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“Commit to doing small things differently every day.” After significant life events such as divorce, job loss, or personal setbacks, most people crave significant change. Going from who you once were to who you want to be can inspire fear and worry, but also excitement and fulfillment. This week’s episode outlines practical steps to reinvent yourself and create meaningful change in your life. We’re talking new vision, resetting your life, and I share how affirmations support personal change. Although I view life as a continuum—some circumstances require us to become a brand new version of ourselves if we are going to become who we are meant to be. Tune in now to start your personal reinvention.   Takeaways Reinventing yourself is a matter of creating a new vision. You can start over, pivot, and make another choice every time you need to. Change doesn’t have to be daunting. Commit to doing small things differently every day. Create affirmations that align with your new vision. You can become the person that you are meant to be. A hard reset can be beneficial. Affirmations help create new neural pathways. Small daily changes can lead to significant transformations. You can align with the highest version of yourself.   Chapters   00:00 Starting Over: A Journey of Reinvention 12:31 Practical Steps for Reinventing Yourself Thanks To I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: Airdoctor.com Get up to $300 off your new Air Doctor air purifier when you use my exclusive code: HELPS   Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Work with me: https://nakeiahomer.com/work-with-me Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Things take longer when you choose not to settle.” How do you feel about patience and waiting? Full transparency: I am not a fan. But I have come to see the value, and sometimes necessity, of waiting for things that truly matter. In this episode, I share some of those things. We’re taking love, parenthood, and everyday moments. This conversation is an encouraging reminder that your best life is worth waiting for. Takeaways Waiting is part of the lived experience. True love, marriage, and partnership are worth the wait. Parenthood is a sacred journey that requires readiness. Success, wealth, and personal growth take time to master. Fall in love with your own pace. Savor the everyday moments that bring joy. Your best life is worth waiting for. Things take longer when you choose not to settle. Chapters 00:00 The Value of Patience 03:07 Worth the Wait: Love and Relationships 06:03 Parenthood: A Sacred Journey 08:46 Mastering Your Life: The Path to Success 12:08 Everyday Moments Worth Savoring 14:56 Final Thoughts: The Journey of Waiting   Thanks To I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: Aquatru.com Save up to 20% off your new air purifier when you use my podcast exclusive code: HELPS today   Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Work with me: https://nakeiahomer.com/work-with-me Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Sometimes change isn’t evident because it’s happening on the inside.” This episode is about strengthening your ability to recognize subtle signs of healing in your life. The journey can feel discouraging when we don’t see small progress as progress, when we fail to acknowledge the inner glow up, and when we only count the changes other people notice and validate. I’m sharing ten surprising indicators of healing, including reduced activation and triggering, quicker recovery from negative events, lower tolerance for foolishness and pain, improved sleep, and decisiveness... You’ll have to tune in for the rest. After this episode, we will never question if you are truly healing again.   Takeaways Making a list of efforts helps track progress. Healing often occurs internally and isn't always visible. Being less activated or triggered are signs of healing. Recovery time from negative events decreases with healing. Lower tolerance for foolishness is a sign of growth. A lower tolerance for pain reflects emotional maturity. Improved sleep and rest indicate a regulated state. Decisiveness shows clarity and presence in life. Using your voice is essential for self-advocacy. Setting boundaries is a positive sign of healing.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Healing and Daily Setup 03:02 Recognizing Signs of Healing 06:13 Understanding Activation vs. Triggering 09:03 Recovery Time and Emotional Responses 11:53 Lower Tolerance for Foolishness and Pain 15:11 Decisiveness and Future Planning 18:05 Using Your Voice and Somatic Symptoms 20:58 Setting Boundaries as a Sign of Healing   Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Work with me: https://nakeiahomer.com/work-with-me The Daily Set Up: The Daily Set Up Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Work with me: https://nakeiahomer.com/work-with-me Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"You get in life what you think you deserve." This is one of those “let’s talk about it” episodes. I share a few things I’ve been thinking lately… From social media pressure, quitting stuff you aren’t good at, and why we should mind our own business, to why what we believe we deserve matters so much. I love sharing my thoughts in this way. I am sure that my random reflections will be relevant to some aspects of your life. When you are done listening, I invite you to take some time to reflect on your own thoughts about life, purpose, relationships, community, and whatever else comes up for you. Takeaways Social media pressures us to have opinions on everything. Not everyone needs to turn their interests into a business. You get in life what you think you deserve. It's okay to not have an opinion on every issue. We should normalize abandoning things we're not good at.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Random Thoughts 01:08 The Pressure of Social Media Opinions 07:06 When Interests Don't Need a Business 11:26 Belief and Self-Worth 16:22 Respecting Others' Choices 19:15 Normalizing Abandoning the Unfit 22:08 The Importance of Personal Reflection Thanks To I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: jonesroadbeauty.com Get your exclusive free Cool Gloss with your first Jones Road Beauty purchase when you use my code: IHOPETHISHELPS. Don’t forget to tell them you heard about their amazing products from I Hope This Helps The Podcast. Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Work with me: https://nakeiahomer.com/work-with-me Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Feeling tired is part of the lived experience." We are answering a listener’s question today in our Ask Nakeia series. “Mia” asks for tips for healing the exhaustion she feels after a few years of challenges that have left her “tired.” My answer includes the typical “practice self-care” advice, but I also share my unpopular take on exhaustion and why we should embrace it. Mia has been in a literal fight for her life, and if you are also fighting in this season of your life or just feeling the exhaustion that comes with being a busy person who is working hard to live the life you deserve, you will relate to this episode. Tune in now for 8 ways to heal emotional exhaustion when you are tired and overwhelmed by your life. Takeaways Exhaustion can be a natural response to significant life challenges. Self-care practices should be tailored to individual needs. Check for biological causes of exhaustion, such as vitamin deficiencies. Recognize and release secondhand exhaustion from others' struggles. Seek help from family and friends when feeling overwhelmed. Movement and changing your environment can help alleviate exhaustion. Prayer can serve as a powerful tool for mental and emotional recovery. Embrace the season of rest as part of personal growth. Rest is a vital component of self-care and healing.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Listener's Question 01:42 Mia's Journey: Overcoming Challenges 03:43 Understanding Exhaustion and Its Causes 05:57 Practical Steps to Address Exhaustion 09:58 Self-Care: Tailoring to Your Needs 13:59 Recognizing and Releasing Secondhand Exhaustion 16:50 The Importance of Seeking Help 17:49 The Power of Movement and Environment Change 20:10 The Role of Prayer in Recovery 22:15 Embracing the Season of Rest 27:13 Conclusion: Recap and Final Thoughts Thanks To I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: Airdoctor.com Get up to $300 off your new Air Doctor air purifier when you use my exclusive code: HELPS Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“The exhaustion you feel after survival mode isn’t laziness, it’s biology.” I am sharing one of the most transformative experiences of my life with you. Nearly a decade ago, I put myself in timeout for an entire year and emerged as the most aligned, intentional, purpose-filled version of myself. Looking back, eight key practices helped me recover and reconnect with myself. If you are feeling disconnected, discouraged, overwhelmed, or emotionally exhausted, check in with today’s episode to determine if you need a timeout.   Takeaways Taking a timeout can be a life-saving decision. Regular self-care practices are essential for mental and emotional health. Honesty with yourself is the first step to recovery. Rest is not laziness—it’s a biological necessity. It's okay to prioritize yourself and be 'selfish' in self-care. Keeping promises to yourself builds trust and integrity. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Honoring your capacity isn’t limiting. Regular small timeouts can prevent larger breakdowns.   