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Are our dating standards keeping us single? Are we too quick to label people toxic, narcissistic, or full of red flags? Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex therapist and author Todd Baratz for a conversation about modern dating, sex, intimacy, relationship anxiety, and why finding a healthy relationship might require us to rethink everything we’ve been taught about love. Does a healthy relationship mean never having doubts or never going to bed angry? Todd challenges popular relationship advice and explains why real connection requires vulnerability, curiosity, discomfort, and the willingness to do the work. Topics discussed: • Modern dating and disconnection: How social media and wider cultural changes influence connection, intimacy, and the way we relate to each other. • Vulnerability and emotional intimacy: Why opening up feels so difficult, how our defenses protect us from rejection, and why emotional closeness requires ongoing self-work. • Dating standards and the search for the perfect partner: How unrealistic expectations and the pursuit of an ideal relationship can shrink your dating pool. • Red flags, dealbreakers, and dating anxiety: Whether political differences, wanting children, lifestyle preferences, and other incompatibilities should determine who gets a chance. • Entitlement, self-worth, and reciprocity: What we deserve in relationships and why healthy relationships require collaboration rather than one-sided demands. • Couples therapy and emotional labor: What happens when one partner is ready to work on the relationship and the other resists. • Relationship doubts and the fear of commitment: Why doubt is a normal part of making choices and why you don't need to feel 100% certain about your partner. • Closure and heartbreak: Whether closure is necessary to heal, how to process grief without someone else's apology, and why the popular advice “if they wanted to, they would” can create more disconnection. • Why the right relationship can trigger you: How intimacy brings unresolved childhood wounds to the surface, why the real question is how partners respond to conflict, and how repair and emotional safety distinguish a challenging relationship from a harmful one. • Therapy speak and performative healing: Why words like “boundaries,” “attachment,” “triggered,” “holding space,” and “narcissist” can lose their meaning when they're used to avoid vulnerability rather than create genuine connection. • Trauma, anxiety, and self-awareness: Why understanding your history is not the same as feeling and processing it, why we may need to worry less, and how to stop turning every difficult experience into an intellectual exercise. • Therapy, self-help, and doing the work: Why practical steps such as therapy, books, and relationship resources can help us grow, and why insight alone doesn't automatically change our behavior. • Authenticity and being yourself: Todd's perspective on showing up as a real person rather than performing a polished therapist persona, the pressure to maintain different identities at work and in relationships, and why humor, honesty, and imperfection matter. • Todd's personal struggles and growth: His experiences with being single, solitude, relationship challenges, heartbreak, self-care, and decades of therapy and how he handles difficult emotions without beating himself up. • Discomfort, shame, and curiosity: Why learning to tolerate uncertainty, asking more questions, challenging rigid thinking, and becoming more open to other people can create deeper connections. Follow Todd:Instagram: @yourdiagnonsense Website: www.toddsbaratz.com Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Book a call: https://www.sexwithalexa.co/book-online Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beducate.me/alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Carly from Read Aurore to talk about why affairs, cheating, secrecy, and other taboo desires can be so damn hot. What makes an affair feel so passionate? Why does forbidden sex create such intense desire? And can cheating ever be understandable—or even acceptable—depending on the circumstances? Alexa and Carly get into the complicated psychology of infidelity, including why people cheat, why an affair isn't necessarily about the person being cheated on, the power of secrecy and feeling chosen, and why affairs between two people who are both in relationships can feel more equal than an affair between a partnered person and someone single. Topic discussed: Affairs and infidelity: why affairs happen and why they're sexually appealingCheating and relationship agreementsWhether you should tell someone their partner is cheatingThe “what you don't know can't hurt you” debateThe ethics of being the other person in an affairMarried people cheating with single peopleWhy people having affairs often don't leave their primary relationshipsThe idea of financial compensation in an affair Esther Perel and The State of AffairsCheating in abusive or neglectful relationshipsCheating when a partner is sick or disabledSexual needs within long-term relationshipsSexual incompatibilitySex workers and whether hiring one constitutes cheatingDefining what “cheating” means in a relationshipPorn as a potential form of cheatingOpen relationships and the possibility of cheating within themPublic sex/public playThe thrill and risk of getting caughtSex in semi-public placesPrivacy, consent, and the ethics of public sexual behaviorBeing walked in on during sexConsensual/role-play affairsThe fantasy of secrecy without actual betrayalHotel rooms and sneaking aroundFear of getting caughtFeeling chosen/special through an affairNovelty and new relationship energy Follow Carly:Instagram: @readaurore Website: www.readaurore.com  Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Book a call: https://www.sexwithalexa.co/book-online

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified holistic sexuality educator and embodied intimacy & relationship coach Lauren Elise Rogers for a deeply honest conversation about sexual trauma, healing, pleasure, intimacy, consent, and reclaiming your relationship with your body. In this episode: Sexual trauma and sexual assaultConsent and coercionWhy sexual trauma can be underreportedShame and sex-negative cultureRape culture and normalizing sexual harmVictim vs. survivor languageWhy healing is not linearTrauma, fear and helplessnessProcessing an experience after it happensTalking to a safe person after traumaTrauma and the bodyAccountability and taking responsibilityApologies and relationship repairDefensiveness and ego after causing harmListening to impact instead of defending intentAsking curious questionsCommunication and empathySex educators and trauma therapists working togetherPleasure as part of healingReclaiming intimacy after sexual traumaSex after sexual assaultPelvic-floor responses and sexual tensionTriggers and nervous-system responsesNeural pathways and creating new experiences of safetySomatic healing and body-based responsesShaking, movement, dancing and laughterOrgasm and pleasurePlay as a healing modalityTrauma becoming connected to erotic arousalForgiveness vs. reconciliationBoundaries after harmSelf-forgivenessHealing within healthy relationshipsTime, memory and healingWhy healing doesn't necessarily mean never being triggeredReclaiming pleasure, agency and identityBuilding a life beyond simply “surviving” Follow Lauren:Instagram: @sex_ed_for_you Website: www.sexedforyou.com Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Book a call: https://www.sexwithalexa.co/book-online Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2638-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator, event planner and author Niki Davis for a conversation about sexual shame, uncommon desires, kinks, fetishes, fantasies, self-pleasure, relationships and the psychology of arousal. Why do so many people feel ashamed of what turns them on? Niki Davis shares what she has learned from working with people with uncommon desires and explains the difference between shame and guilt, how shame can create a spiral of negative thoughts, and why people can feel like they have a “fetish self” and a separate identity. Topics discussed:• Sexual shame and how to recognize it• Shame vs. guilt• Uncommon sexual desires• Kinks vs. fetishes• Sexual fantasies• How the brain influences arousal• Whether desires can change or evolve• Exposure and developing new desires• Partner acceptance and exploring a partner’s kink• Balloon fetishes (poppers vs non-poppers)• Wet floor sign fetishes• Foot fetish• Carpet fetishism and Giorgio Carpet• Vore and being swallowed fantasies• Fantasy vs. real-life sexual experiences• Threesomes as fantasy vs. reality• Scat play• Disgust and arousal• Finding community around uncommon desires• Shame spirals and negative thought loops• Identifying sexual and emotional triggers• Keeping a thought log• Exploring kinks independently• Using imagination as part of erotic experiences Follow Niki:Instagram: @missbloomsexeducator Website: www.nikidavisf.com Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Book a call: https://www.sexwithalexa.co/book-online

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with gynecologist, sexual medicine expert, and author Dr. Maria Sophocles to talk openly about painful sex, vaginal health, sexual pleasure, menopause, low desire, and everything in between. Topics discussed: Why does sex hurt? How common is painful sex, and when should you see a doctor? Dr. Maria Sophocles breaks down the most common causes of sexual pain, including vaginal dryness and inadequate lubrication, lack of arousal, vaginismus and a hypertonic pelvic floor, dermatologic conditions such as lichen sclerosus, STIs including herpes, chlamydia and gonorrhea, and internal causes such as endometriosis, ovarian cysts, fibroids and scarring.Alexa and Dr. Sophocles also get into why lubrication isn't the same thing as arousal, the importance of taking time before penetration, sexual scripting, communication with your partner, the orgasm gap, faking orgasms, low libido and desire differences, and why treating pain can sometimes bring sexual desire back.They discuss estrogen, genitourinary syndrome of menopause, perimenopause, postpartum and breastfeeding-related changes, surgical menopause, chemotherapy, vaginal estrogen, systemic estrogen, birth control and its potential effects on dryness and libido, as well as pelvic floor physical therapy, Kegels and pelvic floor relaxation.The conversation also covers PMS and period symptoms, breast tenderness, mood changes, back pain, exercise, sleep, meditation, mindfulness, magnesium, ibuprofen, vitamin E and evening primrose oil.Pap smears, trauma during gynecological exams, pediatric speculums, lubricant during Pap testing, and the future of at-home HPV/Pap sample collection. They also play fact vs.fiction on cotton underwear, synthetic underwear, thongs, tight leggings, sweating after workouts, panty liners, vaginal discharge, vulva washing, soap, feminine washes, vaginal pH, normal genital odor, BV, boric acid, antibiotics, the vaginal microbiome, diet, fermented foods, probiotics/microbiome testing, vulvar irritation, pubic hair and friction. Follow Dr. Sophocles:Instagram: @mariasophoclesmd Website: www.mariasophoclesmd.com Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2638-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sex educator Jill Lissner, aka @sexedprincesss, forconversation about performative sex, pleasure, body image, consent, communication, and the weird sex trends taking over the internet. Topics covered: Performative sex and what it meansPleasure vs. performanceAuthentic/non-performative sexGendered expectations around appearancePenis size, erections and staminaMoaning and performing soundsStaying quiet because of shame or expectationsSoft penises and body acceptanceDecentering penetrationMutual masturbation and vulnerabilityPorn as a performanceBeing perceived and worrying how you lookLikeability, acceptance and social performanceReducing performance anxiety through exposure“Spectatoring” during sexAdvocating for your needs during sexDefaulting to giving as a performancePreference vs. performanceOrgasm faces“Cracked” and modern sexual terminologyActive participation in sexRiding/on-top positions and performing for appearanceRecording sexual experiencesPenetration as a performance expectationCritical thinking about sexual normsInternet sex trendsBall maxing/s*****m maxingScrotum size and attractionHow sexual trends spread onlineThe need for more scientific research on emerging sex trends Follow Jill:Instagram: @sexedprincesss Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Small Hands (Aaron Thompson) to talk about what really creates sexual attraction, the difference between confidence and competence, rough sex, kink, consent, boundaries, and the fantasies people don't always know how to talk about. In this episode: Non-sexual turn-ons and how they become sexual turn-onsHands, feet, scent and other physical turn-onsActs of service, chores, cleaning and thoughtfulness as turn onsAppreciation, validation and keeping long-term relationships connectedBoundary talks before professional collaborationsReading someone's comfort level and adjusting in the momentSexual toys, magic wands, lube and taking initiativeConfidence vs. competenceWhy competence may be more attractive than confidenceHumility, ego and letting actions speak for themselvesSexual performance anxiety and the pressure to “deliver”Small Hands' first g******g and early experiences in pornCNC (consensual non-consent) fantasiesDark fantasies and the importance of genuine desire and safetyKink, trauma and how life experiences can shape sexual interestsReclaiming autonomy through fantasyThe unexpected origins of a foot fetishWhat “rough sex” actually meansPhysical, verbal and psychological elements of rough sexWhy rough sex requires context, intent and communicationRough sex vs. disrespectConsent, boundaries and negotiating BDSM/kinkChoking and