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In this episode, we’re joined by Jerome and Jacques, partners, creators and the people behind the viral cat duo Lupin and Rajah. They share how a love story that began on a nightclub dance floor grew into a life together, a creative partnership, and an unexpected online following built around joy, softness and visibility in public spaces. Jack opens up about growing up in France in the 1990s, experiencing homophobia at school, including being called “fagg*t” by a teacher and how those early experiences shaped his sense of safety, identity and self-expression. Together, they reflect on coming out, trauma, and the long process of learning to be visible without shrinking yourself. We explore how Lupin and Rajah became emotional support animals, how cats changed the way strangers interact with them in public, and how social media transformed a personal coping mechanism into a global audience.  Follow us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

In this episode, we’re joined by Ali and Adam, a married queer couple whose relationship sits at the intersection of faith, politics, identity and love. Ali, who is Muslim, Palestinian and Turkish, and Adam, who is Jewish, share how they met, fell in love and built a life together and how their marriage became a flashpoint for online debate, media attention and, at times, serious hostility. They reflect on navigating religion, queerness and cultural expectations, coming out within very different family dynamics, and what it means to be constantly asked to “pick a side” in a world that struggles with nuance. We explore how social media collapses complex identities into headlines, how algorithms amplify extremes, and why being visible can come with real emotional and physical costs. From dating, family acceptance and faith to Israel–Palestine, pinkwashing, online hate and the limits of performative allyship, this is a deeply human conversation about love, belonging and refusing simple narratives.

In this episode, we’re joined by myndstate, a spoken word artist who uses poetry to explore identity, sexuality and what it means to grow up in a world that doesn’t always leave space for difference. myndstate shares how he found his voice through hip-hop, wordplay and storytelling and how writing became a form of therapy as he came to terms with being queer. He opens up about growing up without representation, the shame and confusion of hiding parts of himself and the long road to coming out to his family and finally feeling free. We dive into his most powerful work, including his poem Birds and the Bees, which reimagines sex education through a queer lens, challenging what we’re taught about love, bodies and “normality.” He talks about why education and visibility matter, why empathy is the real goal of his art, and how performing to non-queer audiences can change the way people see the world. Follow us below: TikTok: @amaabf Instagram: @amaabf

In this episode, we’re joined by singer and songwriter Malika (Hamza) for a raw, funny and deeply honest conversation about music, mental health, identity and becoming who you really are. Malika opens up about growing up with depression, ADHD and anxiety, and how songwriting became the only way she could truly express what was going on in her mind.  We talk about dropping out of school, going viral online, getting signed to a major label, and the reality of being pushed to become someone you’re not. From navigating record deals and creative control to choosing independence and making her first album on her own terms, Malika shares what the music industry really looks like behind the scenes. She also speaks openly about sexuality, realising she liked girls from a very young age, trying to fit in by dating boys, being a tomboy, and eventually understanding that she’s a lesbian. With honesty and humour, she reflects on coming out, family, culture, and learning to stop pretending. Follow Us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

In this episode, we’re joined by Dr Rohit Dasgupta, associate professor at the London School of Economics, queer activist and local councillor, for a vital conversation about caste, class, colonialism and queerness. Rohit reflects on growing up gay in India, navigating caste, colourism and class hierarchies, and how these systems didn’t disappear online, they were replicated through dating apps, digital spaces and diaspora life. We explore how British colonial laws criminalised queerness across South Asian countries, why homophobia is often framed as “traditional” when it isn’t, and how white queer spaces can reproduce exclusion rather than liberation. From Grindr and caste to queer nightlife, migration, activism in 1970s–80s Britain and the limits of visibility politics, this is a nuanced conversation about power, belonging and what real queer freedom actually looks like. Follow Us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

In this episode, we’re joined by Elias Jahshan, a Palestinian-Lebanese journalist, editor and writer, for a powerful conversation about identity, belonging and reclaiming narrative. Elias opens up about growing up Arab, queer and deaf, navigating racism, homophobia and disability and the deep tension many queer Arabs face when asked to separate parts of who they are in order to be accepted. We explore his work editing This Arab Is Queer and Queer Arab Families, the weaponisation of queerness in political discourse, fetishisation in dating culture, trauma led storytelling in the media and why visibility alone isn’t enough without agency. This is an honest, nuanced discussion about colonialism, queerness, grief, hope and the power of telling our own stories. Follow Us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

In this episode, we sit down with Jake & Max, a couple whose love story has captured hearts across the internet. What started with a cautious first date and clashing attachment styles evolved into a partnership defined by growth, healing and genuine joy. From childhood wounds and emotional shutdowns to lockdown intensity, travel adventures and building an online presence rooted in authenticity, this is a conversation about what it really takes to create a healthy relationship. Together, they unpack navigating arguments, validation, intimacy, jealousy, social media pressure and the slow, beautiful work of choosing each other every day. Follow Us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF  Instagram: @AMAABF

In this AIDS Awareness Day special, we sit down with Marc Thompson HIV activist, community leader and one of the most vital voices in Black queer British history. Born and raised in Brixton, Marc has spent four decades reshaping the landscape of HIV awareness, queer visibility, and racial justice in the UK. His story is one of survival, disruption, joy, and relentless advocacy. From coming out at 16 in the mid-80s to being diagnosed with HIV at just 17, at the height of the epidemic, Marc brings raw honesty about stigma, family, survival and the realities of living through a moment that was claiming the lives of so many. We dive into what it meant to be a young Black gay man navigating racism in clubs, fetishisation, homophobia, misinformation, and the impact of being othered by both mainstream gay culture and the wider world. Marc shares how he found his tribe in Brixton, the house party culture that shaped him, the early Black gay community organising that saved lives. This episode is a piece of living history, a reminder that HIV stigma still exists, that conversations must continue, and that the work isn’t done. Marc’s wisdom, humour, and resilience make this one of our most important episodes yet. Follow Us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAAB Instagram: @AMAABF

In this episode, we sit down with Keye, the breakout star of Married at First Sight UK whose humour, honesty, and emotional depth have made him one of the show’s most unforgettable personalities. From navigating a painful divorce in his early twenties to rebuilding his identity after a mental health crisis, Keye opens up with disarming wit about relationships, people pleasing, sexuality, trauma, and the pressure of performing a version of yourself for others. We dive deep into what it means to finally date as your real self, the messy reality of breakdowns and breakthroughs, and why suppressing your emotions can quietly destroy you. Keye reflects on growing up mixed-race in a white household, losing his brother at a young age, and how humour became both his shield and survival tool. He shares the truth behind his breakup, the infamous Grindr moment, and the journey from chameleon mode to authentic living. Follow Us on Social Media:TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

In this episode, we sit down with comedian and writer Jake Cornell, the quick-witted mind behind Hey Big Guy and one of the most refreshing queer voices in comedy today. From coming out at 16 to finding his community later in life, Jake opens up about identity, shame, body image, dating, and the hilarious chaos of gay adulthood. We dive deep into what it truly means to find your voice, the pressure of building a career in stand-up, and why coming out made his life only easier. Jake reflects on growing up surrounded by straight culture, discovering gay friendships in his 20s, and finally leaning into his full, unapologetic queer self. Whether you're queer, creative, or simply navigating the chaos of modern dating, this is one you're sure to enjoy! Follow Us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

In this episode, we sit down with married couple Alexis & Liam, whose relationship has existed across identities, labels and multiple “coming outs.” Alexis shares her true timeline: first identifying as straight, then gay, then trans, then returning to gay, then finally stepping into womanhood again, this time for herself, not to make the world more comfortable. Liam opens up about how his own sexuality sits outside the binaries people want to force him into, and why he still identifies as a gay man, even though the world reads them as a straight couple. Together, they discuss: why femininity was always the thread Liam was drawn to, how social media obsessively interrogates trans bodies, the concept of “dead names”, discovering personal style during transition, and what it means to let the world see you become yourself. This is a raw, real, unfiltered conversation about identity, labels, sexuality, grief, love and the reality of building a life together while transitioning. 📱 Follow us on social TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

In this episode, we sit down with Jeza Belle: drag queen, author, comedian and the first drag queen in history to publish a Christian devotional, for one of the most surprising, thoughtful and moving conversations. ✨ We talk queer spirituality, reconciling religion and sexuality, grace, and why faith doesn’t belong to bigots. Jeza opens up about growing up Jewish-Christian, evangelical culture shock, coming out later in life, and why drag became both ministry and rebellion. We also dive into her award-winning queer historical fiction and the controversy surrounding her interracial slave-era romance novel, exploring power, race, desire and historical truth with nuance and care.

In this episode, we sit down with Georgia Robert, a standout from I Kissed a Girl Season 1 and semi-pro footballer for a raw, funny and unexpectedly emotional conversation about identity, labels, sport and self-acceptance. 🌈 We get into why the word lesbian felt impossible to say, how school culture shaped shame, and why doing the show flipped everything. Georgia also opens up about how women’s football still carries its own hierarchies, why femininity and masculinity are policed even inside queer spaces, and how representation on-screen changed how she saw herself. 📱 Follow us TikTok & Instagram: @AMAABF Podcast: Avoiding My Anxiously Attached Boyfriend

In this episode, we sit down with actor, writer and producer Eman, whose work and lived experience confronts the intersections of queerness, faith and Black masculinity. From award-nominated stage work (For Black Boys…) to creating his upcoming play Limp Wrist & The Iron Fist, Eman shares the real story behind his art: including assault, silence, conversion therapy, estrangement and rebuilding family relationships. The conversation moves from survival to self-definition: growing up between Ghana and the UK, being plus size and black in a dating landscape shaped by Grindr profiles displaying “no fats, no Blacks, no fems,” navigating Christianity as a gay man, ghosting, attachment styles, and learning to love yourself without shrinking to fit other people’s expectations. 📱 Follow us on social TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

In this episode, we sit down with award-winning podcasters and community icons Nana and Ro, the duo behind Two Twos Podcast, a space that redefined what it means to be Black, British, and queer. 🌈 From humble YouTube beginnings to shaping conversations around identity, masculinity, and representation, the pair open up about five years of laughter, love, and legacy. We unpack their journey from creating spaces where none existed, to hosting landmark queer events that celebrate Ghanaian pride, culture, and joy. The conversation dives deep into coming out stories, faith and family, toxic masculinity within the lesbian community, and how visibility can transform generations: from changing parents’ minds to inspiring the next wave of Black queer women. 📱 Follow us on social: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF