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We talk a lot about training, behavior, and “doing it right” with our dogs - but almost never about what happens after things go wrong. In this episode, we explore relational repair: what it is, why it matters, and how it builds deep emotional safety between dog moms and their dogs. This conversation gently disrupts perfection-based dog culture and offers a more humane, nervous-system-aware approach to connection. If you’ve ever felt guilt, frustration, or shame after a hard moment with your dog - this episode is for you. In this episode, we cover: - what relational repair actually means in dog-human relationships - why repair matters more than getting it "right" all the time - every day examples of repair + non-examples - why repair can feel inaccessible - how dogs experience rupture, safety and reconnection - the link between repair, trust & emotional resilience in dogs Who this episode is for: - dog moms who feel pressure to "get it right" all the time - dog moms of sensitive, reactive or complex dogs - anyone curious about nervous system aware dog parenting - humans learning to unlearn control based relationship models Gentle Reminder: If repair feels hard or unfamiliar, you’re not broken. Many of us were never taught how repair works - this episode is an invitation to learn together, with compassion.

Why Dog Moms “Hop On, Hop Off” Training Approaches Many dog moms - especially those living with complex, sensitive, or reactive dogs - find themselves cycling through training approaches. One method gives hope, another promises clarity, and another claims to be the answer. When none of them quite land, it’s easy to assume something is wrong. But what if that pattern isn’t failure? In this episode, we explore the unspoken truth behind why dog moms “hop on” and “hop off” training methods - and what it actually reveals about intuition, nervous systems, and the relational field between dog and human. We talk about: Why complex dogs don’t respond well to surface-level or behaviour-only solutionsHow dogs read nervous system states, not just cues or techniquesThe hidden cost of relying solely on external authority while ignoring instinctWhat the “relational field” is and why it matters more than any single methodHow intuition is embodied data—not guessing or emotionThe shift from fixing behaviour to co-regulating safetyThis conversation is for dog moms who feel deeply, notice everything, and sense there’s more happening beneath the behaviour - yet haven’t always trusted that knowing. If you’ve ever thought, “Why does nothing seem to fully work for my dog?” This episode offers a different lens - and permission to stop searching for the perfect method and start listening to the relationship itself. And if you are ready to make that shift, I welcome you inside my new 6-week group container, RESONANCE ✨  Resonance is a 6-week guided container with weekly audio teachings, weekly micro-practices, and live relational support - designed to help your nervous system shift out of vigilance and into felt safety so that you can:  𓂀 Pause before stepping in when your dog hesitates, pulls back, or ignores you, instead of immediately redirecting or distracting 𓂀 Stop constantly scanning for triggers - other dogs, sudden sounds, dropped food, visitors arriving - and trust how your dog will respond 𓂀  Create space for your dog to sniff the floor when guests come in, hesitate before greeting someone, or take their time approaching something unfamiliar, without being rushed 𓂀 Stop bracing for the next issue, and caring for your dog feels lighter, calmer, and more connected Step inside at an early bird pricing that gives you immediate access to the container + 1 BONUS Audio Teaching to get started on your journey: https://www.luchiandmuttons.com/resonance 

Do you ever feel like your empathy is costing you your energy in marriage? In this episode, we explore why women who’ve done the work- emotionally, relationally, and socially—- often slip into overgiving when they feel bad for their partners. We unpack how empathy can quietly turn into self-erasure, why this pattern is so common, and how it leads to resentment and disconnection. You’ll hear relatable marriage scenarios, a powerful reframe on emotional labour, and an unexpected lesson from dogs on how to stay present without abandoning yourself. If you’re a married dog mom longing for more aliveness, clarity, and empowerment in your relationship, this episode will speak to you. Plus, learn about Untamed, my group coaching container for dog moms ready to reclaim their voice and energy - guided by their dogs. Know more about Untamed here

Meeting new dogs doesn’t have to mean pushing past discomfort, rushing greetings, or aiming for “good behavior.” When we center nervous system safety, dog introductions can become calmer, clearer, and more respectful - for everyone involved. In this episode, I share 5 nervous system truths that support safer dog-to-dog interactions, including: Recognising calming signalsChecking in with your own nervous systemUnderstanding how your dog typically interactsChoosing environments that support regulationReframing “good” interactions into safe onesThis episode is for dog moms who want to move away from social pressure of "getting it right" and toward regulation, consent, and connection. Link to the FREE Canine Communication course: Check it out here Want deeper support? Attune is my 1:1 relational and somatic coaching program for dog moms who want to feel regulated, confident, and deeply attuned—with their dogs and themselves.Only 3 spots available through January 2026.

