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It was Thanksgiving weekend in October 2022. My family had gathered at my mom's house, and before my eldest son left, someone suggested we take a quick picture together at the front door. It was completely spontaneous. Just a mother and her son standing side by side. In the picture, he towers over me, and I can still see the little boy I raised inside the young man standing beside me. I had no idea it would become the last photograph I would have of just the two of us. Approximately one month later, our relationship would dramatically change. In Episode 106 of After the Quiet, I reflect on that ordinary Thanksgiving, the speed with which family relationships can change, and the complicated grief of looking back at a moment that only became significant in hindsight. I also talk about something that will be important as I move into the next part of my story: my son is not the villain. He was a teenager navigating complicated family circumstances, and the pain of what happened afterward does not erase the relationship we had before it. This episode explores family estrangement, parental alienation from my personal perspective, motherhood, grief, and the ordinary memories that can take on entirely new meaning after a relationship changes. Because before there was estrangement, there was a relationship. There were years of love, ordinary days, birthdays, car rides, school lunches and family holidays. And on one Thanksgiving weekend in October 2022, there was a mother standing beside her very tall son at a front door, believing there would always be another picture. New episodes of After the Quiet every Tuesday for now.

Labour Day weekend had always meant one thing in my family: our annual birthday celebration for all the Virgos. In September 2022, we gathered at my mom’s house to celebrate my birthday, my sons’ birthdays, and several other family birthdays. We swam, laughed, celebrated, and took countless pictures. I had no idea it would be the last birthday I would ever celebrate with my sons. One photograph from that day has become especially precious—a picture of me with all three of my children. It isn’t a photo where I think I look particularly good, but today, I don’t notice any of that. I only see my kids standing beside me. And we look happy. In Episode 105 of After the Quiet, I reflect on family estrangement, parental alienation, the “lasts” we don’t recognize while we’re living them, and how photographs can become priceless reminders of the relationships and love that existed before everything changed. Because sometimes you don't know it's the last family vacation, the last birthday, the last hug, or the last photograph together until another one never comes.

The summer of 2022 gave me another reason to believe everything was going to be okay. My middle son called me constantly asking to go to the amusement park—we went 11 times that summer. Sometimes his siblings came, sometimes friends and cousins joined us, and every trip made me believe our relationship was getting stronger. My oldest was driving, working, and becoming more independent, while my daughter spent so much time at my house with her friends that I joked I had three daughters instead of one. From the outside, we looked connected. We were connected. That's what makes what happened next so difficult to understand. Then, at the end of the summer, my daughter was registered for dance. I walked into a familiar dance studio simply to buy her shoes, having no idea that this place would eventually become connected to both some of the greatest sadness—and greatest happiness—of my life. In Episode 104 of After the Quiet, I reflect on the difference between happy memories and false hope, the early stages of family estrangement, and the summer when I truly believed my relationships with my children were getting stronger. New episodes every Tuesday and Thursday.

In July 2022, after months of growing tension and distance, I took all three of my children on a week-long vacation to visit my extended family. For a little while, everything felt normal again. We took pontoon boat rides, spent time at a tiny beach, attempted paddle boarding, squeezed together into a little bunk house, laughed with family, and made memories. I came home believing that maybe we were going to be okay. I didn't know it would be the last family vacation I would ever take with all three of my children. In Episode 103 of After the Quiet, I reflect on another false glimmer of hope during the early stages of family estrangement and what I now understand as parental alienation. It's an episode about the lasts we don't recognize while we're living them—and the ordinary memories that become priceless when the next one never comes.

It didn't happen overnight. It happened in inches. By early 2022, getting my teenage sons to school during my parenting time had become such a struggle that I made a decision I would later regret: I told them they could decide when they wanted to stay with me. I thought removing the fight would protect our relationship. Instead, our everyday time together slowly began disappearing. Then, after simply checking on my sick son while his father was out of town, I received a call from the police. Suddenly, I was being told I could no longer step onto my ex-husband's property—even to help my children carry their belongings to the door. In Episode 102 of After the Quiet, I look back at the small changes that I now recognize as the beginning of parental alienation: fewer school nights, hidden rides home, increasing distance, shifting boundaries, and ordinary parenting moments becoming sources of conflict. At the time, each incident seemed explainable. Looking back, I can see a pattern forming.

After separating in 2019, I had finally become comfortable being alone. Then, during COVID, a spontaneous $9.99 Tinder purchase led me to the man who would become my partner. My children welcomed him, our families blended easily, and for the first time in years, life felt genuinely happy. But beneath the amusement-park trips, skating nights, rides home from school, and new family memories, something was beginning to change. My ex started objecting to my partner's relationship with my sons, and slowly, my children began pulling away. In Episode 101 of After the Quiet, I share how finding love after an abusive marriage gave me hope for a new beginning—and how that happiness became another source of conflict after separation. What looked like a peaceful new chapter was about to become the beginning of a painful shift in my relationship with my children.

Can an abusive relationship ever seem peaceful again? In Episode 100 of After the Quiet, I reflect on a surprising chapter during the COVID-19 pandemic when the conflict between my ex-husband and me appeared to quiet down. We co-parented more peacefully, he showed unexpected concern for my health, invited me to Christmas dinner with our children, and for the first time since our separation, I believed we might truly build a healthy co-parenting relationship. I also share how his new relationship brought hope for a united front for our children and why this period left me believing the worst was finally behind us. This episode explores coercive control, post-separation abuse, co-parenting after divorce, emotional manipulation, and the confusing moments when calm can make you believe lasting change is possible.

What if one of your greatest fears after leaving an abusive relationship never comes true? In Episode 99 of After the Quiet, I share the emotional story of attending my former husband's grandfather's funeral and the unexpected support I received from the family I thought I had lost forever. As I navigated co-parenting challenges, grief, and continued post-separation abuse, I discovered that the people who had known me for 24 years could see through the lies. This episode explores coercive control, post-separation abuse, family relationships, grief, and the healing that comes from being truly seen and believed. If you've ever feared losing an entire family after leaving a relationship, this episode is a reminder that genuine relationships are built on years of shared love—not on someone else's version of the truth.

What happens when you're trying to rebuild your relationship with your children while navigating post-separation abuse? In Episode 98 of After the Quiet, I share the challenges of parenting after separation as my sons began living with me 50/50, the heartbreaking morning battles to get them to school, and the emotional toll of being told I was failing as a mother. I also discuss the reunification therapy that was meant to help repair our relationship, why it ultimately failed, and the unexpected lessons I learned from a therapist about boundaries and coercive control. Finally, I reflect on how the COVID-19 lockdowns—while devastating for so many—gave me something I hadn't experienced in years: a chance to breathe, connect with my children, and finally experience a small measure of peace. This episode explores post-separation abuse, reunification therapy, parental alienation, coercive control, and the complicated journey of healing after leaving an abusive relationship.

What happens when false reports to Children's Aid become another form of post-separation abuse? In Episode 97 of After the Quiet, I share the emotional impact of being investigated twice by Children's Aid Society after anonymous allegations claimed my home was unsafe, I abused alcohol, and I neglected my children. Despite both investigations finding no concerns, the experience left me questioning every parenting decision I made. I also share the heartbreaking moment my oldest son lashed out after I set a boundary, and how coercive control continued to affect my relationship with my children long after I left the marriage. This episode explores post-separation abuse, coercive control, false allegations, parental alienation, and the lasting emotional toll of trying to parent under constant scrutiny.

What does it really mean to start over after leaving an abusive relationship? In Episode 96 of After the Quiet, I share what life looked like after selling our family home and moving in with my mother while my ex settled into a new house. I talk about the heartbreaking reality of trying to reconnect with my sons, believing I had to spend money to earn their love, the challenges of qualifying for a mortgage without a separation agreement, and the joy of finally buying my own home just before my 40th birthday. This episode explores post-separation abuse, coercive control, parental alienation, reunification therapy, and the emotional journey of rebuilding a life after domestic abuse. If you've ever wondered what comes after leaving, this episode offers an honest look at the challenges—and the hope—of starting over.

What do you really lose when you leave an abusive relationship? In Episode 95 of After the Quiet, I share the emotional experience of returning to our family home after separation to pack my belongings—only to find the primary bedroom locked, treasured keepsakes inaccessible, and many of the household items we had agreed to divide already gone. I reflect on the grief of losing irreplaceable memories, the physical toll trauma took on my body, and how abuse continues to affect survivors long after they leave. This episode explores post-separation abuse, coercive control, trauma stored in the body, and the long journey of healing. If you've ever wondered why survivors can still be triggered years later, this episode offers a deeply personal perspective on recovery and resilience.

Selling a family home after separation should be straightforward—but when coercive control is involved, even a real estate transaction can become another form of abuse. In Episode 94 of After the Quiet, I share the emotional story of selling our home after I left my marriage. From intimidation and manipulation to a smear campaign targeting our realtor, this episode explores how post-separation abuse extended far beyond our relationship. I also reflect on the unexpected friendship that emerged from one of the darkest chapters of my life, and what it was like rebuilding my life while living with my mother as our house proceeds remained tied up in legal proceedings. This episode offers a personal look at coercive control, separation, divorce, and the challenges of starting over after abuse.

What happens when an abuser doesn't let go after you leave? In Episode 93 of After the Quiet, I share how the abuse changed after separation through a devastating smear campaign. False accusations of affairs, lies told to my children, family, friends, neighbours, and coworkers, and years of retaliation became the next chapter of coercive control. I also discuss the lasting impact these lies had on my children and why abuse doesn't always end when a relationship does. This episode explores post-separation abuse, parental alienation, emotional manipulation, and the long-term effects of coercive control. If you're supporting a survivor or trying to understand what happens after someone leaves an abusive relationship, this episode offers an honest and deeply personal perspective.

Why do people stay in abusive relationships? In Episode 92 of After the Quiet, I answer one of the most common questions survivors are asked: "Why didn't you leave sooner?" I share the complexities behind my decision to stay—from the happy years at the beginning of my marriage, to blaming stress and myself for his behaviour, to the comfort of a close-knit extended family, financial stability, and the carefully crafted image he presented to the world. This episode explores why coercive control is so difficult to recognize and why the good moments never erase the abuse. If you've ever wondered why survivors stay, this honest conversation offers insight, compassion, and understanding.