assuming a partner wants itHot ways of checking in during sex Why porn should never be treated as a guide for real-life behaviorTrust and safety as foundations for exploring darker fantasiesSmall Hands' private fantasy of slow, romantic, sensual sex Follow Aaron: Instagram: @thesmallhands_ Follow Alexa Andre: Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2633-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in back bed with Dr. Evan Goldstein, founder of Bespoke Surgical, creator of Future Method, and author of Butt Seriously. They discuss anal health, pleasure, preparation, and all the questions people are often too embarrassed to ask. Topics discussed in this episode: Anal pleasure and breaking down taboos and mythsExploring anal stimulation for the first timeThe P-spot/prostate and prostate orgasmsThe A-spot and anal pleasure for womenTopping vs. bottomingWhy tops should understand anal anatomyAnal foreplay and gradual penetrationThe three sphincter musclesBreathing, relaxation and communicationPain, bleeding and discomfort during anal sexLube and why anal sex differs from vaginal sexPenis size, thickness and anatomyMushroom-shaped penises and preparationBad first anal experiencesSelf-exploration and masturbationPressure vs. in-and-out stimulationRiding and controlling penetrationDilators and gradual anal trainingAnatomy vs. psychological/neurological factorsBleeding, tightness and when to seek medical carePoop during anal sexShame and anxiety around cleanlinessDouching and over-douchingGut health, fiber and dietPrebiotics and probioticsFood and how diet can affect anal sexCondoms and anal sexPrEP and DoxyPEPThe “toy test” after douchingHemorrhoids and what they actually areFissures and skin tagsPegging and strap-on playProstate massage and prostate milkingEdging and gooningAnal Botox and pelvic floor physical therapyButt facialsButt acne, ingrown hairs and hair removalWet wipes and anal irritationBidets and portable bidetsToilet paper vs. water-based cleaningEvan's work with Bespoke Surgical and Future Method Follow Dr. G:Instagram: @drevangoldstein | @bespokesurgical | @thefuturemethod Website and more: Bespoke Surgical Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2633-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Dr. Evan Goldstein, founder of Bespoke Surgical, creator of Future Method, and author of Butt Seriously. They do a deep dive into anal sex, butt health, and everything you've always wanted to ask about your a*****e. Topics Discussed Dr. Evan Goldstein's journey from heart surgery to anal surgeryComing out and discovering anal health as a medical specialtyCosmetic vs. functional anal proceduresHemorrhoids, fissures, skin tags, and anal anatomyPost-pregnancy anal changesGrooming injuries and anal skin concernsConfidence and body image around the anusAnal bleaching and whether it's worth itPerineum "sunning"What makes a "healthy" vs. "perfect" assholeThe truth about anal douchingProtecting the anal microbiomeWhy over-douching can increase STI and HIV riskFuture Method and isotonic douchingSafe products to use in the anusCan anal sex make you loose?Incontinence mythsMale vs. female pelvic anatomyAnal BotoxWhen surgery is necessaryDilators for beginnersFingering mistakes that cause injuriesProper lubricationRelaxation techniques for anal penetrationUnderstanding the three anal sphinctersThe three "types" of assholesBuilding up to anal safelyHow often bottoms should practiceFiber, probiotics, hydration, and digestive healthWhether everyone needs to douchePreparing for occasional anal sexThe prostate (P-spot)The A-spotProstate orgasmsCommon myths surrounding anal sexHow to reduce injury while maximizing pleasure Follow Dr. G:Instagram: @drevangoldstein | @bespokesurgical | @thefuturemethod Website and more: Bespoke Surgical Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Carly, founder of Read Aurore, to talk about why written erotica is becoming one of the most powerful tools for pleasure, communication and self-discovery.  Together they explore how true erotic stories differ from fantasy, why women are increasingly choosing erotica over visual porn, the psychology behind imagination and desire, how writing about sex can help process emotions and improve communication, and how reading erotica can inspire better sex and stronger relationships. Topics discussed: Carly's path to creating Aurora EroticaInterviewing strangers about sexDating in Europe vs New YorkVacation confidence and sexual freedomWhy true stories are hotter than fantasyTurning real experiences into eroticaWriting as emotional processingFirst-time sex that is actually goodWhy men should read eroticaWomen's real sexual desiresAffairs and taboo fantasiesOpen relationships vs secret affairHow Aurore selects submissionsWriting as therapyRewriting difficult experiencesSmut vs eroticaRomance vs eroticaThe decline in Gen Z sexual activityBenefits of reading eroticaBenefits of writing eroticaReliving pleasurable experiencesReading erotica together as foreplay Follow Carly:Instagram: @readaurore Website: readaurore.com Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2629-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with clinical psychologist and relationship coach Gaby Balsells to unpack one of the hardest questions in love: how do you know whether to stay in a relationship or walk away? Together they explore: how to tell the difference between a temporary rough patch and true incompatibilitythe danger of ignoring red flags during the honeymoon phaseemotional vs. sexual compatibilitysettling vs. honoring your needstrusting your desireshealthy communicationovercoming defensivenessbecoming "us vs. the problem”emotional laborthe initiator/receiver dynamicwhy actions matter more than wordsconsistency over empty promisesrepairing conflict, couples therapy,sexual compatibility, mismatched libidos & feeling desiredknowing when you've waited long enoughguilt around leavingselective effort & weaponized incompetenceand why love alone isn't always enough Follow Gaby:Instagram: @gabybalsells Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with urologist Dr. Jed Kaminetsky to unpack everything you need to know about men's sexual health: from vasectomies, erectile dysfunction, testosterone, fertility, sperm count, pornography, performance anxiety, lifestyle habits, microplastics, prostate health, post-nut clarity, and why great sex is about so much more than penetration. In this episode, Dr. Jed shares insights from performing over 6,000 vasectomies, explains why vasectomies don't affect erections, orgasms, ejaculation, libido, or masculinity, and discusses who should (and shouldn't) get one. We also dive into why more young men are experiencing erectile dysfunction, the difference between psychological and physical ED, performance anxiety, refractory periods, Viagra vs. Cialis, low testosterone, healthy ways to increase testosterone naturally, pornography's impact on arousal, penis pumps and rings, fertility, declining sperm counts, microplastics, prostate health, ejaculation frequency, steroids, testosterone therapy, men's fears around penis size, micro-penis stigma, post-nut clarity and more. Topics discussed: ​Dr. Jed's experience performing 6,000+ vasectomies​Why vasectomies don't affect erections, orgasms, ejaculation or libido​Who should and shouldn't get a vasectomy​Vasectomy reversals and success rates​More childfree men choosing vasectomies​Psychological vs. physical erectile dysfunction​Performance anxiety and first-time sex nerves​What erectile dysfunction actually means​Lifestyle causes of ED (sleep, obesity, smoking, alcohol, exercise)​Stress, anxiety and blood flow to the penis​Refractory periods and why they change with age​Viagra, Cialis and how they work​Daily Cialis vs. as-needed dosing​Testosterone testing and common misconceptions​Natural ways to increase testosterone​Weightlifting vs. endurance running for hormone health​Penis pumps and c**k rings​Pornography, masturbation habits and sexual conditioning​Low libido vs. erectile dysfunction​Fertility, declining sperm counts and modern lifestyle​Microplastics and male fertility​Sauna use, heat exposure and sperm health​Prostate enlargement, prostate cancer and ejaculation research​Steroids, bodybuilding and infertility​Testosterone replacement therapy risks​Women's testosterone and libido​Post-nut clarity explained​Why men's physiology isn't an excuse to neglect a partner's orgasm​Communication, sex therapy and relationship dynamics​Micro-penis myths and penis size insecurity​Why erectile dysfunction is a symptom, not a disease Follow Dr. Jed:Instagram: @drjedkaminetsky Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2629-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Coral Osborne (@theunrealcoralosborne), sexologist, intimacy coach for men, former sex worker, and writer.  Coral shares how sex work has changed over the last decade, why the industry has become increasingly polarized, and why she believes decriminalization matters for safety and autonomy. She opens up about the realities behind influencer culture, escorting, OnlyFans, AI, the loneliness epidemic, and why becoming a content creator today is harder than ever. The conversation takes a deeply personal turn as Coral recounts hiring a male escort, what she hoped to experience, why it didn't unfold as expected, and what the experience revealed about vulnerability, performance, pleasure, and intimacy.  Topics discussed: The changing landscape of sex work over the past decadePolitical divides and hypocrisy within the sex industryEscort culture in Los Angeles, New York, Dubai, and Las VegasWhy older sex workers often earn more than younger onesThe rise of OnlyFans and if it’s easy to become a millionaireThe loneliness epidemic and why AI won't replace real intimacyBuilding an audience on social media without sacrificing integrityWriting vulnerable essays on SubstackWhy Coral hired a male escortWhat it felt like to be on the client side of sex workPerformance anxiety from a woman's perspectiveReceiving versus giving pleasureFaking orgasms and learning how to stop performingOral sex, vulnerability, and intimacyDating after leaving sex workMeeting her current boyfriend and navigating honesty early onWhy intimacy and transaction can coexistDouble standards around dating former sex workersLived experience versus academic credentials in sex educationWhy coaches should continue investing in their own healingUsing relationship tools like Yes/No/Maybe lists and relationship menusBringing curiosity and intentional communication into long-term relationships Follow Coral Osborne:Instagram: @theunrealcoralosborne Substack: https://substack.com/@coralosborne Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with sex educator, relationship coach, and OnlyFans creator Ashley Manta for a deep dive into p***y worship, oral sex, receiving pleasure, and what truly creates incredible sex. They discuss what p***y worship actually means, why enthusiasm and verbal reassurance matter and creating safety for the receiver. Topics covered: What p***y worship really isWhy enthusiasm changes everythingVerbal reassurance before oral sexCreating emotional safety during sexThe ideal 60-minute p***y worship sessionForeplay being needed before oral sexLabia massage techniquesConsent before penetrationPleasure-focused vs orgasm-focused sexTension orgasms vs relaxed orgasmsBetty Dodson's orgasm techniquesBreathing through orgasmWhy sex educators have higher standardsEscaping performative sexRaising your standards for pleasurePorn vs real-life sexLearning to receive instead of always givingOvercoming people-pleasing in bedMutual masturbation as educationGiving and receiving feedback during sexHormonal changes and changing preferencesPussy worship fantasiesBisexual experiences and women's play partiesBreast worship and body worshipToys during oral and hand sexWhy everyone should use lubeOral-anal hygiene tipsChoosing partners who prioritize your pleasure Follow Ashley Manta:Instagram: @cannasexual Website: pussywhisperer.coach Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa Sponsor: Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beduc.at/pd2629-alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Vee and Elle from the Girls Gone Deep podcast for Part 2/2. Together they explore whether non-monogamy is really about unmet needs, what happens when a partner satisfies nearly everything you're looking for, the role of new relationship energy in long-term relationships, primary partnerships versus non-hierarchical polyamory, freedom and autonomy in love, catching feelings for people who aren't a match, maintaining boundaries despite intense attraction, and the science behind oxytocin, dopamine, attachment, and post-sex bonding. They also unpack cream pies, breeding kinks, ownership versus feeling chosen, BDSM dynamics, worship, possessiveness, fertility awareness methods, Oura Ring tracking, vasectomies, accidental pregnancy stories, relationship satisfaction, energetic pleasure, arousal, and what it really means to build a "bulletproof p***y." Topics Discussed Whether non-monogamy is fundamentally about unmet needsCan one person satisfy all your emotional, sexual, and relational needs?New relationship energy (NRE) and its role in long-term relationshipsCatching feelings for people who aren't a good matchOxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, and attachment after sexBacterial vaginosis (BV): causes, treatment, recurrence, and preventionYeast infections and recurring vaginal health issuesGut health's connection to vaginal healthCreating a “bulletproof p***y”Sleep, alcohol, drugs and sexUTIs and post-sex hygieneSelf-checking vaginal health through scent and tasteCream pies, breeding kinks, and why people find them attractiveAccidental pregnancy storiesOwnership, possessiveness, worship, and feeling chosenBDSM dynamics and core desires in sex Follow Girls Gone Deep:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Follow Alexa Andre:Instagram: @sexwithalexa Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexa