Feeling discouraged, “out of practice,” attracting the same men, losing hope, not trusting your choices, or feeling invisible in the dating world?
Love at Any Age with Laurie Gerber is your weekly guide for navigating midlife dating: you’ll get emotional prep, tactical coaching, mindset shifts, proven dating tools, messaging help, and real stories from women just like you.
If you’re a woman over 50 who’s done the work but still struggling with love, Love at Any Age is for you. This podcast speaks to women navigating dating after divorce, widowhood, or just a desire for a better partnership next time.
Subscribe if you want to date with intention, feel empowered again, and build a love life that fits who you are now. You’re not done. Love has no expiration date.
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Ep 44: A Match.com Insider’s Guide to Getting More Matches
2026/10/29
What if the reason the dating app went quiet has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with a few things you are doing, or not doing, without knowing it?
Not sure where you are in your dating life, or what to do next? Take Laurie’s quiz to find out:
https://lauriegerber.com/quiz?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_044_cta-top&utm_term=alexis_ferraro
You have been on the sites, the flurry died down, and it is easy to decide the algorithm gave up on you. It did not. Most of what makes a profile work, or quietly stall, comes down to choices you can change today.
In this episode, Alexis Ferraro, who has spent more than 20 years inside Match, gives Laurie the insider’s view. You will learn how to actually improve your profile, with real examples of what works, the ideal number and type of photos to use, and the exact one, two, three to run every time you log on. You will hear why your first seven days on any app matter most, when to hide your profile, and how to close a conversation out kindly instead of ghosting. You will also hear the truth about who really finds love on a dating site, and why there is more reason for hope than you think.
Laurie Gerber helps women over 50 stop guessing and start choosing wisely in dating over 50, and that includes working with the site instead of against it. Here, she and Alexis turn a frustrating, opaque process into a clear routine you can use tonight. The surprising part is how small the changes are: better photos, sharper messages, better timing, and how much they move.
Timestamps:
00:00–01:57 — Is the algorithm ignoring you, or are you sabotaging it?
01:57–04:46 — Fixing your profile: do’s and don’ts
04:46–06:22 — Meet Alexis Ferraro: over 20 years inside Match.
06:22–10:39 — The photos that work: how many, and what kind.
10:39–14:19 — Getting good photos, and the object photo that surprised Laurie.
14:19–17:07 — The one, two, three to run every time you log on.
17:07–20:05 — First seven days, session length, and being the new face.
20:05–22:25 — When to hide your profile, and the daily check-in order.
22:25–24:37 — Ghosting versus a kind closeout.
24:37–29:55 — Who really finds love on Match: the studies and the stories.
29:55–32:20 — Homework, hope, and where to go next.
Ready to go deeper? Laurie walks you through the 3H method in her free 75-minute training, so you can get clear on what you actually want before you swipe:
https://lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_044_cta-webinar-secondary&utm_term=alexis_ferraro
More from Laurie:
🌐 Website: https://lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_044&utm_term=alexis_ferraro
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
#LoveAtAnyAge #DatingOver50 #OnlineDatingOver50 #MatchCom #DatingProfile #DatingTips
About Match:
🌐 Match: https://www.match.com
▶️ Match on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/matchusa
Dating Safety Tips - https://help.match.com/hc/en-us/articles/6991442293787-Dating-Safety-Tips
Keeping you safe - https://help.match.com/hc/en-us/articles/11844752324891-Keeping-you-safe-on-Match
Ep 43: Why Couples Stop Having Sex After 50
2026/10/22
What if the reason the sex faded in your relationship has almost nothing to do with desire, and everything to do with what no one taught you to say out loud?
Not sure where you are in your dating or relationship life, or what to do next? Take Laurie’s quiz to find out:
https://lauriegerber.com/quiz?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_043_cta-top&utm_term=suzanne_noble
Somewhere along the way the sex slowed down, or stopped, and you made your peace with it. Maybe one of you stopped initiating, maybe it started to hurt, maybe it just felt easier not to bring it up. That quiet truce costs you more than you think, and most of it is fixable.
In this episode, Suzanne Noble, host of Sex Advice for Seniors and a candid voice on intimacy after 50, is back for the next conversation in her series with Laurie. You will learn the real reason most couples stop having sex, and why it is rarely about desire. You will hear what normal frequency actually means at this age and what to do when one partner wants it more, why unreliable erections are so common and why they matter for a man’s health, and the overlooked fixes, from toys to plain communication, that make sex genuinely better. You will also learn how to build a satisfying sex life from scratch with a new partner.
Laurie Gerber helps women over 50 stop guessing and start choosing wisely in dating over 50, and that includes talking honestly about sex. Here she and Suzanne turn the topics couples avoid into practical, hopeful advice you can use tonight. The surprising part is that the fix is almost never performance or stamina; it is permission, novelty, and the courage to name what you want.
Timestamps:
00:00–01:58 — Why couples stop expecting good sex, and what it costs.
01:58–05:24 — Unreliable erections, shame, and a health warning men ignore.
05:24–08:14 — Permission to speak up: to your doctor and your partner.
08:14–10:09 — The coffee-cup trick for mismatched initiating.
10:09–11:50 — Meet Suzanne Noble: straight talk on sex over 50.
11:50–16:18 — Frequency, libido differences, and responsive desire.
16:18–19:33 — Why frequency is a symptom, not the real problem.
19:33–24:42 — What actually makes sex better.: toys, and dropping the shame.
24:42–31:10 — Building a sex life from scratch with a new partner.
31:10–35:40 — Talking about sex early, and why clarity wins.
35:40–38:37 — Homework: get clear on your 3 H’s, and the free guide.
Ready to go deeper? Laurie walks you through the 3H method in her free 75-minute training, so you can get clear on what a healthy partnership, and a healthy sex life, looks like for you:
https://lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_043_cta-webinar-secondary&utm_term=suzanne_noble
More from Laurie:
🌐 Website: https://lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_043&utm_term=suzanne_noble
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
Part 1 of Laurie’s series with Suzanne Noble, Ep 42: https://youtu.be/HBSJs_iYvkA
#LoveAtAnyAge #SexAfter50 #CouplesOver50 #IntimacyOver50 #DatingOver50 #RelationshipAdvice
About Suzanne Noble:
Suzanne Noble is the founder and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast and TikTok channel for candid, judgment-free conversations about intimacy after 50. A 65-year-old London-based entrepreneur and sex educator, she is the author of the erotic memoir The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker.
🌐 Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com
Free guide, 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebie
📖 Her memoir, The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: https://www.amazon.com/Butcher-Baker-Candlestick-Maker-Adventures-ebook/dp/B00BFTT6S2
📖 Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life: https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Advice-Seniors-Supplements-Thriving-ebook/dp/B0F5T4L2VC/
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors
💙 Facebook: https://facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors
▶️ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@sexadviceforseniors
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suzannenoble/
Ep 42: Sex After 50: Getting Your Desire Back
2026/10/15
What if the confidence and desire you thought were gone for good are not actually gone, just waiting to be reawakened?
Not sure whether you are truly ready to date and connect again? Take Laurie’s quiz to find out where you are and what to do next:
https://lauriegerber.com/quiz?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_042_cta-top&utm_term=suzanne_noble
Somewhere between back then and now, the woman who felt wanted and desired seems to have disappeared, and it is easy to decide the ship has sailed. For a lot of women over 50 the story is that sex is simply over, and not worth the pain or the awkwardness. That story leaves out how much of this is fixable.
In this episode, Suzanne Noble, host of Sex Advice for Seniors and a candid voice on intimacy after 50, names what actually changes in the body and what to do about it. You will learn why sex can become painful after menopause and how vaginal estrogen helps, what testosterone does for libido, and how Kegels and the pelvic floor fit in. You will also learn how to reconnect with your own sexuality through self-pleasure, long before a partner is in the picture.
Laurie Gerber helps women over 50 stop guessing and start choosing wisely in dating over 50, and that includes talking honestly about sex. Here, she and Suzanne turn a taboo subject into a practical, hopeful conversation you can act on. The surprising part is that desire after 50 is less about spontaneity and more about being intentional, and that is something you can build.
Timestamps:
00:00–02:01 — The “ship has sailed” lie about sex after 50.
02:01–05:21 — What women won’t admit: painful sex, and bad advice.
05:21–07:28 — Meet Suzanne Noble: straight talk on sex over 50.
07:28–11:49 — Vaginal atrophy, estrogen, libido, and testosterone.
11:49–15:45 — How to talk to your doctor, and who to follow.
15:45–17:05 — Reconnect with your body: the self-pleasure habit.
17:05–22:55 — Kegels, the pelvic floor, and devices that help.
22:55–25:19 — How Suzanne got into sex advice for seniors.
25:19–28:22 — Be intentional: scheduling desire and warming up.
28:22–31:44 — Homework: the Yes/No/Maybe checklist and free guide.
Ready to go deeper? Laurie walks you through the 3H method in her free 75-minute training, so you can get clear on what a healthy partnership looks like for you:
https://lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_042_cta-webinar-secondary&utm_term=suzanne_noble
More from Laurie:
🌐 Website: https://lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_042&utm_term=suzanne_noble
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kxIm1NAuMVg
#LoveAtAnyAge #SexAfter50 #SexualHealth #IntimacyOver50 #DatingOver50 #Menopause
About Suzanne Noble:
Suzanne Noble is the founder and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast and TikTok channel for candid, judgment-free conversations about intimacy after 50. A 65-year-old London-based entrepreneur and sex educator, she is the author of the erotic memoir The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker.
🌐 Website (also home of her free Yes/No/Maybe Checklist): https://sexadvic1eforseniors.com
Free guide, 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebie
📖 Her memoir, The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: https://www.amazon.com/Butcher-Baker-Candlestick-Maker-Adventures-ebook/dp/B00BFTT6S2
📖 Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life by Suzanne Noble: https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Advice-Seniors-Supplements-Thriving-ebook/dp/B0F5T4L2VC/
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📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors
💙 Facebook: https://facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors
▶️ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@sexadviceforseniors
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suzannenoble/
Ep 41: The One Habit That’s Killing His Desire
2026/10/11
What if the reason his attraction seems to be fading has almost nothing to do with your age or your body?
Not sure which patterns are quietly showing up in your love life? Take Laurie’s quiz to find out where you are and what to do next:
https://lauriegerber.com/quiz?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_041_cta-top&utm_term=bob_grant
He has gone quiet. The touch that used to come easily is not landing the way it did, and you have already started writing the story that he has lost interest and this is just what happens after 50. That story is almost always wrong, and believing it can quietly make things worse.
