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Ever feel like your body has stopped cooperating in the one place you most need it to? Or it's totally hit-or-miss -- in one man's words: "I never knew whether I was going to ejaculate at all. I had no control over it." Erectile dysfunction (ED), premature ejaculation (PE), and/or delayed ejaculation (DE) can have a devastating impact on a man's sense of self-esteem, as well as on sexual satisfaction in relationships. And we don't talk about this enough. These issues come up in my sex research constantly, and are a daily reality for hundreds of millions of men globally. Yet even in men's work spaces like men's groups, performance anxiety and sexual health is like the last frontier -- it's just hard to talk about how your d*ck is functioning. But we need to ... because men out there are suffering. For example, did you know that according to an article in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 1 in 4 men seeking help for new-onset erectile dysfunction these days are 40 or younger? ED is not just an older man's game -- and it turns out that for some men (more than we might think), taking drugs like Viagra or Cialis doesn't even work. But don't worry -- there's way more possible here than you've been led to believe. Whether you can't get hard without porn first, you lose your erection halfway through, premature ejaculation robs you of enjoying the experience fully (as well as your partner), or delayed ejaculation prevents you from finishing at all, c**k trouble is common. And for some, the fear of it happening again has you wondering what the point of dating or sex even is. Here, pelvic floor educator Jana Danielson BRINGS THE HOPE. We get into why your erections may have more to do with how you breathe than with your penis, why Kegels might be making things worse, and the story of a 24-year-old athlete who was about to fill an ED prescription, but who Jana thankfully got her hands on. A month later, he was waking up with morning wood for the first time in years! If you've been quietly white-knuckling your way through sex, or avoiding it altogether, this one's for you. — Join me on Oct 17th for my new masterclass: From STUCK to SATISFIEDA live launch event for my upcoming new course, The Man She Craves, this class will outline the #1 pattern I've seen after coaching men for over a decade. It's what I see separates the men who stay stuck in their love lives to transitioning into sexually and emotionally satisfying relationships. The class will run from 10a-12p PT / 1p-3p ET on October 17. It's $55, but if you use code DEARMEN it'll drop to $33. To save your spot, email [email protected]. If you're in the US, you can also text BACKSTAGE to 33777. — Mentioned on this episode:The Man She Craves (Melanie's new course; Jana is part of the Sexual Confidence upgrade)The Cooch Ball: www.coochball.comJana on Instagram & TikTok: @jana.danielson— Memorable quotes from this episode: "I'm not sure my marriage is going to survive.""When he did achieve an erection, it was really hard for him to maintain it.""Your body is not broken; it's just misunderstood.""'Within a month, I was waking up with morning wood!'""Clarity creates confidence.""'Why would I give him a jail sentence of a wife?'""We were searching for that elusive, fill-in-the-blank diagnosis.""Within 30 seconds I thought, 'Well, sh*t.'""When I started talking about the pelvic floor, sh*t got weird.""'I wanted to match my ejaculation with her to make sure I was taking care of her needs.'""He started being able to squat deeper.""I am having the best orgasms of my life, and I have no plan on stopping."

“I know I’m a good guy - I’m kind and compassionate and caring … so why don't girls want me??” This was one of Scott's main concerns in middle and high school. It felt like it was happening for everyone around him, but not him. Fast forward a few decades and now he's got overflow in his love life -- he's married and experiences affection, sex, closeness, and emotional availability on the daily. So what changed? Here we talk about the excruciating phone call in 6th grade that kicked everything off; the confusion of having close women friends who say they want a nice guy but then don't seem to want the nice guy that's right in front of them; what it actually means to feel SEEN after feeling overlooked; and the intriguing question Scott finally asked himself on a walk through a park in Madrid. You'll also hear about a client who looked great on paper, but who was stuck in first-date purgatory for years. A couple of months into the work, he said something he'd never said before: "She's actually chasing me!" If you've ever felt stuck in a pattern of first dates that never become second dates, years of swiping with nothing to show for it, or a marriage where you reach for her and keep hearing, "No" -- this one's for you. — Come to the upcoming Masterclass!The Man She Craves 101 is coming in October. Text BACKSTAGE to 33777 (U.S. only) to get on the list, or email [email protected] if you're outside the U.S. — Memorable quotes from this episode:"I see what I have to offer in a relationship; I don't see what I have to offer that gets me into a relationship.""I think I honestly felt that just being friendly to a girl was showing her that I liked her.""Me! Me! I am emotionally available to you right now.""You went from alone in the desert to overflow."“If you get a few rejections early on, it starts the cycle down that path.”“I didn’t really learn to flirt until college, and even then ... it was iffy.”“My community helped me find myself more.”“I have to get it RIGHT; I have to choose the RIGHT person.”“I felt desired. I felt seen.”“I’ve gotta show women that I‘m a good man!”“How do I learn more about healthy masculinity?”“I started to get to direct statements of desire from women.”“It’s not like my appearance changed a lot.”“Once you get in that flow, it is WONDERFUL.”

Do you want women to feel deeply safe with you? Do you want your partner to feel not just satisfied physically and emotionally, but able to truly surrender with you -- let go of her inhibitions and experience IMMENSE PLEASURE on every level? Then she needs to trust you. Here we share our personal experiences of trust -- when a man has earned it and we've been able to really lean in ... and when we've been let down and felt the lack of trust. The truth is that a woman must trust you at a deep level if she's to feel safe with you. Sadly, as things stand we still inhabit a world where a lot of women feel unsafe with many men. So what does it take to be deeply trustable? Here, we each reveal what it takes for a man to be trusted by us on a personal level. We share intimate stories of times we interacted with an un-trustable man (and what made him un-trustable), as well as the times we felt deep trust, safety, and connection. Want a woman to fully surrender to you? Listen on -- whether you're newly dating, long-married, or in any other kind of love relationship, you're sure to get something out of this vulnerable, raw discussion of love, safety, trust, intimacy, and sexuality. Mentioned on this episode: The Man She Craves 101: My upcoming masterclass leading into my new course. Email me at dearmenpodcast at gmail dot com to register.

“Who’s taking up space in the relationship?” “If I don’t have any boundaries, I’ll often attract someone who doesn’t honor boundaries.” “Partners like this can be really smart.” “Because you’re the closest to them, you get all the wild crazy.” “I hear a new rule, I try to do that, and I still lose.” “It’s pretty hard to do alone.” “It really feels like, ‘There is no way out.’” “It can be comfortable but not very alive.” “Our guys don’t just want sex - they want closeness.” “Why do you need that? Isn’t this enough?”

You've probably heard of penis rings. Maybe you've even tried one!? But there's a another tool almost nobody talks about — the men who've actually explored it say nothing else compares, and yet most guys never even consider it, because of one thing: shame. Whether it's a marriage that's quietly gone sexless, an erection that isn't cooperating the way it used to, or just curiosity about what's actually out there beyond what you already know, midlife brings up a lot of questions men don't feel safe asking anyone — not their partner, not their doctor, not even their friends. Karen Bigman gets it. A certified sex educator at 60, she's got 3 fun categories of sex toys she recommends for men. We get into things like: How does a penis pump actually work in real life with a partner — do you pause mid-makeout to grab it, or does it happen before you even get to the bedroom? And we go somewhere most men never go: the prostate. What's it actually like? Why do the men who've explored it describe it like "watching in high def"? And how do you even start, solo or with a partner? One stat that stuck with me: according to Mayo Clinic, erectile dysfunction can show up 3-5 years before any other symptoms of heart disease appear. Your body may be trying to tell you something before anything else does. If you've ever been curious about exploring more but didn't know where to start — or didn't think it was "allowed" — this one's for you. Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) Mentioned on this episode:Karen's site: TabooToTruth.comPlease Her In Bed (Melanie's streaming course on how to talk about sex): www.pleaseherinbed.comMyHixel — penis rings, and a premature-ejaculation training systemFirmTech — clip-on penis rings, including the Tech Ring (tracks nocturnal erections)O-Nut — stackable comfort/bumper ringsMV Health (formerly Mystery Vibe) — vibrating prostate massagersAneros — prostate massagersMaude (Shine) — lube I recommendMemorable quotes from this episode:"I think the sexiest thing a man can do is ask.""Your penis health is a barometer of your overall health.""It's like watching a show in high def.""The two hardest conversations in relationships are sex and money.""This is a guy that's actually, like, cares. This is a guy that wants to talk to me. He doesn't just want to get in my pants.""'I don't care if I ever have sex again.'""60 is the new 60."

