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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to learn about our Marriage Saving Workshop Program 👉 https://bit.ly/485yuKm --------------------------------------------------------------------- Standing for your marriage isn't being a doormat. Nobody wants to beg. Nobody wants to plead. Nobody wants to text their husband's affair partner tips on how to cure his headache. Yes. That actually happened. To a friend of mine. She chose misery over being alone. She ended up in the hospital. Her house stayed dark for months. She became a shell of the woman she used to be. All because she was too scared to stop allowing it. In this video, I break down the difference between being a doormat and being a bulldozer, and why there's a third option most people never learn. You can't control what your spouse does. You can control what you allow. You can control how you treat yourself. That's the shift. I'll walk you through the three changes in thinking that help you respect yourself again, set the right kind of safeguards, and actually make your spouse take notice. Not by punishing them. Not by pleading with them. By becoming someone worth respecting again. Because here's the truth. You'll keep enduring whatever you keep allowing. Life is already hard enough. Don't let a lack of self-respect make it harder. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Is pornography sabotaging your sex life and your marriage? In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, breaks down the three ways pornography creates unrealistic expectations, leads to sexual dysfunction, and destroys real intimacy in marriage. Whether it is visual pornography, erotic novels, or the shows you watch, the effects on your relationship and sex life are more damaging than most people realize. If you want a better sex life and a stronger marriage, it starts with addressing the real relationship problems underneath. Take Marriage Helper's free marriage assessment to identify the real issues in your marriage and find out how to start fixing them today: https://bit.ly/4toDvWD If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Are you stuck in the same relationship patterns and wondering why nothing ever changes? In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, breaks down what most people get wrong about marriage and relationships, and what you actually need to do to turn things around. Drawing from a powerful biblical story and real-life experience, Dr. Holmes shares why real relationship change starts with you, why getting uncomfortable is the key to a thriving marriage, and how to stop waiting for your spouse to change so your marriage can finally move forward. Take our free marriage assessment to find out how many reasons you have to save your marriage and what steps you can take right now: https://bit.ly/4dwgEUz If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Are you in panic mode because your spouse wants to leave, has moved out, or is talking about divorce? Your instincts are probably telling you to do whatever it takes to pull them back—but that might be pushing them further away. 📖 Click here to download 10 Texts To Reconnect Without Pressure: https://bit.ly/4b1Yfh6 How do you get a spouse to stay? You cannot force or manipulate someone into staying in a marriage. To truly save your relationship, you must shift from controlling behaviors (begging, pleading, guilt-tripping) to influencing behaviors. You do this by stopping what we call "Push Behaviors" and working on yourself to become a safe, welcoming place that your spouse wants to return to. In this video, Marriage Helper coach Nathan explains the exact psychology behind why your attempts to hold on tightly are backfiring, and what you can do instead to create an environment of genuine connection. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You’ve probably heard the classic advice: "If you want to save your marriage, you have to work on yourself." But what if that’s only half the truth? In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Marriage Helper COO Marcos Silva reveal why focusing purely on self-improvement can actually be a trap that pushes your spouse further away. While working on your PIES (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual attraction) is a vital first step, doing it solely for yourself—or solely to manipulate your spouse's reaction—will leave you stuck. The real secret to saving a broken marriage isn't just about becoming the best version of yourself. It's about learning how to love differently, navigating the "gray area," and changing the way you actually show up for your spouse. - Take the FREE "Show Up Snapshot" Assessment: Discover where you are at risk of burning out and where you have untapped potential to show up stronger for the people you love. [https://bit.ly/4cdIBzH] If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Are you living in a sexless marriage? Sexual rejection is one of the most painful experiences a spouse can face. It destroys self-esteem, creates a "lonely" atmosphere in the home, and often leads to a cycle of pressure and withdrawal. But most of the advice out there—like "just communicate better" or "make a list"—doesn't actually work. Why? Because sexual frustration is rarely just about the sex itself. In this deep dive, Dr. Joe Beam unpacks what actually drives desire and what erodes it. Whether you are the spouse feeling rejected or the one feeling pressured to perform, this conversation provides a roadmap to understanding the "why" behind the disconnect. In this video, Dr. Joe discusses: The 4 Root Causes: Is the issue Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, or Spiritual? The "Universal vs. Specific" Test: How to determine if the problem is biological or rooted in the relationship. The Arousal Myth: Why many women (and some men) don't feel "desire" until after the process starts. Pornography & Affairs: A candid look at how sexual unfulfillment contributes to—but does not justify—betrayal. The "Outside/Inside" Rule: How your daily interactions are sabotaging your intimacy. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! If your marriage has gone from "good" to "bad" and you’re terrified that you’ll be divorced in the next six months, you are not alone. Most people think it takes two to save a marriage—but at Marriage Helper, we’ve spent 30 years proving that one spouse can change the entire dynamic of a relationship. In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down the fundamental process that has helped thousands of couples—even those in "hopeless" situations—turn things around and build a dream life together. In this video, you will learn: The "Frantic" Trap: Why begging, pleading, and "acting crazy" (even if it’s out of love) actually pushes your spouse further away. Symptoms vs. Root Causes: Why "quick fix" text messages don't work and why you need to "strengthen your core" instead of just treating the pain. Pushes vs. Pulls: How to stop the behaviors that drive your spouse out the door and start the "dance" that pulls them back in. The 7-Step Framework: A roadmap from total chaos to passionate intimacy. The 7 Steps to Saving Your Marriage: 1. Calm Down: Moving from a frantic state to a place of peace. 2. Get Clarity: Identifying the real issues that have been simmering for years. 3. Stop Pushes & Start Pulls: Changing your "dance steps" to shift the dynamic. 4. Forgive & Reconcile: The internal work and the 5-step reconciliation process. 5. Build Back Trust: Restoring the foundation. 6. Reignite Passionate Intimacy: Moving past the "roommate" phase. 7. Create Your Dream Life Together: Designing a future you both love. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! In today's Marriage Helper LIVE, Dr. Joe and Dr. Kimberly explain why focusing on the affair partner doesn't actually matter, and take live questions from callers. This show also features segments from Micheal Felker and Nathan Grounds. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Why Confronting Your Spouse's Limerence Always Backfires (And What to Do Instead) If you’ve discovered your spouse is in an affair, your first instinct is likely to confront them, expose the truth, and demand they "wake up." But as many heartbroken spouses discover, this almost always pushes them further away. Why? In today’s video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam explain the psychological "brain takeover" known as Limerence. When a spouse is in this state, they aren't just making a bad choice—they are experiencing a chemical addiction similar to OCD. Learn why your efforts to "fix" them are failing and how to shift your strategy to actually save your marriage. 🔍 In this video, we cover: The Limerence Trap: Why your spouse seems like a completely different person. The Confrontation Backfire: Why attacking the "Affair Partner" makes your spouse defend them even more. The Science of Limerence: How dopamine and "Affair Fog" create a fantasy world that logic cannot break. The 3 Things You Must Stop Doing: If you want any hope of reconciliation, you must stop these three specific behaviors immediately. The Path to Reconciliation: How to focus on what YOU can control to become the person your spouse eventually wants to come back to. What is Limerence? Limerence is a state of mind which results from romantic feelings for another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies and a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and have one's feelings reciprocated. In a marriage, this often looks like "Affair Fog," where the spouse becomes erratic, re-writes marital history, and seeks a "dopamine high" from a new partner. 🆘 Need Help Saving Your Marriage? If you are in the middle of a marriage crisis, you don't have to do this alone. Our Workshop: https://bit.ly/3ZhA1bt If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Does it feel like you are living with a ghost? Your spouse comes home, eats dinner, and sleeps in the same bed, but they aren't really there. If you are dealing with a spouse who is indifferent, numb, or emotionally walled off, you are likely asking yourself: "Can a marriage like this be saved when I'm the only one trying?" In this video, Coach Nathan from Marriage Helper explains exactly why your spouse has checked out and how to get them to check back in—without forcing them. 👇 FREE RESOURCE: 10 TEXTS TO RECONNECT WITHOUT PRESSURE 👇 https://bit.ly/4b1Yfh6 IN THIS VIDEO: You will learn the difference between "Push Behaviors" (which drive your spouse further away) and "Pull Behaviors" (which invite them back in). We break down the psychology of the "emotional callus"—how your spouse became numb over time—and introduce you to the S.M.A.R.T. Contact method to begin dismantling their walls. KEY CONCEPTS EXPLAINED: Why has my spouse checked out? Rarely does a spouse check out overnight. Just like playing a guitar builds calluses on fingertips to resist pain, your spouse has built emotional calluses to shield themselves from negative emotions, feeling unheard, or shame. To save the marriage, you must stop pressing on the "bruise" and start changing the environment. What is SMART Contact? If you want to save your marriage, you need to stop "Push Behaviors" (begging, pleading, forcing relationship talks) and start using SMART Contact. S - Stop Push Behaviors: Stop doing things that elicit negative emotions in your spouse (crying, begging, arguing about the relationship).M - Manage Business Items: Only discuss necessary logistics (kids, finances, schedule) without letting emotion bleed into the conversation.A - Allow for Conversation: Don't go "No Contact" (that is manipulation). Be open to talking if they initiate, but let them lead.R - Respond Strongly, Calmly, & Gently: Watch your tone and body language. Be a safe place for them.T - Take it One Day at a Time: Consistency and patience are key. You cannot fix years of damage in a few days.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam