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What if the fear of leaving a secure job is a sign that you're ready for something more meaningful? How can you move through fear instead of letting it dictate your next move? What could change if you stopped trying to be fearless and learned to fear less? In this episode, I sit down with Kate Swoboda to explore how we can move through fear and build the courage to pursue more meaningful work. We discuss Kate's decision to leave a secure salaried job and gradually build her life coaching business, despite the uncertainty and self-doubt that came with making such a significant career change. Kate shares how fear can push us to our limits, but also become a catalyst for transformation when we learn to work with it rather than avoid it. We explore the idea that fear is a feeling, not a command, and that while we may never become entirely fearless, we can learn to "fear less" and stop allowing fear to dictate our decisions. Ultimately, we discuss how meaningful change happens when we take the next best step, even when we don't feel ready. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

What does it take to turn loss and trauma into positive change? How can remembering and using your agency truly change your life for the better? How can you make a meaningful life? In this episode, I speak with Joanne Greene about how she navigated profound loss and a life-changing car accident, drawing on gratitude, resilience, and the lessons she learned along the way. We explore post-traumatic growth and how, while we cannot always control what happens to us, we can choose how we respond and use adversity to become more compassionate, intentional, and fulfilled. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

Could trying to do no harm be keeping you from moving forward? What would change if you stopped asking what you should want and asked what you truly want? What if the life that feels wrong isn't the problem: you're just wearing the wrong mask? In this episode, I sit down with Becky Mollenkamp to explore what happens when we let go of the impossible expectation of doing everything perfectly. We talk about how the pursuit of "no harm" can become a reason to stay stuck, and how accepting that we will make mistakes allows us to learn, grow, and keep moving. We also talk about something many women struggle with: knowing exactly what everyone else needs from us while having no idea what we actually want for ourselves. Becky shares how reaching a personal rock bottom at 37 forced her to ask a question she had never really considered: "What do I want?" Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

Could your rock-bottom moment become the beginning of your reinvention? How does asking, "What if I can?" change the way you face life's biggest challenges? What happens when you stop dreaming about your ideal life and start creating it? In this episode, I speak with Sarah Centrella about what it takes to rebuild your life when everything falls apart. Sarah shares the story of discovering her husband's affair while already dealing with bankruptcy, losing her home, and raising three young children. At her lowest point, she began asking herself, "What if I can?"—a question that became the foundation for her reinvention. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

Is bravery about being willing to feel uncomfortable rather than being fearless? Are you outsourcing your confidence, or learning to trust yourself? What could change if you learned to live with your nervous system instead of against it? In this episode, I talk with Angie Miller about fear, bravery, and what it means to truly trust yourself. We explore how bravery isn't about being fearless, but about being willing to step into discomfort and discover what you're capable of. Angie shares how experiences from childhood shaped her willingness to embrace the unknown, from travelling internationally at a young age to navigating college as a first-generation student. We also unpack what happens when we outsource our confidence and allow other people's expectations to shape how we see ourselves. Angie shares how strength training transformed her relationship with exercise, confidence, and her own body, ultimately helping her build a deeper sense of self-trust. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

Could leaving a toxic workplace be the first step toward building your dream practice? How will committing to your exit plan transform your career, and your life? What does it take to create a truly healthy, drama-free work environment? In this episode, I talk with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart about how leaving a toxic workplace became the catalyst for building the practice and career she wanted. After experiencing professional bullying that began affecting her physical health and family life, Ann-Louise created an exit plan with the encouragement of a close friend and took the leap into private practice. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

What would change in your life if you stopped trying to meet everyone else's expectations and finally chose yourself? Could speaking up be the first step toward true authenticity? How much of who you are today is genuinely you, or a collection of old coping mechanisms? In this episode, I sit down with Amy Green Smith to talk about moving away from perfectionism and people pleasing and learning to live more authentically. Amy shares how her experience with religious trauma and her relationship with her mother led her to realize that she could not continue living according to other people's expectations. She explains how choosing herself became an important turning point in her life and eventually shaped the work she does today. We talk about the importance of speaking up for yourself and being willing to have difficult conversations when something is not working in a relationship. Amy also introduces her EIC framework, which looks at the experiences we have, the meaning we give those experiences, and the coping strategies we develop as a result. We explore how these patterns can follow us into adulthood and affect the way we communicate, set boundaries, and show up in our relationships. Ultimately, this conversation is about understanding the protective habits we have developed and finding the confidence to let more of our genuine selves come through. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

Are we measuring our children's success the wrong way? What if your child needs something different from what you expected? How does respect change the way we successfully communicate with our adult children? In this episode, I talk with Julie Lythcott Haims about what it really means for our children to become successful adults and how easily we can confuse success with independence, status, or meeting society's expectations. Julie shares how becoming a parent of an adult child challenged her ideas about independence. When her son came home during the COVID 19 pandemic and stayed, she initially saw it as a failure. Over time, she came to understand that being an adult is not about where you live or what you achieve, but about how you live and take responsibility for yourself. We also explore how parents can become so focused on their children's potential that they overlook what their children actually need. Finally, we discuss how respect, honest communication, appropriate expectations, and allowing our adult children to develop their own skills can create stronger relationships. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

Has being silent ever felt safer than speaking your truth? What is the cost your body and mind bear of being "the easy one"? How can you tell the difference between silence and peace? In this episode, I explore what happens when staying silent feels safer than speaking my truth. I discuss the difference between silence and genuine peace, the hidden cost of becoming "the easy one," and how years of suppressing our needs and emotions can affect both the mind and body. I also look at how our early experiences can teach us to prioritize other people's feelings over our own, making it difficult to know what we actually want as adults. Finally, I explore the mind-body connection and why healing requires more than changing our thoughts—it means helping our nervous system learn that it is safe to disagree, speak honestly, set boundaries, and say no. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

How could uncertainty teach you to savor life? Why is joy never too far away? How do you build a meaningful life when plans change?  *]:pointer-events-auto R6Vx5W_threadScrollVars scroll-mb-[calc(var(--scroll-root-safe-area-inset-bottom,0px)+var(--thread-response-height))] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" data-turn-id= "request-6a83fe87-4c48-83ea-a9d4-ae33b4968495-11" data-turn-id-container= "request-6a83fe87-4c48-83ea-a9d4-ae33b4968495-11" data-testid= "conversation-turn-18" data-turn="assistant"> In this podcast I speak with Jennifer Cramer-Miller about how facing serious illness and uncertainty can reshape the way we understand our lives. Jennifer shares her experience of being diagnosed with an incurable autoimmune kidney disease in her early twenties, undergoing dialysis and a kidney transplant, and learning to build a meaningful life despite an uncertain future. We explore how she learned to let go of the life she had planned, savor the life she had been given, and find hope and joy along the way. Jennifer also shares the three central themes of her book, Incurable Optimist: managing uncertainty, holding onto hope, and finding joy.  _:empty]:hidden">     Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

Could freedom begin with choosing yourself? How much of your life has fear been writing? What could healing make possible beyond what you currently imagine for yourself? In this episode, I talk with Cherie Faus-Smith about her powerful journey from fear to freedom and what it took to reconnect with herself. Cherie shares how she spent years abandoning her own needs and living according to the men around her, including her experiences in abusive relationships. We talk about what finally gave her the courage to leave an abusive relationship, the shame and fear that can make leaving so difficult, and how she worked through agoraphobia after the abuse. Cherie also shares how writing about her experiences became part of her healing journey and helped her begin creating a life that felt like her own. We explore what it means to rediscover yourself in midlife, pursue the things you've always wanted to do, and find joy beyond the roles you play for other people. Cherie's story is a reminder that healing can open the door to possibilities you may not have imagined for yourself. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

Could the way through anxiety be to move with it rather than to avoid it? Could your inner narrative be holding you back more than the situation itself? What if taking one imperfect step was all it took to begin? In this episode, I sit down with Danielle Ireland to explore what it really means to move through anxiety instead of avoiding it. We talk about how movement—especially dance and other somatic practices—can help us process difficult emotions, why perfectionism and procrastination often keep us stuck, and how taking one imperfect step can create lasting momentum. Danielle also shares four powerful questions for challenging the stories we tell ourselves, offering practical tools to help us navigate uncertainty with greater self-compassion, resilience, and courage. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

Could being fired become your biggest breakthrough? Are you measuring your worth by your achievements? How do you help men move from fear to action? In this episode, I sit down with Jon Waller to explore how fear influences the way men see themselves and the choices they make. Jon shares the story of being fired from a job after speaking his mind—a moment that felt devastating at the time but ultimately gave him the freedom to pursue work that aligned with his values. We discuss how fear can keep us living someone else's narrative and why asking whose story we're following is often the first step toward meaningful change. We also dive into the way many men tie their self-worth to achievement. Jon explains why failure isn't proof of inadequacy but an opportunity to learn, grow, and adjust course. I share why I believe failure and learning are inseparable, and we discuss the importance of helping clients not only understand that truth intellectually but also experience it emotionally so they can let go of limiting beliefs. Finally, we talk about what helps men engage in therapy. Jon explains that many male clients benefit from practical, action-oriented strategies alongside emotional work. We explore how therapists can combine concrete tools with deeper self-reflection, helping men move from fear to action, build confidence, and create lasting change. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

Have you ever confused people-pleasing with genuine kindness? What beliefs about being "good" are you still carrying today? How might your life change if your needs mattered just as much as everyone else's? In this episode, I explore "The Good Girl Trap" and the invisible belief that being helpful, dependable, and self-sacrificing is the price of love and belonging. I explain how these learned patterns often lead to people-pleasing and self-silencing, causing us to ignore our own needs in order to keep the peace. I discuss why healthy love must include self-respect, self-compassion, and boundaries, and encourage listeners to redefine what it means to be "good." I close with a reflection exercise to help identify old beliefs, celebrate moments of self-honoring, and begin building healthier, more balanced relationships with themselves and others. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here

In this episode, I explore the idea of "the invisible woman" and why so many women reach a point where they feel exhausted, disconnected, and unsure of who they are. Rather than asking, "What's wrong with me?" I encourage a more compassionate question: "What happened to me?" This shift replaces shame with understanding and helps uncover the deeper reasons behind burnout and feeling invisible. I explain that losing ourselves rarely happens because of one dramatic event. Instead, it is usually a gradual process of putting everyone else's needs first, taking on multiple roles, and slowly forgetting the person beneath them all. Over time, we can build a life that appears successful on the outside while feeling unfamiliar on the inside. I also discuss why so many intelligent, caring, and loving women lose touch with themselves, emphasizing that understanding our story is the first step toward healing. By asking, "What happened that made this response make sense?" we create space for self-compassion instead of self-judgment. However, understanding alone is not enough. It is the first step across the bridge back to ourselves, but real transformation begins when we choose to respond differently. Healing is built through small, everyday moments of practicing compassion toward ourselves. I close by encouraging listeners to treat themselves with the same kindness they so freely offer the people they love, because healing begins when we become gentler with ourselves. Thanks for listening, I'd love to connect with you over on Facebook. SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES: Click here