Edge City is one of the most exciting, fun, engaging, dynamic communities of which I'm a part -- and here I get to interview one of the founders! (This is very exciting for me.) Edge City runs month-long "pop-up villages" — 500 to 1,000 people from tech, science, culture, and art, gathered in one small, walkable town, building things together. In Timour's words, "It's got the dynamism of a city, with the vibe of a village — that's kind of a design principle for us." In my words: It's like summer camp meets a tech conference ... and it's also a hotbed of attraction. :) But what happens when you meet someone in an environment where you absolutely will run into them again? What if you don't want to make her uncomfortable by asking her out? How do organizers think about this? As Timour puts it, "We are in a weird time when it comes to dating.” But don't worry -- we discuss the anonymous "crush" feature that could change everything. We also get into the dating dynamics at the village specifically, including my feeling of being surrounded by attractive men and yet noticeably under-approached. We cover the couple whose second date really was an entire month-long event, and the strange twist where Timour says this is actually the opposite of Burning Man's infamous "playa romance" phenomenon. If you've ever wondered whether there's a real-world alternative to the apps — something that isn't just another platform — this one's worth your full attention. — Come to Edge City!The next Edge City is in Goa, India from Oct 11–Nov 1. Plus there's a smaller, 30-person trip to Bhutan from Nov 11–19. Use code DEARMEN for 20% off Goa tickets. Details at edgecity.live. — Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) — Mentioned on this episode:Edge City: upcoming events in Goa, India (Oct 11–Nov 1) and Bhutan (Nov 11–19)Questions about Edge City? Email [email protected]— Memorable quotes from this episode:"I felt like there were all these attractive men, and no one was approaching me.""We've even had a few kids conceived at or because of Edge.""I don't want to be the weird guy who's approaching... what if that makes them uncomfortable?"“It was about how alive I felt in that environment.”“It’s exponentially more meaningful than a one- or two-day conference.”“There is the serendipity of running into people that feels magical.”“We’re pushing ourselves forward both personally as well as society.” “It’s the dynamism of a city with the vibe of a village.”“Why doesn’t your neighborhood feel communal?”“We needed from the beginning to have the architecture and DNA that would be welcoming to children.” “We grow up and we’re taught to find The One.”“You need to go through the crucible of, ‘Is this the right person for me?’”

She's successful. She's put together. She seems like she doesn't need anyone. So why does dating still feel impossible for her — and why does she seem so hard to get close to? The men we work with are almost always intensely curious about what life is like on the "other side." What do single women contend with? What are their biggest dating, sex, and relationship challenges? Here, Violet breaks down 3 top issues frequently faced by single women — the ones most men never clock, because women have gotten so good at hiding them. We get into why the most "together," successful women are often the most terrified of being seen, and what that has to do with whether she actually notices you making eye contact across the room. We dig into the hot-and-cold thing — why it happens, why it almost never has anything to do with you, and why the woman across from you at dinner may be carrying more than she's ever said out loud. And we unpack the unconscious dating pattern nearly every long-single woman is repeating without knowing it — the one Violet says she couldn't see either, until someone lovingly pointed it out. Plus: the bar story about the guy who approached a whole circle of women, and what has changed in Violet's own marriage after over a decade together. If you've ever felt like you couldn't figure out how to "get in" with a woman who seems to have it all together — or you're partnered with a woman who runs hot and cold — this one could fundamentally change how you see her. — Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) — Mentioned on this episode:Love Harmonics (Violet's 6-week, $69 program on breaking unconscious dating patterns; open to all genders): [https://violetlange.com/loveharmonics/?affiliate_code=5b90a8]Episode 153: Her Sexual Healing: How to Support Her and Get Your Needs Met (ft. Violet Lange)— Memorable quotes from this episode:"The flower opens and the bee appears. Not, the bee comes by knocking on the door, and then the flower decides to open.""I want to be seen for all of who I am, and not just in my need.""It f*****g works! It really works!""I now have soul-shaking sex with my husband... and we've been together 11 years.""Your happily ever after starts with you — it's not up to fate, it's not up to some meet-cute. It's really an inside job."

Let's be real: Modern dating culture can suck. Between ghosting, confusion over when to have sex, the commodification of our love lives, and people throwing up old photos on Tinder, Feeld, or Bumble, it's not always clear how to make it work. But Freya isn't playing by the rules anymore. Instead of sticking with the apps, which can leave both men and women feeling dejected, she's running a full-blown, 3-month public campaign to find a boyfriend ... and she's inviting her entire audience along for the ride. What's equally as cool is that she's challenging herself on an essentially daily basis to approach men in the wild. We get all up into how this is going for her (how do you approach a guy at the grocery store? What if he's got headphones in? What if he's taken? How does she handle rejection?), and her strong and well-made points about how we could all "do" dating better. We also dig into the wildest event she's said yes to (hint: 250 people were watching); what happened on her fourth lap around a park after 3 failed attempts to talk to a cute guy walking his dog; and why the little note cards she's been handing out to strangers might be the most old-school-meets-radical dating move going right now. And a distinction we both come back to: the difference between dominating, being passive, and leading (and why "leading" is the one that actually works). Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) — Mentioned on this episode:Please Her In Bed (Melanie's streaming course on how to talk about sex with women in a way that actually helps them to open up): www.pleaseherinbed.comFind Freya a Fella (Freya's crowdsourced-boyfriend campaign): freyagraf.comThe Labia Lounge (Freya's podcast on sex and dating, for all genders)The Man Cave (the org where Freya facilitates workshops for teenage boys on healthy masculinity, emotional literacy, boundaries, and consent)--- Memorable quotes from this episode:"This is not an empowering place to be that we find ourselves in.""The bar is very low. It's very close to the ground.""'No one's ever done that. Like, good on you.'""I literally massage vaginas for a living.""That's basically a precursor to being in a relationship with a man who doesn't make effort.""97% of women did not mention anything about how hard a man got, or how long he lasted. And 0% mentioned him having a six-pack.""I want love, I love love, I'm not ashamed to admit it.""Don't be afraid to write a note -- it's adorable."

"Is your dick going to be synced to porn?" That's not hypothetical — it's already on the market. Here, intimacy expert Susan Bratton walks me through "weird" phenomena at the frontier of sex tech and AI, including synchronized strokers, tele-dildonics (I'll bet that's a word you've never come across before), role-player game (RPG) worlds where you can get down and dirty with an Aztec warrior woman, and adaptive AI that learns what gets you off and gives you more of it. But where does this genuinely help? And where can it quietly wreck your dopamine system and/or real-world relationships? We delve into all of it, including the exact device suite that Susan and her boyfriend use for long-distance sex. Imagine being thousands of miles apart, still having synchronized orgasms on video. (I did not expect the "hard-boiled egg" comparison, but you'll get it once you hear it.) Plus: How a woman can regnerate her vaginal tissue (YES, this helps if she's dry after/during perimenopause/menopause)The 96% statistic about what most porn is actually showing youThe ancient technique that separates orgasm from ejaculationWhy penis pumps are not the cheesy novelty you think they are And a fundamental truth that Susan and I agree on: The best sex tech in the world means nothing without the communication skills underneath it. Plus what I consider the quote of the episode: "I want to live forever and f**k till I die!" — Come to the retreat!As of this recording, we have 4 spots left for our Labor Day weekend retreat! Sept 3-7th in Northern California (about 2 hrs north of SF). We work hard to keep it financially accessible, and payment plans are available. As one man says, "If you're thinking about going, you're already there." https://evolutionary.men/retreat/ --- Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I will help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) — Mentioned on this episode:Please Her In Bed (Melanie's streaming course on how to talk about sex with women in a way that actually helps them to open up): www.pleaseherinbed.comDrive Desire (Susan's full toy/device library): www.drivedesire.com— Memorable quotes from this episode:"No one's ever given her these types of strokes before.""They don't want you addicted to the yoni. They want you addicted to the screens.""Your dick is a tongue, not a piston.""You don't owe me an ejaculation.""How's your hoo-ha doing?""When you are a turned-on woman or a turned-on man, you're turned on to life." "Your sexual vitality and your vitality are two sides of the same coin."

“I was nervous as hell.” So shares one of the men in this episode about how he felt stepping onto the land of our in-person retreat. In another's words, “I went into a panic because I’m having flashbacks of summer camp.” What's it really like to do live men's work? The truth is, most men that come to live retreats are intimidated in one way or another. Rates of bullying are astronomically high, and you don't always know what to expect. As another put it, “There’s a shared understanding of the brutality between men.” And, “When I was a boy, there was never any spiritual or deep, emotional holding by men in my life.” But you can write -- and experience -- a different story. You can have a new experience of brotherhood ... and what that makes possible may be something you've never even considered. In one man's words, “The dynamic within my whole family has changed.” Another said, “There’s now a level of connection now with my wife that I can’t even describe.” If you'e ever felt like you didn't fit in as a kid, or you're just plain curious about how our retreat has impacted other men, listen on. There can be kind and loving experiences of masculine love. --- Come to the retreat!As of this recording, we have 4 spots left! It's over Labor Day weekend, Sept 3-7th in Northern California (about 2 hours north of SF). We work hard to keep it financially accessible, and payment plans are available. Or as one man said, “If you’re thinking about going, you’re already there.” https://evolutionary.men/retreat/ --- Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) --- Memorable quotes from this episode:"I wanted to be vulnerable and open, but I didn’t know how, and I wasn’t sure I could.”“I was deathly afraid to become a terrible father.”“I cried tears of joy for the first time in my life.”“I realized — through all the work I’ve been doing, therapy, self-reflection, etc. — how much love I have for myself (finally).”“If we’re gonna talk about this trauma, we might as well do it in the hot tub!”“There was racism even within my own church.”“I can accept other men’s unconditional love, and it helped me know how to provide unconditional love to other men.”“I came into the first retreat a very tough nut to crack.”“There is hope with change.”“You’ll make friends.”“Come for the food; stay for the healing.”“You WILL experience a transformation.”“Just get there.”

Have you ever felt like your woman was routinely frustrated, resentful, or annoyed with you? Like you can't get anything right, and then on top of that, when it comes to sex or physical intimacy, FORGET about it. Not happening. If so, you may be contending with reverse polarity. This can happen in either direction, but we find that with our clients, it's illuminating to explore the flavor when a man is more in omega (his feminine) and a woman more in her alpha (her masculine). Here, we delve into the different stages of relationship as they relate to polarity (original concept by author and thought leader David Deida.) We also get into what to DO about reverse polarity. How do you re-polarize a relationship if you haven't been very polarized lately? The focus, as always, is how we can grow into sexier, more fulfilling relationships on both sides. — Come to the Retreat!We've still got 7 spots left as of this episode dropping! Sept 3-7th, NorCal. www.evolutionary.men/retreat — Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, is where it all happens. You can join anytime -- book a call at www.evolutionary.men/apply. — Mentioned on this episode:No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover

Ever feel like you're doing everything "right" — showing up, being kind, respecting her — but only getting crumbs? First dates that never turn into second dates. A marriage where you've quietly become roommates; no matter what you do, there's no sex, and there's not even very much affection. That feeling of putting in a ton of effort and still spinning your wheels. If any of that lands, you're likely living out some version of Nice Guy Syndrome. Outgrowing being a Nice Guy doesn't mean becoming a jerk. It does mean that you learn some skills or make some shifts you've maybe never even thought of before. Here, Jason and I break down the 3 specific things that support men in graduating from being a Nice Guy — the ones that take them from stuck to, "Wait, this actually works now?" — Come to the Retreat!Join us live in Boonville, CA (near Napa) in early September. As of this episode dropping, we've got 8 spots left. www.evolutionary.men/retreat — Work with usReady to go deeper? Our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, is where men transform. Book a call at www.evolutionary.men/apply. — Mentioned on this episode:No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover— Memorable quotes from this episode:"I'm trying really f*****g hard and I'm not winning anywhere in it.""No woman can trust your yes if you do not have the capacity to say no.""You can't get better at community without being in community.""If shame is getting in the way of that, she doesn't have a chance to shine."

