Advertise on podcast: The Down and Dirty Podcast

Who pays on a swinger date—and what happens when a partner says a connection needs to stop? Chuck D is back with The Professor for a catch-up that goes from a murder-mystery party to splitting the tab, veto power, and the moment play partners start feeling more like family. They don’t agree on everything, and that’s where the conversation gets interesting. In this episode: Dating expectations, drinks, and who picks up the check.Veto power: stopping a connection and talking about why.Friendship, chemistry, and changing dynamics in the lifestyle.A cookout-plate test of friendship.A ridiculous shower-versus-carpet challenge.Who pays on a lifestyle date—and do you talk about it beforehand? Leave your take in the episode comments. Follow The Down & Dirty Podcast and leave a rating or review if you enjoy the show. Chapters00:00 Welcome back, Chuck D01:04 Murder-mystery party recap06:13 Who pays on a lifestyle date?15:28 Veto power and communication23:59 Cookout plates and friendship26:18 When friends stop playing30:30 The 60-day challenge33:18 Goodbye and the manscaping tease34:14 Credits Hosts: The Professor and Chuck DProducer: DavidProduced by Down & Dirty Productions Company.Music credit: Sounds by Victoria. Community & creative partners Glitz by Jax / Good SupplyPassionScapes PhotographyCouplesNextDoor.comMore episodes: downdirtypodcast.com Adults only. Explicit language and sexual discussion. Personal experiences and opinions; entertainment and education.

Recorded live at WC's bar takeover, The Professor, Mrs. Doll and Chuck D talk party expectations, meeting people and keeping the pressure off. A guest shares her experience as a newcomer while the crew trades practical tips on introductions, attire and boundaries. Add Cheez-Its, a Subway story and a couple of dirty games, and you've got a night that sounds like Down & Dirty. What we're getting into: • Party expectations and what the room actually feels like. • Introductions, meeting the hosts and making space for newcomers. • Hotel-party prep, what to wear and knowing your limits. • A guest's experience finding her footing in the lifestyle. • Cheez-Its, Subway, adult games and the stories between the advice. • Communication, relationship labels and keeping the experience enjoyable. What helps you feel welcome at a lifestyle event? Tell us in the episode comments, and follow The Down & Dirty Podcast for the next conversation. Enjoying the show? Leave us a rating or review. Listen and connect: More episodes: downdirtypodcast.com Community and events: CouplesNextDoor.com Hosts: The Professor, Mrs. Doll and Chuck D Producer: David Produced by Down & Dirty Productions Company Music credit: Sounds by Victoria Sponsors / Partners Mentioned Glitz by Jax / Good SupplyPassionScapes PhotographyCouplesNextDoor.com Adults only. Explicit language and sexual discussion.

First-party nerves, filthy jokes, and a bedroom superpower worth bragging about. Brandon joins Justin and Jennifer for a Dirty Down South conversation about swinging, wheelchair sex, and finding a community where he feels comfortable being himself. From sitting quietly in the corner at his first lifestyle club visits to joining a naked pool party, Brandon shares how he found his people—and what confidence, pleasure, and connection look like in his own life. They get into: Sex, oral pleasure, and looking beyond penetrative sex.Accessibility at clubs, hotel takeovers, and lifestyle cruises.Exploring sexuality without assuming where it has to lead.Jealousy, comparison, boundaries, and honest communication.Seeing the person—and the possibilities—beyond the wheelchair.Expect outrageous jokes, candid personal stories, and practical perspective from someone living it. Community & events mentionedExplore parties, takeovers, and upcoming events withOn the Border Lifestyle Co. Support the people who support the showGlitz by Jax / Good SupplyPassionScapes PhotographyCouplesNextDoor.com Follow The Down & Dirty Podcast, leave a rating or review, and find more episodes atdowndirtypodcast.com. Adults only. Explicit language and sexual discussion.

