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Are your goals helping you become more alive—or just more controlled? This episode invites you to move beyond avoidance and into legacy, asking a simple but challenging question: what do people experience of life when they’re with you?For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com

What if part of our healing isn’t just honoring what hurt, but remembering what made you feel alive? In this episode, I reflect on wonder as a practical posture—one that calms the nervous system, expands perspective, and helps you engage life with greater openness and courage. For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Do you brace yourself when someone says, "there you are"? In this episode, I discuss how this phrase can feel like pressure. But what if you let it be an invitation to just be yourself? For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

You don’t need to eliminate your attractions to be free.This episode reframes same-sex attraction as information rather than identity and offers a framework for responding with clarity, strength, and agency. Discover how to reclaim your power — and join the new course, Reclaim Power Over Attractions.

What if the first thing God asked a man to do wasn’t to lead, protect, or achieve—but to create? In this episode, we explore the overlooked masculine calling of creativity: shaping life, bringing order from chaos, creating safety, setting vision, and reflecting the generative heart of God. Whether you’ve doubted your influence or felt outside traditional masculinity—especially for men navigating SSA—this message will remind you of the creative strength God placed in you from the beginning. For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Fantasy escapes reality. Vision transforms it. Vision gives direction, clarifies choices, changes what you tolerate, and activates courage. In this episode, you will learn to craft a clear and compelling vision capable of lasting transformation. For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

If I received that promotion, I wouldn't be talking with you today. God used that disappointment to make space for something bigger. Now, I am a Certified High Performance Coach empowering men to live beyond their same-sex attractions and into their purpose. And I love it. What does God have next for you that requires space to hear?

A powerful reminder that masculinity isn’t earned — it’s shared. In this episode, we explore what it means to participate in masculinity, belong among men, and reclaim the identity God has already woven into you. For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

I decided I didn’t want to experience sexual pleasure alone. I want my gift of sexuality to be used for connection, creation, and service. In this episode, I'll share three shifts that made the biggest impact for me: 1. Believe that it is not necessary. 2. See sexual energy as a force for service. 3. Get curious about the deeper desire.

For years, I’ve stood in front of the mirror, staring at my reflection. I saw my silhouette—the outline of me. But just beyond it, like a shadow I couldn’t escape, was the outline of the man I thought I had to be. Broader shoulders. Thicker chest. Sharper jawline.  I didn’t always know where that outline came from. But one moment, one memory, gave it shape. For more tools to live beyond you same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Do you find compromise exhausting? In this episode, we’re diving into why living aligned with your values 100% of the time is actually easier than 99%. That 1% of compromise—the “just this once” moments—creates mental clutter, inner conflict, and drains your energy. But when you commit fully to who you are and what you stand for, you unlock clarity, peace, and freedom. Join me as we explore the problem with 99%, the power of identity-based boundaries, and practical steps to move from compromise to alignment. If you’re ready to stop negotiating with yourself and start living free, this episode is for you. For more tools to live beyond you same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

When I turned to gay porn, I wasn’t just escaping life—I was running towards feelings I desired. I wanted to feel strong, inspired, connected, and safe. The good news? You don’t need anything outside yourself to feel those things. You can choose them—right now. And God made you capable of that. For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Learn to honor your anger, meet it with empathy, and process it in a way that helps you move forward. For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Ever felt stuck in the fog of confusion, unsure of your next step? In this episode, we dive deep into how moments of uncertainty can actually be the catalyst for clarity, growth, and connection. I’ll share personal insights and practical tools to help you embrace the fog, navigate through it, and uncover the clarity waiting on the other side. For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

How can we recognize the shift from admiration, to comparison, envy, or lust? In this episode, we will explore how to become more self-aware and navigate these moments a way that aligns with our values. For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.