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Why does friendship feel easier when you’re young—and harder when you need it most? In this crossover episode with Dadville, the guys from Three Percent sit down with Dave Barnes and Jon McLaughlin for an honest conversation about friendship, fatherhood, and the quiet loneliness many men carry. From the outside, it can look like life is full—marriage, kids, work—but underneath, something is missing. Together, they explore why relationships often drift in adulthood, how marriage and parenting subtly reshape your friendships, and why most men aren’t lacking relationships—they’re lacking depth. This episode is both lighthearted and deeply reflective. It’s about the courage to go beyond surface-level conversations, the intentionality required to build meaningful friendships, and the small but powerful step of sharing your “3%”—the part of your story you usually keep hidden. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, even in a full life, this conversation will help you name it—and take a step toward something deeper. KEY TAKEAWAYS Why most adult loneliness isn’t about quantity of friends—but depth of connectionHow marriage and kids naturally shift and strain friendships over timeWhy vulnerability is the fastest path to meaningful connectionThe hidden cost of staying at surface-level conversationsHow intentionality replaces proximity in adult friendshipsWhy sharing your “3%” creates permission for others to do the sameCHAPTERS (00:00) Introducing the crossover: Three Percent x Dadville(03:00) The origin of Dadville and longtime friendship(08:00) The story behind the “3%” concept(14:00) Why we hold back the most important parts of ourselves(18:00) Friendship in your 30s and 40s: what changes(21:00) Why proximity disappears—and intentionality must replace it(25:00) The loneliness most men don’t talk about(28:00) Why friendships don’t just “happen” anymore(31:00) Are women actually better at friendship?(33:00) How marriage and kids reshape your relationships(40:00) What it takes to build meaningful friendships as a dad(43:00) A real story of vulnerability changing everything(47:00) Why sharing your struggles brings connection, not rejection(52:00) Modeling vulnerability as a parent(56:00) The long-term impact of repair and honesty LINKS & RESOURCES Dadville Podcast: https://thatsoundsfunnetwork.com/podcasts/dadville/Join The Basement ⁠https://threepercentco.com/membership⁠⁠Three Percent Website – ⁠⁠https://threepercentco.com/⁠⁠Follow Three Percent on IG: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/threepercent.co/⁠⁠KEYWORDS Three Percent Podcast, Dadville, Dave Barnes, Jon McLaughlin, male friendship, fatherhood, loneliness, vulnerability, relationships, emotional health, masculinity, connection, parenting, community, personal growth

What if the way you respond to your kids has less to do with them—and more to do with what’s unresolved in you? In this conversation, Eli Harwood (aka “Attachment Nerd”) helps us see how our childhood experiences quietly shape the way we parent, relate, and react. From parentification and emotional neglect to people-pleasing and control, she unpacks how the patterns we learned early on don’t just disappear—they show up in our homes today. But this isn’t about becoming a perfect parent. It’s about becoming an aware one. Eli shares a hopeful vision of what it looks like to acknowledge your story, take responsibility for your growth, and create relationships where your kids feel safe, seen, and supported—even when you get it wrong. If you’re a parent, want to be a parent, or are still working through your own story, this episode will help you understand what’s really going on beneath your reactions—and how to start showing up differently. KEY TAKEAWAYS Why your reactions as a parent often come from unresolved parts of your own storyThe difference between a “right-side up” and “upside-down” parent-child relationshipHow parentification shapes your ability to give and receive careWhy secure parenting isn’t about perfection—but repair and consistencyWhat your emotional triggers with your kids are trying to show youHow doing your own work creates safety for your childrenCHAPTERS (00:00) Why no parent is perfect(02:00) Introducing Eli Harwood (“Attachment Nerd”)(04:00) Growing up in a family shaped by trauma(08:30) A mother who chose to break the cycle(12:00) Why attachment changes everything in therapy(16:00) What is a parentified child?(20:00) “I don’t emotionally rely—I emotionally supply”(24:00) Why receiving care is so hard(28:00) How attachment patterns show up in marriage(32:00) What your kids are really asking for(36:00) Why parenting triggers your own unresolved story(38:00) Inside Eli’s new book and how to use it(41:00) Why your kids will still have “stuff” (and that’s okay)(43:00) Where to find Eli + final thoughts LINKS & RESOURCES Eli Harwood Website: https://www.attachmentnerd.com/Eli’s Book: How to Deal with Your ____ So Your Kids Don't Have to https://www.amazon.com/Deal-Your-____-Kids-Dont/dp/1632175967Follow Eli on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/?hl=enJoin The Basement https://threepercentco.com/membership⁠Three Percent Website – ⁠https://threepercentco.com/⁠Follow Three Percent on IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/threepercent.co/⁠KEYWORDS Eli Harwood, Attachment Nerd, Three Percent Podcast, attachment theory, parenting, emotional health, trauma and healing, parentification, relationships, masculinity, vulnerability, family systems, childhood wounds, secure attachment, personal growth

Join The Basement – ⁠https://threepercentco.com/membership⁠ Three Percent Website – ⁠https://threepercentco.com/ ⁠Follow Three Percent on IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/threepercent.co/⁠ Why do certain patterns in your life keep repeating—no matter how much you try to move forward? In this conversation, Dan Allender and Rachel Clinton Chen invite us into the deeper work of understanding our stories. Not as something to “get over,” but as something that continues to shape how we relate to ourselves, God, and others. Through powerful personal examples and honest reflection, they explore how early experiences—especially moments of shame, neglect, or harm—form the internal narratives we still live by today. This conversation moves beyond surface-level self-awareness into something more embodied. It’s about learning how to revisit your story with compassion, allowing old interpretations to be challenged, and discovering both the brokenness and beauty that have been formed in you. Along the way, they name the cost of avoiding your story—and the freedom that comes when you finally begin to engage it. If you’ve ever wondered why certain reactions feel automatic, why vulnerability feels unsafe, or why you keep chasing validation that never quite satisfies—this episode offers a way forward. Not quick fixes, but a deeper invitation into healing, connection, and becoming who you were meant to be. KEY TAKEAWAYS Why your past isn’t “over”—it’s still shaping how you live today How early shame and unmet needs form the patterns you repeat Why vulnerability feels unsafe (and where that story began) What it means to hold both your brokenness and your beauty How revisiting your story with others creates real change Why healing isn’t a one-time fix—but a lifelong process of attention and compassion CHAPTERS (00:00) Can you bear your beauty—and your brokenness (01:00) Introducing Dan Allender and Rachel Clinton Chen (05:30) Why this season is about story (06:30) Why engaging your story actually matters (09:30) How childhood shapes your capacity for vulnerability (12:00) The story that still lives in your body (14:30) Why story work is never “finished” (18:30) What story work actually is (in simple terms) (22:00) Attachment, interpretation, and survival (30:00) Why men avoid their stories (33:00) Brokenness, beauty, and the tension we avoid (39:00) When strength becomes a coping mechanism (41:00) A real-time example of story playing out (48:30) Where do you start if this feels overwhelming? (52:00) The cost—and gift—of doing this work CONNECT WITH THE ALLENDER CENTER Website: https://theallendercenter.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allendercenter/ Podcast: The Allender Center Podcast KEYWORDS Dan Allender, Rachel Clinton Chen, Three Percent Podcast, emotional health, men’s mental health, story work, trauma and healing, attachment, vulnerability, shame, masculinity, relationships, spiritual formation, inner critic, personal growth

Join The Basement – ⁠https://threepercentco.com/membership⁠Three Percent Website – ⁠https://threepercentco.com/⁠Follow Three Percent on IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/threepercent.co/⁠ What happens when the version of Jesus you believe in always agrees with you? In this conversation, Jon Guerra shares the quiet but unsettling realization that his faith had become too comfortable—too aligned with his own preferences, frustrations, and perspectives. What followed wasn’t a crisis, but a slow return. A reintroduction to the real Jesus through the Gospels. One who comforts, but also confronts. One who invites, but also challenges. Together, they explore what it means to rediscover Christ in the middle of ordinary life—parenting, marriage, stress, and even subtle pride. This conversation moves beyond surface-level faith into something deeper: surrender, attention, and the kind of honesty that leads to freedom. If you’ve ever felt disillusioned with faith, unsure how to reconnect with God, or tired of a version of Christianity that feels flat or performative, this episode offers a different path—one that is slower, truer, and ultimately more alive. KEY TAKEAWAYS Why a “comfortable” version of Jesus might be holding you backHow subtle pride and self-justification can shape your faithWhat it looks like to encounter a Jesus who both comforts and challengesWhy surrender isn’t losing your life—but finding itHow everyday stress (kids, work, marriage) becomes the place of transformationCHAPTERS (00:00) What is the “3%”?