How much does a woman's sexual satisfaction depend on the size, shape, or other physical details of your c**k? According to research out of the UK, this question is on the hearts of a lot of men. To quote this study: "Men showed significant dissatisfaction with penile size, despite perceiving themselves to be of average size." In other words, it's common, if you're a man, to wonder (or worry) about whether size matters. Now here's the real question: Do women that sleep with men track this, and if so, how much? The truth is that there's as much diversity in the world of penises as there is in the world of human beings. And as women who have sex with men, we've seen a whole bunch! Here, we get real about sex, relationships, hookups, play, and c**k size. --- Join us!We've got a few spots left at our live, in-person retreat, September 3rd–7th — five days of embodiment, brotherhood, and doing the work that will actually move the needle. Get in here: https://evolutionary.men/retreat --- Mentioned on this episode:Please Her In Bed, my streaming course: www.pleaseherinbed.com

Do you want to establish a new, healthier habit, but so far you just ... haven't? For example: eat more veggies; exercise; have a meditation practice; be bolder with women/your woman; or a big one: cease watching porn. According to a meta-analysis on this exact questions, intentions only account for ~30% of whether someone actually changes behavior — meaning you can be fully committed and clear on what you want to do, and that commitment still barely predicts whether you’ll do it. The good news? Change is possible; it just doesn’t happen the way you think it does. We get into the real gap — between knowing and embodying — and cover why some of the smartest, most self-aware men we work with can describe their patterns with PhD-level precision, but still be stuck in the exact same loop years later. We also talk about the guy who showed up to the work feeling stuck and hopeless ... and who's now having the most fulfilling sex of his life with the healthiest partner with whom he has ever been. Fair warning: this one might make you rethink how you've been trying to change -- and you might start taking the actions that'll ACTUALLY get you what you want. — Join us!We've got a few spots left at our live, in-person retreat, September 3rd–7th — five days of embodiment, brotherhood, and doing the work that will actually move the needle. Get in here: https://evolutionary.men/retreat — Memorable quotes from this episode:"You don't know how deep the pond is till you get in there.""It's the difference between information and transformation.""Healing your relationship with other men sets you up for success with women.""Courage is not, 'I know everything's gonna be fine.' Courage is, 'I'm scared and I'm doing it anyway.'""There is no replacement for the group.""The payoff is so grand — but you gotta take some risks, you gotta do the damn thing.""That guy's got f*****g balls and fire ... and he feels so safe to be around.""Shame is healed in community."

When it comes to sex, dating, and relationships, what is AI good for? And where can it potentially cause damage? Here, Jason and I go point-for-point — one way AI can support your love life, one way it can harm it — and get into the nuances most people aren't talking about. We cover what AI is actually good for: crafting the message you can feel but can't quite say; getting unstuck when you're in your head at midnight; brainstorming date ideas that generate real dopamine for the couple; handling the "shit work" of logistics so you can show up more present. We share the real story of one client whose fight with his wife got a little unstuck through an unexpected AI assist — and the "family assistant" moment that changed everything for a friend struggling to ask for help. We also delve into in which ways AI can be like emotional porn; what MIT research shows about how heavy AI use impacts mental health and relationships; and why people literally grieved when OpenAI turned down the sycophancy dial. The deepest cut? AI has no needs. It will never trigger you, never require repair, never push back. And if you spend enough time in that dynamic... you might start to forget that friction is what actually creates intimacy. But real negotiation between two different humans — that's not the obstacle to love. That IS love. If you're curious about AI and want to use it wisely — without letting it quietly erode the very capacities that make you magnetic — this one's for you. — Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I will help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) — Memorable quotes from this episode:"There's a risk she's gonna figure it out.""What's our agreement or understanding about AI in our relationship?""You've got to make sure you're working it, and it's not working you.""AI can give us the fake sugar version of relationship.""It doesn't have any needs. It doesn't have any triggers. There's no need to negotiate.""The friction of relationship is what we learn to work — and it's what makes it meaningful.""Get really good at friction. If you can be the one in the room who can hang in conflict — that is only going to become more valuable.""It can be part of your team. It can't be your whole team.""Safety and trust is built in person with human beings — and most of what we're gauging is how they are being with us, not what they are saying."