Adoption Routes Brian Downey from Family Care Family Care Adoption Hilary Armstrong from Barnardo’s Fostering & Adoption Barnardo's Fostering & Adoption NI Join us as we demystify the process and help you select the right voluntary adoption agency that serves your needs best. Learn more about fostering and adoption with Barnardo’s: https://www.barnardos.org.uk/get-support/fostering-and-adoption To arrange a no-strings call visit https://www.barnardos.org.uk/foster/register-to-foster To ask a question, give us some feedback or make a topic request, email Ness at: [email protected] Changing childhoods, changing lives.