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Building a strong, meaningful relationship with your daughter takes intention, patience, and a genuine commitment to growth—for both parent and child. That's the heartbeat of "The Dad and Daughter Connection," a podcast devoted to helping dads nurture confidence and independence in their daughters. In the latest episode, host Dr. Christopher Lewis sits down with returning guest Arpan Shah to discuss what it really takes to create lasting, positive connections, even in challenging circumstances. One of the episode's central themes is being truly present. Arpan Shah opens up about his journey as a dad navigating dual custody, and how—even when parenting comes with logistical and emotional hurdles—intentionally showing up matters more than perfection. He shares the powerful impact of simple, everyday rituals: from regular FaceTime check-ins and nighttime meditation to asking thoughtful questions like, "How did you help someone today?" or "What new thing did you learn?" Another key takeaway is the importance of leading by example. Children learn more from their parents' behaviors than their words. Arpan Shah explains how volunteering at school, coaching basketball, and making time for shared hobbies like hiking and music aren't just fun—they show his daughter that she is valued and supported, while modeling lifelong curiosity and resilience. Honesty and forgiveness are woven throughout the conversation. Both Dr. Christopher Lewis and Arpan Shah talk about the inevitable mistakes that come with parenting. The real magic, they suggest, happens when we use those moments to communicate openly, learn together, and even let our daughters teach us a thing or two about empathy. The episode is full of practical advice for fathers who want to build a deep, trusting relationship with their daughters, such as: Prioritizing quality time over material things or work distractions Supporting your child's interests—from robotics and coding to sports and music Establishing meaningful routines and traditions Creating space for honest, two-way conversations—even when they're tough Focusing on presence instead of perfection If you're looking for real stories and actionable insights to help you on your fatherhood journey, this podcast is for you. Tune in for inspiration, support, and a reminder that your heart already knows the way—sometimes, you just need to be still, listen, and be present. Subscribe today and start strengthening your bond. Listen to the latest episode of "The Dad and Daughter Connection" now! If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to The Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and The Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started. Because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to Work together on these relationships that we want to build with our daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:02]: And I just want to say thank you. Thank you for coming back every week, for you putting yourself out there, for wanting to continue to keep learning, to keep growing, and to keep being present for your daughters. Because that's what it's all about. Each one of us has to put in the work, put in the time to be able to do what we can to be able to help our daughters grow into the women that they're becoming. But also, we need to put in the time for ourselves to be able to be the fathers that we want to be. And that's why this show exists. This show exists because I want to provide you with resources that are going to help you, give you some tools for your toolbox that'll help you to be that dad that you want to be. As you know, I've got 2 daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:44]: I know you've got daughters. And I love being able to allow for you every week to learn something new from new people that can provide you with some of the experiences that they've had. in their life. Because every one of us as fathers is going to father in a different way. But we can learn from each other and take little pieces here and there to be able to help us be even better dads in the future. That's why every week I bring you a different guest, a different person with different experiences. And this week we've got another great guest. Arpan Shah is with us today. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:15]: And Arpan is a, actually a past guest of another podcast that I used to do called Dads with Daughters. And I was really excited to be able to ask him to come back to join us and to, and to have us have him back on to talk with us about his own journey as a father. And I'm really excited to introduce him to you. Arpan, thanks so much for being here today. Arpan Shah [00:02:38]: Thanks for having me, Chris. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:39]: I'm really excited to be able to have you here today and for you to share some of the experiences that you've had. I always start these interviews with an opportunity to learn a little bit more about you as a dad and talk about you and the relationship with your daughter. I guess first and foremost, as you think about the relationship that you have with your daughter, I know she's 9. So as you think back to that relationship that you have with her, what is one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share together with your daughter? And what made it so special? Arpan Shah [00:03:07]: I think the special moments is now that she's 9. My last podcast was when she was about 4 or 5. And I was in the midst of a really bad custody battle. And so I was going through all kinds of emotions that many fathers go through in the treacherous waters of family court. And so what has changed And what's meaningful now is those little random hugs and bursts of, I love you, for no absolute reason, where you can see the unconditional love just pouring out of each other's eyes and souls when you embrace your child. And knowing that you're doing a good job, knowing that she's smart, she's got a good heart, and that she is a kind person, and she helps me out as well. And those are some of the most meaningful little milestones. Just if we can have that connection as the child grows and blooms, to nurture that and to have a hand in that is extremely humbling. Arpan Shah [00:03:57]: And something to be very grateful for. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:58]: As you think about what you just said, each one of us is trying to do things to intentionally build those moments and be able to have those opportunities to be able to connect with our daughters. What are some intentional ways that you've worked to strengthen your bond with your daughter, especially during challenging times? Arpan Shah [00:04:16]: Well, recently, as she's gotten older, this is much different, as I have not pondered these questions you've asked for some time now, is There is a struggle when she goes from home to home. Our parenting schedule is such where she is 7 days with me with a break in the middle where there's a date night with the other parent and with her mother. And then on 7 days with her mom, I have a date night in the middle of the week as well. So during those times, there are FaceTime calls every day. And then we do a check-in. We meditate or pray every night before going to sleep. And the way I started that was a count to 10, just a breathing to 10 where you clear your mind for those 10 seconds. And I kind of assist her in doing so. Arpan Shah [00:04:59]: So, and we'll take deep breaths, we'll hold them, we'll let them out, and we'll try to clear ourselves of all our thoughts and whatever might be on our minds. We just clear it. And it's just me and her, her voice and mine. And then we find peace. And then we touch base every day where that grows. I can get into that a little further, but I think that's something that everybody should do is just unwind with your child and debrief. How was your day today? What were some of your best moments of the day? How have you helped somebody today? What did you learn today? Those kind of questions are very important to ask. And then getting a habit of that, it keeps it in your mind throughout the day. Arpan Shah [00:05:35]: It helps you have a more positive impact as a parent. And then the child ponders those questions a lot more than you might think. Children learn more from behaviors than what you tell them to do. So it's important for you to exhibit that as well. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:46]: And following up with that, you talked a little bit about the fact that getting her back onto a routine and moving from routine to routine, and some fathers like yourself have a similar type of a family dynamic that has to happen based on time with mom, time with dad, you know, whatever the situation is. And you said that you've tried some different things that have worked, maybe some things that didn't work. For o

At the heart of The Dad and Daughter Connection, featured in this week's episode, is the steadfast belief that the strongest father-daughter relationships are built one intentional moment at a time. In a conversation brimming with honesty and warmth, Dr. Christopher Lewis sits down with Matt Haviland and his 20-year-old daughter, Olivia Haviland, to explore what it truly means to connect, support, and empower our daughters to become confident, independent women. Listening With Intent One of the most powerful themes from this episode is the importance of truly listening. Olivia Haviland reflects on her high school years, sharing how her dad's willingness to listen without judgment made her feel seen and valued. Rather than resorting to harsh discipline, Matt Haviland chose to open a dialogue, striving to understand Olivia's perspective and guide rather than simply correct. This practice, inspired by a national survey in which teens wished their dads would "listen more," is a reminder for all fathers: be present, and let your daughter's voice be heard. Meaningful Moments Big and Small Connection isn't always about the grand gestures. Matt Haviland and Olivia share memories ranging from epic squirt gun battles to heartfelt college essays, and even "loud and obnoxious" declarations of love at McDonald's. Whether it's a shared joke, a drive together, or simply showing up at a dance recital, these moments accumulate into a reservoir of trust and comfort. As Olivia Haviland puts it, time spent together outweighs any material gift. Guidance and Independence Balancing guidance with independence is a recurring theme. Matt Haviland, a former single dad, emphasizes being intentional with the time he shared with Olivia, supporting her dreams while encouraging self-reflection and growth. For Olivia, this support translated into confidence in her career and life decisions—bolstered by her dad's encouragement to think long-term and his faith-based guidance. Real Advice for Real Dads This episode wraps with practical wisdom: prioritize time with your kids, apologize for your mistakes, and let your actions reflect your family values. Both Matt Haviland and Olivia Haviland urge dads everywhere to listen deeply and value presence over presents. Ready to strengthen your bond with your daughter? Listen to this heartfelt episode of The Dad and Daughter Connection and discover how every day can be an opportunity to connect, grow, and become the dad she needs. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to The Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and The Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to work together to build those connections that we want to have with our daughters one day at a time. You know, I love it that you come back every week because that shows a lot about who you want to be as a father, but also who you want to be and what type of relationship you want to have, relationship that you want to have with your daughter. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:16]: And it takes time, it takes effort, and it takes work. And we have to keep showing up. And it is so important for us to be able to put the work in for ourselves, but also put in the work with our daughters to be able to have that solid relationship that we wanna have. And that's why this podcast exists. Every week, I love being able to bring you different people with different experiences that allow for you to be able to learn, to grow, to get some tools for your toolbox, and to be able to take those and use them for the future. So I am really excited today to have a, I'm gonna say a return guest. It's not really a return guest on this show, but Matt Haviland, is with us. And Matt and his daughter are with us today, his daughter Olivia. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:02]: And Matt is a past guest of a past podcast that I did called Dads with Daughters about 4 years ago. And I'm really excited to be able to have Matt on, but also this time his daughter Olivia, to be able to talk about the relationship that they've been able to build together and also what they've learned along the way to share that with you. Matt, Olivia, thanks so much for being here today. Matt Haviland [00:02:26]: Yeah, Chris, thanks again for having me back. And this is a really It's a really special moment to have Olivia with me today. So say hi. Olivia Haviland [00:02:33]: Hi. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:33]: I'm really excited to have you both here. And I want to go back a little bit because I know, Olivia, you're 20. You know, you're an adult now. You're doing the life thing. You're doing the work thing. You're out there. And as you think back to the relationship that you've been able to build with your dad, what's one thing that your dad did for you that helped you and made you feel truly seen, heard, and valued as a daughter? Olivia Haviland [00:03:02]: Um, I would say in high school, I was struggling a lot with my mental health. And then I was getting myself into a little bit of trouble. And he didn't ground me. Well, there was like boundaries where he grounded me a little bit, but he was more open to like listening as of like why I did the things that I did, instead of just like not hearing me out and just screaming at me, taking my phone, not letting me hang out with my friends and everything. So that meant a lot to me. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:32]: And Matt, I guess, take me back to that point for you, because I know you had your own journey as a youth and went through your own stuff. And we talked about, we talked about a lot of that in the first interview that we did. So talk to me about that for you and hearing that from Olivia and how you had to be able to kind of take what you learned to be able to help her? Matt Haviland [00:03:57]: Yeah, I was very grateful for a lot of the experiences that I had, not only personally but also professionally or through mentorship as well. I guess where I can go with that, Chris, is Olivia was born when I was 30 years old, so I wasn't super young. So by the time she's in high school, you know, I'm in my mid-40s. I would like to say I've learned a few things over those 14 or 15 years of parenting her, but I also Just like a lot of people, either parents or— I, I work with fathers also in a professional setting. You know, we learn a lot from our own previous experiences. So the things my own parents did or did not do, so learning how to correct that and apply that as much as possible. Plus working in a fatherhood field for so long, I've obviously picked up tips, either again things that I've taught guys or other men have taught me as well. But it really becomes a lot different instead of me just telling a dad what to do when I actually have to live this out. Matt Haviland [00:04:54]: But I think I could attribute a lot of it to— I was at a conference many years ago, probably 2010, 2012, and they revealed a survey result, a national survey, and they said all these teen kids wish their dad would fill in the blank. And the number one answer was listen more. And that was something that, just like Olivia just said, instead of flying off the handle, telling her how much trouble she's in, let me hear her out first. Olivia Haviland [00:05:18]: Yeah. Matt Haviland [00:05:19]: And then we can go from there. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:20]: Now I know that a lot of times, Matt, we as fathers are trying to build those moments, those meaningful moments that connect us with our kids. And what is one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with Olivia and what made it so special? Matt Haviland [00:05:35]: Okay, she said the water fight, so clearly that must have been one. It was April Fool's Day, probably about 4 or 5 years ago. She pranked me in the house and that turned out to a full-blown squirt gun war in the house, actually Super Soakers in the house. Olivia Haviland [00:05:49]: Well, I pranked him once and then he forgot to take the tape off the faucet and pranked himself again. Matt Haviland [00:05:55]: Yeah, she did the old, you know, she tied the rubber band around the sprayer on the kitchen sink. So when I turned on the kitchen sink faucet, it hit me, and then I shut it off and hit myself again. And yes, that is a very— we're gonna remember that forever, having a squirt gun fight in the house. Not recommended. My wife had something to say about it when she got home, but it was very meaningful. Another really meaningful moment on a more emotional level was a couple years ago, Olivia wrote a paper for college, and they were to choose somebody that's inspired them inspired them, and she wrote the paper about me. And it starts out with the words, I am who I am today because of my dad. And I don't th

If you're a dad on a mission to forge a lasting, meaningful bond with your daughter, "The Dad and Daughter Connection" should be your next podcast download. In a recent episode, host Dr. Christopher Lewis sits down with John Azoni, a father of two daughters (ages 9 and 11), who opens up about the real joys and sometimes messy challenges of raising confident, independent girls. Intentionality and Presence From the very start, Dr. Christopher Lewis sets the tone: fatherhood isn't about achieving perfection, but about truly connecting and learning as you go. Each week, the podcast dives into stories and practical advice to help dads show up with intention. As John Azoni shares, "There's no one right way to father our daughters," but we can always add new tools to our toolbox by learning from each other. Creating Meaningful Memories A standout theme of this episode is making memories, both big and small. John Azoni recounts an unforgettable trip to Japan with his daughter for her 10th birthday—a tradition inspired by a parenting book. But the heart of the conversation reveals that it's often the simplest moments, like cooking together or going for wonton soup every Thursday, that mean the most. One-on-one time, even a half hour at bedtime, can become the foundation for lifelong connections. Honesty, Growth, and Mistakes Both John Azoni and Dr. Christopher Lewis candidly discuss the challenges—especially during difficult times like COVID or navigating questions around faith. John Azoni is honest about making mistakes, from losing patience to not always having the answers. The key lesson? "I make a lot of mistakes and I've learned to be okay with that… I want my kids to grow up and know their dad was crazy about them." Encouragement to Other Dads The episode wraps with powerful advice: Be intentional. Don't let stress distract you from what really matters. As John Azoni puts it, "The grass is greener where you water it"—the relationships you invest in now will shape the future. If you're a dad, or know someone who is, this episode is a must-listen. It's a heartfelt reminder that showing up, being present, and embracing imperfection are the real keys to building an unbreakable bond with your daughter. Listen to the full episode of The Dad and Daughter Connection to get inspired and start your journey toward a stronger relationship today! If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to The Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and The Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there, it's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to connect with one another and work on building those that we want with our daughters one day at a time. I love that you come back every week because all of us are on a journey. Whether you have toddlers, whether you have a baby at home, whether you have teenagers at home, whether you have adult kids, we all are on this continuum of being a father to a daughter. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:19]: And we can always learn more. We can always learn more to help us to be able to be better in the role that we have. We're gonna stumble, we're gonna fall, That's okay. All of us do it. There's no one right way to father our daughters. But what we can do is we can learn from other dads what's working for them, what's not working for them, and build some tools for our own toolbox, add some tools for our own toolbox, and be able to get just that much better every day because that's what we need to be doing. to be able to be there for our daughters. That's what we need to be doing to be able to be present. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:59]: And I am really excited to have another new guest this week. John Azoni is with us today, and John's a father of 2 daughters who are 9 and 11. And we're gonna be talking about the journey that he's been on with his daughters. And I'm really excited to have him here today. John, thanks so much for being here. John Azoni [00:02:15]: Thanks for having me. It's great to be here. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:17]: You know, it's really, I'm really excited to be able to have you here today and to be able to talk to you about the journey that you have been on thus far with your daughters. And I guess one of the things that I always think about when it comes to raising our daughters is we're always running after those moments. We want those moments with our kids. And as you think back to the years that you've had with your daughters thus far, what's one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with them and what made it so special? And one thing I'll add is they could be separate moments as well. John Azoni [00:02:49]: So I read this book a number of years ago called Love Does. The author is Bob Goff and it's a faith-based book. And in it, he talks a lot about parenting. parenting. And he told the story of taking his kids when they turned 10 on a trip anywhere in the world they want to go to, really leaning into what is it that they are becoming, what is it that they're interested in, and, and where can we go in the world to kind of deepen that. And so I always thought that that was a cool idea. And my daughter, when she turned 10 last year, my daughter Ellie, in my mind I was kind of like maybe somewhere in the United States. I don't remember explicitly saying anywhere in the world. John Azoni [00:03:25]: So when my daughter was like, I want to go to Japan, I was like, oh, okay. Well, so after a lot of hemming and hawing, I talked to my wife. She's like, just do it. It's like once in a lifetime. We're like, all right, we're going to Japan. So, so we went to Tokyo last May and it was so cool just to learn about another culture together, to really press into, you know, the stuff that she likes. She's really into K-pop. It's obviously not in Korea, but somewhere over there. John Azoni [00:03:54]: She's into that kind of Asian culture and Hello Kitty. And they have the biggest Hello Kitty store in the world there, uh, video games and arcades where she can and do all the— she loves playing those claw games, which are really popular in Asian countries. So, so it was great. I mean, we just traveled around, we ate good food, we went to Paris Disney, um, and just spent a week together. That— and, and even just like, it was a pretty short trip, but— and people were like, well, you're just going for like 5 days? Like, aren't you gonna be— I mean, like, a big part of that is just traveling, you know? By the time you get there, I think we had 3 full days there. And I was just like, you know, it's, it's the adventure. It's like traveling is, is part of it. We're gonna learn how to do the airport together. John Azoni [00:04:30]: So on the way there, I kind of led the charge, but on the way back I was like, All right, where do you think we should turn to get to baggage claim or stuff like that? Or where do you think we should go to get our bags checked? So that was fun. And, you know, I've had other special experiences with my youngest daughter, Ryland. Currently though, we're planning her trip. She wants to go to Paris. So we're planning on going to Paris next year. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:50]: Those will be experiences that they will never forget. And definitely you don't have to do these huge moments. They can be small moments as well. But I had an experience like that last year with my oldest who is in college, but she was out in Colorado and I picked her up from a camp she was working in and we spent a week going to all the national parks all around in that area. So we went to Zion and Bryce and Grand Canyon and Petrified Forest, all kinds of places. And we hiked and we just had an amazing experience. And I think when you have those opportunities, not only are they great opportunities to be able to have to build memories, but you have time one-on-one. And I think that's even more important. John Azoni [00:05:32]: Yeah, one-on-one time is really special. So last weekend, my oldest daughter went to Florida with my wife because she does dance, and her dance group went to go perform at Disney in the parade. And so that was just a life dream of hers. And she got this one-on-one time with my wife. And previously, we were kind of like, all right, we're Disney'd out. We've been to Disney World. We've been on a Disney cruise. I took Ellie to Disney in Tokyo. John Azoni [00:05:58]: And we've been to Disneyland when we went to California last year. And my wife was kind of like, all right, this is the last time I got to go to Disney. And then I get a text from her in the middle of it. She's like, this is so great. It's such a different experience being one-on-one with Ellie and we're just having the best time. And at the same time, I'm home with Ryland and we had our own special weekend. We,

Are you a dad searching for practical ways to foster a stronger bond and raise your daughter to be capable, resilient, and self-assured? The latest episode of The Dad and Daughter Connection is a must-listen. Host Dr. Christopher Lewis welcomes Lenore Skenazy, journalist, author, and founder of the Free-Range Kids movement, for a timely, inspiring discussion on balancing love, trust, and independence in parenting. Challenging the Culture of Fear One of the episode's powerful themes is how today's parents are conditioned to overprotect. Lenore Skenazy recounts the story that ignited her movement: letting her nine-year-old son navigate the New York City subway alone, only to face national backlash and probing "what ifs" from the media. As Lenore Skenazy explains at 10:01, our culture fixates on the rarest tragedies—like stranger abductions—despite statistical evidence showing how unlikely they are. This fear loop not only restricts children's experiences but also saps much of the joy and pride of seeing them grow. The Power of Trust and Letting Go Dr. Christopher Lewis and Lenore Skenazy discuss the essential "trust loop," where letting children try things on their own—whether it's walking to the store or making pancakes—builds both competence and confidence. As Lenore Skenazy beautifully puts it at 30:28, "When adults step back, kids step up." True confidence, she explains, grows from real experiences and problem-solving, not empty reassurance. Practical Steps for Parents The episode offers actionable advice for dads: let your kids help (even messily) when they're small, encourage them to do things by themselves, and support their social independence with unstructured play. Check out the suggestions at 27:18—like organizing Free Play Fridays or starting your own "let grow" experiences. Not only will your children blossom, but you'll also rediscover the pride that comes from witnessing their real-world triumphs. Join the Movement This episode isn't just for dads. Anyone who wants to see children thrive in today's anxious, scheduled world should tune in. Lenore Skenazy shares hope, humor, and evidence-based insights that will inspire you to let go—and let grow. Ready to break the cycle and raise the confident daughter you know she can be? Listen to the full conversation now at dadanddaughterconnection.com and join a community of dads committed to showing up, connecting, and empowering the next generation. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to The Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and The Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started. Because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to connect with not only one another, but But to be able to work and grow, to be able to become those dads that we wanna become and to be able to build the relationships and the connections that we want to build with our daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:11]: I love it that you come back every week because every week there is something new that you can learn, some new tools you can add into your toolbox and things that you can do to be able to move yourself just maybe a little bit, maybe a lot, to be able to help you to be that dad that you want to be To your daughters. And that's why this podcast exists. Every week I bring you different people. We have different conversations, all in alignment to help you to be able to move forward one step at a time. It's not always gonna be easy. Being a father is not always gonna be easy, and that's okay. That's why I love being able to walk with you on this journey. You know, I'm a father of 2 daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:52]: There are times that I stumble and fall and make mistakes just like you, but we all can learn. One step at a time. And today we've got another great guest. Lenore Skenazy is with us today, and I'm really excited to be able to have Lenore on because if you've ever wondered whether kids are being overprotected or whether parents are under more pressure than ever, then you're going to enjoy today's conversation because Lenore Skenazy, who is a journalist, she's an author, she's founder of the Free-Range Kids Movement, is with us today. Now, she's often called America's worst mom after allowing her 9-year-old son to ride the subway alone, Lenore turned that experience into a national conversation about raising capable, confident children. Today, through the nonprofit Let Grow, she continues to help families and schools foster independence, resilience, and real-world confidence in kids. Lenore, thanks so much for being here today. Lenore Skenazy [00:02:49]: Well, thank you. Thanks for having me. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:51]: I'm really excited to have you here today. And I always start these conversations with just an opportunity to be able to get to know you and get to know your relationship with your own father, because all of us have fathers, that have helped us to become the people that we've become. And I guess as you think back to your dad, and I know as we, we talked at the very beginning, your dad's been gone for a number of years, but as you think back to the relationship that you had with your father, what's one of the things that your father did that made you truly feel seen, heard, and valued as a daughter? Lenore Skenazy [00:03:21]: Well, I'll tell you one of the things he didn't do, and I think that was the most significant, which is that he didn't expect me or my sister— my dad had 2 daughters just like you— to be anything in particular. We didn't have to be doctors, lawyers. We almost didn't have to be successful. We just had to be ourselves. And ironically, he was so into sports. He was so into sports that he started a tennis club. That was his job for the last 30 years of his life. He built one of the first indoor tennis clubs in the suburbs of Chicago where we grew up. Lenore Skenazy [00:03:51]: Beautiful place. He was the president of it until the day he died. Ran tennis clinics and tennis parties and tennis tournaments. And my sister and I never had to play tennis. And I thought, that is pretty amazing. You know, it's not like my kid has to be a mini-me. We didn't have to be mini-anythings. And I was really grateful for that because I was never interested in any sport. Lenore Skenazy [00:04:14]: And that didn't bother him as much as he loved sports. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:17]: As you think back on your dad, how did he encourage you to be confident and independent in the things that you were doing and to support you in the passion and the dreams that you had? Lenore Skenazy [00:04:29]: Well, here's the deal. He always believed in me and my sister that anything we were ready to do, that was fine. And as he got older, the thing that, that we would have the most fun with is he would call up and, and he ended up in a wheelchair for like the last 12 years. So he's looking for fun. And it was always, Laura, tell me a joke, because we just love jokes. It was the era when people did tell whole long jokes. You know, a guy walks into a bar, a man's, uh, you know, guys on a golf course, whatever it was. And I don't say that he turned me into a public speaker, but he certainly realized the value of good timing and trying to get that, nail that punchline. Lenore Skenazy [00:05:09]: And knowing that part of, I just read the book A Gentleman in Moscow by, I guess, Amor Towles. And one sentence he said in there struck me as so profound. It's the novel of a guy confined to a luxury hotel since the beginning of the Russian Revolution until he's very aged. And he adapts to the fact that he'll never be able to leave this hotel. And at first, he's just a rich guy, and then he ends up getting a job there. And he's— everything he does, he does with incredible aplomb and tact and kindness. And towards the end, he said, a cheerful demeanor, which is the hallmark of an intelligent person, blah, blah, blah. And I thought, being cheerful is— it's an obligation, right? And you can rise to it. Lenore Skenazy [00:05:52]: And it is the mark of somebody smart, not somebody silly and goofy, because it means that you're putting somebody else's emotions sometimes ahead of your own. Speaker D [00:06:01]: Yeah. Lenore Skenazy [00:06:01]: And also recognizing that the sort of the more cheerful you are, certainly the more you try to put yourself out there, it pays you back. And so everybody, it's the rising tide for all the boats, all those glum boats out there. And my dad was always trying to do that. You know, he would ask the waitress, honey, what's your name? Oh, okay, Samantha. I would love a cup of coffee. And he had a way of trying to bring things up. And he expected that of me. And I am grateful for that. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:06:32]: Now, I know you said yo

Hey everyone, I wanted to take a few minutes to share a little change that's coming to The Dad & Daughter Connection. For the past several years, I've been bringing you a new episode every single week, and I am incredibly grateful for everyone who listens, shares an episode, recommends the podcast to a friend, or simply takes the time to tune in. This podcast means a lot to me, and getting to have conversations with amazing dads, daughters, authors, experts, and people who have something meaningful to teach us about fatherhood has been an incredible journey. But I've also been reminded of something that I talk about on this podcast all the time: being present matters. As much as I love doing this podcast, I'm also a dad, a husband, and someone with a lot of other responsibilities and commitments. And I've realized that trying to maintain a weekly schedule can sometimes mean I'm stretching myself a little too thin. So, beginning today, The Dad & Daughter Connection will be moving from a weekly podcast to an every-other-week schedule. Now, I want to be very clear: this isn't about slowing down or giving you less. In fact, it's about making sure I can continue giving you the kind of conversations and content you've come to expect from this podcast. I want to have the time to find great guests, ask thoughtful questions, have meaningful conversations, and produce episodes that are worth your time. And just as importantly, I want to make sure I'm protecting time for the people who matter most to me—my family. Because if I'm going to spend my time talking about the importance of being present for our daughters, I need to make sure I'm practicing what I preach. So, you're still going to hear the stories, the conversations, the laughs, and hopefully a few things that make you think differently about being a dad and raising strong, confident, independent daughters. You'll just hear them every other week instead of every week. I hope you'll stick with me for the journey. And if you've been listening all along, thank you. I truly appreciate you being part of The Dad & Daughter Connection community. Until next time, keep connecting with your daughters, keep having those important conversations, and most importantly, keep showing up.

This week's episode of "The Dad and Daughter Connection" delves into the evolving journey of fatherhood, offering a heartfelt conversation with author and workplace culture expert Ed Frauenheim. Through candid storytelling and honest reflection, the episode explores what it really means to support our children—especially when their paths unfold in ways we never expected. Dr. Christopher Lewis opens with his signature warmth, reminding listeners that the core of fatherhood isn't perfection, but presence. The conversation quickly pivots to Ed Frauenheim's personal growth as a father to Skyla, his strong-willed, non-binary child. Their story is not just about adjusting to pronouns or grappling with change, but about learning the art of persistent, trusting connection. One major theme running through the conversation is trust. Ed Frauenheim candidly shares early struggles trying to control Skyla, only to discover the power of letting go—of giving space, listening deeply, and trusting his child's autonomy. He admits the journey wasn't always smooth, referencing honest and sometimes painful moments of conflict that led to growth. It's the small shifts—choosing to draw beside Skyla instead of insisting on homework—that became turning points, building a deeper bond rooted in respect. The episode masterfully unpacks the challenges of moving past parental expectations when faced with a child's evolving identity. Ed Frauenheim reflects on the initial mourning and adjustments after Skyla came out as non-binary, and the courage it took to support them fully, even in spaces steeped in traditional notions of masculinity. Through his vulnerability, listeners are offered a blueprint for embracing discomfort as a catalyst for connection and understanding. Additional highlights include practical tips for other dads: creating a home where listening is prioritized, learning together about new concepts, and bringing levity to sensitive journeys through shared experiences. Ed Frauenheim emphasizes the value of apologizing, modeling openness, and never giving up on the pursuit of genuine connection. If you're a parent, caregiver, or anyone seeking to better support the young people in your life, this episode is a must-listen. It's a tribute to adaptability, unconditional love, and the transformative power of trust. Tune in for actionable wisdom, moving anecdotes, and inspiration to keep showing up, even when the path is uncertain. Catch the full episode at dadanddaughterconnection.com, and remember—the journey isn't about being perfect. It's about being present, persistent, and ready to grow. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to The Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and The Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started. Because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity, we have a great opportunity to be able to come together to and grow together to be able to work on those relationships that we want to have with our daughters, to help us to be able to create those solid relationships, those solid bonds that are going to help our daughters to become the people that they are becoming in their lives. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:15]: That's why, that's why every week I love being able to introduce you to people with different experiences, people from all different types of walks of life that have had different experiences that'll help you to be able to, I guess, in a way, reframe and to think about How are you fathering? Because not every father will father in the same ways, and that's perfectly fine. What's important is that we learn along the way. We take those bits that make sense. Maybe we adjust those things that don't work for our family, and we help ourselves to become just a little bit better every day. Because by us becoming a little bit better, our kids are going to be better, and we're going to be able to have those relationships and those— and build those connections that are going to last a lifetime. This week, we got another great guest. Ed Frauenheim is with us. And Ed is an author, a researcher, a speaker, and a workplace culture expert whose work explores how redefining masculinity can help men lead healthier, more connected, and more fulfilling lives. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:19]: He's a co-author of Reinventing Masculinity: The Liberating Power of Compassion and Connection, a book that examines the shift from outdated restrictive ideas of manhood toward a more compassionate and emotionally healthy vision of masculinity. And in addition to his work on masculinity, he's also, also a father of 2. We're going to talk about his own journey as a father. And we're going to be able to talk a little bit further about what he's had to go through in this journey that he's been on as well. So I'm really excited to have him here. Ed, thanks so much for being here today. Ed Frauenheim [00:02:53]: Thanks, Christopher. It's a real pleasure to be with you here. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:56]: It's my pleasure having you here today. And I, I'm going to be very honest with Everyone that Ed has been on a podcast with me before, he and I did a podcast on my past podcast, Dads with Daughters. And on that podcast, we talked a lot more about Reinventing Masculinity. We're not going to talk as much about the book this go around. So I encourage you that if you want to learn a lot more about Reinventing Masculinity, I talked to Ed right when that book came out. So I encourage you to go over, I'll put a link in the notes today where you can find that other podcast. And you can listen there and learn even more. And but Today what we're going to do is first we're going to start off by chatting a little bit more about being a father. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:38]: And we're going to talk about some of the journey that you've been on. And I know you have 2 kids, you have a son, and then you have a non-binary child that at birth was a daughter and now is non-binary. And we're going to talk about that journey as well. So I always start off with a few questions that just to get a little bit of a sense about you as a dad. Ed Frauenheim [00:03:56]: Okay. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:56]: And one of the things that I love being able to delve a little bit into is as fathers, one of the things that we try to do is we try to create those moments, those moments where we can really bond with our kids, really be able to share special times and special moments with our kids as well. What's one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with your youngest and what made it so special? Ed Frauenheim [00:04:20]: Thanks for that great question, Christopher. The one that comes to mind with my child Skyla, as you mentioned, Skyla was born in a female body and now identifies as non-binary. Maybe when Skyla was 9 or so, we were butting heads a lot. We were in conflict in, in part because Skyla is quite strong-willed and I can be a little bit controlling as well, or especially back then as a dad. And I remember this moment where I was in charge of making sure the kids, and Skyla in particular, got started on their homework. And I said, Skyla, time to do your homework now. And Skyla had been doing something with like cutouts and, and making some drawings, and they said, I'm, I'm, I'm almost done. Why don't you draw with me. Ed Frauenheim [00:05:02]: And I did. I kind of let down my kind of controlling guard, if you will, and immersed myself a bit in Skyla's world. And they were making these interesting characters, cartoon characters. I can't remember the name right now, but I learned how Skyla was drawing them, and I drew my own, and it was a loving experience. And then after we did that for maybe 20, 30 minutes, Skyla happily went on to her homework. their homework. And I say her there, Christopher, because you and I were talking before the podcast started about how it's— I'm still struggling to get the pronouns right, even though I'm trying to honor as best I can Skyla's non-binary identity. But many years of calling Skyla by female pronouns are still hard to shake sometimes. Ed Frauenheim [00:05:43]: And Skyla, to their credit, gives me a lot of grace, a lot of room for growth there, and does not jump down my throat when I throw out a she or her. So anyways, to me, it was a moment of connection, a moment of realizing I could trust my child. I could trust that I didn't have to be this disciplinarian and give more space in the relationship and really kind of honor Skyla's will to chart their course and figure out what they want to do and when. And yeah, I had some boundaries to set, but being a little flexible in that moment really made a difference and I think helped us to repair a bond that wasn't so strong and has gotten stronger ever since in a lot of ways. Dr. C

