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This is the conversation Lynsey wishes she had had 20 years ago, before her body started yelling and she refused to listen. Hannah O'Donovan spent over a decade as an event producer, putting on concerts for major artists and running a multi-six-figure business, until extreme burnout and daily anxiety forced her to shut it all down. Today she is a nervous system specialist and the founder of Untamed Divine Feminine, helping women build success that actually feels good in their bodies. Together, Lynsey and Hannah talk about the alarm bells your body sends before burnout hits, why slowing down feels so uncomfortable for high achievers, and how to know whether your next pivot is moving you toward something or just running away. Together we will talk about: The alarm bells the body sends before burnout, from a tight chest and digestive changes to hair loss and anxieties dialed way up Why the basic stuff (going to the bathroom when you need to, eating, three deep breaths) feels far away when you have only ever been praised for output How the nervous system works: fight or flight versus rest and digest, and what happens when you get stuck in survival mode for months or years Why slowing down can trigger anxiety, so you clean the garage instead of reading the book, and how that cycle keeps you over-functioning How to tell a healthy pivot from avoidance in disguise, because your habits and your nervous system follow you into the next job, city, or relationship What the untamed divine feminine really means (not passive or soft, but wild, intuitive, able to receive, and in touch with sacred anger) and why naming your emotions accurately changes everything One line to take with you: "Your nervous system does not necessarily do what is best for you. It does what is familiar, because that is what feels safe." This week's challenge: For one week, practice the basics Hannah started with. Go to the bathroom when you need to, eat when you are hungry, and pause for three deep breaths whenever you feel activated at your desk. Then start naming your emotions accurately: not "that is funny" or a snappy comment, but the real feeling underneath. Connect with Hannah O'Donovan: Grab Hannah's free gift, The Return Journey, five short audio activations for reconnecting with yourself: https://somasoma.podia.com/thereturnjourney Learn about her work in nervous system regulation and somatic channeling through Untamed Divine Feminine: https://www.somasoma.ca/ Connect with Lynsey: Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you never miss an episode

Your reviews are glowing. Your dashboard is green. Your boss thinks you are crushing it. And underneath all of that, you feel like you are slowly disappearing. That isn't burnout. It's quiet cracking, and almost everything written about it is aimed at HR and employers. In this sequel to the Energy Ledger episode, Lynsey talks directly to the high performer whose numbers look fantastic while her sense of self gets a little smaller every quarter. She shares her own season when stretch became strain, and three ways to catch the crack before it becomes a break. Together we will talk about Why burnout is loud and quiet cracking is quiet, and why that makes it so easy to miss How "cracking hides behind very good metrics" Lynsey's own season of glowing reviews, running on fumes, and the family plans that quietly disappeared The difference between stretch, which builds you, and strain, which never lets up The signature of quiet cracking: shrinking initiative, emotional withdrawal, and going quiet in rooms where you used to speak up The monthly gap check: are your results and your meaning moving in the same direction? Installing circuit breakers before you need them, including the Ask the Experts exercise One line to take with you "Cracks are information. They're not failure. They show you exactly where the light needs to get in." This week's challenge Do your first gap check this week. Draw two columns, results and meaning, and put an arrow up or down on each. Then send one Ask the Experts text to one person: "Describe a time when you saw me at my best." Let yourself read the answer. And sit with this question: where are you still delivering, but no longer showing up as your real, authentic self? Connect Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat, October 15 to 18, CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa, Carefree, Arizona. Application only, limited to 20 women. Apply or schedule a chat at audaciouslyunapologetic.com Book a free discovery session with Lynsey at lynseymulder.com Missed the episode this one builds on? Listen to E64, "Finish the Year Strong," on the energy ledger Follow Lead with Spark on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Podbean, and share this episode with a friend whose results look great but who hasn't seemed like herself lately

