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"The reason why you struggle to trust yourself is because the first person the world told you to trust, you cannot. When you turn to them to acknowledge the pain they've caused and they repeatedly tell you 'no,' it plants a seed that grows into the distrust of your own reality." Welcome to Chapter Three, Episode Five of Conversations with Candice! We are continuing our season on Parental Relationships, and today we are tackling the heavy, disorienting reality of parental gaslighting and the long road back to trusting your own intuition. 📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access our exclusive Part Two extended deep dives, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today! Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma ('The Distortion of My Inner World'): A 33-year-old listener reflects on going 'no contact' with her mother, only for her mother to completely deny their long-standing toxic dynamic. The listener asks: 'How do you seriously go about trusting yourself and your choices if, deep down, you don't trust yourself?'Candice unpacks why parental gaslighting isolates you, the necessity of finding "witnesses" outside of your payroll (therapists/coaches), and why abusers manipulate your self-trust simply to maintain control.Housekeeping & OOTP: Late night studio recordings, looming book deadlines, Issey Miyake muumuu dresses, and the beauty of reconnecting with an estranged first cousin.No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.comSubstack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Sometimes 'better' just means whiter, and we have to be willing to analyse that and challenge it. And when it comes to adult boundaries under your parents' roof: sometimes the only way to truly uphold a boundary is to go and build your own." Welcome to Chapter Three, Episode Four of Conversations with Candice! Today Candice leads with a raw, unfiltered monologue on race, class, and education, before diving into an essential dilemma on upholding adult boundaries while living under your parents' roof. 📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access our exclusive Part Two deep-dive on demolishing a 20-year marriage, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today! Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Monologue (When 'Better' Means Whiter): Inspired by Nikole Hannah-Jones' New York Times essay on public vs. selective schooling, Candice reflects on the tension between community and individual parenting, private school trade-offs, and the emotional fallout of navigating predominantly white spaces as Black parents.Dilemma (Parental Boundaries Under One Roof at 38): A 38-year-old Black Caribbean woman has spent 3–4 years trying to establish boundaries with her parents while living in their home, but feels constantly disregarded. Candice explains why the emotional cost of staying is running in the negative and urges her to move out, while Bode steps in with an insightful reality check on immigrant family conditioning and managing expectations.Housekeeping & Community Updates: Missing Montblanc pens, cultivating a safe space in the Substack chat, and why Chapter Three's parental themes require deeper nuance.No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com Substack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast 🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candice Acast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice 📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaite TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite 🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable Productions Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Content is now. To be content is to be in the still waters of now, not continuously running your head mad with what has been, and not putting tension on what could be." Welcome back to Chapter Three, Episode Three of Conversations with Candice! Today Candice opens up about navigating her luteal phase on HRT, looming book deadlines, and why we must stop robbing ourselves of joy. 📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch full 1-hour video episodes, access exclusive deep-dive discussions, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today! Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma (FOMO, Self-Worth & Being Present): A listener with a great job, an amazing partner, and great friends struggles with severe FOMO, constantly nitpicking moments (even while watching London skyline fireworks or holidaying in Brazil) and worrying that others are having a better time. Candice and Bode unpack why FOMO is actually "deprivation in action", the discipline of "catch it, bin it, kill it" for negative self-talk, and why low self-worth makes us feel unworthy of good experiences.The "Almost Woman" Mindset: Candice shares a deeply personal reflection on her upcoming essay 'The Plight of the Almost Woman', exploring how chasing the "next big milestone" blinds us from recognizing that we have already arrived.Housekeeping & OOTP: White asymmetric cape shirt, Dior headscarf, Swarovski ear piercings, HRT luteal phase realities, and book deadline updates. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.comSubstack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"You don't want tea, my love. You want your ego stroked. You want a guy in your ear telling you he misses you and loves you and made a mistake, but there ain't no tea here. The kettle is broken." Welcome back to Chapter Three, Episode Two of Conversations with Candice! We are continuing our season on Parental Relationships and boundaries, but today we start with a little foreplay for our audio listeners before diving into some deep family dynamics. 📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT UPDATE: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access deep-dive discussions on maternal estrangement, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today! Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 ('Confused Gal' & The Circling Ex): An ex from 8 years ago randomly messages after building a life with someone else and having a child, claiming he 'loves' her and wants to meet. Candice and Bode break down why he doesn't want tea—he wants an ego stroke—and the spiritual/karma realities of messing with a family man. Dilemma 2 (Do You Owe It To Your Kids To Find An Absent Father?): A listener who has never met her father asks if she owes it to her children to track him down. Candice and Bode discuss 'stranger danger', who the search is really for, 'relentless hope', and the painful dynamic of watching an absent parent become a great grandparent. Housekeeping & OOTP: Off-white Issey Miyake stole, Gucci designer headscarf, Fenty Beauty blue mascara, and Mordella ear stack. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com Substack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast 🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candice Acast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice 📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaite TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite 🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable Productions Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"There is a thin line between hope and stupidity. The hope you once held for your absent father, you are now repackaging and giving to men who will never love you the way you love them." Welcome to Chapter Three of Conversations with Candice! After a well-deserved summer break, Candice is back in your ears to launch an explosive, deeply personal new chapter focused entirely on Parental Relationships—exploring parental estrangement, neglect, abuse, and how our childhood foundations shape our adult lives. 📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT UPDATE: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are now 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access deep-dive discussions, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today! Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Parental Estrangement & Repackaged Hope): A 35-year-old listener reflects on her semi-estranged relationship with her father and why she continually accepts toxic behaviour from her ex-boyfriend and friends. Candice unpacks the fine line between "hope" and "stupidity", childhood window-waiting trauma, and facing the hard truth that some people simply do not love you back.Dilemma 2 (Fear of Online Backlash & Sharing Your Truth): How do you share your wisdom on the internet when you're terrified of community backlash? Candice explains why "bravery is just fear that's said its prayers", how your truth can save lives, and practical ways to modify your content (like turning off comments) to build confidence.Housekeeping & OOTP: Rest after "hot girl summer", Issey Miyake uniforms, Chloé glasses, and Bleach London's "Proper Copper" hair dye. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.comSubstack Podcast Feed: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/podcast🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"You have to decide what you're worth. Just because someone doesn't agree with what you believe you're worth doesn't mean it changes the worth. What about your life needs an edit?" Welcome to the Chapter Two Finale of Conversations with Candice! We are closing the doors on our season on Love & Relationships with one of the most explosive, crucial episodes yet. 📢 FINAL ANNOUNCEMENT: VIDEO IS MOVING TO SUBSTACK FOR CHAPTER 3! This is your final warning: starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes will live exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack. (Plus, an announcement on Chapter Three's theme: Parental Relationships, Estrangement & Family Dynamics!) Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Financial Abuse, 19-Year Age Gap & Deception): A listener trapped in a 6-year marriage to a man 19 years her senior—who lied about secret children on their wedding day, bled her savings dry, and refuses to support her—asks if she is overreacting by wanting a divorce. Candice delivers her "doctorate in life lessons" response, while Bode steps in with vital legal counsel on Indefinite Leave to Remain (ILR), spousal visas, and exiting safely.Dilemma 2 (Femicide, Heartbreak & Staying Hopeful): How do we stay hopeful about love in light of heartbreak, abuse, and femicide statistics? Candice reflects on personal tragedy, the power of choice, and why we cannot over-index on negativity or give up on good love.Knowing Your Worth & Setting Your Price: Candice's powerful opening monologue on setting your own value in business and personal relationships. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Before you invite someone into your house, you have to get your foundation solid. You can't perform confidence out in the world if you're talking down to yourself inside." Welcome to Chapter Two, Episode Nine of Conversations with Candice! We have arrived at the penultimate episode of our season on Love & Relationships, and we are diving deep into two of the most emotionally charged dilemmas of the entire chapter. 📢 FINAL WARNING FOR CHAPTER THREE: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack. Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Self-Worth & 'Am I Deserving of Love?'): A 33-year-old listener who escaped a toxic situationship that left her in £20k debt asks if there is any hope left for her. Candice breaks down the danger of negative self-talk, body image perceptions, her book Manifesto, and why you must build self-respect and self-belief before letting anyone into your life.Dilemma 2 (Too Picky vs. Settling & The 'Zaza Zoo'): Is keeping high standards being 'too stush,' or is settling a recipe for disaster? Candice defends the need for the 'zaza zoo' spark, while Bode steps in with a major reality check on 'potential,' status badges (money, cars, titles), and why the most important thing is finding someone you actually like when 'life lifes' in the trenches.Dating as Data Collection: Bode's perspective on hacking your way to love and why status badges can be removed at any moment. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"What actually hurts us as humans is expectation. You create your own lust—it takes two to sprinkle a little stardust on the routine." Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Eight of Conversations with Candice! We are just two episodes away from closing out our chapter on Love & Relationships, and today’s episode delivers some of our most passionate, unfiltered debates yet. CHAPTER THREE HOUSEKEEPING REMINDER: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and closed group chat will live solely on Substack. Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Starting a PhD & The Silent Husband): A listener starting her PhD after 10 years of putting her family first feels crushed by her husband's lack of enthusiasm. Candice and Bode unpack the "invisible labour" that holds up a home, male competition, "negging", and why unmet expectations open the gates for pain.Dilemma 2 ("I've Fallen Out of Lust" After 16 Years): Married with three kids, feeling like roommates, and losing the spicy spark. Candice questions why men let themselves go, prompting Bode to passionately push back on male mental health, financial stress, and patriarchal expectations.Creating Your Own Lust: How predictability kills desire and why you have to work with the "Polestar 4" in your yard! No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Don't you dare give another 20 years. If you pulled yourself up by your bootstraps and put yourself in a good financial position once, you can make shit pop again. Never forget that." Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Seven of Conversations with Candice! Summer holidays are in full swing, stress levels are high, but we are back in the studio answering your most pressing questions about love, compromise, betrayal, and self-worth. 📢 MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT FOR CHAPTER THREE: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack. Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Relocating vs. Staying Put): One partner wants to move abroad while the other wants to stay in the UK. Candice and Bode break down Bode’s "Act of OR vs. Act of AND" philosophy, how couples can take turns pursuing dreams, and knowing whether a relationship is worth sacrificing for.Dilemma 2 (Discovering 20+ Years of Infidelity): A listener discovers her husband has never been faithful and feels financially terrified to start over in her 40s. Candice and Bode talk about reclaiming financial independence ("get vexed money"), breaking free from fear, and the physical/emotional risks of staying with an unfaithful partner.Dilemma 3 (Emotional Affairs & Minimizing Pain): How do you navigate betrayal when he says "it wasn't physical" and minimizes your pain? Candice addresses the trap of self-betrayal, why women stay in pigsties just to be "chosen," and why serving an ultimatum means being ready to walk away. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Living with a man is not a prerequisite for a good, healthy relationship. Do not let loneliness win in a quiet moment and fill that precious space in your bed with any old flimsy d******d." Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Six of Conversations with Candice! We are past the halfway mark of our season on Love & Relationships, and today we are tackling three massive, deeply nuanced listener dilemmas that range from dating burnout abroad to bedrooms running dry. Candice and co-producer Uncle Bode take on the Dilemma Inbox to answer the real, unfiltered questions you’re too afraid to ask out loud. How do you stop settling out of fear, how do you protect your mind from social media rage, and how do you reignite intimacy when life gets in the way? Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Voice Note from Sylvia in Indonesia): Single for 4 years, living abroad, and terrified of "dying alone." Candice and Bode break down why cohabitation isn't mandatory for commitment, the value of writing down your "dream imperfect man," and the critical distinction between materialistic and moral standards.Dilemma 2 (Deconstructing "DL" Rumors & Algorithm Bias): A wild story about a Northwest London ex prompts a vital discussion on homophobia, algorithm bias, how social media ruins self-governance, and why you must stop reading the comment section.Dilemma 3 (Fixing a Dry Bedroom): Still in love and flirting, but the sex life is non-existent? Candice and Bode unpack how external stress, financial pressure, male mid-life epiphanies, perimenopause, and drops in testosterone affect libido—plus why straight couples need to drop the shame around sex toys.Bode’s Golden Rule on Social Media: Understanding the "Rage Bucket" and reclaiming your ability to form independent opinions without online bias. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & CONNECT ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack for deep-dive articles, essays, and offline sex/relationship talks: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Who said a mother's love was fundamental? Preach to me, because we are learning together. What if, before they were our mothers, they were just broken girls and women themselves?" Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Five of Conversations with Candice! This season is all about love and relationships, but today we are widening the lens completely. We aren't just talking about romantic partnerships; we are honoring the massive emotional weight of parental wounds, family dynamics, and the grueling, necessary process of saving ourselves. Candice and co-producer Uncle Bode return to the chamber to answer heavy-hitting questions from the listener inbox. How do you stop letting the ghosts of your past dictate your present, and how do you find comfort in quiet places when you've been conditioned to run on pure chaos? Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1: A well-known couple of 30 years (with six grown children!) wants to start a podcast about their real marriage struggles but is paralyzed by the fear of public judgment. Candice and Bode break down the core difference between the 'fear of knowing' and the 'fear of judging,' and why you shouldn't roll in the mud with the pigs. Dilemma 2 (The Mother Wound): Going 'no-contact' with a mother is the healthiest decision, yet why does peace feel so terrifyingly unfamiliar? Candice digs deep into her own 8-year journey of no-contact, detailing how seeking chaos is actually letting your abuser 'get you twice,' and challenging the societal narrative of 'unconditional maternal love.' The 'Lucky Bag' of Life: Rebuilding your identity and self-worth block by block when you were only given the gift of life—nothing more, nothing less. Bode’s Take on Universal Approval: Choosing to make moves that let you sleep soundly at night, accepting that not everyone is built to understand or support your path. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & CONNECT ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack for deep-dive articles, essays, and community discussions: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com 🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candice Acast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice 📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALSInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaite TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite 🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable Productions Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"I don't want to want things. I need to create space in my head, and not wanting is a way to create space in your head and find peace... If I don't know it exists, it doesn't exist." Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Four of Conversations with Candice! This season is all about love and relationships, but today we are pivoting entirely into our relationship with ourselves, our ambitions, and the toxic, relentless pace of the digital world. Candice is throwing out the cue cards to welcome a true internet pioneer, fashion icon, and accidental founder to the studio: the incredible Freddie Harrel. For years, Freddie was that girl, the baseline framework for UK fashion blogging, a Pinterest favourite, and one of only 50 Black women globally to raise over $1 million in venture capital to scale her startup hair brand, Rad Swan. But behind the Vogue headlines and the high-profile retail deals was a high-stakes ecosystem of investor calls, supply chain nightmares, hyperemesis, and an relentless digital pace that her nervous system simply wasn't built to survive. In this beautifully raw, transparent conversation, Freddie and Candice pull back the curtain on the "Girl Boss" illusion. They dive deep into the reality of Sunday night panic attacks, why your body will always make the final decision when a space no longer serves you, the hidden operational impact of Apple’s iOS 14 privacy updates, and the incredible liberation that comes with hopping off the career train, taking the bus, and choosing mental clarity over public validation. Inside this episode: The "ASOS Freddie" & Blogging Era: Looking back at a time when the internet felt smaller and communities felt real.The Venture Capital Toll: What happens holistically to your identity, mental health, and spirit when you scale a public startup.Deconditioning from "Productivity": Rewiring your brain to choose being over constant achieving.Shedding Outfits for Clicks: Candice shares her personal wardrobe shift and why she stopped dressing for the streets' algorithm.The Failed $1M+ Celebrity Deal: Freddie reveals the untold story of signing a massive US star and how she finally found peace when the deal fell through. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & CONNECT ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack for deep-dive articles, essays, and community discussions: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com 🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS PLATFORMSSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candice Acast Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice 📱 FOLLOW THE GUESTFreddie Harrel Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freddieharrel/ 📱 FOLLOW CANDICEInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaite TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite 🎬 PRODUCTION CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode AboderinEnjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"I'm gonna need you to respect the want like it's a need. The way you need to breathe is the way you need to get to your knitting class. Because as women with busy lives, it's very easy to not respect the want... and when you disrespect the want, one day the want is gonna come down the road and fling your head back and disrespect you." Welcome back to Episode Three of Chapter Two of Conversations with Candice. This season is all about love and relationships, and let's be completely for real, the listener boxes are absolutely scalping me. Candice is back on a strict school pick-up time crunch today, but we are holding absolutely nothing back as we unpack four massive, deeply layered listener dilemmas. From analyzing our own vibrations to refusing early compromise in the dating pool, today we challenge standard societal milestones and talk about what happens when boundaries must stand on business. Co-producer Bode also steps out from behind the monitor to offer an essential patriarchal perspective on dating expectations, financial goalposts, and separating parental duties from relationship breakdowns. Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1: Should you wait until your life is perfect or you’ve officially "arrived" to start dating? Candice and Bode break down the toxic moving goalposts created by social media timelines.Dilemma 2: What does it mean when a nightlife "big dog" plays the perfect partner on date one but hits you with breadcrumbs and slow replies by date three? Unpacking the psychology of early dating compromises.Dilemma 3: A 39-year-old neurodivergent mother of three manages the entire emotional and physical workload alone, only for her 50-year-old non-committal partner to claim her independence is a "red flag." Candice issues an emergency reality check, and Bode drops a firm boundary line regarding fatherhood.Dilemma 4: Navigating a 40-year marriage when love remains but intimacy is completely dead.No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & CONNECT ON SUBSTACKJoin the inner circle on Substack for deep-dive articles, essays, and community discussions: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBESpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candiceAcast Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice📱 FOLLOW CANDICEInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaiteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite🎬 PRODUCTION CREDITSProduced by: Undeniable ProductionsExecutive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Respect the want like it's a need. The way you need to breathe is the way you need to get to your class. Because as women with busy lives, it's very easy to not respect the want... and when you disrespect the want, one day it’s gonna come down the road and fling your head back and disrespect you." Bob’s your uncle if you’ve got an uncle called Bob! Welcome back to Episode Two of Chapter Two of Conversations with Candice. This season is all about love and relationships, and today Candice is flying solo in the studio to tackle three incredibly raw, layered, and jaw-dropping listener dilemmas. But before unlocking the inbox, today's episode starts with a heavy heart. Candice pays tribute to the legendary Kanya King OBE, founder of the MOBO Awards, who recently passed away from colon cancer. In honour of Kanya’s memory, maternal spirit, and legacy, we are shining a massive light on the life-saving work of Black Women Rising, a charity dedicated to supporting Black women navigating cancer care. Please see the links below to support, donate, or volunteer. Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1: What do you do when you're with an older man who refuses to work a 9-to-5 while you raise three dependent children? Candice breaks down how to slowly, safely pull your hand out of the lion's mouth. Dilemma 2: Unpacking the trauma of a 14-year marriage to a deadbeat, narcissistic ex who is currently weaponising your children and sending inappropriate messages. We talk about alignment, vibrations, and setting radical boundaries through third-party communication. Dilemma 3: How to completely rediscover your individual identity and independence after 18 years of being solely relationship centred and mother-focused. No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. SUPPORT BLACK WOMEN RISING Please support the incredible work being done for Black women navigating cancer: • Website: https://blackwomenrisinguk.org • Donate or Volunteer: https://blackwomenrisinguk.org/donate CONNECT WITH CANDICE Substack (Deep-Dive Articles & Community): https://substack.com/@candicebrathwaite Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaite TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite PRODUCTION CREDITS • Produced by: Undeniable Productions • Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"If there was any year we were gonna divorce, it was 2025... Any one of these days, one of us was sliding papers across this motherfucking table." Welcome back to Chapter Two of Conversations with Candice. We aren't easing you into the theme of love and relationships, we are dropping you straight into the deep end. This week, Candice is joined by her husband, co-producer, and partner of 14 years, Bode Aboderin for an episode that nearly didn't happen. Triggered by a powerful listener question about what a "10-year rebuild" actually looks like, Candice and Bode pull back the curtain on the curated edits of social media. They get brutally honest about the financial, mental, and emotional fires that pushed their marriage to absolute quicksand last year. This isn't a fairy tale; it's a raw look at what happens when the scaffolding crumbles, and why choosing each other daily is the hardest, most rewarding work there is. In this episode, we discuss: OOTP (Outfit Of The Pod): Uniqlo basics vs. Issey Miyake statements.The 4 Pillars of a Relationship: Balancing parental, business, intimate, and individual selves.The Illusion of Stability: Why chasing a perfect balance might be holding you back.Masculinity & Sacrifice: Bode opens up about quitting his corporate career for the family business and battling identity loss.The "Cliff" Analogy: Are you a strategic risk-analyzer or a "jump and figure it out" operator?The Power of Want over Need: Shifting away from the savior complex into true partnership.The Vasectomy: Why Bode made the decision for himself, and dealing with family expectations. Follow Candice across socials @candicebrathwaite. This episode is produced by Undeniable Productions and executive produced by Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin. Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: [email protected] Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch extended and enhanced paywalled version on substack: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com/ Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite Substack : @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.