(02:00) Introducing Jon Guerra and his music(05:30) The heart behind the Jesus album(07:00) When Jesus becomes a version of yourself(10:00) The challenge of the real Jesus (rich young ruler)(13:30) Faith in the middle of ordinary life stress(18:30) Where is God in parenting, pressure, and fatigue?(22:00) Surrender, the cross, and where life is actually found(30:30) What does it mean that “Christ is the treasure”?(40:00) Experiencing God in the places you avoid(45:30) Why vulnerability and relationship lead to healing(49:00) Gethsemane: grief, surrender, and light(53:00) Seeing clearly: attention, presence, and everyday faith(56:00) Where to find Jon + closing thoughts LINKS & RESOURCES Jon Guerra Website: https://www.jonguerramusic.com/The Jesus Album: https://open.spotify.com/album/4jMmHLhkvQToncD10srcty?si=M8Ikc0TSQ_i-Mcw4qfHfGgInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjonguerraKEYWORDS Jon Guerra, Three Percent Podcast, Christian music, emotional health, faith and doubt, masculinity, vulnerability, spiritual formation, inner life, surrender, trauma and healing, relationships, parenting stress, proximity to God, honest faith

Join The Basement – https://threepercentco.com/membership Three Percent Website – https://threepercentco.com/ Follow Three Percent on IG: https://www.instagram.com/threepercent.co/ What happens when artificial intelligence meets emotional health? In this episode, Jamie and Blake begin a new recurring series exploring the intersection of AI and mental health. Rather than offering quick answers or bold predictions, this conversation slows things down and asks better questions. They reflect on how AI is already shaping the way people process emotions, seek support, and understand themselves. From using AI as a sounding board to the risks of outsourcing vulnerability, they explore both the opportunities and the tensions this technology introduces. Takeaways AI can be a helpful tool for reflection—but it cannot replace real human connection There is a growing temptation to process emotions in isolation rather than in relationship Convenience can quietly shape our emotional habits in ways we don’t always notice The goal is not to reject AI, but to use it wisely and within healthy limits Vulnerability still requires risk—and that risk is essential for deep connection Resources: AI APA Research ArticleThe Scatter Joy Project Chapters (00:00) Introduction to the AI & Mental Health Series (03:45) Why this conversation matters right now (08:20) How people are already using AI for emotional processing (14:10) The benefits of AI as a reflective tool (20:35) The risks of replacing human connection (27:50) Isolation, convenience, and emotional habits (34:15) Where AI falls short in empathy and presence (41:05) Using AI without losing your humanity (48:30) Final thoughts and what’s ahead in the series Keywords AI and mental health, emotional health, vulnerability, human connection, self-awareness, technology and relationships, therapy tools, emotional processing, isolation, personal growth, Three Percent Podcast

Join The Basement – https://threepercentco.com/membership Three Percent Website – https://threepercentco.com/ Follow Three Percent on IG: https://www.instagram.com/threepercent.co/ In this episode, Blake and Jamie sit down with poet, speaker, and author Tanner Olson for a conversation about suffering, hope, creativity, and the honest work of getting through difficult seasons. Tanner shares the heart behind his new book Getting Through What You’re Going Through, a collection of poems, essays, and reflections meant to be a hopeful companion for people navigating life’s hardest moments. Rather than offering easy answers or quick fixes, Tanner explores the power of naming pain honestly and sitting with others in their suffering. The conversation moves through humor, storytelling, and deeply personal moments—from Tanner’s health scare and the lifestyle changes it forced him to make, to the ways stress, pride, and striving can quietly shape our lives. Along the way, the group reflects on why empathy is often more powerful than advice, why information alone doesn’t lead to healing, and how poetry can give language to emotions people struggle to express. Tanner’s writing invites readers to slow down, acknowledge what they’re going through, and trust that hope can still exist in the middle of uncertainty. This episode is a reminder that sometimes the most meaningful thing we can offer each other is not a solution—but presence. Takeaways Poetry can help people name emotions they struggle to articulate. Sometimes the most helpful response to suffering is simply saying, “I hate this for you.” Healing rarely comes from information alone—it requires presence, processing, and time. Rest and lifestyle changes can be brave choices, even when they feel difficult. Creativity often grows from walking through real life experiences. Resources Check out more from Tanner Olson: New Book: Getting Through What You're Going Through: Notes and Poems for Hoping and Becoming https://amzn.to/4usjMqj All The Things I Say to God: Learning to Pray Anytime, Anywhere https://amzn.to/3P08GJ5 Website – https://www.writtentospeak.com/ Substack: https://substack.com/@tannerolson Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/writtentospeak/ Learn more about Three Percent:www.threepercentco.com Chapters (00:00) Welcome to the Episode (02:00) Introducing Tanner Olson (04:30) Poetry, Humor, and Writing About Real Life (06:00) The Heart Behind Getting Through What You’re Going Through (10:30) The Power of Words During Difficult Seasons (15:30) Why Empathy Matters More Than Easy Answers (20:30) When People Try to Fix Your Pain (26:30) The Limits of Self-Awareness and Information (33:00) Why This Was the Book Tanner Needed to Write (36:00) A Health Scare and the Wake-Up Call of Stress (40:30) Lifestyle Changes and Letting Go of Control (47:00) Childhood, Wonder, and Finding Peace Again (50:00) Humor, Poetry, and Being Fully Yourself (58:30) Hope in the Middle of Hard Things (01:01:00) Where to Find Tanner and His Work Keywords Three Percent podcast, Tanner Olson, poetry and faith, emotional health, Christian spirituality, healing and suffering, personal growth, stress and burnout, empathy, vulnerability, faith and creativity, hope in hard seasons, mental health, trusting God, spiritual formation, processing emotions, poetry and healing

Join The Basement – https://threepercentco.com/membership Three Percent Website – https://threepercentco.com/ Follow Three Percent on IG: https://www.instagram.com/threepercent.co/ Season 2 of Three Percent is officially underway. In this episode, Blake Roberts and Jamie Haigh pull back the curtain on what’s ahead for the podcast this year. After releasing nearly 40 episodes in their first season, they’re returning with a clearer structure, deeper conversations, and a brand-new way for listeners to engage beyond just listening. They share the vision for Season 2, including a new rhythm of guest conversations, therapist-led discussions, and a new series where they respond to the most common mental health questions people ask AI. Blake and Jamie also reflect on the tension of creating meaningful resources while inviting people to support the work financially—and why they believe real transformation happens when people move beyond information and into vulnerability and practice. If Season 1 was about building the podcast, Season 2 is about building a community. Takeaways Season 2 introduces a new structure with interviews, host conversations, and question-based episodes. The Basement community was created for people who want to engage their emotional lives more intentionally. Vulnerability and support are necessary parts of meaningful personal growth. Everyone is recovering from something, and community helps us move toward healing. What Is “The Basement”? The Basement is the new private Three Percent community. Inside the community, members will find: Monthly deep-dive Q&A episodes Opportunities to submit questions for Blake and Jamie Guided reflections and practical tools Connection with others who are doing the work of emotional growth Membership helps support the podcast while creating a space where listeners can move beyond passive consumption into active engagement. Join The Basement – https://threepercentco.com/membership Chapters (00:00) Welcome to Season 2 (01:50) Looking Back at Season 1 (04:10) The New Structure for Season 2 Episodes (07:10) The AI Mental Health Question Series (10:30) The Benefits and Limits of AI in Emotional Growth (14:00) Understanding “Top Plate” Episodes (16:30) Introducing The Basement Community (19:20) Why It’s Called “The Basement” (22:00) Moving from Consumption to Engagement (24:30) The Vulnerability of Asking for Support (26:30) What They Hope This Community Becomes (28:30) Progress, Not Perfection (30:00) Final Invitation to Join Keywords Three Percent podcast, men’s mental health, emotional health, masculinity, vulnerability, personal growth, emotional awareness, therapy conversations, faith and psychology, AI mental health questions, community building, recovery, emotional honesty, The Basement community, relationships, spiritual formation

Sign up for our email list: ⁠https://three-percent-co.kit.com/4c81475a7e Learn more about Three Percent: www.threepercentco.com Instagram – @threepercent.co We’re back. In this short (but not that short) teaser episode, Blake and Jamie welcome listeners into Season 2 of Three Percent, reflecting on the break, naming the realities of life with young kids, and sharing what’s been happening behind the scenes while the podcast feed was quiet. They talk about why they paused, what they’ve been building during the break, and why Season 2 marks a shift from just a podcast to a deeper, more intentional community. You’ll hear about the official Season 2 launch date, the upcoming private community, what listeners can expect this year, and how you can stay connected as Three Percent grows beyond weekly episodes. This episode is an invitation: to reconnect, to participate, and to keep showing up together. Takeaways Season 2 is about going beyond the podcast and into deeper community. Life, kids, and capacity matter—and choosing family is part of integrity. Listener engagement (reviews, comments, emails) has shaped the direction of the show. Season 2 launches Monday, March 2. You are invited to take the next step with us. Chapters 00:00 Welcome Back & The Reality of Life with Kids 01:00 What Three Percent Is (and Why It Exists) 02:00 Why This Is a Teaser Episode 03:00 The Intentional Break: Holidays, Family, and Planning 04:30 Apology for the Disappearance 06:00 The Boundaries Bonus Episode (Still Coming) 07:30 Season 2 Vision & Guest Overflow 09:00 Going Beyond the Podcast 10:30 Introducing the Private Community 12:00 Why We’re Choosing Community Over Ads 14:00 Why the Email List Matters 15:30 Spotify Growth & New Listeners 17:00 Favorite Episodes from Season 1 19:00 Topics Coming in Season 2 21:00 How You Can Shape the Show 22:30 Gratitude, Reviews, and What’s Next 23:30 Final Invitation & Closing Words Important Links & Calls to Action Join the Three Percent Email List: https://three-percent-co.kit.com/4c81475a7e Favorites from Season 1 The Top Plate Coaching Call The Friendship Episode Scott Erickson Conversation Dr. Andrew Bauman Episode Send Topic Ideas, Stories, or Boundary Fails [email protected] Keywords Three Percent, Season 2, podcast teaser, men’s mental health, emotional honesty, community, masculinity, therapy, boundaries, healing, vulnerability, spiritual formation, identity, relationships, growth, reflection

In this end-of-year episode, Blake and Jamie look back on ten months of building the Three Percent community—30,000+ streams, 75 countries, countless vulnerable conversations, and a growing team that has made this project possible. This episode is equal parts celebration, reflection, honest storytelling, and heartfelt gratitude. Blake and Jamie peel back the curtain on what it’s actually been like behind the scenes: the long mornings, the late nights, raising little kids, navigating personal hardships, and still choosing to show up every week because this work matters. They share the origins of Three Percent, the goals they set at the beginning of the year, the ones they’ve already surpassed, and the dreams they’re chasing next. You’ll also hear about upcoming retreats, new offerings for 2026, how they think about honesty and boundaries, and a hilarious holiday prompt you can participate in. This episode is a love letter to the community that has formed around this podcast. Thank you for listening, sharing, reviewing, and showing up. You’ve helped build something truly meaningful. Takeaways 30,000+ streams in the first year is beyond what Blake and Jamie expected. The community is the reason this show has grown—your reviews, shares, and messages matter. Behind the scenes, they’ve navigated personal pain, exhaustion, and spiritual tension while continuing to create. Creative energy often shows up late in the process—after structure and safety are present. This year revealed the deep need for honest, sturdy, compassionate men’s spaces, A growing team (Jackson & Derek!) has made the show sustainable. Big dreams are underway: retreats, a men’s framework for churches, expanded offerings, and a permanent studio. Vulnerability must be held within boundaries—honesty can be public, personal, or private. Resources & Mentions Episode: What To Do With Your Inner Critic with Aundi Kolber Episode: Top Plate Coaching Call with Dustin Duvall Free Download: Pause, Pray, Process Method (via email list) Email your holiday story: [email protected] Chapters (00:00) How This Podcast Has Shaped Us (01:00) Welcome to the End-of-Year Celebration (02:00) Behind-the-Scenes Banter & Recording Energy (05:30) Being Dads, Therapists, & Podcast Hosts (07:00) How the Show Has Grown Because of You (13:00) The Impact of Listener Reviews & Messages (15:00) Revisiting the Original 2024 Goals (17:00) Hitting 30,000 Streams (Triple