In this episode, Bob Grant, a former therapist and bestselling author who has spent 25 years studying male attraction over 50, walks through what actually drives a man’s desire and why men lose interest. You will learn the real reason intimacy over 50 fades, the bonding stages every couple moves through, and the one everyday habit that kills male attraction almost instantly. You will also learn how to reconnect with your husband or partner by changing what you do, not how you look.
Laurie Gerber helps women over 50 stop guessing and start choosing wisely in dating over 50. Here, she and Bob make the invisible rules of male desire simple enough to use tonight, including how to talk to men about feelings without pushing them away. The most surprising part is that the very thing that heals you is the same thing that draws him back in.
Timestamps:
00:00–05:03 — Why “he lost interest” is wrong: it’s resentment, not you.
05:03–06:37 — Is it you, him, or the two of you? Three categories.
06:37–08:03 — Meet Bob Grant: 25 years decoding male desire.
08:03–13:56 — Don’t fix the wrong problem; quiet yourself and ask.
13:56–16:49 — How one calm question defused an agitated husband.
16:49–27:06 — Winning, losing, yielding: how men read conflict.
27:06–33:26 — What men crave physically explained
33:26–42:41 — The bonding stages and the stage-three fizzle.
42:41–44:57 — How Bob learned women misread what men say.
44:57–49:13 — The one habit that kills male attraction
49:13–52:44 — Re-igniting desire after a dry spell or divorce.
52:44–58:18 — Where to go next.
Ready to go deeper? Laurie walks you through the 3H method in her free 75-minute training, so you can get clear on what a healthy partnership looks like for you:
https://lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_041_cta-webinar-secondary&utm_term=bob_grant
More from Laurie:
🌐 Website: https://lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_041&utm_term=bob_grant
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qN-d5vMFdwE
#LoveAtAnyAge #DatingOver50 #MaleAttraction #IntimacyOver50 #RelationshipAdvice #DatingCoach
About Bob Grant:
Bob Grant is a relationship expert, former therapist, and bestselling author of The Woman Men Adore. He is the founder of Relationship Headquarters, where he helps women emotionally connect with men, attract real love, and get unstuck.
🌐 Website: https://relationshipheadquarters.com
📖 His book, The Woman Men Adore: Love Chemistry: https://bob-grant-relationshipheadquarters-shop.fourthwall.com/products/the-woman-men-adore
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bobgrant_relationshiphq/
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BobGrant_Relationshiphq
👥 Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenmenadoregroup
Ep 40: The Hidden Self-Sabotage That’s Keeping You From Finding Love After Divorce
2026/10/05
What if finding love after divorce over 50 comes down to 5 things you haven’t tried yet, not luck?
Most women over 50 believe dating after divorce is a numbers game they keep losing, that the good ones are gone, married, or hiding. Laurie Gerber says that belief usually isn’t about the odds. It’s a nervous system that decided long ago that love isn’t safe.
In this episode, Laurie breaks down 5 things that actually increase your chances of finding love after divorce over 50, including a hidden form of self-sabotage that rarely looks like sabotage. She also walks through her Divorce Detox checklist, the test she uses to know if someone is truly ready to date again.
Laurie has spent over 20 years helping women date with intention instead of guesswork, and this episode hands over her most-requested framework for rebuilding dating confidence after divorce. If you’re ready to stop waiting for perfect timing and start using the levers actually in your control, start here.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:01–00:52 — Why Dating After Divorce Feels Impossible
00:53–02:02 — What You’ll Learn: 5 Things That Move the Needle
02:03–04:04 — Meet Your Dating Coach + Who This Episode Is For
04:05–07:47 — #1 Believe in Love Again + the Divorce Detox Test
07:48–09:21 — #2 Take Amazing Care of Yourself
09:22–12:11 — #3 Admit You Want Love and Tell People
12:12–13:45 — #4 Learn the New Rules of Dating
13:46–16:10 — #5 Embrace Online and In-Real-Life Dating
16:11–18:27 — The Hidden Self-Sabotage Nobody Names
18:28–19:42 — Your Gut-Check Homework Assignment
19:43–22:21 — Crazy Comments: Episode 13’s Doozy + Closing
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
Previous Episodes Mentioned
Episode 1 — Stop Repeating the Same Dating Mistakes After 50 — https://youtu.be/na3ihxavm6g
Episode 4 — Stop Wasting Time on “Maybes” — Your 3-Date Strategy — https://youtu.be/cfHrKi86I3s
Episode 5 — Here’s How to Talk About the Hard Stuff (without Scaring Him Off) — https://youtu.be/qN-d5vMFdwE
Episode 6 — The Most Important Questions for Your First Dates — https://youtu.be/rNcaQKJxBqA
Episode 12 — Is AI Helping—or Hurting—Your Dating Life? — https://youtu.be/sawFhaAk5NQ
Episode 13 — The 10-Step Guide for Getting Ready (When You’re Done Wasting Time) — https://youtu.be/UTqyOl7K0Wc
Episode 17 — 5 Signs He Is Emotionally Available (and 5 He’s Not) — https://youtu.be/28DdA2cfRuE
Episode 19 — Dating over 50: 7 Compatibility Factors That Predict Success — https://youtu.be/q0eGVpdn8SM
Episode 21 — 6 Subtle Red Flags You Keep Rationalizing (And Why You Do It) — https://youtu.be/kEiOdtIlCHY
More from Laurie:
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training:
👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_040
Website:
https://www.lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_040
Master the Art of Love (Laurie’s digital course, mentioned in this episode):
https://lauriegerber.com/maol?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_040
Stay connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
Ep 39: How to Manifest a Partner (Not Just Wish for One)
2026/09/27
Could the man you past over have been your person?
