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Do BPD’s Forget Feelings For You? Do people with BPD forget their feelings for you? Do people with BPD have an unstable “attachment” to the way they feel and again they’re feelings that you think might be about, towards, or actual feelings for you? Stay tuned for upcoming courses coming soon.- When they are up you will see a picture and a link on the front page (or on top if on a Smart phone) to my new (upcoming) online store. These new products are designed to help you more than only my free content and act as an educatinal bridge between free content and one-to-one sessions. These audio courses etc will be bery reasonably priced. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

BPD Exws What is The Pathway To Healing and What Is Not? BPD Exes what is the pathway to healing? It is not merely researching and "understanding" Borderline Personality Disorder. That canactually become a block to your healing and recovery process. In response to a commenter who is so lost, I talk about what isn't helpful when one has decided or knows they need to heal and recovery from a BPD toxic relationships and Codependency. I respond to a commenter who is really in a no-win place of unhealthy thinking "married" to being a "poor victim" of a person with VPD. Despite th e reality that people with (especially) untreate4d BPD hurt, abuse, use, and traumatize others, it's not helpful to stay in a "poor victim mentality" even though you have been victimized.  https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - One-to-one private sessions https://ajmahari.com - Online Store

Do Codependents over-function in BPD relationships or emotionally, in life, generally? The odd person/professional out there claims, yes, that's what's going on. No, it's not what is going on for anyone with Codependency. People with Codependency are not "over-functioning" they are under-functioning and dysfunctioning. People with Codependency have (from childhood woundedness, or adverse experience) an unhealthy and dysfunctional relationship to and with self. That is why people with Codependency are trying so hard to control the Borderline, to change him or her to rescue, to fix, to get back to who the fantasy bond of BPD initial idealization convinced you that he/she was. People with Codependency need their own therapy to heal what is largely in the unconscious and being repeated with a person with BPD. It's not all about the Borderline. Self=abandoning yourself, not being able to love yourself and lacking emotional and other boundaries cannot be "Over Functioning" and there is not such thing as a High-Functioning Codependent because that's not an accurate descriptor within the lens of what Codependency is at all. People with BPD (untreated -not clinically shown to have recovered) aren't who you thought they were. You can't change that. You can't wait around for them to do the 10+ years real BPD recovery requires.  https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog

BPD Joint Therapy Fantasy BPD Right-Fighting & Pathological Lying vs Your Eggshell-Walking BPD joint therapy doesn’t work and is a fantasy bonded nightmare of Borderline victim/martyr cs your Codependent walking on eggshells and trauma bond addiction to intermittent reinforcement. Borderlines - unless clinically proven to actually be recovered need their own therapy and you need yours. BPD relationships without full BPD recovery are toxic and you’re not being “loved” while being abused. BPD right-fighting and pathological lying block anything meaningful in joint therapy as they control  the process initiating BPD Induced Conversation and projecting on to the therapist as they do you in life.  Stop trying to recycle toxic relationships after the first breakup! https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions with A.J. https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts https://ajmahari.com - Online Store 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the topThis podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:  100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Million Podcasats: https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/

BPD Negative Behavior - Don’t Confront It - What Can You Do? BPD Negative Behavior - You can’t confront it. You may have unsuccessfully tried endless times. It increases your suffering each time, but to not say anything will increase your suffering as well. This is the heart of BPD toxic relationships wherein you just cannot win. What can you actually do? What you can do is admit your are powerless over the person with BPD. So, then what in the middle of no win relationship impossibility? https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions with A.J. https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts https://ajmahari.com - Online Store This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Podcast lists. https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/

High Functioning BPD in Careers vs Relationships How can a person diagnosed with BPD and with many active Borderline traits, behaviour etc in a relationship possibly function in careers, and often be or be becoming Social Workers and Psychologists? The core reason is the vast difference in many with high functioning BPD having a high IQ in the absence of emotional relational intelligence. They remain, often, toxic in interpersonal relationships despite functioning (to various degrees) in careers or professions. People with a degree in Social Work or Psychology are not going to be able to help themselves due to lack/loss of “self” and lacking emotional intelligence and lacking emotional maturity and so much more This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Podcast lists. https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/

