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Send me a text 💌 Learning how to stop caring what people think is one of the hardest things women do — and one of the most liberating. In your 30s it takes up the whole house. Approaching 56? It lives in the attic in a tiny corner where it belongs. This episode is about that shift. About finally letting go of the comparison game, the validation-seeking, and the opinions of people who never had the credentials to give them in the first place. Why do women care so much what others think? Melissa breaks down the conditioning behind validation-seeking — why we hand power to people with no credentials to hold it, and what it costs us in peace, head space, and happiness every single day. Does caring what people think get better with age? Yes — and research backs it up. Melissa shares how her relationship with others’ opinions has shifted dramatically from her 30s to her 50s, and why boundaries become more natural and liberating the older you get. In this episode: Why aging is one of the most underrated gifts — and why caring less isn’t the same as not caring at allWhy we seek validation from people with zero credentials to give it — and the car wash analogy that makes it impossible to unseeThe online haters who came after Melissa when she launched her brand — and what was actually behind themThe mother’s group moment when her daughter wasn’t walking yet — the first time she stood her ground and walked awayImposter syndrome in her 30s: divorced, raising three kids, building a career, performing “perfect” while falling apart insideThe performance review where her boss told her to stop being so perfect — and why it still landed wrongWhy boundaries in your 50s feel less like walls and more like freedomHow letting go of what no longer serves you creates the head space to actually move freely in the life you’re meant to liveTimestamps: 0:00 – How to Stop Caring What People Think 0:43 – Welcome to Becoming Her 1:23 – Why Caring Less Gets Easier as You Age 2:34 – Why We Seek Approval From People With No Credentials 3:21 – Handling Online Haters After Launching Her Brand 4:50 – The Mother’s Group Moment: Standing Her Ground 6:10 – Why Peace Requires Protecting What You Prioritize 8:07 – Imposter Syndrome in Her 30s — Divorced, 3 Kids, Still Performing Perfect 9:37 – Why Boundaries in Your 50s Feel Like Freedom 12:07 – My Boss Told Me to Stop Being So Perfect (And Why It Still Hurt) 14:39 – Why Your Own Voice Is the Only One That Matters 15:11 – The Becoming Question The Becoming Question: What in your world right now could you let go of to free up more space in your head — so you can move more freely in the life you’re actually meant to live? Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 We all know one. Some of us have been one. And decades later, we can still name every mean girl from our school days — because that kind of thing stays with you. The problem? Some didn't grow out of it. They grew up and got a keyboard. This episode is about online bullying, why it's worse now than it's ever been, and what you can actually do about it — starting with protecting your own peace. In this episode: Why mean girls became mean women — and why that says everything about them and nothing about youHow bullying has fundamentally changed: when Melissa was young, she could go home and it stopped. Kids today don't have that escape.How can we tell our children not to bully when adults are doing the exact same thing online?The block button — why it's one of the most powerful tools you have and why using it isn't weaknessWhy social media also gives you something extraordinary: the ability to put yourself at tables with people you never could have reached beforeWhy whatever you focus on grows — and what happens when you stop feeding the dramaHow to nourish the relationships that actually expand your heart, your mind, and your horizonTimestamps: 0:00 – Mean Girls Still Exist 0:02 – Welcome to Becoming Her 0:56 – Bullying Goes Online 2:26 – Why It Hurts More Now 3:25 – Use the Block Button 3:46 – Choose Better Tables 5:00 – Stop Feeding the Drama 5:42 – The Becoming Question 6:06 – Closing and Call to Action The Becoming Question: Are you feeding into the mean girls — or are you nourishing the relationships that bring you real joy and growth? Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 I formulate beauty and personal care products for a living. So you might expect me to come on here and talk about the best collagen, the best foundation, the best skincare routine. But in all my years in the beauty industry, I know one thing to be fact: some of the most beautiful women I've ever met had nothing to do with their makeup, their skincare, or their haircare. It had everything to do with what was coming from the inside out. In this episode: Why the most magnetic people you'll ever meet aren't the most conventionally beautiful ones — and what they have insteadThe woman who walked into a room and commanded it — shorter, different, demure — and why nobody could look away from herThe real "glow from within" habits that have nothing to do with what you can buyWhy sleep is one of the most underrated beauty secrets there isMelissa's 99-year-old grandmother's morning ritual — and why she was onto something the rest of us are still figuring outWhy stress shows up on your face before anything else doesThe connection between confidence, purpose, and fulfillment — and why the happiest women are often the most beautifulWhy making others feel beautiful makes you more beautiful yourselfTimestamps: 0:00 – Confidence Is Beauty 0:49 – Welcome to Becoming Her 1:16 – Beyond Makeup and Skincare 2:43 – The Electric Woman Story 4:36 – Glow From Within Habits 4:54 – Move, Sleep, Hydrate 6:47 – Stress and Daily Rituals 7:22 – Purpose Fuels Confidence 8:34 – Your Circle Shapes You 9:28 – Make Others Feel Beautiful 9:59 – The Becoming Question The Becoming Question: What is one thing you can do this week to nourish your glow from the inside out? Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 93% of Americans are metabolically unwell. Not sick enough to be treated — but not well either. And most of us have no idea it's happening until it's already gone too far. I didn't either. Until my lupus diagnosis forced me to start asking different questions. This episode is about metabolic health — what it is, why it matters more than almost anything else for how you age, and why nobody's talking about it the way they should be. In this episode: Why the things you used to take for granted — good sleep, easy weight loss, steady energy, stable mood — are all connected to your metabolic healthWhat AMPK is and why it's called your body's metabolic master switchWhy 93% of Americans show signs of metabolic dysfunction — and why most don't know it yetThe fasting insulin test your doctor probably isn't ordering — and why it could change everythingThe traffic light analogy: why we wait until red to act when the yellow light is already onHow my lupus diagnosis became the catalyst for everything I now believe about preventionWhy we're not anti-aging — we're pro aging well, living well, and longevityHow gut health, sleep, stress, insulin, and mood are all connected through metabolismIntroducing Bellame's EVIA ritual — longevity from the inside outTimestamps: 0:00 – The Metabolic Health Crisis 0:47 – Welcome to Becoming Her + Longevity 1:46 – AMPK and Your Metabolism 3:59 – How Lupus Sparked a Mission 4:34 – Introducing the Evia Ritual 5:34 – Gut Health Reset Approach 6:26 – Aging Well — Not Anti-Aging 7:40 – Prevention and Listening to Your Body 9:34 – The Fasting Insulin Test and the Yellow Light 10:47 – Why a Beauty Brand Is Talking About Metabolic Health 11:43 – My Personal Vitality Journey 14:03 – The Becoming Question The Becoming Question: What does vitality actually mean to you — and what would change in your daily life if you made longevity a priority starting today? Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 I started my career doing accounting for the biggest garbage company in North America. Then I had my daughter — and everything changed overnight. What followed was resume writing for broke college students, a multimedia advertising business I built from scratch in a man's world I never fit into, and a newspaper ad for Avon I answered for my sister-in-law that ended up changing the entire direction of my life. This is the story nobody knows. Garbage to beauty — and everything in between. In this episode: Why having my daughter made me walk away from corporate without a planThe resume hustle, the advertising company, and why success doesn't always equal passionHow a $25 Avon ad I answered for someone else became the pivot that started a 31-year careerThe moment in the back of a Country Waffles diner where I felt seen for the first time — and knew I was exactly where I was supposed to beWhy entrepreneurship doesn't choose everyone — and how to know if it's chosen youWhat COVID did to a brand that had just sold out of product in its first six monthsWhy staying hungry for your mission is the only thing that carries you through every obstacleGarbage to beauty: why my daughter named my entire journey — and why it's the perfect metaphor for entrepreneurshipTimestamps: 0:00 – Life Changed Overnight 1:17 – Garbage Company Beginnings 1:36 – New Mom, New Priorities 2:34 – Resume Hustle to Advertising 3:42 – Building a Sales Business 4:51 – The Avon Ad Turning Point 5:30 – Finding a True Calling 6:29 – The Country Waffles Breakthrough 8:14 – Garbage to Beauty: The Identity 9:06 – Why Entrepreneurship Picks You 10:21 – Launching the Brand 12:32 – Resilience Through COVID 13:42 – Obstacles Make You Stronger 14:51 – Transforming Garbage Into Beauty 15:32 – The Becoming Question The Becoming Question: Has there been a journey in your life that started out as garbage — and you were able to transform it into something beautiful? And if you're not there yet, are you in the middle of it right now? Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 One of the most ridiculous things I've ever apologized for is my own success. I moved into a big house — a really big house — and I felt so guilty that I didn't want anyone to see it. I worked hard for that. And I was sorry for it. Sound familiar? This episode is about the guilt women carry that we never signed up for — and the "I'm sorry" we say so automatically we don't even hear ourselves saying it anymore. In this episode: Why women apologize constantly — and where it actually comes fromThe phone search that stopped Melissa cold: scroll back through your texts and count how many times you've said "I'm sorry" — then find one from a manWhy we take responsibility for everything that goes wrong but never take credit for anything that goes rightThe guilt that shows up in self-care, rest, success, and even taking a bubble bathWhy women think we have to earn our rest — and what that's costing usHow to use your voice for something other than apologizingBaby steps that actually work: calendar invites, boundaries, and letting go of guilt that no longer serves you 0:00 – Apologizing for Success  1:04 – Why Women Say Sorry  1:32 – Conditioned to Nurture  2:26 – The Phone Search Wake-Up Call  3:21 – Letting Go of Guilt  4:06 – The Big House Story  5:14 – Stop Owning Other People's Problems  8:13 – Guilt in Self-Care  10:38 – Use Your Voice and Set Boundaries  12:11 – Quiet the Guilty Voices  13:46 – The Becoming Question The Becoming Question: What would change in your world if you stopped feeling guilty, stopped apologizing, and started prioritizing your own needs? Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 Real leadership isn't about positional power or fear-based tactics. It's about serving the people you lead. Seeing them. Mentoring them. And building them up until they're strong enough to do the same for someone else. Women are natural leaders—not just because we nurture, but because nurturing is a form of service. And service is the highest form of leadership there is. In this episode: Why real leadership is servant leadership—and why women are uniquely equipped for itThe most powerful thing you can do to inspire someone: see themWhy mentoring is one of the highest forms of leadership that existsWhat happens when you lead without looking back—you turn around and nobody's followingHow to build the right team by matching people to roles instead of trying to fill every gap yourselfWhy zero ego, humility, and transparency aren't weaknesses—they're the foundation of real leadershipWhy building your replacement is actually the goal—and what it means to truly help others riseThe difference between leading for yourself and leading for the people you serve 0:56 – Lead by Example 2:27 – Servant Leadership 3:16 – Mentoring Women 4:06 – See Your People 5:28 – New Leader Mindset 7:02 – Build the Right Team 10:30 – Ego-Free Connection 14:00 – Women Supporting Women 16:08 – Respect and Feedback 18:43 – The Becoming Question The Becoming Question: Who are you leading for—yourself or the people you serve? Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 I grew up wanting straight hair, green contacts, and a different nose. I wanted to be somebody else entirely. Then a boy in ninth grade told me he couldn't date a Mexican girl—and I carried that into every boardroom I ever walked into, no matter how high my title was. That was then. This episode is about what happens when you stop trying to fit into somebody else's seat—and build your own table instead. In this episode: Growing up Latina in a town that made her feel less than—and how that shaped everythingWhy comparing yourself to magazines was bad enough, but today's girls are comparing themselves to AI-generated robotsHow launching 25 foundation shades (from fairest to deepest) was a non-negotiable from day oneWhy nobody made a seat for Melissa—so she built her own table and made room for everyoneThe chip on her shoulder that became the fuel for everything she builtHow a community-led brand model changed everything—and why pulling back the curtain mattersWhy online bullies didn't stay in eighth grade—and why elevating women is the only interesting actSocial media boundaries: why the pretty grid isn't real life, and why the good stuff lives in the messy1:29 – Learning Self-Love 2:06 – Prejudice and Insecurity  3:39 – Social Media and AI Beauty  4:35 – Building Inclusive Beauty  7:10 – Make Your Own Seat 9:34 – Bet on Yourself  12:08 – Community-Led Brand 14:14 – Authenticity in the Messy  15:53 – Motherhood and Perfection  17:41 – Social Media Boundaries  19:55 – The Becoming Question The Becoming Question: What in your life has taken your joy because you've allowed yourself to compare your real world with somebody else's non-authentic one? And don't you deserve to embrace the real, messy, beautiful truth of your life? You are not late. You are not behind. You are not finished. You are in the making. Stay in the making. Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 I was in a boardroom presenting a compensation plan when I said we needed something for the people who just needed to pay the light bill, buy soccer shoes for their kids, or simply put milk on the table. The CEO looked at me and said: "Melissa, that's not our demographic." That was the moment that changed everything. This is Part 2 of Building Differently — what I did after I walked away from corporate, what I built, and why I built it the way I did. In this episode: The boardroom moment that became the foundation of everything I builtWhy "put milk on the table" became the North Star for my entire brandWhat it means to stop waiting for someone else to come rescue you—in business and in lifeWhy 97-99% of social entrepreneurs are women, yet most brand founders and CEOs in this space are menHow my husband Scott challenged every "that's just how it's done" assumption—and changed everythingWhat the Omni Marketer Platform is and why we built it differentlyWhy I stopped chasing a billion-dollar brand and started chasing a billion lives of impact insteadTimestamps:   1:37 – Corporate Misalignment  2:09 – The Boardroom Wake-Up Call  3:43 – Milk on the Table: The Mission  4:18 – Be Your Own Hero  5:13 – Challenging Industry Norms  6:24 – The Women-Led Business Advantage  8:17 – Pivoting Through Growth  8:40 – The Omni Marketer Platform  10:26 – Billion Lives Over Dollars  11:45 – The Becoming Question The Becoming Question: What are you being called to build if you could build differently? You are not late. You are not behind. You are not finished. You are in the making. Stay in the making. Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 My son hit his first home run. He knocked it out of the park. And I wasn't there to see it. I was in a hotel room in Manhattan, in my pajamas, eating room service chicken. I had the title. I had the career. I had everything I thought I wanted. But I didn't have the life I wanted anymore. This is Part 1 of a two-part series on building differently—about the moment I realized success doesn't equal happiness, the vision that changed everything, and why I walked away from corporate to start over. In this episode: Why I started selling Blow Pops in eighth grade (and got called to the principal's office)The whisper I felt my whole life that wouldn't go away—even when corporate was workingThe phone call that changed everything: my son's home run momentThe question that broke me open: "If time and money were no object, where would you be right now?"The gray sweatshirt vision—and why I cried in front of a room full of peopleWhy I resigned a few weeks later and started completely overWhy comfort can keep you paralyzed—and fear can be your fuelChapters: 1:23 – Born to Build: The Blow Pop Era 2:26 – Corporate Success, But Something Wasn't Right 5:41 – The Home Run Moment 7:51 – The Question That Changed Everything 10:18 – The Kitchen Vision Breakthrough 11:13 – Resign and Restart 12:32 – Fear as Fuel 13:48 – The Becoming Question The Becoming Question: Where have you been successful but not fulfilled? Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 Back when my little babies were small, I was a size 18. I didn't take care of myself because there were no checkoff sheets—and even if there were, I would have been last on that list. I didn't even have that. So taking care of myself became a form of discipline—to give me the freedom to live. This episode is about how discipline isn't restriction. It's freedom. It's about boundaries, learning to say no, the Big Rock Theory, and understanding the difference between rubber balls and glass balls. It's about creating systems that give you peace—not more pressure. In this episode: Why self-care isn't selfish—it's discipline that gives you freedomThe checkoff sheet I didn't have when my babies were small, and why I had to create oneThe Big Rock Theory: how to prioritize what actually matters instead of filling your life with pebblesWhy saying no is powerful—and how little girls are raised to say yes and take care of everyone but themselvesBoundaries and phone habits: how to protect your time and energyRubber balls vs. glass balls: knowing what you can drop and what will shatterWhy discipline creates the space for the life you actually want to liveChapters: 0:54 – Why Discipline Matters 3:07 – Checklists for Peace 3:56 – Self-Care as Discipline 4:35 – Lessons From the Past 6:21 – Big Rock Theory 8:12 – Saying No to Pebbles 9:08 – Boundaries and Phone Habits 11:22 – Rubber vs. Glass Balls 13:13 – Reset and the Becoming Question 13:55 – Stay in the Making The Becoming Question: What would change if you gave yourself permission to say no? And what glass balls are you carrying that you're afraid to name? Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 To see divorce through the eyes of your children in a way that affects them when it shouldn't—that'll break you as a mama. That'll break you. And it almost did. Till I realized what was trying to break me was truly shaping me in every single way. This episode is about the seasons that break us—and how they actually shape us. For me, that season was divorce. Three little ones depending on me to be strong while my entire world was shattering. Losing my identity. Picking up the pieces. And realizing years later that what felt like the end was actually the beginning of who I'd become. In this episode: The moment my youngest came home from the neighbor's house and I realized how divorce had changed how others saw my childrenWhy losing your identity in divorce is about more than just losing a partner—it's losing who you thought you wereHow the hardest season of my life taught me survival—and became the tool I'd use 20 years later when diagnosed with lupusWhat it means to turn something messy into something powerfulWhy bad things happen to good people—and why it's okay to hurtThe difference between breaking and shaping, and how you get to choose which one happens1:06 – Divorce Shattered My Identity 2:39 – Lonely Nights and Shame 3:09 – The Neighborhood Rejection Moment 4:00 – Broken Pieces Shape You 5:24 – Fueling Future Strength 6:43 – Message From the Mess 8:42 – Lupus Diagnosis and Fear 9:39 – Thriving: The Survival Engine 10:55 – Learning Limits and Discipline 12:36 – Stop Comparing Your Pain 13:45 – Breathe, Give Yourself Grace 14:59 – The Becoming Question Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 This episode is about the myth of arrival: the belief that there's a finish line where you'll finally be happy, finally rest, finally be enough. Marriage. Weight loss. Paying off debt. Building a business. The perfect job. We've been conditioned to believe that when we get there, we'll have peace. But there is no "there." And the finish lines we're chasing? Most of them are imaginary. In this episode: Why "happily ever after" is a lie we've been told since childhoodThe billion-dollar goal I set based on someone else's timeline—and why comparing foundations is a trapHow I launched with no outside investors, hit a global pandemic a year later, and realized my timeline was never going to look like theirsWhy foundations are messy—and why that's exactly how they're supposed to beThe college degree I didn't finish and what I learned about passion vs. credentialsHow to know if you're on the right path: replace "achievements" with "happiness" 0:48 – The Myth of Arrival: Happily Ever After  2:40 – Fictional Finish Lines I Set for Myself  4:56 – The Comparison Trap: My Foundation vs. Theirs  8:20 – Delete the Arrival from Your Mind  11:14 – No Blueprint to Success  12:00 – Degree vs. Passion: What I Learned  13:41 – Choose Your Environment Wisely  14:46 – Happiness Check-In: Are You on the Right Path?  15:38 – The Becoming Question  16:00 – Stay in the Making The Becoming Question:  What milestone have you told yourself will make you complete? And what opens up when you realize you don't have to wait for it to feel whole? Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 I used to think there would be a moment when I arrived. Marriage. Motherhood. Building a multimillion-dollar business. A lupus diagnosis at 55. Each season, I thought: this is it. But I was always still becoming. This is the first episode of Becoming Her — a podcast about lifelong evolution for women who know they're not finished, not behind, not late. Just in the making. In this episode: Why we applaud toddlers when they fall, but shame ourselves for not "arriving" on timeThe pressure women carry to be perfect mothers, wives, daughters, workers — and what it costs usWhy giving yourself grace isn't weakness — it's strengthWhat this podcast will explore: the myth of arrival, when life breaks you open, how discipline leads to freedom, and the messy middle of becomingThe Becoming Question:  What finish line are you chasing that might not actually exist? And what would change if you let yourself be enough right now? Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.

Send me a text 💌 I used to think there would be a moment when I arrived. But here's what I've learned: we don't arrive here. We grow, we grieve, we build, and we become. I'm Melissa Thompson — a believer, wife, mother, Latina, founder, and visionary. A woman who has been doubted, underestimated, and still built. This is Becoming Her: a podcast about faith, resilience, discipline, and becoming the woman you were created to be. You are not late. You are not behind. You are not finished. You are in the making. New episodes coming soon. Connect: @melissathompson.19  Connect: @melissathompson.19 Watch/Listen: bellame.com/becomingher You are not late.  You are not behind.  You are not finished.  You are in the making. Stay in the making.