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What happens when the role your team needs from you isn’t the role you wanted? In this episode, Sara and Michelle tackle one of the harder lessons in youth sport: being a great teammate means learning to think beyond yourself. They explore why working hard doesn’t automatically guarantee a starting position, how athletes can get caught in stories about what they “deserve,” and why individual goals can’t come before what the team is trying to accomplish. Through real coaching experiences, they discuss helping athletes recognize the value they bring—even when they aren’t the star, aren’t playing their preferred position or are coming off the bench. They also look at what it really means to show up for your team, including when you’re injured, disappointed or not getting exactly what you hoped for. Ultimately, this episode is about moving from “What am I getting?” to “How can I contribute?” Because you don’t have to be the MVP to be incredibly valuable—and learning to embrace your role, support your teammates and be ready when your opportunity comes is a skill that extends far beyond sport. Top 3 Takeaways Get out of your own story and serve the teamRemember that it’s not always about youValue what you bring even if you’re a role player. www.unstoppableathlete.ca

What if developing your entire roster actually gives you a better chance of winning? In this episode, Michelle sits down with Fernie volleyball coach Andrea Reed to talk about coaching philosophy, playing time, athlete development and why building depth matters. They explore the value of getting athletes meaningful game experience, developing players in multiple positions, communicating clearly about roles, and finding ways for every athlete to contribute—even when they aren’t part of the traditional “starting six.” Andrea and Michelle also discuss why game experience teaches things practice simply can’t, how different coaches can bring out different strengths in athletes, and why a deep, engaged bench can become one of a team’s greatest assets. It’s a conversation about looking beyond the immediate win to develop confident, adaptable athletes—and stronger teams in the process.  Top 3 Takeaways Know your athletes and work with their strengthsPlayers learn more by being in the game and getting to make mistakesBenches win gameswww.unstoppableathlete.ca

“I don’t have time.” But is time really the problem—or is learning how to manage it part of growing up? In this episode, Sara and Michelle tackle accountability, time management and the temptation we have as parents to make life easier for our kids. From balancing academics, jobs and competitive sport to managing phones, friendships and other distractions, they explore how young athletes can learn to prioritize what matters, use their time effectively and follow through on the commitments they’ve made. They also discuss the difference between supporting our kids and rescuing them, why honest feedback matters, and how effort needs to align with the goals an athlete says they want. The goal isn’t to demand perfection or push every athlete toward the highest level—it’s to help young people move from “I can’t” toward “How can I?” and develop the accountability, self-awareness and problem-solving skills they’ll need far beyond sport.  Top 3 Takeaways AccountabilityEffort vs impact - life skills of prioritisation, time allocation and decision makingWhat’s fair? Effort matters but so does ability

What should you say on the ride home after your athlete barely played, made a mistake, or had a disappointing game? Maybe nothing. In this episode, Sara and Michelle talk about the complicated role parents play in youth sport—and how quickly our own opinions about coaches, playing time and what’s “fair” can shape an athlete’s experience. They explore why fair doesn’t always mean equal, why playing time is influenced by far more than parents see from the stands, and how sitting on the bench can sometimes create exactly the motivation an athlete needs to grow. Most importantly, they discuss how parents can hold space for disappointment without jumping into the story, criticizing the coach or trying to fix it. Instead, let your athlete lead, get curious, and help them shift from “this isn’t fair” to “what can I do next?” Because sometimes the most powerful thing we can give our athletes is the opportunity to figure out for themselves who they want to become.  Top 3 Takeaways Let your athlete leadFair is NOT the same as equalHold space for your athlete to have feelings then guide to a place of affirmation of what they do have control over Our Unstoppable Athlete program may be perfect for your athlete or their team. Check it out at https://unstoppableathlete.ca/ Or email us at [email protected]  for upcoming offerings.

What if making more mistakes is actually the fastest way to become a better athlete? Fresh off a week of volleyball camp, Sarah and Michelle reflect on what they saw in the gym—from young athletes learning new skills and navigating frustration to older players stepping into leadership roles. They explore why adaptability, coachability, intentional practice, and the ability to recover quickly from mistakes matter just as much as technical skill. They also challenge parents to resist fixing every uncomfortable experience and instead help their athletes problem-solve, take risks, accept feedback, and keep showing up when something feels hard. Because the goal isn’t to raise athletes who never struggle—it’s to raise young people who know what to do when they do.  Top 3 Takeaways Do hard things!Those who recover from mistakes quickest will experience more successBeing focused on you is normal and your feelings are real - the lesson is to help your athlete redirect those feelings into things they can control.

Tryouts aren’t just about how well you play—they’re about how you show up. In this quick episode, Sara and Michelle break down what athletes can do in the weeks leading up to tryouts to arrive physically and mentally prepared. From building volleyball-specific fitness, improving recovery, addressing lingering injuries, and getting sleep, nutrition, and hydration back on track, to setting goals and preparing for nerves, they share the things coaches actually notice. Most importantly, they remind athletes that coaches aren’t looking for perfection—they’re watching how you respond to mistakes, interact with teammates, take responsibility, and bring consistent effort. When tryouts arrive, focus on what you can control: your attitude, your effort, and your serve.  Top 3 Takeaways Get your body ready - sleep, nutrition, movementAttitude and Effort - the things you can control Self talk - I’m here to make this team

When your athlete is frustrated about playing time, confidence, or a coach’s decisions, it’s tempting to step in and fix the problem—but that may not be what they need. In this episode, Sara and Michelle tackle five things parents should think twice about saying to coaches and explore a more productive approach to navigating the parent–coach–athlete relationship. From taking an honest look at attitude and effort to avoiding sideline criticism, encouraging athletes to advocate for themselves, and focusing on solutions instead of blame, they discuss how parents can turn difficult sports moments into opportunities for resilience, accountability, independence, and character. Because sometimes the most powerful thing a parent can do isn’t fix the situation—it’s show up, support their athlete, and help them learn how to handle it.  Top 3 Takeaways Is your athlete sharing an accurate reflection of their attitude and effort with you? And with themselves?Be a great example! And cautious about how you talk about the coach, team, teachers, etc. around your child.Solution focused. Not excuses, not blame. Bring to your coach your concerns in a way that seeks a solution to help meet their athlete and use the challenge as an opportunity to teach some life skills.

What happens when the person driving you to practice is also the one running it? In this special roundtable discussion, Michelle sits down with three athletes—Callie, Emmy, and Jena—to explore the unique experience of being coached by their mothers. The athletes share honest insights about receiving feedback from a parent, navigating the blurred lines between coach and family, dealing with teammates’ perceptions, and learning to separate volleyball conversations from everyday life. While they acknowledge the challenges of heightened expectations and constant proximity, they also reveal the deep gratitude they feel for the time, commitment, and opportunities their moms have provided. Ultimately, the conversation highlights how parent-coach relationships, when built on communication, patience, and mutual respect, can strengthen both athletic development and family bonds. Top 3 Takeaways The hardest part isn't the coaching—it's separating "Mom" from "Coach."Parent-coaches often push their own children the hardest.Communication and boundaries make all the difference."If you wouldn't say it to another player, don't say it to your kid." — a powerful lesson that emerged from the discussion and a reminder for parent-coaches striving to balance accountability with empathy.

Fresh off a weekend of graduations, Sara and Michelle reflect on the relationships, life lessons, and lasting impact that sports can have on young athletes. What begins as an emotional conversation about watching their athletes step into adulthood evolves into a powerful discussion about what truly makes a great coach. From caring about athletes beyond their performance and teaching accountability, to developing every player—not just the stars—and helping young people build confidence, resilience, and character, this episode explores why the best coaches shape lives far beyond the court. Whether you're a coach, parent, or athlete, this conversation is a reminder that the scoreboard fades, but the lessons, relationships, and personal growth remain.  Top 3 Takeaways Not about the volleyball - relationships, teaching life skills through sportAccountabilityMatching commitment - is your athlete meeting the opportunities the coach is providing

Many well-meaning parents and coaches believe confidence comes from praise, but confidence is actually built through effort, growth, and overcoming challenges. In this episode, Sara and Michelle explore the difference between empty praise and meaningful feedback, and why constantly telling athletes they’re amazing can sometimes undermine their development. Instead, they discuss how to recognize and reward the behaviors that truly matter—showing up consistently, embracing hard work, learning from mistakes, and responding to setbacks with resilience. By shifting the focus from outcomes and natural talent to effort and growth, parents and coaches can help athletes develop authentic confidence, stronger self-talk, and the belief that success is something they can create through their actions rather than something they either have or don't have. Inspired by lessons from successful athletes and teams, this conversation offers practical ways to foster a growth mindset that supports both performance and personal development.  Top 3 Takeaways Praise attitude and effort to create growth mindsetInquire with your athletes to guide them how to excel in the role they haveLet go of bad days and keep out of the perfectionist mindset

Fresh off what may be her final Nationals as a youth volleyball coach, Sara reflects with Michelle on the lessons that mattered most—not the wins and losses, but the growth, resilience, and relationships built along the way. They discuss how controlling attitude and energy as coaches shaped their athletes’ experience, why fun and team culture matter more than the scoreboard, and how sport continues to teach life skills that extend far beyond the court. From overcoming adversity and embracing growth to finding your people and developing a lifelong love of sport, this episode is a heartfelt reflection on what success really looks like when the season comes to an end.  Top 3 Takeaways As coaches we have to control our attitude and energy while holding the vision of what the team and the players can beLife skills from sport! Find your people and do hard thingsLifelong love of sport is the real goal. While school is 3-6yr of playing, Michelle has had over 20+ years of adult sportBONUS - its all about the relationships

In this episode, Sara and Michelle explore the tender and tricky stage of adolescence, when teen girls naturally begin pulling away from their mothers while forming their own identities. Through the lens of coaching 12- to 16-year-old athletes, they discuss why girls need strong adult women outside their family, how sport provides healthy role models and peer examples, and why parents need to guide—not “lawnmow”—their kids through discomfort. For parents, this conversation is a reassuring reminder that the push-pull of the teen years is normal, and that teams, coaches, captains, and trusted adults can help girls build independence, confidence, communication skills, and resilience.  Top 3 Takeaways Pulling away is developmentally appropriate, as a mom we can hold space to allow this process Healthy role models, like your athletes female coach, team mom and older team mates can be very valuableSupporting our children through the challenging times when things may not be going their way, acknowledging the emotion but allowing them to find their own ways through

In this episode, Sara and Michelle unpack a provincial silver medal weekend that became a powerful lesson in team culture, resilience, and competitive maturity. Sara reflects on a group of athletes who had the team “rolling” together—competing hard, recovering quickly from mistakes, encouraging each other, and staying composed under pressure. The heart of the episode is a bench player’s reminder to her coach: “We want to win, and if us sitting on the bench is how that happens, don’t feel bad.” For parents, this is a valuable reframe around playing time, showing how athletes can understand roles, buy into a team plan, and still contribute through energy, readiness, and support. Top 3 Takeaways Three steps of reflection for provincialsWho do I choose to be out there?What does my best look like today?How do I bounce back?Players want to win - even if it means sitting on the bench (in high stakes games)Execution (physical) vs mental errors

In this episode, Sara and Michelle start with a conversation about travel, discomfort, and the value of being open to unplanned experiences, using Sara’s upcoming trip to Vietnam with her daughter as a metaphor for growth. That reflection leads naturally into a bigger conversation about coachability: the willingness to stay open, adaptable, and teachable even when things feel uncomfortable. They explain that coachable athletes are the ones who listen fully, respond without defensiveness, try new techniques even when it feels awkward, and show they are eager to improve. Through tryout stories, team examples, and practical advice, they show that coachability is not something you either have or do not have—it is a skill that can be learned, and it matters not just in volleyball, but in school, work, and life. Top 3 Takeaways Coachability is a skill you can learnTake it personally. You are valued and your coach is willing to invest in you.Confidence comes from being willing to be uncomfortable.

This conversation unpacks the tension between confidence and performance in youth sports, highlighting how many athletes wait for success to feel confident, when in reality confidence must come first to enable strong play. Through reflections on volleyball and hockey experiences, the coaches explore how mindset, team culture, and coaching decisions (especially around playing time and competition) shape both individual development and team outcomes. They also surface a deeper truth: sport is a microcosm of life—where confidence, resilience, and self-belief are learned through experience, reinforced by environment, and tested under pressure. Top 3 Takeaways It depends. Experience as a role player or playing all the time. Team belonging matters.Embrace what we are good at and accept the compliment.Parent perspectives on playing time. For every player at the bottom worried about not playing, how is it for the players at the top. If my kid plays will it hurt the team? And is this a year as a parent I can help them learn to manage the disappointment in not always playing to develop for when they get their turn to shine?