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In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores something many of us are guilty of in our relationships: expecting people to know what we need without actually telling them. From saying “I'm fine” when we're absolutely not fine to dropping hints and silently hoping someone will pick up on them, she takes a funny and honest look at the invisible tests we create for the people we love — and the resentment that builds when they inevitably fail. She unpacks why we so deeply want to feel known, how easily we confuse someone not understanding our needs with someone not caring about us, and why what feels completely obvious to one person might not even cross another person's mind. Megan explores the vulnerability of asking directly for what we want, how different people express and receive love, and why communicating your needs doesn't make someone's effort any less meaningful. This episode shifts the focus away from expecting people to read our minds and toward giving them the information they need to genuinely know and support us. But Megan also explores an important distinction: there's a big difference between someone who hasn't been told what matters to you and someone who repeatedly ignores what you've clearly communicated. If you've ever thought “I shouldn't have to ask,” felt disappointed when someone didn't pick up on your hints, or wished the people in your life would just get you, this conversation will help you approach your relationships with more clarity, honesty, and understanding — because you deserve to feel known, but being known requires letting yourself be knowable. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores that surprisingly emotional crash that can happen after an incredible experience. You know the feeling — you've just had the best weekend, an amazing trip, a concert, or a night that made you feel wildly alive, and suddenly you're back home doing laundry, buying groceries, and wondering why ordinary life feels so painfully... beige. She unpacks why coming down from an emotional high doesn't mean something is wrong with you or the life you've returned to, how contrast can make perfectly good days feel disappointing, and why we sometimes start chasing constant stimulation just to escape the quieter moments. Megan explores the pressure we put on ourselves to stay happy, why even our best feelings aren't meant to last forever, and how easy it is to overlook the smaller pleasures that make up so much of our lives. This episode shifts the focus away from needing every day to feel extraordinary and toward finding a balance between appreciation and anticipation. Because having exciting things to look forward to is a beautiful part of being alive — but so is learning to enjoy the days that happen in between. If you've ever experienced the post-vacation blues, felt strangely flat after an amazing weekend, or caught yourself constantly waiting for the next exciting thing on your calendar, this conversation will remind you that life isn't meant to be one continuous emotional high. There's room for the big, unforgettable moments AND the quieter, ordinary ones — and you deserve to enjoy both. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan revisits one of the most important foundations of self-love: knowing your worth. But 80 episodes into the podcast, she's exploring a deeper layer of what that actually means — especially during the moments when life knocks you sideways, old insecurities resurface, and you suddenly don't feel quite as confident, capable, or worthy as you thought you did. She unpacks why feeling unworthy doesn't mean you've become unworthy, how we unknowingly create internal scoreboards that tie our value to productivity, appearance, success, relationships, and other people's approval, and why a difficult experience doesn't have to become a verdict on who we are. Megan also explores how to take accountability for mistakes without turning them into evidence that we're fundamentally flawed. This episode shifts the focus away from trying to feel amazing about yourself all the time and toward building a sense of worth that doesn't rise and fall with your circumstances. Because while your confidence, emotions, and perception of yourself will inevitably change, your value as a human being doesn't have to change with them. If you've ever felt like a rejection, setback, bad body-image day, or season of feeling lost has somehow made you less deserving of love, kindness, or belonging, this conversation will remind you that knowing your worth isn't about never getting knocked down — it's about refusing to put your value back up for debate every time you do. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores a surprising downside of personal growth: what happens when self-improvement starts turning into self-rejection. After finding herself stuck despite knowing all the things she could theoretically do to get unstuck, she takes an honest look at how the tools, lessons, and mindset shifts meant to help us can sometimes become ammunition for everything we think we “should” be doing better.  She unpacks two ways self-improvement can quietly work against us — constantly treating current-you like a project that still isn't finished, and consuming so much personal-development content that the growing pile of strategies becomes more overwhelming than useful. Megan explores the difference between learning about changing your life and actually living it, and why sometimes more information isn't the missing ingredient.   This episode shifts the focus away from constantly fixing, healing, analyzing, and upgrading yourself and toward actually enjoying the person you've already worked so hard to become. Megan explores why growth needs time to integrate, how self-awareness can become self-surveillance, and why you don't need to spend your entire life feeling like a house that's permanently under renovation.   If you've collected enough personal-development tools to open your own metaphorical Home Depot, constantly feel like there's another habit, trigger, mindset, or version of yourself to work on, or have forgotten how to simply be without turning yourself into another project, this conversation is your reminder that there are times for growing — and there are also times to put the tools down, sit in the finished room, and enjoy what you've already built.  Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores what it actually means to roll with the punches when life refuses to follow the very specific plan you had in mind. From cancelled flights and changed plans to bad weather, broken cars, and everyday inconveniences, she looks at how often we experience the problem itself — and then create an entirely new problem by fighting the fact that it happened.  She introduces the highly scientific F**k, Fine, Pivot Method for building emotional flexibility without pretending frustrating things aren't frustrating. Megan explores why you don't need to skip your honest reaction, how acceptance is different from approval, and why one of the most useful skills you can build is shortening the amount of time between “F**K THIS” and “Okay… now what?”   This episode shifts the focus away from needing Plan A to work and toward trusting yourself to handle what happens when it doesn't. Megan explores the difference between problems that need action and situations that simply need acceptance, why “different” doesn't always mean “ruined,” and how confidence can also mean believing in your ability to improvise when life goes sideways.   If you tend to get attached to how something should go, struggle when plans suddenly change, or let one inconvenience hijack the rest of your day, this conversation will help you loosen your grip, recover faster, and get better at working with life as it actually is — instead of only enjoying it when everything goes according to plan. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan returns to one of the ideas at the very heart of the podcast: becoming your own best friend. But this conversation goes beyond positive affirmations and saying nice things to yourself — it's about becoming someone you can actually rely on when you're overwhelmed, struggling, making mistakes, or simply not feeling like your favorite version of yourself.  She explores the difference between your inner critic and your inner best friend — from remembering context on hard days and refusing to turn mistakes into character flaws, to being willing to lovingly call yourself out when you're avoiding something, making excuses, or need to take accountability. Because being in your own corner doesn't mean letting yourself get away with everything; it means learning how to be honest with yourself without being cruel.   This episode shifts the focus away from self-love as constant approval and toward building a relationship with yourself that includes compassion, honesty, encouragement, accountability, and a whole lot more celebration. Megan explores why we're often incredibly quick to notice everything we do wrong while barely acknowledging our courage, growth, effort, and the small wins nobody else sees.  If your inner voice tends to get loudest when you've screwed up and mysteriously disappears when you've done something worth celebrating, this conversation will help you become someone you actually want beside you when life gets hard — someone who can comfort you, challenge you, hype you up, tell you the truth, and most importantly, stay in your corner through all of it. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores our obsession with closure — and the belief that somewhere out there is one missing explanation, apology, conversation, or piece of information that will finally allow us to move on.  She unpacks how the search for answers can become another way of staying attached to the very thing we're trying to heal from. From replaying conversations and rereading messages to checking social media and endlessly asking "why," Megan explores the important difference between actually processing an experience and simply rehearsing the same pain over and over again.  This episode shifts the focus away from needing someone or something outside of you to provide the perfect ending and toward recognizing when you already know enough. Megan explores why information doesn't always bring peace, how our brains fill unanswered questions with painful stories of their own, and why sometimes closure isn't something you receive — it's something you decide.   If you've been waiting for an explanation, apology, validation, certainty, or one final conversation before you feel like you're allowed to move forward, this conversation will help you stop reopening the case, make peace with what you may never know, and reclaim your ability to keep living without having every missing piece.  Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan takes a closer look at perfectionism — and why it doesn’t always look like colour-coded planners, flawless work, and refusing to make mistakes. Sometimes, perfectionism looks like procrastination, endless tweaking, waiting until you feel completely ready, or keeping something safely inside the realm of “potential” where nobody can judge it yet.  She explores an often-overlooked side of perfectionism: what happens after something goes well. When your best workout becomes the standard for every workout, your most productive day becomes the new expectation, or one great piece of work suddenly feels like something you have to recreate every single time, success can quickly turn from evidence of what you're capable of into pressure you have to live up to.  This episode shifts the focus away from perfect performance and toward something far more sustainable: learning how to have average days and keep going. Megan unpacks why consistency isn't about maintaining an unbroken streak, how all-or-nothing thinking turns small interruptions into long disappearances, and why building room for imperfect versions of your habits might actually make you more consistent.  If you've ever procrastinated because something wasn't ready enough, put enormous pressure on yourself to repeat a past success, or missed a few days and somehow resurfaced six weeks later wondering what the hell happened, this conversation will help you rethink perfectionism, redefine consistency, and remember that your best is evidence of what's possible — not the minimum requirement for being allowed to continue. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores the anxiety of feeling behind in life — especially when it seems like everyone around you is hitting milestones while you're wondering why your own life doesn't look the way you thought it would by now.  She unpacks the invisible timelines we carry for relationships, careers, money, family, success, and adulthood — and how easily an unmet expectation can turn into the belief that we're somehow failing. Megan explores the grief that can exist between the life you imagined and the life you're actually living, while making space for the complicated truth that you can be genuinely happy for someone else and still feel sadness about something you deeply want for yourself.   This episode shifts the focus away from somebody else's milestones and toward questioning the timeline itself. Megan explores why starting over isn't the same as falling behind, how easily we mistake "not yet" for "never," and why some of the most meaningful progress in our lives is the kind that never comes with an announcement, title, ring, paycheck, or house key. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores what happens when someone gives you a very legitimate reason not to trust them — and your brain decides that perhaps no human being should ever be trusted again. She dives into the complicated aftermath of betrayal and why learning to trust again isn't simply about convincing yourself that a new person is different. Because underneath the fear of being hurt again is often an even deeper question: Can I trust myself if it happens again?  This episode shifts the focus away from blind trust and toward something far more sustainable: allowing trust to be built through consistency, evidence, boundaries, and repair. Megan explores how past experiences can influence the way we interpret new relationships, why trust doesn't have to be all-or-nothing, and how to tell the difference between paying attention and making new people pay old debts. If you've been hurt, lied to, betrayed, or blindsided and now find yourself questioning people's intentions, bracing for history to repeat itself, or doubting your own judgment, this conversation will help you build a wiser version of trust — one that allows you to stay open without being blind, vulnerable without abandoning yourself, and confident that whatever another person chooses to do, you can trust yourself to handle what comes next.  Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores why so many of us expect ourselves to perform at 100% every single day—and why that expectation leaves us feeling like we're constantly falling behind. Instead of trying to force the same level of productivity regardless of your energy, stress, or mental capacity, Megan introduces the idea of creating your own personal operating manual. Through humor, relatable stories, and four surprisingly practical (and unapologetically named) strategies, she shares a more compassionate way to navigate the different versions of yourself that show up from day to day. This episode shifts the focus away from pushing harder and toward working with your capacity instead of fighting against it. Megan explores how to recognize the early signs of overwhelm, stop turning low-energy days into character judgments, and build simple systems that make life feel lighter—even when you're not operating at your best. If you've ever called yourself lazy for needing a break, felt guilty for not getting enough done, or wondered why some days brushing your teeth feels like an Olympic event while other days you can conquer the world, this conversation will help you replace self-criticism with self-awareness, adjust your expectations without giving up on yourself, and learn how to support the version of you that shows up each day.  Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan invites you to rethink what it means to "finish the year strong." Instead of chasing bigger goals, squeezing in more productivity, or trying to reinvent yourself before December 31st, she offers a different challenge: create more life. Through humor, relatable stories, and two simple but powerful lists, Megan explores how much of our time and energy gets spent worrying about things that don't deserve it—and how freeing up even a little of that mental space can make room for more adventure, connection, spontaneity, and joy. This episode shifts the focus away from accomplishing more and toward experiencing more. Megan shares why anticipation matters, how waiting for the perfect invitation often keeps us stuck, and why becoming the person who creates opportunities instead of waiting for them can completely change the way the rest of your year feels. If you've caught yourself saying, "I can't believe the year's almost over," or you've been waiting for life to become more exciting on its own, this conversation will inspire you to give fewer f*cks where fewer f*cks are deserved, make memories on purpose, and start intentionally filling the months ahead with experiences you'll actually remember.  Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores why our brains are so quick to turn one disappointing moment into a sweeping conclusion about who we are, what our future holds, and what everyone else must be thinking. From unanswered texts and awkward conversations to missed workouts, rejection, and disappointing results, she unpacks the stories our minds automatically create—and why those stories often cause far more suffering than the original event itself. Megan shares practical tools for separating facts from assumptions, questioning the meaning we attach to difficult moments, and recognizing that our brains are not always reliable narrators. This episode shifts the focus away from believing every thought we have and toward responding to what actually happened instead of the catastrophic story our minds create. Through humor, relatable examples, and simple questions you can ask yourself in the moment, Megan offers a new way to interrupt spirals before they become full-blown identity crises. If you've ever convinced yourself that one mistake means you're failing, one rejection means you're not enough, or one unanswered text means someone secretly hates you, this conversation will help you challenge the stories your brain tells, separate events from meaning, and stop letting one hard moment become a verdict on your entire life.  Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan challenges one of the biggest myths about confidence—that some people simply have it, while everyone else is left trying to figure it out. She explores why confidence isn't a personality trait but a skill that's built differently across every area of our lives. Through hilarious stories, relatable examples, and practical strategies, Megan explains why you're probably far more confident than you give yourself credit for, how your inner critic quietly sabotages your confidence by dismissing your wins, and why collecting evidence—not waiting to feel ready—is what creates lasting self-belief. This episode shifts the focus away from chasing confidence and toward understanding how it's actually built. Megan unpacks the roles of repetition, self-trust, comparison, and celebration, while sharing simple ways to transfer confidence from one area of your life into another and stop letting fear of judgment make your decisions. If you've ever felt like everyone else seems more confident than you, or you've been waiting until you feel "ready enough" before going after something you want, this conversation will remind you that confidence isn't something you're missing—it's something you've already built before, and you know exactly how to build it again. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]

In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan steps away from her usual mindset conversations to share five simple habits that have had the biggest impact on how she feels—physically, mentally, and emotionally. From improving gut health and prioritizing protein to supporting your circadian rhythm, walking more, and intentionally creating moments of joy each day, Megan walks through the everyday practices that have helped her feel healthier, more energized, and more like herself than she has in years. Rather than focusing on perfection or complicated wellness routines, this episode is all about sustainable habits that fit into real life. Megan shares the science behind why these practices matter, along with personal stories about the noticeable changes she's experienced—from more stable energy and better digestion to improved mood, sleep, and overall wellbeing. If you've been looking for realistic ways to feel better in your body, boost your energy, and support your health without overcomplicating it, this conversation will leave you with practical ideas you can start using right away—and a reminder that feeling good is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.  Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: [email protected]