the Goal!) (18:30) Why the Mission Matters: Men, Honesty & Healing (20:00) On Vulnerability, Boundaries & Faith (23:00) Building a Team: Bringing on Jackson & Derek (25:00) Showing Up Even in Hard Seasons (27:00) Parenting, Fatigue & Still Choosing This Work (29:00) Future Dreams: Merch, Retreats, & Collaborations (42:00) What Topics You Want in Season Two (44:00) Final Reflections & Gratitude (45:00) The New Closing Line: Keep Showing Up Keywords Three Percent, end of year episode, reflection, men’s mental health, emotional honesty, vulnerability, healing, spiritual formation, community, gratitude, burnout, creativity, parenting, therapy, masculinity, retreats, personal growth, identity, boundaries, integrity, resilience

This week, Blake and Jamie invite listeners into a real-time Top Plate coaching call with 3% community member Dustin Duvall. In this session, Dustin brings his honest history about stress, being a good husband, overwhelm, and the pressure to carry everything at once. Together they unpack what a Top Plate actually is—the one thing in your life that requires the most attention—and how naming it can radically shift the way you show up for your family, your work, and yourself. This is a practical and deeply human episode about burnout, boundaries, internal narratives, and the courage it takes to ask for help. If you’re feeling stretched thin or unsure how to keep all the plates spinning, this conversation offers clarity, hope, and next steps. Takeaways Your “Top Plate” is the area of life demanding the most attention—and naming it brings relief. Burnout isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s your body telling the truth. You can’t lead others well if you’re constantly abandoning yourself. Most overwhelm comes from unspoken expectations and silent pressure. Compassion and honesty are more effective motivators than shame. You don’t need to fix everything at once; you need to take the next right step. Chapters (00:00) Welcome & What a Top Plate Coaching Call Is (03:40) Dustin’s Story & Current Stress Points (07:15) Identifying the Real Top Plate (11:50) Why Overwhelm Feels Like Failure (15:00) The Emotional Cost of Carrying Everything (18:30) When Performance Becomes Your Identity (22:00) Listening to Your Body’s “Alarm System” (26:40) Blake’s Coaching: Finding the Pressure Valve (30:10) What Happens When You Name the Real Issue (34:20) Dustin’s Breakthrough: Permission to Slow Down (38:00) Boundaries, Leadership, and Family Health (42:00) Choosing What Matters Most Right Now (46:00) The First Next Step (49:30) Final Coaching Reflections Keywords Top Plate, coaching, emotional health, burnout, overwhelm, stress, leadership, boundaries, self-awareness, nervous system, family, identity, masculinity, spiritual formation, Three Percent

This week, Blake and Jamie sit down with bestselling author and therapist Aundi Kolber for a powerful conversation about trauma, compassion, the inner critic, and learning to “try softer.” Aundi shares openly about growing up in an abusive home, how her fierce inner critic helped her survive, and why healing doesn’t come through trying harder—but through a compassionate, regulated relationship with ourselves and others. They unpack attachment, window of tolerance, neurobiology, and why men especially struggle to let go of performance and self-hatred. This is an episode about shifting from survival mode to connection. About befriending the parts of us we’ve pushed away. And about discovering that compassion is not weakness—it’s strength that doesn’t fold. Takeaways Your inner critic was born for a reason—it helped you survive. Healing happens when we can be with our pain, not in our pain. Compassion is both tender and fierce: soft toward wounds, strong toward safety. Our window of tolerance expands in the presence of regulated, safe relationships. You don’t have to tell everyone everything—honesty requires discernment and safety. Trying Softer is not giving up; it’s choosing connection over self-punishment. We can reassign our inner critic’s job—from attacking us to discerning what’s good for us. Chapters (00:00) Aundi’s Story & Meeting the Inner Critic(04:00) Growing Up in Abuse: The Origin of Hyper-Vigilance(08:00) Trauma, Sensitivity & Why Our Parts Form(12:00) Reframing the Inner Critic: A Protector, Not an Enemy(15:00) Attachment, Performance & Getting Needs Met(18:00) How the Body Shrinks its Window of Tolerance(21:00) What Regulation Really Means(24:00) Why Safe Relationships Expand Our Capacity(27:00) Vulnerability, Men’s Groups & Discernment(30:00) Numbing, Shutdown & Forced Dorsal States(33:00) Befriending the Pain We Learned to Fear(37:00) What It Means to “Try Softer”(40:00) Compassion That Doesn’t Fold(45:00) Letting Fierce Compassion Set Boundaries(48:00) Shame, “Still,” and Resentment Toward Our Parts(52:00) Trying Softer as a Lifelong Posture(55:00) The Surprises of Aundi’s Work(58:00) What Gives Aundi Hope(01:00:00) Loaves & Fishes: Being a Steward of Pain(01:02:00) What’s Next for Aundi Resources Try Softer — Aundi Kolber Strong Like Water — Aundi KolberTake What You Need — Aundi Kolber Keywords Aundi Kolber, Try Softer, Strong Like Water, trauma recovery, inner critic, self-compassion, window of tolerance, attachment, CPTSD, abuse recovery, neurobiology, IFS, shame, masculinity, emotional health, compassion, boundaries, healing, spiritual formation, Three Percent podcast

This week, Blake and Jamie sit down with Ben Zobrist, former MLB player and two-time World Series champion, for a vulnerable and deeply human conversation about identity, faith, and what happens when the cheering stops. Ben shares openly about the transition out of professional baseball, the loss of structure and purpose that followed, and how faith became a place of wrestling rather than performance. Together, they explore the tension between success and surrender, what it means to be truly known, and the slow, humble work of healing when your identity is stripped away. This isn’t a story about baseball—it’s a story about becoming whole. Takeaways Success can hide the deeper questions about who we are and where we belong. Leaving a career built on performance can expose old wounds around identity and worth. Faith doesn’t eliminate pain—it gives us a way to be honest in it. Real healing happens through community, rest, and humility. You can lose what you do and still discover who you are. Check out more from Ben Zobrist: Instagram – @benzobrist18 Learn more about Champion Forward Learn more about Three Percent: www.threepercentco.com Instagram – @threepercent.co Chapters (00:00) Welcome & Introducing Ben Zobrist (04:10) Life After Baseball: The Unknown Season (09:20) When Identity Is Built on Performance (13:50) The Hidden Cost of Success (18:30) Wrestling with Faith in the Middle of Loss (22:00) Learning to Rest After Years of Drive (27:10) What Healing Has Looked Like for Ben (31:30) Community, Therapy, and Honest Friendship (36:00) Lessons from Baseball That Still Apply (41:20) Redefining Winning in Life and Faith (45:00) Final Reflections and Gratitude Resources 🎧 Related episodes: Healing the Heart After Trauma with Dr. Thomas Cabell The Strength Men Need to Reclaim with Marc Typo A Practical Guide to Engaging Your Emotions Keywords Ben Zobrist, MLB, baseball, faith, identity, mental health, healing, masculinity, success, performance, transition, purpose, humility, emotional health, spiritual formation, life after sports, Three Percent podcast

This week, Blake and Jamie sit down with Justin Whitmel Earley—author, lawyer, and father of four—to talk about habits that shape the heart of a family. Justin shares his story of going from missionary life to corporate law, from breakdown to deep formation, and how he discovered that small, ordinary rhythms can become spiritual lifelines. They unpack what it looks like to build a household of peace in a world that runs on hurry, noise, and distraction—and why habits of love, presence, and prayer matter more than ever. This conversation blends theology and practicality, inviting us to see that the way we live each day is forming the people we’re becoming. Takeaways Habits aren’t just productivity tools—they’re ways of shaping love and attention. Children learn what peace feels like through the rhythms of their parents. Morning prayer, shared meals, and nightly blessings anchor the home in presence. Hustle culture and hurry are spiritual forces that disconnect us from God and others. The household is the front line of formation—and the place where grace meets real life. Justin's New Book:  The Body Teaches the Soul Check out more from Justin Whitmel Earley: Website – www.justinwhitmelearley.com Instagram – @justinwhitmelearley Podcast - Intentional Fatherhood Podcast Learn more about Three Percent: www.threepercentco.com Instagram – @threepercent.co Chapters (00:00) Introduction & Justin’s Story (05:20) From Missionary to Lawyer: The Collapse That Changed Everything (10:45) Discovering the Power of Habits (15:30) Why the Household Is the Front Line of Formation (20:00) Practicing Presence in a Distracted World (26:30) Rhythms of Morning and Evening Prayer (33:00) What Kids Learn from Watching Our Habits (38:00) Building Grace into Daily Structure (42:15) Habits of Work, Rest, and Sabbath (47:00) The Practice of Blessing and Gratitude (52:00) How Formation Happens in the Ordinary (56:00) Closing Reflections Keywords Justin Whitmel Earley, Habits of the Household, The Common Rule, spiritual formation, habits, discipline, family life, parenting, emotional health, faith, household rhythms, rest, sabbath, presence, hurry, masculinity, relationships, marriage, formation, love, community, Three Percent podcast

This week, Blake and Jamie sit down with Dr. Thomas Cabell, a physician and teacher whose decades of experience in medicine and spiritual formation have shaped his holistic view of health and healing. In a world that treats brokenness as something to hide or fix, Dr. Cabell offers a countercultural perspective: that healing is not the absence of pain—it’s the restoration of connection. Together they explore how the body and soul are deeply intertwined, how medicine and faith can work hand-in-hand, and why true health includes emotional honesty, rest, and relationship. With stories from his medical career, spiritual reflections, and grounded wisdom, Dr. Cabell reminds us that becoming whole is less about control and more about courage. Takeaways Healing is a return to connection—within ourselves, with others, and with God. The body is always telling the truth; symptoms are invitations, not failures. Busyness and disconnection are often modern forms of sickness. Listening deeply—to our bodies, our emotions, and each other—is a healing act. Integrating medicine, psychology, and faith offers a fuller picture of human flourishing. Check out more of Dr. Thomas Cabell:  Ascension Health Profile Learn more about Three Percent: www.threepercentco.com Instagram – @threepercentco Chapters (00:00) Introduction & Why We Avoid Stillness (04:30) Dr. Cabell’s Journey into Medicine and Ministry (10:20) What Patients Teach Us About Healing (14:50) How the Body and Spirit Speak the Same Language (20:00) Disconnection as the Root of Disease (26:30) The Power of Presence in Medicine (31:00) When Helping Becomes Hiding (37:00) Integrating Faith, Medicine, and Mental Health (43:20) How Rest and Play Restore Wholeness (48:10) What True Healing Looks Like (53:00) Final Reflections & Encouragement Keywords Dr. Thomas Cabell, healthcare, holistic health, spiritual formation, medicine and faith, emotional healing, embodiment, presence, rest, connection, trauma healing, holistic masculinity, men’s mental health, wholeness, soul care, Three Percent podcast

This week, Blake and Jamie sit down with Lexy Florentina, a somatic experiencing practitioner, writer, and teacher helping people reconnect with their bodies after trauma. In this beautiful, grounding conversation, Lexy helps us understand what it means to build a relationship with the body—not to fix or control it, but to listen to it. Through stories, science, and a live somatic exercise with Blake, Lexy guides us to see that the body isn’t the enemy. It’s been fighting for us, not against us. Together they explore how men, in particular, have been conditioned to override, shame, or disconnect from their emotions—and how healing begins when we learn to be curious instead of critical. This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt stuck, numb, or at war with themselves. Takeaways Healing begins when we stop trying to fix our bodies and start listening to them. The body’s reactions aren’t failures—they’re survival strategies born from protection. Curiosity is the foundation of healing; judgment keeps us disconnected. Trauma narrows our menu of choices—healing shows us there are other options. Men often carry a shame-based or control-based relationship with their bodies; soft curiosity opens the door to safety. Our bodies are always communicating; the question is whether we’ll listen. Check out more of Lexy Florentina: Website – lexyflorentina.com Instagram – @lexyflorentina Community – Held: A co-resting membership for learning to be with your body Learn more about Three Percent: www.threepercentco.com Instagram – @threepercentco Chapters (00:00) Welcome & Introducing Lexy Florentina (03:00) What Is Somatic Experiencing? (07:00) Lexy’s Story: From Complex Trauma to Healing (10:00) The Body as an Ally, Not an Enemy (13:00) Why Men Struggle to Connect with Their Bodies (16:00) Curiosity vs. Control (18:00) How We Learn to Disconnect from Ourselves (22:00) “I Can’t Change This, But I Can Help You Not Feel It” (25:00) A Live Somatic Exercise with Blake (31:00) Finding Safety and Sturdiness in the Body (35:00) The Importance of Agency and Choice in Healing (38:00) Watching Healing in Real Time (40:00) Why We Consume Information to Fix Ourselves (42:00) There’s Nothing Wrong With You—Your Body Is Doing Its Job (44:00) Lexy’s Work: Community, Courses, and “Held” (46:00) Closing Reflections Resources The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Gabor Maté – drgabormate.com Keywords Lexy Florentina, somatic experiencing, trauma healing, nervous system, emotional regulation, embodiment, holistic masculinity, men’s mental health, trauma response, curiosity, shame, body awareness, mindfulness, self-compassion, somatic therapy, healing, co-regulation, connection, faith, vulnerability, emotional safety, Three Percent podcast