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Send us a text Dating does not have to be confusing, exhausting, or expensive. We’re pulling back the curtain on five practical rules that protect your heart, save your time, and set you up for a marriage that can actually thrive. From defining non‑negotiables to reading red flags without second‑guessing yourself, we walk through the mindsets and habits that turn your twenties into a launchpad instead of a landfill. We start by reframing the goal: Christlikeness over a wedding date. Contentment beats comparison, and wholeness beats hurried timelines. Then we get specific. Date on purpose using a 90‑day clarity window. Ask better questions about faith, direction, and character. Choose character over chemistry by testing for humility, forgiveness, and submission to godly authority. Pace the relationship with clear boundaries—public early dates, digital guardrails, and honest conversations about sex, soul ties, and healing. We also tackle love bombing, why it feels so real at first, and how accountability reveals the truth before it’s too late. Money matters too. Check the credit, not just the chemistry, and bring debt, spending, tithing, and budgeting into the light so you can build trust instead of resentment. Finally, don’t date alone. Isolation creates illusion; community brings clarity. Invite a married mentor and a wise peer, worship together, and let your circle call green, yellow, or red flags. Healthy relationships can handle scrutiny because they are built on truth. If this helped you rethink your standards or reset your pace, share it with a friend who needs clarity, subscribe for new episodes every Thursday at 3 p.m., and leave a review to tell us your biggest takeaway. Your future self will thank you. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text Settling for “okay” feels safe, but it quietly shrinks your marriage. We dig into why cruise control robs connection and how a few intentional shifts can turn your relationship into a lifelong adventure. From writing a simple family mission to scheduling a 20-second hug, we share the small, repeatable habits that build warmth, trust, and momentum across every season. We get real about seasons and capacity: how wisdom can multiply what time no longer does, why pivoting your pace is not failure but stewardship, and how to keep your spouse first when life gets crowded with kids, career, and ministry. You’ll hear how we use family meetings to surface blind spots without blame, plus the honest questions that make feedback safe. We also name the trap of projection—how dissatisfaction with yourself can masquerade as disappointment with your partner—and offer a path back to ownership and healing. Then we roll out an eight-part playbook to beat the “okay” marriage: craft a shared vision, win the day with small rituals, fight fair with a written playbook, pursue intimacy on purpose, treat money as a team sport, practice radical honesty, install protective guardrails, and keep novelty alive with monthly mini-adventures. Expect practical examples—date-night rhythms, conflict rules, trust “bricks,” Sunday money huddles—and a reminder that many couples don’t fall out of love; they fall out of like. Choose curiosity, choose growth, and choose each other. If this helped you, tap follow, share it with a friend who refuses to settle, and leave a quick review telling us which practice you’ll try first. Your feedback helps more couples find a path from okay to extraordinary. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text Resolutions powered by adrenaline rarely survive February. We’re after something deeper: a year that actually changes because your spirit leads, your mind renews, and your habits align with what God already says about you. Together we unpack why identity comes before intensity, how to let the old you die without shame, and the simple daily choices that turn conviction into consistency. We start with the core conviction: this will be your best year ever if it’s your best year spiritually. That means speaking new language over your life, finding identity in Christ above career, politics, or past labels, and embracing the crucified life of Galatians 2:20 where influence grows as self decreases. From there, we get practical. We pair faith with works—Scripture and prayer before scrolling, weekly church in person as a non-negotiable, and one to three priorities per quarter that actually fit your calendar. We walk through building when-then systems, designing your environment, and swapping bad habits for better ones so you can grow an oak tree, not a firework. Community and accountability carry the change forward. Choose friends going where you want to go, join a small group or serve team, and seek mentors with visible fruit inside your local church. Create boundaries that protect your calling—media limits, no-phone bedrooms, and clear yeses that define your noes. Celebrate small wins, restart without shame, and keep Matthew 6:33 at the center: seek first the kingdom and trust God with the rest. If you’re ready for lasting change rooted in faith and multiplied by wise habits, press play and journey with us. Subscribe, share this conversation with a friend who needs a reset, and tell us your top three goals so we can pray with you. Let’s make this your strongest spiritual year yet. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text Ready to trade comfort for clarity? We’re kicking off the year with a 21-day journey that goes beyond skipping meals and straight into a deeper pursuit of God. Fasting without prayer is just a diet; fasting with prayer, scripture, and generosity becomes a spiritual reset that reshapes your days, your decisions, and your desires. We share real stories and useful steps. Tabatha talks about fasting through a cancer battle and why walking into chemo in a fasted state (think autophagy and immune reset) paired with steady prayer brought strength and focus. Ken opens up about years of weekly fasting while launching a church and why he loves the benefits, even when his flesh complains. Together, we map out practical paths—sunrise-to-sunset, one-meal-a-day, Daniel-style—along with a rhythm that actually works: plan meals before day one, schedule prayer and scripture, reduce digital noise, and let hunger cues trigger time with God. Isaiah 58 gives us the blueprint: a fast that breaks yokes, feeds the hungry, and ushers in healing and light. We press into that promise with simple, doable actions—reallocate time and food money to serve, forgive quickly, invite accountability, and make this a family practice. Kids can give up one favorite thing, couples can align their plans, and singles can thrive with a strong check‑in partner. If you slip, adjust without quitting. Finish by reassessing what returns to your life and what stays on the altar, then extend the momentum with our six‑month challenge: build your calendar around church, daily time in the Word, and a steady, prayerful pace. Join us for 21 days, then decide what you never want to pick back up. Subscribe for new Thursday episodes, share this with a friend who needs a reset, and if you need a church home, join our live Sunday service at 9:45 AM EST on YouTube. Leave a review and tell us: what are you laying on the altar this year? GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text Ready to stop making resolutions that fizzle and start setting goals that actually change your life? Ken and Tabatha dig into the difference between hype and habits, laying out a practical, faith-forward way to plan your year with clarity, courage, and consistency. We talk about why most resolutions collapse—no strategy, no steady will, too much emotion—and how to replace them with God-aligned goals backed by action steps, Scripture, and a plan you hold loosely while trusting God to direct your steps. We get specific about what keeps you on track. Think written targets that focus your faith, goals that act like guardrails in a noisy world, and a morning you master by starting the night before. You’ll hear simple, proven tips: create a wind-down routine, protect your bedroom as a sleep sanctuary, shut down screens, journal, read the Word, and set out tomorrow’s cues so your decision is made before your feelings show up. We also cover wake-up motivation hacks, new-workout grit, and the daily rhythms that build a resilient soul—time in Scripture, prayer, worship, and practicing God’s presence beyond the quiet time. If your heart carries “goal fatigue,” this conversation aims to restore it. We normalize obstacles, celebrate the wins that did arrive, and share stories of long-delayed breakthroughs that finally bloomed. The message is steady and hopeful: set your will, make a plan, pray it through, and don’t quit. Faith needs a target; your goals can be that target. Subscribe for more faith-and-life tools, share this with someone setting new goals, and leave a review to help others find the show. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text What if the gap between tension and tenderness is smaller than you think? We revisit a candid conversation about the real work of marriage—how to share the load at home, protect each other’s energy, and bring intimacy back from the brink without losing yourself in the process. No gloss, no clichés, just two people telling the truth about weight, pace, and the everyday choices that keep love steady. We start by naming the unseen emotional labor many women carry and the unique pressures men face as leaders in the home. From there we map out how to move the division of labor toward center—evaluating quality of life, delegating, hiring help when needed, and choosing the family’s pace on purpose. We talk about why marriage is gritty, why public loyalty and private encouragement matter, and why comparing someone else’s highlight reel to your partner’s lowlight moments sabotages trust. Communication threads through everything: how to say what hurts without shaming, how to confess temptation before it confesses you, and how to replace blame with curiosity when stress or depression hits a home. Then we get practical with seven keys to revive a sexless marriage. We reclaim a healthy, faith-filled view of sex, build a rhythm of honest conversations, and offer simple habits with outsized payoff: going to bed at the same time, touching outside of sex, scheduling intimacy when needed, taking turns initiating, and celebrating small wins during medical or emotional valleys. The goal isn’t to perform; it’s to reconnect—body, mind, and spirit—so your home feels like a refuge again. If you’re ready to trade constant friction for calm partnership and real closeness, this conversation will meet you where you are and give you steps you can use tonight. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review to help others find the show. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text Dating with wisdom starts by turning your list into a mirror. We talk candidly about why so many singles overvalue appearance and chemistry, then feel blindsided after the wedding when character gaps show up at full volume. Attraction matters, but it won’t hold a marriage together. What does? Shared faith, proven integrity, and the humble skills that make peace during conflict. We break down five practical filters for choosing well: spiritual alignment rooted in a real walk with God, character you can verify not just imagine, respectful conflict that doesn’t turn doors into drums, inviting wise counsel into your relationship, and giving time the chance to reveal truth. Along the way, we challenge narrow “types” and cultural boxes that can blind you to a great match. Preference isn’t a problem until it becomes a prison. If you’ve ever felt stuck between being pressed to couple up or too guarded to try, we show you the healthy middle: content in God, open to love, and clear on standards. You’ll also hear why breakups can be protection, not proof you failed, plus four self-check questions to ask before saying yes. And we elevate the single season as sacred—an unmatched window to pursue purpose, deepen prayer, serve boldly, and become the kind of person your future spouse will thank you for. Whether you’re building a new list or revising an old one, this conversation helps you choose a partner you can stay in love with through highs, lows, and everything between. If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs clarity in dating, and leave a review with the one green flag you now look for. Your story might be the nudge someone else needs today. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text When your heart whispers “God feels far,” what if the real invitation is to come closer? We open up about seasons of pain, busyness, and spiritual immaturity and show how a felt distance doesn’t mean God has moved. From battling cancer to navigating marriage stress, we trace the path back to peace and explain a simple framework that helps you reconnect: return to His presence daily, repent and release what blocks intimacy, and reconnect with God’s people who can carry you when you feel weak. We dig into the three layers of God’s presence—omnipresent, indwelling, and manifested—and get practical about hosting His nearness in ordinary life. Think worship in the car, quiet walks without noise, and quick prayers before a meeting. You’ll hear why awareness is like tuning a piano, how focus and surrender shape sensitivity, and what it means to live from overflow so serving doesn’t become burnout. We talk about Moses’ hunger for God’s presence as the mark that sets His people apart and how friendship with God moves you beyond mere duty into delight. If you’ve wondered why your joy leaks or your peace feels thin, this conversation offers clear next steps and honest encouragement. You are hardwired for communion with your Maker; loneliness can become holy solitude when you acknowledge the Friend who never leaves. Lean in for simple practices, a faith-building prayer, and a renewed vision for carrying God’s presence into your home, work, and relationships. If this resonates, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review to help more people close the gap with God. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text What if hearing God was less about chasing a moment and more about walking in a steady conversation? We unpack five reliable ways to discern God’s voice—Scripture, the Spirit’s inner witness, wise community, peace that umpires your choices, and the clarity of open-and-closed doors—so you can move with confidence and courage. We share personal stories of guidance in marriage, ministry, and business, including dreams that redirected calling, impressions that protected timing, and opportunities that confirmed next steps. You’ll learn the simple pathways many people experience—seer, hearer, feeler, knower—and why God often speaks through pictures and prompts that grow trust, not confusion. We also get practical about the hardest question: is it me, God, or the enemy? Our five-discernment filter helps you test any impression against Scripture, God’s character, peace versus chaos, confirmation from mature believers, and whether it requires faith and advances a mission bigger than your ego. We talk candidly about prophecy with humility, why accountability beats “God said” declarations, and how fruit over time reveals true direction. If you’ve felt stuck in silence, you’ll discover how God’s quiet seasons still form you, and how everyday attentiveness turns down the noise so you can follow the still small voice. Ready to build a life where guidance is normal and obedience is natural? Press play, share with a friend who needs clarity, and if it helps you, subscribe and leave a review so more people can learn to hear God clearly. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text Butterflies don’t build marriages—choices do. We open up about the rush of infatuation, the friction of the fight for power, and the quiet strength of mature love, weaving our 26-year story through the science, the pitfalls, and the simple practices that help couples grow. You’ll hear why dopamine and oxytocin make those early days feel like a dream, how cortisol and stress twist small annoyances into big battles, and what it takes to move from me-versus-you to us-versus-the-problem. We break down the three stages of love with honesty and hope. From late-night balcony confessions to the seven-year itch, we name what changes, what hurts, and what actually heals. Along the way, we offer concrete tools you can use tonight: summarize-before-you-respond listening, ground rules for hard talks, the three-to-one affirmation rule, and a pause, pray, plan approach for high-stakes decisions. We also tackle comparison, stonewalling, and scorekeeping, and we share how weekly family meetings, shared values, and small, daily touches restore trust and affection. If you’ve wondered where the spark went, or feared you’ve fallen out of love, this conversation reframes conflict as the classroom where love grows up. Mature love isn’t less passionate; it’s more secure, more generous, and far more sustainable. And yes, the butterflies can return in moments—when your habits make space for them. Want more? Our new book, Butterfly Love, tells the whole story and hands you the tools we use. Listen, share with someone who needs it, and leave a review so others can find the show. Then tell us: which stage are you in, and what tool will you try this week? GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

Send us a text Dating doesn’t have to feel like a guessing game. We break down five clear red flags every Christian should watch for and show how trusting God, not the crowd, changes who you choose and how you choose. From spiritual alignment to character under pressure, we pull back the curtain on the patterns that predict a healthy marriage—or a painful one. We start with the heart of it all: if someone pulls you away from God, isolates you from church, or mocks spiritual disciplines, that’s not love. Then we zoom into teachability and accountability—because an uncorrectable person becomes unleadable when life gets hard. We tackle dishonesty and secrecy, the silent killers that cloud conversations and erode peace. You’ll hear why watching how a date treats servers, coworkers, and family reveals who they are when no one’s grading their performance. And we unpack the cost of a partner with no vision or direction, plus how mismatched goals, theology, and values create constant friction. Along the way, we challenge the myth that romance equals readiness. Infatuation is effortless; mature love is built on aligned values, shared purpose, and honest dialogue. So we trade surface talk for deeper questions: money habits, family history, conflict style, faith convictions, and life vision. We also invite community into the process—mentors, pastors, and trusted friends who can spot the warning signs you might miss. To close, we share five practical discernment keys: pray before you play, ask trusted voices, observe not excuse, look for fruit, and follow the Holy Spirit’s peace. If you’re single, this is a guide to date with clarity and courage. If you’re advising someone you love, it’s a toolkit for wise counsel. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and tell us: which red flag or discernment key are you adding to your non-negotiables today? GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...