Chapters   00:00 The Importance of Taking a Timeout 21:45 Eight Practices for Self-Care and Recovery Thanks To I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: Aquatru.com Save up to 20% off your new air purifier when you use my podcast exclusive code: HELPS today   Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection, read the chapter on letting go, and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“This was a year of refining, and I'm glad that I chose to take myself through that process.” If you don’t uncover what worked and what didn't, this year, you will miss the lessons you were meant to learn. From life, to love, to business, to personal healing and growth, now is the perfect time to take inventory of the year you just had. I’ll go first… In this episode, we will ask meaningful questions, answer honestly, and decide what we want to experience in the new year. Takeaways  Prioritizing healing and self-care is essential. Refining one's identity can lead to personal growth. Isolation can provide clarity and focus. Expectations may not align with reality—adaptability is key. Honoring personal capacity leads to better outcomes. Well-being should be prioritized above all else. Healing is an ongoing practice, not a one-time event. Relationships reflect personal healing and growth. A new year brings new opportunities for growth and change.   Chapters 00:00 Year-End Reflections and Introductions 01:58 Prioritizing Healing and Self-Care 04:41 Refining Identity and Business 06:30 The Power of Isolation 08:08 What Didn't Work: Expectations vs. Reality 09:58 Health Challenges and Dieting Struggles 13:16 Honoring Personal Capacity 14:39 Lessons Learned: Well-Being First 17:02 Divine Guidance and Intuition 18:28 Client Insights and Reflections 21:54 Healing as a Continuous Practice 23:20 Hopes for the New Year You Are Invited to This Special Event I’m doing something new this year! Instead of our typical annual series, we are in community with Wisdom for Life for The Best Year of Your Life Summit. Join me and 50+other amazing leaders, teachers, and guides for this special edition for free: https://bestyear.krtra.com/t/LXBFOkQplH9c   Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Email your questions to [email protected] Read and choose the habit you will focus on in 2026: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ CoverArt: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Learn to balance determination with empathy." Let’s explore an alternative to tough love, shall we? For those who have hustled and grinded their way through some of the most difficult circumstances in their lives, a more tender approach to success and personal growth may be the answer. Tough love may have been the way you survived, but tender love and care is how you will thrive in this season of your life. If balancing determination with compassion, affirming your worth, and practicing positive reinforcement sounds good to you, tune in to this episode for more ways to love yourself into the person you want to be.   Takeaways Tough love may have gotten you here, but tender love will take your life to the next level. You may crave tenderness and empathy as I grew. Gentle approaches could yield better responses than strict ones. Balancing determination with empathy is crucial. You are defined by who you are, not what you do. Affirmations can transform negative self-talk. Positive reinforcement is an alternative to punishment. Remember your strengths and resilience. Self-love is essential for personal growth.   Chapters 00:00 The Journey of Tough Love 06:06 Transitioning to Tenderness 12:46 Embracing Self-Love and Empathy   Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection, read the chapter on letting go, and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“If you have to be the bigger person, you have already outgrown them.” In this episode, I am challenging what it means to be the “bigger person.” Are you showing how you’ve evolved or relapsing? Are you keeping the peace or betraying yourself? We will answer these questions, and more, as we work to rethink what it means to be the bigger person in your relationship.   Takeaways Slipping into resentment is a sign of self-betrayal. Setting boundaries protects your energy and heart. If setting a boundary messes with the relationship, you have a relationship problem. If you have to be the bigger person, you've outgrown some people. Staying silent isn't being the bigger person—it’s relapsing into a version of yourself that you have outgrown. Sometimes being the bigger person means addressing issues others are afraid to speak about. You are not being a bigger person if you allow mistreatment. The goal is to grow and evolve, not to be bigger than others. Normalize not wanting to be the bigger person for people you've outgrown.   Chapters 00:00 The Journey of Self-Discovery 02:45 Boundaries and Self-Respect 05:19 Redefining the Bigger Person 07:55 Empowerment Through Communication 10:47 Embracing Your True Self   Thanks To I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: Airdoctor.com Get up to $300 off your new Air Doctor air purifier when you use my exclusive code: HELPS   Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection, read the chapter on letting go, and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“People fall. Pay attention to the ones who get back up.” One of my favorite life lessons came from my daughter, and I’m sharing what I learned with you. If you have fallen, failed at an attempt, or experienced a setback, I am sharing what it takes to get back up and move forward with grace, intention, and determination. This episode is part pep talk, part strategy. People fail at their attempts at success every day. It’s disappointing, embarrassing, and sometimes painful—but sometimes that’s exactly what it takes to build the life you want to live. And you know what’s more memorable than falling? Getting back up. Tune in to hear how.   Takeaways   People fall. Pay attention to the ones who get back up. Getting back up after a fall shows you who you really are. People who succeed see failures as part of the process. Building safeguards is crucial during the journey. Flexibility and the ability to pivot are essential. Avoid internalizing the fears of others. You are not defined by failures. Progress is still progress, even with setbacks. Prioritizing well-being is key to resilience.   Chapters  00:00 The Journey of Motherhood and Storytelling 04:33 Lessons from a Child's Determination 12:18 The Process of Getting Back Up 15:31 Prioritizing Wellbeing on the Journey   Thanks To I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: CozyEarth.com Use my code HELPS for up to 40% off — just be sure to place your order by December 12th for guaranteed Christmas delivery. Listening after the 12th? Don’t worry — my code still works year-round for 20% off. Aquatru.com Save up to 20% off your new air purifier when you use my exclusive podcast code: HELPS today.   Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection, read the chapter on letting go, and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Sometimes it is through our connection to others that we find out how disconnected we are with ourselves.” This is the conversation we need to have if you have ever felt like your relationship with someone was a waste of your time. Relationships can be your greatest teacher. You can learn how to love others and yourself better—especially from the relationships that didn’t work out. Whether it’s the struggle to understand a parent, set boundaries with a sibling, or stop trying to change a partner, you can extract wisdom from the people you connect with in life. In today’s episode, I’ll be sharing some wisdom I learned about people, relationships, and myself, the hard way.   Takeaways When people fail you, they are not actually failing you—they are failing their capacity. We have to be okay with some people not fully understanding us. Understanding personal limitations fosters empathy for others. Aligning expectations with abilities leads to better relationships. Emotional intelligence is the key to managing disappointments. Self-awareness helps in navigating personal failures. Recognizing and acknowledging capacity can improve your quality of life and relationships. It's important to communicate expectations clearly. Growth comes from understanding and accepting limitations.   Chapters 00:00 The Mirror of Relationships 03:13 Lessons Learned the Hard Way 10:01 Understanding Capacity and Acceptance 17:54 Protecting Your Purpose 21:17 Reflection and Growth Prompts   Thanks To I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: CozyEarth.com Right now, you can stack my code HELPS on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings.   Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection, read the chapter on letting go, and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Know the difference between growing pains and just pain.” There are so many things we don’t talk about enough, and the side effects of growth is one of those things. But today, we are going to talk about it. The complexities of personal growth can make experiencing it painful—and when we feel pain or discomfort, we tend to think something is wrong. Growth often comes with challenges and losses. There are seasons of isolation and questioning. This episode is stacked with insights on how to navigate the seasons. We’ll chat about the importance of reframing your understanding of growth, recognizing the difference between growing pains and just pain, and embracing the necessary changes that come with becoming the person you are meant to be. If this is your growth season or if you are wondering if you are growing at all, tap in!   Takeaways Real growth comes at a cost. Growth is a process that requires action. Growth can be painful, exhausting, and scary. It's important to recognize the polarity of growth. You may experience grief and peace during growth. Questioning is a part of the growth process. Know the difference between growing pains and just pain. Lean into the necessary changes that come with growth. Embrace the growth and the losses that accompany it.   Chapters 00:00 The Journey of Growth 05:20 Navigating the Side Effects of Growth 11:00 Embracing Change and Loss   Thanks To I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: CozyEarth.com Right now, you can stack my code HELPS on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection, read the chapter on letting go, and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Adjust your standards to meet your intention.” In this conversation, we explore the concepts of perfectionism and fear—two things that are often confused for one another. Both can hinder personal progress. Both require intentional reprogramming. And both can be healed through the practices I shared today. To help illustrate the difference between perfectionism and fear, I am sharing insights from my sessions with a client who identified as a perfectionist, but realized that fear was the underlying issue preventing her from moving forward. Whether you have been hiding behind perfectionism or fear, today’s chat will help you start making things happen in your life.   