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Have you ever prayed for a sign, and nothing came? You kept waiting. Kept praying. Kept staying still — because moving forward without a clear answer from God felt wrong. In this episode, you'll hear why "waiting on God" can quietly become a hiding place. You'll learn the difference between waiting for a sign and using the wisdom God already gave you. And you'll discover that making a plan is not a lack of faith — it's part of it. In this episode, you'll learn: Why waiting can be fear wearing a spiritual mask The real difference between a sign and wisdom How to build a plan without feeling guilty about your faith One small step you can take today — no sign required "In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps." — Proverbs 16:9 If you're ready to stop waiting and start building your next step, [join Dating After Divorce] — the membership made for you.   Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram @relaltionshipcoach4women 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.

Have you ever looked back at your marriage and asked yourself, "How did I let that happen to me?" You're not alone — and in this episode, we're finally answering the question that keeps so many women up at night. In this episode, you'll discover: Why staying wasn't weakness — it was survival The hidden abandonment wound that kept you frozen in place How codependency quietly stole your identity, one day at a time The truth about faith, guilt, and what God actually asks of you in a painful marriage A real story of the ordinary moment that finally woke one woman up to the truth If you've ever carried guilt or shame about staying too long, this episode will help you understand your story — so you never repeat it. "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." — Psalm 34:18 Ready to keep healing this at the root? DM us HEAL to join Healing After Divorce and start your next step toward becoming whole again. Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women

In this episode we talk about one of the most misunderstood teachings in the church — forgiveness. If you've ever felt guilty because you can't forget, confused because you forgave but still set boundaries, or exhausted because you're still carrying something everyone said you should have let go by now — this episode is for you. In this episode you'll learn: Why forgiveness does not mean forgetting — and what the Bible actually says How you can forgive and protect yourself at the same time without feeling like a bad Christian Why forgiveness is a layered process, not a one-time decision Anchor verse: Ephesians 4:31-32 — "Get rid of all bitterness… Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."   Were you told that forgiveness means forgetting — and that left you more confused than free? In this episode we uncover the full biblical truth about forgiveness: what it means, what it does NOT mean, and how it sets you free — not the other person. For Christian women over 40 who are ready to heal for real, without guilt and without confusion.     Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

Feeling forgotten by God after divorce? This episode breaks down why His silence isn't His absence — and how to feel Him again, one small step at a time. God feels distant after divorce, does God abandon me, Christian woman healing after divorce, God's silence, feeling forgotten by God, faith after divorce over 40, healing after divorce podcast 3 teaching points as bullet takeaways Scripture list: Psalm 34:18, Isaiah 43:18-19, Romans 8:1 Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛   Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76 Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page

After my divorce, fear made almost every decision for me — the job I took, the man I stayed with, the dreams I shrunk. Today I'm showing you how to spot fear-made decisions before you make another one." The one question that exposes a fear-based decision The 24-48 hour rule for panic decisions Why shrinking your life doesn't protect you from more pain The verse that breaks fear's grip: 2 Timothy 1:7 Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.

Have you ever found yourself scrolling through a dating app at midnight — not because you're ready, but because the silence in your house feels too loud? Friend, you're not alone. And in today's episode, we're going to talk about something nobody told you to do after your divorce — fall in love with YOU first. Before the next relationship. Before the next first date. Before anything else. In this episode you will learn: ✅ Why you don't recognize yourself anymore — and how to find your way back ✅ Why being alone doesn't mean something is wrong with you ✅ Why you keep giving love to everyone but yourself — and how to finally stop ✅ Simple things you can start doing THIS WEEK to come home to yourself We also look at what Psalm 139:14 and Matthew 22:39 say about why loving yourself is not selfish — it's actually scriptural. The right love is not going to complete you. The right love is going to find you already whole. And that wholeness starts with you. 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED:   💛 Join the Healing After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @relationshipcoach4women   💬 DID THIS EPISODE SPEAK TO YOUR HEART? Share it with a friend who needs to hear it today. And if you're ready to go deeper, come join us inside the Healing After Divorce membership. You don't have to do this alone. Rising After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40 is a faith-based podcast to help you heal, rediscover yourself, and step into the woman God created you to be — after divorce.

Have you noticed you keep picking the same kind of man... and getting hurt the same way? In this episode, we talk about the difference between dating from a wound and dating from a healed heart — and why most women don't even realize they're doing it. You'll learn: Why you keep choosing unavailable men (and how the abandonment wound drives it) Why you hide your true self on dates (and how the rejection wound drives it) How to fill yourself first, so you date from want — not need One Bible verse to help you see your own heart clearly If you're tired of opening your heart, getting hurt, and closing it again — this episode is for you. Healing comes first. Love that lasts comes after. 🎙️ Listen now and start dating from a healed heart, not a wound. 💛 Want support walking this out, not just hearing about it? Join Dating After Divorce — text RISE to get started.   Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛   Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76

Have you ever looked in the mirror after your divorce and not recognized the woman looking back at you? Not because of how you look — but because somewhere along the way, you stopped knowing what you liked, what you wanted, and who you even were. In this episode, we are talking about something most women are afraid to say out loud: I lost myself being his wife. And we are going to walk through why it happens, what it costs you, and — most importantly — how to find your way back to being you. This is not about blaming your marriage. This is about reclaiming what God always intended you to keep: yourself.   Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛   Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76

Have you ever said yes when everything inside you wanted to say no? Do you ever feel resentful after giving so much — and then feel guilty for feeling that way? What if the reason you over-give has nothing to do with generosity — and everything to do with a wound you haven't healed yet? Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛   Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76

You keep saying you're fine. But late at night, when it's quiet... you know you're not. This episode is for the woman who has been holding it together for everyone else — and quietly falling apart alone. It's time to stop pretending. Real healing starts here. Are you tired of saying "I'm fine" when you are anything but? Have you been staying busy just so you don't have to feel it? Do you feel like you should be "over it" by now — but you're not? What if the breakdown you've been avoiding is actually the breakthrough you've been waiting for? Are you healing — or are you just surviving? 🎙️ In this episode you will discover: Why saying "I'm fine" is keeping you emotionally stuck after divorce The one grief step most women skip — and why it makes everything harder How comparing your healing timeline to others is a lie rooted in shame What real emotional recovery actually looks like for a Christian woman over 40 The simple shift that moves you from performing recovery to actually living it   The mask of "I'm fine" is a protection tool — but it becomes a prison Grief is not weakness. It is love with nowhere to go Your healing does not have a deadline — growth matters more than speed "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted." — Psalm 34:18  Resources and Links Mentioned 📖 Scripture: Psalm 34:18 — "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." 💻 Work with Patty: pattymartinlifecoach.com 🎙️ Join the Membership — Rebuild After Divorce: (add your link) 📲 DM Patty the word RISE on Instagram for more healing resources → @pattymartinlifecoach  Connecting + Next Steps Loved this episode? You will also love these: 🎧 "Why You're Not Over Your Divorce Yet — And What to Do About It" 🎧 "When God Feels Silent After Divorce" 🎧 "How to Stop Living in Survival Mode After Divorce" Your next step: If this episode hit home, don't just listen — take one action today. Pick one person you trust and tell them the truth about how you really are. That one moment of honesty can change everything. Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛   Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76 Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page     Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group    https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361   Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225   Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Healing After Divorce Membership. DM me via Instagram for more details. Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women

You are not damaged goods because of your divorce....   Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together.  Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women   📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.   You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛 Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76 RECOMMENDED EPISODES: EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026 EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical

Have you ever stayed in a situation — a relationship, a dynamic, a version of yourself — just because it felt safer than asking for more? Do you second-guess your own judgment when it comes to dating because you still blame yourself for your marriage not working? Have you ever heard "don't be picky" or "at your age you can't afford to be choosy" — and somewhere deep down, believed it?   Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 [Insert link] 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛 Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76   Connect  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page     Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group    https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361   Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225   Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership   RECOMMENDED EPISODES: EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026 EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical

Did you do everything right after your divorce, you prayed, you cried, you kept going, and yet something still feels… stuck? You're not weak. You're not faithless. And you are absolutely not alone. In this episode, we're having the honest conversation that most people are too afraid to start, because the reason your healing is taking longer than expected might not be what you think. Ask yourself honestly… Have you been telling everyone — and yourself — that you're "fine" when deep down you know you're not? Do you feel like you've forgiven, moved on, and done the work… but the pain still shows up uninvited? Are you secretly comparing your healing timeline to other women and wondering what's wrong with you? Does it feel like you don't even know who you are anymore — outside of being a wife, a mom, or the woman who went through a divorce? Have you rushed into dating, a new routine, or a "new you" to escape the grief — only to find it caught up with you? Do you feel guilty for still hurting, especially as a woman of faith who believes God is in control? Are you exhausted from performing okayness for your kids, your church, and your family — while quietly falling apart inside? If you said yes to even one of these — this episode was made for you. ✦ The Difference Between Coping and Actually Healing There's a version of "strong" that looks like healing on the outside but is actually suppression on the inside. We talk about why managing your emotions is NOT the same as processing them — and why faith culture can sometimes accidentally reinforce this pattern. You'll leave knowing the difference, and what to do about it. ✦ Why You Might Be Grieving More Than Just Your Marriage Your divorce didn't just end a relationship. It dismantled a story — the story of who you were, who you thought you'd become, and what your future was supposed to look like. If healing feels impossible, it might be because you're trying to heal back to a woman who no longer exists. This is the conversation that changes everything. "Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!" — Isaiah 43:18-19 God isn't asking you to forget the pain. He's inviting you to look up — and see what He's already building in you.   📖 Scripture Referenced Isaiah 43:18-19 — "See, I am doing a new thing!"   Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76   Podcast  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020  Instagram http://relationshipcoach4women   FREE GUIDE - TO HEAL YOUR HEART  https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page     Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group    https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361   Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225   Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership

Co-Parenting After Divorce: How to Protect Your Peace If co-parenting with your ex leaves you feeling anxious, angry, or emotionally exhausted — this episode is for you. One text. One phone call. One unexpected change in plans. And suddenly your entire day is derailed. Your heart is racing, your mind is spinning, and you can't focus on anything else. Sound familiar? Co-parenting after divorce is one of the hardest emotional challenges a woman can face — especially when the relationship ended in pain. You're trying to heal. You're trying to show up for your kids. But every interaction with your ex feels like a step backward in your recovery. Here's what I want you to know, you are not weak, and you are not broken. You just haven't been given the tools to protect your emotional space while still being the mom your kids need. In this episode we're talking about:   ✅ Why your ex still has the power to trigger you, even after the divorce ✅ How one interaction can completely hijack your emotions and your day ✅ Practical tools to protect your peace so YOU decide how your day goes, not him ✅ How to show up for your kids from a place of calm instead of chaos ✅ The faith-based mindset shift that will change how you approach every co-parenting interaction   By the end of this episode you will have real, actionable tools to take your emotional power back, one interaction at a time. Because you deserve peace, sis. Not when he finally changes. Right now. Today.   🎧 This episode is for you if: You feel like your ex still controls your emotions even though the marriage is over Co-parenting stress is spilling over into your home and your relationship with your kids You're tired of feeling anxious every time his name pops up on your phone You want to heal completely, not just on the outside Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76   Podcast Https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020  Connect  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page     Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group    https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361   Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225   Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership   RECOMMENDED EPISODES: EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026 EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical

Today is my birthday — and the best gift I can give you is the truth. I found real love at 49. Not by luck. Not by magic. But by doing the work — even when I didn't feel like it, even when I doubted myself, even when I wondered if it was too late. If you've been praying, waiting, and wondering why nothing is changing — this episode is for you. In this episode I share: Why passive hope is not the same as active faith The invisible emotional wall that might be blocking real connection The "I'll be ready when…" trap that keeps you stuck longer than anything else My personal story of what I actually did to find love after divorce "Faith without works is dead." — James 2:17 You don't have to be finished. You just have to be available. 🎧 Listen now — and share this with a friend who needs to hear it today. Ready to stop waiting and start doing the work? Join the Dating After Divorce membership — link below.     Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76   Podcast Https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020  Connect  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page     Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group    https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361   Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225   Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at https://www.pattymartinlifecoach.com/dating-after-divorce-membership   RECOMMENDED EPISODES: EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026 EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical