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In this episode of Sober as F*ck, hosts Ryan and Jess welcome Sarah Marie Shoulak — artist, educator, speaker, author, and founder of Sober Bettys — for a powerful conversation about sobriety, grief, emotional healing, and building community without alcohol. Sarah shares how her journey to sobriety began at a young age, the impact unhealthy relationships had on her recovery, and why accountability and emotional honesty are essential for long-term change. Together, they explore what it really means to create alcohol-free spaces where people can connect, socialize, and feel seen — without the pressure to drink. The conversation also dives deep into grief and loss, and the unexpected role humor plays in surviving hard seasons. Sarah introduces her upcoming book, Dead Serious, which explores death, identity, and personal growth — and why it’s never too early (or too late) to radically change your life. This episode is a reminder that sobriety isn’t about perfection — it’s about building a life you don’t need to escape from. Sarah Marie ShoulakArtist • Educator • Speaker • AuthorInstagram: @sarahmarieshoulakWebsite: sarahmarieshoulak.com Sober Bettys (Founder)Instagram: @soberbettiesAlcohol-free social community sobriety, recovery, alcohol-free, mental health, grief, community, relationships, humor in healing, Sober Bettys, emotional wellness, personal growth, accountability, Sarah Marie Shoulak, sober living Sarah’s journey to sobriety began at a young age. Unhealthy relationships can actively sabotage recovery. Accountability is a cornerstone of sustainable sobriety. Creating alcohol-free communities reduces isolation. Humor can coexist with grief and emotional processing. Sober Bettys provides a safe space for social connection without alcohol. Avoiding emotions delays healing — feeling them accelerates growth. Dead Serious explores death, identity, and resilience. Every sobriety path looks different and deserves respect. There is no universal formula for recovery — only personal truth. 00:00 – Introduction & Meeting Sarah Marie Shoulak03:11 – Sarah’s Sobriety Journey06:03 – Relationships & Recovery08:52 – Accountability & Support12:06 – Why Community Matters14:49 – Creating Sober Bettys18:06 – Humor & Grief20:54 – The Book: Dead Serious24:08 – Closing Thoughts Guest & CommunityKeywords (SEO-Optimized)Key TakeawaysSuggested TitlesSound Bites (Clippable)Chapters / Timestamps

In this powerful episode of Sober as F*ck, hosts Ryan and Jess sit down with Aaron Meade for an honest, unfiltered conversation about addiction, recovery, and personal growth. Aaron shares his journey from early experiences with alcohol and a deep desire to belong, through escalating drinking in college, relapse, and ultimately finding sobriety. He opens up about childhood trauma, emotional disconnection, and the moments that forced him to confront his relationship with alcohol and his mental health. This episode explores the non-linear nature of recovery, the role of therapy, AA, and community, and how spirituality, breathwork, and emotional awareness became essential tools in Aaron’s healing. Rather than chasing perfection, Aaron emphasizes learning how to stay present—especially through discomfort, pain, and unresolved trauma. Together, the conversation reframes addiction as a disease that requires ongoing care, honesty, and connection. It’s a grounded, deeply human discussion about what it really takes to rebuild your life in sobriety—and why growth doesn’t end once you stop drinking. Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or navigating recovery alongside someone you love, this episode offers insight, perspective, and hope grounded in real experience. Topics covered include:addiction, recovery, sobriety, alcoholism, mental health, therapy, community, spirituality, breathwork, emotional awareness, and personal growth.

In this episode, Brenton shares his journey into sobriety following a personal crisis that forced him to confront addiction, identity, and the direction of his life. He reflects on how community support, faith, and intentional mindset shifts became foundational to his recovery—and why lasting sobriety requires changing how you think, not just what you stop doing. Brenton discusses the role of humor as a healing tool in recovery, using cultural references like The Office to create connection, relatability, and emotional relief. He also introduces his bear crawl challenge, a powerful symbol of resilience, discipline, and showing up for yourself when the work is uncomfortable and unseen. The conversation explores the critical importance of aftercare support and Brenton’s vision to create a scholarship for individuals transitioning out of treatment. He emphasizes the role of self-identity in recovery, the value of acts of service, and how giving back strengthens long-term sobriety and purpose. Sobriety after a personal crisis Community and accountability in recovery Faith and spirituality in sobriety Mindset shifts for addiction recovery Resilience and discipline in recovery Humor as a healing tool Pop culture and connection in sobriety Aftercare support and recovery resources Identity and purpose beyond addiction Acts of service in long-term sobriety sobriety journey, addiction recovery, recovery mindset, community in recovery, faith and sobriety, resilience in recovery, humor in recovery, aftercare support, identity in sobriety, service in recovery Topics CoveredKeywords for Search & Discovery

In this powerful episode of Sober as Fck*, Ryan and Jess sit down with Michelle to unpack her raw, unfiltered journey through childhood trauma, addiction, and recovery. Michelle shares how early exposure to substance use, unresolved trauma, and environmental influences shaped her addiction—and what finally led her to say, “I don’t want to do this anymore.” Michelle opens up about hitting rock bottom, entering recovery, and learning how honesty, community support, and personal accountability became the foundation of her sobriety. She speaks candidly about the realities of parenting in recovery, rebuilding a sense of self, and navigating life without numbing or escaping. Along the way, she highlights the power of gratitude, celebrating small wins, and using humor as a tool for resilience rather than avoidance. This episode is a reminder that recovery isn’t linear, sobriety is an ongoing journey, and healing requires both support and self-awareness. Michelle’s story will resonate deeply with anyone impacted by addiction, childhood trauma, or mental health struggles—and with anyone searching for hope, connection, and a way forward. Sobriety and addiction recovery Childhood trauma and its long-term impact Substance abuse and early exposure Hitting rock bottom and choosing recovery Community support and accountability Mental health and personal growth Parenting while in recovery Gratitude, resilience, and humor in healing “I don’t want to do this anymore.”“I get to go to work today.”“I’m an addict in everything I do.” 00:00 – Introduction and meeting Michelle03:47 – Childhood trauma and early life experiences10:33 – Substance use and environmental influence19:21 – Hitting rock bottom and entering recovery37:24 – Finding hope and community in sobriety54:34 – Rebuilding work, relationships, and self-worth01:01:00 – Gratitude and perspective in recovery01:15:19 – Humor as a healing tool Key Topics CoveredMemorable QuotesEpisode Chapters

Episode Description Season Three begins with reflection, intention, and momentum. In this episode of Sober As Fck*, Ryan and Jess celebrate the launch of their third season by looking back on their sobriety journey, sober holiday traditions, and the personal growth that comes from choosing intention over autopilot. They reflect on their first sober holiday season, including meaningful travels to Boston and Salem, Massachusetts, where connection, community, and curiosity shaped the experience. From meeting fellow sober individuals to bonding with strangers over shared recovery stories, the trip reinforced the unexpected depth that comes from living openly and authentically. Ryan and Jess share how they rang in the New Year with a quiet, fulfilling night in, highlighting how sobriety has shifted their perspective on celebration, presence, and rest. They discuss the difference between resolutions and intentions, with Ryan choosing “growth” as his word for the year and Jess reflecting on the lasting impact of balance, listening, and restraint in relationships. The conversation also explores the importance of listening without fixing, honoring personal rhythms, and allowing growth to include rest—not just constant motion. Along the way, they touch on Salem’s history, symbolism, and their tradition of collecting memories through mugs, hats, and tattoos as markers of shared experiences and transformation. This episode sets the tone for Season Three—grounded, honest, and deeply human. Sobriety here isn’t framed as restriction, but as expansion: deeper connection, clearer communication, and the freedom to create a life that actually fits. Keywords: sobriety, sober podcast, sober living, recovery conversations, sobriety community, personal growth, intentional living, New Year intentions, healthy relationships, listening skills, sober holidays, sober travel, Boston sober community, Salem Massachusetts, alcohol-free lifestyle, wellness podcast, mindset growth, recovery journey

This episode closes out Season 2 of Sober as Fck* and marks the end of 2025 with a curated compilation of the most impactful moments from every Season 2 episode. This recap brings together honest conversations centered on sobriety, mental health, recovery, relationships, identity, boundaries, fitness, and personal growth. These moments reflect the vulnerability, truth, and real-life experiences that defined Season 2. In this episode:• Highlights from every Season 2 guest• Conversations about sobriety and mental health• Lessons learned, patterns broken, and growth achieved• The importance of community, connection, and accountability• A reflection on the themes that shaped Season 2 and 2025 We extend our sincere thanks to every guest who trusted us with their story and every listener who supported Season 2 by listening, sharing, and showing up. Your support is the reason this podcast continues. Season 2 was about progress over perfection, choosing honesty, and doing the work. We are grateful to everyone who made this season meaningful.

From vineyard manager to marathon runner, Tim Taylor shares his powerful journey of stepping away from alcohol and stepping into purpose. In this episode, Tim opens up about working in the alcohol industry, choosing sobriety, and how that decision transformed his mental health, discipline, and identity. What started as a personal commitment has grown into a public mission: running one marathon every month while raising money and awareness for Alcohol Change UK, an organization working to challenge alcohol culture and support healthier relationships with drinking. This conversation goes beyond sobriety. We dive into resilience, radical accountability, and how physical endurance can become a powerful tool for mental and emotional growth. Tim shares what it really takes to stay consistent, redefine success, and turn personal change into meaningful community impact. In this episode, we cover: Life after alcohol and rebuilding identity Mental toughness, discipline, and consistency Endurance sports as a tool for mental health Challenging alcohol culture and social norms Turning personal growth into real-world impact Tim is actively fundraising to support Alcohol Change UK. Every donation helps fund education, awareness, and support for people questioning their relationship with alcohol. Support Tim’s fundraiser:https://www.justgiving.com/page/tim-taylor-1 This episode is for the sober-curious, newly sober, long-term sober, and anyone rethinking their relationship with alcohol and looking for proof that change is possible.

In this powerful episode of Sober as F*ck, Ryan and Jess sit down with Abby Calabrese to unpack her journey to an alcohol-free life after years of struggling with drinking and the quiet pressure of mommy wine culture. Abby shares what it was like growing up with an alcoholic parent, how normalized drinking shaped her identity as a mother, and why early sobriety forced her to confront self-worth, resilience, and emotional honesty. The conversation dives into the realities of getting sober in a culture that glorifies alcohol, the discomfort of early recovery, and the role community, gratitude, and self-love play in lasting change. This episode challenges the myth that sobriety means losing fun, connection, or joy—and instead reframes it as a path to clarity, confidence, and genuine fulfillment. If you’re sober, sober-curious, questioning your relationship with alcohol, or navigating mental health and personal growth, this conversation will hit home. Sobriety and living alcohol-free Mommy wine culture and its hidden impact Early sobriety and emotional resilience Self-love, gratitude, and mindset shifts Mental health and personal growth The importance of community in recovery “I didn’t like myself.” “I can handle it.” “Sobriety didn’t take my life away—it gave it back.” 00:00 – Introduction and milestones05:09 – Abby’s sobriety journey17:06 – The impact of mommy wine culture29:45 – Navigating early sobriety41:49 – Building resilience and self-love49:16 – Purpose, balance, and what’s next Key Topics CoveredNotable QuotesChapters Sobriety and living alcohol-free Mommy wine culture and its hidden impact Early sobriety and emotional resilience Self-love, gratitude, and mindset shifts Mental health and personal growth The importance of community in recovery “I didn’t like myself.” “I can handle it.” “Sobriety didn’t take my life away—it gave it back.” 00:00 – Introduction and milestones05:09 – Abby’s sobriety journey17:06 – The impact of mommy wine culture29:45 – Navigating early sobriety41:49 – Building resilience and self-love49:16 – Purpose, balance, and what’s next

In this powerful episode of Sober as F*ck, Ryan and Jess sit down with Krista Martinez, a resilient mother, domestic-violence survivor, and the creator of the lifestyle brand Always Improving. Krista opens up about her raw and remarkable journey through addiction, recovery, self-worth, mental health, and the fight to rebuild her life from the ground up. Krista shares the truth behind her early relationship with alcohol, the trauma of surviving abusive relationships, and the devastating health consequences that nearly took everything from her—including a battle with pancreatitis. She speaks candidly about relapse, shame, and the complicated role motherhood played in reshaping her identity and purpose. Her story is a masterclass in resilience, personal growth, and reclaiming self-worth after years of addiction and domestic violence. Krista emphasizes how reconnecting with a higher power anchored her recovery, and how vulnerability became her strongest tool for healing. Today, Krista channels her pain into purpose through her brand Always Improving, inspiring others in sobriety and reminding us that recovery isn’t a destination—it’s a lifestyle. If you’re navigating addiction, healing from trauma, rebuilding your confidence, or redefining your identity in sobriety, this episode hits hard in all the right ways. Feeling pressured to drink in high school shaped the early stages of Krista’s addiction. She survived domestic violence and carried deep wounds into adulthood. Her drinking escalated to serious medical issues, including pancreatitis. Recovery requires developing a personal relationship with a higher power. Motherhood shifted Krista’s motivation for long-term sobriety. Relapse is not failure—it's data and an opportunity to rebuild. Self-worth is foundational when breaking cycles of abuse. Turning her story into a lifestyle brand helped her reclaim her power. Vulnerability is essential in recovery, connection, and personal growth. Healing is not linear—it's a continuous journey of choosing yourself. “I am a domestic violence survivor.” “I was so connected to that design.” “I think you should write a book.” 00:00 Intro & Guest Welcome03:04 Early Drinking & Fitting In05:58 Abusive Relationships & Lasting Impact09:51 Beginning the Sobriety Journey14:45 Relapse & Consequences19:00 Rebuilding Strength After Setbacks24:04 Faith, Higher Power & Recovery28:02 Healing, Mental Health & Growth31:57 Supporting the Next Generation34:09 Final Reflections36:31 Understanding Self-Worth40:59 Recognizing the Cycle of Abuse42:52 Healthy Relationships After Trauma48:53 Creating a Lifestyle Brand in Recovery52:29 Resilience, Reinvention & Transformation01:01:18 Finding Humor in the Darkness Major TakeawaysSuggested TitlesFeatured QuotesChapters Feeling pressured to drink in high school shaped the early stages of Krista’s addiction. She survived domestic violence and carried deep wounds into adulthood. Her drinking escalated to serious medical issues, including pancreatitis. Recovery requires developing a personal relationship with a higher power. Motherhood shifted Krista’s motivation for long-term sobriety. Relapse is not failure—it's data and an opportunity to rebuild. Self-worth is foundational when breaking cycles of abuse. Turning her story into a lifestyle brand helped her reclaim her power. Vulnerability is essential in recovery, connection, and personal growth. Healing is not linear. It's a continuous journey of choosing yourself.

Keywords sobriety, recovery, addiction, memoir, personal growth, community support, resilience, mental health, alcohol, transformation Summary In this engaging conversation, Beth McDonough shares her remarkable journey from a successful career in TV news to facing the consequences of her addiction. After two DUIs, she found herself in jail, which marked the beginning of her path to recovery. Beth discusses the challenges she faced, the importance of community support, and the lessons learned along the way. Her story emphasizes the power of vulnerability, the significance of sharing experiences, and how sobriety can transform lives. With humor and honesty, Beth inspires others to embrace their journeys and find strength in their struggles. TakeawaysBeth's journey in TV news spanned 30 years, covering major events. She faced two DUIs that led to her realization of her addiction. The importance of community support in recovery is emphasized.Beth's first book, 'Stand By', details her fall and recovery journey. She learned to replace drinking with healthier activities. Sobriety is viewed as a superpower that can transform lives. Beth's experiences in jail provided valuable lessons about addiction. The role of vulnerability in sharing one's story is crucial. Recovery is a process that moves at its own pace. Beth's journey highlights the importance of accountability and self-reflection. Sound bites "I was given a hug by the judge." "Sobriety can become your superpower." "I had to dig deep to get my life back." Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 02:58 Beth's Journey in TV News 06:03 The Fall: DUIs and Consequences 09:09 The Road to Recovery 12:01 Building a New Life 14:53 The Role of Community in Recovery 17:59 Lessons Learned and Moving Forward 21:01 The Power of Sharing Stories 24:10 Final Thoughts and Future Plans

SummaryIn this episode, Ryan and Jess welcome Ashley Kalar-Miller, who shares her inspiring journey of sobriety and personal growth. Ashley discusses her turning point that led her to quit drinking, the impact of sobriety on her relationships, and how she navigated life after making this significant change. She also reflects on her professional growth, the importance of community support, and her future aspirations. The conversation is filled with humor, insights, and a hilarious drunken story that highlights the challenges and triumphs of living a sober life.Takeaways:Ashley had a turning point on a Tuesday when she was hungover.She realized she was sick of her own behavior and wanted to change.Surrounding herself with the right people was crucial for her sobriety.Ashley’s relationships changed significantly after she quit drinking.She found clarity and authenticity in her life post-sobriety.Her professional life improved after she left the service industry.Ashley emphasizes the importance of community and support in recovery.She is excited about trying new experiences and adventures.Telling her story has empowered her and others around her.Ashley’s humorous drunken story illustrates the chaos of her past. Sound bites"I thought I was doing great.""I can stand up for myself.""I peed my pants in a onesie."Chapters00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview03:01 Guest Introduction: Ashley Kalar-Miller06:02 Ashley’s Journey to Sobriety08:59 Reflections on Rock Bottom Moments12:08 Changing Relationships and Social Circles14:57 Impact on Personal Relationships17:59 Professional Growth and Career Changes21:02 Financial Transformation Post-Sobriety24:09 Authenticity and Genuine Connections26:47 Family Dynamics and Childhood Influences30:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts31:24 The Birth of a Retreat32:49 Rediscovering Emotions33:44 Navigating Social Situations Sober38:18 Future Aspirations and Growth43:03 A Hilarious Vegas Story

This special episode is a heartfelt tribute to Peter Baylis, who recently passed away from Glioblastoma. It compiles his previous appearances on the podcast, celebrating his life, his contributions to the recovery community, and his enduring spirit.Keywords:Peter Baylis, tribute, Glioblastoma, recovery community, remembranceTakeaways:Peter Baylis was a beloved member of the recovery community.His positive spirit and humor touched many lives.Peter's dedication to helping others was unwavering.He was known for his musical talent and love for singing.Peter's journey with sobriety inspired many.His legacy continues to impact those who knew him.Peter's philosophy of living in the moment was profound.He was a proud Canadian and a passionate hockey fan.Peter's courage in facing his illness was remarkable.His message of 'Peace, Love, and Unity' resonates with all.Sound bites:Peter Baylis was a beloved member.His spirit and humor touched many.Peter's dedication was unwavering.Known for his musical talent.Peter's journey inspired many.His legacy continues to impact.Living in the moment was profound.A proud Canadian and hockey fan.Courage in facing illness.'Peace, Love, and Unity' resonates.Chapters:00:00:00 Introduction and Tribute to Peter00:00:00 Peter's Impact on the Recovery Community00:00:01 Musical Talents and Personal Stories00:00:02 Philosophy and Life Lessons00:00:03 Legacy and Final Thoughts

WWW.LINK.TREE/COASTER509 Keywordssober, recovery, alcohol, community, music, parenting, acting, sobriety, Coaster, podcastSummaryIn this episode of 'Sober As F*ck', hosts Jess and Ryan welcome Coaster, a hip hop artist and motivational speaker with nearly 11 years of sobriety. Coaster shares his journey with alcohol, including early drinking experiences, a life-changing accident, and the importance of community in recovery. He discusses how sobriety has influenced his music and art, the challenges of being a new parent, and the evolving culture around alcohol consumption. Coaster also delves into his recent foray into acting and the supportive role his wife plays in his life. The conversation is filled with humor, insights, and a reminder that everyone’s recovery journey is unique.TakeawaysCoaster started drinking at a very young age, which normalized alcohol in his life.A life-changing accident made him reconsider his relationship with alcohol.Sobriety is a personal journey, and there are many paths to recovery.Community support is crucial in maintaining sobriety.Coaster's music and art have evolved significantly since becoming sober.Parenthood has brought new challenges and joys to Coaster's life.The alcohol culture is shifting, with more options for non-drinkers.Acting has opened new creative avenues for Coaster.Coaster's wife plays a vital role in his creative process and support system.Humor and laughter are essential in navigating recovery.Sound bites"No one is alone.""I didn't have a rock bottom.""I had to hit the drawing board."Chapters00:00 Introduction to Coaster's Journey01:26 The Impact of Alcohol on Coaster's Life04:46 Finding Sobriety and Building Community10:09 The Evolution of Coaster's Music and Artistry15:54 Parenthood and Balancing Dreams20:06 Shifts in Alcohol Culture and Non-Alcoholic Options28:21 Exploring Non-Alcoholic Options31:57 Diving into Acting38:00 The Role of Relationships in Sobriety41:54 Touring and Future Projects46:00 Funny Stories from the Past

Summary In this episode of Sober As F*ck, hosts Jess and Ryan welcome Alex and Alison, a couple who met in recovery and have been sober for 17 and 15 years, respectively. They share their individual journeys to sobriety, the challenges they faced, and how their backgrounds influenced their addiction. The conversation delves into the importance of community, the impact of relationships in recovery, and the couple's new venture, Recovery Beans, a coffee business aimed at supporting mental health and addiction recovery. Their stories highlight the power of resilience and the importance of finding joy and connection in sobriety. Takeaways Recovery is a personal journey that varies for everyone. Community support is crucial in the recovery process. It's important to address underlying issues driving addiction. Sobriety can feel like a second chance at life. Relationships in recovery require boundaries and individual growth. Finding joy in sobriety can come from new ventures. The stigma around addiction affects how stories are perceived. Mindset shifts are essential for lasting recovery. Humor can be a powerful tool in dealing with heavy topics. Sharing personal stories can help others feel less alone.

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions that may be triggering for some listeners, including but not limited to anxiety, panic attacks, sensory overload, and other sensitive topics. Listener discretion is advised. Summary:Dive into the Halloween spirit with Jess and Ryan as they transform into Spartan Cheerleaders and tackle the thrills of Halloween Horror Nights. This episode is packed with personal stories of overcoming fears, managing sensory overload, and the empowering journey of sobriety. With a blend of humor and heartfelt moments, Jess and Ryan reveal the challenges and triumphs of staying sober during the spookiest time of the year. Tune in for a rollercoaster of emotions, laughter, and valuable life lessons.Keywords:Halloween, Sobriety, Overcoming Fears, Anxiety Management, Sensory Overload, Personal Growth, Sober Living, Halloween Horror Nights, Spartan Cheerleaders, Emotional ResilienceTakeaways:Embrace the unexpected fun in facing fears.Discover the clarity and strength sobriety brings.Learn to manage sensory overload with support.Harness humor and vulnerability to conquer anxiety.Gain insights from personal experiences and lessons.Celebrate the rewards of sobriety during festive times.Openly sharing struggles can ease emotional burdens.Courage and support are key to overcoming phobias.Self-awareness is crucial for managing anxiety and panic attacks.Recognize and celebrate small victories in the sobriety journey. Sound Bites:"Embrace the unexpected fun in facing fears.""Sobriety brings clarity and strength.""Humor conquers anxiety.""Sharing struggles eases the load.""Celebrate small victories in sobriety."Chapters:0:00 - Introduction and Comprehensive Trigger Warning3:15 - Halloween Costumes and Traditions6:45 - Conquering Fears in Haunted Houses10:30 - Managing Sensory Overload14:00 - The Empowering Journey of Sobriety18:30 - Personal Growth and Life Lessons22:00 - Closing Thoughts and Reflections