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Stop Signs, Golf Clubs, and the KKK: Why We See What We're Looking For" If you see people as the enemy, you're going to find evidence of it everywhere, because that's exactly what you're looking for. That's the theme running through this episode, and I've got three ridiculous, infuriating examples to prove it. I open with a story from my restaurant days in my 20s, when I knew a guy so convinced everything was out to get him that I couldn't resist messing with him. I told him a stop sign is secretly Satanic: S-T-O-P, "Satan's the only power," and for about ten seconds, he actually bought it. It's a dumb bit, but it makes the point: when you're primed to see a threat, you'll see one, even in a stop sign. Then I get into the real outrage of the week. A golf club ad gets torched online because a husband tackles his wife to stop her from swinging a "possessed" driver, and somehow that becomes "promoting domestic abuse." Both companies apologized, Dick's Sporting Goods pulled the product, and I'm just sitting here wondering how we got from a Halloween-themed commercial to that conclusion. Spoiler: I don't think the apology helped. I talk about why the outrage crowd never actually accepts an apology once they've decided you're guilty. From there it's on to a Converse ad, a woman in a robe surrounded by shoes, lit with a star-shaped light. Innocent, right? Not if you're looking for a hood and a lynching, which is exactly what some people saw. I'm not saying racism doesn't exist. I'm saying if that's all you're trained to look for, you'll find it in a shoe ad. I also get into: Why I think racism is taught, not innate, and why I lean toward the "let's just treat each other like people" camp The "hottest year ever" claims that ignore the Dust Bowl, and why nobody wants to actually talk facts anymore My own mildly lost, mildly nervous walk through New York City, and why I think we've confused "anxious" with "nervous" or "excited" to the point where kids can now leave class because they didn't get enough Captain Crunch The WNBA controversy over defining what a woman is (spoiler: I think biology already answered this) Why I've mostly quit watching the news and started getting it from podcasts instead I wrap up the way I usually do: we've got to stop having stupid arguments, start talking to people outside our own bubbles, and quit assuming the worst about each other. Until then, I'm still betting things get better. If you want to give back, buy me a coffee.

I expect the news to lean left or to lean right, and it drives me crazy. The one side calls the other side a bunch of names. We never really get the true story. It's all intended not to inform but more to entertain and to get a bunch of bullet points across.  Now it's getting worse. When I was a little kid, I saw Gone with the Wind with my mother. It was her favorite movie because of Clark Gable, who was hot. I'm amazed she took me because the movie is almost four hours long, but I do remember there was an intermission because any males over 50 couldn't hold their pee that long, even in 1939.  But now a fictional story has to have a disclaimer in the description or before you watch the movie on HBO. That's driving me crazy that people feel they have to inform me that slavery was bad. As bad as public school education is, we did get the point that slavery does not look like a lot of fun. I remember watching Roots and just being absolutely horrified.  They also tell me to go Google Black Lives Matter. If you actually do that and start digging into where all the money went, you might actually be a little upset because it didn't go where you thought it was going to go.  I learned about this from Amala Ekpunobi who has a really good YouTube channel? It's interesting now where I'm seeing Black people call out their own culture. Likewise, I'm seeing White people call out all the Karen nonsense, where White people are behaving badly. If you start watching body cam footage, everyone is behaving badly. It's not a race thing. It's the fact that parents forgot how to parent, and now the inmates are running the asylum.  John Lennon had a song "Just Give me Some Truth" and I'm starting to identify with that song more and more.

I got a call from my sister-in-law as I was driving to get some pizza, and she invited me over to her house because the 3rd of April is my great nieces birthday. We were going to have a makeshift birthday party at the house, and she said all the kids are going to be here, meaning my niece and her three kids (my other niece lives out of state).     I went over, and my great-niece has grown easily a foot and a half in the last three months. I can't remember the last time I saw her, but she's much taller. My great-nephew is taller than I am. It was one of those times when I knew to take a brain tattoo, meaning it's something that's not going to happen (so take a mental snap shot). I've been doing this a lot when the kids are together because the newphew is 18, and it's very weird that he's graduating from high school. It was kind of a slap in my face that, "Hey, if you wanted to watch this kid play high school sports, you missed it," and it made me very sad. My mom attended everything; now moms always do that, because they had to drive you there, probably, but nonetheless it was one of those where I think I saw him play sports three times. I thought, "You suck as an Uncle," but it was great to have them all together. It was really weird that the baby of the family is now a teenager. The middle great-niece will soon be driving, and the oldest Nephew is off to Myrtle Beach with his buddies.      That phrase, "All the kids will be here," is something that, even before I got there, I realized is something that's going to be more and more special. Eventually we will blink, and someone will be married with a kid. The newphew has a girlfriend now who seems very sweet, and then the girls will go off. Who knows what will happen, right? Nonetheless, having everyone under the same roof will be harder and harder to do, because who knows, they might end up in other states, et cetera, et cetera.      I actually got a little emotional because I was watching him leave. Here he is, this 18-year-old kid, and about six feet in front of him was my niece (his Mom). I remember vividly watching her on a blanket at my brother's house in North Hill. She occasionally would say "buh," and we all thought that was hilarious. Here was my little "buh" baby, and her first kid is now a high school graduate, and it just happened so incredibly fast. And faster it will go. If I'm going to see the great nieces, cheerleading or whatever they're doing, I'm going to have to step up my game as an Uncle. Check Your Calendar My niece had even sent a date and address to one of his last games. I remember thinking I need to check that and add it to my calendar, except he had already graduated and I had missed it. So check your calendar. I believe your calendar reflects your heart. Don't wait, as time is moving faster and faster. Get your prorities in place.

This month has been a wild ride—I've spent a ton of money and even more energy waterproofing my basement, only to find out the pipes were completely clogged and needed major repairs. My childhood hangout is now a construction zone, and the work isn't over yet. But it's not all about the basement—this week I set out for what I thought would be a relaxing bike ride, only to end up carrying my bike up and down muddy stairs in pursuit of the elusive Brandywine Falls. Along the way, I found myself hot, sweaty, and covered in dust, whether I was cleaning at home or out on the trail. It got me thinking about attitude—how sometimes the work and the fun leave you feeling the same physically, but it's how you look at it that makes the difference. So join me as I share what I've learned about perseverance, getting older, and keeping your eye on the prize. Let's get better together, one adventure at a time! Enjoy the show? Buy Me a Coffee

On this episode of Building a Better Dave, I open up about a lifelong battle with debt, from childhood lessons learned at the family kitchen table to the hard realities of bankruptcy, divorce, and the ever-looming burden of credit cards. I share how persistent financial setbacks reshaped his perspective on money, hard work, and resilience. Just when he thought he had finally conquered debt, an unexpected basement flood pulled him back in, reminding him that life's challenges are never really finished. Join me as I explore what it means to keep pushing forward when setbacks strike, the value of perseverance, and how sometimes tearing things down is the first step to building something even better. Like the show? Wan to give some value back? Buy Dave a Coffee (or 10). Sequence of Topics Covered 1. Introduction & Theme of Debt Dave Jackson introduces debt as the main topic and his lifelong struggle with it 00:00. Show info and contact details are provided 00:08. 2. Early Lessons in Money and Debt Memories of his dad doing taxes and the tension around finances 00:36. The influence of the Lannister motto, "A Lannister always pays his debts," on his upbringing 01:22. Story of borrowing $300 from his grandfather to buy a car and the process of paying him back 01:28. Learning there are no "free lunches" and needing to earn money for things he wanted, such as music albums 01:47. 3. Family Finances & Value of Money Family's economic background (not rich, not poor, but frugal) 02:24. Use of coupons, hand-me-downs, and lessons in financial responsibility from his mother 02:33. 4. Adult Experiences with Debt First marriage: fertility challenges lead to substantial credit card debt for treatments 02:41. Living paycheck to paycheck and discussing bankruptcy, which conflicted with his "pay your debts" values 03:30. After 9/11, wife's hours were cut, leading them to file for bankruptcy reluctantly 03:40. 5. Struggles with Debt in Later Life Marriage to a partner with poor credit and inheriting someone else's credit card debt after divorce 04:17. Failed attempts at debt consolidation and the difficulty of accessing better loan rates 05:09. Gradual process of securing slightly better loans and working towards being debt-free 05:25. 6. The Turning Point: Selling the School of Podcasting Conversation with his boss about potential for the School of Podcasting 05:42. Decision to sell the business for enough money to pay off debt, while maintaining a professional relationship 06:23. Finishing 2025  debt-free and entering the new year with a clean slate 07:07. Enjoying financial freedom and considering future opportunities and contributions to family 07:38. 7. Setbacks: Home Flooding and New Debt Feeling of finally catching up to peers in life after years of feeling behind 08:03. Discovery of water damage and mold in the basement after heavy rain 09:18. Realization of the high cost involved in repairs and choosing to finance the repairs rather than deplete savings 10:30. Resuming strategies from earlier years to manage debt and expenses 11:05. 8. Mindset and Coping Strategies Acceptance of debt as a temporary setback and readiness to cut corners and reduce expenses (e.g., fewer streaming services, no fast food) 11:48. Reflecting on the possibility of being in debt into old age and the impact on personal plans 12:22. 9. Tackling Change and Optimism Clearing out the workshop and preparing for basement renovations 12:51. Parallel between demolishing basement parts and the demolition of his childhood schools 13:31. Considering new configurations for the basement, such as moving down his podcasting studio, and seeking hidden benefits 14:05. Drawing inspiration from his grandmother's longevity supported by daily movement 14:18. 10. It is What It is Paying for repairs and looking forward with optimism, knowing things will improve 14:46. Mention of listener support through "buy me a coffee" on the website to help with expenses 14:58. Closing wishes for the audience and a tease for the next episode 15:19.

In this episode, I look into the hilariously pointless world of sports interviews. Ever sit through those sideline or post-game questions and wonder why we bother? Trust me, I do too! Whether it's ex-players like Doug Deacon giving us obvious advice ("If you want to win, you've got to score points") or reporters asking quarterbacks how it feels to win in overtime, it all feels a bit silly to me. I share stories about being a long-suffering Cleveland Browns fan, what it's like watching my great nephew get concussion after concussion playing football, and how that's changed the way families look at the sport. I also talk about the NFL trying their best to save their audience by appealing to kids and women, like dumping slime on players or having female sideline reporters—but still mostly asking the same old questions. Bottom line: If you want to save some time (and a few brain cells), you can skip the sports interviews and just watch the game. I'm all about talented athletes and the thrill of victory (even if we Cleveland fans rarely get to celebrate), but you won't catch me sticking around for another round of "how does it feel?" Hope you're enjoying your holiday season as you listen. Until next time—it's gonna get better! Enjoy the episode? Consider buying me a coffee Please note I'm not saying the women reporters are stupd. I'm saying the quesitons they ask (probably created by a guy) are stupid. They are just doing their job.

Hey, it's Dave—and on this episode of Building a Better Dave, I talk all about the weirdness that is Halloween in my neighborhood lately. As October rolls in, I've noticed a crazy escalation in skeleton yard decorations. What used to be simple six-foot skeletons have turned into these massive twelve-foot giants. I can't help but wonder if this is just the middle-aged version of keeping up with the Joneses. Halloween itself has always struck me as strange, especially when you factor in how expensive candy has gotten (seriously, $15 a bag now?!) and how we've all just accepted feeding our kids mountains of sugar as tradition. Confession: If I buy a bunch of candy, I'm probably just going to eat it myself, which is why I might skip handing it out altogether and let myself get "tricked" this year. This episode, I also reminisce about the good old days of Halloween pranks—TPing houses, knocking and running, and my brother's infamous police escort home after getting caught. My dad was definitely not amused. It feels like those harmless pranks just don't happen anymore—probably because today's doorbell cameras have killed the fun. Of course, I have to mention bobbing for apples, which, looking back, is basically waterboarding with fruit. Pump enough apple cider into a kid and you end up with what I like to call the "Runs" (and I list every synonym I can think of—because why not?). And what's up with every costume needing to be "slutty" these days? Slutty nurse, slutty librarian, even slutty Daffy Duck! Not sure when that trend started, but it seems to get more out there every year. I wrap up by admitting I bought a new Christmas tree—when all I intended was a little four-foot tree, I walked out with a seven-and-a-half foot beauty. Honestly, I think I'm trying to recapture one of my favorite childhood memories: coming in from the snow, curling up in front of the tree with a thick blanket and some hot chocolate from my mom. That feeling of safety just sticks with me, especially as the holidays get closer. Hope you enjoy my holiday ramblings, stories of waterboarding for fruit, and my skepticism about modern Halloween. Until next time, hang in there—it's going to get better. Highlights: Giant skeletons and the one-upmanship of Halloween decorations The economics—and temptations—of Halloween candy How doorbell cameras ruined classic Halloween pranks Bobbing for apples: my take on this bizarre tradition The rise of "slutty" costumes and my bewilderment Reflecting on the holidays and chasing those cozy, safe memories Did this episode make you laugh,cry, think, or groan? Consider buying Dave a coffee.

In this episode, I open up about a recent experience I had on Reddit where, despite my own advice, I ended up feeding the trolls. I share how I got pulled into a frustrating back-and-forth with someone who just wasn't open to any input, and how that made me reflect on my own "educator mindset"—the urge to resolve every conflict or misunderstanding online. I talk about the importance of setting boundaries not just with online trolls, but also when inviting podcast guests onto your show. Remember: if someone really wants to be on your show, they'll usually find time that works for you. On the personal side, I give an update about being busier than ever at my church due to a colleague's health issues. I discuss how this has affected my routine, my stress levels (thanks for the heads up, Oura Ring!), and the push I'm giving myself to prioritize health and movement—even if it means just getting out to walk at my local park. Plus, I share a little inspiration from watching the Ozzy Osbourne documentary "Coming Home," which has me thinking about aging, health, and making time for what really matters. --- Key Takeaways: - Don't let internet trolls drain your energy—learn to recognize when to disengage (even if you think that last message might "fix" things). - When it comes to podcasting, don't be afraid to set your own boundaries around scheduling guests. - Some people just aren't open to feedback, and that's okay—sometimes it's best to step back. - Make sure your social profiles link to your website to help connect with people you actually can help. - Growth comes from noticing your own patterns—and learning from your mistakes. - Keep prioritizing your health and well-being, even when life gets busy. - Inspiration can come from unexpected places—even a documentary about Ozzy Osbourne. --- Links Mentioned: Coming Home -Ozzy Osbourne documentary  Connect with Me: betterdave.com Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, do consider buying me a coffee :)

So I had no idea I would get backlash about saying, "Hey I think Charlie Kirk might be on to something about this we shold all talk to each other.." thing going on. I got TONS of people tell me to dig deeper and I found a black, gay dude standing up for Charlie.  Wait, I thought Charlie was a racist homophobe? Then I was told to quit cherry picking videos. Taylor Swift casting spells? Um, no.

I just don't recognize my country. I got to see someone shot in the neck and die today. Then people cheered because they didn't like his opinions. It just seems so weird. Meawhile the mainstram media fans the flames of the divided states of America, and nobody knows how to have a dialogue anymore. All we do is shoot each other, and the bad news is I don't know how to fix it, and I don't trust the people in power.  So welcome to my rant as I scream into the void.

So I'm driving to Chicago and back over a weekend. That's 14 hours in a car. While I'm not ancient, I'm not young. I'm not 23 anymore. Did I just write a check with my mind that my body can't cash? I'm trying to find some food in Chicago and took a wrong turn. Chicago, like every city in America, is a good place to get shot if you're on the wrong side of the city.  How am I going find the balance of not doing things that I may not be able to do without stopping myself from enjoying life? Like the show? Buy me a coffee?

In this episode, Dave shares a candid account of his recent health updates, and it's a mix of challenges and victories. From starting the year with new exercise routines to discovering unexpected health issues, Dave opens up about how turning 60 has brought a wave of concern regarding blood sugar, blood pressure, and thyroid issues. With a dash of humor, he recounts the quirks of testing his blood sugar and the surprise diagnosis of diabetes. Yet, amidst the medical hurdles, Dave finds a silver lining—a triumphant return to the ping pong table despite the obstacles.  Join us as Dave explores the balance between health management and enjoying life's simple pleasures. Whether it's doctor visits or winning ping pong matches, it's all about building a better Dave. Tune in for a story of resilience, self-discovery, and the occasional game-changing rally.

Today I share some insights as I deal with the loss of a friend. Death sucks, but when you lose people who are YOUNGER then you, with no warning, it really sucks. Today I talk about losing my friend Niel Guilarte who I worked with during the making of The Messengers: A Podcast Documentary We got to room with each other at events, and we just clicked. We always made each other laugh. My favorite was when Niel would start laughing and he couldn't finish the story he had started.  When you start to see your heroes get old and some cracks around the edges, it's sad, but it's a warning sign. Niel was here, and the next day he wasn't. He leaves a wife and 11-year old daughter he adored, and a new house.  He was the best friend of one of my favorite people Chris Krimitsos. Which is one of the things that is adding to the pain. I have people in Florida who could use a hug. I love to help people, and in this case there is nothing I can do.  Mentioned In This Episode Bookends - Simon and Garfunkel Bette Midler - Stay With Me Niel's Gofund Me There are times you feel bad. The lights are off and it seems like there is no way home. Keep moving. It's funny when I have to do a sermon in my church, something ALWAYS comes up on Facebook that fits. This is what came up: 41 is Coming In the Bible, it rained for 40 days and 40 nights. Day 41 came and the rain stopped. Moses committed murder & hid in the desert for 40 years. Year 41 came, and God called him to help rescue Israel. Moses went up on the mountain for 40 days. On day 41, he received the Ten Commandments. The Israelites wandered in the wilderness for 40 years. Year 41, they walked into the Promised Land. Goliath taunted Israel for 40 days. Day 41 came, and David slew him. Jonah preached a message of repentance to Ninevah for 40 days. On day 41, God stopped His plan to destroy them. Jesus fasted and was tempted for 40 days. Day 41, and the devil fled. After His resurrection, Jesus appeared to His disciples for 40 days. On day 41, He ascended into Heaven. All this to say...don't quit. The rain will stop, the giant will fall, and you will enter your "promised land." Don't give up at 40. 41 is coming. See you later Niel.

This was recorded during my last few minutes of being 59. Life is dragging me kicking and screaming into my 60s. I'm not happy about it.  Don't you get it? I'm 23 honest. I've been 23 my whole life?  Have I made my last trip to Dairy Queen? It turns out everything I eat is poison. That's something you know but don't care, and it turns out you should've cared a little more than you did. John Mayer has a great song called "Stop this Train" that has a line John  Had a talk with my old man Said, "Help me understand" He said, "Turn 68" "You renegotiate" I was able to renew my drivers license for 8 years which means aside from a sticker (which I can get through the mail) I will be 68 the next time I renew my liscene. WHen you go to the MBV you go in and get a number, and wait for your name to be called. I kind of feel like a 'This is not a drill" situation, and I'm waiting for my number to be called. UNlike the BMV, I'm hoping for a very long line. You can buy me a coffee for my birthday using this link. John Mayer - Stop This Train No I'm not colorblind I know the world is black and white Try to keep an open mind but I just can't sleep on this tonight Stop this train I wanna get off And go home again I can't take the speed It's movin' in I know I can't But honestly Won't someone stop this train? Don't know how else to say it Don't wanna see my parents go One generation's length away From fighting life out on my own   So scared of getting older I'm only good at being young So I play the numbers game To find a way to say that Life has just begun Had a talk with my old man Said, "Help me understand" He said, "Turn 68" "You renegotiate" "Don't stop this train" "Don't for a minute change" "The place you're in" "And don't think I couldn't" "Ever understand" "I tried my hand" "John, honestly" "We'll never stop this train."   Once in a while When its good It'll feel like it should And they're all still around And you're still safe and sound And you don't miss a thing Till you cry when you're drivin' away in the dark Singing   Stop this train I wanna get off And go home again I can't take the speed It's movin in I know I can't 'Cause now I see I'll never stop this train

Episode Summary In this episode, Dave reflects on his recent struggles with his car in frigid Ohio weather and how it reminded him of the "old days" of dealing with unreliable vehicles. From the quirks of old, hand-me-down cars to the challenges of modern, fuel-injected engines, Dave humorously recounts the learning curves of car maintenance. The episode dives into the importance of adaptability, whether in fixing a car, keeping up with evolving technology, or navigating life's unexpected hurdles. If you like this show, you can buy me a coffee. Main Takeaways Winter Woes & Car Troubles: Dave shares his frustrations about his car refusing to start in Ohio's brutal winter weather. Memories of growing up with unreliable cars and the "DIY" fixes of the past (like using Bondo or ether) highlight how technology has changed car maintenance. Lessons in Adaptability: From cars to technology, Dave emphasizes the importance of staying adaptable and keeping up with advancements. He parallels learning to fix cars and his ongoing efforts to master artificial intelligence and SEO. Keeping Emergency Funds & Friends Handy: Dave reminds listeners of the value of having an emergency fund and reliable friends who can lend their expertise when needed. His Ford mechanic friend saves the day with a simple car-starting trick. Balancing Technology & Life: Dave acknowledges how fast-paced technology evolves and highlights the importance of continuous learning to avoid falling behind. He reflects on losing weight, staying updated with AI, and preparing for a milestone birthday. Humor & Nostalgia: Dave's stories about his past cars (like the "Slova" and Fred Flintstone-style Datsun) bring laughter and nostalgia. The absurd quirks of old vehicles, like passenger doors flying open mid-drive, make for entertaining storytelling. Notable Quotes "If you don't keep learning, you don't just stop—you go backwards." "I could pop the hood, look at it, and say, 'Yep, there it is. That's the engine.'" "Every car I bought, the very first day, I swapped out the stereo for ear-bleeding madness." Resources Mentioned Dave Ramsey's Emergency Fund Advice: A reminder to always be prepared for unexpected expenses. Check out his book. Artificial Intelligence & SEO: Dave's exploration of how these tools are shaping the future of technology and online presence. Listener Call to Action Stay tuned for the next episode, where Dave dives into how his upcoming milestone birthday is messing with his head. Visit Us: BetterDave.com Subscribe: www.betterdave.com/follow