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For Episodes 150/151 we finally got around to discussing what is commonly considered the greatest romcom of all time, When Harry Met Sally. But, in a shocking twist, Joel and Naomi are doing it with their respective partners. This is the Joel/Lauren version - check out Ep151 for the Naomi/Len takes. Joel and Lauren discuss all the reasons this film works really well, ranging from tight writing to strong characters who aren't morally pure and perfect. We also talk a bit about the background of the film's development and what other writer's could learn from it as well as some miscellaneous trivia.  This is a good romcom, fellas - give it a watch. DTG despises genocide and continue to support people fighting all forms of it. We're still making monthly donations to local trans funds and have now started doing the same for Palestine support. Send proof to our email that you made a donation to fight any kind of genocide and we'll send you some stuff in appreciation. Consider some of the following: UN Relief and Works Agency - Desperately needs money since the US and several Western nations cut off funding. Islamic Relief USA World Food Program We are now recording through Riverside.fm and producing both video and transcripts of each episode. Find those on our Patreon when we remember to upload them.  Support the show

We wrap up our favorite sex book of the year (so far at least, Joel hasn't read Emily Nagoski's Come Together quite yet...) with Vanessa's last few pieces of advice. We dig into sex menus, sexual personality types, exploration, the "first pancake" rule, and the "F First" principle, all incredibly useful pieces of advice to keep your sex life going strong or bring it back from the dead.  Find a non-AI-written copy of the book here. All credit to Simon and Schuster for use of their cover art. Find a copy of a partner sex survey here. All credit to Marvin Gaye for use of "Let's Get it On." DTG despises genocide and continue to support people fighting all forms of it. We're still making monthly donations to local trans funds and have now started doing the same for Palestine support. Send proof to our email that you made a donation to fight any kind of genocide and we'll send you some stuff in appreciation. Consider some of the following: UN Relief and Works Agency - Desperately needs money since the US and several Western nations cut off funding. Islamic Relief USA World Food Program We are now recording through Riverside.fm and producing both video and transcripts of each episode. Find those on our Patreon when we remember to upload t Support the show Support the show

In part two of Sex Talks we discuss how to have good conversations with your partner, how to start bringing more explicit topics with them, how to improve your mental and physical connection, and how to destigmatize touch in your relationships. Find a non-AI-written copy of the book here. All credit to Simon and Schuster for use of their cover art. DTG despises genocide and continue to support people fighting all forms of it. We're still making monthly donations to local trans funds and have now started doing the same for Palestine support. Send proof to our email that you made a donation to fight any kind of genocide and we'll send you some stuff in appreciation. Consider some of the following: UN Relief and Works Agency - Desperately needs money since the US and several Western nations cut off funding. Islamic Relief USA World Food Program We are now recording through Riverside.fm and producing both video and transcripts of each episode. Find those on our Patreon when we remember to upload t Support the show

Our podcast about sex, dating, and relationships finally gets around to discussing a book specifically about sex. None of this conversation is really explicit and the skills we discuss here are applicable in everyday life, but if you don't want to hear us make references to sex acts, maybe skip this one. In part one we discuss how Joel was scammed into buying an AI-written or ripoff copy of the text prior to finding an actual copy, why talking about sex is hard,  the factors that usually make relationship sex lives worse over time,  and some strategies to begin diagnosing your understanding of sex expectations and what you want out of your sex life. Boy, we are going to use the word "sex" a lot when discussing this. Find a non-AI-written copy of the book here. All credit to Simon and Schuster for use of their cover art.  DTG despises genocide and continue to support people fighting all forms of it. We're still making monthly donations to local trans funds and have now started doing the same for Palestine support. Send proof to our email that you made a donation to fight any kind of genocide and we'll send you some stuff in appreciation. Consider some of the following: UN Relief and Works Agency - Desperately needs money since the US and several Western nations cut off funding. Islamic Relief USA World Food Program We are now recording through Riverside.fm and producing both video and transcripts of each episode. Find those on our Patreon when we remember to upload t Support the show

This time we chose some questions that were less likely to lead to arguments and more likely to spur conversations about relationship conduct in weird situations. We chatter mindlessly about a few topics, ranging from working out with partners to demanding half your husband's company to breaking up with partners after cancer treatment to laughing at your husband when his demanded paternity test proves he's in fact the father. Boy, so many people are happy and well-adjusted in this day and age. DTG despises genocide and continue to support people fighting all forms of it. We're still making monthly donations to local trans funds and have now started doing the same for Palestine support. Send proof to our email that you made a donation to fight any kind of genocide and we'll send you some stuff in appreciation. Consider some of the following: UN Relief and Works Agency - Desperately needs money since the US and several Western nations cut off funding. Islamic Relief USA World Food Program We are now recording through Riverside.fm and producing both video and transcripts of each episode. Find those on our Patreon when we remember to upload t Support the show

We finally finish Steve Harvey's second awful relationship book, having learned far too much about his past and horrible parenting style in the process. We wrap up with his thoughts on nagging (or as he calls it, the "N-word"), some mixed advice on money in relationships, and his baffling list of commandments for men to keep their wife happy that, per him, no man would ever follow. Not amazing content, but maybe lightyears beyond the advice of his other books "Act Like a Success, Think Like a Success," or "Take a Leap of Faith to a Life of Abundance." We are now recording through Riverside.fm and producing both video and transcripts of each episode. Find those on our Patreon.  This month we made a donation to a trans rights org supporting trans individuals fleeing states where their existence is being outlawed. Yeah, we're still doing that. Genocide isn't going anyway anytime soon. There are a lot of groups doing good work like this: take a look at your community.  Support the show

Joel and Naomi sit down to discuss their thoughts on the new Sydney Sweeney/Glen Powell romcom, a fairly good version of the "rich pretty people fall in love in a pretty place" subgenre. Very few spoilers in this one outside of some stuff concerning the ending: we're more interested in talking about the leads, how this film is helping to destroy the Australian economy, and some very weird writing stuff concerning the choices in the ending.  All credit to Universal for use of their trailer audio and poster.  This month we made a donation to a trans rights org supporting trans individuals fleeing states where their existence is being outlawed. Yeah, we're still doing that. Genocide isn't going anyway anytime soon. There are a lot of groups doing good work like this: take a look at your community.  Interested in starting your own podcast? Check out our Buzzsprout link to get a $20 giftcard for signing up to host through them. If you're interested but not sold on the merits of the platform, give us a holler and we'll talk about why we chose and continue to use it.  Support the show

Naomi and Joel meet to discuss how they improved in 2023 (and share a lot of good recipes in the process),  develop a good relationship maxim to live by in 2024, and analyze the dating trends of 2023 and 2024. Joel and Naomi also make some predictions of their own for 2024, mostly negative stuff about politics and the future of AI-tech.  Crispy Korean Chickpeas Mango Pie Pear Sorbet An Amazing Tomato Pie This month we made a donation to a trans rights org supporting trans individuals fleeing states where their existence is being outlawed. Yeah, we're still doing that. Genocide isn't going anyway anytime soon. There are a lot of groups doing good work like this: take a look at your community.  Interested in starting your own podcast? Check out our Buzzsprout link to get a $20 giftcard for signing up to host through them. If you're interested but not sold on the merits of the platform, give us a holler and we'll talk about why we chose and continue to use it.  Support the show

In part 2 (we're sorry, there's a lot to discuss and our thoughts can't fit within the neat hourly format of a weekly podcast) we discuss some of the other plotlines in Love, Actually, including the HR-horrifying story of the PM and Natalie, sex pervert Colin and the foxy Wisconsin babes, the horribly miscast Alan Rickman and his hot secretary, sad Leslie Nielsen and his adorable son, and the nearly forgetable but also kinda tragic Laura Linney plot. We also wrap up by discussing the way this film treats women and portrays men, noting some of the not-so-awesome messages that both this film and the follow-up communicate. Again, not the worst thing in the world to watch, but boy, watch your media with a somewhat skeptical eye.  All credit to StudioCanal for use of their poster and Billy Mack's "Christmas is All Around."  We are now recording through Riverside.fm and producing both video and transcripts of each episode. Find those on our Patreon.  This month we made a donation to a trans rights org supporting trans individuals fleeing states where their existence is being outlawed. Yeah, we're still doing that. Genocide isn't going anyway anytime soon. There are a lot of groups doing good work like this: take a look at your community.  Interested in starting your own podcast? Check out our Buzzsprout link to get a $20 giftcard for signing up to host through them. If you're interested but not sold on the merits of the platform, give us a holler and we'll talk about why we chose and continue to use it.  Support the show

People kept telling us to watch this cult classic holiday romcom. Not sure if that was because they thought we'd enjoy it or because we might have opinions on it. And oh boy, do we have opinions on this. Lest you call us long-winded, we're actually discussing two films in this two-parter, Love, Actually and Red Nose Day, Actually, the pseudo-sequel from 2017.  In this first part we discuss some of the reasons this film might have enduring popularity, the clever (or lazy) writing structure Richard Curtis employs, and the Colin Firth, Billy Mack, and Kiera Knightley plots. Joel also discusses his theory that this film is secretly winking at the audience over how obvious/lazy it is at times but Naomi refuses to buy his Adam Sandler-based proof.  All credit to StudioCanal for use of their poster.  We strongly urge our listeners to support the work of Planned Parenthood by donating here. For the indefinite future all Patreon donations will go to them, NARAL, or other orgs doing good work across the nation. Interested in starting your own podcast? Check out our Buzzsprout link to get a $20 giftcard for signing up to host through them. If you're interested but not sold on the merits of the platform, give us a holler and we'll talk about why we chose and continue to use it.  Support the show

Well Steve had a good week last time but he makes up for lost time by cranking the misogyny button back up to 10 in chapter 7-9. In this part we learn from Steve how women must always be well-dressed and sexy to attract Mr Right, how if men cheat it's probably because their wife wasn't dressed sexy enough, how men are insatiable lust machines who need to have sex all the time, and how if women put out they'll be just like a piece of used-up chewing gum that no one wants. No problematic  notions here, nosireebob. We are now recording through Riverside.fm and producing both video and transcripts of each episode. Find those on our Patreon.  This month we made a donation to a trans rights org supporting trans individuals fleeing states where their existence is being outlawed. Yeah, we're still doing that. Genocide isn't going anyway anytime soon. There are a lot of groups doing good work like this: take a look at your community.  Support the show

Yes, we know we're getting dangerously close to making 15 parts out of this like WWDL but we promise this will be wrapped up soon. Steve has a lot to say though and he throws us a curveball this time by, and this is shocking, actually offering some good relationship advice. Not great advice, and Joel still has plenty of bones to pick mind you, but good enough that we might feel comfortable recommending this over many other books we've discussed. Low bar, we know. In chapters 4 and 5 Steve discusses first the shocking fact that sugar daddies might not be interested in long-term relationships and then gives women some pointers on what to do if they've been dating for awhile and their partner hasn't proposed or committed. There's plenty of misogyny but also some good rules of thumb and insight into what you can reasonably expect from a partner. Nothing ground-breaking but with Steve even sometimes even lame advice can feel like a breath of fresh air. We are now recording through Riverside.fm and producing both video and transcripts of each episode. Except this one. Joel may have been picking his nose in this one. Find those on our Patreon.  This month we made a donation to a trans rights org supporting trans individuals fleeing states where their existence is being outlawed. Yeah, we're still doing that. Genocide isn't going anyway anytime soon. There are a lot of groups doing good work like this: take a look at your community.  Support the show