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Hej hej! Welcome back, honey bees! We talk for quite a bit about bts of social media at the beginning of this episode, so scrub through to around 20 minutes if you aren't interested. Dr Kells Robertson puts on her Dr hat (it's a really silly one) to teach us about feminism and the main feminist theories that we need to know. She teaches us how feminism has been weaponised by women against each other and THAT'S WHAT THE MAN WANTS US TO DO!!!! Charlotte is a clever cookie, and Abbey is along for the ride. Dr Peti Kenrick was the incredible lecturer who I took the Indigenous Research Methodologies paper with, and it is one of the best papers I have ever done in my life. If you ever get a chance to study under her, take the opportunity. Drop us your favourite feminist theory in the comments 🤪🤪 We are feeling so weird about having social media followings at the moment, so help us by sharing the podcast so we can throw instagram away and only engage in long form, nuanced conversations?? HELP A SISTER OUT!! Follow us on our social media to keep up with the behind the scenes chaos, images that were mentioned in today's topic, meme dumps, episode previews, and ongoing discussions: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/dumbsmartmumspodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@dumbsmartmumspod ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy our work and would like to koha it, you can buy us a coffee here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/dumbsmartmums⁠⁠⁠ See you in two weeks for more pod chaos that keeps you freaks coming back for more xoxoxoxoxox

Oh hi folks, once again it was Abbey's turn to research but then she didn't and we ended up giving you a different kind of episode. BUT, she gives you some insight as to why she didn't research with her life updates. Y'all are the first to hear it, she's a bit nervous to tell the world, so be nice. Don't forget to check your voting registration if you're in Aotearoa. You can check here ! We're trying to find more Dumb Smart Mums, so if you have a pal you reckon would like us, why not send them your fave episode?! Follow us on our social media to keep up with the behind the scenes chaos, images that were mentioned in today's topic, meme dumps, episode previews, and ongoing discussions: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/dumbsmartmumspodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@dumbsmartmumspod ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy our work and would like to koha it, you can buy us a coffee here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/dumbsmartmums⁠⁠⁠ OK LOVE U BAI! see you in two weeks!

A HUGE thank you to Little Beat First Aid for sponsoring this episode of Dumb Smart Mums. If you're looking for accessible, evidence-based, not terrifying first aid, look no further than Little Beat. Shrenika and her team are so wonderful, and we have both used Shrenika's awesome education on multiple occasions to know what to do when our kiddies have been sick. You can find their website here, and their instagram here. Don't forget to use code DSM10 at checkout for 10% off anything on the Little Beat website, or mention this episode at inquiry for 10% off a private booking. TYSM LBFA, ILY! Content forecast: this conversation touches on domestic violence and perinatal mental health. We wanted to provide a couple of links if you feel you need support for either of those topics. If you are in immediate crisis or harm, please do not hesitate to call 111: Family Violence Support Mental Health Crisis Support Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Aotearoa Heeeey, how y'all doing! Are we back the weekend after fathers day to talk about our frustrations with the dads? Yeah, we certainly are. Look, we can't help how the cookie crumbles, it's just how it happened. Today Charlotte talks to us about a common critique she gets of her work and why she thinks it isn't valid. Meanwhile Abbey gets the conversation off track, as per. Hey, if you enjoy this episode, why not send it to a friend?! Let them know about the pod! And as per usual, you can help us and follow along with our work in these various places: ollow us on our social media to keep up with the behind the scenes chaos, images that were mentioned in today's topic, meme dumps, episode previews, and ongoing discussions: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/dumbsmartmumspodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@dumbsmartmumspod ⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy our work and would like to koha it, you can buy us a coffee here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/dumbsmartmums⁠⁠ Ok, we love you, don't cancel us, see you in two weeks!

YAY DR KELLS ROBERTSON! A HERO WALKS AMONG US. We're all human, and sometimes the world can get on top of us a bit. If you need immediate help for your mental health please call: 1737 (Need to talk?): Free call or text 1737 anytime to talk with a trained counsellor.Lifeline: Call 0800 543 354 or free text 4357 (HELP).Suicide Crisis Helpline: Call 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO) for dedicated suicide prevention support.Samaritans: Call 0800 726 666 for confidential support when feeling lonely or in extreme distress.Depression Helpline: Call 0800 111 757 or free text 4202. If you or someone you know is at immediate risk of harm, please call 111. That's what our first responders are there for. If you aren't in crisis, but are struggling with your mental health please go and see your GP. If you would like more information on Perinatal Mental Health in Aotearoa you can find the PADA website here. And if you feel compelled to do so, you can donate to PADA here (lord knows the government ain't funding this crucial service). Okay, that's about it from us! Look after yourselves. Check in on your Mum Pals. See you in two weeks.

Join hosts Abbey & Charlotte this week as we sit down together and have a vulnerable chat about our frustrations with being working mothers, and the roadblocks we've encountered trying to "have it all" (the way we are repeatedly told we can). Apologies for the coughs and splutters, but there are only so many things we can edit around, and honestly the edit just sounds robotic if we end up taking every noise out of it. We hope that this episode can bring anyone feeling the same some kind of comfort. See you in two weeks, thanks for being here x Follow us on our social media to keep up with the behind the scenes chaos, images that were mentioned in today's topic, meme dumps, episode previews, and ongoing discussions: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/dumbsmartmumspodcast/⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@dumbsmartmumspod ⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy our work and would like to koha it, you can buy us a coffee here: ⁠⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/dumbsmartmums⁠⁠

This episode of Dumb Smart Mums was kindly sponsored by Viva La Vulva. We could not be more grateful to VLV for sponsoring today's ep, but also for the amazing mahi and products they have! Both of our vulvas have benefitted from their beautiful products, so we stand by their range! If you or someone you know is about to have a pēpi, use code DSM at checkout for a cheeky discount! Thank you, VLV! So, there's a big old announcement today eeeeep! But if you're just here for the cOnTeNt, then we crack into the episode at 33:16, so jump on forward. We're back again and oops there are a few tech difficulties SOZ. We are a social worker/academic, unfortunately not tech whizzes. So editing Abbey tried her very best, but the sound towards the end of the ep is a bit funky. Aroha mai, but pls stick with us because the episode is a goodie. We know what the issue was, so it won't happen again! Thank you so much for being here and listening, it's blowing our damn minds every time. xoxoxoxo The two podcasts that Charlotte recommends are: - In Bed With The Right - the Natural Birth Movement episode - The Rest is History - the History of Childbirth Follow us on our social media to keep up with the behind the scenes chaos, images that were mentioned in today's topic, meme dumps, episode previews, and ongoing discussions: Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/dumbsmartmumspodcast/⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@dumbsmartmumspod ⁠⁠ If you enjoy our work and would like to koha it, you can buy us a coffee here: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/dumbsmartmums⁠⁠ See you in two weeks!!!!

This episode was sponsored by the absolute babes at CF Creations! If you're in the market for a mirror that is kiwi-manufactured without the mark ups, they're the place. Check out their full range at their website here. Use code DSM for 10% off at check out and THANK US LATER!! xoxo Well, well, well, look who dared to show their faces on the internet again for another episode. We were very nervous to share our opinions, so we thought what better way to do exposure therapy than tackling the 'breast is best' belief! We're so grateful for all the love, and follows, and comments, and reviews, and kind messages we got after the first episode, and we are just so excited to see where DSM goes from here. A huge shout out Dr Beth Shore who helped me with some of the biology details for this episode, go and check out her instagram here. She's the lady with non-judgemental, evidence-based lactation advice, and for that we are so grateful. Also, a very big thank you to my colleagues who helped me gather my thoughts for this episode. I promised not to name you, but I am so grateful for your wisdom. And just so, so thrilled that your patients navigating the minefield that is infant feeding are being carried so beautifully by you guys. Follow us on our social media to keep up with the behind the scenes chaos, images that were mentioned in today's topic, meme dumps, episode previews, and ongoing discussions: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/dumbsmartmumspodcast/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@dumbsmartmumspod ⁠ If you enjoy our work and would like to koha it, you can buy us a coffee here: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/dumbsmartmums⁠ See you in two weeks!!!!

This episode is proudly sponsored by The Mom Store! Go buy all the things! Thanks for your support, Mom Store team. 3 Well.. Hi there. I (Abbey) have done a terrible job at keeping the communication up with the big changes happening on this feed. So, if you don't follow me on social media and you're like "where is WDYPLT? what the heck is this?" surprise!!!! WDYPLT is dead. RIP. She was loved and great for a time in my life, but turns out when I went back to my job talking to parents about their parenting all day, the last thing I wanted to do was come home and talk to parents about their parenting. WDYPLT is much-treasured in my life, and the episodes will forever live on this feed, but when the idea for Dumb Smart Mums started knocking around between Charlotte and I, I knew it was the right move for me to evolve the pod feed as my life has evolved. I know this is a shock for some people, but stick with me! DSM is gonna be good. Charlotte kicks off our inaugural episode by teaching me about the huge impact that Celebrity Mums actually has on motherhood. Tangents include baby birkin bags, Kate Middleton being a benefits queen, and people really wanting us to regret having kids young. Buckle up, it's informative and goofy! Delivered piping hot to your ears! If you like this pod, could you do us a favour and share it with like 500 of your closest friends? We are eagerly awaiting finding our audience (we know your out there), and we can't wait to find the listeners that get it. So, if that's you and you reckon you've got people who would also get it, whyyyy not send this to them!? Follow us on our social media to keep up with the behind the scenes chaos, episode previews, and ongoing discussions: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumbsmartmumspodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dumbsmartmumspod If you enjoy our work and would like to koha it, you can buy us a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/dumbsmartmums See you in two weeks!!!!

I'm down an organ and ready to paaaaarrrddddyyyyy! Today's solo-sode was born out of the boredom of being home post-surgery. Nothing like your body feeling meh, but your brain moving at one million miles an hour!  New things coming soon, watch this space..  Mentioned in this ep: Kiss All the Time Disco Occasionally, Harry Styles Bookety Book Books Lost Lambs by Madeline Cash  Work Horse by Caroline Palmer  Charlotte Tilbury Pillow Talk Mascara in Dream Pop L'Oreal Paris Faux Brow in Dark Blonde Go To Skin Care Matte Pop Blush in Berry NYX Lip IV Hydrating Gloss Serum in Blush Rush  Two Islands Electrolytes and Super Beauty use ABBEY15 for a d/c! My Nail Artist Alaina! Join the Why Do You Chat Like That FB group here! (Don't forget to answer the membership questions or your request will be declined!!) As per usual, I ask that you share this episode around. Or share the reels/clips on your socials! The algorithm pushes out content that is being engaged with, otherwise we float away into the ether.  Follow me on socials, buy my merch, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy Me a Tattoo If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at [email protected]  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

OH, we are so back! An honour to be back in this space for 2026, an even bigger honour for my first guest to be the gorgeous Kahurangi (Kahu) Carter (Ngāti Maniapoto, Tainui). Kahu is the Greens Party MP for Christchurch Central. Not only that, she is a mum of two. She had her first, Freddy (great name), and then 14 months later had Waiata! They are now 18 and 17. We cover so much in this episode, but we do get a lot into the nitty gritty of politics and how the current government is affecting the every day tangible difficulties that parents are facing. I am really proud of this platform, and being able to provide the opportunity for parents to hear who the parents are that are working hard to make this country better for us and our kids. Kahu is one of those people, and I hope you love this episode. You can find Kahu on instagram here and TikTok here. Mentioned in this podcast: Kristy McGuire Aidan Kyrke-Smith Serra Clark 7 Promises Petition My Nail Artist (in case you heard Kahu complimenting my nails and want in on the best nail artist in Tāmaki) Join the Why Do You Chat Like That FB group here! (Don't forget to answer the membership questions or your request will be declined!!) As per usual, I ask that you share this episode around. Or share the reels/clips on your socials! The algorithm pushes out content that is being engaged with, otherwise we float away into the ether.  Follow me on socials, buy my merch, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy Me a Tattoo If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at [email protected]  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Parenting is political - and navigating baby sleep advice is a big part of it! Dr Heather Johnston of Cradled is one of the most qualified people in Aotearoa to help us deconstruct some of the messages that have dominated the world of baby sleep for the last century - and more! Heather brings to this kōrero her years of training and experience as a medical doctor, an Internationally Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), and sleep qualifications from the Possums program specialising in Neuroprotective Developmental Care and from Lyndsey Hookway’s Holistic Sleep Coaching Program. In this episode guest host Sophie Moskowitz (@imperfectparents.nz) dives deep into the subject of baby sleep with Heather, exploring Heather’s own personal parenting and professional journeys. They look at the pressure on parents to sleep train and the social, cultural and political systems that have created an environment where so many parents are feeling more confused and overwhelmed than ever. We hope you find value, comfort and reassurance in this episode and come away remembering that there is no “one right way” of doing things. You can work with Heather 1:1 with online appointments, or access sleep workshops for various ages on her website. She also sells merch and a few feeding products. You can access Heather's work via her website here and her instagram here. If you’re in Auckland and want access to in-person support where we bust myths and normalise parenting experiences, you can join an Imperfect Parents antenatal course, postnatal support group or playgroup. Sophie’s Imperfect Parents website is here her instagram is here and her tiktok is here. Follow me (Abbey) on socials, buy my merch, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy merch Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at [email protected]  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ho, ho, ho MEEEEERRY CHRISTMAS! What better way to celebrate than to reflect on motherhood, the mental load, and ways that modern motherhood has been made more difficult by a few cultural events.  We'd like to thank Maintenance Phase for their beautiful format of podcast episode. We are big, big fans!  If you would like to keep up with Charlotte and the cool things she's doing her instagram is here. Check the link in her bio for access to some amazing lectures on motherhood! I have devoured them this year.  Modern motherhood is wild, y'all. If you're a mum and you're reading this, we're right there with ya and we love ya.  Follow me on socials, buy my merch, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy merch Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at [email protected]  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

WELL, I'M ALREADY FEELING A PRE-EMPTIVE VULNERABILITY HANGOVER. Be kind with me. Hold me gently. I'm giving you my feelings here, look after them.  I hope that this episode is one you are interested in, let me know if it is and you'd like more!  If you are in the early days of parenthood, I see you, you're great, and I'm rooting for you! Take some time to be proud of yourself.  We have one more bonus episode coming out pre-Chrissy, but this is the last main episode for the year! Feel free to go back and BINGE over the break teeeheeee.  Resources mentioned in this episode:  Werry Workforce Online Training  Somatic Body Worker Claire Eccleston Join the Why Do You Chat Like That FB group here! (Don't forget to answer the membership questions or your request will be declined!!) As per usual, I ask that you share this episode around. Or share the reels/clips on your socials! The algorithm pushes out content that is being engaged with, otherwise we float away into the ether.  Follow me on socials, buy my merch, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy merch Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at [email protected]  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

DECEMBER! DECK THE HALLS! LISTEN TO THIS GEM OF A HUMAN BEING! Lydia Tuaiti (@ifoundlydia) is the coolest. She's fun, she's a girls girl, she is reflective, and self-aware, and all-round just the coolest. I am so honoured that she was happy to sit down with me and talk about her experience of parenthood (including stepparenthood). This is a perspective I have wanted to share on the podcast for a long time, but I wanted to make sure I was being careful with all parties involved. Lydia is the most respectful, caring, considered lady and I love the way she talks about her role in her family. You can find her instagram here and her tiktok here! She is one of my favourite follows on the internet, so please go show her some love! Tell her we sent you! There will be one more main episode, and probably one more Parenting is Political episode, before the end of the year. The rest will be funnnnnny/silly/solo/a bit about me episodes! I hope that you like those episodes too. I guess we'll find out!  Join the Why Do You Chat Like That FB group here! (Don't forget to answer the membership questions or your request will be declined!!) As per usual, I ask that you share this episode around. Or share the reels/clips on your socials! The algorithm pushes out content that is being engaged with, otherwise we float away into the ether.  Follow me on socials, buy my merch, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy merch Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at [email protected]  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this Parenting is Political episode, Sophie sits down to kōrero with Dr George Parker (they/them) for a conversation about why representation and inclusion matter in healthcare and social services - for all whānau but especially for members of the LGBTQIA+ community.  George talks us through their journey from midwifery, to advocacy mahi with Women's Health Action, and then into academic research as they discovered gaps in the available data. We discuss the difference that safe, inclusive, whānau-centred care can make on people's wellbeing.  George shares their knowledge and experience so generously and, in our opinion, this should be essential listening for anyone working in the perinatal health and support space. George also mentions the publishing house Flamingo Rampant, who published their children's book "Bell's Knock Knock Birthday". If you are a parent of a child aged 18 and under, and identify as LGBTQIA+, please consider filling our the Inclusion Through Difference survey here. Where to find Sophie/her work:  Instagram Website TikTok Follow me on socials, buy my merch, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy merch Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at [email protected]  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.