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Laura Mears-Reynolds, founder of ADHDAF and an award-winning community organizer, joins Cate to talk about online communication, building connection, and staying in touch when you have ADHD. They dig into rejection sensitive dysphoria and miscommunication, object permanence with people, time blindness in relationships — and why online community can be genuinely life-saving. Plus: the great voice memo debate, and why your calendar reminder system for friends is not sociopathic. For more on this topic ADHDAF Feeling unsafe with ADHD (Laura Mears-Reynolds’ story) | ADHD Aha! Building ADHD community | Sorry, I Missed This For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Content warning: This episode discusses self-harm.  What does it actually take to finish a book with ADHD?  Cate sits down with Erik Gude, her co-author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, to unpack five years of starts, stops, and persistence. They get into taking advantage of accessibility options and overcoming the shame of looming, unfinished projects to get this one done.  For more on this topic  Listen: Infinite Quest (Cate and Erik’s podcast) Listen: ADHD and procrastination For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

As we know, Reddit is full of messy love stories, and we have thoughts.  From gaslighting and age gaps to the weird magic of “new relationship energy,” we read posts that make us laugh, cringe, and wonder — can memory be used as a weapon in a relationship? For more on this topic Listen: ADHD and dating Listen: Is it love or is it dopamine? For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Division of labor between partners isn’t easy for anyone. Add ADHD and suddenly dishes come with shame. Trash becomes a crisis. And rest starts to feel sketchy.  Cate sits down with KC Davis to unpack the messy, deeply human reality of sharing work at home. They talk about resentment, perfectionism, time blindness, trust, and why keeping score almost never fixes anything. For more on this topic Listen: Managing expectations in relationships Read: How to Keep House While Drowning (KC’s book) For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Have you ever stayed up all night replaying a meeting in your head? Or obsessed over an email? Or questioned every instinct you have? If making decisions feels like a full-time job, this one’s for you! We’re talking with Dr. Mark Schrime, a surgeon with a PhD in the science of decision-making. Hear about the exhausting cycle of analysis paralysis, second-guessing, and decision fatigue that’s a reality for many people with ADHD.  For more on this topic Listen: Analysis paralysis Read: ADHD and analysis paralysis For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If your ADHD symptoms seem to have leveled up out of nowhere, you’re not losing it. Hormones play a much bigger role in ADHD than most of us understand, especially during perimenopause and menopause. Today, we’re chatting with licensed counselor Mandi Dixon about why focus, memory, sleep, and emotional regulation can suddenly fall apart in your 40s. We also dig into why ADHD meds may stop working the way you’re used to — and what actually helps when carefully built systems stop cooperating. For more on this topic:  Listen: ADHD and hormonesRead: A guide to hormones and ADHDRead: ADHD and periodsExplore: The Menopause SocietyFor a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ever catch yourself spiraling over a decision and feeling like your brain won’t stop replaying every possible “what if”?  Dr. J is joining us to talk about rumination, overthinking, and getting caught in a mood spiral as a woman with ADHD. We’re breaking down why we get stuck and practical ways to interrupt those thought loops.  For more on this topic:  Try: ADHD Unstuck (a free self-guided activity)Listen: How to climb out of mental rabbit holes (from Hyperfocus)Read: ADHD and mood swingsFor a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

When ADHD overwhelm hits, it’s usually not because of one big event. It’s the work project and your kid’s school play and the relationship thing and everyone is out of clean socks... and now you’re caught in a spiral. Today, Cate and our fabulous producer, Jessamine, dig into Reddit stories about work screw-ups, panic lying, and how pattern recognition can quietly turn everyday moments into emotional flashpoints in relationships.  What actually can stop that spiral?  For more on this topic:  Listen: ADHD and workplace stressListen: Managing expectations in relationships (feat. KC Davis)Read: How to Keep House While Drowning, by KC DavisRead: Fair Play, by Eve RodskyFor a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this listener Q&A, Cate tackles two wildly relatable ADHD questions: sudden sensory discomfort during intimacy, and the maddening cycle of not being able to start a task… then not being able to stop.  From sensory overload and burnout to hyperfocus, momentum anxiety, and emotional regulation, Cate breaks down what’s going on and how to navigate it without losing it.  Thanks to our listeners for these deeply ADHD-coded questions! Keep ’em coming. For more on this topic:  Listen: ADHD and sensory overwhelmListen: ADHD sensory challenges and sexRead: ADHD and hyperfocusFor a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

We’re back with another spicy Reddit Reactions episode! This week, we dive into two wildly relatable ADHD relationship posts: one about a partner claiming “you lost your sparkle” (eye roll), and another spiraling over chores, shame, and new-job burnout. We unpack toxic dynamics, people-pleasing, clutter blindness, and why you’re not weaponizing incompetence.  For more on this topic:  Listen: ADHD, cheating, and weaponized incompetenceWatch: ADHD and people-pleasingRead: What IS weaponized incompetence?Timestamps: (01:00) A sparkle-stealing husband (04:10) Is it ADHD… or a toxic partner? (08:20) ADHD shame spiral: “I can’t do anything right!” (11:40) Clutter blindness and burnout For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ever said yes to sex a little too fast and regretted it later? Same.  Today we’re joined by psychologist and Understood Expert Dr. Ari Tuckman for a candid talk about impulsivity, ADHD, and intimacy. We’ll dig into the messy mix of consent, shame, and emotional regulation. And we’ll talk about how to slow down, stay curious, and find self-compassion after a spicy decision.  For more on this topic:  Listen: Impulsivity, risky behavior, and obsessions (Chris’ story)Listen: ADHD, loving intensely, and impulsivity (Ange’s story)Timestamps: 02:15 How ADHD-related impulsivity can influence sexual decisions 08:45 Consent, emotional regulation, and navigating pressure or fear of rejection 17:30 Differentiating shame from embarrassment after vulnerable sexual experiences 28:10 Strategies for slowing down and gathering insights from experiences For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The holidays are here — and so is all the food, family, and sensory overload that can come with them. Host Cate Osborn sits down with Aleta Storch, dietitian, nutritionist, ADHD expert, and founder of Wise Heart Nutrition, to talk about food and ADHD. They cover what disordered eating looks like (and how it’s different from a diagnosed eating disorder), why sensory sensitivities can make meals stressful, and what it’s like not to be believed when you say you don’t want to eat something. Plus, the dopamine rush of holiday treats — and how to navigate it all with more compassion and understanding. (Note: This episode does not dive deeply into diagnosed eating disorders — we’ll have another episode in the future focused entirely on that topic.) For more on this topic:  The National Eating Disorders AssociationADHD and eatingUnderstood.org’s “Neurodiversity and the Holidays” surveyAleta’s website, www.wiseheartnutrition.comAleta’s Instagram, @the_adhd_rdTimestamps: (00:00) Intro (02:05) Aleta’s personal story with ADHD and eating (05:48) What’s the difference between an eating disorder and disordered eating?  (07:46) What about ADHD can affect our relationship with food?  (13:39) Sensory challenges and food (18:11) The consequences of ignoring our own needs (20:12) Good food practices to support ourselves and the neurodivergent people in our lives (26:23) Aleta’s parting advice for the holidays (28:23) Outro and credits For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In the final episode of our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” three-part series, host Cate Osborn and Dr. Shauna Pollard explore what comes after burnout. They discuss how burnout can affect your relationships, the importance of communicating your needs clearly, and how to reflect on past experiences to avoid repeating patterns.  Cate and Dr. Shauna also shares practical tips for tuning in to yourself, setting boundaries, and creating a plan for moving forward with greater awareness, balance, and resilience. For more on this topic:  ADHD burnoutADHD and boundaries: Why saying no feels hard (and how to start)Setting boundaries in relationships with ADHDDr. Shauna's list of Executive Functioning ResourcesTimestamps:  (00:00) Intro  (01:44) We have more emotions to regulate while in burnout (05:26) How can burnout impact relationships? (14:32) Setting boundaries (17:52) How can we show up for our partners when we’re burned out? (23:11) Feeling “too much” for needing to have our needs met  (24:44) What do we do if we don’t have a support system? (28:01) Outro and credits For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Burnout isn’t a weakness. It’s a signal that your body needs real rest.  Dr. Shauna Pollard is back for the second episode in our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” series to answer the question: What is rest?   Cate and Dr. Pollard talk about what true, restorative rest looks like (hint: it’s not just zoning out on your phone), and how to start taking small, doable steps toward rest when you’re already deep in burnout. For more on this topic:  ADHD burnoutFull Catastrophe Living, by Jon Kabat-ZinnYour Money or Your Life, by Joe Dominguez and Vicki RobinTimestamps: [2-4] (00:00) Intro (02:08) How do you realize that enough is enough and you need to rest? (03:58) How do we know if the “rest” we’re taking is actually restorative?  (09:10) Feeling guilty or uncomfortable with resting (15:18) How to decide what to pursue, and what to wait on (20:14) The relationship between perfectionism, procrastination, and burnout (23:41) Finding small moments to integrate rest, and other suggestions from Dr. Shauna (29:07) Outro and credits For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Feeling drained, unmotivated, or stuck in survival mode? In part one of our “Breaking the Burnout Cycle” series, host Cate Osborn and psychologist Dr. Shauna Pollard unpack the question: What is burnout? They explore the signs to watch for, how to recognize when you’re in it, and how it’s different from depression. If you’ve been wondering whether what you’re experiencing is burnout, this episode is a good place to start. Related resources ADHD burnoutADHD and depressionDr. Shauna’s website, https://drspllc.com/Timestamps (00:00) A word from Cate on burnout (01:50) What is burnout? How is it different than depression? (05:57) What happens when ADHD perfectionism and overcommitting meets burnout? (08:06) How do we know that we’re starting to get burnout? How can we tell if it’s burnout or depression? (12:11) How to recognize whether your battery is low or completely tapped out (15:55) How to get to know ourselves and our bodies better to help us in the future (22:57) Burnout spreading from work into the home (26:39) Outro and credits For a transcript and more resources, visit the Sorry, I Missed This show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at [email protected]. Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out! Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.