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Janice Caudill and Dan Drake, embarked on a shared mission rooted in the belief that truth forms the bedrock of intimacy. In the midst of conversations about their shared values, beliefs, and practices regarding disclosure, they discovered a common thread – a passion for creating exercises that guided clients through the disclosure process in a partner-sensitive, trauma-informed, and relationship-nurturing manner. In their collaborative efforts, Janice and Dan acknowledged their unique approaches to disclosures. This realization led them to understand that there isn’t a singular “right” way to navigate disclosures; instead, there are various decision points for couples to co- create their personalized disclosure experiences. A shared vision emerged – to assist clients in achieving disclosures aligned with their desires and needs, fostering a sense of teamwork and delivering an experience that was both wanted and necessary. Register for the upcoming workshop: https://kintsugirecoverypartners.com/training-calendar/#!event/2026/10/2/restoring-truth-disclosure-guide-training-live-online-via-zoom Kintsugi Recovery Partners: https://kintsugirecoverypartners.com/ Full Disclosure: https://disclosurehope.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kintsugirecoverypartners/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kintsugirecoverypartners More Links: website: https://intensivehope.com/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/IntensiveRecoveryHealing Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intensivehope/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/intensive-recovery-healing X: https://x.com/IHealing99244

“Almost every woman that I’ve ever talked to knew something was going on… But they didn’t have words for it.” When a woman discovers her partner's betrayal, everyone wants her to decide something. Stay or go. Forgive or not. Tell the kids or wait. But in those first weeks and months her body is in shock: racing thoughts, no sleep, checking his phone at 2 a.m., swinging between numbness and rage. Many partners say they feel like they're going crazy. Teresa Zuvela, LMHC, CSAT, CPTT, has spent more than 25 years working with women in exactly this place. Her new book, The Body Knew First: A Nervous-System Guide to Steadying Yourself After Betrayal Trauma, explains why betrayal is first a nervous system event, before it is a relationship decision, and why steadying the body has to come first. Carol and Teresa talk about what the body is trying to communicate, why urgency is not the same as readiness, and practical ways to calm the system enough to think clearly. The book is the first stage of Teresa's five-stage Woodland Pathways Model: Stabilize, Clarify, Reclaim, Integrate, and Live Well. Help Them Heal: https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com Teresa Zuvela: Email: [email protected] Phone: 253-344-3012 Counseling practice Education and free workshops Free Stabilization Guide Book on Amazon YouTube: @LivingWellInstituteCoachTeresa Instagram: @woodland_pathways_counseling Facebook: Woodland Pathways Counseling LinkedIn: Teresa Zuvela

“If you’re stuck in self-doubt, this is for you.” Many women reach a point in life where they no longer recognise themselves. They have spent years as the wife, the mother, the professional, the one who holds everything together for everyone else, and somewhere along the way the woman underneath those roles went quiet. In today's episode, my conversation with Denise Hayden-Hawkins will explore what it takes to hear that woman again. Whether you’re a betrayed partner, someone struggling with sex addiction, or a professional in the field looking to better serve your clients, this episode is for you! Help Them Heal: https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com Denise Hayden-Hawkins: Website: denisehh.com Instagram: instagram.com/inneraligncoach Facebook: facebook.com/InnerAlignCoach LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/denisehaydenhawkins Email: [email protected] Phone: 07886019486 (UK)

“We are literally rewiring our brain circuitry to be able to have the brain function differently.” In today's episode of The Rebuilding Trust Podcast, I’m sitting down with Wendy Conquest to discuss mindfulness and meditation to explore how it can help sex addicts, betrayed partners, and anyone stuck in shame or reactivity find more calm, clarity, and self-awareness. Whether you’re a betrayed partner, someone struggling with sex addiction, or a professional in the field looking to better serve your clients, this episode is for you! Help Them Heal: https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com Wendy Conquest: https://wendyconquest.com

In this episode of Rebuilding Trust, I’m joined by Jenna Riemersma, who shares a simple IFS-based approach to stop fighting your inner parts and start healing from the inside out. In this episode, we talk about how the “notice, know, need” framework can help turn shame, self-criticism, and inner conflict into compassion and growth. Links: https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com https://jennariemersma.com https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners/all/15433

In this episode, I'm joined by Cristina Wehner to discuss how therapy intensives can help couples and individuals move through betrayal trauma more effectively than traditional weekly therapy. We explore why creating a safe, uninterrupted space can accelerate healing, the role of disclosure and psychoeducation, and how this model benefits both clients and clinicians. Whether you're recovering from betrayal or you're a therapist looking to expand your practice, this conversation offers practical insights into a different approach to healing. https://www.hopeandfreedom.net/about-cristina-wehner https://www.linkedin.com/in/cristina-marie-wehner-32271582/

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Robert Hudson to explore compulsive sexual behavior (CSB), its impact on intimate relationships, and the clinical realities that are so often hidden beneath secrecy and shame. Drawing from his new book, *Treating Compulsive Sexual Behavior and Its Impact on Relationships: A Clinical Guide*, Dr. Hudson helps us understand why CSB is frequently misunderstood as simply a moral failing or lack of willpower. Instead, we discuss how it is often rooted in trauma, attachment difficulties, emotional dysregulation, shame, and complex relational dynamics. Together, we examine the profound impact CSB can have on betrayed partners, couples, and families. We talk about betrayal trauma, the role of secrecy, and why genuine healing requires much more than simply stopping the behavior. Dr. Hudson also shares the importance of trauma-informed, non-pathologizing approaches to treatment, the role of accountability in recovery, and practical therapeutic tools that clinicians can use for assessment, cycle mapping, stabilization, and couples work. Whether you're a clinician, someone in recovery, a betrayed partner, or simply looking to better understand the psychological and relational dimensions of compulsive sexual behavior, I hope this conversation offers insight, encouragement, and practical guidance for the journey toward healing. Website: https://relationship-recovery.co.uk/ LinkedIn profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-robert-hudson-a19ba91a/

The Second Edition of The Betrayal Bind came out March 3 and expands the attachment based Braving Model even further. One of the core things explored are the six attachment-based coping strategies that emerge after betrayal. Understanding that these behaviors are driving by attachment needs is vital for both betrayed partners, their significant others and the helping professionals who support them. Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is the founder of the Relational Recovery Institute and the creator of the Braving Hope® Coaching program for individuals recovering from betrayal trauma. Michelle has created a new attachment-based approach called The Braving Model™ to address the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in both Virginia and Washington DC, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor. She was trained by Pia Mellody in the Post Induction Therapy model for treating developmental trauma and is a Certified Professional Coach. Contact Info www.michellemays.com www.relationalrecovery.com https://www.facebook.com/OfficialMichelleMays/ https://www.instagram.com/michellemays_/ https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleMaysChannel

Many betrayed partners are told that recovery requires sobriety, accountability, disclosure, and empathy, but they are not always given a clear understanding of what is happening in the addicted brain or why meaningful change takes time. In this conversation, Chris Chandler brings a neuroscience-based lens to compulsive sexual behavior, drawing from his clinical work with thousands of men, his collaboration with Dr. Patrick Carnes on Fulbright-supported sexual addiction research, and his role with the American Foundation for Addiction Research. Chris will explain how attachment wounds, trauma, shame, and nervous system dysregulation can shape maladaptive coping strategies long before adulthood. Using a simple model of the brainstem, limbic system, and prefrontal cortex, he will help partners understand why early recovery often requires intense stabilization, structure, repetition, and community before deeper emotional and relational healing becomes possible. This discussion will also explore Carnes’ view of recovery as a long-term process: the first one to two years often focus on sobriety, honesty, accountability, and behavioral stabilization, which can then open the door to deeper attachment work, grief, empathy, intimacy, and relational repair. The goal is not behavior management alone, but restored connection. Contact Info: Website: www.breathtobones.com Schedule a Consultation with Chris: https://breath-to bones.cal.com/chris/consultation

Bill Herring is a clinical social worker as well as a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT) in Atlanta Georgia where he has maintained a private psychotherapy practice for he past 35 years. Bill Herring is the creator of the Problematic Sexual Behavior Framework (known as the PSB Framework for short). This is a way to assess any form of sexual behavior for the presence of problematic aspects without even needing to focus on the type or frequency of that behavior. The PSB Framework uses just five simple questions to assess a person’s pattern of sexual behavior for commitment violations, values conflicts, diminished self-control, lack of responsibility to others and negative consequences. This approach helps to reduce resistance for people who know or suspect that they have a sexual problem but who are not ready to accept a label as a sex addict – and may not even need to, as Bill will discuss today. Contact Into: Bill Herring LCSW 2127 Vista Dale Court Tucker GA 30084 (678) 773-3083 Billherring.com

Dr. Monique Thompson, DHA, LPC, LPC-S, is an EMDR-trained therapist and trauma-informed life coach specializing in betrayal trauma, PTSD, and post-infidelity repair. With over 24 years in private practice, she integrates parts-based approaches, nervous system regulation, and trauma reprocessing to help betrayed partners restore a sense of safety and support partners who have betrayed in developing accountability without collapse, defensiveness, or shame-based shutdown. She is the author of a best-selling infidelity recovery workbook for couples. Her work is culturally responsive and, when invited by clients, thoughtfully integrates faith-based perspectives within evidence-informed care. Contact Info: https://doctormoniquethompson.com/

