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Send us Fan Mail **Content warning: the episode references knives and a real incident of potentially violent behaviour in a healthcare setting** Charlotte Jukes steps off her usual “Pickleball and Partnership” lens to share the story behind leaving a 35-year nursing career for somatic and mindset coaching. She traces a lifelong pattern of perfectionism and control to childhood experiences of feeling judged, learning to stay quiet, and believing she couldn’t rely on anyone, intensified by moving cities without her mum and later losing her mum to cancer just as she herself became pregnant.  After a traumatic community nursing visit where a client physically threatened her, and while watching her daughter struggle with addiction, she pushed harder to appear fine...until an audiobook moment reframed it:  “Charlotte, you are the one with the addiction,” revealing her addiction to perfection, control, and fixing others.  She describes healing through stillness, nervous system work, and coaching, and invites listeners to one-on-one support or The Gathering Mastermind. 00:00 Basement Floor Wakeup 02:12 Childhood Approval Wound 03:40 Moving Away And Coping Alone 05:11 Nurse Identity And Control 05:38 Loss Of Mum And Motherhood 07:40 Smiling While Breaking 09:38 Knives Incident Trauma 11:24 Daughter Addiction And Hiding 12:41 Byron Katie Eight Words 15:41 Noticing The Hum Exercise 17:25 Training And Somatic Healing 21:19 Client Story Hidden Parts 22:45 How Coaching Works Now 24:55 Work With Me Options 27:21 Pickleball Partnership Metaphor 28:11 Closing Permission To Rest To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail Drawing on 37 years as a nurse, Charlotte explores how exhausting it is to chase being understood and argues that others’ perceptions are filtered through their own history, wounds, and capacity.  She reframes the goal as self-understanding; getting curious about patterns, triggers, fears, and the “unpolished” truth, so a misunderstood moment doesn’t destabilise safety or self-worth. Using examples from meetings, texts, disagreements, and on-court mistakes, Charlotte shows how perception-management blocks learning, while inward observation improves both performance and relationships.  She acknowledges the grief of accepting some people will never understand you and shares her transition from nursing to Coaching as a catalyst for deeper self-knowledge. The episode includes a short guided reflection, practical prompts, and an invitation to a FREE WORKSHOP that explores this further, along with a six-month women’s community journey and Whistler, BC retreat. 00:00 Chasing Being Understood 01:50 The Core Realisation 02:31 Why Misunderstanding Hurts 03:49 You Can't Control Perception 05:06 Turn Inward For Truth 07:00 Self Inquiry Questions 09:12 Pickleball Court Mirror 12:53 Outsourcing Your Reality 15:49 Grief Of Not Being Seen 17:38 Career Transition Clarity 20:13 Guided Practice Exercise 22:47 Daily Practices To Start 24:24 Worthiness And Freedom 25:48 Closing And Resources 26:43 Invitation To Community To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail The Gathering: A 6-Month Mastermind and Whistler Retreat for Women Seeking Connection and Transformation To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration Charlotte and Juliette Morton discuss creating “The Gathering,” a six-month mastermind for women seeking deeper self-connection and supportive community beyond books, podcasts, and information. We share personal stories of outward success paired with an inner sense of something missing. Topics also include clarifying values, reconnecting with what lights you up, and addressing basic physical needs to restore energy.  They explain why transformation and integration happen differently in community, how group coaching reduces isolation and supports authenticity, and how a two-day in-person kickoff retreat in Whistler, British Columbia, helps women step out of roles and expectations.  Listeners are invited to preview the experience through a Design Your Next Chapter workshop. https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration Join the waitlist or book a clarity call -- there are limited retreat spaces. 00:00 Feeling Something Missing 01:41 Meet Juliette Morton 03:04 Juliette Story and Mission 05:13 Midlife Recalibration 09:25 Finding Your Spark 13:17 Beyond Information Integration 15:58 Mastermind Structure Retreat 17:53 Why Whistler Retreat Matters 24:48 Workshops and Nervous System 28:20 The Gathering Sisterhood 35:25 Power of Group Coaching 39:20 Next Steps Waitlist 41:07 Future Self Visualisation 43:56 Closing Invitation For more info on THE GATHERING MASTERMIND, go to... https://www.gatheringmastermind.com/ To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Charlotte demonstrates a powerful coaching exercise she uses for herself and her clients.  She explains that even with great strategy and consistent effort, people can hit an “invisible wall” that is usually driven by unconscious beliefs about worthiness, such as feeling success isn’t safe or believing they don’t deserve it.  Charlotte emphasises embodiment — accessing worth through the body and nervous system rather than just mindset shifts — drawing on 37 years in healthcare and her belief that the body holds wisdom the mind can’t process.  She models a vulnerable self-coaching exercise: voicing self-doubt, locating it in her body, linking it to childhood pressure, offering compassion to her “little one,” and then inquiring into the belief “being me is not enough.”  Charlotte lists grounded examples from her work, coaching, marriage, parenting, and pickleball to support “being me is enough,” practices self-forgiveness, chooses an affirmation, and commits to sharing this raw recording as a podcast episode. 00:00 Welcome and Setup 00:39 The Invisible Wall 02:41 Embodiment Over Mindset 05:16 Guided Exercise Begins 06:07 Giving the Inner Critic Voice 06:47 Body Sensations and Origins 08:12 Breathing and Self Compassion 12:33 Challenging the Core Belief 13:21 Proof Being Me Is Enough 18:43 Self Forgiveness Practice 24:06 Embodied Worth and Affirmations 25:17 Integration and Closing Reflection To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail This episode is also available in VIDEO format on YouTube. In this episode of the Pickleball and Partnership Podcast, Charlotte reflects on recent conversations about grief and a life change that included losing her mum, discovering she was pregnant two days later, starting a new job five days later, and welcoming her younger brother into her home.  Charlotte explores a listener theme — “I don’t even recognise the person I used to be” — and discusses what happens after healing and transition, when identity shifts bring loneliness and discomfort. She explains that meaningful transformation involves grieving old identities (people-pleasing, staying quiet, overworking, never asking for help) because familiar patterns feel safe to the nervous system even when unhealthy.  Using pickleball skill development as a metaphor, she notes that feeling frustrated and confused before expansion is evidence of rewiring, not failure. She invites listeners to ask who they are beneath roles and who they are becoming. 00:00 Welcome Back and Recap 01:36 Who Am I Now 02:27 Grieving Old Identities 06:17 Safety and the Nervous System 08:19 Pickleball Growth Analogy 10:45 When Growth Feels Like Grief 13:27 Inner Child and Survival Roles 15:04 Questions for Your Becoming 17:18 Invitation and Closing To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail Charlotte continues last week’s conversation about grief, focusing on pivotal moments when life splits into “before” and “after,” and shares her experience of losing her mum to renal cancer: diagnosis in 1994, death in December 1996 when Charlotte was 27, and the disorienting, overlapping emotions and nervous-system overwhelm that followed.  She describes denial as protection, how familiar places felt unfamiliar, and how she became the emotional caretaker at the funeral, supporting family while suppressing her own feelings. In rapid succession she and Neil took in her younger brother, learned they were unexpectedly pregnant two days after her mum died, married three months later, and she faced a new nursing role; nine months later, after the birth of their daughter, she experienced postnatal depression.  Charlotte emphasises that grief isn’t linear, people often need presence rather than solutions, and she uses pickleball to illustrate how one moment can change everything, redefining strength as feeling, receiving support, and allowing transformation over time. 00:00 Welcome Back and Why This Matters 01:06 When Life Changes Overnight 02:49 Mum’s Diagnosis and Denial 05:02 Grief in the Body 07:29 Being Strong for Everyone 09:58 Pregnancy Amid Loss 11:25 What Help Really Looks Like 14:09 Postnatal Depression After Grief 17:16 Grief Isn’t Linear 18:45 Pickleball and Sudden Pivots 21:53 Choosing How We Respond 23:33 Redefining Strength and Healing 26:14 You’re Not Broken Closing To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail Charlotte reflects on the overwhelming response to a prior episode featuring a conversation with her mother, who died nearly 30 years ago, and explores grief as a profound expression of love rather than a problem to fix.  Charlotte shares her experience of losing her mum to renal cancer in 1996 at age 27, the disorientation and physical impact of grief, the pressure to support family, starting a new job, and learning she was pregnant days after her mum’s death, later experiencing postnatal depression amid many life changes.  She challenges common messages like “be strong” and “time heals,” explains that Kübler-Ross stages are non-linear, and emphasises that support can be simple presence without advice.  Using a pickleball analogy, Charlotte notes there’s no going back, only integrating change, and affirms there is no right way or timeline to grieve; joy and grief can coexist, and ongoing grief reflects enduring love and connection. 00:00 Welcome And Why Grief 02:54 Mum's Death Story 06:14 Funeral And Family Weight 08:37 Pregnancy Amid Loss 09:50 When Help Hurts 13:07 Remembering Her Love 14:42 What Grief Really Is 16:28 Stages Are Not Linear 19:42 Support Doesnt Need Perfect 20:48 Grief As Sacred Love 23:11 Pickleball Reset Lesson 25:27 No Right Way To Grieve 27:21 Love Continues After Death 29:28 Doorway Moments And Meaning 30:34 Closing Thanks To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail Charlotte shares an unplanned, deeply personal episode of Pickleball and Partnership reflecting on her mother, who died in 1996 nearly 30 years ago, and the lasting feeling she associates with her—“soft, warm, and brown.”  She leads a quiet, connected conversation with her Mum about what she misunderstood when younger, including the complexity of love and her mother staying after betrayal, and explores how Charlotte still “hides in strength” instead of showing vulnerability in relationships. The conversation addresses the fear of outgrowing others, growth through discomfort, and making space for grief as “love that still has somewhere to go.”  Charlotte connects these lessons to pickleball—playing with joy rather than perfection—shares a treasured cross stitch and note from her Mum, reads “Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep” by Mary Elizabeth Fry, and invites listeners to reach out and have the conversations they’ve been longing for. 00:00 Unexpected Episode Shift 01:34 Remembering Mum’s Presence 02:58 Breath and Begin the Dialogue 03:16 Strength Softness and Staying 05:31 Hiding Behind Capability 07:56 Outgrowing and Becoming 09:50 Walk Through Discomfort 10:52 Play Joy and Pickleball Lessons 11:58 Making Space for Grief 13:46 You Are Doing More Than Okay 14:47 Cross Stitch and Lasting Love 15:55 Have the Conversation Now 17:02 Poem Do Not Stand at My Grave 18:07 Closing Thanks and Invitation To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail Charlotte Jukes shares the uncomfortable cost of going all in on her podcast and new coaching work: the identity loss and grief of stepping away from nursing after 37 years. She describes how being a nurse provided instant respect, external validation, competence, certainty, and the comfort of being known, and how leaving forced her to become a beginner again, tolerate uncertainty, and release the need to be liked, understood, or agreed with.  Charlotte connects this to nervous system safety, explaining how the unfamiliar can trigger fear and resistance, like a pickleball player resisting a coach’s changes. She emphasises integrating—not discarding—past identities, offers a brief guided reflection on releasing and integrating, and reframes grief as a sign of real transformation, inviting listeners in transition to seek support and keep becoming. 00:00 All In Transformation 02:47 Leaving Nursing Identity 04:48 Losing Validation 05:39 Beginner Again 09:25 Becoming Unrecognized 11:17 Integrating Past Self 13:39 Podcast Vulnerability 14:49 Voice And Perfectionism 18:32 Pickleball Change Lesson 21:13 Nervous System And Grief 24:07 Six Things To Release 28:05 Guided Release Practice 31:09 Grief Means Growth 33:08 Loose Grip Metaphor 35:15 Closing And Support To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail In this milestone episode of 'Pickleball and Partnership,' Charlotte reflects on a year-long commitment to recording a podcast every week. Despite doubts, fears, and challenges, the journey reveals the power of consistent effort and how it can transform one's identity.  The episode delves into the universal principle that true change comes from going all in on one thing and explores how this commitment has not only grown the podcast but also improved relationships, business, and self-confidence.  Tune in to discover key takeaways on building consistency, handling criticism, and the importance of sustained action over sporadic effort. 00:00 The Promise: A Year of Commitment 01:33 Welcome to Pickleball and Partnership 02:25 Facing the Fear of Starting 06:30 The Power of Consistency 08:04 Overcoming Challenges and Doubts 10:02 The Transformation Through Commitment 13:43 The Science Behind Commitment 15:33 Choosing Your One Thing 18:39 The Magic of Consistency 21:55 Reflecting on the Journey 26:32 Key Takeaways To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail Happy Happy 1st Birthday Pickleball & Partnership 🥳 🎉 In this episode of Pickleball in Partnership, host Charlotte Jukes delves into the often overlooked Invisible Load that many carry, which makes true rest feel unattainable. She explains how our nervous systems are conditioned to remain in a state of hypervigilance, which impacts our ability to truly relax. Charlotte shares personal anecdotes, the science behind nervous system states, and practical steps to signal to your body that it's safe to rest.  She also celebrates a year of the podcast and encourages listeners to prioritise self-care and rest for sustainable well-being. Follow along for actionable advice on how to rewire your nervous system for true relaxation. 00:00 Introduction: The Struggle with Rest 00:57 The Invisible Load: Why Rest Feels Impossible 04:42 Understanding Your Nervous System 05:48 Personal Story: Hypervigilance and Its Impact 07:22 The Importance of Resetting: Lessons from Pickleball 11:52 Practical Steps to Teach Your Body to Rest 18:10 The Necessity of Rest: Final Thoughts 20:11 Conclusion: Embracing Rest and Moving Forward To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Pickleball and Partnership, host Charlotte Jukes unpacks a common stumbling block: the desperate need for approval from others.  Charlotte explores the evolutionary basis of approval seeking, its modern-day pitfalls, and offers actionable insights on shifting focus from external validation to self-compassion.  Through practical examples and insightful anecdotes, listeners will learn how to genuinely appreciate others, practice self-compassion, and ultimately find freedom in liking themselves.  Key takeaways include understanding the neuroscience of approval seeking, the benefits of appreciating others, and concrete steps to develop a healthier relationship with oneself. 00:00 Introduction: The Approval Paradox 01:46 The Lie: We Need Others to Like Us 07:36 The Alternative: Liking Others to Feel Good 15:01 The Deeper Truth: Liking Yourself to Be Free 25:54 Practical Steps to Self-Compassion 28:17 Conclusion and Key Takeaways To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we explore the concept of identity-based change and how it trumps traditional resolutions that often set us up for failure. Starting with the excitement of a new day, we delve into why resolutions frequently fail and how focusing on who we want to become rather than what we want to achieve can lead to sustainable transformation.  Using powerful examples and metaphors like pickleball training, Charlotte Jukes emphasises the importance of small, consistent actions in rewiring our nervous system for lasting change.  Key takeaways include understanding that slip-ups are not failures but information, focusing on repetition over perfection, and setting intentions based on identity.  Whether you're feeling the weight of broken promises or just need a fresh approach, this episode offers actionable insights to help you become more of who you truly are. 00:00 A Fresh Start: Embracing New Beginnings 01:05 Understanding the Weight of Resolutions 02:24 The Broken System: Why Effort Isn't Enough 03:21 Introducing Identity-Based Change 05:25 The Power of Identity Over Resolutions 08:59 Practical Steps for Lasting Change 18:41 Visualization and Setting Intentions 24:27 Key Takeaways and Final Thoughts To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail In this special episode of Pickleball and Partnership, host Charlotte Jukes offers a guided meditation to help listeners manage the unique mix of joy and stress that comes with the holiday season.  Charlotte acknowledges the challenges of family dynamics, travel, and global events, providing listeners with a grounding meditation practice to support nervous system regulation.  Anchoring the session are five practical tips for maintaining calm and balance, making this episode a timely resource for anyone feeling overwhelmed. Tune in for a soothing experience that teaches how small moments of self-kindness and presence can make a big difference. 00:00 Introduction to a Special Episode 00:08 Setting the Scene: Embracing the Season 01:00 Guided Meditation: Finding Your Centre 03:30 Body Awareness and Relaxation Techniques 06:47 Emotional Acceptance and Regulation 11:09 Practical Tips for Nervous System Support 12:42 Closing Thoughts and Connection Watch more 8-minute meditations here... https://www.youtube.com/@ConnectionCoachingCommunity To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of 'Pickleball and Partnership,' Charlotte Jukes delves into the pervasive issue of the Inner Critic— that negative voice in your head that undermines your efforts and self-worth.  Charlotte explains the evolutionary origins of this voice and its role as the brain's misguided threat detection system. She provides actionable techniques to change your relationship with this inner critic, including naming and externalising it, changing its voice, thanking and redirecting it, and asking critical questions to assess its validity.  Through practical examples from pickleball and everyday life, Charlotte illustrates how mastering this inner critic can lead to significant personal growth and a more fulfilling life. Whether you're on the court or facing new challenges, this episode offers invaluable strategies for turning down the volume on self-doubt and making room for growth and new experiences. 00:00 Introduction: Understanding the Inner Critic 00:32 Welcome to Pickleball and Partnership 01:51 The Inner Critic Explained 03:37 Inner Critic on the Pickleball Court 06:22 Negativity Bias and Evolution 10:42 Recognizing the Inner Critic's Voice 16:44 Techniques to Disarm the Inner Critic 26:11 Summary and Key Takeaways 28:45 Conclusion and Next Steps To join our FREE WORKSHOP to find out more about this opportunity, sign up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/mJoBoIGqTuG14cKOSRSuJw#/registration I would love to hear from you... Landing Page: https://charlottejukes.netlify.app/ Email: [email protected] https://www.instagram.com/_charlottejukes https://www.facebook.com/conejukes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pickleball-partnership/id1775742795