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Elliott Brady is back on Queer Talker, and this time he’s facing Queer Panic! The Agony Uncle and Come Alive! star takes on our rapid-fire questions, revealing his first celebrity crush, ultimate queer icon, dream musical theatre role and the Beyoncé song he’d choose as his personal entrance music. But things get surprisingly personal when Elliott reveals the one piece of advice he gives others but struggles to follow himself: don’t chase the spiral. He opens up about anxiety, what therapy has taught him, and why putting that advice into practice isn’t always easy. Plus, why matcha is completely overrated, his complicated feelings about Grindr, the wildest advice request he’s received, and why finding the perfect outfit can send him into an absolute Queer Panic. For more from Elliott, including his journey into entertainment and the story behind Agony Uncle, check out his full Queer Talker interview. Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

Elliott Brady is a musical theatre performer, content creator and host of the Agony Uncle podcast. But the confident person he is today is a long way from the young Elliott who spent years being bullied for being gay before he even fully understood what being gay meant. In this episode of Queer Talker, Elliott opens up about growing up in a small town without queer people around him, being called gay from primary school and why, for years, he resisted the identity other people had used against him. We talk about the journey from hiding parts of himself to finding the confidence to express his queerness openly, including the years when he wouldn’t hold his boyfriend’s hand in public and would instinctively try to appear straight. Elliott also takes us inside his career in musical theatre, from discovering dance and falling in love with Wicked to graduating just as COVID shut down the industry. He shares the incredible advice that stopped him from walking away from performing altogether, and what life is really like performing on cruise ships. But one cruise contract became a deeply difficult experience. Elliott speaks candidly about struggling with his mental health at sea, reporting a company manager for alleged sexual harassment and feeling trapped in an environment he couldn’t escape. Back in the UK, joining Come Alive! became something very different. Elliott explains how the show, its cast and the character he created helped rebuild his confidence, challenge his social anxiety and become a louder, freer version of himself. We also talk about chosen family, creating Agony Uncle and why, after everything his younger self went through, the advice he’d give him now is simple: it’s going to be okay. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Elliott Brady and his journey 02:21 Growing up LGBTQ in a small town 05:40 First exposure to queer culture and role models 07:32 Finding confidence through musical theater 15:40 Impact of theater roles on self-acceptance 21:52 Graduating during COVID and career challenges 25:32 Life on ships and the camaraderie among performers 28:42 Dealing with mental health struggles on ships 35:48 Returning home and rebuilding confidence 49:30 Launching and managing the Agony Uncle podcast 54:24 The importance of community and authenticity 58:43 Advice for younger self and embracing life's journey Agony Uncle: Website - https://shows.acast.com/agony-uncle Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/agonyunclepod YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@agonyunclepod Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

What happens when you ask two husbands what gets on their nerves? Toenails in the bath, dishwasher disputes and absolutely no hesitation. Adam joins me fresh from his Queer Talker interview, alongside his husband and returning guest Ali, for a couples edition of Queer Panic. We get into who made the first move, saying “I love you”, a New York proposal and the everyday habits that test a marriage. There’s also a zombie apocalypse, a debate over who would make the better Traitor and a karaoke performance you can judge for yourself. And beneath the teasing, they share the wedding moments they’d relive and the words that capture what they love about each other. Funny, affectionate and occasionally a little too honest. Welcome to Queer Panic. Follow Queer Talker for more LGBTQ+ conversations, and tell me: what’s the one habit your partner has that drives you mad? Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