Dating over 50 often means chasing instant chemistry and writing people off just as fast, while the steady, slow-building connection that actually lasts gets overlooked.
In this episode, Laurie sits down with relationship therapist Jaime Bronstein to talk about how to manifest a partner using her MAN*ifesting method, a step by step framework built on self love, intuition, and surrender. They get into why 71% of women now say they are more drawn to intellectual, emotionally mature men than to staged confidence, and why dating over 50 manifesting starts with healing old patterns before a new one can show up.
Laurie has spent more than 20 years helping women over 50 stop guessing and start choosing wisely, and this conversation is a clear example of why. Jaime shares the real story of how she used these exact steps to meet her own husband, gives her honest take on ghosting after a first date, and offers a free 7 day challenge to help listeners start putting these ideas into practice right away.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:00–07:28 — Why nerdy, intellectual men are winning at dating now.
07:28–10:50 — Meet Jaime Bronstein and her MAN*ifesting philosophy.
10:50–14:50 — Video vibe checks before a first date over 50.
14:50–21:50 — Ghosting after first date: what it really means.
21:50–27:32 — What manifesting actually means (and Jaime's love story).
27:32–40:52 — The MAN*ifesting steps: self love, intuition, feelization.
40:52–46:00 — The "ideal scene" method for manifesting a partner.
46:00–54:14 — Turning fear into faith, plus where to find Jaime.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
More from Laurie:
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training:
👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_039&utm_term=jaime_bronstein
🌐 Website: https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_039&utm_term=jaime_bronstein
Jaime Bronstein website and resources:
Guest website: https://therelationshipexpert.com/
Free gift: 7 Days of Manifesting Love (exercises and affirmations): https://form.jotform.com/210198384576162
Book, "MAN*ifesting": https://www.amazon.com/dp/1637586701
Single to Soulmate digital course: https://app.gohighlevel.com/v2/preview/n1xIiJdsLnCaNTYk72OF
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therelationshipxpert/
Stay connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
Ep 38: A Man Tells the Truth About Why He Couldn't Follow Through
2026/09/20
What if the reason a man says he wants a relationship but never follows through has nothing to do with what you did?
On this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber sits down with Jonathon Aslay, one of America's leading midlife dating coaches. They dig into a pattern that trips up so many women dating after 50: a man who talks a good game and vanishes right when things get real.
Jonathon lived this cycle himself for years. Over 500 first dates, a divorce, and a financial collapse that sent him back to live with his parents at 42 came before the loss of his 19 year old son Connor in 2018, the event that finally broke him open. What came out of that loss is a diagnosis he now teaches thousands of women: this pattern almost always comes down to a self-love deficit, and it shows up in men just as much as in women. He and Laurie walk through how to attract healthy love by spotting that deficit early, the exact questions that expose whether a man is emotionally available, and why the answer usually has nothing to do with your picker.
Laurie has spent over 20 years helping women over 50 stop guessing and start choosing wisely, and this conversation gives her audience something rare: an honest account from a man who has stood on both sides of this exact pattern. Self-love dating over 50 sounds soft until you hear a man name what was actually missing in him. If dating after divorce over 50 has you wondering whether you keep landing on the same type of man by accident, this episode is going to change how you read the next few weeks of texts, and it hands you a self-love practice you can start using on your very next date.
⏱ Timestamps
00:00–07:01 — The Pattern: Men Who Say They're Ready But Aren't
07:01–08:33 — Meet Jonathon Aslay: 500 Dates and a Self-Love Diagnosis
08:33–16:14 — Discovering the Self-Love Deficit Behind His Dating Pattern
16:14–18:04 — Divorce, Job Loss, and Hitting Rock Bottom in 2005
18:04–21:23 — Losing His Son Connor and Choosing to Grieve With Love
21:23–26:07 — How Gratitude and Compassion Became His Guiding Practice
26:07–33:13 — Healing Anxious Attachment in His Own Relationship
33:13–36:18 — Building Real Friendship Before Chemistry Takes Over
36:18–49:20 — The Questions That Reveal If He's Ready for Commitment
49:20–53:15 — Lightning Round: Why Men Pull Back After a Few Months
53:15–62:02 — His Book, Blind Spots, and Whether to Try to Fix Him
62:02–65:54 — What Self-Love Actually Looks Like on an Average Tuesday
🔗 Links & Resources
Guest resources referenced in this episode:
Jonathon Aslay's website: https://www.jonathonaslay.com
Book "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?" (Amazon): https://a.co/d/0ag6tcvK
Jonathon Aslay's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/JonathonAslay
Previous episode Laurie references:
Ep 6: 7 Questions to Ask When Dating Over 50 : https://youtu.be/rNcaQKJxBqA
More from Laurie:
Master the Art of Love Webinar
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75 minute training:
👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_038&utm_term=jonathon_aslay
Stay Connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
Ep 37: She Changed 3 Things in Her Dating Profile and Was Shocked by the Results
2026/09/14
Are you doing everything right on your dating profile and still not getting the matches you want?
