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Allison Whaley is a polyamorous slut who reads smut, runs her own feminist erotica subscription platform, and parents three small children with her husband...and if you think those things can't possibly coexist, have I got a sexy-yet-wholesome episode for you. I loved talking with Allison. She's the first person I've ever met who reports having had great sex in college and only ever being attracted to stable, well-adjusted people. MY CODEPENDENT HEART YEARNS FOR THIS SUPERPOWER. She also knows firsthand how powerful erotica can be for women in discovering what really turns us on - and how men can learn what women really want by reading the smut they can't get enough of. Meow! In this episode: Growing up around purity culture in Kentucky, and the guilt that followed her first experience of being really turned onDiscovering her exhibitionist streak in college: rooftops, a hill in Forest Park, and the library, oh my!The time she and her husband hired a professional domme as an anniversary presentHer extremely mild “toxic ho phase”How two early relationships set her standard for what healthy love feels likeBurning out in fintech and deciding to stop building someone else’s dreamWhy romance is the cash cow of publishing, and the Heated Rivalry effectThe short erotic story “Female Nude, Reclining,” and why a man apologizing for misogyny is crazy hotBothered Stories’ editorial standards: writing in the awkward moments and tagging content up frontErotica as a gentle way to come back into your body after traumaCelebrating male pleasure, from a super sexy flower-petal bath scene to the shame we heap on men who masturbateBeing a mom, a CEO and a polyamorous slut at the same time, and the Feeld selfie that taught her to stop compartmentalizingHow patriarchy pressures us to lock our sexual selves behind closed doors, and why those doors need to stay open FOLLOW ALLISON: Two-week free trial of Bothered Stories: https://www.botheredstories.com/pricing-plans/list Website: https://www.botheredstories.com Podcast (Smut Talks): https://www.botheredstories.com/podcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BotheredStories Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/botheredstories/ SUPPORT THE SHOW! Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle — https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Share this episode with someone who needs a little sexy inspiration, and all the men you know who want to learn how to be amazing in bed. xoxo, Samia

Jennifer Kaylo is on husband #3 after having a sexual awakening while married to husband #2, all while co-parenting her two kids with husband #1. She hosts the Open Bedroom Podcast, where she talks candidly about sex, life, dungeons, threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes. When I was on her show recently, she told me about a Thanksgiving dinner she threw with her husband that turned into an orgy. Talk about a horn o'plenty! Even though Jen's outlook on sex and love is fun and adventurous AS HELL, she also knows how to navigate her relationships with clarity and compassion. You'll be shocked at the revelation she shares at the end of the episode. In this episode: Growing up a Catholic schoolgirl, then landing in a hardcore independent Baptist school where a pastor told her that Satan loved her short, red hairHaving unexpectedly great, orgasmic sex as a teenager, and the wise pastor who told her and her boyfriend NOT to get marriedMarriage number one: a decade with a man who was never really present, what the sex actually looked like, and the past-life regression that cracked the whole thing openThe spiritual lesson she took from that regression, and how it reframed her entire relationship historyMarriage number two: eight years of "safe," scheduled, disconnected sex, and the moment she realized she didn't want to die having had sex in only two positionsTrying to find a sex-positive therapist in a deeply conservative area (and the "crazy cat lady" who finally got it)The conversation that opened her second marriage — and how fast it ended once it didMeeting husband number three on Tinder, the rocky first date, and the three-hour reunion that reset her whole idea of sexHow she told her kids that she could love more than one person — and what they actually said backThe current chapter with husband three: swinging versus polyamory, a near-breakup, and where they are nowWhat her story reveals about how differently women are allowed to want things once patriarchy stops deciding what a "good wife" is supposed to look like FOLLOW JENNIFER KAYLO & THE OPEN BEDROOM PODCAST: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-open-bedroom-podcast/id1523922106 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1EmsUcd7s9n4HNNR0LDyG5 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theopenbedroompodcast/podcasts Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/ SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle — https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Send this to the friend who thinks you have to pick one relationship style forever, and to the one who's quietly wondering if "good wife" ever meant what she thought it did. xoxo, Samia

