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We made it to the season finale, babes and apparently decided the best way to celebrate was to say things we probably shouldn’t say and then start drinking. First up: Taboo Topics Part 2. Is ghosting ever acceptable? Should your partner be able to tell you who to unfollow? Are thirst traps okay when you’re in a relationship? Can you love two people at once? And are we getting a little too comfortable changing everything about the way we look? Then Sarah joins us with 400+ anonymous questions from YOU for a game of Say It, Sip It or Shot It. Exes. Hookups. Dating. Body counts. Rumours. Red flags. WLW confessions. Second chances. And several questions Tessa would very much like everyone to stop asking. Answer it… or drink. What could possibly go wrong? Thank you for another season of Still Not Straight. We bloody love this community. Keep up to date with the chaos: Instagram: TikTok: Merch: Voicenote:

Your first WLW heartbreak? Yeah… we did everything but die. This week, the girls are talking heartbreak: how to survive it, how long you actually need to be alone, whether you should delete your ex, why you NEED to stop comparing who moved on first and what actually helps when you’re deep in breakup hell. Tessa shares what she’s learned from going through two very public breakups, while Shannen brings a slightly more… cutthroat approach to moving on. We also need to settle something: Is yearning romantic or toxic?Can you get over someone by getting under someone else?And should photos of your ex stay on the grid? Most importantly: your life is not over, love is not a race and the person you were meant to be with hasn’t passed you by. Bounce back game strong, babies. Keep up to date with the chaos: Instagram TikTok Merch Voicenote

Order in the court, bitches. Lesbian Law is officially in session. This week, Tessa and Shannen are taking your dating dilemmas, red flags and questionable relationship behaviour to court and deciding whether you deserve jail, bail or a spot in the cell with them. Keeping a list of everyone you've slept with? Following old hookups? Matching tattoos after two months? Your girlfriend spending hours getting “closure” with her ex? An ex still coming to family Christmas? And what about your girlfriend becoming a little too friendly with the lesbian friend you introduced her to? The judges have opinions. Unfortunately, they're also discovering that they're guilty of quite a few of these themselves. Some cases are straight to jail. Some get bail. Some require therapy. And some need to be handed directly over to the jury, you. Court is in session. Subscribe to Still Not Straight for more lesbian dating, relationships,  and completely unfiltered conversations every week. Keep up to date with the chaos: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/still.not.straight/?hl=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@still.not.straight Merch: https://tullylou.com/products/still-not-straight-baseball-cap Voicenote: https://www.speakpipe.com/Stitch_Up_Studios?rf=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.speakpipe.com%2FStitch_Up_Studios

Shan owes Tessa one. After Tessa set Shan up on the blind date that led her to the love of her life, Shan is returning the favour and she’s convinced she knows exactly what Tessa needs. No photos. No stalking Instagram beforehand. No judging a book by its cover. Just three strangers behind a barrier, a stack of questions and Tessa choosing who she wants to take on a date based entirely on their answers. It’s giving 80s dating show. It’s giving Love Is Blind. It’s giving… Still Not Taken. Will Tessa find love? A date? Absolutely no one? And does Shan actually know what Tessa needs? Welcome to the very first Still Not Taken. Keep up to date with the chaos: Instagram TikTok Merch Voicenote

We opened the X Files… and apparently you lot have been THROUGH IT. This week, we’re talking exes, the good, the bad and the ones who absolutely should have stayed blocked. You sent us your wildest stories and somehow they involve cheating fiancées, exes following people interstate, secret relationships, stolen puppies, Bumble BFF “sleepovers”, breakups that refused to stay broken up and a woman pretending all of her lesbian exes were actually men. Tessa and Shan also get into their own exes and situationships, trusting your gut, why we ignore red flags when we’re in love, the chaos of lesbian dating and whether anyone really knows what happens inside someone else’s relationship. The silver lining? Pretty much everyone has been through it and eventually, you get to look back and laugh. Got an ex story for Part 2? We want it. Keep up to date with the chaos:InstagramTikTokMerch