Most women over 50 hit publish on their dating profile exhausted from the process, convinced they've done the work: good photos, honest bio, thoughtful answers. But a "fine" profile isn't enough. It blends into the crowd instead of standing out, and it can even attract the wrong people instead of the right ones. In this episode, I break down the 3 most common dating profile mistakes women make and show you exactly how to fix each one today.
I help women feel confident and clear about how to show up authentically in online dating, especially women over 50 navigating dating apps for the first time in decades. This episode covers the photo mistake nearly everyone makes without realizing it, the one question that transforms a boring bio into a magnetic one, and a surprising tweak to your search parameters that could open up your entire dating pool.
⏱ Timestamps
00:00–01:14 — Why a "fine" profile isn't good enough.
01:15–02:54 — The 3 changes previewed.
02:55–03:40 — Welcome to Season 4.
06:04–09:23 — The photo mistake almost everyone makes.
09:24–12:05 — Why you need help getting good photos.
12:06–14:29 — The bio mistake: writing like a resume.
14:30–18:11 — The exercise that fixes your bio.
18:12–19:06 — Why the work is worth it.
19:07–22:15 — The search parameters most people get wrong.
22:16–25:15 — Homework and where to get more help.
25:16–28:18 — Crazy Comments segment and sign-off.
🔗 Links & Resources
Previous episodes referenced:
Episode 9: Self-Love After 50: Confidence, Body Image, and Worthiness: Rebuild All Three: https://youtu.be/8W5KKb93h8E
Episode 10: New Year, New Love: How to Make Your Love Resolutions Actually Work: https://youtu.be/8LvhNBaKBNw
Episode 12: Dating Over 50: Is AI Your Friend in Online Dating? (guest Evan Marc Katz): https://youtu.be/sawFhaAk5NQ
Episode 13: 6 Step Guide For Getting Ready to Date Over 50: https://youtu.be/UTqyOl7K0Wc
More from Laurie:
Master the Art of Love Webinar:
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75-minute training:
👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_037
Website: https://www.lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_037
Master the Art of Love (MAOL), Laurie's full coaching program:
https://www.lauriegerber.com/maol?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_037
Stay connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
Are Your Dating Standards Keeping You Single?
2026/09/04
Are your dating standards protecting you, or are they keeping you single?
Many women over 50 build strict rules about height, income, and chemistry to avoid getting hurt again. Some of those rules work. Others just keep the wrong walls up.
In this episode, Laurie Gerber answers 6 real comments from Love at Any Age listeners about dating over 50. She covers whether trauma can distort a woman's Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha scores, responds to the wife-appliance complaint, and settles whether an 8-out-of-10 attraction standard is fair. She also runs the math on height and income deal breakers and asks whether introversion is a dating liability.
Laurie has spent 20 years helping women over 50 build lasting, healthy love. This mailbag episode answers the questions listeners actually ask, including how to talk about money without sounding like a gold digger.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:00–01:09 — Are Your Dating Rules Helping or Hurting You?
01:09–03:24 — Meet Laurie and Today's Six Mailbag Questions
03:24–07:43 — Can Trauma Distort Your 3H Scores?
07:43–12:17 — Are Men Looking for a Wife Appliance?
12:17–16:08 — Is an 8 Out of 10 Standard Realistic?
16:08–20:02 — Height and Income Rules: Fear or Protection?
20:02–22:49 — Is Introversion a Dating Liability?
22:49–26:29 — How to Say You're Not a Gold Digger
28:23–28:41 — Recap and Free Webinar Invite
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
More from Laurie:
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75-minute training:
👉 https://lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=mailbag_01
Website: https://lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=mailbag_01
Previous episodes mentioned:
Episode 1 — Dating Over 50: How to Stop Repeating the Same Love Mistakes
https://youtu.be/na3ihxavm6g
Episode 3 — The Secret to Choosing the Right Partner (for Real This Time)
https://youtu.be/A53BiuAiw6o
Episode 4 — Stop Wasting Time on Maybes: Your 3-Date Strategy
https://youtu.be/cfHrKi86I3s
Episode 5 — Here's How to Talk About the Hard Stuff (without Scaring Him Off)
https://youtu.be/qN-d5vMFdwE
Episode 18 — 8 Things Men Really Want in a Woman Over 50
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLXCOjYu36w
Episode 25 — Why Your Dating Life Isn't Progressing: 5 Reasons Women Over 50 Stay Stuck
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3oCjHirURo
Stay connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
He Stopped Texting. Is He Busy or Pulling Away?
2026/08/27
If his good morning texts suddenly disappear, is he just busy, or is he already checking out and how can women over 50 tell the difference?
For six weeks it felt effortless, then the good morning texts vanished, replies started taking 6 or 7 hours, and every attempt to bring it up got waved away with “you're overthinking this.” That's the kind of quiet unraveling so many women navigating dating after divorce over 50 know by heart, the moment excitement tips into second-guessing and nobody can quite say when it started.
In this episode, Laurie Gerber teams up with Andrea Knoche, host of the podcast From Mrs. to Ms. and her co-host on Menopause Love Lounge, to work through 3 real dating scenarios women over 50 sent in: a man who's suddenly harder to reach, an ex-wife who never really leaves the picture, and a boyfriend who wants “ongoing” but won’t label the relationship. Together they dig into the dating red flags over 50 that are easy to miss and the situationships that can drag on for months.
Laurie brings two decades of helping women over 50 through exactly these moments, and Andrea brings the lived experience of actually being back out there dating after divorce. If you've ever wondered whether you're overthinking a good morning text, unsure what to do about his ex, or stuck waiting for a label that never comes, this conversation will help you trust your gut again and know when it's telling you something real.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:00–00:43 — Three Real Dating Dilemmas To Debate
00:43–03:03 — Meet Andrea And Laurie: Two Very Different Lenses
03:03–06:48 — Scenario 1: He's Still Texting But Something Feels Off
06:48–09:15 — Busy Or Pulling Away? Reading His Mixed Signals
09:15–11:34 — Why Date 3 Is When You Ask What He's Looking For
11:34–16:57 — Good Morning Texts: Sweet Ritual Or Breadcrumbing?
16:57–20:39 — Scenario 2: His Ex-Wife Still Calls Him Every Week
20:39–23:53 — Laurie's Take: Why You Should Meet The Ex, Not Ban Her
23:53–26:10 — How To Raise Jealousy Without Sounding Jealous
26:10–29:03 — Scenario 3: He Wants Forever But Not The Label
29:03–34:24 — Real Story: Silke's 15-Year Love Found After Divorce
34:24–38:36 — Marriage After 50, Patience Vs Settling, And Goodbyes
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
Previous episode mentioned:
Ep. 36 — “The Dating Mistakes Women Over 50 Make That Push Good Men Away,” with guest Silke Schwarzkopf, who met her now-partner after her divorce at 50 and has been with him for 15 years.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k2OOdpzTL6Q
Master the Art of Love Webinar:
Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training, so you can get clear on what a healthy partnership looks like for you:
https://lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=guest_swap_andrea&utm_term=andrea_knoche
Website:
https://lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=guest_swap_andrea&utm_term=andrea_knoche
Take Laurie's free dating quiz:
https://lauriegerber.com/quiz?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=guest_swap_andrea&utm_term=andrea_knoche
Guest website — Andrea Knoche, host of From Mrs. to Ms.:
Andrea is host of From Mrs. to Ms., now a globally-ranked top 2% podcast with over 160,000 downloads.
https://frommrs2ms.com
📸 Instagram & TikTok: https://www.instagram.com/from.mrs.2.ms
▶️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FromMrs2Ms
💙Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580264082996
🎧Menopause Love Lounge (co-hosted by Laurie and Andrea): https://www.youtube.com/@MenopauseLoveLounge
Stay connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
Why He Can't Trust You Yet: A Divorce Coach on Dating After 50
2026/08/20
Are you dating a divorced man over 50 and wondering if his walls are ever really going to come down?
Dating a divorced man over 50 means dating his ex, his kids, and every wound he has not fully dealt with yet, even when he is a genuinely good guy. Trust does not come back on your timeline. It comes back on his, and if you do not know what healing actually looks like, it is easy to mistake a man who is still in survival mode for a man who is simply not that into you.
In this bonus re-edit of the conversation with Rachael Sloan, founder of Better Beyond Divorce, Laurie Gerber gets into what actually rebuilds trust after divorce, why a man's nervous system, not his feelings for you, may be what is repelling you, and how to tell the difference between a divorced man who is regulated and one who is dysregulated.
Rachael has spent years coaching men through the emotional aftermath of an unwanted divorce, and Laurie brings her in to help women over 50 spot the 3 real signs a man is ready for a committed relationship, not just relief from being alone. If you have ever wondered whether a divorced man's grief is normal or a red flag, this episode names the actual stages, so you are never left guessing again.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:01–01:21 — Why Dating a Divorced Man Isn't Just Dating Him
01:21–02:53 — What Men Go Through in the First Year After Divorce
02:53–04:21 — Loss of Agency and the Trust Issues That Follow
04:21–06:10 — How to Help a Divorced Man Feel Safe Enough to Trust
06:10–08:26 — Repelled by Him? It Might Be His Nervous System
08:26–10:10 — Machismo, Midlife Bias, and Emotionally Available Men
10:10–12:57 — 3 Signs He's Really Ready to Date, Not Just Healing
12:57–14:01 — Sign #3: He Wants the Hard Conversations
14:01–16:22 — Divorced Men vs Widowers: A Hidden Layer of Shame
16:22–17:42 — The Subtle Red Flag Most Women Miss
17:42–19:08 — Naming the Stages of Grief and Where to Get Help
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
More from Laurie:
Men’s dating coaching:
If you are a man looking for help with dating, fill out this application to apply for men’s group coaching:
https://lauriegerber.com/coaching-men?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_032_reedit&utm_term=rachael_sloan
Master the Art of Love Webinar:
Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training, so you can get clear on what a healthy partnership looks like for you:
https://lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_032_reedit&utm_term=rachael_sloan
Website:
https://lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_032_reedit&utm_term=rachael_sloan
Stay connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
Rachael Sloan's Free Download:
Emotional Stages of Divorce — A Survival Guide for Men. 9 stages of the divorce grieving process, with signs for each stage and exercises to help men move through them instead of getting stuck.
https://resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/stages-of-divorce-guide
👉 Find Rachael and Better Beyond Divorce at:
https://www.rachaelsloancoaching.com/
Rachael's YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach
The Blind Spot Keeping You Single After 50
2026/08/13
What's the one dating blind spot keeping women over 50 stuck in the same frustrating patterns?
She's done the personal growth work, read the books, and sat in therapy, maybe more than once. But she still keeps choosing the wrong person, or no one at all, or she's stuck on the sidelines, wishing she felt ready to get back in the game.
In this episode, Laurie Gerber pulls back the curtain on her small group dating coaching program for women over 50, unpacking what really happened over 3 months with the 6 women in her last cohort. She explains the 34 obstacles that commonly trip up daters, and why she builds each woman's curriculum around the Handel Method, developed at MIT and Stanford.
Laurie has spent over 20 years helping women over 50 navigate dating after divorce, widowhood, or a long break from the game, and this episode lays out exactly how group coaching turns hidden blind spots into a personalized plan for finding love after 50.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:00–02:00 — The Blind Spot Keeping You Single After 50.
02:00–03:14 — Why Dating After 50 Requires Real Expertise.
03:14–06:41 — Inside Laurie's Small Group Dating Coaching.
06:41–07:51 — What's Changed Since You Last Dated.
07:51–09:33 — The 34 Obstacles to Lasting Love After 50.
09:33–11:04 — Is Group Coaching Right for You?
11:04–12:43 — Support, Structure, and Real Accountability.
12:43–15:01 — Client Wins: Kim and Michelle's Breakthroughs.
15:01–19:30 — The Homework That Makes Coaching Work.
19:30–25:27 — The 3 Phases: Bench, Game, Relationship.
25:27–28:35 — Real Client Comments and Results.
28:35–32:06 — How to Apply Before the Cohort Fills Up.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
Apply for Master the Art of Love Small Group Coaching:
https://lauriegerber.com/coaching-women?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_women
Master the Art of Love (self-paced digital program):
https://lauriegerber.com/maol?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_women
Website:
https://www.lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_women
Stay connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
He Went From a 5 to a 9 in the Bedroom. Here's How
2026/08/06
Why do so many men over 50 succeed at work, but still can't crack dating?
Many men over 50 have built successful careers, raised kids, and made it through a divorce or the loss of a spouse, yet dating still feels like the one thing they cannot get right. They show up as good guys, but things fall apart anyway, and they cannot always pinpoint why. Some are still sitting on the sidelines, unsure if they are ready to try again.
In this episode, Laurie Gerber breaks down her group dating coaching program for men over 50, Master of the Art of Love for Men, and the dating system that helped 5 men in her last cohort become confident, effective daters in 12 weeks. She walks through what week-to-week coaching actually looks like, answers the most common objections men raise about group coaching, and shares real feedback from men who completed the program.
Laurie has spent over 25 years helping people find lasting, healthy love, and in this episode she turns that experience toward the men in her audience who are ready for a real system instead of more guesswork. If you have wondered whether group dating coaching could work for a man like you, this episode lays out exactly what to expect before you apply.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:00–01:00 — Why Dating Feels Impossible for Men Over 50
01:00–02:02 — What This Men's Coaching Episode Covers
02:02–03:06 — Meet Laurie Gerber, Coach for Daters Over 50
03:06–05:57 — Is Group Coaching for Men Just Therapy?
05:57–08:23 — Not a Support Group: How the Diagnosis Works
08:23–12:02 — Bench, Dating, or Relationship: Where Men Start
12:02–15:21 — Cost, Time, and Embarrassment Objections Answered
15:21–16:38 — Why This Beats a Dating Book or App
16:38–18:07 — No Cross-Coaching: Avoiding Bad Advice From Guys
18:07–20:58 — Real Results: What Men Say After 12 Weeks
20:58–21:47 — Week-by-Week: How the 12-Week Program Unfolds
21:47–23:00 — How to Apply for the Next Men's Cohort
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
Master of the Art of Love for Men — Application
https://lauriegerber.com/coaching-men?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_men
Mentioned in This Episode
Ep 1: Dating Over 50: How to Stop Repeating the Same Love Mistakes
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=na3ihxavm6g
Website
https://lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_men
Stay connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
Ep 36: She Made Every Dating Mistake After 50. Then Found Her Person.
2026/07/23
What does it take to find love after divorce over 50 when the real obstacle isn’t your age or the apps, but a pattern you haven’t changed yet?
For Silke Schwarzkopf, it took leaving a 25-year sexless marriage and making every classic mistake: coming on too strong, controlling every interaction, and rewriting a man’s entire book manuscript on a 3rd date. She made them all.
In this episode, Silke breaks down the dating mistakes women over 50 keep repeating, including the controlling behaviors that push men away and what sexual reawakening after divorce really feels like when nobody prepares you. The shift came when she stopped dating from a place of need and started dating from a place of want.
Dating coach Laurie Gerber sits down with Silke, creator and host of Second Act TV, for one of the most candid midlife dating conversations yet. Silke and Paul have been together 15 years. She tells you exactly what the shift looked like.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:00–02:51 — Introduction: Dating After Divorce at 50 With Silke Schwarzkopf.
02:51–05:12 — Leaving a 25-Year Sexless Marriage and the Awakening at 50.
05:12–07:44 — From Girlfriend Happy Hours to Creating Second Act TV.
07:44–12:18 — Naming the Baggage: Controlling, Over-Caretaking, Sexual Reawakening.
12:18–15:43 — First Date Disaster: Triathletes, Angel Numbers, Coming On Too Strong.
15:43–18:14 — The Book Rewrite: Editing a Date's Manuscript Uninvited.
18:14–20:02 — Over-Giving Is Still Controlling: The Flip Side of the Same Trait.
20:02–22:19 — Sexual Reawakening After 50: The Vaginal Atrophy No One Warned Her About.
22:19–26:27 — The Click: Getting Unattached to the Outcome Changed Everything.
26:27–31:16 — Spotting Paul on Match.com and the Slow-Burn First Date.
31:16–38:21 — Long-Distance Dating, Independence, and Living Apart Together.
38:21–45:14 — Betrayal, Trust, and the #1 Advice for Finding Love After Divorce.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
Previous Episodes Mentioned
EP 9 — Self-Love, Body Image, and Dating Confidence
https://youtu.be/8W5KKb93h8E
EP 10 — New Year, New Love: How to Make Your Love Resolutions Actually Work
https://youtu.be/8LvhNBaKBNw
More from Laurie:
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75-minute training:
👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_036&utm_term=silke_schwarzkopf
Visit Laurie’s website:
👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_036&utm_term=silke_schwarzkopf
Silke Schwarzkopf’s website: https://2ndact.tv
Second Act TV on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/2ndActTV
Stay Connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
Is He Really Over Her? 3 Signs He’s Still Emotionally Married
2026/07/16
Can you really know if he’s available, or are you watching a man who’s still emotionally married to someone who no longer shares his address?
In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber sits down with relationship coach and author Stephan Labossiere (Stephan Speaks) to break down 3 behavioral signs he’s not over his ex and expose the emotionally unavailable patterns that look like forward movement on the outside. They dig into the co-parenting gray zone, the comparison trap, the timeline myth, and what it actually takes to strengthen your relationship foundation before the ex becomes a recurring problem.
Laurie has spent 20 years helping women over 50 read behavior instead of hoping. Stephan coaches men directly, which means when he unpacks what “I’m over her” can actually mean, you’re getting the inside story.
⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:00–08:45 — He Said He’s Over Her: What That Phrase Can Actually Mean.
08:46–15:11 — Sign 1: How He Shows Up in Your Relationship Is the Tell.
15:12–22:29 — Sign 2: Emotionally Married and the Limits He Won’t Set With Her.
22:30–28:31 — Co-Parenting and Dating: Spotting Healthy Contact vs. Attachment.
28:32–36:07 — Strengthen the Foundation and the Comparison Red Flag.
36:08–42:12 — How Many Men Really Heal After a Major Relationship Ends?
42:13–49:08 — The Timeline Myth: Why Waiting With Him Won’t Work.
49:09–55:50 — Fix Your Picker, Trust Your Intuition, and the Homework.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
Stephan Labossiere:
Website: https://www.stephanspeaksshop.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPBO9gLGy8ujsJ7xjARI7ow
Previous episodes mentioned:
Episode 23 (Power Sentences): https://youtu.be/bFkIv2ULF88
Episode 1: https://youtu.be/na3ihxavm6g
More from Laurie:
If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75-minute training:
👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_035&utm_term=stephan_labossiere
Learn more about Laurie’s approach and coaching programs:
👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_035&utm_term=stephan_labossiere
Stay connected with Laurie:
▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/
💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber
🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/
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relationshiphq 2026/10/12
Practical, fun and life changing
I didn’t know what to expect when I was invited to be on, but then I listened to other episodes and found Lori willing to ask tough questions but in a...
★★★★★
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So helpful!
This podcast is so inspirational! Laurie does a great job of delivering important information that’s informative, light-hearted and helpful! Keep up t...
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Practical advice for modern Dating
Laurie Gerber gets right to the point and cuts through all the BS that’s out there in today’s dating world. Listen to this podcast and you’ll learn a ...
★★★★★
Will Craig NYC 2026/01/30
Down to earth guidance
Super useful perspectives. I listen every week.
★★★★★
Sexuality_Education_Xplained 2026/01/30
Excellent Dating Coaching
Each episode Laurie offers detailed steps to get oneself ready for dating, especially women over 50 who might’ve had a divorce, or loss of a loved one...
★★★★★
MyCoachDawn 2025/12/14
Why didn’t I think of that?
This podcast is beyond helpful - understanding myself, other people and what to actually do in these situations. So many of Laurie’s recommendations a...
★★★★★
Walrus lover-er 2025/11/25
Everything I needed to hear!
It’s so freaking wonderful Laurie!! I’m listening to every single one! Thank you!!
★★★★★
Jordan Salcito 2025/11/22
Laurie is Brilliant
Full of practical advice, tons of smarts and a life of walking the walk, Laurie offers valuable perspective I always love and listen to!
★★★★★
DivorceCoach4Women 2025/10/24
Real Support for Dating in Midlife and Beyond
Laurie has both the expertise and the experience as a dating coach to provide information and support that makes dating comfortable again - especially...