A girls' trip to Florida, an $80 umbrella rental, and a $15 bargain umbrella that lasted about four seconds before the wind flipped it inside out. The funniest part wasn't the umbrella. It was what Lynsey and her friend did next: before they checked the damage, they checked the audience. In this episode, Lynsey unpacks that instinct to scan the room before we let ourselves laugh, speak up, or try something new. She shares the research behind the spotlight effect, why comparing our inside to someone else's outside is never a fair fight, and three simple practices to help you stop performing for a crowd that mostly isn't even looking. Together we will talk about The $15 beach umbrella and the "meerkat scan" that came before the laughter The spotlight effect, and the Cornell study that shows people notice us about half as much as we think Why comparison turns into a competition the other person doesn't even know she's in The difference between the crowd in your head and the handful of people whose opinions truly matter Three practices: catch the scan, choose the giggle, and assume the same interior How comparison can turn into compassion with one simple compliment One line to take with you "Most of the time, it's not actually broken. It's just an inside-out umbrella." This week's challenge Think of one thing you've been holding back on because of what someone might think: an idea at work, a class, that bright dress with the tags still on. Ask yourself who, specifically, you're worried about. If you can't put a name on it, notice that. Then this week, flip the canvas back and do the thing. Connect with Lynsey Craving a room where the highlight reels get set down at the door? The Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat is October 15 to 18 at CIVANA Wellness Resort & Spa in Carefree, Arizona. A small group, by application only. Apply or schedule a chat with Lynsey at audaciouslyunapologetic.com Want to work on this one on one? Book a free discovery session at lynseymulder.com Follow Lynsey on: Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder If this episode helped, share it with one woman who needs to hear it, and leave a review so more women can find the show

How to Stop Comparing Your Insides to Everyone Else's Highlight Reel Have you ever looked around a room full of accomplished people and thought, "What am I doing here?" Last week at a conference in Tampa Bay, Lynsey did exactly that, and within ten minutes she had talked herself right out of her own résumé. Then she walked up to one of the speakers, had a real conversation, and discovered that the woman she admired was carrying the very same worries. In this short solo episode, Lynsey shares what she realized on the walk away: you are comparing what you can see of someone else to what you can feel in yourself. That is apples and oranges, and it is never a fair fight. If imposter syndrome has been whispering to you lately, this one is for you. Together we will talk about Why imposter syndrome shows up even after decades of experience, and what the whisper really sounds like (01:32) The conversation that changed everything, and the realization behind "outside versus inside" (02:32) How to catch the unfair comparison with one simple question (05:10) Why pedestals do not survive proximity, and the question to ask someone you admire (05:56) The day someone put Lynsey on a pedestal, and what she said back (06:47) How to build your identity from the inside out, and why "developing my people" is never just a task on your list (07:41) The quiet wins list: three a week, small, unposted, and yours (09:00) One line to take with you "Her outside was never meant to be measured against your inside." This week's challenge Ask yourself: "What is the one thing I did this week that nobody will ever post about, but it's exactly who I want to be?" A better mom, a better listener, a leader who built her team up, someone who showed up for her community. Write it down. That is quiet win number one. Then add two more before the week is over. Connect Craving a room where the highlight reels get set down at the door? The Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat is October 15 to 18 at CIVANA Wellness Resort & Spa in Carefree, Arizona. A small group, by application only. Apply or schedule a chat with Lynsey at audaciouslyunapologetic.com Want to work on this one on one? Book a free discovery session at lynseymulder.com Follow Lynsey on: Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder If this episode helped, share it with one woman who needs to hear it, and leave a review so more women can find the show

When a senior leader calls Betsy Kauffman and says, I have this person and they need help, they usually mean the person is broken. Betsy's whole career is built on a different premise: your people are not broken, your system is. Betsy Kauffman is the founder and CEO of Cross Impact Coaching, a TED speaker with over 1.6 million views, and the author of The Fix. After 25 years leading large-scale technology transformations, she now helps leadership teams close the gap between strategy and execution. In this episode, she and Lynsey get into why misalignment quietly drains companies, how to have the honest conversations most of us avoid, and the four-tip framework from her TED Talk that works whether you are the CEO or an individual contributor. Together we will talk about: Why AI is the latest in a long line of technology waves, and why the human element matters more now, not less The premise of The Fix: people are usually not broken, the system, processes, or how a team makes decisions is what is driving the behavior The triggers of misalignment: no shared understanding of the top priority, no agreement on how decisions get made, and no safety to talk about the hard stuff The hidden cost of a leadership team that is not aligned, from wasted resources to your best performers walking out the door The four tips for honest conversations at work: confidence, intent, data, and a solution, plus the pro tip of saying it out loud first Why alignment does not always equal agreement, and how to disagree and still commit to a united front How to recover when you say the wrong thing: own it, go straight to the person, and do it quickly One line to take with you: "Alignment does not always equal agreement. You may not agree, but you get behind it, and that is what alignment is." This week's challenge: Before your next hard conversation, use Betsy's four tips: lead with the confidence to speak up, know your intent, bring the data or the why, and come with a solution. Then practice it out loud, in the car or the mirror, before you walk in. Your brain files it as evidence that you can do it. Connect with Betsy Kauffman: LinkedIn: @ BetsyKauffman https://www.linkedin.com/in/betsykauffman/ Website:https://crossimpact.co/media/ Free Leadership Alignment Survey:https://crossimpact.co/alignment/.  Connect with Lynsey: Website:com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you never miss an episode

I recently coached a client on boundaries, and about ten minutes into the conversation I knew it was something I needed to share with you too. She told me she has such a hard time saying no that she gives everything away, and then feels hurt when someone does not choose her. Then she said the sharper version: I do not say no, I am always looking for how I can say yes. In this episode I walk through the reframe that changes that pattern, the three steps I gave her, and the quiet moment on the call when it finally clicked for her. What you will learn How to flip a boundary from a refusal into a decision you already made Why your priorities lose to other people’s requests, and the one change that fixes it The move one number rule that keeps a new boundary from collapsing in week two How to write present tense statements your brain will actually accept A thirty second tracking habit that proves you can already do the thing you think you cannot Join the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat October 15 to 18, 2026, CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa, Carefree, Arizona. A few select women, application only. Apply or schedule a chat at audaciouslyunapologetic.com Connect with Lynsey Website: lynseymulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder If this episode landed, the kindest thing you can do is send it to one woman who says yes too fast

It is the end of August, which means sometime in the next two weeks you will open your calendar, look at what is left of the year, and feel one of two things. The sprint: grab every unfinished January goal and muscle to December 31st on caffeine and sheer personality. Or the quiet quit: eh, we will regroup in January, and coast through four months of your one precious life. Both are traps. In this solo episode, Lynsey offers a third way. You do not have a time problem, you have an energy problem, and no planner has ever minted a 25th hour. She walks you through the energy ledger, a 10-minute audit of where your energy actually goes, and the year-end edit built on three lists: cut, park, and protect. Then she names the real reason we do not cut anything, and it is not discipline. It is fear. Together we will talk about: Why the year-end sprint and the quiet quit are both traps, and what the third way looks like The reframe that changes everything: you do not have a time problem, you have an energy problem The energy ledger, a 10-minute line-by-line audit of last week's calendar marked simply plus or minus The year-end edit in three lists: cut the performative work and ghost goals, park the good-but-wrong-time ideas, and protect the two or three things that actually mattered Why one protected thing must be your own renewal, because renewal is infrastructure, not indulgence The hidden fears underneath a bloated calendar, and why they will quietly veto every boundary until you name them One line to take with you: "Renewal is not what you do after the important work. Renewal is what makes the important work possible. That is not indulgence, that is infrastructure." This week's challenge: Do the energy ledger, then make one cut and name one protect. Just one of each. Then tell someone about both, because a boundary spoken out loud is ten times stronger than one that only lives in your head. The Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat: October 15 to 18, 2026 at CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa in Carefree, Arizona. Four days and three nights built around clarity, confidence, and connection: inner work to rebuild your foundation, the immunity map that x-rays what has really been in your way, a real action plan for your next chapter, plus sound baths, yoga, private dinners under the desert sky, and a burning ceremony. Co-facilitated by Lynsey Mulder and Paula Shannon. By application, intentionally capped. Apply, or schedule a no-pressure chat with Lynsey first, at https://audaciouslyunapologetic.com/  Connect with Lynsey: Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you never miss an episode

You have been waiting on a memo. The one where your boss, the board, or some committee of very official people sits you down and says you are now allowed to lead your way. Trust your gut. Push back in the meeting. Run the team the way you actually want to. Signed, everyone. Lovingly, here is the truth: that memo does not exist. It was never in the mail. In this solo episode, Lynsey names why so many accomplished women keep their real leadership in a drawer, waiting at a window where no one is working. She traces it back to a lifetime of permission-based success, counts what the waiting actually costs, and hands you three permission slips to write yourself this week. Because the vetting is done. The only approval still outstanding is yours. Together we will talk about: Why waiting for permission is training, not a character flaw, and where the game quietly changed on you mid-career The four costs of waiting: the world gets a photocopy of you, your ideas go unclaimed, the people watching you learn to wait too, and the slow leak of burnout The reframe: permission is not granted to leaders, it is taken, quietly and usually without an announcement Why this is not about going rogue, and the difference between skipping accountability and bringing your actual self to the role you already earned Three permission slips to write yourself: to lead in your own style, to speak before you are certain, and to invest in yourself without earning it first The present-tense trick that helps your brain believe the slip is already true One line to take with you: "Permission is not granted to leaders. It is taken, quietly, confidently, and usually without an announcement." This week's challenge: Write one permission slip this week. Your way, out loud, in present tense, as if it is already true. Put it somewhere you will see it every morning and read it aloud, even if it feels a little silly. Your brain believes what it hears you say, especially in your own voice. The Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat: October 15 to 18, 2026 at CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa in Carefree, Arizona. Four days and three nights for high-performing women, built around clarity, confidence, and connection: coaching that gets underneath your patterns, sound baths, yoga, meditation under the desert sky, private dinners, and a curated circle of women who become the personal board of directors you have been missing. Co-facilitated by Lynsey Mulder and Paula Shannon. By application, intentionally capped. Apply, or schedule a no-pressure chat with Lynsey first, at https://audaciouslyunapologetic.com/  Connect with Lynsey: Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you never miss an episode

If you are carrying a lot, leading a lot, achieving a lot, and still wondering why you feel exhausted underneath all of it, this conversation is for you. Dr. Alicia Newsome returns for Part 2 of our series, and this time we zoom out from the body to the whole picture: the beliefs running underneath your leadership, the exhaustion our culture quietly applauds, and her new book, Worthy of Rest. This is the honest, practical half of the conversation, the one about the story you have been telling yourself since you were eight years old and how it is still shaping the decisions you make in the boardroom. Together we will talk about: The Integrative Leadership Framework: body, business, and belief, and why all three have to move together Why the eight-year-old version of you cannot be the one driving the car, and the pause-and-name practice that puts her safely in the back seat Perfectionism, burnout, and worthiness are symptoms, not root causes; fourteen perfectionists in a room have fourteen different stories The types of rest most of us have never heard of: sensory, emotional, spiritual, and physical, and why a nap is not always the answer Alicia's practice of taking three full weeks off twice a year, what it reveals about your business, and Lynsey's vacation SOP that keeps 500 emails from piling up while she is gone Building a team around your life: hiring for how people think, paid test projects, the human-in-the-loop AI standard, and the three things every hire should do for you Why every yes is a no to something else, and how to give yourself permission to use a two-letter word One line to take with you: "We live in a culture that worships exhaustion." This week's challenge: Look at what you have said yes to this month. Find the one that was never a full yes, the one you hesitated on, and ask yourself what you said no to in order to make room for it. Then practice the two-letter sentence. No is a complete answer. Connect with Dr. Alicia Newsome: Grab her free gift for Lead with Spark listeners at www.draliciagifts.com Learn about working with her, completely virtually, at www.dralicianewsome.com Follow her on: Instagram @ dr.alicianewsome LinkedIn @ dr-alicia-newsome YouTube @ dr.alicianewsome Facebook @ dralicianewsome Watch for her upcoming book, Worthy of Rest, which we dig into in Part 2 Connect with Lynsey: Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you do not miss Part 2 with Dr. Alicia next week, and leave a review if this one hit home Ready to go deeper? Learn about the Audaciously Unapologetic retreat in Carefree, Arizona at audaciouslyunapologetic.com Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Start here: this is Part 2 of a two-part series. If you missed Part 1, go back for the conversation on hormones, chronic stress, and what your body has been trying to tell you.

When someone on your team is struggling, what is your first instinct? Do you coach them through it, or do you quietly take the thing and do it yourself? If you just went quiet, this one is for you. In this solo episode, Lynsey names what she and her retreat co-facilitator Paula Shannon call the lifeguard trap: the habit of jumping in to rescue that feels like leadership, looks like dedication, and is quietly draining the life out of you. A lifeguard who saves everyone means no one learns to swim and the lifeguard is soaked and exhausted. A swim coach stays on the deck, builds stronger swimmers, and the pool does not fall apart on their day off. Lynsey unpacks the hidden commitment underneath the over-functioning, why you cannot delegate your way out of an identity problem, and three shifts you can start this week. This episode is also the official invitation to the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat, four days of clarity, confidence, and connection in the Arizona desert this October. Together we will talk about: The lifeguard trap, and why rescuing your team feels like leadership while it drains you The lifeguard versus the swim coach, and what changes when you move from the water to the deck The hidden commitment underneath over-functioning: if everything runs through me, then I matter here Why this is an identity problem, not a calendar problem, and why no productivity system will fix it Three shifts you can make this week: catch the rescue reflex, trade the rescue for a question, and remember that every yes is a no One line to take with you: "Your value was never in rescuing. Your value is in your clarity, your voice, and what you build in other people." This week's challenge: For one week, catch the rescue reflex. Every time you are about to take something off someone's plate, pause and ask: is this person actually drowning, or are they three feet from the wall? Do not change anything yet. Just notice how many times a day that reflex fires. The Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat: October 15 to 18, 2026 at CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa in Carefree, Arizona. Four days of coaching, sound baths, private dinners under the desert sky, and a curated circle of women who are done running on fumes and ready to lead at full power. Co-facilitated by Lynsey Mulder and Paula Shannon. Attendance is by application and intentionally capped. Apply, or schedule a no-pressure chat with Lynsey first, at https://audaciouslyunapologetic.com/ Connect with Lynsey: Website: https://lynseymulder.com/com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder

If you have ever felt just a little bit off but could not quite explain it, this conversation will open your eyes in the best way. This week kicks off a special two-part series with Dr. Alicia Newsome, a functional medicine practitioner, executive advisor, international speaker, and three-time bestselling author who helps high performers get to the root cause of what is going on inside their bodies, without drugs or surgery. Together, Lynsey and Dr. Alicia unpack the symptoms so many women have been told are normal (the fatigue, the brain fog, the PMS, the two o'clock crash) and reveal what your body is actually trying to tell you. Together we will talk about: The difference between common and normal, and why headaches, exhaustion, bloating, and weight loss resistance are your body's check engine light What is really happening with your hormones and adrenal glands during perimenopause, and why a life of chronic stress makes this season so much harder than it has to be Why high-achieving women say "I'm not stressed" while their labs, and their massage therapists, say otherwise Where hormone replacement therapy fits as a tool, and why dealing with the foundation comes first Alicia's free morning, afternoon, and evening routines: gratitude you actually feel, two daily goals, transition rituals, the nightly brain dump, and binaural beats for deeper sleep How taking care of your body is not selfish; it is what protects your family, your team, and your purpose One line to take with you: "Headaches are common, but they are not normal. You did not have a headache because you had a Tylenol deficiency." This week's challenge: Pick one of Dr. Alicia's free routines and try it every day this week. Start with the morning practice: write down five things you are grateful for, actually feel them, then set two goals for your day. At the end of the month, read your running gratitude list back to yourself. Connect with Dr. Alicia Newsome: Grab her free gift for Lead with Spark listeners at www.draliciagifts.com Learn about working with her, completely virtually, at www.dralicianewsome.com Follow her on: Instagram @ dr.alicianewsome LinkedIn @ dr-alicia-newsome YouTube @ dr.alicianewsome Facebook @ dralicianewsome Watch for her upcoming book, Worthy of Rest, which we dig into in Part 2 Connect with Lynsey: Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you do not miss Part 2 with Dr. Alicia next week, and leave a review if this one hit home Ready to go deeper? Learn about the Audaciously Unapologetic retreat in Carefree, Arizona at audaciouslyunapologetic.com Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Related listening: E58 The Expensive FYI, on how meeting culture keeps your body in the chronic stress this episode is all about.

Something big is happening this October, and in this episode you get the full reveal. Lynsey is joined by Paula Shannon, founder of Whole Leader Lab, former deputy superintendent, and a leader who spent 30 years in public education before clinical burnout forced a reckoning. Together they announce the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat, a four-day wellness and leadership experience for women, October 15 to 18 at CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa in Carefree, Arizona. But this is not just a retreat pitch. Lynsey shares the moment she realized she was juggling so fast she could not even tell which ball she had dropped, and Paula tells the story of the mentor who told her to stop being a lifeguard and start being a swim coach, a shift that gave her 40 hours a week back. If you are the person everyone leans on, this conversation is your permission slip to press pause. Together we will talk about The moment Lynsey broke down in a hallway and what it taught her about holding everything together Paula's lifeguard versus swim coach lesson and how stepping down from the lifeguard stand reclaimed 40 hours a week Why clinical burnout took Paula two and a half years to recover from, and the real cost of not saying yes to yourself sooner What an immunity map is and how it uncovers the hidden fears and big assumptions driving your behavior Everything inside the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat: sound baths, private experiences, a pre-retreat workshop, an integration call, and a personal board of directors you take home with you One line to take with you “I am two and a half years out of clinical burnout, and it has taken two and a half years to recover. That was the cost of not saying yes to myself sooner.” Paula Shannon   This week's challenge Ask yourself Lynsey's question: are you ready to invest in yourself to gain clarity, confidence, and join a community? What is the pattern you have created costing you? Apply for the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat. The Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat October 15 to 18, 2026 at CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa, Carefree, Arizona Four days, three nights, all-inclusive: food, signature cocktails, private dinners, three private experiences, and at least three wellness activities daily Includes a pre-retreat grounding workshop and a post-retreat integration call Capped enrollment. Come solo or bring a friend and share a room. Apply at com Want your organization to cover it? Download the employer funding guide at the bottom of the retreat site. Connect with Paula Whole Leader Lab LinkedIn: @PaulaRShannon Connect with Lynsey Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder

Eight hours of real work capacity. Fourteen meetings on the calendar. The math has never worked, and yet somewhere along the way we all agreed that this is what a workday looks like. In this episode, Lynsey names the meeting culture problem for what it is: not a scheduling issue, but a culture that quietly turns you into a very expensive FYI. Drawing on 26 years in corporate leadership, including the day she logged on to find 21 meetings stacked into an 8-hour day, Lynsey breaks down the four hidden costs of meeting overload and hands you a practical playbook to change it from the inside, without a mandate, a memo, or permission. Together we will talk about: Why meetings became the default answer to everything, and what that is really costing you The four hidden costs of meeting culture: decision fatigue, pressure procrastination, strategic starvation, and the ripple effect that follows you home The leader track: auditing the meetings you own, shrinking default meeting lengths, making attendance honest, and protecting visible thinking time The individual contributor track: the one magic question to ask before accepting any invite, the graceful script for declining, and how to make the meetings you do attend better How to spot the pattern creeping back in, even when you thought you had it handled One line to take with you: "Your calendar is full, but your real work is homeless." This week's challenge: Pick the single meeting on your calendar where you contribute the least, then either ask the organizer what is actually needed from you or ask for the notes instead. One meeting. Watch what it does for your energy, and for the people watching you. Connect with Lynsey: Follow Lead with Spark on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Podbean so you never miss an episode, and leave a review if this one hit home Free Crack Your Code BANK assessment Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder Ready to go deeper? Learn about the Audaciously Unapologetic retreat in Carefree, Arizona at audaciouslyunapologetic.com Related listening: E54 The Tactical Trap, on why tactical competence becomes a ceiling for senior leaders.

Have you ever looked at your life on paper and thought, this all looks right, so why does something feel off? Nothing is broken. Your career is solid, your family is fine, and yet there is a quiet hum underneath it all telling you that this is not it anymore. In this episode, Lynsey digs into the identity gap: the space between the version of you that got you here and the version of you that is trying to emerge. This is a reflection episode with no homework and no five-part framework, because the identity gap does not close through doing. It closes through honest reflection. You will hear why the tension you feel is a signal and not a siren, how the Be Do Have model works when you stop running it backwards, and why the woman you used to be deserves your gratitude instead of your embarrassment. Lynsey also shares the moment she freaked out at a networking event when she realized she had been hiding behind a corporate title for decades, and she walks you through the rocking chair question that reveals what your identity has been about all along. In this episode: Why honoring who you were is the first step to becoming who you are meant to be How the identity gap shows up as small shifts in what lights you up The Be Do Have model, and why society teaches it in reverse The rocking chair question and what it reveals about your real identity Four questions to carry with you (no worksheet required)   Ready to explore your own next chapter? Book a free discovery session with Lynsey at lynseymulder.com. No agenda, no pressure, just space to think through your questions together. And if you are ready for deeper work, join Lynsey and a small group of women this October at the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat in Carefree, Arizona. Real coaching paired with wellness experiences you have never tried, and you leave with a plan for your next chapter. Details at audaciouslyunapologetic.com.

Default settings are great for printers and computers. Not for people.   In this episode of Lead with Spark, Lynsey Mulder sits down with corporate communication coach Amy Greensmith for one of the most honest and practical conversations on people-pleasing, burnout, and using your voice that you are going to find anywhere. Amy has been working in the personal development space for over twenty years, and her work lives at the intersection of two things: believing in your own inherent worthiness, and then learning to communicate that to the outside world with confidence instead of guilt.   This episode will challenge the way you think about people-pleasing. Most high-achieving women do not recognize themselves in that label. Amy's first question to them: are you heavily invested in other people's opinions? If the answer is yes, welcome to the club.   You will also hear about fear optimization, a concept Amy coined to replace the impossible standard of fearlessness. About two kinds of burnout and which one you might already be in without knowing it. About the difference between an affirmation and progressive language and why one of them actually works. And about the complaint inventory, the simplest tool Amy knows for figuring out exactly where your boundary work needs to start.   This is a conversation full of tools you can use today. Do not miss Amy's free Boundaries Over Burnout private podcast series in the show notes below.   Together We Will Talk About Why high-achieving women often do not recognize themselves as people-pleasers and the one question that changes that The two types of people-pleasing: self-preservation versus outsourcing your self-worth, and why both matter The fawn response and where people-pleasing comes from at a biological level How to tell if you are people-pleasing strategically versus betraying yourself to keep someone else comfortable How socialization and upbringing shape the way women speak up (or do not) in professional settings Why fearlessness is not real and the concept of being fear-optimized instead The question that separates real danger from something that is just new Progressive language as a tool for getting around your own inner critic How to use evidence-based self-talk instead of affirmations that your brain will reject The two stages of burnout: engagement burnout and systemic burnout, and the warning signs of each The complaint inventory and how to use it to find your first boundary opportunity A real client story about a nurse practitioner who changed her entire relationship with her workplace in one honest conversation   One Line to Take Away with You "Default settings are great for printers and computers. Not for people."   Connect with Amy and Lynsey Amy's free Boundaries Over Burnout private podcast series is a mini-course with scripts, frameworks, and workbook pages you can use immediately. It is available right now at the link below. Free Boundaries Over Burnout Series Amy's website: amygreensmith.com Amy on LinkedIn: @heyamygreensmith Amy on Instagram: @heyamygreensmith Amy on Facebook: @heyamygreensmith   And if this conversation sparked something about how you show up as a leader, in the boardroom or at home, Lynsey would love to continue that conversation with you. Website: LynseyMulder.com Facebook: @LynseySMulder LinkedIn: @Lynsey-Mulder Instagram: @LynseyMulder Pinterest: @LynseyMulder YouTube: @LynseyMulder