Brittney joins Ladies’ Play Den to talk about how she went from attending lifestyle events to helping build Spicy Shenanigans in the Quad Cities. The conversation gets into creating an inclusive community, privacy and vetting, LGBTQ/poly inclusion, trust, consent, boundaries, pregame routines, go-bags, and the kind of toy stories that only happen on Ladies’ Play Den. In this episode: How Brittney became part of building Spicy Shenanigans Creating a more inclusive lifestyle community Privacy, vetting, discretion, and member safety Bisexuality, poly dynamics, trust, and boundaries What actually goes in a lifestyle go-bag Violet Wand trust and the Womanizer boundary conversation The glass-dildo story and other LPD chaos How to connect with Brittney and the Spicy Shenanigans communityHosts: Eliza and Mrs. DollGuest: BrittneyProducer: DavidProduced by Down & Dirty Productions Company. Supported by: Glitz by Jax / Good Supply PassionScapes Photography CouplesNextDoor.comListen and find more episodes:https://downdirtypodcast.com

The Professor & Chuck get into the parts of lifestyle parties people do not always talk about: privacy, cameras, hygiene, leaked photos, public-sex culture, sexual history, and the arguments that go sideways fast once the microphones are on. In this episode: what instantly kills the mood at a lifestyle party; how privacy and camera expectations have changed; why leaked or nonconsensual photos cross a real line; dogging, paid-sex hypotheticals, and host stories; whether it is worse to run from a fight or get knocked out in front of your partner; sexual-history banter; and a completely unnecessary but very serious pizza ranking. Hosts: The Professor and Chuck D. Producer: David Produced by: Down & Dirty Productions Company Sponsored / supported by: Glitz by Jax / Good Supply PassionScapes Photography CouplesNextDoor.comCND new-member promo code: DD25 More episodes: https://downdirtypodcast.com Music credit: Sounds by Victoria.

The Professor sits down with his brother, The Prince, for a loose, funny episode about swinger-party life, event hosting, relationships, and the questions that only come up when family and lifestyle stories collide. They get into the 60-Day Challenge, what it is like navigating lifestyle events as a single man versus a couple, the realities of throwing swinger parties, and what Eye Candy Events has coming up — including bar takeovers, hotel weekends, after-hours room crawls, Halloween plans, and the Glow Party. The Prince also steps into Poly, Benefits, or One Night for two rounds of the recurring Down & Dirty game. In This Episode: The Professor and The Prince on brotherly chemistry and lifestyle stories The 60-Day Challenge and some very specific sex-location debates Going to swinger events as a single man versus as a couple What it takes to host and grow lifestyle events Eye Candy Events, the Red Eye, hotel takeovers and room crawls Halloween, New Year plans and the September 19 Glow Party South Dakota party culture and the people who keep the weekend going Finding and promoting alternative-lifestyle events online Two rounds of Poly, Benefits, or One NightHosts: The Professor & The Prince Support Down & DirtyGlitz by Jax / Good SupplyPassionScapes PhotographyCouplesNextDoor.com — New members can use promo code DD25. Follow the show, subscribe, and leave us a rating or review. Listen to more episodes at:https://downdirtypodcast.com

What does the Wisconsin lifestyle scene actually look like? The Professor and The Dean sit down with Jen from Jen Social Networking (JSN) to talk about building swinger events in Wisconsin, what goes into hosting hotel takeovers and play-party weekends, and why creating the right community matters just as much as throwing a big party. Jen takes us behind the scenes of Wisconsin events — from the Delavan scene and venue relationships to Halloween crowds, resort weekends, suite parties, key-party-style social games, ticketing, and the challenges new couples can face when they walk into an established group for the first time. In This Episode: The Wisconsin swinger and lifestyle-event scene How JSN events grew and evolved Hotel takeovers, resorts and play-party weekends What event hosts actually deal with behind the scenes Why venue relationships matter Helping new couples break into established social groups Key parties and social-selection games Halloween events and larger lifestyle weekends Finding events, tickets and the right community Why the best part of the lifestyle can be the friendships that come out of itHosts: The Professor & The Dean Guest: Jen from Jen Social Networking (JSN) Find JSN Events & Tickets:https://jenssocialnetworking.com Listen to The Down & Dirty Podcast:https://downdirtypodcast.com

