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Why does an STI take a certain amount of time to show up on a test? And why do I have to conduct what feels like investigative reporting to make sense of the timeline? This episode gets into the nitty gritty of seroconversion, contact tracing, PrEP, and PEP. Look no further for your guide to understanding how far back one must go when dealing with a testing scare or risk of exposure. It’s a lot easier than you think! Dr. Demetre Daskalakis returns to talk about little known facts about “seroconversion,” the 101 of contact tracing and more.    Hungry for more Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions? Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTok: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guest featured in this episode:  Dr. Demetre Daskalakis: https://www.instagram.com/drdemetre/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gay men are perhaps the most aesthetic community out there: gym routines, filler, hair plugs, veneers, BBLs, skincare, holetox, steroids, and even surgery. This episode dives into the “looksmaxing” of it all, and other trends that inform (or infect) our community. Is everyone who gets cosmetic surgery insecure? Are you toxic for having a really strict gym regimen? How do we draw the line between affirming aesthetic body modification and unhealthy impulses informed by cultural pressure? Answering these questions with us are two guests: nurse practitioner “Injector Chris” and therapist Benjamin Goldman.   Hungry for more Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions? Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTok: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guest featured in this episode:  Chris Bustamante: https://www.instagram.com/injectorchris/ Benjamin Goldman: https://www.instagram.com/benjaminjgoldman/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What are all these swabs for? Haven’t we been swabbed enough! This sweeping episode asks some silly questions about various kinds of STI tests and what those different swabs and samples can actually tell us. In the words of Aquaria, any hole is a goal! As a follow-up to our episode about cum, we’re on the journey of a fluid’s various paths. What are throat and rectal swabs looking for? Are different parts of the body associated with different STI risks? And how has the history of HIV stigma shaped the way we think about anal sex and transmission?   Answering these questions with us is Callen-Lorde’s own Dr. Demetre Daskalakis. Hungry for more Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions?   Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com   Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTok: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guest featured in this episode: Dr. Demetre Daskalakis:  https://www.instagram.com/drdemetre/   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It happened. We finally did an entire episode about c*m.  This episode dives into everything about c*m that you could possibly want to know — and perhaps more you didn’t even know you wanted. Gabe and Chris talk about viscosity, taste, nutritional value, the science of semen, the politics of finishing, and something called “c*m math.” This episode is deeply funny about the phenomenon of c*mming and also totally serious about what it means to gay culture.  Joining us in the studio are the illustrious hosts of the Sloppy Seconds podcast Big Dipper and Meatball, exchanging crazy stories and learning a thing or two while we’re at it!   Hungry for more Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions? Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTok: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guests featured in this episode:  Big Dipper: https://www.instagram.com/bigdipperjelly/  Meatball: https://www.instagram.com/spiciestmeatball/Sloppy Seconds: https://www.instagram.com/sloppypod/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions returns for season 4! The show about sex, desire, cruising, and queer relationships is back weekly with hosts Gabe Gonzalez and Chris Patterson‑Rosso bringing a new class of esteemed sluts and local sexperts into the studio. This season talks about the commingling of gay men and dolls, the aesthetic pressures of “looksmaxxing,” what retiring from porn is like, and the etiquette of nudes. Gabe and Chris also travel to San Juan and cruise the Atlanta nightlife scene to meet fellow cruisers.  This season’s guests include Kay Gabriel, Eric Cervini, Honey Pluton, Benjamin Goldman, Chris Bustamante, Ty Mitchell, Meatball, Big Dipper, Vico Ortiz, Ane Hernandez, and Taylor Alxndr. Premiering Sep 22!   Hungry for more Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions? Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com Try Sniffies: sniffies.com Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTok: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

At Sniffies, there’s only one thing that gets us harder than the promise of anonymous sex: nostalgia. So for our very special 2025 Year-End Special, Gabe and Chris welcome the riotously funny Macy Rodman and Theda Hammel of the hilarious Nymphowars podcast to look back at their favorite queer cultural moments of 2025, most of which revolve around Lady Gaga. Then, in act two, the gang digs through data to learn what Sniffies’ Cruisers were up to this year, including how many pump and dumps took place, which US city was the horniest and which international destination is really, really into armpits . Ready for a recap that will make you hard? Just push play.   Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com   Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTok: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guests featured in this episode: Macy Rodman: instagram.com/macyrodman/ Theda Hammel: instagram.com/majortransceleb/ Nymphowars: patreon.com/c/nymphowarsxxx/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For the final episode of season three, Gabe and Chris explore just what makes locker rooms such exciting spaces to cruise, with the help of the very fit and very funny comedian Jay Jurden. Like many queer people, Jay recalls being attracted to other guys while changing in his high school locker room. But it wasn’t until he became an in-demand trainer at New York’s cruisiest gym that Jay got a front-row seat for sexual shenanigans hotter than anything on Pornhub. To celebrate his debut Hulu comedy special, “Yes, Maam”, Jay cracks our hosts up with stories about what he’s witnessed in locker rooms over the years, what bodily fluid he told Anderson Cooper he should drink to get swole, and his expert advice for cruising in the locker room.   Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com   Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTok: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guests featured in this episode: Jay Jurden: instagram.com/jayjurden/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gay culture is constantly sending us messages that big dicks are the most desirable thing a person could have, but activist Phil Miner says there are lots of people who are turned on by small or average-sized penises, and even more people who could develop confidence about their own size with Phil’s new six-week “Package Acceptance Program”. In this episode Gabe, Chris and Phil talk about average and smaller sized dicks, rejection, and embracing the concept of body neutrality. Then, the hosts and a competitor in NYC’s first “Mx. Small Penis Contest” reflect on the positive and, yes, uplifting nature of a pageant where contestants were teased and then given prizes for having the smallest dicks in the Big Apple.   Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com   Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTik: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guests featured in this episode: Phil Miner: instagram.com/phil.miner/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sammy Sins’ mom developed Parkinson’s Disease when they were still very young. But the lessons Sammy learned taking care of her were crucial to their job as a sex worker and content creator years later. In this episode, Chris and Gabe sit down with Sammy to talk about some of these unique discoveries, and the links between sex work, caregiving, and authenticity. Plus, how Sammy feels about code-switching as a non-binary creator, the emotional toll of churning out content, and how PrEP and DoxyPEP kept them safe while touring their K-Pop Dance party BIAS through Asia.  Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com   Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTik: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guests featured in this episode: Sammy Sins: instagram.com/sammysinsss/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The first time Alex Espinoza got cruised, he felt as if a “mutant power” had been awakened inside him. This new internal radar helped him find secret sex spaces where he uncovered another hidden strength: his dick gave him power over men who might have otherwise rejected a queer Latino man with a disability. Using his special gifts, Alex was able to build his self-confidence and dispel the feelings of shame he says are common for queer people from immigrant families. It also gave him plenty of material for his hit 2019 book “Cruising: An Intimate History of a Radical Pastime”. In this episode, Alex teaches Gabe, Chris, and our listeners what he’s learned from a lifetime of cruising, and offers practical tips for queer cruisers of color and queer cruisers with disabilities. School is now in session. It’s time for CRUISING 301.  Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com   Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTik: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife Guests featured in this episode: Alex Espinoza: instagram.com/ae_espinoza See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In 2019, Rhyheim Shabazz was just another horny LA slut having orgies on the regular. But when he started filming those orgies, the expressions on his bottoms’ faces were unlike anything he’d seen in porn. Rhyheim channelled that realization into a wildly successful career as an actor and director in the gay porn industry, and launched his own hit studio VOYR in 2023. In this episode, Rhyheim talks to Gabe and Chris about his stunning career trajectory, Brazilian boys, and yes, Chris’s ass. He also offers tips and tricks for aspiring content creators looking to follow in his footsteps. Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com   Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTik: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guests featured in this episode:  instagram.com/r.h.y.h.e.i.m/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Comedian James Tom spent years identifying as a lesbian enby, but it took a Fire Island orgy and a twink in a Versace speedo to help him realize he was actually a gay guy. James has been mining his experiences for hilarious stand-up material ever since. In this episode, James stops by to tell Gabe and Chris side-splitting stories of sexual aha moments and misadventures alike. He also offers tons of helpful advice to trans and cis queers who “just wanna f**k” -- including Chris and Gabe! Want to know what cis guys should absolutely NOT say when hooking up with trans guys? This episode’s for you!   Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com   Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTik: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guests featured in this episode: James Tom: https://www.instagram.com/jamestomxo/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fisting used to be a niche fetish practiced by kinksters in dungeons, but today “Fisting is the It Girl” according to writer and expert fister Alexander Cheves. In this deep dive, Alex explains how the availability of fisting content on Twitter has led to a surge of interest from younger queer folks in recent years. But there’s a lot that first time fist f*****s need to know about how to prepare and train for play, in order to avoid serious injuries. Luckily, Alex has plenty of smart tips (and sweet stories) to share for both beginners and pros. Get the x-lube and puppy pads ready. It’s time to go Fisting For Compliments.  Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com   Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTik: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guests featured in this episode:  Alex Cheves: instagram.com/badalexcheves/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You’re not supposed to get horny or talk about sex in church, but Brandon Kyle Goodman is not your normal pastor. In their new off-Broadway show HEAUX CHURCH, the host of iHeart’s hit podcast “Tell Me Something Messy” reimagines church as a place for queer people to shed their religious trauma, sexual shame, and become happier, more fulfilled lovers. In this episode, Chris and Gabe talk with Goodman about how religious homophobia f***s up queer people’s access to sexual pleasure, highlighting how Brandon’s upbeat Tammy Faye Baker-style sermon - complete with talking penis, vagina and butthole puppets - offers a path to enlightenment. Heaux-llelujah! Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com   Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTik: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guests featured in this episode:  Brandon Kyle Goodman instagram.com/brandonkylegoodman/   Heaux Church at Ars Nova arsnovanyc.com/events/heaux/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cruising has resurged over the past decade, thanks in part to PrEP and Sniffies. But its future might look like something out of a dystopian sci-fi movie, according to journalist Leo Herrera, who followed up his hit book Analog Cruising (featured in our S1 episode “Cruising 101”) with a series of articles about how rapid advancements in AI technology may impact queer sex, cruising, and relationships. In our supersized season opener, Leo, Gabe and Chris vigorously debate the nuts, bolts, ethics and controversies over soon-to-be-ubiquitous things like synthetic companions, AI porn and yes, sex robots. Freaked out by the future? You’ll definitely want to listen to this episode.    Follow Sniffies' Cruising Confessions: cruisingconfessions.com   Try Sniffies: sniffies.com   Follow Sniffies on Social: Instagram: instagram.com/sniffiesapp X: x.com/sniffiesapp TikTik: tiktok.com/@sniffiesapp   Follow the hosts: Gabe Gonzalez: instagram.com/gaybonez Chris Patterson-Rosso: instagram.com/cprgivesyoulife   Guests featured in this episode:  Leo Herrera: instagram.com/herreraimages/ substack.com/@herrerawords See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.