You can understand co-regulation. You can follow all the right accounts. You can know exactly what’s happening in your dog’s nervous system. And still feel stuck. In this episode, we explore why co-regulation can’t be learned through scrolling - and why so many thoughtful, deeply caring dog moms find themselves trying harder without feeling any real shift in their relationship with their dog. This conversation is for you if you: understand co-regulation intellectually but struggle to embody it feel pressure to “be regulated” for your dog notice yourself monitoring, managing, or bracing in hard moments want a more grounded, attuned relationship — without self-abandonment This isn’t an episode about doing co-regulation right - it’s an invitation to stop performing safety and start inhabiting it. Work With Me Inside Attune Attune is my 1:1 relational and somatic coaching program for dog moms who want to move out of theory and into lived, embodied co-regulation. This work is: relational, not prescriptive somatic, not performative slow, practical, and deeply attuned Inside Attune, we build the capacity to stay embodied, responsive, and connected with your dog, especially in the moments that feel hardest. If this episode resonated in your body, you can apply for Attune via the link below. Apply for Attune: https://www.luchiandmuttons.com/attune-coaching

In this episode, I explore the profound connection between humans and animals, and why being around dogs can awaken a deeper sense of aliveness for us dog moms. We dive into how women, in particular, have often been conditioned to suppress their nervous systems, limiting their capacity to fully experience life, connection, and joy. Through insights and practical guidance, we uncover how returning to “wildness” with the support of dogs can help regulate the nervous system, restore vitality, and transform the way you show up in life and relationships. This is an invitation to reconnect with your body, your instincts, and the untamed energy that makes you feel truly alive 💜

How do we hold space for ourselves without shutting out the people, and dogs, we love? In this episode, we dive deep into the ways our Empowered Guardian Archetypes™ - the Companion, the Steward, the Reclaimer, and the Protector - shape how we set boundaries, navigate love, and honour our energy. We explore the patterns that show up in everyday life: from the way your dog senses your tension and leans in for comfort, to the ways you co-regulate energy with your partner, friends, or family. You’ll hear relatable, sometimes humorous examples that will make you think, “Oh my god, that’s me!” while also uncovering the deeper emotional lessons about love, safety, and consequence that influence the way you connect. This episode is not about “rules” or “shoulds.” It’s about seeing your own instincts, owning your relational patterns, and learning to hold boundaries from a place of love, attunement, and self-respect. You’ll leave with a gentle, empowering understanding for creating space in your relationships without shrinking, over giving, or losing your wild, intuitive power. Whether you’re snuggled on the couch with your dog, sitting across from your partner, or reflecting on the people who matter most, this episode invites you to explore how your archetype shapes your heart, your boundaries, and your connection to the world around you. Don't know your Empowered Guardian Archetype™? Take the FREE quiz here!

There is a shift happening - quiet, almost imperceptible, beneath the surface of everyday life. Women everywhere are waking to the truth that their relationships no longer hold the fullness of who they are becoming. In this episode, we explore how our dogs often become the first relationship to show us what’s truly possible: connection that doesn’t rely on performance, compliance, or shrinking. Through presence, honesty, and raw authenticity, they reveal a new standard of relational possibility - one that can transform marriage, partnership, and all human connection. Join me as we journey into this new dawn of partnership, uncover the conditioning women have carried for generations, and discover how to step fully into authenticity, expansion, and the relational life you were meant to live. Step inside my new coaching program, Untamed, for women who are longing to co-create their marriage to meet the empowered woman they're becoming - with guidance from their dogs ♥️ Doors open at the most resourced investment this will ever be. Limited spots. Only till November 28, 2025.

In this reflective episode, we explore the complex emotional landscape of guilt as it shows up in the lives of women who care for their dogs. From feeling guilty about leaving their pets home alone, to questioning if they’re doing “enough,” this conversation delves into how guilt can quietly shape daily caregiving choices. Rather than pushing the feeling away, the episode invites listeners to sit with their guilt - to notice its texture, its tone, and its message. What is your guilt trying to tell you? Through gentle reflection and observations, this episode guides women toward transforming guilt from a burden into a teacher, deepening both their self-compassion and their bond with their dogs. Want to know more about working with me? Check out Attune, my bespoke 1:1 coaching program for women dog guardians who are ready to transform their relationship with their dogs ♥️

EP06: When love meets injustice In this tender and thought-provoking episode, Surabhi explores what unfolds when love meets injustice—particularly in the lives of women who are deconditioning from control-based paradigms and reclaiming relational ways of being with their dogs. Rooted in personal reflection, somatic awareness, and attachment-informed practice, this episode invites listeners to notice how systems of patriarchy, capitalism, and dominance have shaped the way we relate—not only to our dogs but to ourselves. We name the subtle, often invisible ways control masquerades as care, and we begin to imagine what justice can look like in the space between us and our animals. Together, we explore: The internal conflict between deep love and inherited control How injustice shows up in training, relationship, and self-talk What relational justice looks and feels like in daily interactions Five grounded practices for fostering attunement, co-regulation, and relational integrity This episode is an invitation to pause, soften, and remember: we do not have to choose control to feel safe. We can choose connection. We can choose presence. We can walk the path of love—without conditions, without coercion, without domination. For those longing for a different way—with your dogs, your body, and your world—this episode is a gentle companion on the journey. I'm so excited to welcome all of you into my Telegram community, The Sanctum. This is a community of like-minded women who are braving the journey of embracing relational attunement and coregulation with their dogs and, rejecting control based paradigms. Step inside here to know more! 🕯️

☾EP05: Relating Beyond Empire: Dogs, Liberation & the Undoing of Power ☽ In this episode of Kinship, Surabhi explores how dog-human relationships can serve as portals to decolonial, anti-capitalist, and relationally just ways of being. Moving beyond obedience and ownership, she asks: what happens when we choose connection over control? What does it mean to listen, not lead? Through reflections on free-living dogs, ancestral relational wisdom, and everyday acts of consent and co-regulation, this episode invites you into a radically different kind of love—one that heals systems, not just behavior. This is not training. This is unlearning. This is kinship. Apply for my 1:1 coaching container where I guide women dog guardians on moving into deep and meaningful attunement with their dogs and themselves. Only 1 spot left! ⁠⁠⁠⁠🦋 Attune⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you are ready to stop comparing yourself to other dog guardians and move into feeling more confident, empowered and fulfilled in how you care, then take the Empowered Guardian Archetype Quiz and reclaim your own unique and much needed care language. ⁠⁠⁠🦋 Take the quiz ⁠⁠

☾ Episode 4: Secure attachment is the medicine ☽ In this heartfelt and reflective episode, Surabhi explores the concept of secure attachment as the foundation of healing—both in human relationships and in our bonds with dogs. This isn't just theory; it's nervous system-level medicine—a form of connection that reshapes how we and our animals relate, cope, and heal. She also offers a special invitation to deepen your relationship with this medicine (details below ⬇️ ) In this episode, listeners will: Reflect on their own attachment patterns—with dogs and humans alike.Ask more often: “What does my dog need to feel safe?”Practice being present, attuned, and emotionally responsive to your dog.Consider connection as a healing tool—behaviour shifts when trust is built.Explore that healing doesn’t require fixing; it requires showing up with compassion.Hope you enjoy this episode! ❤️ ✉️ Invitations ✉️ Step into my Guardian Alchemy masterclass, the next step for women who deeply desire to become soul companions to their dogs by meaningfully embodying their Empowered Guardian Archetype, repairing attachment ruptures and co-evolving with their dogs in mutual healing, growth, and transformation 🦋 Join me & other incredible women guardians here Apply for my 1:1 coaching container where I guide women dog guardians on moving into deep and meaningful attunement with their dogs and themselves. ⁠⁠⁠🦋 Attune⁠⁠⁠ If you are ready to stop comparing yourself to other dog guardians and move into feeling more confident, empowered and fulfilled in how you care, then take the Empowered Guardian Archetype Quiz and reclaim your own unique and much needed care language. ⁠⁠🦋 Take the quiz ⁠⁠ Share the 💗 Subscribe, leave a review + rate the podcast and send some love my way

☾ Episode 3: Balancing assertiveness and receptivity ☽ In this episode of Kinship, Surabhi gently unpacks one of the most essential questions in relational life with dogs: How do we hold boundaries with love while staying open to communication? Through stories, nervous system wisdom, and practical guidance, we explore how blending clarity with curiosity can help us move beyond control—and into connection. In this episode, listeners will explore: 𖤓 How to move beyond the binary of “firm or kind” toward relational leadership 𖤓 What healthy, grounded assertiveness looks and feels like in practice 𖤓 Why receptivity is not indulgence—but a vital form of listening and attunement 𖤓 A simple, step-by-step practice for integrating direction with compassion during moments of conflict 𖤓 How embodying both assertiveness and receptivity becomes an act of cultural and nervous system healing—for us and our dogs Hope you enjoy this episode! ❤️ Ready to step into this reimagined relationship with your dog? 💕 Apply for my 1:1 coaching container where I guide women dog guardians on moving into deep and meaningful attunement with their dogs and themselves. ⁠⁠🦋 Attune⁠⁠ Take this free quiz and find out your Empowered Guardian Archetype ⬇️ If you are ready to stop comparing yourself to other dog guardians and move into feeling more confident, empowered and fulfilled in how you care, then take the Empowered Guardian Archetype Quiz and reclaim your own unique and much needed care language. ⁠🦋 Take the quiz ⁠ Giveaway details 📣 Leave a review + win a chance for a 90 mins reimagination call for free. Upload the screenshot on Instagram stories, tag @luchiandmuttons and participate! 🎧 Subscribe and move into kinship with your dog

☾ Episode 2: The violence of obedience ☽ What if this expectation of obedience from dogs and ourselves is actually perpetuating a culture of violence? In this vulnerable episode of Kinship, Surabhi introduces the idea that demanding obedience from our dogs is an act of violence. It sounds loaded, doesn't it? It is, it really is. She supports this with personal stories and reflections and arrives at through multiple lenses - toxic systems, nervous system understanding and more. In this episode you'll explore: 𖤓 The hidden costs of obedience 𖤓 Obedience as a tool of control and power 𖤓 What dogs teach us about consent and autonomy 𖤓 The nervous system and trauma of coercion 𖤓 Reframing the relationship beyond obedience Through this episode, I invite you to reimagine dog companionship based on trust, co-regulation, and mutual respect—where saying “no” is honoured, and softness becomes a radical act of connection. Ready to step into this reimagined relationship with your dog? 💕 Apply for my 1:1 coaching container where I guide women dog guardians on moving into deep and meaningful attunement with their dogs and themselves. 🦋 Attune Take this free quiz and find out your Empowered Guardian Archetype ⬇️ If you are ready to stop comparing yourself to other dog guardians and move into feeling more confident, empowered and fulfilled in how you care, then take the Empowered Guardian Archetype Quiz and reclaim your own unique and much needed care language. ⁠🦋 Take the quiz ⁠ Giveaway details 📣 Leave a review + win a chance for a 90 mins reimagination call for free. Upload the screenshot on Instagram stories, tag @luchiandmuttons and participate! 🎧 Subscribe and move into kinship with your dog

☾ Episode 1: Softness is a praxis ☽ In this gentle, reflective episode of Kinship, Surabhi explores softness not as fragility, but as a radical, relational practice—one that invites deeper connection with our dogs and ourselves. Together, we examine how choosing tenderness in moments of dysregulation can transform how we show up in relationship. In this episode, you will explore: 𖤓 Why softness is a form of resistance—not weakness—in a culture obsessed with control 𖤓 How to meet canine behavior with curiosity instead of correction 𖤓 The link between fear, control, and our nervous system responses 𖤓 What it means to create safety through attunement rather than obedience 𖤓 Daily practices to reclaim tenderness as a path toward healing and connection You can also engage with some inquiry after the episode: 🌹 where do yo feel the urge to control your dog? What might that urge be protecting or compensating for? 🌹 When you think about “softness,” what emotions or memories arise? Is there resistance? Grief? Relief? 🌹 what’s one small way you can practice softness this week—in how you respond, how you speak, or how you approach a situation? Hope you enjoy this episode ❤️ Ready to step into this reimagined relationship with your dog? 💕 Apply for my 1:1 coaching container where I guide women dog guardians on moving into deep and meaningful attunement with their dogs and themselves. ⁠🦋 Attune⁠ Take this free quiz and find out your Empowered Guardian Archetype ⬇️ If you are ready to stop comparing yourself to other dog guardians and move into feeling more confident, empowered and fulfilled in how you care, then take the Empowered Guardian Archetype Quiz and reclaim your own unique and much needed care language. 🦋 Take the quiz Giveaway details 📣 Leave a review + win a chance for a 90 mins reimagination call for free. Upload the screenshot on Instagram stories, tag @luchiandmuttons and participate! 🎧 Subscribe and move into kinship with your dog