David Carlson was a professional organizer years before they began identifying as polyamorous, but their slutty pansexual ways went back to high school. When they found an opportunity to start fighting for your right to be a slut—or poly, or ENM/CNM, or just a group of people with a tight-knit chosen family who wanna buy a damn house together—they jumped at the chance. David is now the Campaign Director for OPEN, the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy. You might have heard news of random cities across the US passing legislation protecting nonmonogamous folks from discrimination. That’s the work David and the team at OPEN are doing every day, and they are gaining ground. It’s an exciting time to be slutty, pinecones! NOTE: David reached out after this episode was published to make two corrections. First, the laws protecting nonmonogamous people may not be able to be applied to chosen family groups—it’s a gray area right now, and untested. Second, protections were passed in Hazel Park, MI, NOT Ferndale, MI. In this episode: Why David told their high school dates they didn’t want to be exclusive, being labeled a f**k boy, and the pushback they got from boysThe delicious night David had at 18 that clued them in to being bi (and later, pan)Growing up queer in a town of 3,000 on the Oregon coast“Not terrible”: how we downplay pleasure we’ve been taught to be ashamed ofTaking the crumbs: why David ended up in monogamous relationships through their twenties even after being a subversive, nonmonogamous high schooler.Omission and small lies, and the cost of managing a partner’s reactions by not telling the whole truthRelationship anarchy explained, and why ranking partners can feel so wrongThe sale of a polycule’s house that got canceled at the last minuteHow one letter to a local DSA chapter turned into a unanimous city council voteSeattle, Portland, Olympia, Ferndale, Somerville, West Hollywood and more: where non-monogamous people are now protectedPlural domestic partnerships, and how a throuple from Portland went to Somerville, MA, to get oneHow patriarchy made romantic relationships the only kind that demands exclusivityHow feeling politically helpless can stop you from doing anything to make a difference—and how easy it can actually be to do that if you’re willing to write a letter or make a call. SUPPORT OPEN: Take OPEN’s 2026 Community Survey (open until Nov 12): https://www.open-love.org/survey Website: https://www.open-love.org Donate: https://www.open-love.org/donate Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openloveorg Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/openloveorg.bsky.social Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/openloveorg FetLife: https://fetlife.com/OPENnonprofit SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to Samia's Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Send this to the ones you know who are flying under the radar…but wish they could fly free. xoxo, Samia

Isaac Cardona has a degree in accounting, a penchant for devising ambitious community service projects, a vanilla husband he calls his soulmate, and a deep desire to be flogged by his sir. He's also my very first local happy slut! Based right here in San Antonio, Texas, a place one might not expect there to be a social group for gay men who love leather. AND YET! Isaac is one of the founding members of the San Antonio Leather Men, and he's helped grow them into one of the biggest leather groups in Texas in the last four years. In this episode: The Hanky Code, decoded: what the different colors actually mean (yes, we go there)Growing up Jehovah's Witness, getting kicked out of the church at sixteen, and the uncle whose unapologetic queerness changed everythingHis "emancipation proclamation" coming-out story, timed down to the hourFive years estranged from his parents, and how that relationship slowly mendedMeeting his husband of six years by mercilessly teasing their lovesick friends on FacebookOpening up a vanilla marriage into an ethically non-monogamous oneHow a now-closed dive bar became "home" and launched him into leather cultureBuilding the San Antonio Leathermen from twelve people at a social to 75+Winning the title Mr. Alamo City Leather and using it to fund toy drives, food drives, and an upcoming AIDS Foundation fundraiserWhat actually happens in his body and mind when he goes "primal" during impact playThe harm-reduction rules he swears by for his more adventurous kinksWhy living out loud and unashamed tends to turn people into more generous, active members of their community — a pattern Samia keeps finding, episode after episode, once patriarchy and purity culture stop running the show FOLLOW THE SAN ANTONIO LEATHERMEN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/satxleathermen/ Facebook (event calendar — socials, Kinky Carnival, gear nights): https://www.facebook.com/groups/satxleathermen/?ref=share_group_link Website: https://sanantonioleathermen.com/ Donate to the Nov 21 San Antonio AIDS Foundation fundraiser: https://www.sanantonioaids.org/donate SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle — https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Send this to the friend who thinks "kinky" and "community-minded" can't coexist, and to the one who still needs convincing that living out loud only makes the world around you better. xoxo, Samia

Taara Rose and her partner James were literally crowned Queen and King of the swinger community, but during the pandemic, Taara realized her pleasure had never been her priority. She set out to reconnect with her body, understand her own pleasure, and start advocating for it in all of her encounters. And the results...? Let's just say fire emojis abound, pinecones. And uhh, Taara got a tattoo of two pairs of scissors. 🔥✂️🔥✂️🔥 In this episode: How Taara and James started out as friends with benefits, and decided to be non-monogamous from day one of their Official RelationshipBeach blowjobs under a double rainbow (yes, that really happened)What it's like to be crowned royalty at one of the biggest swinger conventions in the worldThe anxiety that started showing up in her body before events, how she wrote it off in the moment, and what it was actually telling herThe article that got her kicked out of the swinger communityHow Taara's whole life changed when she trained to become a certified somatic sex educatorThe moment she realized her own pleasure had never been her priorityDecentering orgasms and finding pleasure in coffee, dog walks, and sexy treesNegotiating a scene weeks in advance, and what two full weeks of aftercare looks likeGoing from swinging together to polyamory apart, and how James feels about itThe Wheel of Consent, and why "thank you for your no" is part of itWhy patriarchy has all of us—women and men—performing in bed instead of feeling anything WORK WITH TAARA ROSE: Website: https://sexedforthemodernbed.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexedforthemodernbed Email: [email protected] SUPPORT THE SHOW! Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast FirmTech — use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% off — https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle — https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care — use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off — https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Send this to the friend who keeps saying yes when they want to say no, and to the one who thinks "listen to your body" sounds too woo-woo. xoxo, Samia

A man who makes the plans, cooks the meals, puts his phone away, and genuinely loves giving women pleasure? Pinecones, we need to talk. George Goulburn is a 54-year-old Australian male escort who traded corporate life for a career making women feel safe, seen, and wanted. His bookings can include beach getaways, home-cooked dinners, and plenty of sex—but the attention he describes giving his clients had me swooooooning! George joins me to talk about what women actually ask for when they hire him, how he finds genuine attraction in his work, and what happens when someone catches feelings. We get into pleasure after menopause, the emotional demands of paid intimacy, and the double standard that celebrates men for the same work women are shamed for. George loves his job, and he’s candid about both its joys and its complications. Whether or not you ever book an escort, you'll come away from this one knowing what it looks like when someone gives you their full, undivided attention, and why you deserve it. In this episode: What George's last booking looked like, hour by hour (spoiler: he booked the Airbnb and did all the cooking)Why most of his clients are over 50, and what they ask for that women in their 30s don'tThe line between performing intimacy and feeling it, and why George refuses to actHow he screens clients, and the red flags that make him turn a booking downThe "you don't haggle at Gucci" rule for knowing your worthThe myth that menopause means you "shut up shop," and why some of his clients have never felt more aliveThe sensitive question: does he ever not get aroused on the job?Catching feelings for clients, and what he does when that happensSex worker burnout, a week-long overseas booking, and how he rechargesThe scariest thing that's happened to him on the jobWhy a male escort gets called a "stud" while women doing the same work get stigmaGeorge's message to the men of the world who blame women for their problems FOLLOW GEORGE: Website: https://georgegoulburn.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/georgegoulburnofficial SUPPORT THE SHOW! FirmTech: use code HAPPYSLUT for 15% at https://myfirmtech.com Get $50 off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro Bundle: https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Shameless Care: use code HAPPYSLUT for $15 off at https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb Become a paying subscriber on Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast Share this episode with the friend who's sworn off dating apps forever, and with the man in your life who could stand to learn a thing or two about paying attention. xoxo, Samia