Dirty Down South is heading to Negril, Jamaica. Justin and Jennifer sit down with Bunny from Tom’s Trips for a candid first-timer’s guide to Hedonism II — what the nude-pool culture actually feels like, how consent works, what the all-inclusive experience is like, and why so many repeat guests end up calling the place “home.” Bunny shares decades of lifestyle and travel experience while Justin brings the perspective of someone who has made the trip again and again. They talk body confidence, getting comfortable naked, the mix of nudists and lifestyle guests, hosted group trips, Miss No Swimsuit, catamaran chaos, payment planning, what to pack, and the friendships that can grow out of a week in Jamaica. In This Episode: What Hedonism II is actually like for a first-timer Nude-pool culture, body confidence and getting comfortable in your own skin Consent, participation boundaries and why not everyone at Hedo is there to play All-inclusive food, bars and resort life Why repeat guests describe Hedonism as “home” Tom’s Trips hosted groups and matching travelers to the right week Miss No Swimsuit, catamaran stories and Hedo traditions Trip length, deposits and payment planning What to bring: a good attitude, a sarong and a cup Why the friendships can matter as much as the wild storiesHosts: Justin from OTB and Jennifer Guest: Bunny from Tom’s Trips Guest & Dirty Down South Links: Tom’s Trips On the Border Lifestyle Co. / OTB eventsSupport & Partners: Glitz by Jax / Good Supply PassionScapes Photography CouplesNextDoor.comCND New Member Promo Code: Use code DD25. Listen to The Down & Dirty Podcast:https://downdirtypodcast.com Join the CND community:https://couplesnextdoor.com

The Professor, Chuck D and Mrs Doll are recording live from the VIP area at O’Zone’s Kinkster Ball — surrounded by floggers, rope, wax, performers, play stations and a room full of people getting ready for the night to start. What begins with everyone roasting Chuck for showing up to a kink event dressed like somebody’s uncle turns into a live tour through the crossover between swinging and kink. The crew talks impact play, negotiation, pickup play, wax, rope, pet play, kink education, consent, headspace and why some people find restraint as grounding as it is sexy. Mistress Mary stops by to explain how she negotiates impact scenes and introduces newcomers to different sensations. Waffle the Pup and members of the Art Dungeon community break down rope tops, pet play and learning kink safely. Rigger Daniel explains what people can get out of rope, and O’Zone’s Travis closes the episode with the fetish fashion show, rope runway, immersive party setup and the swinger/kink crossover he calls “swink.” In This Episode: Live from O’Zone’s Kinkster Ball Chuck D’s extremely non-kinky “dad outfit” Mrs Doll on wax play and her St. Andrew’s Cross experience Mistress Mary on impact play, negotiation and pickup play Floggers, wax, sensation play and beginner-friendly kink Waffle the Pup on pet play, rope and kink community What makes a responsible rope top The Art Dungeon and kink education Why rope can feel grounding, restrictive and sexy Travis on O’Zone’s fetish fashion show and rope runway Where swinger culture and kink culture overlap — or “swink”Hosts: The Professor Chuck D Mrs DollFeatured Guests: Mistress Mary, Waffle the Pup, Daniel, Travis and members of the O’Zone / Art Dungeon community. Want to find O’Zone events and more of the lifestyle community? Start at CouplesNextDoor.com. Support & Partners: Glitz by Jax / Good Supply PassionScapes Photography CouplesNextDoor.comCND New Member Promo Code: Use code DD25. Listen to The Down & Dirty Podcast:https://downdirtypodcast.com Join the CND community:https://couplesnextdoor.com

Scott and April from Naughty Gym join The Professor to introduce their new book, Wild Love Theory — a relationship philosophy built around authenticity, autonomy, intentional agreements, and the idea that love should never require either partner to become smaller. Wild Love Theory goes on sale September 1, and Scott and April say preorders are open now. They will also be in Minneapolis over Labor Day weekend, with their official book-launch party happening September 6. With Dr. Scarlet and The Dean joining the conversation, the group pressure-tests Wild Love Theory against real-life non-monogamy: polyamory, swinging, veto power, hierarchy, separate dating, relationship rules, safety, jealousy, mental load, and what happens when two people genuinely want different things. Scott and April also talk about Naughty Gym's evolution into AYA Society, their upcoming unbinding ceremony, Wild Love Theory retreats, and then stick around to play DDP's Poly, Benefits, or One Night. In This Episode: What Wild Love Theory is — and why Scott and April wrote the book Why “love should never make you smaller” became a core principle Polyamory, swinging, and their version of “poly light” Rules, autonomy, veto power, and living agreements When safety and control start to collide Separate dating and the difficulty of finding a four-way match Mental load, imposed burdens, and relationship responsibility Hierarchy in non-monogamous relationships The Naughty Gym transition to AYA Society The Wild Love Theory book launch and upcoming retreats Poly, Benefits, or One NightWild Love Theory: Book release: September 1 Preorders: Open now Official Minneapolis book-launch party: September 6For Wild Love Theory, Naughty Gym / AYA Society, events, podcasts, and current book-launch information:NaughtyGym.com Host: The Professor Featured Voices: Dr. Scarlet, The Dean Guests: Scott + April — Naughty Gym / AYA Society Support & Partners: Glitz by Jax / Good Supply PassionScapes Photography CouplesNextDoor.comCND New Member Promo Code: Use code DD25. Follow or subscribe to The Down & Dirty Podcast so you do not miss the next episode. If you enjoyed the conversation, rate and review the show on your podcast app. Listen to more Down & Dirty:https://downdirtypodcast.com Join the CND community:https://couplesnextdoor.com

The Professor reunites with original Down & Dirty co-host Mrs. Doll for an old-school catch-up that moves from Minnesota lifestyle parties and swinger meet-and-greets into solo dates, sex, and the kind of questions only these two would turn into a full conversation. They talk about why meet-and-greets still matter even when nobody is going home together, The Dean's hilarious post-date work-mule arrangement, whether scrolling your phone during sex is ever acceptable, porn during sex, Mrs. Doll's P***y Palace story, the 60-Day Sex Challenge, riding versus doggy, and their lifestyle version of Marry/F**k/Kill. In This Episode: The Professor and Mrs. Doll's old-school Down & Dirty reunionMinnesota lifestyle parties and meet-and-greet cultureSolo dates and why meet-and-greets can be a useful first stopThe Dean's unofficial post-date work-mule ruleScrolling your phone during sexPorn during sex and where the line changesMrs. Doll's P***y Palace storyThe 60-Day Sex ChallengeRiding versus doggy — and Mrs. Doll's two-for-one workout logicThe Down & Dirty lifestyle version of Marry/F**k/KillA future F**k-It Bucket tease Hosts: The ProfessorMrs. DollProducer: David Produced by: Down & Dirty Productions Support & Partners: Glitz by Jax / Good SupplyPassionScapes PhotographyCouplesNextDoor.comCND New Member Promo Code: Use code DD25. Listen to The Down & Dirty Podcast:https://downdirtypodcast.com Join the CND community:https://couplesnextdoor.com

We almost left Trapeze Atlanta. Our first impression was not what we expected. The front room was quiet, we were not sure what was happening, and then someone punched a code into a door. On the other side was the Diamond Club—and one instruction: “You need to meet Max.” Max does not work for Trapeze. He is a longtime single male member who says he has been visiting since 2004 and became an unofficial ambassador because people trust him to respect the room. Max joins The Professor, Chuck D., and The Dean to explain what single men often get wrong, why acknowledging the entire couple matters, and how communication, consent, emotional intelligence, and acting like you have been there before can build trust in lifestyle spaces. He also shares his personal memories of Trapeze’s former indoor pool and hot tubs, how Atlanta’s lifestyle scene has changed from his point of view, and one unforgettable club story involving two sisters, a cousin, and the terrifying discovery that the “lube” was actually liquid soap. In This Episode: Why The Professor and The Dean nearly left Trapeze Atlanta The coded door leading to the Diamond Club Why everyone told them they needed to meet Max How Max became an unofficial ambassador without working at the club Max’s experience visiting Trapeze since 2004 His memories of the former indoor pool and hot tubs How Atlanta’s lifestyle scene has changed from his perspective Why single men sometimes get written off in lifestyle spaces Acknowledging both partners, respecting boundaries, and reading the room Why communication and emotional intelligence matter more than swagger The liquid-soap story Chuck D. says may be stranger than his own stories Poly, friends with benefits, or one-night stand: Rihanna, Tracee Ellis Ross, and Sofía VergaraHosts and Guest: Hosts — The Professor, Chuck D., and The Dean Guest — Max Producer — David Produced by — Down & Dirty Productions CompanySponsored by: Glitz by Jax / Good Supply PassionScapes Photography CouplesNextDoor.comCND New Member Promo Code: Use code DD25. Listen, follow the show, and leave a rating or review:https://downdirtypodcast.com Join the CND community:https://couplesnextdoor.com

Dirty Down South begins with a candid conversation about polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, Oklahoma lifestyle culture, and the reality of hosting events while everyone else gets to party. Justin and Jennifer join The Professor and David to talk about living openly, dealing with family judgment, the difference between swinging and poly relationships, and why consensual non-monogamy often requires more honesty and emotional work than people expect. The conversation also moves through Oklahoma's lifestyle scene, hotel takeovers, Sooner Swing, lifestyle travel, event-host pressure, and the very specific rule The Professor follows when he still has hosting duties to finish. In This Episode: ​Jennifer's decision to stop hiding that she is polyamorous​Why ethical non-monogamy can be harder than cheating​Swinging, polyamory, and different levels of emotional connection​How partners handle love, sex, autonomy, and relationship effort differently​Oklahoma's active swinger and lifestyle-event culture​What it takes to build and manage a large adult event​Why party hosts often miss the party they created​Hotel takeovers, lifestyle cruises, and traveling for community​The Professor's no-nutting-before-the-party-is-over rule​Why organizers sometimes want to experience the vibe instead of creating itFeatured Organization:On the Border Lifestyle Co. (OTB) Host & Featured Voices: ​The Professor​Justin​Jennifer​David — Producer​Produced by — Down & Dirty Productions CompanySponsored by: ​Glitz by Jax / Good Supply​PassionScapes Photography​CouplesNextDoor.comCND New Member Promo Code: Use code DD25. Follow the show, leave a rating or review, and find more episodes at:https://downdirtypodcast.com Join the CND community at:https://couplesnextdoor.com

Fake lifestyle profiles are getting harder to spot when AI, heavy filters, old photos, one-sided couple accounts, and privacy concerns all blur together. Mrs. Doll sits down with Jax, The Dean, and David to talk about the difference between a private profile and a deceptive one, the warning signs that make them stop trusting an account, and why moving a conversation off-platform too quickly can create unnecessary risk. Jax also shares a wild early lifestyle story involving outdated photos, a woman’s secret boyfriend, a bathroom proposition, a very drunk night at Punch Bowl Social, and a couple who seemed to be wrapped in one giant red flag. In This Episode: Why one active partner does not automatically mean a couple is fake Perfect pictures, AI edits, backward tattoos, and heavy filtering Old wedding photos and profiles that no longer match real life The buffalo profile that wanted to meet without showing anyone Jax’s catfish night with a secret boyfriend and a chaotic after-party plan Why some people avoid sexting and move to an in-person meet quickly Pressure to move conversations away from a verified lifestyle platform How to protect intimate photos and personal information online Profile clues moderators look for when something feels wrong Why suspected fake profiles should be reported instead of posted publicly Green flags: recent activity, complete bios, balanced couple profiles, and verificationHost & Featured Voices: Host — Mrs. Doll Featured voices — Jax, The Dean, and David Producer — David Produced by — Down & Dirty Productions CompanySponsored by: Glitz by Jax / Good Supply PassionScapes Photography CouplesNextDoor.comCND New Member Promo Code: Use code DD25. Follow the show, leave a rating or review, and find more episodes at:https://downdirtypodcast.com Join the CND community at:https://couplesnextdoor.com

How do you go from wondering whether a couple is flirting with you at Target to taking a red-flag couple to Mexico? A and B from WFgoCouple join The Professor and Chuck D to share the messy, funny, and sometimes uncomfortable path that brought them into the lifestyle. Their first soft-swap experience nearly made them quit. The reclaiming sex afterward turned into twenty-four times in seven days. Then they met a couple trying to fix their marriage through swinging, ignored nearly every warning sign, and somehow ended up traveling to Mexico together. They also talk about swinging in Fargo, why North Dakota’s scene is bigger than outsiders assume, how difficult it can be to find verified couples in a smaller market, and how attending CND events finally helped them find a safer and more welcoming community. In This Episode: Wondering whether another couple was flirting with them at Target Trying to find swingers “in the wild” Why two completely new couples struggled through their first soft swap The experience that nearly made them leave the lifestyle Reclaiming sex and twenty-four times in seven days Meeting a couple who said swinging would fix their marriage Recognizing a consent problem and getting dressed to leave Ignoring more red flags and eventually traveling to Mexico together Finding CND and attending their first lifestyle event The growing Fargo and North Dakota lifestyle community Advice for new couples attending their first eventHosts & Guests: Hosts — The Professor and Chuck D. Guests — A and B from WFgoCouple Producer — David Produced by — Down & Dirty Productions CompanySponsored by: Glitz by Jax / Good Supply PassionScapes Photography CouplesNextDoor.comCND New Member Promo Code: Use code DD25. Listen and find more episodes at:https://downdirtypodcast.com