Adam Imber is one half of Husbands Ali and Adam, a married gay couple who have built a huge online community by sharing their lives, their relationship and the different identities that make them who they are. But becoming so proudly visible is something Adam’s younger self might never have imagined. In this episode of Queer Talker, Adam opens up about growing up Jewish, coming to terms with his sexuality and why accepting himself proved harder than being accepted by the people around him. We talk about meeting his husband Ali, how their relationship helped Adam become more confident in his identity, and the incredible experience of bringing their Jewish and Turkish backgrounds together for their wedding. Adam shares what it meant to stand beneath the chuppah surrounded by both families, and why having a rabbi there felt particularly powerful after his experiences growing up. adam-ben.txt Adam also talks about becoming one half of Husbands Ali and Adam, why they decided to share their relationship publicly and the importance of showing that sexuality, faith and culture don’t have to exist separately. For Adam, that visibility is partly about becoming the representation he wishes he’d had himself. adam-ben.txt We also discuss mental health, Adam’s ADHD diagnosis, dealing with negativity online and why talking openly about his own experiences has helped him realise just how far he’s come. adam-ben.txt It’s a conversation about love, identity, faith, visibility and finally learning to be proud of every part of who you are. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Adam's background 02:13 Early years and discovering sexuality 03:46 Struggles with faith and identity 07:04 Family reactions and support 10:56 Visibility and representation in the LGBTQ+ community 16:05 Adam and Ali's interfaith relationship 23:10 Wedding day and cultural significance 26:58 Impact of sharing their story 30:13 Mental health and self-acceptance 35:03 Advice for young LGBTQ+ people 40:11 The power of community and support organizations Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

Gabriel Clark is back, but this time there’s no time to overthink his answers. The Tip Toe and Hollyoaks actor faces Queer Panic, revealing his animated childhood crush, his most irrational ick, the skill he once lied about having in an audition and which Russell T Davies show he’d save above all others. Plus, why star signs could get his queer card revoked, which of his characters would be an absolute nightmare to date, and the unexpected queer icon he’d like to have a drink with. For the full story of Gabriel’s journey from Bolton to Hollyoaks and Tip Toe, watch or listen to his full Queer Talker conversation. Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalkerTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

Growing up gay in Bolton, Gabriel Clark struggled to see people like himself reflected back at him. He even convinced himself that if he wanted to become a successful actor, staying in the closet might be part of the deal. Today, Gabriel is one of the stars of Russell T Davies’ Tip Toe, playing Mikey, the confident, proudly queer Northern character he wishes he’d been able to see growing up. In this episode of Queer Talker, Gabriel opens up about growing up under the shadow of Section 28, discovering queer representation through Doctor Who, coming out and unexpectedly seeing his sexuality become tabloid news while starring in Hollyoaks. We talk about the brutal online backlash he faced after taking over the role of Ollie Morgan, why Jock Night transformed his relationship with his sexuality and body, and what it meant to work alongside a queer cast and crew on Tip Toe. Gabriel also shares why he believes openly LGBTQ+ actors still face barriers in the industry, why using his platform to speak about human rights matters to him, and the responsibility he feels to be the openly gay Northern actor he needed when he was younger. It’s an incredibly open conversation about representation, ambition, chosen family, queer joy and discovering that there really is a place for you. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Gabriel Clark and his journey 02:14 Growing up in Bolton and early influences 03:59 Experiences of growing up queer in the North 05:56 The role of performance in self-expression 07:46 Representation of LGBTQ+ characters on TV 09:50 Coming out during the pandemic and media reactions 11:48 The industry’s approach to openly gay actors 13:59 The significance of authentic storytelling 16:00 Opportunities and challenges for queer actors 18:07 The importance of diverse environments in acting 20:02 Gabriel’s journey with the character Mikey in Tiptoe 22:06 Creative process behind content creation and writing 24:04 Dealing with online backlash and mental health 25:57 The power of visibility and activism 28:01 The experience of playing a recast on Hollyoaks 29:48 The significance of being openly gay in the industry 32:09 Gabriel’s advocacy and using his platform 34:06 The importance of representation for young queer people 35:57 The journey of self-acceptance and empowerment 37:53 The creative and collaborative process with Russell T. Davies 39:51 The impact of diverse and inclusive work environments 42:13 Gabriel’s advice to his younger self and others 44:00 The future of LGBTQ+ representation in media 46:02 Closing thoughts and message of pride Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

Kaue Garcia and Ryan O’Neill are back, and this time they’re facing Queer Panic. The owners of Keighley Cougars and Keighley Town FC take on Queer Talker’s rapid-fire questions, revealing their first celebrity crushes, favourite queer film and TV show, who made the first move, who takes longer to get ready and, crucially, who would survive longest in a zombie apocalypse. We also discover why Kaue refuses to watch the UK version of Queer as Folk, why Ryan thinks hiding is a legitimate zombie survival strategy, and what happens when they’re asked to describe each other in just one word. For the full story of Kaue and Ryan’s relationship, their journey into professional sport and why they believe LGBTQ+ visibility in football and rugby matters, listen to their full Queer Talker episode. Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

What happens when two queer kids who never felt like they belonged in sport grow up and buy a rugby club and a football club? Kaue Garcia and Ryan O’Neill are the owners of Keighley Cougars Rugby League Club and Keighley Town Football Club, but their relationship with sport hasn’t always been an easy one. In this episode of Queer Talker, Kaue and Ryan open up about growing up gay on opposite sides of the world, experiencing bullying, coming out, finding each other in a Bangkok nightclub and building a life and businesses together. They also share the extraordinary story of how they came to own Keighley Cougars, why they decided to put LGBTQ+ inclusion at the heart of the club, and what happened when rainbows, drag queens and Pride arrived at the rugby ground. We talk about homophobia in sport, trans inclusion, allyship, taking their values into football and why creating spaces where LGBTQ+ people genuinely feel they belong matters. And after 14 years of marriage, multiple businesses and now two sports clubs, Kaue and Ryan reveal how they somehow still manage to work, live and build everything together. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Kaue and Ryan's journey in sports and activism 01:50 Kaue's childhood in Brazil and early experiences with bullying 04:03 Ryan's boarding school experience and coming to terms with his sexuality 07:06 How their personal journeys led to owning and transforming sports clubs 14:56 The inception of the Pride game and inclusivity initiatives at the clubs 25:14 Challenges and successes in creating a welcoming environment 35:03 The role of visibility and representation in sports communities 45:06 Balancing commercial realities with social values in club management 54:50 Advice to their younger selves and future generations of LGBTQ+ youth Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalkerTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

Before KY Kelly was one of the queens of RuPaul’s Drag Race UK season eight, she was a kid putting on shows in her living room and running upstairs in her mum’s fluorescent pink catsuit. In this episode of Queer Talker, KY joins Ben Cicchetti to talk about growing up knowing she was different, secretly watching Queer as Folk, coming out at 16 and the friends and family who helped her find the confidence to be herself. KY opens up about the creation of the Queen of Lubrication, why drag became an armour that gave her a confidence Anthony didn’t always have, and why she wanted to represent more mature, old-school British cabaret queens on Drag Race UK. We also talk about LGBTQ+ representation, her experiences performing in Priscilla, Queen of the Desert and Everybody’s Talking About Jamie, standing alongside the trans community, protecting queer spaces and the reality of mental health behind the makeup, wigs and performance. Plus, KY reveals why she applied for Drag Race three times, how she’s preparing for the inevitable social media opinions, and the advice she’d give the little kid performing in that fluorescent pink catsuit today. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to KY Kelly and episode overview 02:24 KY Kelly's childhood, early performances, and feeling different 04:55 First awareness of LGBTQ+ community through media and real life 06:23 Realization of queerness during high school years 08:11 Journey to authenticity and coming out at 16 09:48 Family support and the importance of chosen family 12:08 Discovering drag and performing as a form of self-expression 13:45 How KY Kelly developed the drag persona and name origin 17:24 Confidence in drag and the impact of stage presence 18:40 Decision to join Drag Race UK and feeling ready 20:06 British drag culture and its influence on KY Kelly 21:45 The story behind the name KY Kelly 22:15 Telling queer stories through musical theatre and its impact 24:26 Representation in media and the importance of visibility 25:28 Challenges faced by the trans community and advocacy 30:56 Handling social media hate and mental health strategies 41:25 Advice to younger self and closing thoughts Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

What happens when you finally stop adapting to the person everyone expects you to be and start living as yourself? Multi-award-winning activist Adelle Barker transitioned at 36, after spending much of her life feeling lost, confused and, in her words, simply adapting to get through. In this episode of Queer Talker, Adelle opens up about the early signs she didn’t yet understand, secretly exploring her femininity, the fear of being discovered and the moment she finally realised she didn’t have to pretend anymore. We talk about what meaningful trans inclusion actually looks like in the workplace, why LGBTQ+ employee networks matter, navigating visibility in the current climate and the idea behind her brilliantly named newsletter, I Don’t Know How to Be Trans. Adelle also explains why there is no handbook for transition, why every trans person’s experience is different, and why her advice to young LGBTQ+ people is simple: trust your instincts and bet on yourself. An open, funny and deeply human conversation about authenticity, visibility and discovering the freedom of waking up as yourself. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic rapid fire questions 07:43 First awareness of LGBTQ+ identities 11:30 Early signs of queerness and secret dressing 14:00 Acceptance and living authentically 17:06 Meaningful trans inclusion at work 20:58 Messy process of transitioning and embracing mistakes 23:31 Realization that you don’t need to have everything figured out 34:38 Balancing visibility with self-care 38:02 Advice to younger self and young LGBTQ+ people 40:06 Closing remarks and message of community support Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

Growing up in St Kitts & Nevis, Alexander Hayden never questioned whether he was gay because, as he explains, “I didn’t know the closet existed.” In this episode of Queer Talker, Alexander shares what it was like growing up in the Caribbean, where same-sex relationships were illegal, moving to boarding school in the UK, and slowly discovering who he really was. We talk about code-switching between two versions of himself, the emotional moment he returned home after the law changed, living with a visible difference, and why representation matters for LGBTQ+ people growing up in countries where acceptance is still a work in progress. Alexander also takes us behind the scenes of I Kissed A Boy, reveals what it was really like arriving as the final bombshell, reflects on the show’s cancellation, and explains how the experience changed his life. This is an honest conversation about identity, confidence, belonging and learning that you don’t have to hide who you are. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Queer Panic 04:58 Growing up in the Caribbean and cultural identity 07:02 Discovering the queer community and first experiences 10:11 Coming out and self-acceptance journey 14:55 Decriminalization in Nevis and returning home 16:59 Using platform to support Caribbean LGBTQ+ communities 20:46 Dealing with visible differences and confidence 24:56 Joining 'I Kissed a Boy' and show experience 29:51 Lessons learned from the show and personal growth 36:00 Advice to younger self and LGBTQ+ community Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker⁠ TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

Amanda Collier became one of the breakout stars of The Traitors after delivering one of the season’s most memorable lines: “I can’t be Hugo’s wife. Don’t be so ridiculous. I’m a lesbian.” But behind that joyful moment is a much bigger story of resilience, public service, representation and finding your purpose. In this episode of Queer Talker, Amanda joins Ben Cicchetti to reflect on growing up in a working-class family, being bullied at school, and spending three decades in the Metropolitan Police, where she eventually became a Detective Chief Inspector. Amanda opens up about navigating homophobia within the police in the early 1990s, finding the mentor who helped her keep going, and eventually becoming a leader to some of the people who had once bullied her. She also takes us inside The Traitors, from nearly joining an earlier series to immediately suspecting Stephen, almost saving herself from elimination, and watching her spontaneous declaration of being a lesbian become a powerful moment of visibility for LGBTQ+ viewers. Amanda also discusses the heart condition discovered during the casting process, why she now approaches fitness and life differently, and how the platform she gained from the show has helped her support charities, speak to young people and encourage others to find their tribe. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Amanda's early life 01:58 Amanda's childhood and discovering her identity 08:57 Her police career and navigating being LGBTQ+ in law enforcement 17:58 Joining The Traitors and iconic moments 35:05 Amanda's impact as a role model and advocate 49:49 Her diagnosis with hereditary heart disease and future plans 54:09 Final advice and closing thoughts Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

Charlie Craggs is an award-winning author, activist and the creator of Nail Transphobia, the campaign that used free manicures to start conversations about trans lives. In this episode of Queer Talker, Charlie joins Ben Cicchetti for one of the most honest and uplifting conversations yet. Together they discuss growing up, bullying, finding authenticity, the importance of representation, why Nadia Almada changed Charlie’s life, and why humour can be one of the most powerful forms of activism. Charlie also reveals exclusively that Nail Transphobia is returning, shares details of her next book, and explains why she refuses to let anyone take away her joy. They also discuss: Growing up as a queer childBeing bullied at schoolNadia Almada and Big BrotherFinding authenticityNail TransphobiaTrans rights in 2026Social media and activismStanding up for yourselfWhy joy is an act of resistance A funny, emotional and incredibly empowering conversation. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Queer Panic 00:26 First album and music memories 01:21 Lip sync song choice and queer media favorites 01:59 Favorite queer icons and representation 03:06 Meeting Nadia Almada and her impact 08:27 Nadia Almada’s victory and representation 09:07 Young Charlie’s understanding of gender and identity 11:01 Media treatment of trans people over decades 13:28 Trans rights and societal progress 16:48 Trans men in society and bathroom debates 21:23 Authenticity and self-acceptance journey 23:36 The Nail Transphobia campaign’s origins and impact 35:32 Upcoming book and advocacy plans 45:31 Advice to younger self and resilience 48:18 Protecting joy and handling negativity 50:30 Closing remarks and gratitude Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

Simon Blake OBE has dedicated much of his life to making the world a safer, fairer place for LGBTQ+ people. As CEO of Stonewall, one of the world’s most influential LGBTQ+ organisations, Simon joins Ben Cicchetti for a thoughtful and deeply personal conversation about authenticity, activism, hope and why our goal should never simply be to survive, but to thrive. Simon reflects on growing up in Cornwall in the 1970s, the first time he saw himself represented on screen, coming out to his parents, and the powerful words his father shared years later: “I’m so glad that you gave us the chance to love you in all of you.” We also discuss: The role and future of StonewallLGBTQ+ rights in 2026Why progress isn’t always linearDiversity, equity and inclusionWhy representation mattersThe importance of empathySocial media and activismLeadership and trusting your gutAdvice for young LGBTQ+ peopleWhy we should aim to thrive, not just surviveThis is a conversation full of warmth, wisdom and hope from one of the most important voices in the LGBTQ+ community. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Simon Blake and Queer Panic Questions 03:55 Childhood and Early Influences 08:11 Realizing Difference and LGBTQ+ Awareness 11:46 Authenticity and Coming Out Journey 15:58 Career Path and Leadership Insights 20:10 The Role of Stonewall and Personal Connection 23:40 Navigating the Culture War for LGBTQ+ Rights 26:42 Stonewall's Vision and Strategy for 2026 30:22 Balancing Urgency and Strategy in Advocacy 35:36 The Role of Businesses in Promoting Inclusion 39:46 The Impact of Politicization on LGBTQ+ Lives 47:56 Advice for the Younger LGBTQ+ Generation Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

Joe McElderry first captured the hearts of the nation when he won The X Factor in 2009. But behind the headlines, chart success and sold-out tours was a young man still figuring out who he was. In this episode of Queer Talker, Joe joins Ben Cicchetti to reflect on the extraordinary journey from winning one of the UK’s biggest television shows to finding comfort in his own identity and creative voice. Joe opens up about navigating fame at just 18 years old, realising he was gay while living life in the public eye, and the surreal experience of seeing his coming out story splashed across the front page of every national newspaper. We also discuss his incredible career since The X Factor, performing with George Michael, the lessons he’s learned from nearly two decades in the music industry, and why turning 30 changed his perspective on success, authenticity and happiness. Plus, Joe shares the story behind his brilliant new single Love Me Out Loud, a heartbreak disco anthem inspired by artists like Robyn, Jessie Ware and Dua Lipa, and explains why now felt like the right time to return to pop music. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Joe McElderry 03:00 The Creative Process Behind New Music 06:01 Memorable Moments from X Factor 08:57 The Impact of George Michael 12:04 Navigating Fame and Personal Identity 15:03 Coming Out Journey 17:53 Life After Winning X Factor 25:14 The Journey of a Music Career 26:14 Reflecting on 'Wide Awake' Album 29:20 Exploring Musical Versatility 31:52 Finding Authenticity in Performance 34:53 The Joy of New Music: 'Love Me Out Loud' 38:10 The Creative Process Behind 'Love Me Out Loud' 40:45 Queer Joy and Community Spirit 46:06 The Impact of 'That's Ridiculous' Podcast 50:11 Advice to Younger Self Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti