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💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me Understanding your wounds is not the same as healing them. You can know exactly why you keep going back to someone who isn't right for you and still feel powerless to stop. This week on Wisdom Wednesday, I'm joined by Ben Ufana, a neurosomatic breathwork facilitator and meditation teacher who has spent nearly a decade helping people heal from breakups, divorce, abandonment, rejection, and ghosting. Ben trained for 17 years in the internal martial arts, apprenticed with a traditional Kiowa medicine man, and has spent decades studying how the body holds what the mind can't always explain. He shares the story behind the breath-and-awareness practice he developed out of his own childhood and relational wounding, and walks us through how it works: bringing a person and the dynamic between you into your awareness, noticing where the emotion lives in your body, and breathing with it until it moves. We talk about why we can't work with what we aren't feeling, how numbing and suppressing keep us stuck in repeating patterns, why denying a painful feeling is a form of rejecting ourselves, and why this practice is a deep form of self-love. Ben also shares how these tools can be used in the middle of real life, with your eyes open, in conversation with someone you love. We talk about: Why understanding a wound intellectually is important but not the same as healing itHow heartbreak often reaches back to much older wounds, and why we repeat the same relational patternsThe body as a place where grief, hurt, anger, and betrayal are storedA guided look at Ben's practice: bring the person into awareness, notice the emotion, locate it in the body, and breathe into itHow emotions often intensify, shift, and move through a progression before they releaseWhy avoiding our emotions means rejecting parts of ourselves, and how feeling them is a form of honesty and self-loveUsing the practice with your eyes open: in conversation, with a loved one, or even with a petA note on boundaries: respecting someone else's "no" when you're working with desireWhy body work, grounding practices, and skilled support can make this work safer and deeperHow stress and unprocessed emotion build up in the body, and why staying fluid keeps us growingThis conversation is for anyone who has done the thinking, understood the pattern, and is ready to feel their way through it. If you are severely traumatized, Ben notes that working with a psychotherapist or experienced guide can help you build a strong enough foundation. In This Episode Opening — understanding your wounds vs. healing themMeet Ben Ufana — breathwork facilitator, meditation teacher, and lifelong student of how the body holds emotionBen's story — from a young fascination with Native American healing traditions, to apprenticing with a Kiowa medicine man, to developing his own practice from his own heartbreakWhy numbing keeps us stuck — and why "you can't heal what you don't feel"The practice, step by step — person and dynamic in awareness, emotion, location in the body, breathWhat to expect — emotions that intensify, move, and progress toward acceptance and letting goHonesty and self-love — why feeling your authentic responses means being present with the parts of you that are hurtingPracticing in real life — with eyes open, in conversation, with loved onesPatterns and reenactment — why we keep attracting the same relationships, and how healing shifts that over timeSupport and tools — body work, Ayurveda, acupuncture, skilled healers, and internal martial artsStagnation and fluidity — how stress accumulates in the body and how practice keeps us growingWhere to find BenAbout Ben Ufana Ben Ufana is a neurosomatic breathwork facilitator and meditation teacher with 17 years of training in the internal martial arts (Xinyi Quan, Bagua Zhang, Tai Chi, and Qigong) and an apprenticeship with a traditional Kiowa medicine man. His work focuses on helping people become present enough with themselves to digest hurt rather than only understand it, particularly after breakup, divorce, abandonment, rejection, and ghosting. Website: benufana.com (contact form at benufana.com/contact)Also: teachmetomeditate.com, Heal My Heartache, and Breakup First AidInstagram and YouTube (long-form videos on healing and relationships)Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is brought to you by Elevate Me Self-Discovery. Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselfloveDisclaimer This episode is for education and inspiration and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you are experiencing severe trauma or distress, please consider working with a licensed therapist or other qualified professional. Tags / Keywords heartbreak, healing after betrayal, breakup recovery, breathwork, somatic healing, neurosomatic breathwork, emotional healing, attachment patterns, abandonment, ghosting, meditation, Ben Ufana, wisdom Wednesday, season 6, self-love, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! Bodyotics Intimate Wellness Body-safe pelvic floor & intimate care products for every stage of your journey. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me After my 54th birthday, I made a decision that looked like stepping back. I pushed Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap to 2027. Not because I don't want to do it, but because I was being pulled in too many directions and running on desperation instead of direction. In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about the difference between moving out and moving up. A short conversation with Dr. Will Washington shifted my whole perspective: don't look outside for opportunities to strengthen your worth. Build up what you already have. I share what it looked like to come home from the Revival in Atlanta feeling more at home than I had in a long time, then open my calendar to a full slate of good, worthy things, and what changed when I stopped trying to do them all at once. We talk about why a pivot is a strategy and not a setback, why frantic energy is something people can feel, and why completion doesn't mean doing everything. It means doing what completes the cycle. I also share what's next for Season 6 and a new Substack with downloadable Mindset Monday actions. We talk about: Why limiting your direction is not the same as limiting your powerMoving out (scattered, frantic, trying to prove your value) vs. moving up (focused, strategic, building mastery)Why a pivot can be the strategy, not a step backward: the goal hasn't changed, only the strategyHow desperation and direction feel different, to you and to the people around youWhy doing less with your whole self can be the power moveWhy I'm pouring into The Season of Self Love this seasonA new Substack with downloadable Mindset Monday prompts and actionsIf your calendar is full of good things and you're feeling pulled in every direction, this one is for you. A Gentle Invitation From This Episode This week, you're invited to ask yourself: Where am I being called to pivot? Where am I forcing my way through when I could change position and find another opening? And what would it look like to build up instead of out? In This Episode Opening — turning 54, the number 9, and a year of completionGrounding practice — "You can be ambitious and strategic. Your direction is a power move."The Revival in Atlanta — feeling at home, then looking at a full calendarA conversation with Dr. Will — "Build up in what you have, not out."Moving out vs. moving upWhy Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap is moving to 2027 — same goal, new strategyDesperation vs. direction — and the energy people can feelClosing affirmations — "A pivot is not a setback. It's the strategy."What's next — the new Substack, Season 6 focus, and why self-love comes firstReminder — Souls premieres October 22 on TubiResources & Links 🎬 Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is brought to you by Elevate Me Self-Discovery App and Goalie. Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselflove Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me What if the real reason manifestation isn't working has nothing to do with doing it wrong, and everything to do with a part of you that doesn't feel safe receiving what you're asking for? This week, I'm joined by Kelsey Aida, energetic alignment coach, best-selling author, and co-host of the High Vibing It podcast. Kelsey focuses on the missing piece in manifestation that most people don't talk about: resistance, and how self-love is often the real doorway to change. We talk about reclaiming your story after an identity-shaking loss (Kelsey's path began with a dance-ending injury and a long dark night of the soul), why the "newness" of who you're becoming can feel dangerous to your subconscious, and why self-sabotage is really misguided self-love. We also get into feeling your feelings in your body instead of thinking about them, the difference between toxic positivity and true alignment, how to tell intuition from fear, and what it looks like to love the parts of yourself you've been rejecting. I even had a healing moment live on air, and I think you might too. We talk about: What "reclaiming your story" means in the context of manifestation and alignmentHow contrast, loss, and rock-bottom moments can become a stepping-off point instead of proof you're not enoughWhy the fear of the unknown is often really a fear of not belonging, and why "it's safe to be me" is a powerful reminderResistance explained without shame: the "but" attached to what you want, and how to listen for itWhy self-sabotage is misguided self-love, and how to have a loving conversation with the part of you that's scaredFeeling your feelings somatically (in the body) instead of thinking about them, and letting emotion move like a waveAlignment vs. toxic positivity: why being authentic matters more than being positive all the timeWhat self-love looks like when you're anxious or feeling unworthy: making your own well-being important to youGetting curious about anxiety, sadness, and other parts of you you've rejected, and thanking them for trying to protect youIntuition vs. fear: "Fear screams, intuition whispers"A deathbed "future pacing" exercise for big decisionsIf you've ever wanted something good and found yourself pulling away right when it arrived, this conversation offers a gentler way to understand it. In This Episode 60-second guided meditation — "I am safe to receive. I release resistance."Meet Kelsey Aida — energetic alignment coach, author, and podcast co-hostReclaiming the desires of your heart — and your highest timelineWhen an identity is taken away — Kelsey's injury, her dark night of the soul, and who you are without the labelsWhy newness feels dangerous — the subconscious, survival, and belongingWhat resistance really is — and how to hear it without shameSelf-sabotage as misguided self-love — including a dating example and the "juice box" approach to your scared partsFeeling vs. thinking about feelings — the somatic practice, and a live healing momentAlignment vs. toxic positivitySelf-love as the foundation of manifestation — and loving the parts you've disownedIntuition vs. fear — and the deathbed future-pacing exerciseWhere to find Kelsey — plus a promise of a Part 2Closing reflection — where are you in resistance, and what is it trying to protect you from?About Kelsey Aida Kelsey Aida is an energetic alignment coach, best-selling author, and co-host of the High Vibing It podcast. Her work focuses on resistance, the often-overlooked piece of manifestation, and on self-love as the doorway to change. Website: KelseyAida.comNew book: The Manifesting Fix, launching December 1 (pre-orders available at KelseyAida.com)Podcast: High Vibing ItSubstack: Aligned and AbundantA Gentle Invitation From This Episode This week, you're invited to ask yourself: Where am I in resistance, and what is that resistance trying to protect me from? Then name it, soothe your nervous system, and take one aligned action. Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content 💬 Loved this conversation? Share it with someone who needs to hear it, leave a review, and send me a message on Instagram to tell me what it brought up for you. Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselfloveTags / Keywords manifestation, resistance, self-sabotage, reclaiming your story, Kelsey Aida, The Manifesting Fix, High Vibing It, alignment vs toxic positivity, somatic healing, feeling your feelings, intuition vs fear, self-love, identity shifts, inner child and parts work, wisdom Wednesday, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview, reclaimed and unashamed Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! Bodyotics Intimate Wellness Body-safe pelvic floor & intimate care products for every stage of your journey. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me You've visualized it, affirmed it, and put it on the vision board. You're asking for the relationship, but you're still single. You're declaring abundance, but you feel blocked. And you're wondering what you're doing wrong. In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about the part of manifestation nobody puts in the course: resistance. What if it isn't a personal failure or proof that you're not believing hard enough? What if it's a part of you that doesn't feel safe receiving yet, and is trying to protect you? I share how I used to shame myself for "blocking" my own progress, how a big fear about taxes once held me back when I was making more money, and what changed when I got curious instead of critical. We also talk about the big "but" that hides inside what we say we want, and why you don't have to become someone else to receive it. You just have to trust who you already are. We talk about: Why manifestation can stall even when you're doing "everything right"Resistance as protection, not a flaw: a part of you asking, "Are we safe? Are we ready?"Why shaming yourself for being "in your own way" only makes it heavierThe big "but" attached to what you want: money, but...; relationship, but...; visibility, but...What happens when half of you moves forward and the other half holds backGetting curious: what is this resistance protecting me from?Day 29 of the birthday manifestation countdown: "I manifest complete trust in the person I have become."If you've been asking for something while quietly hoping it doesn't happen, this one is for you. A Gentle Invitation From This Episode This week, you're invited to notice if there's something you're asking for while also kind of hoping it doesn't happen. No fixing, no judging. Just get curious about what that part of you is trying to protect. In This Episode Opening — doing all the manifesting work and still feeling blockedGrounding practice — "You are safe to receive."What nobody tells you in the manifestation coursesSponsor break — Washington Wellness InstituteResistance reframed — a part of you trying to protect you, not an enemyThe cost of shaming it — and what changes when you get curiousExamples of resistance — taxes, being truly seen, criticism and visibilityThe big "but" — the information hiding inside what you wantManifestation countdown, Day 29 — "I manifest complete trust in the person I have become."Closing affirmations — "I am not becoming someone else. I am becoming more of myself."Coming Wednesday — guest Kelsey Aida on trusting that version of yourself even when resistance shows upResources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 🧘 Washington Wellness Institute — Sign up for a free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Will Washington on modernizing mental wellness into a holistic lifestyle 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App. Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselflove Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me You know how to love other people. You know how to show up for everyone else. But somewhere along the way, loving yourself became the hardest relationship of all. That's not a character flaw. Nobody ever taught you how. This week, I'm kicking off Season 6 Wisdom Wednesdays with Jonathon Aslay, author of What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? and a dating and relationship coach on a mission to help both men and women fully love themselves. After a divorce, a lost career, and the loss of his 19-year-old son, Connor, in 2018, Jonathon's own grief sent him on a soul-searching journey that changed how he coaches, writes, and lives. We talk about what self-love really means, nurturing the emotional "six-year-old" inside all of us, the difference between self-love and selfishness, why dating has become a form of entertainment, how insecure attachment pulls us away from our own sovereignty, and why he believes gratitude is the highest form of love. He also shares one real action you can take today, especially if you're in the middle of heartbreak or self-doubt. We talk about: What self-love is — and the one thing Jonathon would add to his book: nurturing your emotional six-year-oldHow divorce, loss, and a long season of depression became the starting point for his healing workGrieving with love instead of suffering, and why gratitude and acceptance became his foundationTaking personal ownership of your life instead of living from victim consciousnessThe line between self-love and selfishnessWhy so few of us can say why we want a relationship or what its purpose isInsecure attachment, and how attaching to someone in an unhealthy way can pull you away from your own sovereigntyLoving on yourself versus fully loving yourself — and why growth is enoughOne action to start today: a fear and limiting-beliefs inventory, with forgivenessReclaimed & Unashamed: reclaiming his spiritualityIf you're in the middle of heartbreak, loss, or self-doubt and aren't sure where to start, this conversation offers a gentle place to begin. In This Episode Guided meditation — "You don't have to earn the love you already carry inside of you."Meet Jonathon Aslay — author, coach, and father on a mission to help people love themselvesSelf-love, evolving — what Jonathon would add to his 2019 bookFrom divorce and depression to emotional scaffolding — the personal development journey that came before lossWhat is love, really? — the questions behind the bookPersonal responsibility vs. victim consciousnessFavorite chapters — "Speak your truth, do it with kindness" and "If it's sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing to the right person"Self-love vs. selfishnessThe purpose of relationships today — and why dating has become entertainmentAttachment and sovereigntyGrieving with love — choosing gratitude and acceptance after losing his sonOne action to start today — writing out your fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs, forgiving yourself, and asking "Gus" (God, Universe, Spirit) how to healReclaimed & Unashamed — Jonathon's answerClosing thoughts — "You are worthy of love, starting with your own."About Jonathon Aslay Jonathon Aslay is the author of What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? (2019) and a dating and relationship coach who works with both men and women. After losing his 19-year-old son, Connor, in a 2018 accident, his own grief reshaped how he coaches, writes, and lives. Search his name online to find his YouTube channel, website, and social media; his book is available on Amazon. Books mentioned in this episode: What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? by Jonathon Aslay, Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, and The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 🎬 Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content This episode is sponsored by Goalie and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App. Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselfloveTags / Keywords self-love, Jonathon Aslay, What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway, grief and healing, heartbreak, relationship coaching, inner child, attachment styles, dating and relationships, gratitude, wisdom Wednesday, season 6, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview, self-awareness Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! Bodyotics Intimate Wellness Body-safe pelvic floor & intimate care products for every stage of your journey. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me Season 6 is here, and Mindset Monday is back. I'm opening with something real: a few weeks ago, I taught on divine timing while still waiting on dates, confirmation, and proof that things were actually happening. Fear was loud. So I went to my altar, released it, and the very next day after that episode went live, I got the confirmation I'd been waiting for. In this episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about what trust actually looks like in real life. Not having it all figured out, but doing the thing anyway when you don't know yet, when fear says it won't work, and when everyone is asking "but when?" I share what happens when we don't trust ourselves (we get stuck controlling everything else, and control becomes exhausting), what shifted for me when I stopped trying to figure it out and simply showed up, and why you can love yourself while you're scared. No checklist today, just a gentle invitation to notice where you're waiting and what you'd do if you didn't need every answer first. We talk about: Why real trust isn't "knowing" — it's moving forward in the "I don't know yet" spaceWhat happens when we don't trust ourselves: control, anxiety, being blocked, and missing the signsWhat shifted when I stopped fighting and started trustingWhy fear gets louder when you're trying to control the outcomeLoving yourself while you're scaredA gentle invitation: what are you waiting on, and what would you do if you didn't need all the answers first?Day 22 of the birthday manifestation countdown — today's word: TrustIf you're waiting on a decision, a conversation, a dream you haven't said out loud, or a confirmation that hasn't arrived yet, this episode is for you. In This Episode Opening story — teaching divine timing while still learning it, and the confirmation that arrived the next daySeason 6 kickoff — Mindset Monday and Wisdom Wednesday are backGrounding practice — "You don't need to have every answer before you take the next step."What trust actually is — not knowing, but moving anywayThe blocks — control, fear, anxiety, and missing the signsWhat changed — showing up, trusting the work already done, and releasing at the altarThe "I don't know yet" place — where trust livesAn invitation, not a checklist — noticing what you're waiting onManifestation countdown, Day 22: Trust — "I manifest the courage to trust what I cannot see yet."Closing affirmations — "I trust myself. I am worthy of my own trust."Coming Wednesday — a guest on trusting the process in uncertain spacesResources & Links 🎬 Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi — written by Nyomi (credited as Amanda D.) 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content. A full series on trust and love is coming soon. 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App — your partners in nervous system support and trust in yourself. Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselflove Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me You look fine. You're managing, holding it all together, showing up. But inside, you're running on empty. Here's the thing — that's not a willpower problem or a mindset problem. That's a nervous system problem. This week I'm joined by Katherine Chestnut, a mindfulness and nervous system expert who helps people who look fine on the outside but feel fried inside understand what's actually happening beneath the stress — and what to do about it. Katherine's work is grounded in breathwork, nervous system regulation, and practical wisdom — no fluff, just real tools for real life. We talk about what survival mode actually looks like when you're still functioning, why striving for perfection means we stop listening to our bodies, the difference between honoring rest and pushing through, and how calm confidence and power aren't opposites. Katherine also shares her own story with real vulnerability, and leaves us with one simple, practical action to start building calm confidence tomorrow morning. We talk about: What survival mode actually looks like when you're still "managing"Why perfectionism disconnects us from what our bodies are telling usHonoring rest versus pushing through — a real example from a personal 30-day challengeThe exchange of energy, and why grounding yourself changes the room around youOne simple morning practice to start building calm confidence tomorrowWhy saying no to someone else is saying yes to yourselfWhere to find Katherine's books, meditations, and teachingIf you've been functioning on fumes while looking like you have it all together, this conversation gives you real language for what's happening — and a place to start. In This Episode Guided meditation — "I can be both calm and powerful. I don't have to run on empty to stay unstoppable."Meet Katherine Chestnut — mindfulness and nervous system expert, breathwork teacherWhat survival mode actually looks like — when you're functioning but running on fumesPerfectionism vs. listening to your body — honoring rest instead of pushing throughCalm confidence explained — why it's power, not weakness, and how energy exchange worksOne practical action — feet on the floor, one breath, "what do I need today?"Saying no as self-love — why declining is a way of listening to your bodyKatherine's work — four books, nearly 200 meditations on Insight Timer, and weekly YouTube videosClosing thoughts — "Our natural state is joy"About Katherine Chestnut Katherine Chestnut is a mindfulness and nervous system expert whose work centers breathwork, nervous system regulation, and practical, no-fluff tools for real life. She's the author of four books, has released nearly 200 meditations on Insight Timer, and shares regular teaching videos on YouTube. Insight Timer: search Katherine Chestnut for her full meditation libraryYouTube: weekly long-form teaching videos and live sessions https://katharinechestnut.com/mindfulness-quiz/Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselfloveTags / Keywords Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! Bodyotics Intimate Wellness Body-safe pelvic floor & intimate care products for every stage of your journey. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me This week was a lot — fresh off New York Fashion Week, deep in chocolate tempering trial and error, a movie release date looming, and fear creeping in about all of it. Then I watched three people I love achieve dreams they'd worked toward for years, and it reminded me: time is divine. Not our timing — divine timing. In this episode, I'm teaching what happens when you stop trying to control the outcome and start trusting the timing. I get honest about trying to force my chocolate line, my movie release, and my licensing to move on my schedule — and what that control actually cost me: blocked creativity, anxiety, broken trust, exhaustion, and missed signs (including a migraine that took me out for days). I share what I witnessed watching two friends make history hosting a Caribbean-centered show at New York Fashion Week, and another friend finally become a mother after years of difficulty — all reminders that what's meant for you arrives in its own time. I close with exercises to help you find where you're gripping control, and Wednesday, Catherine Chestnut joins me to teach exactly how to put surrender into practice. We talk about: Why control is an illusion — you can only control your effort, not the timingWhat trying to force outcomes actually costs: blocked creativity, anxiety, broken trust, exhaustion, missed signsWhat watching three people's dreams come true this week taught her about divine timingThe connection to this month's Day 8 manifestation countdown theme: releaseSeparating "your part" (showing up, doing the work, staying ready) from "God's part" (the timing, the outcome, the miracles)Exercises: naming what you're trying to force, asking how that control is working for you, and committing to your part while releasing the restA preview of Wednesday's guest, Catherine Chestnut, who will teach how to put surrender into real practiceIf you've been forcing a timeline, a business outcome, or an answer that isn't ready to come yet, this episode is the permission to do your part — and release the rest. In This Episode Grounding practice — "Your job is to do the work. God's job is the timing."What this week taught her — New York Fashion Week, chocolate tempering, and a looming movie releaseControl is an illusion — what forcing outcomes actually costsWatching three dreams come true — a history-making fashion show and a long-awaited motherhood journeyManifestation countdown, Day 8: Release — "I release the version of me that survived beautifully, but was never meant to live forever"Exercise 1: Where are you trying to control?Exercise 2: Your part vs. God's partComing Wednesday — Catherine Chestnut teaches how to put surrender into practiceClosing affirmations — "I do my part with excellence. I trust divine timing more than my timeline."Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App — your partners in nervous system support and divine timing. Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselfloveTags / Keywords divine timing, control vs surrender, faith vs fear, letting go, manifestation, self-love podcast, mindset Monday, trusting the process, New York Fashion Week, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, personal growth, releasing control, patience and faith Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me Monday, we talked about rebuilding self-trust after betrayal, trauma, or burnout. Today, my guest shows us what that actually looks like in practice. Alexandra Beller — dancer, choreographer, educator, and author of the upcoming book The Anatomy of Art — has spent decades helping artists and educators break free from old fear patterns and rebuild trust in themselves. In this conversation, she models this month's work in real time: the grief hidden inside every choice, the fear of "am I doing this right," and why the path back to trusting yourself has nothing to do with being the best or the most certain person in the room. If Monday gave you the teaching on rebuilding self-trust, this is what it looks like lived out — through an artist's relationship with fear, doubt, and her own creative voice. This conversation isn't just for dancers or choreographers — it's for anyone learning to trust themselves again after fear or old patterns have taken the wheel. We talk about: Why every creative choice carries a small grief for the possibilities not chosen — and what that has to do with fear of the unknownUsing neutral, curiosity-centered feedback (inspired by Liz Lerman's Critical Response Process) to rebuild trust instead of triggering doubtWhy needing to be the "best" or most certain in the room is actually a fear pattern — and what Alexandra unlearned about itHow non-artists can apply the same principles of unlearning fear and rebuilding trust to everyday lifeA rapid-fire lightning round on creative habits, joy, and what authenticity really meansReclaimed & Unashamed: what Alexandra wants to reclaim, and what she's letting go of shame aroundAlexandra's book, The Anatomy of Art, is available for preorder now and releases in August. In This Episode Guided meditation — "I trust my creative voice. I release perfection. I create from truth."Continuing Monday's teaching — rebuilding self-trust after betrayal, trauma, or burnoutMeet Alexandra Beller — decades of work helping artists unlearn fear and rebuild trust in themselvesThe grief inside every creative choice — infinite possibilities, one decision, and the fear underneathNeutral, curiosity-centered feedback — rebuilding trust instead of triggering doubtBeing witnessed, not led — unlearning the need to be the best or most certain in the roomApplying "unlearning fear" beyond art — noticing the habitual givens in everyday lifeLightning round — a creative habit unlearned, a joy practice, and what authenticity meansReclaimed & Unashamed — Alexandra's answer to the show's signature closing questionAbout Alexandra Beller Alexandra Beller is a performer, educator, and author whose upcoming book, The Anatomy of Art, blends poetic insight with practical tools for creative process. She has spent decades working with artists and educators to help them break free from old patterns and create more bravely and authentically. Website: alexandrabellerdances.orgBook: The Anatomy of Art — theanatomyofart.com — available for preorder, releasing in AugustResources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 💬 Loved this conversation? Share it with someone who needs to hear it, leave a review, and connect with Alexandra directly 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Send a message on Instagram — I love hearing from you Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselfloveTags / Keywords faith vs fear, rebuilding self-trust, unlearning fear, Alexandra Beller, creative process, dance and choreography, trusting yourself, artist interview, self-love podcast, authenticity in art, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview, The Anatomy of Art Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! Bodyotics Intimate Wellness Body-safe pelvic floor & intimate care products for every stage of your journey. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me Betrayal breaks something inside of you. So does trauma. So does burnout. All three break your ability to trust yourself — if you couldn't see the betrayal coming, how can you trust your instincts? If you burned out, what does that say about your judgment? So you stop trusting. You second-guess everything. You wait for permission. And that's when fear takes over. In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm teaching the truth about rebuilding self-trust: it isn't your fault, your weakness, or your failure — it's information. I walk through exactly what breaks self-trust, what it costs you when it's gone, and how it gets rebuilt — not in one big moment, but through F-A-I-T-H, day by day, choice by choice. I share my own experience of rebuilding trust in myself while managing invisible challenges and building every single day, and I give you five exercises to start rebuilding your own self-trust starting today. We talk about: What betrayal, trauma, and burnout actually break inside youThe cost of lost self-trust: staying small, seeking validation, losing your voiceWhy the break wasn't your fault — and how to reframe it as information, not proofThe F-A-I-T-H approach to rebuilding trust in yourselfFive exercises: naming where you lost trust, writing your fear story, flipping it to a faith statement, taking one small act of self-trust, and the faith commitmentA preview of Wednesday's guest, who will model exactly what this rebuilding looks like in real lifeIf you've been waiting for permission, second-guessing every choice, or doubting your own knowing since something broke your trust in yourself, this episode gives you the roadmap back. In This Episode Grounding practice — "Self-trust can be built. It can be rebuilt."What breaks self-trust — betrayal, trauma, burnout, and what your nervous system tells youThe cost of lost self-trust — staying small, seeking validation, losing your voiceThe truth about the break — it wasn't your fault, it was informationSponsor break — Washington Wellness InstituteThe F-A-I-T-H approach — how self-trust is rebuilt day by day, not all at onceExercise 1: Where you lost your self-trustExercise 2: Naming your fear storyExercise 3: Flipping the fear story into a faith statementExercise 4: One small act of self-trust, todayExercise 5: The faith commitmentComing Wednesday — meet Alexandra Beller, who models how she unlearned her own fear patterns and chose faithClosing affirmations — "I am rebuilding self-trust every single day. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed."Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App — your partners in nervous system support and rebuilding faith in yourself. Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselfloveTags / Keywords self-trust, faith vs fear, betrayal recovery, trauma recovery, burnout recovery, rebuilding trust in yourself, mindset Monday, self-love podcast, nervous system healing, faith over fear, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, self-worth, personal growth exercises Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me Monday, I told you about choosing healing ways — building a #1 podcast while managing invisible illness, explanting, and recovering. But nobody talks about what you actually do on the hard days, when your energy is depleted, your brain is foggy, and your nervous system is activated. Today I'm giving you the real tools I use — not theory, not what sounds good, but what actually got me through building while managing invisible challenges. These work for anything that drains you: illness, burnout, grief, chronic fatigue, or recovery. I walk through four practical tools: the capacity check-in (using a simple red/yellow/green system), the daily energy audit (budgeting your energy on a 1–10 scale), adaptive creating for low-capacity days (including how and why I cut this show down from an hour to 30 minutes), and a body scan for depletion to figure out exactly where you're holding exhaustion. I also get honest about recording this very episode in pieces because of my own medium-to-low capacity day, plus lingering brain fog and vertigo from BII that I still manage. We talk about: The capacity check-in: red, yellow, green, and what to create at each levelThe daily energy audit: budgeting a 1–10 scale instead of pushing throughAdaptive creating: shorter formats, more grace, leaning on your support systemThe body scan for depletion: where you're holding exhaustion and what it needsCelebrating and anchoring your energy when capacity returnsWhy honoring your capacity — not pushing through it — is how you build something sustainableIf you're managing anything that drains your energy and you've been trying to push through instead of work with it, this episode gives you tools you can use today. In This Episode Grounding practice — "Notice how you regulate your nervous system. Move anyway."The reality of building while managing — full-capacity days vs. depleted onesTool 1: The Capacity Check-In — red, yellow, green, and what to create at each levelTool 2: The Energy Audit — budgeting your energy on a 1–10 scaleSponsor break — Washington Wellness InstituteTool 3: Adaptive Creating — grace, shorter formats, and leaning on supportTool 4: Body Scan for Depletion — where your body is holding exhaustion and what to ask itCelebrating capacity's return — anchoring what rested feels like and creating from itClosing affirmations — "I don't push through depletion. I work with it."Resources & Links 🌸 Labor Day Sale — 20% off your first-time subscription, September 1–13 only: elevatemenyomi.com 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 🧘 Washington Wellness Institute — Sign up for a free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Will Washington on modernizing mental wellness into a holistic lifestyle 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes This episode is sponsored by Goalie Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App — your partners in nervous system support and sustainable healing. Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselfloveTags / Keywords nervous system regulation, capacity check-in, energy management, chronic illness, invisible illness, burnout recovery, sustainable building, body scan, self-love podcast, healing ways, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, BII, adaptive creating, self-care tools Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me Four years ago, I sat at my altar at 50 years old and heard: do daily shows. My entire body said hell no. I had breast implant illness (BII) — an invisible chronic illness I didn't even know I had — draining my energy, fogging my brain, and attacking my immune system. Fear told me I was too sick, too tired, and too unbelievable to build a five-day-a-week self-love podcast. I said yes anyway. In this episode, I'm sharing the full journey: three years of building The Season of Self Love while managing undiagnosed BII, the moment at my altar when I heard remove those implants, what explant surgery and recovery actually looked like emotionally and physically, and how the clarity that came afterward fueled The Year of the Rebirth album. And I'm sharing the news I got this week: The Season of Self Love has been ranked the #1 self-love podcast of 2026 on the Million Podcast list — built not from a place of being fully healed, but from choosing healing ways every single day. We talk about: The altar moment that launched daily shows despite undiagnosed BIIWhat breast implant illness actually is and how it showed up in her body for 20+ yearsThe decision to explant and what recovery — physical and emotional — really looked likeHow clarity after explant surgery fueled the writing of The Year of the RebirthGetting confirmation of the #1 podcast ranking, and what "choosing healing ways" actually meansWhy faith isn't "I'm healed, so now I build" — it's "I'm healing, and I'm building anyway"If you've ever felt like you had to wait until you were fully healed to start building the thing you're called to do, this episode is proof that you don't. In This Episode Grounding practice — "I choose my healing ways, not because I'm healed, but because I'm healing."The altar moment at 50 — hearing "do daily shows" and fear's immediate noWhat BII actually is — chronic fatigue, brain fog, autoimmune symptoms hidden for 20+ yearsThree years building the podcast — while sick, while foggy, while caregiving for her motherThe decision to explant — identity, grief, and choosing herselfRecovery, real and ongoing — rebuilding a relationship with her physical selfThe unexpected clarity — and how it became The Year of the Rebirth albumThe #1 ranking — confirmation this past week on the Million Podcast listWhat faith while healing really means — building anyway, every single dayClosing affirmations — "My challenges don't disqualify me. They qualify me."Resources & Links 🏆 The Season of Self Love is ranked the #1 self-love podcast of 2026 on the Million Podcast list 🌸 Labor Day Sale — 20% off your first-time subscription, September 1–13 only: elevatemenyomi.com 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes This episode is sponsored by Goalie Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App — your partners in nervous system support and living in healing ways. Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselfloveTags / Keywords breast implant illness, BII, explant recovery, faith vs fear, healing journey, chronic invisible illness, self-love podcast, number one podcast, The Year of the Rebirth, body reclamation, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, healing ways, autoimmune, choosing healing Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me Monday morning, I sat down to record about fear — your guardian, real danger versus imagined danger — and fear showed up so loud I couldn't finish. My shoulders tightened, my throat closed, my breath got shallow, and I heard my guardian say: if you teach this, people will see you're scared and won't believe you. So I stopped recording and went to my altar for answers. In this episode, I'm sharing exactly what happened next — the three cards that fell out when I shuffled and prayed, and the three exercises they revealed: stopping assumptions to make your word impeccable, understanding that your words are spells you cast on yourself and others, and the freeing truth that everyone is living in their own dream. I close with a real, unscripted fear inventory and a master commitment I want you to write and say out loud with me. This is Season 5 in action — not teaching from a safe distance, but teaching while living it. We talk about: What happened when fear showed up mid-recording and why I had to stopThe three-card message from my altar (Four Agreements cards, chakra cards, and prayer)Exercise 1: Stopping assumptions to make your word impeccableExercise 2: Your word as a spell — what fear was saying to me, and the spell I chose insteadExercise 3: Everyone is in their own dream — releasing the fear of judgmentThe fear inventory exercise, from your real, current place — not theoryThe master commitment: "I will not let fear silence me"If you've ever frozen up right when you were about to teach, lead, or show up as yourself, this episode is proof that showing up scared and doing it anyway is the real work. In This Episode Grounding practice — "My word is my power. Fear tried to silence me, but I speak anyway."What happened Monday morning — fear showing up in real time while recordingThe altar moment — three cards, three messagesExercise 1: Stop the assumptions, make your word impeccableExercise 2: Your word is a spell — naming fear's spell and choosing your ownExercise 3: People are in their own dream — releasing the fear of judgmentFear inventory — bracing, assumptions, spells, and what you choose insteadThe master commitment — "Starting today, I speak."Closing affirmations — "I cast my own spell. I am reclaimed. I am unashamed. I am unstoppable."Resources & Links 🌸 Labor Day Sale — 20% off your first-time subscription, September 1–13 only: elevatemenyomi.com 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselflove Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. Goli Ashwagandha Gummies Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount! Bodyotics Intimate Wellness Body-safe pelvic floor & intimate care products for every stage of your journey. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me Fear isn't the problem — your body needs fear. It's kept you alive since the day you were born. But what happens when fear stops protecting you and starts controlling you? That's when protection becomes a prison. This month, we're breaking free. In this episode, I kick off September's series, Faith vs. Fear, by breaking down exactly how fear works inside you: the internal "guardian" whose only job is danger-protect, why it can't tell the difference between a real threat and an imagined one, and how your past becomes your present through pattern matching. I get personal about how this shows up for me right now — heading into a new chapter, a new birthday, new people, new opportunities — and why living in constant protection mode leaves you exhausted, defended, and unable to rest, trust, connect, or feel joy. The good news: your guardian learned fear, which means it can learn safety too. That's September's work. We talk about: Why fear is a survival mechanism, not a weaknessReal danger vs. imagined danger, and why your body responds to both the same wayHow your "internal guardian" records past hurt and scans for matching patternsWhy fear becomes your default after real betrayal or traumaThe cost of living in survival mode — and why you can't rest, trust, or feel joy thereHow to start teaching your guardian safetyWhat's ahead this month: recognizing triggers, rewiring through repetition, and building evidence of safetyIf you've ever wondered why you're always scanning for danger even when you're safe, this episode explains exactly what's happening in your body — and how to start changing it. In This Episode Grounding practice — "Fear, I see you. I take back my power."Fear as a survival mechanism — why your body needs itMeet your internal guardian — the alarm system with one job: danger, protectReal danger vs. imagined danger — why your body can't tell the differenceHow your past becomes your present — pattern matching and triggered guardiansThe cost of living in protection mode — can't rest, trust, connect, or feel joySponsor break — Elevate Me's Labor Day SaleTeaching your guardian safety — why it takes consistency and repetitionThis month's roadmap — recognizing triggers, rewiring, building evidence of safetyClosing affirmations — "I don't live in survival mode anymore. I choose faith."Resources & Links 🌸 Labor Day Sale — 20% off your first-time subscription, September 1–13 only: elevatemenyomi.com 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes This episode is brought to you by Elevate Me Self-Discovery App and Goalie — your partners in finding peace, from fear to faith. Connect with Nyomi Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselfloveTags / Keywords faith vs fear, fear as survival, protection mode, nervous system, trauma patterns, internal guardian, fight or flight, self-love podcast, healing from trauma, spiritual growth, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, survival mode, reclaiming your life Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...

💬 Got something to share? Text or voice note me On Monday, I told you fear came back — loud. Today I'm giving you the actual tools for what to do when that happens, because fear will return. That's not the problem. What you do with it is everything. In this episode, I walk you through the exact practice I used this week to move through fear instead of bypassing it: how to recognize fear's return, how to meditate with intention instead of just checking a box, a three-day feeling journal with prompts to get underneath fear's story, and the "three-try commitment" — using my candle that took three tries to light as a metaphor for trying anyway. I also open the door into September's theme: faith versus fear, and give you the reflection questions to start preparing now. We talk about: Why fear returning isn't failure — unconsciousness isHow to recognize the signs: drained energy, doubt, numbness, feeling stuckA 5-step process for naming, tracing, and writing through fear as it shows upMeditating with intention: what to ask before, during, and afterA 3-day feeling journal practice with prompts to find the truth under fear's storyThe three-try commitment exercise — trying anyway, adjusting, and lighting it anywayPrepping for September: Faith vs. FearIf Monday's episode hit home and you're ready for the practical tools to actually work through what came up, this episode is for you. In This Episode Grounding practice — "Fear, I see you. I don't run from you."Recognizing fear's return — the signs: drained, stuck, doubtful, numbExercise 1: Name it, trace it, write it — a 5-step process for meeting fear as informationExercise 2: Meditation with intention — meeting the feeling instead of making it go awayExercise 3: The 3-day feeling journal — prompts to uncover fear's story and the truth beneath itExercise 4: The three-try commitment — using the candle metaphor to commit to trying anywayExercise 5: Preparing for September's series — Faith vs. Fear, and writing your September intentionClosing affirmations — "Fear returns. This is not failure. This is information."Resources & Links 🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com 📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for behind-the-scenes content and Flashback Fridays 📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes This episode is sponsored by Ashwagandha Gummies by Golie and Elevate Me Self-Discovery — your partners in nervous system support and spiritual awakening. Connect with Nyomi Instagram @theseasonofsellovepodcastFacebook: theseasonofselflove Elevate Me: Self Discovery App 4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling. --- ## 💬 CONNECT WITH ME **Text or Voice Note:** Use the link below to send me a message or voice note directly through Buzzsprout. I read and listen to everything! **Instagram:** @TheRealNyomiBanks | @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast **Website:** theseasonofselflove.com **YouTube:** Subscribe to @TheSeasonofSelfLove for video episodes, behind-the-scenes content, and more! --- ## 🎯 ELEVATE ME: SELF-DISCOVERY APP Ready to go deeper with guided support? **Elevate Me: Self-Discovery** is an AI-powered coaching app with 4 transformation phases, guided meditations, body scans, journaling prompts, and personalized daily practices. 👉 **Learn more:**  studio.com/nyomi   Join the mailing list: elevatemenyomi.com --- ## 📋 SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES All links, templates, exercises, and resources mentioned in this episode are available in the full show notes above. --- ## 🙏 CLOSING Be good to one another and yourselves, and always keep it sexy. Love yourself first so you can love others well. **Have a good one.** 💜 --- ...