Co-Pareting or Parallel Parenting With a BPD Ex - Another RollerCoaster Co-Parenting or Parallel parenting with a BPD - Borderline Personality Disordered Ex is for so many people, a nightmare. Not all BPD parents are the same, but, many, many of them are untreated,competitive, need their child or children's love and validation in such an unhealthy way that their need for a child or children's "loyalty" "never abandon me" drives so many Borderline Mothers and Borderline fathers to alienate you from you child or children. Co-parenting efforts on the part of your BPD Ex may well be so full of high-conflict and many a parent with BPD cannot put their child's needs ahead of their own. If the BPD Ex still blames you for everything they deem that was "wrong" with the relationship they carry on believing that you shouldn't have any rightsto "their child". For many Co-parenting will end up more being Parallel parenting. Either way you need to have done your healing work to be able to stay calm, to be non-reactive to the BPD Ex and to only communicate facts about what your child needs.  Co-parenting, for many, not all, with a BPD Ex just become another somewhat different but very familiar rollercoaster experience that you need to learn how to strategize to cope with while giving your child emotional safety and love and as healthy of a life as you can during your custody or visitation. As conflict-laden as most of these situations are it is really not going to be any better for you or your child or children to try to stay in a toxic BPD relationship hoping that will help your child or children. Sadly, they are going to be wounded in childhood.  https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Podcast lists. https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/

BPD Sudden Discard of Monkey Branching Crushed Future Many people who have been in short term or long term relationships with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder experience a BPD sudden discard of monkey branching that just crushes you and all the future plans that you believed were going to be your life unfolding in the relationship with the person with BPD that you didn't know, you didn't truly know. The heartbreak, the loss, the shame, the toxic guilt of people with Codependency who for a time blame themselves. BPD sudden Monkey Branching discards add even more pain and confusion to what is experienced in any BPD Breakup. How can you recover from this? https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Podcast lists. https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/

The Glass Borderline 'H*mpty D*mpty' No Real Self  BPD Breakups and Codependent BPD Exes endless "what if's' in the confusion, losing of yourself, the rumination, the cognitive dissonance and the constant "how could he/she do this?" "What did I do wrong?" If only I would/could have had ___________ or done _________ or said ____________ or not done or said ____________ All these 'what if's' when you really need to understand the Glass Borderline 'H*mpty D*mpty and why your relationship will not, was not, did not and still cannot work out. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Podcast lists. https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/

Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exe s is a trauma-informed podcast focused on understanding reactive abuse, emotional dysregulation, and the complex relationship dynamics that can occur with partners or ex-partners affected by borderline personality disorder (BPD) or similar patterns. This podcast wpisode explores how reactive behaviors can develop in emotionally abusive or highly dysregulated relationships—especially when gaslighting, blame-shifting, boundary violations, and chronic emotional stress are present. Listeners will learn the difference between intentional abuse and trauma-based reactions, helping survivors release shame and gain clarity about what actually happened in their relationships. Through education, real-world examples, and recovery-focused discussions, the show covers topics such as: What reactive abuse is and how it differs from abuse Emotional dysregulation and conflict cycles in relationships Gaslighting, trauma bonding, and psychological manipulation Why survivors may react in ways they don’t recognize Healing after emotionally abusive or toxic relationships Rebuilding identity, boundaries, and self-trust after trauma Nervous system regulation and emotional recovery This podcast does not demonize mental health conditions. Instead, it centers on behaviors, relationship patterns, accountability, and healing—offering compassionate insight for those who feel confused, blamed, or silenced after difficult relationships. Whether you are recovering from a relationship with a BPD partner or ex, questioning your own reactions, or seeking to understand emotional abuse and trauma responses more clearly, Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes provides validation, education, and a path forward. You are not “crazy.” You are not broken. And healing is possible. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts https://youtube.com/ajmahari https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Podcast lists. https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/

Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love So many partners and ex-partners of people with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder mistake the early intensity for love—because it feels overwhelming, consuming, and deeply validating. In this episode, I gently guide you through why Borderline emotional flooding gets misinterpreted as intimacy, connection, or destiny. You’ll learn why intensity is not love, why emotional dysregulation masquerades as passion, and why the early idealization phase feels so powerful to codependents, and trauma survivors. This episode helps you understand the fantasy bond, the rapid trauma-attachment cycle, and the heartbreaking confusion that keeps so many people stuck long after the relationship ends. This teaching is here to bring clarity, compassion, and truth—so you can reclaim yourself and begin to heal. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Podcast lists. https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/

BPD Hypersexuality Is Self-Soothing And You are The Bandage In this episode, we explore the misunderstood and often painful dynamic of Borderline hypersexuality—not as “promiscuity,” not as a moral failure, but as an attempt to self-soothe overwhelming internal distress. I walk you through why so many people with BPD turn to sexual intensity to regulate shame, emptiness, terror of abandonment, and the desperate need to feel momentarily wanted or alive. You’ll learn how hypersexual behaviour becomes a survival strategy, not a genuine expression of love or intimacy—and why partners often confuse this intensity for connection. We’ll look at the underlying trauma, dysregulated attachment, and the fragmented self that drive this behaviour, and how these patterns affect those who love someone with untreated BPD. This episode is especially helpful for codependents, survivors of BPD relationships, and anyone trying to make sense of why sexual intensity felt fused to love, validation, or bonding—only to later feel discarded, confused, or emotionally injured. With compassion and clarity, we break down the psychological mechanisms at play so you can understand what happened, reclaim your sense of reality, and begin healing from the confusion of trauma-bonded intimacy. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Podcast lists. https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/

Why BPD Relationships Fail - Repetition Compulsions Projection and Projective Identification In this episode, A.J. Mahari explains how unconscious repetition compulsions, projection, and BPD projective identification keep people with Borderline Personality Disorder trapped in painful relational cycles. You’ll learn how early trauma shapes perception, how partners become stand-ins for abandoning or abusive parents, and how projective identification pulls loved ones into the Borderline’s emotional world. This compassionate deep dive helps you understand what’s really happening beneath the chaos — and how awareness can finally break the cycle of reenacting the past which cannot stop or change until and unless each person with BPD is treated for 8-16 years in a psychodynamic modality of treatment because DBT is not a recovery modality for BPD. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Podcast lists. https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/

Borderline Induced Conversations - When Talking Turns Into Trauma for Codependents When you try to talk to someone with Borderline Personality Disorder and the conversation suddenly turns emotional, chaotic, or painful — you’re not communicating. You’re in an induced conversation. In this episode, A.J. Mahari explains how Borderlines and Codependents unconsciously pull each other into trauma-based emotional loops that feel like connection but are actually dysregulation. You’ll learn what’s really happening in your nervous system, why you keep getting drawn back in, and how to finally step out of these trauma-bonded “talks” that never resolve anything and never bring peace. In this podcast episode: What an induced conversation really is How Borderlines project pain and Codependents absorb it The nervous-system collision behind emotional chaos Why calm feels unsafe after trauma How to end the cycle and reclaim your peace https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Podcast lists. https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/

Borderline Love a Looping Trap of Deception Borderline Love is a looping trap of deception rooted in fantasy, betrayal, false hope, and trauma bonded dynamics of pseudo attachment and the Borderline idealization trap of deception (conscious or unconscious). People with BPD deceive boyfriends and girlfriends, husbands and wives, the favorite person, friends and family members as well as themselves. People with Borderline Personality do not know who they are. They do not know how to relate to you as separate from their own internal dysregulated and emotionally immature "lack of self". "Love and/or attachment" believed to be given by a person with BPD or received by a Codependent is an emotional deception and a trap. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - A.J's Podcasts https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcast & Youtube Feed This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at: 100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025 Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts, the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship Podcast lists. https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/ https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/