Class is in session, babies. This week, Tessa & Shan present The Gentlewoman’s Guide to Being a Better Partner, aka all the things women wish their partners just got without having to be asked. Think less grand romantic gestures and more: notice the overflowing bin. Know her coffee order. Make the reservation. Put your phone down. Kiss her when she gets home. Keep dating her. Listen when she needs to vent. And please, for the love of God, take some initiative. Tessa brings her very scientific DON’T BE A DICK framework, Shan brings an actual slideshow, and together they cover the little things that can make a very big difference in a relationship. Because as the girls realise, the secret isn't actually that complicated: notice your person, know your person and don't wait until they have to ask. Whether you're a girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, husband, partner or currently very single, there might be something in here for you. Welcome to The Gentlewoman’s Guide. Keep up to date with the chaos: Instagram TikTok Merch

We promised we’d go deeper on our taboo topics… so naturally, we’re dedicating an entire episode to SEX. What actually counts as lesbian sex? How often should couples be doing it? Is scheduling sex actually a good idea? Should you ever fake an orgasm? How important is foreplay? And is “lesbian bed death” even real? There’s also a questionable step-by-step lesson in foreplay, some deeply personal confessions, and a rapid-fire round that probably tells you far too much about both of them. Nothing is off limits. You’re welcome, babies. Got a question you want us to answer? Send us a voice note via the link in our Instagram bio. Keep up to date with the chaos:InstagramTikTokMerch

We’re back and after a quick debrief of the SNS Social Club (which absolutely popped off), we’re talking about all the things you’re apparently not supposed to talk about. Money. Relationships. Religion. Aliens. Nothing is off limits. How important is money in a relationship? What do we actually believe? Are there some things you just shouldn’t say out loud? And, naturally, do we believe there’s something else out there? We go there and Shan may or may not be the reason we’re not here next week. It’s chaotic, questionable and very SNS. Keep up to date with the chaos: Instagram TikTok Merch Leave us a message ☎️ here

We thought what happened in Europe stayed in Europe… Apparently not. Tessa’s back and recapping the entire trip, the good, the gay, the unexpected homophobia, and the story she genuinely thought she’d never tell. Oh, and apparently we need to address the Sarah rumours too. We’re back babies. Keep up to date with the chaos:Instagram TikTokMerch #lesbian #sapphic #podcast #storytime

Shan is back on the couch, solo, with a stack of questions and she's ready. Well. She says she didn't get cunty enough. You can be the judge. Welcome to Episode 4 of Shan Says - the mini-series where you send in your questions and Shan tells you exactly what she thinks, even when it's not what you want to hear. This episode:👻 She had a 10/10 first date. Kissed. Got the "I had an amazing time" text. Then the texting went weird, he forgot their second date entirely, and now complete silence. Did she get ghosted or did she accidentally ghost herself? Shan investigates. 🏳️‍🌈 She's a lesbian who's only attracted to femme-presenting women, has zero game in real life, and lives in a small town in New Zealand where the queers are few and far between. Shan has a PSA for any gay femmes in NZ listening right now.🥹 Her best friend cancels on her constantly but loses it when she makes plans without her. Shan has two words: absolutely not.📧 A coworker keeps reply-alling the entire team to correct her tiny mistakes in front of everyone. Shan calls it what it is and tells her exactly what to do about it.🚩 Her partner likes his ex's posts within 30 seconds of them going up. She thinks she's overthinking. Shan doesn't think she's overthinking. Also: Pete Wicks gets a mention and Shan owes him an apology.📱 Her 14-year-old is begging for Snapchat because literally everyone has it. Shan has opinions about Snapchat. Strong ones.🌟 Her friend posts nonstop "living my best life" content online then texts her at midnight falling apart. Do you say something or just keep showing up? Shan is not here for the highlight reel.💔 She was in a relationship for a year. She did school pickups. She built a little family. She was always kept a secret. She walked away when it wasn't enough. Then she found out her ex has been telling people they haven't dated anyone since their divorce — five years ago. Shan gets personal on this one. Plus: Shan announces Tessa might be back next week and genuinely seems conflicted about it.📩 Got a question for Shannen? Send it in - relationships, coming out, family drama, the stuff you can't say to anyone in your actual life. We want to hear it. Email: [email protected] DM us: Instagram 🎙️ Shan Says is a mini-series from Still Not Straight, produced by Stitch Up Studios. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode ↓ Keep up to date with the chaos: Instagram: TikTok Merch

Shan is solo this episode and she has things to say. A lot of things. Mostly about best friends. Welcome to Episode 3 of Shan Says - the mini-series where you send in your questions and Shan tells you exactly what she thinks, even when you don't want to hear it. This episode: 💔 Her best friend just went on a date with a guy and her whole world is falling apart. She's not out. She doesn't know what she wants. She just knows she can't watch someone else have what she wants. Shan has two options for her and neither of them are easy. ✈️ They're exclusive, happy, and both moving abroad in a few months so they've agreed to just go back to being friends. Shan has one question: why though? 🚗 Her sister borrowed $4,000 two years ago, has never mentioned it since, and just bought a brand new car. Shan has a word for that. Several words actually. 🤍 She grew up in a house where "I love you" was never said. Her parents are getting older. She wants to start saying it but doesn't know how to introduce it after 30 years. What if they don't say it back? Shan gets into it — and has very strong opinions about "love you" versus "I love you." 💍 Married to a man. Loves him. Not in love with him. Two kids. Nothing is wrong but something doesn't feel right. She doesn't even know what she's asking. She just needed to say it to someone. This one hits different. 😭 She's in love with her straight best friend of 10 years who keeps joking about switching sides after every failed situationship with a man. Does she shoot her shot or stay quiet? Shan has officially had enough of these questions and is asking the comments to intervene. 📩 Got a question for Shannen? Send it in - relationships, coming out, family drama, the stuff you can't say to anyone in your actual life. We want to hear it. Email: [email protected] DM us here. 🎙️ Shan Says is a mini-series from Still Not Straight, produced by Stitch Up Studios. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode ↓ Keep up to date with the chaos: ⁠Instagram⁠: ⁠ TikTok⁠ ⁠Merch⁠

She's back. The cowboy hat is back. And this time she's brought G - who, for the record, did not volunteer for this. Welcome to Episode 2 of Shan Says - the mini-series where you send in your questions and Shannen (and apparently G now) give you the most unfiltered, honest, been-there-done-that advice on the internet.In this episode, Shannen and G tackle: 🚪 She hid her girlfriend from her religious parents for TWO YEARS. Then mum saw her on the Ring Doorbell. Then she invented an entire clothing resale business on the spot. What the f**k is wrong with her? (Spoiler: nothing. But also, it's time.) 🏳️‍🌈 Her best friend came out as a lesbian — because of advice SHE gave her. Now she's watching lesbian shows on purpose, saving edits of women, and has a little secret Spotify podcast habit. Shannen has some thoughts. So does G. 👵 She's in her 60s, just downloaded Hinge, and thinks she might be bi. The app's given her crickets so far. Shannen and G give her actual tips — and extend a very special invitation. 💔 Her daughter's dad left when the baby was eight months old. Five years later he made a move when she visited Perth, told her he wants to be with her — just not now. Shannen has a word for him too. (It's cockhead.)🎭 Someone sent in a question so confusing that Shannen, G AND ChatGPT couldn't figure out what they were asking. The audience had to be called in. 🌈 She's been bi since she was eight, only wants women now, and has never actually been with one. She's terrified she'll be shit. G has the most reassuring answer you'll ever hear. 📩 Got a question for Shannen? Send it in - relationships, coming out, family drama, the stuff you can't say to anyone in your actual life. We want to hear it. Email: [email protected] DM us here. 🎙️ Shannen Says is a mini-series from Still Not Straight, produced by Stitch Up Studios. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode Keep up to date with the chaos: ⁠Instagram⁠: ⁠ TikTok⁠ Merch⁠ #StillNotStraight #ShanSays #QueerPodcast #LGBTQAdvice #BabyGay #LesbianPodcast #ComingOut #QueerAustralia #Advice #wlw

She's not a therapist. She's not a life coach. She's just someone who has been through it — and she will tell you exactly what she thinks. Welcome to the first ever episode of Shannen Says. The mini-series from Still Not Straight where YOU send in your questions and Shannen gives you the most unfiltered, honest, been-there-done-that advice you didn't know you needed. In Episode 1, Shannen tackles a big stack of your questions including: 💌 Your best friend's ex is liking all your stories with heart eyes — is there any world where you pursue it? 🚩 She's funny, gorgeous and she's into you. She also still lives with her ex. Your friends say run. Shannen says... it's complicated. 🛒 You're new to the scene, she's been out for years, and you cannot stop thinking about where those toys have been. Do you just... buy new ones? 💔 You present masc, every woman assumes you're a stone top, and all you want is to feel wanted. Shannen has a lot of feelings about this one. 🌈 Your mum has put you on a pedestal your whole life. Now you're out and she thinks you've been brainwashed. How do you make her understand? 😮 You fell for a straight girl. She has a boyfriend. She's texting you while she's on dates with him. Shannen has one word for you. (Okay, a few words. None of them are nice.) 🏳️‍🌈 Your best friend loves hearing about your sex life with men. The moment you mention a woman? Shut down. Shannen calls it like she sees it. Nothing is off limits. Nothing is sugar-coated. This is Shannen Says. 📩 Got a question for Shannen? Send it in — relationships, coming out, family drama, the stuff you can't say to anyone in your actual life. We want to hear it. Email: [email protected] DM us here. 🎙️ Shannen Says is a mini-series from Still Not Straight, produced by Stitch Up Studios. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode #StillNotStraight #ShannenSays #QueerPodcast #LGBTQAdvice #BabyGay #LesbianPodcast #ComingOut #QueerAustralia #Advice

It's the season finale of Still Not Straight, and G is joining us on the couch for a conversation about love, relationships and the patterns we carry into both. Together, we unpack attachment styles, how they show up in dating and friendships, whether they complement or clash with certain personalities, and if it's actually possible to become more secure in the way we connect with others. Of course, because this is Still Not Straight, we couldn't end the season without a little chaos. Never Have I Ever and Two Truths and a Lie quickly reveal sides of each other we weren't expecting, proving that after an entire season together, there are still a few surprises left. Thank you for coming along for the ride this season. Here's to loving ourselves, understanding each other a little better, and never pretending we've got it all figured out. Keep up to date with the chaos:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/still.not.straight/?hl=enTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@still.not.straightMerch: https://tullylou.com/products/still-not-straight-baseball-cap

Michelle has been with Still Not Straight since the early days, and today she's sharing the story behind the comments section. A story of knowing. Of denying. Of trying to fit into a life that looked right from the outside but felt impossible to live from within. Because of cultural expectations and her own beliefs, Michelle married a man and followed the path she thought she was meant to take. But in her 40s, the weight of not living authentically became too heavy to carry. This conversation is honest, tender and deeply hopeful. It's about grief and freedom. Fear and courage. The cost of hiding and the joy of finally choosing yourself. Most importantly, it's a reminder that there is no timeline for truth. If you've ever wondered whether it's too late to change your life, this episode is for you. Keep up to date with the chaos:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/still.not.straight/?hl=enTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@still.not.straightMerch: https://tullylou.com/products/still-not-straight-baseball-cap