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EP 47: In this episode of Uncensored, we interview Louisa Ferre, a professional dominatrix based in San Francisco and Los Angeles, to talk about BDSM, femdom, dominant girlfriend experience, and the real business of professional domination. Louisa shares how her background in classical music and corporate work informs her sessions, her experience with dungeon mentorships, and how she navigated the transition into online sex work during the pandemic. We discuss common myths about dominance, red flags in dom mentorship programs, emotional labor in BDSM, and how power dynamics extend beyond the dungeon into travel, lifestyle, and long-term dynamics. Chapters: 00:00 – 00:01:00 Setting the Scene 00:01:01 – 00:02:05 Welcome & Guest Introduction 00:02:05 – 00:03:12 Multiple Lives, One Throughline 00:03:12 – 00:05:08 Origin Story: From Music & Corporate to OnlyFans 00:05:08 – 00:06:00 Moving to the Bay & Dungeon Mentorship 00:06:01 – 00:08:28 Tumblr Era: BL, Femdom & “Love of the Game” 00:08:29 – 00:10:24 Early Kink Influences & Queer Theater Community 00:10:25 – 00:12:01 Classical Training: Discipline, Breath & Timing

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EP 44: In this candid, no-holds-barred conversation, Mx Tomie sits down with Danielle Blunt—a dominatrix, researcher, and organizer working at the intersection of sexuality, technology, censorship, and power. Danielle is the co-founder of Hacking//Hustling and a leading voice on how digital platforms, financial systems, and so-called “safety” policies disproportionately harm sex workers and marginalized communities. Together, they explore how domination isn’t just about pleasure, but about risk, ethics, and what happens at the edge of consent—both in intimate dynamics and in our relationship to technology and capitalism. From Danielle’s early training in old-guard BDSM spaces to the real consequences of platform censorship and financial discrimination, this conversation connects the dungeon to the digital world in ways you probably haven’t considered. If you’ve ever wondered who decides what’s “acceptable,” who gets punished for desire, and why intimacy always involves risk—this episode is for you. Chapters 0:00 — 1:05 Danielle Blunt Introduction 1:00 — 2:02 Mx Tomie Formally Introduces Danielle Blunt 2:15 – 3:25 Danielle is Anti‑Pleasure, Pro‑Torture? 3:25 – 5:30 Origin Story: Sex, Taboo & Power 5:30 – 8:26 The Old Guard BDSM Chateau 8:26 – 12:28 Lifestyle Domination, Manipulation & Negotiation 12:28 – 18:20 Edge Play: A Deep‑Dive Story 18:20 – 22:31 Repair Work, Consent & The Unknown 22:31 – 26:05 Long‑Term Subs, DS Dynamics & Training 26:00 – 30:13 Femdom GFE, Sex & The “Untouchable Dom” Myth 30:13 – 32:34 Censorship, “Safety” Rhetoric & Who’s Protected 32:34 – 35:55 Financial Discrimination & Banking Deplatforming 35:55 – 37:43 Digital Security & Threat Modeling 37:43 – 40:30 Censorship, Codes & Fetish Evolution 40:30 – 42:55 Content Creation Fatigue & Forced Innovation 42:55 – 44:10 Quick‑Fire Segment (Presented by IWantClips) 44:10 – 45:05 Outro & Closing Follow Our Guest: IG - https://www.instagram.com/missblunt.nyc/ Support the Show 💻 Join today, visit iwantclips.com use code MXTOMIE for 15% off your shopping cart, and Artists claim 90% rev share for your first three months! 📲 Be sure to subscribe — help us reach 10K subs! Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie 🌶️ For the extra-spicy, uncut content we can’t air here, join the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/UncensoredwithMxTomie Follow Mx Tomie 🖤 IG — https://www.instagram.com/mx.tomie.digital TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@mx.tomie Follow Uncensored with Mx Tomie IG — https://www.instagram.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie/ TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@uncensoredwithmxtomie FB — https://www.facebook.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie

EP 43: Mx Tomie sits down with award-winning sexologist and TV sex expert Dr. Tara to explore how pleasure, kink, and communication intersect with power, shame, and liberation. They unpack why conversations about sex—and money—are often the hardest in long-term relationships, how shame is used as a tool of control (especially against women and marginalized communities), and how reclaiming pleasure can radically shift how we show up in our lives. From morning “pleasure routines” that replace coffee, to kink-aware ways of talking about desire with a vanilla partner, to the deeper psychology behind BDSM and humiliation, this episode weaves together practical tools, personal stories, and unapologetically real talk. Dr. Tara also shares insights from her domme training with a professional dominatrix, her perspective on television as a form of sex education, and what happens when high-powered people finally have permission to let go—and be held. Chapters 0:00 — 1:00 Dr. Tara Introduction 1:00 — 2:00 Mx Tomie Introduces Dr. Tara 2:00 — 04:50 Sexual Wellness as “Morning Coffee” and Pleasure Routine 04:50 – 7:36 Sex Toys, Pleasure Pathways & “Desensitization” Myths 07:36 – 10:01 Growing Up Repressed in Bangkok & Finding Sexology 10:01 – 12:44 Sex, Money, Power & Walking on Eggshells 12:44 – 16:38 Kinks, Shame & What Clients Confess 16:38 – 21:21 Three Practical Tips for Sharing Kinks with a Partner 21:21 – 26:50 Coaching Couples, Normalizing Kink & Finding the Right Therapist 26:50 – 28:50 Dom Training: From Theory to Practice 28:50 – 30:33 | Favorite Dom Activities & Dominant Archetypes 28:58 – 30:38 TV, Sex Ed & Where the Biggest Gaps Are 30:38 – 34:04 Shame as Social Control & Performing Sex 34:04 – 35:09 Cultural Shame Around Divorce & Staying “For the Kids” Follow Our Guest: IG - https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/ Support the Show 💻 Join today, visit iwantclips.com use code MXTOMIE for 15% off your shopping cart, and Artists claim 90% rev share for your first three months! 📲 Be sure to subscribe — help us reach 10K subs! Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie 🌶️ For the extra-spicy, uncut content we can’t air here, join the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/UncensoredwithMxTomie Follow Mx Tomie 🖤 IG — https://www.instagram.com/mx.tomie.digital TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@mx.tomie Follow Uncensored with Mx Tomie IG — https://www.instagram.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie/ TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@uncensoredwithmxtomie FB — https://www.facebook.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie

EP 42: A Vietnam War veteran turned anti-war activist. The Queen of Hell’s Kitchen. A trans activist and longtime sex worker who survived eras most people only read about. In this unforgettable episode, Renee Imperato sits down with Mx Tomie to share New York stories you won’t find in history books—from growing up in 1940s Hell’s Kitchen against the backdrop of the theater district, to Vietnam’s war zones and Agent Orange, from Mafia-run queer clubs to a 30-year career driving NYC taxis, where backseats became mobile dungeons. Renee reflects on being raised by drag queens, carrying an axe for protection, surviving loss and violence, and how war radicalized her into a lifelong anti-imperialist. What emerges is not just a conversation, but a living archive of queer, trans, sex worker, and anti-war history—told with tenderness, sharp humor, and an absolute refusal to apologize. Follow Our Guest IG - https://www.instagram.com/reneimperato/ Support the Show 💻  Join today, visit iwantclips.com use code MXTOMIE for 15% off your shopping cart, and Artists claim 90% rev share for your first three months!  📲 Be sure to subscribe — help us reach 10K subs! Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie 🌶️ For the extra-spicy, uncut content we can’t air here, join the    Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/UncensoredwithMxTomie Follow Mx Tomie 🖤 IG — https://www.instagram.com/mx.tomie.digital TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@mx.tomie Follow Uncensored with Mx Tomie IG — https://www.instagram.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie/ TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@uncensoredwithmxtomie FB — https://www.facebook.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie

EP 41: Mx Tomie sits down with NYC-based domme, escort, and creative Parker Penn to explore where art, sex, power, risk, and healing intersect. They discuss professional dominance, kink as somatic mindfulness, consent beyond clichés, and the vulnerability and ethics of domming—venturing into edgy terrain along the way. Parker also shares how motorcycles, art, and erotic practice all strip identity down to pure sensation and meaning-making.

EP 40: Mx Tomie sits down with legendary dominatrix, writer, filmmaker, and sex worker organizer *Yin Q* for a raw conversation about pain, power, kink, trauma, and politics. Drawing on over three decades in BDSM, Yin reflects on their evolution from hard sadism and edge play into disability-informed kink, art-making, and community organizing—speaking candidly about burnout, the emotional toll of professional domination, and the sessions that pushed them past their limits. Together, they unpack the difference between negotiated violence and abuse, why boredom and dissociation are important data, and how kink can function as art and ritual without being sold as a cure. They also explore dom aftercare, the myth of the flawless 24/7 dom, class divides in sex work, and the responsibility that comes with being visible. The episode closes with reflections on activism and Yin’s forthcoming documentary, *The Whores’ Feast.* Chapters 0:00 — 1:06 Yin Q Introduction 1:06 — 1:54 Mx Tomie Introduces Yin Q 1:54 — 6:46 Origins of Kink, Violence & Childhood Wounds 6:46 — 10:57 Using pro work to explore different scenes and discover personal tastes 10:57 — 14:07 Boredom, Burnout & Rotating Clients 14:07 — 16:41 From “Hard Sadist” to Pain With Limits & Disability 16:41 – 20:03 Kink as Art, Therapy & Imperfect Healing 20:03 — 21:23 Why Keep Doing the Work? Kinkout & Community 21:23 – 22:20 Art, Academia & Lived Experience 22:20 – 23:17 How the Literature Has Changed: Healing & Exigent Sadism 23:17 – 25:53 Edges, Cruelty & Emotional Toll in Consensual Non-Consent 25:53 – 31:14 Two Sessions That Caused Rupture (Content Warning: Blood & Emotional Abuse Roleplay) 31:14 – 33:30 Safety, Aftercare & Tracking Shifting Boundaries 33:30 – 36:22 Bringing Kink & Sex Work Voices Into Museums 36:22 – 37:38 Glamour vs Reality of Activism, Being recognized by Spike Lee 37:38 – 40:01 — Mercy Mistress, Margaret Cho & Asian American Representation 40:01 – 42:07 The Unfinished Storyline: Stalking, Power Flips & State Violence 42:07 – 43:35 Class Divides in Sex Work & Ethical Use of Privilege 43:35 – 45:19 Rapid Fire: Music, Pre‑Session Rituals & Atmosphere 45:19 – 47:20 Favorite Gear & Dominatrix Misconceptions 47:20 – 50:14 Dungeon Memories & Old-School Training 50:17 – 51:40 What’s Next: The Whores’ Feast Documentary 51:40 – 0:52:01 — Closing, Plugs & Farewell *Follow Our Guest* IG - https://www.instagram.com/yinq13ritual/?hl=en *Support the Show* 💻 Join today, visit iwantclips.com use code MXTOMIE for 15% off your shopping cart, and Artists claim 90% rev share for your first three months! 📲 Be sure to subscribe — help us reach 10K subs! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie 🌶️ For the extra-spicy, uncut content we can’t air here, join the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/UncensoredwithMxTomie *Follow Mx Tomie *🖤 *IG* — https://www.instagram.com/mx.tomie.digital *TikTok* — https://www.tiktok.com/@mx.tomie *Follow Uncensored with Mx Tomie* *IG* — https://www.instagram.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie/ *TikTok* — https://www.tiktok.com/@uncensoredwithmxtomie *FB* — https://www.facebook.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie *YouTube* — https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie

Mx Tomie sits down with legendary dominatrix, writer, filmmaker, and sex worker organizer Yin Q for a raw conversation about pain, power, kink, trauma, and politics. Drawing on over three decades in BDSM, Yin reflects on their evolution from hard sadism and edge play into disability-informed kink, art-making, and community organizing—speaking candidly about burnout, the emotional toll of professional domination, and the sessions that pushed them past their limits. Together, they unpack the difference between negotiated violence and abuse, why boredom and dissociation are important data, and how kink can function as art and ritual without being sold as a cure. They also explore dom aftercare, the myth of the flawless 24/7 dom, class divides in sex work, and the responsibility that comes with being visible. The episode closes with reflections on activism and Yin’s forthcoming documentary, The Whores’ Feast. Follow Our Guest IG -  https://www.instagram.com/yesmissshayla/ Support the Show 💻  Join today, visit iwantclips.com use code MXTOMIE for 15% off your shopping cart, and Artists claim 90% rev share for your first three months!  📲 Be sure to subscribe — help us reach 10K subs! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie 🌶️ For the extra-spicy, uncut content we can’t air here, join the    Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/UncensoredwithMxTomie Follow Mx Tomie 🖤 IG — https://www.instagram.com/mx.tomie.digital TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@mx.tomie Follow Uncensored with Mx Tomie IG — https://www.instagram.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie/ TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@uncensoredwithmxtomie FB — https://www.facebook.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie

In this episode of Uncensored, Mx Tomie sits down with legendary New York dominatrix, educator, and dungeon owner Lucy Sweetkill for a raw conversation about kink, identity, business, and—yes—food. Lucy shares her path from the fashion world to moonlighting in an all-Asian dungeon she found on Backpage, eventually becoming a full-time pro dom and co-founder of La Maison de Rouge. She opens up about the emotional and spiritual labor of domination, navigating Asian fetishization, Buddhist approaches to pain, and the realities of running a kink space in NYC. They also dive into Lucy’s obsession with food culture—chef subs, sploshing, human trash bags, frozen Peeps as insertables, and humiliation scenes followed by Eleven Madison Park dinners. Smart, gritty, funny, and philosophical, this episode moves from cake-sitting chaos to gender journeys and building a sustainable, values-driven life as a creative and sex worker. Follow Our Guest IG - https://www.instagram.com/lucy.sweetkill/?hl=en Support the Show 📲 Be sure to subscribe — help us reach 10K subs! Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie 🌶️ For the extra-spicy, uncut content we can’t air here, join the    Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/UncensoredwithMxTomie Follow Mx Tomie 🖤 IG — https://www.instagram.com/mx.tomie.digital TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@mx.tomie Follow Uncensored with Mx Tomie IG — https://www.instagram.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie/ TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@uncensoredwithmxtomie FB — https://www.facebook.com/uncensoredwithmxtomie YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@UncensoredWithMxTomie

Join Mx Tomie and the illustrious Mistress Shayla as they delve into the intricacies of New York's kink scene. This episode explores the personal journeys, unique stories, and creative practices of professional dominatrices. Mistress Shayla shares her evolution from conservative upbringings to a celebrated dominatrix, revealing the humor and humanity that lies within the leather-clad boundaries. From mentoring burgeoning doms to orchestrating outrageous roleplays, Mistress Shayla leaves nothing unsaid. Follow Mx Tomie For More Here 🖤🌶️ IG - @mx.tomie.digital & @uncensoredwithmxtomie TikTok - @mx.tomie & @uncensored FB - @uncensoredpodcast YouTube - @UncensoredWithMxTomie

Join Mx Tomie and the illustrious Mistress Shayla as they delve into the intricacies of New York's kink scene. This episode explores the personal journeys, unique stories, and creative practices of professional dominatrices. Mistress Shayla shares her evolution from conservative upbringings to a celebrated dominatrix, revealing the humor and humanity that lies within the leather-clad boundaries. From mentoring burgeoning doms to orchestrating outrageous roleplays, Mistress Shayla leaves nothing unsaid. Follow Mx Tomie For More Here 🖤🌶️ - IG - @mx.tomie.digital & @uncensoredwithmxtomie TikTok - @mx.tomie & @uncensored FB - @uncensoredpodcast YouTube - @UncensoredWithMxTomie

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Dive into the wild world of kink, boundaries, and family drama in this episode of Uncensored with MX Tomie! We're reading and reacting to "Am I the A**hole?" threads on Reddit involving BDSM parties, CNC roleplay trauma, and body count revelations in marriage. MX Tomie shares honest insights from her experience in the BDSM community, emphasizing consent, safe spaces, and why some situations cross the line. Whether you're into femdom, exploring kinks, or just love juicy relationship stories, this episode covers it all with no holds barred. Follow Mx Tomie For More Here - IG - @mx.tomie.digital & @uncensoredwithmxtomie TikTok - @mx.tomie & @uncensored FB - @uncensoredpodcast YouTube - @UncensoredWithMxTomie Chapters 00:15 - AITA for Refusing Dad's House After Discovering BDSM Parties? 01:52 - Reacting to the BDSM Party Discovery and Family Boundaries 03:30 - Advice on Separating Kink from Family Life 06:29 - Verdict on the First Story and BDSM Community Tips 07:23 - AITA for Feeling Traumatized by CNC Roleplay? 09:22 - Reacting to CNC Intensity and Safe Words for Tops 10:32 - Girlfriend's Frustration and Relationship Fallout 11:43 - Verdict: Consent in Trauma Play and Hiring Professionals 14:00 - Reading Comments on the CNC Story 15:30 - More Insights on Manipulation and Healing 16:40 - AITA for Divorcing My Wife Over Her Body Count? 18:10 - Reacting to Virginity Lies and Religious Boundaries 19:20 - Verdict: Judgment, Trust Violations, and Outdated Concepts