This conversation explores the often-overlooked experience of betrayed males, especially fathers, and how men uniquely process intimate relationship betrayal. While infidelity is commonly studied and treated through a female-centered lens, emerging insights suggest that men may experience betrayal as a distinct form of trauma—impacting identity, trust, emotional regulation, and meaning-making. From a clinical perspective, the conversation highlights common therapeutic missteps, the importance of addressing bias, and practical treatment considerations for working effectively with betrayed men. We discuss how betrayal trauma can produce PTSD-like symptoms, including intrusive thoughts, hypervigilance, and intense emotional reactions such as anger, grief, and disgust. The episode also examines how socialization, masculinity, and cultural expectations shape men’s responses. Ultimately, this episode offers a more balanced and compassionate framework for understanding betrayal—equipping clinicians, couples, and families to better support men navigating one of the most painful relational experiences. Aaron Brewer, MA, LPCC-S, NCC, CSAT, CPTT, CMAT, CCTP-II, DARTT, has worked in mental healthcare for almost 10 years. He is a doctoral student in Counselor Education and Supervision at the University of the Cumberlands. He teaches graduate counseling courses at Grace College and works as a clinical counselor and supervisor in private practice in Ohio. Aaron specializes in compulsive sexual behaviors, intimate relationship betrayal, and developmental trauma, and is an EMDRIA Certified Therapist and Consultant-in-Training. He is committed to developing compassionate, ethically grounded counselors. Contact Info: Email: [email protected] Website: intactcounseling.com LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/aaron-brewer

Betrayal is more than a break in a contract; it is a physiological and emotional earthquake that can leave you feeling fundamentally altered. However, resilience isn't about "bouncing back" to the person you were before; it is about the grounded, deliberate process of integrating that experience and moving forward with a new sense of self. In this session, we explore how to shift from the survival-based hyper-vigilance of betrayal trauma toward a state of embodied safety and clarity. We will discuss the practicalities of reclaiming resilience through somatic grounding—focusing on the nervous system rather than just the narrative. By moving away from clinical jargon and toward "real talk," we address the complexities of restoring trust, starting with the most important relationship of all: the one with your own intuition. Drawing on over 20 years in wellness and my own personal journey through the landscape of betrayal, I share how these experiences became the catalyst for a deeper, more resilient way of living. We’ll look at how to set boundaries that protect your peace and how to begin "rewiring" your heart for love and security, proving that you are never as broken as the betrayal made you feel. Contact info www.intuitivecoachingwithsara.com [email protected] @intuitivehealingwithsara

In this episode, we explore two deeply important areas of healing, protection, and education. First, we dive into the Help Her Heal-Informed Workshop—a powerful experiential program designed for men who want to better understand how to support a partner’s healing after betrayal. Rather than simply teaching concepts, this workshop challenges participants to practice honesty, accountability, and emotionally safe responses in real time. With guidance from three experienced CSAT therapists, men receive coaching, individualized feedback, and multiple professional perspectives that help them move from defensiveness to empathy and repair. We also discuss the growing dangers children face online, including harmful exposure, grooming, and the emotional impact of what many kids encounter in digital spaces. A major focus of this work is helping parents, therapists, and professionals understand why proactive conversations with children matter so deeply—especially because children often do not disclose what they have seen or experienced online. Through education and practical guidance, this conversation equips adults to better protect, support, and connect with kids in an increasingly complex digital world. At the heart of both topics is the same mission: helping families respond effectively to pain, vulnerability, and healing through education, awareness, and compassionate action. Cynthia Reetz, MA, LCPC, CSAT-Supervisor https://www.willowclinicalservices.com 630 752 9874

In this deeply honest and compassionate conversation, I sit down with therapist and author Dr. Eddie Capparucci to explore a difficult but necessary question: Why is healing so hard for some betrayed partners? Together, we unpack the emotional complexity that follows betrayal trauma, the role of nervous system dysregulation, and how both partners can unintentionally get stuck in cycles of pain, fear, resentment, and hopelessness. Eddie and I discuss the importance of emotional regulation, empathy, accountability, and why healing cannot happen through punishment, shame, or permanent power imbalances. We also challenge some of the harmful messages circulating in recovery spaces and talk candidly about how therapists, support groups, and even healing communities can either contribute to restoration—or deepen division. This episode is not about blaming betrayed partners or excusing betrayal. It’s about asking bigger questions: How do we truly help couples heal? What keeps some partners trapped in trauma? And what does real recovery look like when both people are hurting? If you’ve ever struggled to find hope after betrayal, or if you work with couples navigating recovery, this conversation offers insight, honesty, and compassion for the long road of rebuilding trust together. Eddie Capparucci, Ph.D., LPC, C-CSAS Abundant Life Counseling Gunter, TX Licensed in TX, GA, NC www.abundantlifecounselingga.com www.innerchild-sexaddiction.com www.SexuallyPureMen.com