This week on The Dad and Daughter Connection, Dr. Christopher Lewis welcomed adventurer and performance coach Alan Mallory for an inspiring conversation on what it means to truly connect with your daughters. If you're a dad seeking real-world advice, heartfelt stories, and strategies to build stronger family ties, this episode is a must-listen. One of the most impactful themes that emerged is the importance of quality time and shared adventures. Alan Mallory talked passionately about how he's embraced experiences with his two daughters, from spontaneous ski trips to months traveling across the country in a fifth wheel trailer. These journeys provided special opportunities, not just for fun, but for deep conversations and growth. "When it's just the two of us, you can connect on a deeper level," he shared, highlighting the magic of one-on-one time. But beyond the adventures, Alan Mallory emphasized the vital balance between guidance and independence. He champions a parenting style rooted in mentorship rather than control: "You can't dictate the direction… you have to give them that latitude". This philosophy was shaped by his own experiences, like summiting Mount Everest alongside his family—and by seeing how trust and empowerment forge the strongest bonds. Another powerful thread: fostering communication and emotional growth. Mallory admitted to struggling at times, especially when it comes to connecting on the emotional level, teaching us all that vulnerability makes for better dads: "I could probably think of a few times where I should have been more empathetic… and just listened". It's a message that resonates—sometimes the greatest gift we can offer is our presence and our ears. For dads supporting daughters' passions or mental health journeys, this episode is rich with wisdom: encourage experimentation, be the gentle guide, and above all, show up—time is fleeting, and investing those hours pays lifelong dividends. The Dad and Daughter Connection is a source of community and inspiration for fathers everywhere. Whether you're seeking reassurance or a nudge to start a new adventure, tune in—this conversation with Alan Mallory will remind you that being a great dad is about being present, facing the adventures together, and empowering your daughter to blaze her own trail. Ready to strengthen your bond? Listen to the episode now and start building those lasting connections! If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to talk about, but also work on those relationships that we want to build with our own daughters one step at a time. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:04]: And I'm so excited that you come back every week because we're all on a journey. We're all on a journey of trying to be the best dads that we want to be and the best dads that we can be. But to get there, we've got to put in the time. We got to put in the effort. We got to learn from other dads around us and see what they're doing, see what makes sense and what works for them. But maybe, maybe that will work for you as well, and that's why this podcast exists. This podcast exists to help you to be able to connect with other dads, but also to learn from some other dads that have different experiences. And I love being able to bring you different people with different experiences every week that can do just that. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:39]: Today we got another great guest. Alan Mallory is with us. And Alan is a dynamic speaker. He's an author, he is a performance coach. But I saw him at a recent conference, and he was really talking about some of the things that he's done in his life to push himself beyond who he thought he was and who he thought he could be. He. In his presentations, he gives kind of a unique blend of psychology, engineering, project management, and some artistic flair to be able to make the presentations really a dynamic one. And in the conversation that he gave to the Rotary group that I was with, I loved the message that he gave because he really rooted his messages in his experiences, both as an adventurer, a mountaineer, but really talking about the things that he's done with his family, to be able to keep them, to bring them together and seeing that he is a father. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:33]: Of two daughters. I wanted to bring him on to talk a little bit about his own experience in being a father to daughters. So, Alan, thanks so much for being here today. Alan Mallory [00:02:41]: My pleasure. Looking forward to it. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:42]: Well, I'm really looking forward to talking to you today. And as I said, even before we started, I said this is kind of a topic that's a little bit different than ones that probably you talk about all the time. And I always start the interviews with an opportunity because I know that you have two daughters yourself, 12 and 8. And all of us as fathers want to create those moments, those meaningful moments, those things that we can share with our daughters that they'll remember but also will remember and that bring us closer together. What's one's, what's, what is the most meaningful moment that you've been able to share with your daughters and what made it so special? Alan Mallory [00:03:15]: I don't know if I could boil it down to one meaningful moment, but I mean, I've kind of emulated what my father did with me and my siblings and that spend a lot of quality time, especially out doing adventures with. With my kids. And so in many ways, I'm kind of blessed in the vocation I've chosen. I because I'm traveling all over the place, often I' bring one of my kids along and both my daughters always spent some amazing quality time. Even this past winter, different ski trips, for example, where it's just kind of a dad daughter ski trip, or when I have events in Hawaii or in kind of tropical locations, often they put their heads up to come along with those. And I found those particularly special when it's just the two of us and you can kind of connect on a deeper level and just have fun as well. It's not a chore if you're doing things that you would normally like to do anyway and that they'll like to do. And so we go kayaking or stand up paddleboarding or do some sort of adventure. Alan Mallory [00:04:11]: And I found those are the most special moments. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:14]: Now your daughters are getting older and you've got that daughter that's a pre tween now and another daughter following not too far behind. And as they get older, they definitely push to get more independence. How do you balance guiding your daughters while still giving them that independence that they need to be able to grow into the people that they're bec. Alan Mallory [00:04:34]: Yeah, I mean, that's the balance that's hard to strike. And we, all of us, that are parents really go through that. One of my programs I share kind of A curve between. It's a parabolic relationship in that you have a mentor role that you want to kind of nudge your daughters in the right direction or what you believe is the right direction, but you can't dictate that direction. And that's what's almost makes the parenting journey such a roller coaster. They're their own people and sometimes they make. They need to learn through decisions that are made. And, you know, that's how we learn. Alan Mallory [00:05:03]: If we kind of prevent them from discovering and innovating and all of that, then they just end up with bigger problems down the road. And so it's through small. Allowing them the independence to make small mistakes in many ways, while providing that father mentor role that I think allows them to develop healthily. And it's a difficult balance to get. And I would say in many ways it's a balance that our society has really gone one way on. And that's this kind of, you know, over controlling, bubble wrapping our children rather than allowing them to make mistakes in life, for example. But if you want them to be strong, independent people, you have to give them that latitude. I'd say that's another thing that I learned from my father, for good or bad. Alan Mallory [00:05:46]: You know, he was always a very empowering person. We climbed Mount Everest in 2008, and this was with my father, brother, sister and I. And so also I was kind of learning from how he treated all of us, especially my sister in this case. There was one instance where basically we were in the death zone above 26,000ft. And he empowered her to kind of make her own decision, whether she wanted to continue on or not. And she was all by herself at that point because she had the altitude weakens your immune system. And so she had these awful sicknesses and she had

If you're a dad searching for practical wisdom and heartfelt inspiration on building stronger connections with your daughter, you won't want to miss the latest episode of the Dad and Daughter Connection podcast. Host Dr. Christopher Lewis sits down with Jared Mees, father, creative, and co-founder of Tender Loving Empire, for a candid conversation about the joys, challenges, and real-life lessons of fatherhood. This episode dives deep into what meaningful connection really looks like between dads and daughters. Jared Mees shares his biggest bonding moments, like the summer road trips he's taken with his daughters since they were little—unstructured adventures that have become cherished family memories. Whether braving uncomfortable camping trips or hours on the road, these simple, unplugged experiences spark genuine connection, laughter, and character-building for all. As daughters grow up, the balancing act for dads shifts. Jared Mees opens up about learning to give his daughters independence as they get older—recognizing when to lean in, when to back off, and how to be present even when they aren't seeking attention. For his younger daughter, it's about reading and drawing together. For his teen, it's understanding late-night chats and respecting her space. One of the most powerful parts of the episode centers on vulnerability. Jared Mees shares honestly about a mental health crisis he faced and how it affected his family. Learning to admit mistakes, say "Daddy was wrong," and seek real support reshaped his relationship with his daughters. His openness models strength and resilience—and shows that kids benefit deeply from witnessing their parents' growth and recovery. Other themes include the importance of encouraging kids' passions without taking over, calling out the specific things that make them unique, and navigating the emotional transitions as daughters become teens. Dr. Christopher Lewis and Jared Mees also discuss letting go of ego, embracing imperfection, and being consistent in small, everyday ways. If you're ready to hear authentic stories and actionable advice about being the dad your daughter needs—through life's ups, downs, and transitions—be sure to tune in. Head to dadanddaughterconnection.com, catch the latest episode, and start building those lifelong bonds, one day at a time. Don't miss this uplifting and honest look at fatherhood—listen now! If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to work together, to work on identifying ways in which we can build those relationships that we want to have with our daughters one day at a time. It is going to be a journey. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:09]: Having those perfect relationships is going to come in ebbs and flows. It's not always going to be easy, but there are things that you can do to make it a little bit better one day at a time. And that's why this show exists. This show exists to be able to give you some tools for your toolbox, for you to be able to learn, to grow and to be able to be that dad that you want to be showing up for your daughter every day. That's why every week, I love being able to bring you different dance with different experiences to help you to be able to see fatherhood in a little bit of a different way and to be able to see how they are fathering their own daughters, to be able to help you in your journey. Today we got another great guest. Jared Mees is with us today, and Jared is someone I've known for a number of years. Jared was on another podcast that I used to have called Dads with Daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:01]: And at that time, it was about four years ago, we were chatting about some music that he was making with his daughters, and his daughters keep growing as they always do. So I'm excited to be able to have him back, to be able to talk about how things are going today and be able to check back in. Jared, thanks so much for being here today. Jared Mees [00:02:20]: Thanks so much, Chris. Appreciate it. Excited to be here. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:23]: Well, I'm really excited to have you here today, and I always loved starting the conversation because this show is all about connection and how you build those meaningful connections with your daughters. And I. I know you have two daughters yourself. What would you say is one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with your daughters thus far and what made it so special? Jared Mees [00:02:41]: Yeah, I have two lovely daughters. Piper is 8 and she's almost 9. And July is 14 going on 24. So we're. I'm super blessed to have them in my life. And I always thought I'd be a dad of a son or something before I had kids. But then, now that I have two daughters, I wouldn't have it any other way. Of course, they're definitely lights of my life. Jared Mees [00:03:03]: They're both totally individual, different human beings, and they both need completely different things. And I try to provide it every day, whether I feel like it or not. And, you know, some days I succeed better than others, as we all do. But I would say, to answer your question, the biggest things that we do together are these road trips that we take every summer. Ever since COVID when Piper was two or three, two and a half, and July was eight, we've taken summer road trips to my hometown in Colorado from Oregon, where I live. So just driving around with them and exploring, mostly the western United States and just seeing things, camping. A lot of the. The funnest times are just when there's no real plan and we just get into something. Jared Mees [00:03:53]: We're on the beach or we're having a conversation around a fire, or just all the little things that happen along the way. But the road tr. Definitely, we've taken one every summer since 2020, and they're definitely a way to connect. And when I look back, I'm like, those are precious times. And, you know, they can be challenging. And sometimes the challenges, when you're away from your home and you're uncomfortable, you know, camping, they think they don't like camping, but every time we go camping, they have a great time. They can be, you know, character building. And so I remember those fondly. Jared Mees [00:04:29]: We're going on one this summer. This summer is going to be easy going. We're just going to go down the Oregon coast. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:34]: Those moments are so important, and they're going to be things that your daughters are going to think back on, remember fondly as they get older. Whether it's the. The fun times or the squabbles in the car, the moments where you pull off the road to be able to see something cool, you know, it's going to be those memories that they're going to relate to. So it's. It's so exciting to hear those things. Now, I know you said your daughters are getting older and, and as your daughters do get older, as all of us that have daughters get older, there is the struggle that we go through as dads, which is allowing for us to be able to help our daughters to find that balance, that balance in having independence while still being who they are. How do you balance guiding your daughter while also giving her the independence to grow into her own person? Jared Mees [00:05:26]: That's a great question. And I don't know that I really think about it as it's happening, but there's a lot of connection that I feel like I try to foster every day that just kind of lets them know that I'm there and that I'm around and present for them. I try to be there every day when they get home from school, there when they leave for school. And I think just the presence allows me to be just plugged into what they're going through on a hour to hour, day to day, week to week basis that I don't know, there's. That ends up. It makes it where I don't really get in their way so much. I would say we have a lot of things going on and so trying to just make space for the small things that they want to do. Like my 8 year old wants to play and you know, you don't always want to play, but you get down on the floor with them for 20 minutes and it means the world to them. Jared Mees [00:06:20]: And then my 14 year old wants space. And so sometimes that's just like coming in, saying hi and being like, I love you, what are you up to? And then if they don't want to talk, then just letting them have that moment and then eventually they come around and they want to talk. I noticed that my 14 year old really gets talkative right before bed and right before she goes to sleep, which is kind of like the time you want them to be winding down. And so just being around for the moments that they

In the latest episode of The Dad and Daughter Connection, host Dr. Christopher Lewis welcomes an extraordinary guest: former professional athlete, best-selling author, and inspirational speaker Chris Singleton. This heartfelt conversation dives deep into fatherhood, resilience, and the profound ways dads can nurture strong, confident daughters, even amidst life's toughest challenges. Chris Singleton opens up about the joy and responsibility of raising his young daughter, sharing intimate stories—like their first daddy-daughter dance—that remind us how essential it is to be present and cherish each moment. He emphasizes intentional fathering, recognizing that quality time matters more than quantity and that even simple routines, like reading together or affirming your child's beauty, play a vital role in building self-esteem and resilience. As Chris Singleton says, "Your presence, it matters. Even when you think they don't see you there… your presence, it matters" 28:18. A powerful part of the conversation addresses difficult topics: teaching compassion, navigating conversations about differences, and helping children process a sometimes divided world. Inspired by his personal journey through tragedy and the loss of his mother, Chris Singleton shares how he uses children's books and open dialogue to foster empathy and curiosity in his children. He encourages dads to model respect for all, even when encountering different beliefs or backgrounds, and to proactively address hard questions rather than shying away from them. Other highlights include practical advice for approaching conversations about race, mistakes Chris Singleton made early in fatherhood, and strategies for raising compassionate, curious kids in the age of social media. Vulnerability plays a central role; letting children see emotion and grief, he explains, not only builds trust but also reassures them that it's okay to feel and share openly. Ultimately, the episode offers a hopeful message: embracing love, forgiveness, and open-mindedness at home can prepare the next generation to lead with unity and understanding. To every dad looking to grow deeper connections with his daughter—and to anyone seeking inspiration in today's world—this episode is a must-listen. Hear the full story and practical tools by tuning in to The Dad and Daughter Connection—it may just change the way you parent, and the way you see the world. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started. Because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:53]: Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to talk together, to work together to help you to be able to make those meaningful connections with your daughters one step at a time. It's not always going to be easy. It takes time, it takes effort, and you do have to work at it. But it is so important to put in that work and to know that putting in that work is you are going to be able to build those connections and build those true bonds with your daughters that you want to have every week. I love being able to bring you different people with different experiences that are offering you an opportunity, an opportunity to be able to learn, to grow and to put some, I'm going to say, tools in your toolbox that you can take with you. And you may not take everything, but my hope is that you have an opportunity to be able to take something, whether it's one thing, five things, 10 things that you're like, ah, that's something that I'm connecting to. And, and today we got another great guest. Chris Singleton is with us. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:55]: And Chris is a former professional athlete who played for the Chicago Cubs. And following the loss of his mother in a racially motivated mass shooting, Chris has now become a nationally renowned inspirational speaker and best selling author. And he travels all over the United States and beyond to be able to spread a message of love, of compassion, and of really helping others to be able to think, think differently about the world around us and how we talk to one another, work with one another. But even beyond that, he's a father of three and he's got one daughter. So we're going to be talking about his own experience in being a father to a daughter. And we'll also talk about some of the journey that he's been on and some of the things that he has been doing with his own kids to be able to help them to live in the world that we're in today. So I'm really excited to have him here. Chris Singh, thank you so much for being here today. Chris SIngleton [00:02:53]: Absolutely, man. I'm grateful to be on talking about my baby girl. Girl, love it. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:57]: Well, I'm really excited to be able to be here today and to talk to you. I know we just saw each other at a recent conference that you were speaking at, and this is a topic that you don't always get to talk a lot about. You mentioned your daughter in your speech, but I love it when we get to delve into fatherhood. And I guess first and foremost, I wanted to ask you about that relationship with your daughter. And I know she's still young, but in her life so far and in your life with her so far, what's one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with your daughter thus far and what made it so special? Chris SIngleton [00:03:28]: Yeah, I think one of the most meaningful moments thus far is the first daddy daughter dance we did. You know, she's almost three. And so at two years old, that daddy daughter dance and she was actually dancing. I was like, oh, it's just going to be just her standing around and no, she was getting after dancing and wiggling and we had a great time. And there was a point where, you know, one of the older girls at their school started dancing with her and I just saw her. I was getting like a little emotional. Like, man, this is what a blessing it is that I get to be her dad and not only protect and provide for, but just be her friend. As she grows older and I'm looking at her, I just started getting emotional. Chris SIngleton [00:04:06]: So that was probably a moment where I actually stopped and just felt the moment. Because so frequently you have these experiences with your kids and you're just like, oh, it's an experience. You don't really stop and just take it all in. And that's one that I know in 20 years I'm going to remember that first daddy daughter dance that we did and how I was getting emotional. Like, man, how cool is that? I get to be her dad. So that was one so far. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:27]: And like you said, your daughter is still young, but I'm sure that there are some ways in which some intentional things that you're trying to do to be able to strengthen your bond with your daughter. So talk to me about some of those things that you tried to do intentionally with your daughter to be able to build that Unique bond with her versus what you're doing with your sons. Chris SIngleton [00:04:46]: Yeah. And I think it's super important because my boys, I coach them in baseball, I coach them in sports. And so she sees me doing this. We know. Even when we do bedtime, sometimes we'll take the boys to bed first, and they'll be talking about me coaching them. They'll be talking about something baseball. And then my dad said. Then my daughter says something about, hey, Daddy, what about me with ballerina? Or what about me with this? And I'm like, you know, daddy loves that too, sweetie. Chris SIngleton [00:05:09]: And, you know, I can't wait for you to go to your ballerina class on Friday. And so we have those same moments where it's like, yes, I have my time with my boys, and I kind of combine the time with the boys sometimes, but I need to do a little better about splitting them up. Hey, older son get some time. Younger son gets some time. And most of the time, it's like, hey, Daddy, with the boys. And then it's like, daddy with baby girl. And whether it's just reading with her the other night, I noticed it because I didn't notice this with my boys. How. Chris SIngleton [00:05:33]: And I don't know if you know, the stereotype is girls learn so much quicker. They're so much smarter than boys when they're young. But my daughter was literally sitting down in her. In the rocking chair that we usually sit in before bedtime, and she was flipping through this book as if she knew exactly what she was doing at 2 years old, and she's pretending like she's reading, and I'm sitting there smiling at her, and it was a beautiful moment. I've got this nickname for my daughter, and of course, I told you guys at the conference that I call her Chocolate Chip. And so every time I'll say, hey, who's my Chocolate Chip? And she's li

In the most recent episode of the Dad and Daughter Connection podcast, host Dr. Christopher Lewis welcomes special guest Colin Gray—podcaster, international speaker, founder of The Podcast Host, and a proud father—to discuss the evolving journey of fatherhood and the unique relationship fathers share with their daughters. This insightful conversation revolves around the central theme of connection: what it truly means to connect with your daughter as she grows, how that connection changes, and the intentional steps dads can take to foster it. Colin Gray reflects on his experience raising his now eleven-year-old daughter, candidly sharing that as children mature, simple activities like park visits or ice cream trips no longer hold the same power to bond as they once did. Instead, it's the "little weird normal moments"—joining in on a silly dance or matching her energy in the kitchen—that create genuine connections. He urges dads to let go of preconceived expectations and instead meet their daughters where they are, embracing who they're becoming. Another major theme is the balance between guiding and granting independence. Colin Gray shares that encouraging his children to try things for themselves, even if it means letting them fail, has been key to building their confidence and autonomy. It's about being there with support and constructive feedback, but resisting the urge to always be in control or solve every problem. Intentionality shines through as a guiding principle: intentionally seeking out your daughter's interests—even if they're outside your comfort zone—fosters meaningful conversations and establishes trust. Whether it's learning about makeup and hair to connect with his daughter, or simply being curious about her favorite YouTube trends, Colin Gray models engagement and the willingness to step into her world. The conversation is honest about parental imperfection—both Dr. Christopher Lewis and Colin Gray admit to making mistakes, but emphasize the importance of being open to feedback from their kids and growing together. They highlight the value of mutual respect, adaptability, and leading by example. This episode serves as a warm reminder that strong relationships aren't built on grand gestures, but on consistent presence, adaptability, and listening. If you're a dad looking for real advice, encouragement, and stories from the trenches of parenthood, don't miss this episode. Tune in to the Dad and Daughter Connection and keep building the bond your daughter needs—one moment at a time. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. Listen now and join the journey! TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to learn, to grow, to reach, work together on those relationships that we want to have with our daughters. And I say that it's learning and growing because every day we have to learn and grow. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:06]: We have to be willing to put ourselves out there. We have to be willing to set aside things that we think we know and go with the flow a lot of times with our daughters. And it's important to be able to talk to other fathers, learn from other fathers, hear what they're doing, and to gain some perspective, because we don't have all the answers. Let's be honest. None of us are infallible. There's going to be times where we make mistakes, and many of us may not have a lot of examples of what fatherhood is before we become fathers. So that's why every week, I love being able to have different people with different experiences that can offer you some different perspectives to help you in your own fatherhood journey. And today we got another great guest. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:51]: Colin Gray is with us, and Colin is known as the podcast host. Colin and I have known each other for a while, and I've loved listening to him and what he's been doing, but he's a podcaster, he's an international speaker, a he's founder of the podcast host and Alitu the podcast maker. But he started out in astrophysics before realizing how much math you had to do. So that being said, he turned to podcasting, and he has made a amazing, amazing life for himself and his family. And we'll talk a little bit about the journey that he's gone on, but also we're going to be talking about his own journey in his journey as a father to two kids and especially his oldest, his daughter. And I'm really excited to have him Here. Colin, thanks so much for being here today. Colin Gray [00:02:43]: No worries. Thanks for having me on. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:45]: It is my pleasure. I really appreciate you joining me. I know it's the evening for you, the morning for me, and but I appreciate you taking some time to chat about this relationship with your daughter. And I love being able to start by really thinking about this journey that you've been on because every one of us as fathers wants to have those moments, those moments that we connect and we work hard to try to create those moments with our daughters. What would you say is one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with your daughter and what made it so special? Colin Gray [00:03:16]: I'll maybe avoid the question slightly, but give you a different type of answer perhaps in that. One of the things that I've found or I've learned, I suppose, over the last five years as my daughter's become much more grown up. She's 11 now and it used to be quite easy to make a connection with her when she was like three, four or five. You just go and you do kind of anything and they just become absorbed in what you want to do with them and just love spending the time with you and you know, they'll often just do whatever you kind of lead them into playing, you know, a game or Lego or go outdoors to the park, whatever that might be. As my daughter's got older, I found those things harder because obviously she has much more of her own mind, her own preferences, her own things, things that she wants to do. And I found myself even a couple of years ago when she wasn't getting into 9 or 10, as she was getting much more of those preferences, I would choose to say, let's go for a wee walk into town, we'll go and have a wee walk around, we'll grab like a nice cake or something in the shop and then we'll walk home again. And because she's much more her set, her own person now, she'd have preferences and maybe be a bit grumpy or, you know, it wouldn't be perfect and I would end up getting grumpy because it wasn't as perfect as I, you know, wanted this kind of connection to be. And I would kind of sabotage it for myself. Colin Gray [00:04:30]: These days I'm much more accepting of the fact that actually those connections just come in those little weird normal moments actually and it's less about planning, like to go in for a three hour walk with her into town and a cake or an ice cream or whatever and it's more just Actually, I walk into the kitchen and she's sitting there, whether it's reading a book or doing a dance or whatever it is she's doing. And I'll just walk up behind her and do the same thing. It's like something about matching her energy much more. And because she's kind of just learning who she is, I guess as a developing human, I find that's what actually creates the connection these days. It's actually just those little silly, messing around things where she's doing a dance and I just walk in and join in in a super stupid, silly way, and that's it. And it's those little bits and it just takes like 30 seconds. But actually, those are the times when we just laugh and smile at each other much more. And there's much less chance that the kind of budding teenager in her creates some kind of friction that ends up with both of us being angry at each other. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:31]: One of the things that I guess that I would ask in response to that is you said that there was a little bit of a journey for yourself in the sense of, you know, getting from where you were to where you are today. What were some intentional steps that you had to take to be able to, I guess, in some sense, let go and just be present and be a part of the energy that she's giving versus having those. Those, I'm going to say, preconceived feelings of what you wanted to happen and then being let down because you have to be able to grow from where that was to where you are today. Colin Gray [00:06:04]: I mean, you know what it's like when they're small. You are like the definitive boss, aren't you? Because they're liable to do something that could hurt themselves. Or you need to teach them how to be humans, you know, how to be. How to be decent and nice and kind and share and all that kind of stuff. But

If you're a dad eager to strengthen your relationship with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you'll want to tune into the latest episode of the Dad and Daughter Connection podcast. This episode dives deep into real stories, practical advice, and genuine reflections on the journey of fatherhood. Hosted by Dr. Christopher Lewis, this episode welcomes guest Daryle Brown, a retired director of Social Justice and IT at Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago, and a father of two adult daughters. What emerges is a warm, honest conversation filled with the kind of wisdom every dad could benefit from. Consistency and Open Communication: Dr. Christopher Lewis and Daryle Brown emphasize the importance of being consistently present and level-headed in your daughter's life (03:03), regardless of the circumstances. Daryle Brown shares how maintaining open channels of communication allowed his daughters to feel comfortable coming to him with anything, even the difficult topics. Balancing Guidance with Independence: A recurring theme is the challenge of balancing parental guidance with granting daughters the freedom to make their own choices (06:27). Daryle Brown explains how crucial it is to support, not control, and to accept their individualism—even when their paths or decisions differ from our expectations. Intentional Engagement: Being an involved dad is about more than just showing up; it's about active participation (09:35). Whether attending soccer games or offering life advice, Daryle Brown highlights the impact of being genuinely engaged and available during both the ups and downs. Listening and Patience: Another heartfelt takeaway is the power of listening—really listening—before offering advice (15:16). Patience is key, both in conversations and in the natural progression of a child's growth. Daryle Brown also credits humor and shared laughter as essential elements in building enduring connections. Lasting Wisdom for Dads: In his closing advice, Daryle Brown urges dads to be patient, listen deeply, and infuse their relationships with laughter. As he reminds us, "Humor is so critical… it just melts the challenges and the difficulties." This episode is packed with down-to-earth insights and encouragement. Subscribe to the "Dad and Daughter Connection" and discover practical ways to show up as the dad your daughter needs. Listen now and keep building those strong, lasting bonds! If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week I love having you come back to learn, to grow, to be able to find new ways to be able to build those strong relationships that you want to build with your daughters. And that's why this show exists every week. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:07]: I love being able to have you here to gain some hints, some tips, some tricks, some things that you can use right away, to be able to demystify some things and to be able to figure out some ways in which you might be able to adjust what you're doing, to be able to create those connections. And I do that every week by bringing you different people, people with different experiences that have done fatherhood in different ways. And I love being able to do that because I think all of us can learn even that no matter where we are in this journey of fatherhood. You know, I've got two daughters. I know you've got daughters, and that's why this is important. I learned from our guests. I know you do, too. And today we've got another great guest. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:51]: Darrell Brown is with us. And Darrel is someone I've known for a number of years. He actually was a guest of a past podcast that I did in the past, and I talked to him about fatherhood then, but we're going to be talking it more. Darrell just retired as the director of Social justice and IT for Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago and now is living on a farm. So a little bit different and different experiences, but I'm really excited to be able to talk to him, catch up and talk a little bit more about his own journey with his daughters. Darrell, thanks so much for being here today. Daryle Brown [00:02:24]: Thank you. It's a pleasure. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:25]: Well, I'm really excited to be able to have you here today. And I guess I know you've got two daughters. They're adults now and doing Their things. And I know that they've some really amazing things happening in their lives. I'd love to have you think back to your relationship with your daughters and what's one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with your daughters and what made it so special? Daryle Brown [00:02:47]: Well, I think that it's hard to gauge a moment that was just life changing, so to speak. I think what's been more important in the relationship I have with my daughters is consistency. Them understanding that they could pretty much talk to me about anything, being level headed. When you hear things that may not exactly be along the path that you may want them to go or have them thinking along the lines that you want them to be thinking and to be able to accept their individualism. I think that's kind of the tone that I've taken with them over the years. And it's worked to the extent that we still communicate very openly, very freely when alcohol or marijuana, those types of things. When my children decided to experiment, so to speak, it was not something that they did secretively. I took my girls out for their first drinks. Daryle Brown [00:03:38]: Well, not really, but it was supposed to be that way. I remember now this is my baby daughter, Kamara, my youngest daughter, so she's 31 now, I think. And I remember her coming to town because she was in college, out of town, she came to town and I remember finding her id, her drinking eligible ID that wasn't real and being just terribly concerned because what if you get caught with two driver's licenses and you get pulled over? What kind of damage is that going to do to your whole life? And of course she minimizes, she was like, oh dad, you know, it's no big deal, everybody does it, blah blah, blah, blah, blah. But for me it was, it was very concerning. It was a prayer moment because I know how the system can react to these types of situations and you never know how deep that rabbit hole is going to run. So needless to say, she grew out of that. She's always been brilliant and that has come to play through these later years. And I think I may have mentioned to you she just defended her dissertation at Harvard and we'll be going to the graduation in a few weeks. Daryle Brown [00:04:43]: So she turned out all right, even though that was a pretty scary moment. But you have those occasions when they will surprise you and not necessarily understand all the ramifications of decisions that they're making. So my older daughter's actually been married. She was married for five years and she's been probably divorced for five years now, maybe longer. We had a interesting. I wouldn't call it traumatic situation. Again, these things affect me more than they affect them sometimes. So when she was going through her divorce, she didn't tell anybody? Well, she didn't tell me there were people that knew her sister, knew my wife's best friend, Cynthia, knew she had support in that portion of her life, and it just wasn't me. Daryle Brown [00:05:29]: And I don't think my wife either. And when she finally told us the dirty deed was done, paperwork was signed, it was, like, over. And I think part of it was that she thought that we might try to talk her out of it. And again, that's my trying to understand why she didn't tell us about what she was going through at the time. But at any rate, you know, it happened. There were no children involved, so it was pretty much a clean split. I was pretty sad because I liked him, but of course I liked him based on the relationship that he and I had. I wouldn't have liked him if I had known the relationship that he and my daughter were having. Daryle Brown [00:06:03]: So that was. I don't know if these were monumental or as you had described it earlier. Hopefully they kind of fit in the. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:06:10]: Sure. And one of the things that I know, I mean, is that you've been busy in your career, and you've had lots of different things that you've done in your career. You've been a busy person, and there's been lots of things that you've balanced as a professional, as a, you know, personally, in your own life, et cetera, and as a father, you have to balance. So talk to me about balance. And how did you balance not only what you were doing, but really how did you balance guiding your daughters

How do you nurture independent, confident daughters while creating a deep, lasting relationship as a father? That's the question at the heart of the Dad and Daughter Connection, hosted by Dr. Christopher Lewis—and in a recent episode, guest Art Eddy, host of the Art of Fatherhood podcast, shares relatable, hard-earned wisdom every dad (and parent) can appreciate. Cherishing the Small Moments One central theme is the value of everyday experiences—the dinners, shared jokes, and simple activities that reveal how "the small things make the big impact" in your relationship. Art Eddy recounts favorite moments: attending chorus performances, bonding at Bruins games, and even just sharing movie nights or video games at home. These aren't grand gestures, but they're where connection is built. Letting Go and Fostering Independence A recurring challenge, as discussed by both Dr. Christopher Lewis and Art Eddy, is finding the right balance between protecting your kids and gradually letting go. With both dads preparing for daughters to leave for college, they reflect on that poignant "crossroads"—learning to trust the foundation you've laid, and accepting that your children need space to stretch, fail, and grow. Art Eddy shares a particularly touching story about watching his daughter walk a college campus by herself for the first time, a real-life metaphor for this parental transition. The Power of Listening and Honest Conversation Listening—truly hearing your daughter, not just advising her—is another core message. Art Eddy emphasizes "two ears, one mouth—listen more, talk less," offering support when asked, and encouraging self-reflection instead of top-down instruction. This nurtures strong communication and respect, especially as children become teens and young adults. Imperfectly Present Both speakers candidly share their own mistakes, whether it's not asking for help, occasional impatience, or the struggle of balancing technology and quality time. The takeaway? No one is perfect, and being present—putting the phone down, engaging authentically—is what matters most. Fatherhood Is for Every Dad Finally, Art Eddy speaks passionately about celebrating diverse stories, real fatherhood from all walks of life, and creating positive, supportive communities for dads. If you're a dad (or parent) looking for practical wisdom, honest conversation, and plenty of heart—and maybe a few laughs—the Dad and Daughter Connection is for you. Listen in, and start building those small moments that make the biggest difference. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Art Eddy [00:00:02]: Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:05]: build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week I love that you show up. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:56]: You're showing up not only to learn, to grow, to be able to be that dad that you want to be, but you're showing up for your daughters. Because every week you have an opportunity to be able to learn something new, to be able to meet new people, people that have gone through what you're going through, people that have something that they can share with you to help you to be that dad that you want to be. That's why this podcast exists. This podcast is here to be able to help you build those strong connections with your daughters who one day at a time. Because it's not always going to be roses, it's not always going to be easy, but showing up, being there, and being willing to put in the work, you're going to have a ton of dividends in the end. That's why every week, I love being able to bring you different people with different experiences, people that can give you some of their own experiences as being either dads, two daughters, or other people with resources that can help you to be that dad. Today we've got another great guest, Art. Eddie is with us. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:55]: Art and I have known each other for a long time. He is a father of two daughters. He's also the host of the Art of Fatherhood podcast. Great podcast. If you haven't listened to it, definitely check it out and we'll be talking about that. But as I said, he's a father of two daughters. So we're gonna learn a little bit more about his own parenting journey, and I'm really excited to have him here. Art, thanks so much for being here. Art Eddy [00:02:17]: Chris, appreciate being on the show. Love the work that you're doing. It's always good to catch up. Even before we started recording, we had like a 30 minute, like, awes podcast of just a reunion podcast. It was so good, man. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:29]: It really was. And we didn't record it. We probably shouldn't have recorded it. Art Eddy [00:02:33]: Yeah. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:35]: But it was still fun. Art Eddy [00:02:36]: Yeah. No, it's good, though, because, like, I miss these connections. I miss, like, you know, I mean, we were just talking about how fast time flies with our, you know, your daughter is in college. My daughter, my oldest. Your oldest is in college. My oldest is going to be going to college in the fall of this year. And it's just like, where'd the time go, man? Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:55]: Oh, the time just flies by. I mean, my youngest is going to college this fall, too, so our daughters are my youngest. Your oldest are both the same age, so we'll be going through that together as well. And things change, I tell you. I. I'm. I'm a little nervous about the empty nesting type of thing going on to see kind of what that dynamic brings. It's definitely going to be a lot quieter in the house, and I don't really know what to expect yet. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:23]: So it's gonna be a different situation at home, you know, and your relationship with your significant other is gonna change in different ways because you don't have the kids around to be a part. And the things that you focus your time in also change because for so many years, as you know, I mean, we put all this time and effort into raising our kids to being there for their activities and their. And the things that are important to them. And then as they go away, then we have to, we have to do other things. And, you know, we're focusing back on each other and going back to the beginning and, and really. And it's just different. So it's going to be interesting. Art Eddy [00:04:01]: No, 100%. Like, things, like, all right, how do you do things? Like, my wife and I got a little taste of it a couple weekends ago. Like, my daughters were hanging out with, like, some of their friends together, and they had like a sleepover like a Friday night. And they had something all the way through, like, Saturday. And it was just like, like Saturday night. And my wife, like, this is what it's going to be like, huh? We had, we went to go see a movie. We had like a nice breakfast together on Saturday morning. I was like, this is cool. Art Eddy [00:04:27]: But we also miss, like, it was funny. Like, one of the things, like, I love hanging out with my daughters, but, like, one of the college visits, they separated the, the parents and the kids. The kids were doing like these different, like, one on one interviews with some of the admins and we had the adults, like, getting in this one room to kind of talk and, like, this one, like, couple song. They're like, I can't wait. You know, this is my last kid. And then, like, I get to, like, take care of their room and change it into, like, their gym. We're so excited. And it was like, yeah, I can't wait. Art Eddy [00:04:55]: I'm like, what? I was like, oh, my gosh. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:00]: I can't say that I. I can't wait. I mean, I. I am going to miss having them around. Art Eddy [00:05:05]: Yeah. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:05]: I mean, there are days. I think we both know that there are days. Art Eddy [00:05:09]: Yes. But I had one day yesterday, actually, where I had to go search everywhere for a broken. For a. To replace a broken dryer knob that was like, I didn't want to, like, pay or, like, get some sketchy thing from, like, a secondary source. So like, I found here in, like, North Carolina, a place that, like, sold that stuff. But I had to, like, take time out of my day, then fix it. I was like, ah. I didn't like this. Art Eddy [00:05:33]: My day just got totally upside down. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:36]: I know that you're really engaged with your daughters, and you have had some amazing moments with them throughout their lives. As you think about some of those moments and some of those moments that have been most meaningful for you, what's one of the most meaningful moments that you would say that you've shared with your daughters and what made it so special? Art Eddy [00:05:54]: Yeah, for me, I would probably say, you know, as a collective, when

What does it mean to truly connect with your daughter? That's the central question explored in the latest episode of the "Dad and Daughter Connection" podcast, where Dr. Christopher Lewis welcomes guest Brandon Smith for an honest, insightful and at times emotional conversation about fatherhood, mistakes, and building resilient, confident daughters. From the start, Brandon Smith distinguishes between "intended" and "unintended" moments in parenting, emphasizing that the unscripted, everyday experiences often make the deepest impact. Whether it's a trip for just the two of them or sitting quietly in support during a crisis, simply showing up consistently is the anchor of a strong bond. As Brandon Smith shares, "the small moments mattered the most" — a lesson he learned not only in his journey as a dad but also through the advice of other fathers. The episode dives deep into the challenges dads face: resisting the urge to "fix" everything, sitting with difficult emotions, and learning to ask open-ended questions that give daughters the space to vent, reflect, and find their own solutions. Dr. Christopher Lewis and Brandon Smith steer the conversation toward agency, urging fathers to build their daughters' confidence and resilience by empowering them to make decisions — even allowing for failure as an important part of growth. It's not about being perfect. It's about being truly present — listening, apologizing when you get it wrong, and making your child a priority. Brandon Smith reminds listeners that kids are far more forgiving than we think, as long as we're willing to acknowledge our mistakes and keep trying. Traditions, whether as simple as a regular dinner or a unique holiday ritual, also play a role in creating a safe foundation daughters can count on, even as they gain independence. Fathers of daughters — whether your relationship is close or still growing, this episode of "Dad and Daughter Connection" is packed with real advice, vulnerable stories, and practical tips to help you show up as the dad your daughter needs. Ready to deepen your connection? Tune in to the full episode and join Dr. Christopher Lewis and Brandon Smith on the journey to raising strong, independent women. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week I love that you come back. You come back to learn, to grow and to find new ways to be able to build those intentional connections with your daughter. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:06]: And it's so important because we have to show up. We've got to show up every day. We've got to learn from the things we do well. We got to learn from the things that we mess up on as well, because there's going to be times that are going to go perfectly and then other times where we'll. They may be an epic fail. And that's okay. That the fact that you do show up, the fact that you do come back and you're willing to, to learn and to hear others stories about their journeys says a lot about you and it says a lot about where you want to be as a father. This podcast is here to give you some help, some perspective, some thoughts on fatherhood. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:42]: Every week I love being able to bring you different people with different experiences that have gone through their own fatherhood journey and they're still going through their fatherhood journey. And today we got another great guest. Brandon Smith is with us today and Brandon is a return guest, I'm going to say, in some aspects, not he wasn't a return guest from this podcast, but for those of you that have been listening to me for a while, you know that I had another podcast called Dads with Daughters, and Brandon's a past guest from that show. So if you want to find that episode, go over to fathering together, you can check that out. It's still out there. And he'll add some hot sauce to your fatherhood as well. And I'll leave it at that because and tease that out. But I'm really excited to be able to have Brandon on. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:26]: We're going to be talking about his own journey with his daughter. And I look forward for you to get to know him as well. Brandon, thanks so much for being here today. Brandon Smith [00:02:33]: Chris. I'm thrilled to be on and I love, I love what we're going to be talking about here today. I'm very, very passionate about it. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:38]: You know, one of the things that I love starting off with when I think about fatherhood is all of us as dads want to create those meaningful moments where we, we truly are able to, to connect with our daughters. What's one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with your daughter thus far and what made it so special? Brandon Smith [00:02:58]: So I'm going to answer that in two ways. So there was the intended moments where you get to plan them, but then there's the unintended moments that you, that you don't get to plan them. I would argue the unintended moments are probably more impactful. But let's talk about the intended moments. So I've got three kids. My daughter Abby is my oldest. She's 24. She's graduated, working a full time job. Brandon Smith [00:03:18]: She's doing great. We'll talk more about that then. I have a son who's Noah, who's 21, and then a son Aaron, who's 18. Well, whenever my kids were 12, I would always take them, just me and that kiddo, to Disney World, just me and that one kid. So we could just do whatever they want to do. They didn't have to negotiate rides and restaurants with their siblings. And we just get that time together. And I kind of kept that tradition going with Abby. Brandon Smith [00:03:38]: So when she went off to University of Georgia, she was in a sorority. The nice thing about sororities is they have a lot of planned events. So they've got like parent weekends, but then they have mommy daughter weekend and then they have a daddy daughter weekend. So I did that with her every year. So there was always times I was going there, just me and her for weekends and time together. And then even during her summers when she was doing internships and things, you know, she would, we would find time for just she and I to meet up in the city some where and just kind of explore together. So there was those schedule times which I think were really, really important. I would argue that the most important times were the times when she was in crisis. Brandon Smith [00:04:11]: And I just sat with her. I was just with her, just being present, not trying to solve it, not trying to offer advice, just sit and listen. And that's really hard now to be fair. We haven't Talked much about my background. I have a slightly unfair advantage. I was trained as a clinical therapist, so I do bring that to bear. So I know how to ask questions and listen and do kind of reflective, which does help. But I think those moments were probably the most important, and there were several. Brandon Smith [00:04:38]: There was one where when she was graduating from college and there had been a death in her sorority, it really rattled my daughter. And on top of that, she had broken her leg, and she was a big runner, so she couldn't run. That was her stress relief. Let me tell you, Chris, I'm not sure if I'd want to go relive that weekend with her, but it was an impactful one because I just got to sit there with her while she just kind of raged and vented and just had all those emotions just kind of flood. I once heard somewhere that part of the role of the difference between kind of dads and daughters, or men and women, husbands and wives, and in those dynamics, women are often like the waves of the ocean. They kind of come and go. And sometimes when two. When a wife and a daughter kind of come together, sometimes those waves can create some storms. Brandon Smith [00:05:18]: Men are kind of like the rock wall on the side of the coast, and the water's supposed to kind of hit it, but not move it. So we're kind of almost supposed to be there kind of that steady, steady, consistent force. I don't know why that image has always stood out for me, but I know that there's been moments when I've been that kind of that. That rock wall and just allowed her to just kind of vent and rage and not be overwhelmed by that. The most impactful. So a long answer to your question, my friend. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:41]: Not a problem at all. You know, I have heard what you said earlier about being willing to just sit and listen from many people and not to solve. And that's not an easy thing for dads to always do. It tends to take a little bit of reprogramming in our brains to be able to get to that point. Talk to me about that for yourself. And I know you said you have a unfair advantage, so maybe you can give some advice for dads that are struggling with that in regards to what either you had to do or what you might recommend that dads do, to be able to reprogram their brains, to be able to be more of those quiet listeners versus the solvers. Brandon Smith [00:06:20]: I think the first thing is to recognize that those emotions don't mean that something's broken or something's wron

In this powerful episode of the "Dad and Daughter Connection" podcast, host Dr. Christopher Lewis welcomes Adam Angel, father, therapist, and founder of the Dads with Wisdom community. Together, they explore what it really means to show up for your daughter—not just as a parent but as a vulnerable, intentional human being. A recurring theme in their conversation is intentionality. Adam Angel shares touching stories about helping his daughter face challenges, like her anxiety before a swim test and building confidence in new activities like basketball and jiu jitsu. Instead of forcing outcomes, he strives to give her the safety and encouragement to try, fail, and choose for herself. As Adam Angel reveals, "I want you to see what it could look like...I'll show you, and you can tell me if you want to do it after you try." The episode delves deeply into supporting your child through difficult moments, embracing open conversations about emotions, and being honest with your kids about your own struggles. Adam Angel reflects on the need for dads to be "open-hearted and willing to not just be wrong, but to be able to learn from her, and also grieve or struggle through something with her." These moments of honesty, he suggests, build trust and teach kids about resilience and empathy. Another core lesson: connection isn't always about grand gestures; it's often found in the consistent, day-to-day presence—whether it's attending basketball games, settling in for bedtime, or making one-on-one smoothie dates. Adam Angel emphasizes that just "showing up and being there" in both small and big ways tells your daughter she can count on you. This episode doesn't shy away from tough realities, either—like how admitting mistakes and apologizing as a parent strengthens bonds, or the challenges of allowing your child independence in a world that sometimes feels unsafe. Lastly, the conversation highlights the importance of community and vulnerability for dads. Through his Dads with Wisdom groups, Adam Angel sees firsthand the transformative impact of men supporting each other, breaking cycles of isolation, and learning together. If you're a dad—or anyone invested in raising confident, emotionally healthy daughters—this episode offers a wealth of practical wisdom and heartfelt encouragement. Listen now and be inspired to connect more deeply, both with your child and yourself. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have an opportunity to be able to work on those relationships that we want to have with our daughters one day at a time. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:03]: I love being able to have you here every week because it is an opportunity. It's an opportunity for you and I to be able to learn and grow together. You know, I've got two daughters, you have daughters, and you're here. And I applaud you for that. Because by showing up, that's saying something. Because that means that you do want to create a stronger, more lasting relationship with your daughter. And that's why this podcast is here. This podcast is here to help you, to give you some tips, some tricks, some tools for your toolbox to help you to be that dad that you want to be. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:37]: I love being able to introduce you to different people, different people with different experiences that can give you some help along the way, give you some perspective about things that might have worked, maybe they didn't work, but it will help you to be able to frame how do you want to show up for your daughter. So I am really excited because we are having a brand new guest here today. Adam angel is with us. And Adam is a father of two. He's got a. He's got a son and a daughter, and we're going to be talking about his daughter, of course, but we're also going to be talking about a community that he has been building over a number of years called Dads With Wisdom. And it's an. It's a community that you might want to check out yourself, so we'll learn a little bit more about that as well. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:22]: Adam, thanks so much for being here today. Adam Angel [00:02:24]: Thanks for having me. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:25]: I'm really excited to be able to have you. And for full transparency to everyone. Adam has been on a previous podcast with me. So my old in my past podcast, the Dads with Daughters podcast, Adam was on four years ago, so we're moving forward in time. And now his daughter is nine years old. And I'm really excited to be able to delve a little bit deeper into what's happened over those years and what's happened up till now. And I guess to start off today, one question that I, Adam, is, as you think about the relationship with your daughter, what's one of the most meaningful moments that you've shared with your daughter and what made it so special? Adam Angel [00:03:02]: One of the most meaningful moments was when she was trying to pass the swim test right before the swim team. This was after we last talked. And I think in terms of being more active and trying to find a thing that she could do physically, that wasn't something that came automatically to her. There was a lot of anxiety around sort of that or idea that it wasn't good for her, meaning, like, didn't fit her. And so really what I was navigating on my end was trying to figure out how much to push and how much to support and sort of leave it to her. And this was like a moment I'll never forget, because as we had been doing swimming classes, I could see that she was, you know, getting some confidence, and she had. We ended up with this wonderful teacher who I started the training, and then I could see that she needed something from someone else and that had been really good and progressed. And then there was this moment where she wanted to pass a swim test and was really afraid. Adam Angel [00:03:56]: And we had set up the swim tester. You know, there was like, some date to do it, and if you passed that, then you had a chance at the swim team, which she could. I could definitely tell she was interested in, she expressed interest in. So anyway, so we're driving there, and she started to get nervous, and she said, I don't want to do this anymore. I don't want to do a swim test. And I said, you don't have to do it. We're already in the car. We're already halfway there. Adam Angel [00:04:21]: You're in your swimsuit. Let's go there. We'll be there. We'll stand there. And if. If you don't want to do it when you get there, we don't have to do it, but I want to just go. And she said she agreed. She didn't really say much, but she didn't protest. Adam Angel [00:04:32]: And she can protest. She doesn't have a problem with that. So we get there, and at the pool, we're Standing there and she. They call for kids her age and she looks over and she's about to say something to me. I see her shed one or two tears and I said, I just looked at her, I'm like, you good? And she just kind of nodded and she would just jump right in. And then she passed the test, which was just awesome. And honestly, right after she passed the test, she just jumped in, like with her friends, and then she started playing the rest of the afternoon in the pool. It was just like a lot of relief on both sides, I think, for both of us. Adam Angel [00:05:09]: And I was just appreciating what I took from that. And by the way, she. So she joined the swim team, and then the next summer she was on the swim team as well. And then she did during the year. So just seeing how this progressed. And I'm happy to share more about that, but that moment for me was a lesson for myself on how much to push, to not want it for anything, but for her, but also to not let her sort of go in the house, you know what I mean? And just not see what she might be missing. So, like, you know, here's what it could be. I don't need to push you any further than this. Adam Angel [00:05:39]: And it was a, it was a great moment. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:41]: Now you just talked about the fact about pushing and trying to help your daughter to be able to achieve kind of those, those passions, those dreams that she has for herself, the things that she wants to accomplish. Talk to me about how you go about that support and what do you do to be able to support your daughter in pursuing those passions and dreams. Adam Angel [00:06:02]: What I've come to understand is like, I can help her through some low level skill building, meaning, like, you know, she wants to join something more serious. We're going to give her that opportunity, structure. But first I need to support her in understanding that everyone has fear, everyone has these barriers. And then I show her how this has happened to me and I support her in getting her in front of these situations. Like, like an example was the pool. But later she. She ended up trying basketball and she ended up loving it. But the reason she loved it is she ended up doing a summer camp for a week, which was really high intensity, which I was a little worried that could send her the other way. Adam Angel [00:06:44]: But I always give her the opportunity to say, like, hey, like, you c

Fatherhood comes with its own set of joys, challenges, and constant learning curves—especially when raising daughters. If you're a dad looking to deepen your connection with your daughter and help her become a confident, independent woman, the latest episode of Dad and Daughter Connection is an absolute must-listen. Hosted by Dr. Christopher Lewis, the podcast's mission is clear: to provide real stories, expert advice, and practical tips so fathers can show up as the dads their daughters need. In this episode, Dr. Christopher Lewis sits down with Michael Mirza, a father of two, to revisit his parenting journey since he last appeared on the show four years ago. As both Dr. Christopher Lewis and Michael Mirza share, the parenting landscape is always shifting, and what worked yesterday may need to be reimagined for the children we love today. The Power of Presence and Pause A central theme is the importance of being present. Michael Mirza recounts a recent moment with his daughter at a quiet park, where they simply paused to enjoy nature and each other's company. He shares how his daughter's insight—"it's really nice to just pause and be quiet sometimes"—reminded him of the value in stepping back from the busyness of life and savoring stillness and connection. These simple acts, often unplanned, create the foundation for deep and lasting bonds. Embracing Neurodiversity The episode dives deeply into Michael Mirza's and his daughter's shared experience with ADHD. He discusses how receiving a diagnosis became an opportunity to empower his daughter, framing ADHD as a unique superpower rather than a setback. The family's approach—open conversations, focusing on strengths, and using creative analogies (like referencing Elsa's powers from Frozen)—drives home the message that differences can be celebrated, not shamed. Nurturing Independence and Repairing Connection Another important discussion centers on balancing guidance with independence. Michael Mirza talks about giving his daughter room to grow, whether it's letting her walk to a friend's house or manage her own routines. He stresses that letting go of control so children can rise to the occasion fosters confidence and trust. Crucially, the practice of apologizing and intentionally repairing after conflict is highlighted. Michael Mirza emphasizes humility, admitting when he's made mistakes, and always reaffirming his love—no matter the frustrations or tantrums. Final Takeaways From outdoor "treasure hunts" to creative home projects, this episode is filled with real-life examples of building strong, resilient relationships. Michael Mirza's core advice to dads? Meet your daughter fully in her world, free of self-consciousness and stereotypes—paint her nails, dance, and never be afraid that vulnerability will compromise your strength as a father. Whether you're a new dad or have years of parenting under your belt, this episode of Dad and Daughter Connection offers wisdom, encouragement, and the firm reminder that being present and authentic is what matters most. Tune in and let these stories inspire you to build an even stronger bond with your own daughter. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection. I'm your host, Dr. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:54]: Christopher Lewis, and I'm really excited that you're back again this week, because every week I love the opportunities that we have to be able to learn and grow together. I've said this many times, but you know that I've got two daughters myself, and this podcast came out of the fact that I wanted to be able to talk to other dads about what they were learning along the way. And I knew that dads are not always the best at asking questions. They're not always the best at reaching out. And when you have a daughter, that relationship is an important one, and we've got to show up. We've gotta be willing to do what we have to do to be able to be the dads that our daughters need, and that's why this podcast exists. The conversations that we have lead to deeper connections with our daughters, and it's an opportunity for you to be able to roll up your sleeves, to be able to learn, to grow and to take some things out of every episode. My hope is that at the end of every episode, you've got something, whether it's one thing, whether it's 10 things that you have taken away from the episode, some tools for your toolbox that will allow for you to be able to be just that little bit better. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:05]: And every week, I love being able to bring you different people with different experiences that have been doing this fatherhood thing in their own way, and they're bringing some perspectives to you. Doesn't mean that it's going to work for you. It could. It might not, but you're going to still learn something new. Today we got another great guest. Michael Mirza is with us today, and Michael is a father of two. He's got both a son and a daughter. His daughter is 8, and we're going to be talking about his relationship with his daughter. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:36]: And for full transparency, Michael was a guest on my past podcast called Dads with Daughters about four years ago. And so this is a great opportunity for me to be able to reconnect with him and an opportunity for you to get to meet him and to learn from him today. Michael, thanks so much for being here today. Michael Mirza [00:02:54]: Thank you so much. It's an honor to be back, Christopher, and I am really grateful for the ways you have kept this conversation going and the depth and wisdom you bring to it and the intentionality. So thank you so much for having me. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:05]: You know, I really appreciate you being back. And as we were talking before we started, things have changed a lot in four years, and not only in the sense of your daughter being where she's at today, and you're in a very different point in your own fatherhood and parenting. And I guess my first question for you is, as you look back at the eight years that you've had with your daughter, what's one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with your daughter thus far and what made it so special? Michael Mirza [00:03:33]: Mm, I love that. Well, first of all, I just thought, wow, eight years. And we chatted four years ago, so it has literally been double her lifetime since we last talked. Like, in the scheme of things, like, she is truly a completely different person, and I am in a lot of ways as well. The first thing that came to mind when you asked that was actually a fairly recent moment. So I don't know if it's the most meaningful of all, but it's one that is. Just came to mind right away with all the craziness of life. We were recently at a park, and it was a pretty quiet day at the park, and there was, like, almost nobody else around, so I was there with my two kids. Michael Mirza [00:04:13]: We played on the playground a little bit. Then we were just kind of strolling around the park. At one point, we ended over by the baseball diamond, and my son was drawing with a stick in the dirt, and my daughter and I were just sitting on the bleachers watching him. And there was sort of a natural pause, and she. In. In an unprovoked way, she was just noticing, like, the birds and the clouds gently passing over just in a totally, like, unsolicited way was just like, it's really nice to just pause and be quiet sometimes and just listen. And that meant a lot to me because I think it's a good reminder to me and a good word for me and we've been talking a lot lately about the importance of nature, as in taking care of nature and learning from nature and also trying to get out and spend time in nature where in the area we live in. We're grateful to have a lot of forest preserves close by where we live. Michael Mirza [00:05:03]: But to have her sort of reflect that without me sort of prompting like, hey, isn't this nice? And she was just like, wow, sitting and listening to the birds. Pretty cool. That was a really special moment for me. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:15]: I love that. And you're right, I mean, sometimes those quiet moments, those opportunities to be able to just be, are so important because so many times in our lives, life gets in the way. The busyness of life gets in the way. And you don't sit down and just reflect or you don't sit down and just allow for the world around you to be able to just be. Michael Mirza [00:05:42]: It's something that for me, I have adhd. And that's another thing my daughter and I now share is we both share diagnosed adhd. But so for me, like just with the noise and you know, so much of my life is on screens, those moments of pause, I haven't