Abortion is good for sex. I SAID IT, pinecones. I’m proudly pro-abortion for lots of reasons, but one of them is that without abortion access, consenting to sex can mean consenting to pregnancy…and y’all, that can really, really ruin sex. And then there are all the other, bigger reasons: women being able to control their own bodies, direct their own lives, and not be forced to give birth when they don’t want to. That’s the real moral issue around abortion. Sophie Nir is the founder of the Abortion Positivity Project, a nonprofit working to move us beyond the apologetic, shame-filled language that still surrounds abortion—even among people who consider themselves pro-choice. Sophie joins me to talk about what happens when we stop treating abortion like something we have to reluctantly defend and start talking about it as healthcare, freedom, bodily autonomy, and a social good. In this episode: Why "safe, legal, and rare" still carries abortion stigmaWhat Sophie calls abortion fan fictionWhy "I could never have an abortion" may not mean what you think it meansHow abortion restrictions became embedded in American healthcare and politics, and how the original motivation wasn't morality - it was moneyWhy Sophie uses the term forced birthHow abortion is less politically controversial than we’ve been led to believeThe times Sophie witnessed anti-abortion protestors coming into the clinic she worked at...to get abortionsThe difference between being pro-choice and being proudly pro-abortionThe three pillars of abortion positivityWhy abortion access matters for women’s economic, social, and political freedomWhat the Turnaway Study tells us about what happens when people are denied abortions they wantWhy saying "abortion is healthcare" isn’t enough if we don’t actually treat it like healthcareHow nobody is conducting a national poll on whether Sophie should get sinus surgeryWhat it would look like to live in a culture where restricting abortion feels completely unthinkableAnd why we need to stop talking like we’re losing CHECK OUT THE ABORTION POSITIVITY PROJECT: Learn more about Sophie’s work, donate, join the mailing list, and check out their merch: https://abortionpositivity.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abortionpositivity/ SPONSORS: Become a more skillful lover with Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro course. Get $50 off at: https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Get 15% off FirmTech’s innovative sex-tech products at: https://myfirmtech.com/ -- Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from Shameless Care, including comprehensive STI testing, DoxyPEP, PrEP, sexual wellness medications, and more. https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb -- Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout for $15 off. SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com/ Samia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ Happy Slut Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ Happy Slut TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast Happy Slut YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast If this episode made you rethink something you’ve always assumed about abortion, send it to somebody else who might be ready to think about it differently too. xoxo, Samia

Getting tested for STIs is responsible. But what if your “comprehensive” STI test…isn’t actually comprehensive? Shameless Care founder Robert Johnson found that out the hard way when he tested negative for gonorrhea while unknowingly carrying it in his throat and passing it to a partner. That experience eventually led him to build Shameless Care, a sex-positive telehealth company designed to fill some pretty massive gaps in sexual healthcare. Robert and his Sex Is Good podcast co-host Anna join me to talk about what we actually need to know to take the fear out of sex - so it can be ALL FUN, BABY! In this episode: How Robert tested negative for gonorrhea while unknowingly spreading itWhy your STI panel may be missing infectionsWhy HPV is the glitter of the sexual worldThe HPV vaccine—and why adults over 45 may still want itPrEP, DoxyPEP, and the golden age of sexual healthWhy gay orgies are safer now than they were in the ’80s and ’90sWhy STI prevention can actually give us more sexual freedomThe ridiculous stigma around herpesHSV-1 vs. HSV-2 and how either can show up orally or genitallyMy own experience living—and having lots of sex—with herpesHow herpes has mostly functioned as an douchebag screener for meViagra and Cialis…for women?!An oxytocin nasal spray that I immediately decided I needWhy sex-positive doctors matterAnd why knowing more about sexual health can make sex a whole lot more fun CHECK OUT SHAMELESS CARE: Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from sex-positive doctors, including comprehensive STI testing, DoxyPEP, PrEP, valacyclovir, sexual wellness medications, oxytocin, and more. Samia’s Shameless Care affiliate link: https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout for $15 off your order. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shamelesscareofficial/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@shamelesscareofficial LISTEN TO SEX IS GOOD: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-is-good-podcast/id1816808892 All episodes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2505799/episodes The episode where they go into the weeds on DoxyPEP for Women: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doxypep-and-women-the-truth-shall-set-us-free/id1816808892?i=1000717357537 SPONSORS: Become a more skillful lover with Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro course. Get $50 off at: https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Get 15% off FirmTech’s innovative sex-tech products at: https://myfirmtech.com/ --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from Shameless Care. https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout for $15 off. SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com/ Samia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ Happy Slut Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ Happy Slut TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast Happy Slut YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast If this episode taught you something you didn’t know about your own sexual health, send it to somebody else who deserves to have more fun and less fear around sex. xoxo, Samia

Natalie Davis was a straight-and-narrow, rule-following lawyer mom who married her college boyfriend and fully expected to live happily ever after inside the white-picket-fence monogamy model. Then her husband cheated—and eventually asked whether they could start having sex with other people. What followed was messy, painful, liberating, awkward, sexy, and completely life-altering. Natalie is now the author of Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory, a radically candid memoir about surviving infidelity, dismantling everything she thought she knew about marriage, and discovering a version of herself she never knew existed. You know...like being a hot slut on a train. In this episode: Why Natalie never questioned monogamy before her husband’s affairThe humiliation of being cheated on—and why she couldn’t bring herself to tell her friendsHow infidelity became an unexpected doorway into consensual non-monogamyThe difference between choosing polyamory and being polyamorous under duressWhy staying after betrayal doesn’t make someone a coward or a doormatWatching your partner put effort into dates with someone else and realizing he never dated you that wayWhy people are sometimes more comfortable with secret cheating than consensual non-monogamyNatalie’s first swinger partyWhat swinging taught her about boundaries, desire, and speaking upFalling in love with another partner for the first timeComing out as polyamorous to family, coworkers, and her childWhy non-monogamous people still need legal protection from discriminationThe public-sex adventures that transformed a responsible lawyer mom into a hot slut on a trainRoadhead, parking-garage blowjobs, sexting, roleplay, and discovering what turns you on in your fortiesWhy consensual secrecy can deliver the thrill of cheating without the betrayalNatalie’s current liminal dating eraWhat it’s really like living in a resident V with her husband and metamourThe difference between a V and a throupleThe difference between a living arrangement that feels peaceful and one filled with constant low-level tensionWhy relationships don’t have to last forever to have been successfulAnd why Natalie’s story isn’t finished until she’s dead READ SAYING YES: MY ADVENTURES IN POLYAMORY: Bookshop.org: https://bookshop.org/shop/happyslut FOLLOW NATALIE DAVIS: Website: https://nataliedavisadventures.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliedavisadventures/ Medium: https://medium.com/@nataliedavisadventures Polyamory Today: https://medium.com/polyamory-today LEARN MORE ABOUT OPEN: Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy: https://www.open-love.org/ SPONSORS: Become a more skillful lover with Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro course. Get $50 off at: https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Get 15% off FirmTech’s innovative sex-tech products at: https://myfirmtech.com/ --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from Shameless Care, including DoxyPEP. Save $15 at: https://shamelesscare.com/ --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. SUPPORT THE SHOW! Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com/ Samia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ Happy Slut Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ Happy Slut TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast Happy Slut YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast If this episode made you wonder what other versions of yourself might be waiting to emerge, send it to the responsible, rule-following hot slut in your life. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out.

Pinecones, this week I'm talking to JessJess — party producer, president of Mission Control, organizer with the Bonobo Network, and the woman behind Beyond the Rainbow Events, which throws some of the most thoughtfully inclusive parties in the Bay Area. She's also been non-monogamous since high school, survived a marriage that ended in a way I wouldn't wish on anybody, and rebuilt her whole life inside a community that actually showed up for her. This conversation is about kink and parties and rope suspension, but what it's really about is what it takes to believe you're wanted exactly as you are. You don't have to be kinky, poly, or anywhere near a play party for that one to hit. In this episode: How JessJess ended up with three boyfriends and a girlfriend in high school, plus a full safer-sex negotiation at seventeenWhy she and her husband said "open relationship" for years, because nobody had handed them a better wordWhat happens when the person you've loved for twenty years becomes someone you don't recognizeHer first kink party: unicorn hair and a pink strappy outfit in a room full of black and redThuddy vs. sting-y impact play, and the scene where she discovered that her body talksThe femdom party where a man volunteered to be her footstoolWhat emotional play actually is, and how going into an insecurity on purpose taught her to feel jealousy in her body before reacting to itWhy tops sometimes need aftercare tooThe sexy dinner party where she was the biggest person in the room and got more attention than anyone elseAnd how patriarchy sold all of us the lie that only one kind of body gets to be wanted — a lie that has cost every single one of us something FOLLOW JESSJESS: Beyond the Rainbow Events LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/beyondtherainbowevents --> that link will take you to JessJess's events on Plura, Fetlife, and everywhere else JessJess's Personal Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/dapperbetch Beyond the Rainbow Events on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/beyondtherainbowevents SUPPORT THE SHOW! Substack: http://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: @samia.mounts and @happyslutcast TikTok: @happyslutcast YouTube: @happyslutcast Send this one to the friend who's been quietly wondering whether she's allowed to want more than one person. And send it to the friend who's decided nobody could want her at the size she is right now. JessJess has receipts for both of them. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get $15 off any order at Shameless Care using code HAPPYSLUT or use my affiliate link: https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb

PINECONES I'M OVER THE MOON! Mina was my anonymous guest in episode 10 of Closeted, "My First Boyfriend Suffered a Lot Because My Sex Drive Was Too High." (Listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/10-my-first-boyfriend-suffered-a-lot-because-my-sex/id1832942242?i=1000734016272) Back then, she was closeted, living with her parents, and maintaining a secret menagerie of lovers. Now, she's out of the closet and full of fresh, candid, tender, sexy updates - and holy hell, has she ever made CHANGES in the last two years. In this episode: The major family breakthrough that changed everything for MinaWhen sex becomes an escape instead of a source of joyGetting cut off by the friends she loves most - and how that led to her healingGrief, loneliness, and hitting rock bottomGraduating from her sexual mentorThe pressure to be the "perfect daughter"Junk food men, emotional support trout, and slutty salmonGetting rejected after perfectly fine sex—and being totally okay with itReopening her sexual HR recruiting departmentWhy starting a stand-up comedy career is a great way to get laidMina's very shy domestic slave/puppyBisexuality, kissing women, and spreading her bi wingsFinding her voice through stand-up comedy in South Korea LISTEN TO MINA'S ORIGINAL CLOSETED EPISODE: Episode 10: My First Boyfriend Suffered a Lot Because My Sex Drive Was Too High https://podcasts.apple.com/bm/podcast/10-my-first-boyfriend-suffered-a-lot-because-my-sex/id1832942242?i=1000734016272 FOLLOW MINA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jungmal.mina/ Stand Up Seoul: https://www.instagram.com/standupseoul_official/ SEE MINA LIVE & SUPPORT NORTH KOREAN REFUGEES: Stand-Up Comedy Show for Freedom Speakers International (FSI) Saturday, August 22 | 8:00 PM Taco Amigo, Itaewon All proceeds benefit Freedom Speakers International, a Seoul-based nonprofit that provides English public speaking, mentorship, and career development to North Korean refugees. Learn more: https://lovefsi.org/ Advance tickets: https://www.standup-seoul.com/event-details/charity-comedy-show-freedom-speakers-international SUPPORT HAPPY SLUT: Subscribe to Samia's Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast Questions, thoughts, feedback, dreams and wishes: [email protected] Share this episode with the friend who's been fishing for emotional support trout in a pond full of slutty salmon. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out. Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