Takeaways Perfectionism can often mask underlying fear. Setting new intentions can help overcome stagnation. Focus on action rather than the perfect outcome. Applying grace to oneself is essential for growth. It's important to know if you're facing perfectionism or fear. Celebrating small steps can motivate further action. Honor the details, but don't obsess over them. The process of growth is as important as the outcome. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Perfectionism and Fear 04:56 Setting New Intentions and Standards 06:33 Focusing on Action Over Outcome 08:11 Applying Grace in the Process   Thanks To I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: CozyEarth.com Right now, you can stack my code HELPS on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. AirDoctor.com Save up to $300 off your purifier using our exclusive, podcast-only code: HELPS Resources Visit the website: nakeiahomer.com Email your questions to [email protected] For deeper reflection, and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Just because it didn’t last doesn’t mean it was never meant to be.” Lean in, Beloved, as we chat about something almost everyone has experienced… Heartbreak and the journey to move forward after. This episode is titled 3 Reasons You Can’t Get Over Your Ex, but that is where the struggle begins. Heartbreak is not something you “get over.” I’m sharing a perspective many people miss. We heal, we grow, and we move forward. We don’t fully get over being in love, sharing a life, and creating memories with someone we’ve felt a deep connection with. I know firsthand that the heartbreak struggle is real—and there are three main reasons why. If you have been wondering why it’s been so hard to heal and move forward from heartbreak, this is the conversation you need to have today. Takeaways We never really get over heartbreak—we heal and move forward. Heartbreak leaves lasting imprints on our hearts and minds. Going no contact is essential for healing after a breakup. Romanticizing a relationship can hinder the healing process. Closure is something you must give to yourself, not seek from others. Healthy distractions can help fill the void left by a breakup. Resetting your energy is crucial for moving forward. It's okay to take time to reclaim yourself after a relationship. The version of you in the relationship is not the same as now. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Heartbreak and Healing 02:05 The Importance of No Contact 04:57 Romanticizing Relationships 08:02 The Myth of Closure 11:58 Practical Steps to Heal from Heartbreak   Thanks to I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: CozyEarth.com Right now, you can stack my code HELPS on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. AquaTru.com Use my code HELPS to save 20% off your purchase of a purifier. Resources For deeper reflection and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole   Healing allows you to carry positive memories into future relationships Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Start by asking yourself, "Do I really need to have this conversation?" This conversation is a new format for us, and I’m excited about it. I get to answer a listener’s question in a series I’m calling Ask Nakeia. This week’s question comes from “Liz.” She shared some background information before asking a question that many of you will relate to. Her intention is to share her heart without hurting her mother, to be heard and respected, to maintain the health of the relationship, and to deepen the connection. Can you guess what Liz’s question is? Some of my answers may surprise you. Tune in to hear the six practices I share and learn how your question could be the next one I answer in the all-new Ask Nakeia series. Takeaways Start by asking yourself, "Do I really need to have this conversation?" Get clear on your intention. Validation from others isn't always necessary. Sometimes just being heard is enough. You may need to process your feelings in the safety of a professional. Decide how you will handle the worst-case scenario. Only share what is necessary. Release your projected outcomes. Understanding your intent can guide your conversations. Continue being brave enough to use your voice.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Difficult Conversations 00:51 Preparing for the Conversation Thanks to I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsor: CozyEarth.com Right now, you can stack my code HELPS on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. Resources: For deeper reflection, read the chapter on not taking things personally and boundaries: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices