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What if the feedback you’re most proud of giving is actually doing more harm than good? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive into why so much of the feedback we give ends up bouncing right off people or worse, making things even less effective and what to do instead. As a recovering college professor turned communication coach, I’ve seen firsthand how even the most well-intentioned feedback can sometimes make no difference at all. You know that feeling you have a tough conversation that feels like it really landed. There’s eye contact, nodding, even a grateful “thank you.” But fast forward a few weeks and you’re back in the same conversation, just more frustrated. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. There’s no guest joining me for this solo episode. Instead, I’m sharing the research-backed reason why feedback often fails, plus a simple, actionable framework—the Game Film Method—that you can use immediately with your team, your peers, or even on yourself. During the episode, I break down why feedback can actually make performance worse more than a third of the time, based on decades of research. I’ll walk you through the two main reasons it fails (vagueness and poor aim), explain why focusing too much on the past kills motivation, and show you how sports teams have perfected a better approach in the film room. Here’s what I cover in this episode: Why feedback often backfires, according to research by Kluger and DeNisi The two habits that sabotage effective feedback: vagueness and making it personal rather than task-focused The problem with rehashing past mistakes and how it hurts motivation How the Game Film Method borrowed from sports coaching helps shift feedback from personal critique to actionable improvement The three-step process: watch the play, name one thing, and run it again with real-life examples The importance of focusing on behaviors and their immediate impact, instead of guessing motives or stacking corrections How to ask for “game film” feedback on yourself to accelerate your own growth The power of being timely and specific and why annual reviews are a missed opportunity Using the method not just for correction, but to reinforce what’s working, too By the end of this episode, you’ll have a simple framework that transforms feedback from something people dread into a collaborative conversation that actually leads to change. Remember: It’s not about getting it perfect; it’s about aiming for progress with each conversation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if what's holding you back from confident communication isn't a lack of skill, but an old story you've been telling yourself? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dig deep into the real roots of communication anxiety and discover why confidence isn’t something you’re born with; it's something you build, one small step at a time. As your host, Tim Newman, I’m excited to welcome executive communication coach, keynote speaker, bestselling author, and founder of Uplevel Communication, Mike Acker. Mike’s journey is both remarkable and relatable: he overcame a speech impediment as a child, had to learn to communicate in a new language when he moved to Mexico, and eventually reinvented himself as a professional speaker and coach. His story is living proof that anyone can become a confident communicator no matter where you begin. In our conversation, Mike and I explored the mindset barriers that stop even talented speakers from reaching their goals. We discussed why being “good enough” in one context doesn’t always mean you’re ready for the next stage, and the difference between being a good speaker and being a good communicator. Mike shared powerful analogies, like how compliments about a homemade hamburger don’t mean it’s ready to be sold in a restaurant, reminding us that comfort in one arena doesn’t guarantee success in another. Here’s a look at what we covered in this episode: The real difference between skill and confidence in communication Mike Acker’s personal journey from speech impediment to professional speaker Why natural talent (proclivity) and practice are both important and why practice always wins How being a “good speaker” in one setting doesn’t mean you’re ready for the next challenge The dangers of arrogance and apathy, and why caring for your audience creates energy and impact How past wounds like ridicule in childhood or harsh criticism can hold you back, and how to identify and address them The framework for starting and deepening conversations at networking events, including how to shift from feeling like an outsider to making real connections Why “being more interested than interesting” is the underrated secret to building community and relationships The impact you can have by getting involved locally and serving your community Mike’s value-need-action framework for persuasive communication in the workplace Highlights from Mike’s bestselling books, Speak with No Fear and Speak with Confidence, and practical ways to use their lessons right away Why action, not just knowledge leads to real transformation as a communicator Whether you want to get better at conversations, ace your next big talk, or finally overcome the fear that’s holding you back, you’ll find both inspiration and action steps in this episode. I’m grateful to Mike Acker for sharing his story and wisdom, and I hope you’ll take one idea from this conversation and put it into practice today. Remember, your voice has the power to change the world one conversation at a time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever walked out of a one-on-one with your boss feeling like you just gave a verbal status report, but nothing really moved forward for you or your career? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re tackling one of the most underused and most valuable meetings in your entire week: the one-on-one with your manager. I break down why these touchpoints often get wasted, and how you can turn them into your best shot at getting the recognition, resources, and growth you deserve. I’ve seen it happen again and again with the people I coach: You work hard, you want more responsibility or a raise, but when you get 30 minutes of your boss’s time, you end up listing what’s on track and what’s been checked off and that’s it. I used to believe the work speaks for itself, but as I’ve learned (the hard way), it simply doesn’t. If you don’t use your one-on-one to tell your side of the story, something else will fill that space. This episode is a solo one just me, sharing the hard-won strategies that help professionals go from being invisible to being seen and valued. We’ll walk through three actionable phases to make your one-on-one the most powerful meeting on your schedule, and I’ll give you the tools to prepare, build momentum, and make your big ask with confidence. Here’s a quick overview of what we covered: Why status updates belong in quick emails, not in your precious one-on-one time The importance of preparing for your one-on-one like it’s your meeting, not just your boss’s How to create and use a simple “brag file” to capture wins, progress, and impact as they happen The 3-line agenda that keeps your meetings focused and shows up with clarity every time Why the sequence of your ask really matters and how to build up to the big things you want The difference between asking for more resources or support, and outright asking for a raise or promotion How to have the money and title conversation, including the crucial “power of the pause” The role of timing and how to find out when pay decisions are really made How to separate the ask for money from the ask for scope or title and why you want to keep those threads clear Strategies if the answer is “no” and how that’s not always the end of the road What to do when following up after your meeting, and how to keep a shared record that helps your boss go to bat for you (or helps you make your case elsewhere if you ever need to) The weekly challenge to get started and show up like your one-on-ones are there for you because they are By the end of this episode, you’ll have a playbook for turning your one-on-ones from routine updates into compelling opportunities for growth. Start your brag file, send your three-line agenda, and remember: you’re not just working hard, you’re making sure your hard work gets seen. Let’s make your next meeting count! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can adults truly connect with and empower the younger generation in an age where it feels like the tools for genuine communication are slipping away? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive deep into the art of communication not just talking but really listening especially as it relates to bridging the generational gap. As someone who’s spent years on college campuses and in classrooms, I know firsthand how much adults can get caught up in teaching the “right” way to speak, lead, or motivate young people. But what if the real breakthrough comes from simply learning how to listen and making space for the voices of youth? That’s why I’m thrilled to welcome James McLamb to the show. With over three decades of experience working with students and having interviewed more than 2,500 of them, James McLamb brings a unique perspective as a national youth empowerment strategist, author, speaker, and founder of Generation Youth. He’s dedicated his life to equipping both young people and the adults who serve them with the tools for resilience, confidence, and leadership. Here’s what we covered in this episode: The importance of listening versus speaking when working with young people James McLamb’s journey from performing to serving on stage How “lighthouse parenting” helps guide rather than control youth Why giving too many answers (instead of asking questions) can hinder growth The impact of helicopter, lawnmower, and snowplow parenting styles How to ask better questions and the power of “tell me more” Why timing matters in conversations with teens answers don’t always come on our schedule The challenge of building credibility at a young age (and how to do it through service and authenticity) Technology’s role in shaping (and sometimes eroding) communication and conflict resolution skills Concrete advice for young people whose voices aren’t being heard by adults Details on Generation Youth’s mission to equip adults and teens for leadership, and where to learn more Whether you’re a parent, teacher, coach, student, or simply someone navigating generational divides, this conversation with James McLamb gives you a toolkit for listening, questioning, and leading with empathy and confidence. Connect with James: Website: https://www.generation-youth.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-mclamb-74a72746/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/generation__youth/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamesmclambauthor/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever frozen when someone asks, “So, tell me about yourself”? Or maybe you’ve rambled on, unsure what the other person really wants to hear? In today’s episode, I’m tackling one of the most common yet challenging questions you’ll face in networking events, interviews, or any conversation where you want to make an impact and how to answer it with clarity and confidence. As your host, Tim Newman, a recovering college professor and communication coach I’m excited to break down the real reason behind this dreaded question and how to respond in a way that stands out from the crowd. There’s no guest joining me this week; I’m here to walk you through a simple, powerful formula that works in any room. I start by admitting the traps I’ve fallen into myself coming from academia, it was natural to respond to “tell me about yourself” with a chronological timeline: degrees, positions, publications. But that’s not what people actually want or need to hear. The truth is, when someone asks about you, they’re quietly wondering, “Can you help me?” If your response is a list of dates and job titles, you’re missing the mark. This episode is all about shifting focus from yourself to the other person’s problem, why most introductions fail, and how you can ensure yours makes a memorable impact. I dive into the three classic mistakes people make: the chronological dump, the unnecessary overshare, and the robotic scripted answer. Instead, I introduce a simple three-part answer who you are, what you do, and why it matters that’s authentic, conversational, and relevant. Here’s what we covered in this episode: The real question behind “tell me about yourself,” and why the usual answers don’t work Three common mistakes that make you sound desperate or forgettable The simple, proven “who you are, what you do, why it matters” introduction framework How to stop focusing on your own history and start solving the other person’s problem Concrete examples for networking, interviews, and public speaking settings How to sound natural, not scripted, when delivering your answer Why listening like you’re wrong is just as important as talking like you’re right The one challenge I want you to try before your next conversation By the end of this episode, you’ll have a blueprint to answer “tell me about yourself” with confidence, make a strong impression, and turn every introduction into a real opportunity. I can’t wait for you to put this into practice because when you focus on helping others, you’ll always stand out in the very best way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered whether your accent is holding you back from being understood or if something else is at play? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into the real reasons behind miscommunication, why clarity trumps accent, and how anyone, regardless of where they’re from, can become a more confident, impactful communicator. As someone who has heard countless people say, “I have an accent, so people don’t take me seriously, or they can’t understand me,” I wanted to explore what’s really going on beneath the surface. Today, we’re talking about the essence of confidence and clarity and why being understood has far less to do with your accent than you think. I’m excited to welcome Jay Poulton to the show. Jay is a communications coach with two decades of experience and a unique background, having worked with clients from over 35 countries, including leaders at Apple, Amazon, Google, and Meta. His speciality is voice: how you sound, how you’re heard, and why those two things are rarely the same. Jay’s story starts in a multicultural household in Montreal, and his journey to becoming a sought-after voice coach includes fascinating experiences working with professionals worldwide. Together, we cover a lot of ground, including: Why your accent isn’t the real obstacle; clarity is The difference between how you sound and how you’re heard The mechanics of voice: resonance, posture, and breathing The impact of confidence and presence on communication Practical steps for becoming more comfortable with challenging words and phrases Techniques to maintain your authentic identity while improving clarity The influence of generational and cultural differences in communication styles The art of storytelling and using accent strategically to enhance authenticity The importance of listening and self-awareness for becoming a better communicator Tips for preparing for job interviews and presentations, including why you should always practice out loud The power of well-timed pauses and strategic pacing (with examples from Steve Jobs and Michelle Obama) Common communication mistakes like not matching the speed of your thoughts and words, or failing to prepare for your audience Why genuine connection always beats forced imitation If you’re looking to boost your confidence, refine your voice, or simply become better at connecting regardless of your background, this episode is packed with actionable advice, entertaining stories, and tried-and-true methods from the world of elite communication coaching. And if you’ve ever dreamed of being the voice of a cartoon character, you’re in good company! Tune in and discover how your voice, accent, and all can become your greatest strength. Connect with Jay: Website: https://theaccentcoach.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jay-poulton-956b8633b/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theaccentcoach Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaytheaccentcoach/     YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheAccentCoach-hz7er Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why most cold networking emails get ignored while just a few actually open doors to real opportunities? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we answer that question by flipping the traditional "ask first" script on its head. I'm Tim Newman, your host and communication coach, and today we're tackling one of the biggest stumbling blocks in networking and professional relationship-building: how to connect with someone who seems out of reach without coming across as desperate or transactional. There isn’t a guest on this episode; it’s just you and me going deep on this crucial topic. If you’ve ever sent a message to a hiring manager, recruiter, or potential mentor only to be met with silence, you’re not alone. Most outreach falls flat because it starts with a one-sided task. We’ve all been there: hoping for a referral, an introduction, or just 15 minutes on someone’s calendar. But if you’re only asking (and not giving), your message blends into a sea of requests and quickly gets deleted. That’s why I’m sharing the Reciprocity Bridge, a three-part strategy for building authentic relationships by giving first, waiting, and then making a specific, respectful ask. This approach not only increases your odds of a response, but also establishes a foundation of trust and goodwill. It’s the missing piece that ties together the last few episodes on how to improve both your cold outreach and your follow-up skills. In this episode, I dive into: Why most cold asks get deleted and how to avoid being generic or forgettable The importance of changing the power dynamic when reaching out Why the problem isn’t asking for help but how and when you ask How genuine reciprocity builds trust and invites people to help you (and why people can sense when it’s fake) The three steps of the Reciprocity Bridge: Give something real, allow a genuine time gap, and then make your specific ask Practical examples of what you can offer, from thoughtful praise to helpful resources or introductions A breakdown of why timing matters and how to avoid coming off as transactional Scripts and actionable tips for crafting both your initial outreach and your “ask” in a way that people want to say yes to What to do if you get no response, or if you’re struggling to find an authentic way to give first You’ll also get a personal challenge: before sending your next networking message, stop and ask yourself what you can genuinely offer then let that gesture breathe before you make your ask. If you missed the other episodes in this series, make sure to check out the Give First Formula (for cold outreach) and the Continuation Frame (for better follow-ups). Together, they create a powerful system for building real professional relationships, one step at a time. As always, I remind you that progress, not perfection, is the goal. For more resources including a free ebook and course information visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com. Your voice truly has the power to change the world. Let’s build bridges, not just send messages. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt completely prepared for a presentation, only to have your confidence evaporate the moment you step up to speak? If so, you’re not alone. In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we're tackling one of the most common and most frustrating experiences for anyone who speaks, performs, or competes in front of others: performance anxiety. I'm Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I’m joined by Dr. David Fish, a PhD in ethnomusicology, professional musician, and a leading authority on performance anxiety and mindfulness. David not only shared the stage with legendary names like Ella Fitzgerald and Little Richard, but he also had his own unforgettable “freeze” moment while performing with Sonny and Cher, a moment that sparked a lifelong quest to understand what really happens when nerves take over. In our conversation, David explains the difference between confidence and performance anxiety, and why so many talented professionals, whether they’re in the spotlight or the boardroom, find their skills deserted at the crucial moment. We unpack the myths around just “thinking positive” or “calming down,” and dig into why these strategies often fall short when your internal bodyguard (the amygdala) decides there’s a threat and floods your system with adrenaline. Here’s what we covered in this episode: The difference between confidence and performance anxiety, and how even seasoned professionals can be caught off guard by nerves Why common advice like “calm down” or “think positive” doesn’t work against adrenaline-fueled anxiety The three factors that trigger performance anxiety, no matter your field or experience level How to accept, not fight, your nervousness and why that leads to better performance The importance of preparation, rituals, and controlling your environment (plus what to do when things don’t go as planned) The role of mindful focus (“only go straight, don’t know”) in overcoming distractions and outside judgments How to distinguish between excitement and anxiety, and why channeling energy the right way matters The idea that public speaking is a performance, and why embracing that doesn’t mean being inauthentic The value of bringing your core beliefs and values to the moment, especially when the stakes are high Practical strategies for shifting self-talk and grounding yourself before you step up to speak If you’ve ever wondered why your nerves sometimes get the best of you, or you’re searching for practical, compassionate tools to step into the spotlight with greater confidence, this episode offers wisdom, stories, and actionable guidance you can use right away. As always, remember: you’re not broken; performance anxiety is a perfectly human response. Accept it, focus on what matters, and keep showing up with courage Connect with David: Website: https://riseupeight.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidleefish/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Rise-Up-Eight/61584704705649/# Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/riseupeight8    YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@riseupeight    Book: https://a.co/d/0cyKBDvl Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever left a conference feeling like you made genuine connections, only to watch those relationships fizzle out after sending a follow-up email? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we tackle a frustrating and surprisingly common problem: why do so many conference follow-up emails fall flat, and how can you ensure yours actually build real relationships? Today, I’m diving deep into the art of the conference follow-up specifically, why a generic “Great meeting you!” does more harm than good, and how to transform the way you reconnect after those face-to-face moments. We’ve all been there: you’ve spent hours building rapport, swapping stories, maybe even venting about bad coffee or laughing about a keynote that went long. But when it’s time to send the follow-up, it somehow collapses into the same stale template you’ve sent to a dozen other people. The result? Radio silence. There’s no guest in this episode, it's just me, sharing the hard-earned lessons from my own experience as a communication coach and former college professor (and yes, from plenty of my own failed networking attempts). If you missed last week’s episode on the three-sentence fix for cold emails, I highly recommend checking that out, since what we’ll talk about today builds right on top of that foundation. Here’s what you can expect from this episode:I’ll reveal the critical mistake everyone makes treating a warm conference contact just like a cold lead. I’ll walk you through the “continuation frame,” a powerful technique that ensures your follow-up picks up where you left off rather than starting over from zero. We’ll break down why referencing your actual conversation, not just the handshake, is the difference between being remembered and being ignored. You’ll learn how to craft a three-sentence email with the right kind of opening, a thoughtful delivery of what you promised, and an exit ramp that doesn’t pressure the other person. By the end of our discussion, you’ll know: Why most follow-up emails unintentionally say “goodbye” instead of “let’s keep building” The real reason people don’t reply to generic follow-ups (it’s not what you think) The three essential components of a compelling conference follow-up email How to reference shared moments as social capital What to do if you didn’t promise anything (and why never to fake it) The timing “sweet spot” for your follow-up How to turn every handshake into a real relationship by proving you listened, not just networked I’ll also challenge you to review your last follow-up email and rewrite your opening sentence, so it proves you were actually present in the original conversation. That small shift is the whole game it takes you from being a stranger to someone who’s genuinely invested. Listen in for practical tips that will transform how you connect after conferences and remember: your voice and your follow-up has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why it seems so hard to speak up and reclaim your voice as an adult, even though we were so unfiltered and fearless as kids? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re tackling that very question and digging into those internal stories and cultural messages that shape how we show up both on stage and in our everyday lives. This episode is especially close to my heart, as it hits at the core of why I started this podcast: to help listeners build the kind of communication skills and confidence that lead to real results, not just professionally, but personally, too. Joining me is Stephanie Peirolo, a board-certified executive coach, celebrated storyteller featured on The Moth and NPR, and author of The Saint and the Drunk: A Guide to Making the Big Decisions in Your Life. Throughout our conversation, Stephanie gets real about the myth that “some people are just born confident.” She shares her own deep stage fright (including throwing up in green rooms before major performances!) and opens up about how purpose and intention can transform even the most anxiety-inducing moments into opportunities for profound connection and healing. We discuss her pivotal experience on The Moth stage, how storytelling can be both freeing and healing, and how adults can rediscover their ‘inner knowing’ that deep sense of what’s right for them that so many of us learned to suppress. Stephanie and I also dive into the ways our families, cultural backgrounds, and even gender shape the stories we tell ourselves about who gets to have a voice. We talk about boundaries, why they’re for you, not other people and tackle the double standards that women often face when speaking up at work or at home. Stephanie offers powerful, practical advice on how to stop over-functioning and start setting boundaries that support your authentic self. Other highlights from the episode include: Why passion matters more than early “talent” in writing or public speaking How your internal narratives about your communication skills can help or hurt you Managing anxiety on stage (even if you’re an old pro) The healing power of sharing your truth, even when it’s hard How generational and cultural messages decide who “deserves” to be heard Spotting the difference between a personal shortcoming and a systemic issue The importance of context, intention, and curiosity in creating connection—at work, at home, or with a stranger in an Uber Strategies for reframing your definition of success (especially in the age of social media) The ancient and modern wisdom of tuning into your inner knowing, and who really deserves influence in your life If you want practical insights for reclaiming your voice, clearing out the stories that hold you back, and learning to trust yourself again, this episode delivers. Stephanie’s wisdom, warmth, and honesty make it a must-listen, whether you’re grappling with big life decisions or just want to show up more authentically in your daily conversations. Thanks for tuning in, as always. Don’t forget to check out the show notes for links to Stephanie’s book, her Substack, and how you can connect with her for coaching or speaking. And remember your voice has the power to change the world. Connect with Stephanie: Website: https://www.speirolo.com   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/speirolo/   Substack: https://speirolo.substack.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/speirolo/#   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@speirolo   Book: https://a.co/d/04Ltuo3k Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever sent a cold email that disappeared into the ether, never to be answered and wondered what you did wrong? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle that painfully common problem head-on and reveal the tiny but powerful shift that makes your outreach stand out from the delete pile. As your host, I'm drawing from years as a college professor and communication coach, and I start by sharing one of the most frequent messages in my own inbox: “Can I pick your brain over coffee for 15 minutes?” If you’ve ever sent that kind of request or received it you already know how uphill the battle for a reply can be. The truth is, most people have overflowing inboxes and little time to give to vague asks. But there’s good news: you don't need to send the perfect message; you just need to be different from the rest. There’s no guest this week, it's just me, guiding you through the concrete tactics and deeper mindset shifts that change how your emails land. I dig into the invisible factors that sabotage cold messages, from desperate undertones to the all-about-me approach that turns people off. Then, I introduce my Give First Formula, a simple, three-sentence structure that transforms your message from an ask to a value-driven exchange. Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode: Why typos and awkward phrasing aren’t the real reason your cold emails get ignored The downside of clichéd openers like “I love your content” and “I’m a huge fan” The psychology of email overload and why you’re competing with hundreds of other requests Why “pick your brain” is vague, unfair, and guaranteed to get skipped How to make your message about the recipient, not you The three essential sentences of the Give First Formula: a value observation, a low-friction ask, and a genuine exit ramp Concrete examples of ineffective and effective cold emails The biggest traps people fall into like telling a long backstory, asking for too much too soon, and following up with “just checking in” How to follow up in a way that adds value rather than nagging Why structure, not talent or connections, is what gets you noticed and answered Finally, I challenge you to take one cold email you’ve been holding onto and run it through the Give First Formula to see the impact for yourself. And I tease what’s coming next week: how to follow up with someone after you finally get a response or meeting, so you stay top-of-mind without becoming a forgotten business card. If you want your voice to stand out and your outreach to get replies, this episode is for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why we spend so much time teaching kids math and science, but not how to introduce ourselves, hold a conversation, or handle rejection? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into the critical life skills that every young person needs but most are never formally taught. I’m Tim Newman, your host and a communication coach who believes that real success comes from mastering soft skills like communication, storytelling, public speaking, and the confidence to show up authentically. Today, I’m joined by Rob Heller, founder of the BOOST Youth Alliance. Rob’s mission is to equip young people with the essential life skills that set them up for success in every area of life. He started BOOST when he couldn’t find a program that taught his son the lessons he knew were crucial so he built his own. Rob brings decades of entrepreneurial experience and a deep commitment to mentoring youth, making him the perfect guest to discuss why communication and resilience matter now more than ever. In our conversation, we tackled the mistakes we make as parents when it comes to technology and the impact that screens and smartphones have on developing communication skills. Rob and I reminisced about how the world has changed with phones glued to our hands, it’s easier to lose out on face-to-face interactions and the benefits they bring. Rob shared how self-awareness is growing among today’s parents, but also that it’s a constant struggle to set boundaries around tech use. We explored the difference between protecting young people and preparing them for the real world. Rob described how BOOST addresses not just people skills and character, but also building a healthy mindset giving kids practical tools to deal with setbacks, acknowledge their mistakes, and build true confidence. We also discussed why skills like accountability, resilience, and the ability to hold a simple conversation are the missing pieces in most academic programs. During the episode, we covered: The real reason communication skills are missing from most high school curricula Rob’s journey building BOOST for his own family and now for countless others The impact of screens and technology on developing essential life skills How to set boundaries as parents (and model the right behavior ourselves) Why accountability and apologizing quickly matter so much for building trust and confidence The art of starting a conversation even for introverts Why employers care so much more about soft skills than technical ones Practical tips for greeting people, making eye contact, and remembering names The science behind why connecting with others feels so good (hint: it’s the chemicals in your brain) Tips for parents and educators to help young people practice these skills from an early age How BOOST’s 26 core skills help kids prepare for life, not just for school If you’ve ever wished your child or even yourself could confidently connect, communicate, and handle life’s curveballs with resilience, this episode is packed with insights and actionable advice. Rob’s work through BOOST is helping a generation get back to the basics, and we agree, these are the missing courses we all need. To learn more about BOOST or connect with Rob, check out boostprogram.com, and don’t forget to grab his book, The Missing Course for Today’s Youth. And as always, if you want to overcome your own public speaking challenges, visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for free resources and courses. Let’s keep building confidence one conversation at a time! Connect with Rob: Website: https://boostprogram.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Boost_Program Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/boostkids Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/boost_program/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@boost_program Book: https://a.co/0gKE15oT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever walked out of a tough conversation and found yourself replaying it in your head for hours, unable to move on? If so, you’re not alone and today’s episode is here to help you finally break that cycle. I’m Tim Newman, your host at Speaking with Confidence, and in this episode, we’re tackling the part of communication that no one talks about what to do after the conversation ends. As a recovering college professor turned communication coach, I’ve seen time and again that the real work and the biggest challenges often come in those quiet moments after the words are done. Let’s face it: most of us think once the hard discussion is over, we’re supposed to instantly “move on.” But our bodies and minds rarely let us off that easily. Whether you just navigated a tense moment with your boss, had to deliver bad news, or disagreed with someone you care about, that post-conversation adrenaline can keep you stuck in rumination and anxiety long after the room goes silent. In this episode, I’m sharing a practical 4-step reset that separates people who can let things go from those who end up dragging that baggage into every future conversation. You’ll learn not just what happens in the brain and body after a tough talk but what to actually do about it. Here’s what we covered today: Why your nervous system can’t tell the difference between a tense conversation and running from a bear, and why the adrenaline surge makes it so hard to think clearly after a difficult exchange. The difference between rumination (unproductive replaying) and genuine reflection, plus a simple test to help you determine which one you’re doing. Step 1: Stop. Why you have to give yourself at least 20 minutes for your body to clear out stress hormones before you analyze what happened, and how movement can help you reset. The importance of giving yourself grace, not just to others, and how skipping this step can keep you stuck in yesterday’s tension. Step 2: The reflection test is an actionable way to spot if you’re actually learning from the experience or just spinning your wheels. Step 3: Writing out the conversation like a transcript, capturing what was actually said (not just what you felt or remember), and how this builds accuracy and empathy for yourself and for others. Step 4: The follow-up decision is to determine if you need to reach out and close the loop with someone, or consciously let it go and move forward, so lingering tension doesn’t fester in your life or at work. Why a deliberate decision to release a conversation is the key to sleeping well and not carrying unresolved stress with you. A final challenge for you: what to do next time you leave a hard conversation, so you’re not trapped by it. No guests today, just me, sharing what I’ve learned both in the classroom and as a coach about how to navigate the aftermath of tough conversations with clarity and confidence. If you’re ready to reclaim your peace of mind, build healthier relationships, and stop letting old arguments steal your energy, this episode is for you. Remember, progress beats perfection. Be sure to check out the free resources and course information at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com. Your voice and your ability to reset after the hard talks can change your world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What would you do if you were fired at 63, staring down the barrel of financial ruin with just two years before the money ran out? Today’s episode dives deep into this very question and the surprising answers that can only come when there's no plan B left. Welcome back to Speaking with Confidence! I’m Tim Newman, and in this episode, we explore not just the journey from zero to a seven-figure portfolio, but the grit, resilience, and communication skills necessary to rewrite your story, no matter your age or starting point. This isn’t just about finances; it’s about the mental and emotional side of rebuilding when your confidence has been shattered, and the world has moved on without you. Our guest is David Nassief, the author of The One-Page Wealth Compass, whose book became an Amazon #1 hot new release and topped charts in retirement, investing, and budgeting categories. David’s story isn’t a fairy tale it’s a gripping reality of facing a late-career layoff, family anxiety, rejection after rejection, and the massive psychological hurdles of feeling like you’re out of options. But it’s also a story of redemption, practical strategy, and finding true confidence on the other side. In our conversation, David opens up about the emotional impact of losing his job after 18 years with the same company not just on his finances, but on his identity and his relationship with his wife. We discuss what it feels like to tell your spouse you might be broke in two years, and the quiet strength it takes to accept reassurance from someone who knows you can pull through even when you’re not so sure yourself. David shares about his lowest point in a grocery store aisle, feeling completely out of place and overwhelmed by shame and self-doubt, and how facing that moment became the catalyst for change. Here’s what we covered in this episode: The emotional and psychological impact of late-career job loss Talking to your spouse about financial crisis and building a support system Overcoming rejection, rebuilding confidence, and why grit matters The difference between making money and building lasting wealth How small investment fees can quietly destroy your financial future Turning past failures into powerful lessons for success The transformative value of communication, public speaking, and cold calling The importance of humor and authenticity in difficult times Practical steps from the One-Page Wealth Compass for simplifying wealth-building The urgent case for financial literacy in schools and how to think critically about financial advice Letting go of shame, embracing your personal story, and finding confidence on your own terms Whether you’re facing a career setback, trying to get your finances in order, or looking to strengthen your confidence in any area of life, this episode is packed with real talk, actionable tips, and a lot of heart. As always, thanks for listening to Speaking with Confidence. Remember, your voice, your story, and your resilience matter more than you think. Connect with David: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/111549991 Website: https://onepagewealthcompass.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@onepagewealthcompass Book: https://www.amazon.com/One-Page-Wealth-Compass-Nearly-Millionaire-ebook/dp/B0G5JPX17R Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why your team keeps hitting the same roadblocks during tough conversations, even after attending communication training? In this episode, I get to the heart of why knowing what not to do isn’t enough and share the system that finally gives your team the words and tools to handle conflict before it explodes. I’m Tim Newman, and today on Speaking with Confidence, I’m diving into what it really takes to flip those negative habits that sabotage hard conversations into positive ones that drive real collaboration. There’s no guest today, just an honest breakdown of practical tools you can start using right away. Last week, we named the five habits that hijack difficult conversations: win at all costs, react instead of respond, only my opinion matters, never ask questions, and get even. If you missed it, definitely go back and listen, because today’s episode builds on those ideas and moves us forward. Here’s the tough truth: knowing what’s wrong doesn’t automatically mean we know how to get it right. You can recognize bad habits all day long and still have no idea how to turn things around in the heat of the moment. That’s why today, I show you how to build the five habits that make conflict your team’s best tool rather than its biggest threat. We talk through my three-step system for making sure these new habits aren’t just words in a workbook, but living, breathing patterns your team uses every day. In this episode, I’ll walk you through: Why avoiding hard conversations doesn’t make your team more peaceful, it makes things more dangerous, as small disagreements silently snowball into major problems. The first step: naming the enemy together and recognizing that negative patterns are shared challenges, not personal flaws. I show you how to help your team see conflict as a pattern they can all recognize and change, using real-life examples from your own workplace. The second step: flipping it together. We dig into what the five positive RIGHT habits are: respect before rebuttal, investigate with curiosity, grace, here to understand, and think together. I show you how to map real team conflicts from “wrong” to “right,” making the fixes obvious and practical. The danger of weaponizing the framework, and why progress is more important than perfection plus why making the language simple enough for anyone to explain is key. The third step: anchoring these habits with a team cue a shared phrase or code word that prompts everyone to pause and reset before things spiral out of control. I explain why the cue only works if your team truly “owns” it and how modeling it as a leader is the secret to making it stick. The honest reality is that even great conflict training only reduces, not eliminates, conflict and that’s not a failure, but a sign your team is learning to handle disagreements with trust and confidence. I end by challenging you to take just one step this week whether it’s naming a wrong, mapping a real conflict to right, or introducing your team’s cue in a low-stakes setting. Remember, real progress comes from using these tools in actual conversations, not just understanding them in theory. If you’re ready to transform the way your team handles tough conversations, this episode is for you. Be sure to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free public speaking ebook and to register for my Formula for Public Speaking course. As always, your voice has the power to change the world. Let’s build the habits that unlock it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices