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Before Kaila was old enough to fully understand her body she became the target of an old racist myth spread by a classmate, about the sexual anatomy of Asian girls. Like many of us who encountered harassment this early, she’d soon learn his comments were only the tip of a bigoted iceberg. Do you remember the first time you were confronted with a stereotype that would resurface throughout your entire life? Kaila Yu is the author of Fetishized: A Reckoning with Yellow Fever, Feminism and Beauty. Formerly an import model and lead singer of the all-Asian American pop-rock band Nylon Pink, Kaila joins Janicia for a conversation on the origins of "yellow fever," why your "type" preference might be a problem, the “raunch era” of the late 90's & 2000's, plastic surgery, the underground car scene that inspired the Fast & Furious series, and more. Content warning for references to SA from 23:08 - 24:35 0:00 Intro & where the heck I've been 3:18 Atlanta Spa Shootings 5:01 Beginnings of Asian fetishization in Western media 6:29 Colonization and sex work in Asia 7:50 Trafficking, “Yellow Peril”, and the Chinese Exclusion Act 11:20 Bride Schools & the War Brides Act 14:08 90s media, whiteness & model minority myths 16:03 Role models, self-esteem and Sung-Hi Lee 20:00 Representation 21:21 Pin-ups and the Raunch Era 23:08 - 24:35 CONTENT WARNING SA discussion 26:02 Import modeling & the Fast & Furious import car scene 29:27 What is the Asian fetish 31:10 Racial awakenings 34:58 Preference vs. fetish vs. BOTH 40:45 Can you be complicit in your own fetishization? 43:26 Sobriety, self worth & therapy 47:56 Sex icons and role models 50:39 Plastic surgery, whitewashing & erasure 1:00:38 Book release drama Archival audio: @ameyamarieokamoto 2022 Today Show reports, 2021 Jackie Fernandez, Asian women are not your fetish - TT @jackiefern IG @jackie_fern @soogia1 2025 Viola Davis, The View 2022 Sung-Hi Lee, The Girl Next Door, 2004 @AsianHappyHour 2022 Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj/posts/your-preference-165112637?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Send your inquiries, thoughts and advice letters to [email protected] If you'd like to support this work, please share it with a friend and/or join us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/teawithqj To donate: www.paypal.com/paypalme/JaniciaF Cashapp: $JaniciaF Venmo: @Janicia-Francis xo

Will an era of rap that's finally making room for its male elders make equitable space for women and MaGes too? For this conversation we use the Clipse epic rollout as grown ass rappers (Pusha T, 48 & Malice, 53) launching their highly rated album and successful tour - to explore the experiences and P.O.V of Black women in and around the industry. I promise you it's not a reach. Culture writer Starr Rocque & PR Strategist Uchechi Chinyere join me to discuss all things Clipse, hip-hop, Black women & femmes. You don’t have to know shxt about the Clipse or their latest album Let God Sort Em’ Out to enjoy this conversation, but also please email and let me know how you managed to avoid knowing shxt about the Clipse during this very Clipse 2025. I think it's important to note that Tyler the Creator who shows up in one of the best features of the album is queer. We mention his feature, but not his queerness, which IS relevant in THIS conversation. Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/what-clipse-of-138611501?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Starr Rocque @starr_rocque Uchechi Chinyere @wordsbyuchechi Women rapper thread: https://www.threads.com/@janiciaf/post/DMDQXE7gI6j?xmt=AQF0WN0h7xzS2qlRGsOYMykXzUyAAPgE41MUyQlMM43TAQ 00:00 intro 1:52 Hyperbolic Bronx rappers 3:47 Growing up with The Clipse 8:19 Sometimes you just want n****s to rap 11:54 "Drake" "was" "a" "backpacker" 13:10 The Black Women problem 17:58 Women rappers & The Clipse 23:49 Doechii won't stop talking about her vxgina 24:42 Rapsody the obvious or problematic choice 28:20 Give us nothing Nas! 29:25 Ageism 40:09 André 3000 44:10 Misogyny in hip hop is systemic AND personal 48:46 Colorism 58:47 Christianity 1:09:51 Journalism 1:17:15 When women and girls love hip hop 1:35:46 Gatekeeping Black women out, ushering white people in 1:44:04 Asking for what we deserve 1:49:17 Attending Clipse NPR Tiny Desk 1:52:50 Honesty in hip hop and IRL 1:57:17 Big sibling energy 2:03:59 What happened with The Grapevine Email me [email protected] Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

00:00 Intro & updates 04:57 Who is Deanté Kyle 06:52 Men with podcast mics 12:49 How video podcasting is a call back to an earlier podcast era 15:42 The problem 29:42 Jess Hilarious & The Breakfast Club 31:46 Not every transphobe is a TERF 34:50 Jess Hilarious hates “real women” too 41:17 What’s wrong with birth-centric womanhood This episode was recorded prior to Deanté Kyle’s use of a derogatory slur (typically used against Mexican Americans) in an instagram comment and does not address that incident. Reference link: https://www.tiktok.com/@cetosdaughter/video/7515458001906568478?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7214922055941899818 Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon https://www.patreon.com/posts/problem-with-too-132076103?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Email me [email protected] Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

If you wear clothes this is a Black ass history conversation that you need. Let's discuss. Fashion & style friend's Channél Jordan & Diamond Stylz join us for history, theory & context. While we use the Met Gala as a launching point for a larger conversation on Black style, YOU DO NOT NEED TO CARE ABOUT OR TO HAVE SEEN MET GALA COVERAGE to enjoy this episode. 3:05 Pop-culture & fashion in politically perilous times 7:37 Black Dandyism Definitions & Disappointment 15:33 Met Gala theme habits 18:00 Enslavement & Jim Crow vs. the last 100 years 26:44 The exhibit 29:30 Gender 40:28 Corporatism 42:53 Black contributors and the Pharrell of it all 52:05 Respectability & Class 56:47 Sapeurs 1:00:09 Who Understood the assignment Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/met-gala-was-y-129079950?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Email me [email protected] Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

Before my solo Sinners review, I sat with actor/comedian Chris Lamberth on The Mundane Festival podcast for a fresh-out-the-theater spoiler filled review, and got to cover a few additional themes that were on my mind. We get into the Black British actor debate, church-y-ness and a fear of spirit (we're seeing a lot of that fear in some Christian's negative reactions to the film), Mary's 'whiteness' and more. (Note: The film had just come out at the time of this recording, so I confuse Mary and Annie's name a few times) 6:05 Michael B. Jordan THE ACTOR 10:13 The Black British actor debate 24:09 The world building of 1932 Mississippi 25:02 Lie-max vs IMAX 28:11 Family, Community & Connection 31:44 The importance of movie theaters 34:26 Hoodoo, Anti-Blackness & the Church 38:21 white Mary 44:01 "Revenge" and "life" vs. "death" 53:57 Brotherhood beyond death 57:42 Ranking Ryan Coogler films 1:00:58 Ryan Coogler's unique press run 1:07:09 Why some Christians are afraid of Sinners and Beyoncé Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/another-sinners-127862233?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Email me [email protected] Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

Let's review Ryan Coogler's original film "Sinners" 4:58 The Great Migration 10:33 Sammie's Salvation 12:27 Why Twins? 15:11 IMAX baby!!!! 17:14 Why do we sleep on Michael B. Jordan? 21:22 What does "Good" vs "Evil" mean to you? 27:15 Music and Spirit 33:24 "The best day" of their lives 37:39 Oral s*x in 1932 38:43 Vampires, cults and persuasion 44:58 Let's talk world building 49:27 That Jonathan Majors casting rumor Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/sinners-spoiler-127335654?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Email me [email protected] Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

Over the past five years, after a lifetime of struggling and a lot of research, I’ve come to the conclusion that I probably have ADHD = Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. I’m self-diagnosed, so I invited my medically diagnosed friend Diamond Stylz to discuss all things ADHD and how it impacts our lives. 1:55 Growing up undiagnosed 12:21 What is ADHD? 15:54 Ableism & Stigma 20:18 Symptoms and lowkey hoarding 25:00 Procrastination and executive function/dysfunction 26:55 Diagnoses and medication 33:33 ADHD & depression 36:58 Hormones and ADHD 42:38 Anxiety, depression and environment 49:46 bell hooks and your home 55:59 Getting/hiring help 1:00:11 Love, Limerence & ADHD 1:05:10 Friendship & ADHD 1:10:38 Rejection Sensitivity (RSD) 1:14:18 Releasing shame & building community Episode credits, links & resources https://www.patreon.com/posts/icymi-theres-new-126784182?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/are-you-raw-adhd-125589631?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link [email protected] SUPPORT Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj

Not to bring up old shxt, but I don't like how "the media" glazed over Kendrick Lamar calling out ShxtsNGigs specifically, on 'wacced out murals'. Kendrick is just as sick of the podcast industrial complex as the rest of us and I think that's hilarious. In this episode we talk about Kendrick (because I must) but more importantly we use the men-with-podcast-equipment epidemic as a jumping off point for how to approach trusting men in our community, the potential for betrayal - and how the way we approach both reflects our understandings of oppression, and our individual relationships to power, privilege, and accountability. 00:58 LA fires, California Black Freedom Fund 2:14 Kendrick Lamar is tired of the podcast industrial complex too 5:51 Queen is ok not watching anime 8:37 Were James & Fuhad ever “one of the good ones” 10:56 Is participating in misogyny a choice 13:18 Misogyny sounds cute in a British accent 15:26 Your privilege increases your capacity to harm 17:16 Hyper-focusing on marginalization lets privilege of the hook 19:33 Deifying “nice” men 23:05 Is the disappointment/upset at men like ShxtsNGigs performative 24:53 Are you an agent of oppression? 31:50 Are you in community with people more marginalized than you 36:40 Is your partner's misogyny a reflection of you Check out the California Black Freedom Fund https://www.pledge.to/BlackLA For other vetted funds, resources, and events in California check out Philanthropy CA https://www.philanthropyca.org/2025-california-disaster-response The previous episode referenced is Black American Dollars, Black American Politics, available on patreon, where we discuss the ShxtsNGigs incident and anti-Blackness across the diaspora: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-video-113195050?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Watch full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/is-participating-121221180?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Music featured in this episode includes "Totter Teeter" by Guustavv https://www.epidemicsound.com/track/4y6tgclvb0/ Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Let's talk about HOW we're talking about Diddy. Though Sean "Diddy" Combs is in jail on a variety of SA allegations, a lot of social media content has reduced his alleged behavior to "being freaky" - raising a larger conversation about society's understanding of SA, consent and it's complicated relationship with consensual sex. Our resident kink enthusiast, Queen breaks down how sex and kinks get harmfully conflated with acts of violence and SA, while J. gets in their Black church kid Telfar about the influence of cultural Christianity, domination & control on community concepts of sex and deviance. Also the kink spectrum, group sex, the closet queer to r*pist pipeline (that's not a thing), queerness and possibility, and more. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/sex-queerness-118518621?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link 00:45 GloRilla's PR savvy 4:09 So Diddy is in jail... 6:15 Exhibit A: Diddy is not from Harlem 9:10 How social media is engaging with the Diddy allegations 10:47 Being "freaky" vs being "a r*pist" 12:52 Conflating sex with deviance is a tradition 14:06 The kink spectrum 18:46 Queerness, non-monogamy and Black cultural Christianity 22:53 How a cultural context of control & domination impacts sexual beliefs 27:13 Not the group sex girlies being surprised by consent 35:35 Closeted sexuality is not a pipeline to being a r*pist 38:00 How disregarding whole groups of people allows abuse to persist 41:27 Kendrick's "Not Like Us" and how it frames SA Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Your womanist race-nerd recap of all them post-election vibes, is here! In this lawd halmurphy of an episode we recap the delusion of the Mike Tyson vs. J*ke Paul fight, what we're gonna do about these yt people, the racism of deflecting to non-white voters, performing voter disappointment on social media, how the ego is might be ruining activism, the 4B movement, self-caring to freedom and mad other sh*t. Check out Kimberly Foster's breakdown of the 4B movement making its way to the US. Shout out to @pardonmewithp for capturing that fresh post-election rage. And our throwback post-election episode #79 Bigotry Didn't Start Last Tuesday is worth the listen as a time-capsule of what was happening at the time politically, the birth and rebranding of the "women's march" and the frustration a lot of us felt towards Hillary Clinton's campaign. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/not-post-shoulda-116836973 0:00 Intro 2:09 Mike Tyson vs Paul fight 5:23 VP Harris Concession speech 7:56 Post-election WTF 16:15 Stop deflecting to non-white voters its eww 21:23 2016 vs 2024 election vibes 24:03 Performative pain for social media 31:28 "Not voting during a genocide" morning afters 35:06 Is your activist ego happy that Tr*mp won 39:57 Is the 4B movement a viable post-election response 50:08 What are we gonna do about yt ppl? 52:00 1:02:00 Can we self-care to freedom? 1:05:02 Is there too much disagreement within the movement? 1:09:24 Can you remove your ego from your activism on social media? 1:15:46 The "Latino" vote 1:18:29 Get in your community! Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

If you're a Black feminist, a womanist, a Black radical, a liberationist, a radical liberationist or a womanist race nerd, somebody you know, (somebody you may trust) been talking about not voting. We get to the bottom of what it means to vote or not vote during a genocide, how the desire to be liked manifests itself in liberation movements, and why some of your faves been moving like closeted voters this election cycle. As a Black femme centric podcast we almost never discuss Tr*mp. Our lives are bigger than what yt mehn be trying to do to us. He is discussed in this episode as a presidential candidate (and a d*mon bc bffr), but this episode is not about how Twump so scawy. It's about liberatory strategy and the role of electoral politics. Also, Mayor Eric Adams, an NYC rat (make that comma do whatever you need it to), VP Kamala Harris' biracial identity and how we should feel about it, President Obama and his cousin Pookie, and mad other election related ish. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/election-episode-114786447?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Recording while wearing pants 03:00 Electoral politics... why? 05:13 Mayor Eric Adams and NYC's trash/rat problem 20:30 Mayor David Dinkins would never 21:42 Presidential Election 23:25 Voter apathy 26:21 Voting or nah during a genocide 30:10 Post-election 2016 35:43 What is the strategy for liberatory minded non-voters 47:33 Are you exercising a vibes-only politic 49:42 The cool kids, cliques and being liked in liberation movements 52:00 President Obama, Black men voters & "cousin Pookie" 1:09:43 VP Kamala Harris and Black media's obsession with the silk press 1:15:19 VP Harris bi-racial identity, misogyny/noir & xenophobia 1:19:53 Black voters and the "voting for them just bc they're Black" allegations 1:24:15 Final thoughts on VP Harris Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj on Twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J.! WEBSITE Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

On episode #309 . . . So, it’s been a long ass minute, but we’re back, well kinda. . . we explain it all in this episode. Still, the womanist race nerds you love, figuring out life in this white supremacist cesspool of a planet. We get into where we have been, how we have been, what kept us away, and what rest means 3 years into a global pandemic. We also dip into an old review we did of the Max documentary Tina vs. her 1993 biopic. The Queen of Rock n Roll passing was heavy, so going back to our discussion of Tina Turner’s life as a Black woman in entertainment, feels good. Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! Episode Timestamps: Where we been?: 00:48-14:09 What we been doing?: 14:09- 23:23 Throw back Tina Turner clip:23:23-52:24 Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj and add #podin on Twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J. podcast! Watch us on Strange Fruit: Part 1: https://youtu.be/YYRavtGis_Y Part 2: https://youtu.be/QUoVoC76GJU WEBSITE Teawithqueenandj.com SOCIAL MEDIA Twitter: https://twitter.com/teawithqj @teawithqj Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teawithqj/ @teawithqj Facebook: www.facebook.com/TeawithQueenandJ Tea with Queen and J. Tumblr: teawithqueenandj.tumblr.com TEAMAIL & SPONSOR INQUIRIES [email protected] DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj Queen’s Amazon wishlist: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/CXV9ZDWZ3PP9?ref_=wl_share J.’s Amazon wishlist: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1NP09USMPJ0TB?ref=cm_sw_em_r_wl_ip_VEVWdvdDDemm Send us snail mail: Tea with Queen and J. P.O. Box 1617 229 East 85th Street New York, NY 10028 This week’s closing clip features the debut trailer for Drapetomaniax: Unshackled History podcast https://www.pod.link/1687096254/episode/83ae8b38a18266a7b75fd2e85069b4b3 This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, social media & production support from Channél Jordan, and graphic design by Jo Caraballo Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

On this episode… bell hooks, one of the greatest thinkers of our time recently passed away leaving us to explore her legacy and its impact on our intersections of Black womanhood. Our friend and activist Diamond Stylz joins J. this week to discuss Blackademia, the reality tv icon Nene Leakes (it’s important!), and to reflect on Insecure and an era of television that will be referenced for years to come. Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: we fvcking survived 2021, pay Black Transwomen Inc., we bingeing The Witcher, possible awkward C*sby show reference, bell hooks, street feminism, “femininity”, Laverne Cox, “problematic” but “important” questions, Nene Leakes and navigating grief & trauma on the blogs (she in these streets with a new boo all quick!), that Insecure glow up, Diamond is tired of Lawrence’s shit, J. might be lowkey #teamlawrence and ready to fight Nathan, and more about Kelli Libations: 3:57 Donation Libations: 7:03 Affirmations: 11:25 bell hooks: 12:22 Grieving in public and should we be in Nene’s business?: 45:25 Insecure and last minute ass Lawrence (SPOILERS): 1:02:38 - 1:30:20 Spoiler free Insecure reflections: 1:30:20 Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj and add #podin on Twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J. podcast! WEBSITE Teawithqueenandj.com SOCIAL MEDIA Twitter: https://twitter.com/teawithqj @teawithqj Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teawithqj/ @teawithqj Facebook: www.facebook.com/TeawithQueenandJ Tea with Queen and J. Tumblr: teawithqueenandj.tumblr.com TEAMAIL & SPONSOR INQUIRIES [email protected] DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj Queen’s Amazon wishlist: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/CXV9ZDWZ3PP9?ref_=wl_share J.’s Amazon wishlist: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1NP09USMPJ0TB?ref=cm_sw_em_r_wl_ip_VEVWdvdDDemm Send us snail mail: Tea with Queen and J. P.O. Box 1617 229 East 85th Street New York, NY 10028 GUEST CO-HOST DIAMOND STYLZ Twitter: @diamondstylz https://twitter.com/DiamondStylz IG: @diamondstylz https://www.instagram.com/diamondstylz/ Podcast: Marsha’s Plate https://pod.link/1293033444 Website: https://diamondstylz.com/about-diamond-stylz/ PAY BLACK PEOPLE Support Black Transwomen’s Inc. https://blacktranswomen.org/ Check out bell hooks and Laverne Cox in conversation at The New School: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9oMmZIJijgY This week’s closing clip features recent ancestor bell hooks on what it means to be feminist. Full video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GpdJUGn0FHE This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with special guest host Diamond Stylz, editorial support from Candice Jones, social media & production support from Channél Jordan, and graphic design by Jo Caraballo Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women. Opening song by Ohene Cornelius Segment Music by Chad Milner 8rfUZAjxghLkOKKCJCKO

On this episode… Single and “childless” (there’s gotta be a better term for that) - Why you shouldn’t (or should?) ask people about their parenting status. Then we get litigious about Black hair, and we finally talk about Dave Chappelle Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: talking reckless to Vivica A. Fox, sh!t people ask women with no kids, Medical drawings and white supremacy (for real), spa etiquette, wtf is a legacy exactly, can a triggering question be a good question, Jeffery Thorton and the CROWN act (them lawsuits hit different), a wellness check on Dave Chappelle and mad other ish Libations: 7:17 Donation Libations: 17:08 Affirmations: 19:32 The politics of being grown and “childless”: 20:28 Moment in Black Hair: 53:54 Dave Chappelle, the not so great Bokeem Woodbine: 1:07:58:00 Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj and add #podin on Twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J. podcast! WEBSITE Teawithqueenandj.com SOCIAL MEDIA Twitter: https://twitter.com/teawithqj @teawithqj Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teawithqj/ @teawithqj Facebook: www.facebook.com/TeawithQueenandJ Tea with Queen and J. Tumblr: teawithqueenandj.tumblr.com TEAMAIL & SPONSOR INQUIRIES [email protected] DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj Queen’s Amazon wishlist: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/CXV9ZDWZ3PP9?ref_=wl_share J.’s Amazon wishlist: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1NP09USMPJ0TB?ref=cm_sw_em_r_wl_ip_VEVWdvdDDemm Send us snail mail: Tea with Queen and J. P.O. Box 1617 229 East 85th Street New York, NY 10028 Check out Chidiebere Ibe’s medical drawings on instagram https://www.instagram.com/ebereillustrate/ Listen to Marsha’s Plate episode #207 Selective Offenses And Selective Bans https://soundcloud.com/danella-xuc/207-selective-offenses-and-selective-bans Moment In Black Hair: https://www.cnn.com/2021/12/04/us/black-job-applicant-hair-discrimination-lawsuit/index.html https://www.thecrownact.com/about Dave Chappelle just out here: https://www.vulture.com/2021/11/dave-chappelle-teen-critics-alma-mater-q-and-a.html This week’s closing clip features recent ancestor bell hooks https://twitter.com/donovanxramsey/status/1471185375334830080?s=21 This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with editorial support from Candice Jones, social media & production support from Channél Jordan, and graphic design by Jo Caraballo Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women. Opening song by Ohene Cornelius Segment Music by Chad Milner

On this episode…Season 2 of the series “Love Life” just wrapped on HBO. It’s got us pondering Black Love ™ versus the swirl; covid and the great white awakening of 2020; and Black masculinity, monogamy, love, and sex Queen & J. are two womanist race nerds dismantling white supremacist patriarchal capitalism one episode at a time. Drink up! This week’s hot list: Shout out to boundaries, and good family time. J. investigates how a really white show turned into an example of representation behind the camera, Black male characters and the “good guy” trope in film and IRL, When Black love ™ gets silly, interracial dating, marriage, divorce, threesomes, code switching and do people even use condoms anymore? Content warning with timestamps ahead. There is a miscarriage in episode 6 of the series. We discuss this from 1:36:50-1:38:30 Libations: 3:16 Donation Libations: 9:00 Affirmations: 12:32 What is Love Life: 16:58 The “good guy” trope IRL: 36:51 Interracial marriage: 45:00 Black parents gonna Black parent: 1:00:51 Black Love ™: 1:08:38 A threesome: 1:21:49 Ya’ll Mofos Don’t Use Condoms: 1:25:34 Marcus had that breakup coming: 1:38:30 Kian’s down with O.P.P.: 1:47:35 Love, Covid & White Folks Wildin: 1:55:12 Issa Relationship: 2:01:39 We wanna seasons greet you with a post card for the new year! (for reals this time) We promise it'll be cute and not an entire waste of paper. Send your address here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfhaXUgyYrT_r46FpFwpYkYTUenXGZGJVgrZ0U-jjJTbQ_orQ/viewform?usp=sf_link Tweet us while you listen! @teawithqj or use #teawithqj and add #podin on Twitter to help others discover Tea with Queen and J. podcast! WEBSITE Teawithqueenandj.com SOCIAL MEDIA Twitter: https://twitter.com/teawithqj @teawithqj Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teawithqj/ @teawithqj Facebook: www.facebook.com/TeawithQueenandJ Tea with Queen and J. Tumblr: teawithqueenandj.tumblr.com TEAMAIL & SPONSOR INQUIRIES [email protected] DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj Queen’s Amazon wishlist: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/CXV9ZDWZ3PP9?ref_=wl_share J.’s Amazon wishlist: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1NP09USMPJ0TB?ref=cm_sw_em_r_wl_ip_VEVWdvdDDemm Send us snail mail: Tea with Queen and J. P.O. Box 1617 229 East 85th Street New York, NY 10028 This week’s closing clip features the recent ancestor Virgil Abloh https://www.instagram.com/tv/CW2uNUlFqgK/?utm_medium=copy_link This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis with editorial support from Candice Jones, social media & production support from Channél Jordan, and graphic design by Jo Caraballo Libations to our friend’s Domingo, Tokunbo, and D. Sindayiganza who help keep this show running by paying and supporting Black women. Opening song by Ohene Cornelius Segment Music by Chad Milner