One of the biggest things making a joyful sex life hard to cultivate in patriarchy is our collective acceptance of patriarchal beauty standards. These b******t standards have convinced almost everyone that they're not sexy. IT'S A LIE, PINECONES, IT'S A DIRTY LIIIIIIIE. All sorts of bodies are sexy, all sorts of people are sexy, and there really is someone for everyone - but only if we are able to deprogram patriarchy's f*****y from our minds and see ourselves for who and what we really are. Fat rolls aren't gross and cellulite isn't disgusting. Wrinkles are not something you have to hide to be beautiful. These ideas are just the lies of patriarchal capitalism trying to make you think you need to spend money and starve yourself to be lovable. Reality check: You are lovable RIGHT EFFING NOW. Listen to me read my Substack essay, You Can't Hate Yourself Thin, in this week's audio-only solo episode. In this episode: Why I went audio-only this week - I'm on a semi-real vacation visiting my mom for her 79th birthday!The lie patriarchy teaches about which bodies are allowed to be sexyHitting my lifelong goal weight in 2019, and the f****d-up sense of "benevolent superiority" that came with itThe self-love weight-loss advice I used to smugly hand out like gospel *cringe*How gaining the weight back spiraled into daily compulsive eating and shameMy New York trip, the naked mirror incident, and the moment my internal sex machine screeched to a haltGrowing up in a family that taught me to fear food and fatThe baloney incident — my earliest memory of learning fat was badThe Atkins diet, the watermelon breakdown, and finally learning what hunger actually feels likeThe relationship epiphany in my mid-twenties that unlocked real, fast, joyful weight lossCrying into my ex's chest and realizing my "self-love" had a body-shaped asterisk on itWhat I'm doing now to reprogram myselfWhy the obsession with one "correct" body is patriarchy's rulebook, not the truth — and how we get free of it SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: @samia.mounts & @happyslutcast TikTok: @happyslutcast YouTube: @happyslutcast Send this one to the friend who's white-knuckling a diet right now, convinced that this time it'll finally fix how she feels about herself...and to the friend who compliments everyone else's body but never her own. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out.

Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant, loves helping couples struggling to reconcile a mismatch in their desires, specifically surrounding kink. She's a certified Somatica sex and relationship coach and certified sexologist who specializes in couples where one partner is kinky and the other one isn't, and the way she works with them will change how you think about asking for what you want, whether your fantasy involves rope or just finally being taken to a dinner you didn't have to plan. In this episode: - Why both monogamy and polyamory require partners to make sacrifices, and no one wants to talk about it - Amanda's first coaching move isn't catering to the kinky partner, it's finding out what the vanilla partner actually wants - Why "I don't have any fantasies" is almost never true - The massage problem: why her ask and his ask are way closer than either of them thinks - Porn vs. romance novels — both are erotic material, but only one gets made fun of by men - Nine out of ten of Amanda's clients are husbands who want to submit (and her theory on why the dominant ones are all from New Jersey) - Amanda's ten-session process with couples, laid out start to finish - Why she thinks communication is NOT the most important thing in relationships - The most freeing thing you'll hear if you're scared to top someone — they're already doing 90% of the work - Subspace, dom flow, and finding your authentic dominant instead of playing a role - Amanda gets real about her own jealousy, and says something out loud she never has before - How patriarchy cuts men off from their vulnerability and women off from their power FOLLOW AMANDA: Join her free monthly group for women exploring their dominant side — email [email protected] with a photo or social handle Website: https://amandadames.com The Kink Consultant Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3psOpSZMQQYm2cN69bIKwc Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant Join Amanda at Hedonism for Swinkation (use code TKC50 for up to $400 off): https://www.swinkation.com/ SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to My Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast Share this episode with anyone who's been sitting on the same fantasy for fifteen years, or with the partner who'd actually want to hear it if it came at them a little slower. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out. Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

Marni Kinrys is the dating coach of every nervous, awkward man's dreams, pinecones. She developed her Wing Girl Method over years of watching good men fumble every time they try to connect with women - and her practical techniques for sparking attraction will make you more confident connecting with others, no matter who you are. In this episode: Why the "nice guy" is just the other side of the a*****e coinThe tiny reframe that changes everything: from "what can I get from her?" to "what do I actually want to know about her?"Why so many men literally can't flirt—and why it's a mindset before it's a skillMarni's wildest exercise: sending guys to ask 10 women if they think he's sexy (and what the women actually say)Her flirting frameworks, decoded: OSA (Observe, Share, Ask) and LCA (Learn, Confirm, Affirm)The truth about the Manosphere: the real nuggets buried in all the poisonWhy you don't need six-pack abs or six figures—and what actually makes a face "morph" into hotGiving good men permission to go after what they actually wantHow patriarchy quietly wrecks men, too FOLLOW MARNI: Grab her free flirting cheat sheet: https://winggirlmethod.com/flirtcs Website: https://winggirlmethod.com Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-the-girl-an-ask-women-podcast/id651219242 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/marnikinrys Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/winggirlmethod/ SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to My Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast Share this episode with a good man who can't figure out why he's still single, or with any woman who's exhausted from trying to explain men to themselves. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out.

My new crush Annette Benedetti — intimacy coach and host of Talk Sex with Annette — is one of the most joyful, flirty humans I've ever talked sex with. And she got here the hard way: surviving assault at 13, a town that acted like it was her fault, and decades of healing before finding her voice again. This is the story movies never tell — the part after, where you survive, you still want sex, and you go on to build the wildly happy erotic life the world tried to take away from you. This is the story I want for all survivors. In this one we get into: The misogynistic atmosphere that groomed Annette as a young girl, and the story her town told instead of the truthWhat patriarchy does to survivors (and why the conventional-wife "happy ending" is a myth)Reclaiming her voice and how President Trump unwittingly inspired her podcastBecoming her own best lover: her free 365 Days of Orgasms journeyA love letter to the G-spot and A-spot - yum!Testosterone, perimenopause, and libido after 40Layered sensation, patterns, and a very practical toy tutorial Whether you're a survivor, a late bloomer, or just body-curious, come get lit up with us, pinecones. The toys Annette gushed about: Womanizer Blend & Enhance — womanizer.com, code ANNETTE15 for 15% off. Find Annette: talksexwithannette.com · Instagram · TikTok & Facebook @talksexwithannette · the Talk Sex with Annette podcast Hear me on her show: A Bi Girl's Guide to Better Sex — a goldmine if you love pleasing women and vulva owners. Come find me & the show: @samia.mounts · show @happyslutcast (IG + TikTok) · [email protected]. I read every DM and email — send me your thoughts and advice questions! Support Happy Slut 💕 Become a paying subscriber at samiamounts.substack.com — my latest essay is all about why I love sharing my lovers with my friends (half's behind the paywall 😏). Prefer to tip? Venmo @Samia-Mounts or CashApp $SamiaMounts. Can't pay? Sharing this episode with a friend who needs it is even better. Take one sec to leave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review — it's how new happy sluts find us. Next week: Marni Kinrys, your personal Wing Girl, on why men can't flirt — and why fixing it is basically a mental-health intervention. Do something pleasurable this weekend, sweethearts. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out. Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted