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What if your capacity isn’t a limitation to overcome, but information you can build around? In this episode, Anna talks with business strategist and coach Nikita Williams about what it means to create a business — and a life — that works with your actual energy, needs, and rhythms rather than constantly demanding that you override them. Nikita is the founder of Crafted to Thrive and host of the Business With Chronic Illness podcast. Since 2017, she has helped creatives, holistic practitioners, and entrepreneurs living with chronic illness build sustainable businesses that create consistent revenue without requiring them to constantly do more. Together, Anna and Nikita explore the shame that can arise around having limited or changing capacity, the pressure to follow one-size-fits-all formulas, and the surprising discomfort that can come with allowing things to become easier. They also talk about visibility, self-trust, boundaries, nervous system patterns, identity, and why so many entrepreneurs unintentionally recreate the same rigid systems they wanted to escape in the first place. In this conversation, you’ll hear about: • Why “increase your capacity” can be such an unhelpful message • Learning to treat your energy as something to steward rather than exploit • How chronic illness shaped Nikita’s approach to business • Why ease can feel uncomfortable, even when it’s exactly what you need • The vulnerability of being visible and sharing who you really are • How success can still be unsustainable • Why boundaries are essential to building freedom • The difference between having offers and having an actual business model • How doing less can sometimes create better results • What it means to trust that your pace is your pace • Why Nikita believes business is deeply personal • Building around your values, strengths, health, and real life instead of someone else’s formula One of the central ideas in this episode is simple but powerful: your pace does not have to match anyone else’s. As Nikita puts it, “My pace is my pace.” This conversation is for anyone who has ever wondered whether they’re doing enough, moving fast enough, working hard enough, or somehow falling behind — and wants to experiment with building from a place of attunement instead. Connect with Nikita Williams Website: https://thrivewithnikita.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivewithnikita/ Podcast: Business With Chronic Illness, available wherever you listen to podcasts. You can also explore Nikita’s free business audit and join her email community, Built to Breathe, through her website. Connect with Anna Holtzman Website: www.annaholtzman.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_holtzman/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anna-holtzman/

What happens when you’ve spent decades becoming exceptionally good at succeeding inside a system — and then decide to build something of your own? In this episode, Anna sits down with Deb Boulanger, founder of Life After Corporate, who works with accomplished corporate women leaders making the transition into consulting, fractional leadership, coaching, and advisory work. Deb knows this transition from the inside. After a highly successful corporate career — including growing a new business from zero to $32 million in 30 months and leading a team of more than 50 people — she reached a point where the pace was no longer sustainable. Burnout, the end of her marriage, caregiving, motherhood, and menopause all converged into a larger question: What do I actually want my life to look like now? What followed was not simply a career change, but an identity shift. In this conversation, Anna and Deb explore what happens psychologically when the title, team, salary, and company name that once reinforced your sense of competence are suddenly gone — and you have to trust your own judgment in a whole new way. They talk about: • Why leaving corporate can bring up unexpected self-worth wounds • The role perfectionism, people-pleasing, procrastination, and fear play in entrepreneurship • Why market research can feel much more emotionally loaded than it sounds • The fear of being perceived as “salesy” — and how Deb reframes selling as service • Why visibility is essential if you want to be discoverable • The connection between pricing and self-worth • Deb’s powerful reminder: “No one is buying your self-esteem.” • Why underpricing can lead to burnout, resentment, and blurred boundaries • The difference between overpricing and overpromising • Why one failed webinar, launch, or sales conversation is simply a data point — not proof that your business won’t work • The financial and emotional “wobbles” that often happen when building something new • How to keep going when your nervous system wants immediate proof that your efforts are working • Why leaving corporate and building your next chapter can become something much deeper than a career move Deb also shares stories from her work with women who have moved through uncertainty, rebuilt their confidence, and turned decades of experience into sustainable businesses and high-value advisory relationships. At its heart, this conversation is about learning to separate your value as a human being from the results in your business — and trusting that the expertise you built over decades did not disappear when you left your corporate role. Connect with Deb Boulanger Website: https://lifeaftercorporate.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debboulanger-thegreatdo-over/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deb_boulanger/ You can also find the Life After Corporate podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. Connect with Anna Holtzman Website: www.annaholtzman.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anna-holtzman/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_holtzman/

What if you didn’t need to know exactly where your creative path was leading before you took the next step? In this episode, Anna talks with Margo Tantau, creative industry veteran, founder of Tantau Studio, and host of the beloved Windowsill Chats podcast, about the winding path of a creative life and career. Margo has spent more than 30 years working across art, product development, licensing, creative direction, retail, manufacturing, coaching, and artist representation. Rather than following one perfectly mapped-out career plan, she has built her work by staying curious, noticing what lights her up, and following the opportunities, people, and ideas that pull her forward. Anna and Margo talk about what it means to create a career that feels unmistakably like you, even when you can’t see the destination yet. They explore the importance of keeping your creative flame alive, why connection can be more useful than trying to solve everything alone, and how allowing other people to support your work can make a creative life more sustainable. They also get into the vulnerability of visibility: sharing your work, telling your stories, putting an offer into the world, and trusting that what comes naturally to you may be exactly what someone else has been looking for. In this episode, we talk about: • How Margo’s winding creative career evolved from design and retail into product development, licensing, artist representation, teaching, and podcasting • Why you don’t need to know the destination before beginning a creative path • Following curiosity and paying attention to the things that “turn your head” • The difference between forcing creativity and allowing inspiration to emerge responsively • Why keeping even a small thread of creativity alive matters • The role of specificity and storytelling in helping people connect with your work • The fears that can come with sharing your work and making yourself visible • Why putting an offer into the world sometimes reveals a need you didn’t know was there • Building a creative career through practice rather than waiting for one breakthrough moment • How Margo manages a multifaceted creative business without trying to do everything herself • Learning to ask for help, collaborate, and let your work be held by more than one pair of hands • The importance of creative community and finding people with whom you don’t have to explain yourself • Margo’s encouragement to follow the small tug toward whatever interests, excites, or intrigues you next About Margo Tantau Margo Tantau is a creative industry veteran who has spent her career elevating artists and turning ideas into thoughtful, successful products. With over 30 years of experience in product development, art direction, and creative brand building, she’s collaborated with hundreds of artists, championing their work, mentoring their growth, and helping shape collections that truly resonate. Now, as founder of Tantau Studio, Margo formally represents a curated roster of surface designers and illustrators, continuing her long-held passion for connecting art with opportunity through strategic, heart-led representation. She also hosts Windowsill Chats, a beloved podcast where she shares candid conversations with artists, makers, and industry leaders about creativity, business, and the satisfaction of building a life in art. Margo believes that doing more of your own thing, boldly and consistently, is the key to building a career that’s true to who you are. To her, that’s what real creative success looks like. Connect with Margo Website: margotantau.com Podcast: Windowsill Chats Instagram: @windowsillchats and @mtantau Connect with Anna Website: www.annaholtzman.com Instagram: @anna_holtzman

What happens when we stop trying to outrun the parts of our story we wish were different—and begin to understand that those very shadows may hold some of the material for our healing? In this episode, Anna sits down with Cassidy Gard, a three-time Emmy Award-winning television producer, former Good Morning America correspondent, and author of Cosmic Goodness: Surrendering the Shadows to Live in the Light. Cassidy writes and speaks at the intersection of spirituality, motherhood, sobriety, grief, and reinvention. For years, Cassidy made a career out of telling other people’s stories, covering breaking news, mass shootings, the Me Too movement, and some of the most emotionally intense events of our time. Behind the scenes, she was carrying a story of her own: growing up with an alcoholic father, childhood anger and shame, grief, anxiety, and the exhausting work of masking the parts of herself she didn’t yet know how to hold. Cassidy began journaling at seven years old, and writing became both a refuge and, eventually, a way back to herself. In this conversation, she and Anna explore what happens when we turn toward our own inner world, recognize the breadcrumbs we’ve been leaving ourselves all along, and begin trusting the story that wants to emerge. They talk about: • Being highly visible while still hiding in plain sight • Why Cassidy began journaling as a child and how her relationship with writing evolved • The “cosmic winks” and seemingly small clues that can guide us through reinvention • Moving from telling other people’s stories to claiming your own • The emotional toll of working in breaking news and covering traumatic events • Cassidy’s experience caring for her estranged father at the end of his life • Grief, alcoholism, estrangement, and finding peace without receiving the closure you wanted • Why writing a memoir can require giving yourself permission to own your lived experience • Motherhood, sobriety, and intentionally creating a different kind of family life • Why spirituality doesn’t have to mean being endlessly “easy breezy” • The idea that the shadow isn’t the enemy—and that we can’t surrender what we haven’t first acknowledged • How to begin writing when you don’t have huge blocks of uninterrupted time • Trusting that your story is worth telling before you have proof of where it will lead Cassidy also shares a powerful reminder for anyone who feels intimidated by the idea of writing: start smaller than the big picture. A voice memo, an iPhone note, ten minutes stolen from an otherwise full day—all of it counts. The work can accumulate before you ever know exactly what it is becoming. As Cassidy puts it, “The shadow is also where the medicine is that you’re seeking. You cannot surrender what you have not identified and acknowledged.” Connect with Cassidy Learn more about Cosmic Goodness: Surrendering the Shadows to Live in the Light at CosmicGoodness.com. Follow Cassidy on Instagram at @cassidygard. Cosmic Goodness is available wherever books are sold. If you read it, consider leaving a review on Amazon or Goodreads—reviews can make a meaningful difference for debut authors. Connect with Anna Follow Anna on Instagram: @anna_holtzman Learn more about Anna’s work: www.annaholtzman.com Send Anna an email and tell her what stayed with you from this episode: [email protected]

In this episode, Anna sits down with Australian botanical artist and creative mentor Ros Gervay to explore what it actually looks like to build a thriving creative life grounded not in hustle, but in capacity, compassion, and sustainable momentum. In this episode, we explore: • The story behind “Paint Rest Repeat” Why Ros insists that rest is a core business strategy, how she learned it the hard way, and why true artistic growth doesn’t come from pushing — but from honoring your actual bandwidth. • How Ros balances creativity, business, and wellbeing Especially for sensitive creatives and folks with chronic stress responses, we talk about how to create, grow, and share your work without overwhelming your nervous system. • The challenges emerging artists face most Including fear of visibility, perfectionism, comparison, pricing fears, creative paralysis, and the belief that they need to “earn” their right to call themselves an artist. • How Ros helps artists move through those barriers Through community, mindset work, permission-giving, capacity-based planning, and reminding them that they’re allowed to build a business that actually fits them. • What lights Ros up most about her work today Hint: it has everything to do with witnessing artists come home to their own voice, trust themselves, and grow in ways that feel aligned — not forced. This episode is equal parts grounding and inspiring — a gentle permission slip to build your creative life in a way that honors your whole self. Connect with Ros • Shop Art: www.rosgervayart.com • For Artists: www.permissiontopaint.co • Artist Community: www.facebook.com/groups/permissiontopaintfreecommunity • Podcast: https://www.permissiontopaint.co/podcast • Instagram: @rosgervayart • Facebook: @rosgervayart • YouTube: @rosgervay Connect with Anna • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_holtzman/ • Website: https://www.annaholtzman.com/ • Free workshop — Let Yourself Be Seen: https://www.annaholtzman.com/beseen

In this episode, Anna sits down with Lara Birk, PDH, founder of The Sage Practice and one of the most thoughtful, compassionate, and courageous voices in mind-body healing today. Lara’s work is rooted in lived experience: her own journey through a rare medical condition as a teenager, 17 surgeries, structural complications, chronic pain, and decades of navigating a system that often has no place for complexity. Her mission is to expand the field of mind-body medicine so that more people see themselves represented — and more people can access hope. In this episode, we talk about: • The behind-the-scenes of her recent Curable interview Why speaking publicly felt both empowering and terrifying — and what it took emotionally to step onto a platform where her perspective diverged from the status quo. • Navigating fear before doing something that might “rock the boat” The internal dialogue, the nervous-system responses, the questions of belonging, and the ways Lara grounded herself through the lead-up to that conversation. • Why she chose to speak up anyway The deeper calling beneath the personal fear — including representation, inclusion, integrity, and service to the people whose experiences mirror her own. • How it feels now that the interview is out in the world Relief, vulnerability, pride, activation — and the tender mix that comes when you’ve put your truth somewhere public. • What she’s learning from the emotional aftermath How this moment is shaping her personal journey, her self-trust, and her evolving voice as a leader inside her field. • Her message to anyone considering sharing their own truth Her advice on pacing, nervous-system safety, self-attunement, community support, and the reality that you don’t have to be fearless — just resourced enough to take the next step. This is a beautiful conversation about courage, nuance, authenticity, and what it means to become visible in a way that honors who you really are. Connect with Lara • Website: https://www.thesagepractice.com/ • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesagepractice/ Find Lara’s courses, 1:1 and group coaching, somatic tracking recordings, and extensive free resources on her website. Connect with Anna • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_holtzman/ • Website: https://www.annaholtzman.com/ • Free workshop — Let Yourself Be Seen: https://www.annaholtzman.com/beseen

Have you ever caught yourself thinking: "I shouldn't complain. Other people have it so much worse." Or... "I have so much to be grateful for. I shouldn't feel this way." If so, you're not alone. In this solo episode, Anna explores why these seemingly innocent thoughts can actually become a form of emotional self-censorship. While gratitude is a beautiful and important practice, it can sometimes be used—often without us realizing it—to invalidate our own emotional experience. Drawing from her work as a therapist, Anna explains how many people learn to interrupt their feelings before they've had the chance to be fully experienced. Whether you've been the strong one, the capable one, the caretaker, the successful one, or simply the person everyone assumes is "doing fine," you may have internalized the belief that your struggles don't deserve the same compassion as everyone else's. In this episode, Anna explores: • Why asking "Does my suffering count?" may actually be the wrong question • The difference between genuine gratitude and emotional invalidation • Why so many of us mistake expressing our feelings for "complaining" • How emotional self-censorship becomes a habit • The connection between chronic emotional suppression, anxiety, burnout, and mind-body symptoms • What Anna means by the phrase disenfranchised suffering • How practicing unconditional self-compassion supports emotional healing If you've ever felt guilty for struggling because your life looks good on the outside—or if you've found yourself minimizing your own pain because others have it worse—this episode offers a compassionate invitation to stop judging your emotions and start listening to them instead. Resources & Links: Learn more about Anna's therapy practice: https://www.annaholtzmantherapy.com Follow Anna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_holtzman/ If this episode resonated with you, please consider following the podcast, leaving a rating or review, and sharing it with someone who might need to hear this reminder: your emotions do not have to earn the right to be met with compassion.

In this episode, Anna sits down with Mari Reisberg, therapist, performer, creativity coach, and host of the Sustaining Creativity Podcast. Mari’s work lives at the intersection of somatic therapy, performance, and play — and her core belief is simple: life gets a lot more fun when we tap into our creativity. Together, they explore how creativity shows up in everyday life (even for people who don’t think of themselves as “creative”), why so many of us feel blocked or disconnected from it, and what it actually takes to sustain creative energy over the long haul. In this episode, we talk about: • What creativity really is — beyond art, performance, or “talent” • Whether creativity is something we’re born with or something we can grow • Why so many adults feel creatively shut down or “not imaginative anymore” • Common barriers that get in the way of creativity, including perfectionism, fear of judgment, and productivity culture • How nervous system states (freeze, overwhelm, stress) impact creative flow • Why creativity coaching can be so supportive — and what it actually looks like • Simple, doable tools Mari uses to help clients reconnect with their creative selves • How play, movement, and silliness can become powerful creative practices • Practices for sustaining creativity over time instead of only in short bursts • How to start small if you’re feeling blocked, tired, or creatively “out of shape” This is a gentle, joyful invitation to remember that creativity isn’t something you either have or don’t — it’s a relationship you can rebuild, one tiny experiment at a time. Connect with Mari • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sustainingcreativity/ • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sustainingcreativity • Podcast: https://sustainingcreativity.buzzsprout.com • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mari-reisberg-b1320151/ Connect with Anna • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_holtzman/ • Website: https://www.annaholtzman.com/ • Free workshop — Let Yourself Be Seen: https://www.annaholtzman.com/beseen

What if the reason you're feeling stuck isn't that you're not trying hard enough... but that you're trying too hard? In this solo episode, Anna shares one of the most transformative lessons she learned during her own recovery from chronic migraine: "Don't try harder. Try softer." Originally shared by mind-body physician Dr. John Stracks, this simple phrase didn't fully make sense to Anna until one unforgettable migraine attack revealed the surprising way her inner critic had hijacked her healing. She realized she was literally trying to force herself to relax—using pressure, perfectionism, and self-criticism in the hope of calming her nervous system. The irony made her laugh. And that moment of laughter became the beginning of a profound shift—not just in her physical healing, but in the way she relates to herself as a therapist, business owner, partner, and stepmom. In this episode, Anna explores why lasting growth often begins when we stop trying to fix ourselves and start staying on our own side instead. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why trying harder can sometimes keep your nervous system stuck • The surprising role self-compassion played in Anna's chronic migraine recovery • How perfectionism and self-criticism often masquerade as motivation • The difference between pursuing outcomes and changing your relationship with yourself • A simple mindset shift you can practice in any area of life where you feel pressure to "get it right" Whether you're navigating chronic symptoms, burnout, anxiety, relationship struggles, or simply feeling like you're never doing enough, this episode offers a gentler—and often more effective—way forward. Connect with Anna If this episode resonated with you, Anna would love to hear your thoughts. 📧 Email: [email protected] Interested in working together? Learn more about therapy, coaching, and Anna's Seen & Safe group at: https://www.annaholtzman.com If you enjoyed this episode, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who could use the reminder that sometimes the path forward isn't to try harder—it's to try softer.

In this episode, Anna sits down with Kati Morton, LMFT, bestselling author and one of the internet’s most trusted mental-health educators. Kati has spent more than a decade helping millions of people understand their emotions, navigate trauma, and break unhealthy patterns. Her latest book, Why Do I Keep Doing This?, unpacks the emotional habits we fall into — and what it actually takes to change them from the inside out. In this episode, we explore: • What inspired her new book How Kati sees “doing this” — the patterns, habits, and emotional cycles we repeat — showing up in her own life and in her clients. • The truth that even therapists get stuck Why mental-health professionals aren’t immune to autopilot patterns… and the early signs Kati looks for in herself when she’s drifting away from alignment. • Burnout cycles & nervous-system loops Especially for sensitive creatives, caretakers, and over-functioners: o why burnout often comes from emotional over-responsibility o how chronic self-abandonment masquerades as “being capable” o the biological and psychological loops that keep people stuck o how to tell the difference between capacity and compulsion • What it means to shift safely Kati shares the gentlest places to begin — including micro-bids for rest, nervous-system resets, interrupting old narratives, and slowly rebuilding trust with yourself so change doesn’t feel threatening. • Why shame blocks every kind of healing And what happens when we bring curiosity instead of self-criticism to our patterns. • Practical tools for coming back to yourself From checking in with your body before your to-do list, to noticing emotional “flare alerts,” to using supportive structure without falling into perfectionism. This conversation is validating, clarifying, honest, and deeply hopeful. If you’re tired of your own loops, this one’s for you. Connect with Kati • Website: https://www.katimorton.com/ • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/katimorton • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katimorton/ • Her books, including Why Do I Keep Doing This?, Are U OK?, and Traumatized Connect with Anna • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_holtzman/ • Website: https://www.annaholtzman.com/ • Free workshop — Let Yourself Be Seen: https://www.annaholtzman.com/beseen

Many of us pride ourselves on being good people. We strive to be helpful, responsible, accommodating, generous, and easy to love. On the surface, these qualities seem unquestionably positive. But what happens when being "good" becomes something we feel compelled to perform in order to earn love, approval, or belonging? In this episode, therapist Anna Holtzman explores the concept of goodism—a term coined by mind-body physician Dr. John Sarno to describe the tendency to organize our identity around being good. Drawing from both her personal life and her work with therapy clients, Anna explores how goodism can show up as perfectionism, people-pleasing, over-achieving, over-giving, and chronic self-monitoring. She also examines the hidden toll these patterns can take on our nervous systems, relationships, and physical health. If you've ever found yourself wondering: • Am I doing enough? • What do other people need from me? • Will I still be loved if I disappoint someone? • Why do I feel so exhausted, resentful, or disconnected from myself? ...this episode is for you. In this episode, you'll learn: • What "goodism" is and how it differs from genuine kindness • How people-pleasing and over-functioning can become stress responses • Why chronic adaptation to others can keep your nervous system stuck in survival mode • How goodism can contribute to burnout, chronic stress, and stress-related symptoms • Why becoming the "supporting character" in your own life is so costly • A simple practice to help you reconnect with yourself and begin stepping back into the role of main character in your own life Reflection Questions: • In what area of your life are you living as a supporting character rather than the main character? • What would it look like to put yourself first today? If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you. You can reach me at [email protected]. Connect with me: Website: www.annaholtzmantherapy.com Instagram: @anna_holtzman If you're enjoying the podcast, please consider following, rating, or leaving a review. It helps more listeners discover the show.

In this episode, Anna sits down with Naomi Vladeck, founder of Creativity Matters Coaching and author of Braving Creativity. Naomi brings over two decades of experience working with creative professionals in the nonprofit arts world, combined with her own background as a performer, writer, and solo parent. Her work helps artists navigate the emotional terrain of change, uncertainty, and reinvention with compassion and courage. In this episode, we explore: • The meaning behind her book, Braving Creativity What it means to “brave” creativity, why the creative path is inherently scary and thrilling, and what inspired Naomi to collect the stories of artists navigating profound life change. • Why creativity is not optional — and never has been How Naomi reframes creativity as a life force, a coping mechanism, a spiritual path, and a way of making sense of being human. • The fears and barriers creatives face, including: o perfectionism o comparison o identity transitions o burnout o grief o fear of beginning again o fear of wanting something different • How she helps clients move through fear Naomi shares her approach to coaching: slowing down, returning to presence, finding safety in the body, interrupting old narratives, and practicing “micro-bravery” — small acts of courage that unlock momentum. • What happens inside the “messy middle” How to stay with yourself through ambiguity, doubt, and the long arc of becoming. • Creativity as companionship Naomi’s perspective on creative practice as something that can hold you, grow with you, and become a stabilizing force during major life transitions. This is a conversation about resilience, reinvention, and the quiet, courageous choices that shape our creative lives. Connect with Naomi • Website: https://www.creativitymatter scoaching.com/ • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/creativitymatterscoaching/ • Naomi’s book Braving Creativity: https://www.creativitymatterscoaching.com/braving-creativity Connect with Anna • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_holtzman/ • Website: https://www.annaholtzman.com/ • Free workshop — Let Yourself Be Seen: https://www.annaholtzman.com/beseen

Why can opening up feel so hard, even when connection is exactly what we want? In this solo episode, Anna reflects on a recent experience that unexpectedly cracked something open in her: an intimate dinner conversation with a cousin that led to a moment of tenderness, vulnerability, and surprising emotional healing. Although Anna has done years of therapy and personal growth work around painful experiences from her past, she found herself unexpectedly caught off guard by something deeper: how difficult it still felt to receive empathy. This episode explores the subtle ways we learn to protect ourselves after heartbreak, rejection, misunderstanding, or emotional pain — and how those protective patterns, while understandable, can quietly keep us from the belonging we most long for. Drawing from both personal experience and the novel Carrie Soto Is Back by Taylor Jenkins Reid, Anna explores: • Why vulnerability can feel emotionally risky • How painful past experiences shape our nervous system and expectations of others • The hidden ways self-protection can keep us disconnected • Why receiving empathy can sometimes feel just as vulnerable as sharing pain • The difference between overwhelming vulnerability and thoughtful, nervous-system-safe openness • How to begin taking small risks toward deeper connection and belonging If you've ever found yourself longing for closeness while also keeping your guard up, this episode is for you. Reflection Questions from This Episode: • What am I actually trying to protect myself from? • Are my present circumstances truly evidence that the past will repeat itself? • What might it feel like to receive empathy, understanding, or care? • Who is one thoughtfully chosen person I might take a small risk to open up to? Want support in building greater self-trust, connection, and emotional safety? Anna offers private therapy for women in New York and therapeutic coaching outside New York. Learn more at https://linktr.ee/annaholtzman Interested in practicing vulnerability and visibility in community? Learn more about Anna’s group, Seen & Safe, at: www.annaholtzman.com/seen-and-safe

In this episode, Anna sits down with Stephanie Thoma, speaker coach, author of Confident Introvert and Not That Sweet, and founder of Connect With Confidence. Stephanie helps introverts and rising leaders craft keynote talks, strengthen their messaging, build speaking schedules, and — most importantly — connect with people in a way that feels meaningful rather than performative. Stephanie is not in the business of polishing people into “perfect” speakers. She helps them root into who they already are, speak from truth, and create connection instead of performance. In this episode, we talk about: • Why the idea that “public speaking is for extroverts” is completely false • What makes introverts powerful, resonant speakers — often more compelling than extroverts • Why Stephanie cares so deeply about helping quieter voices step forward and be heard • The fears clients come in with: o fear of judgment o fear of blanking out o fear of “taking up space” o fear of being boring or “too much” o fear of being seen as an authority • The nervous-system dynamics behind speaking anxiety • How Stephanie helps people regulate, reframe, and root into safety before they ever get on stage • The tools she uses with clients — including confidence mapping, energy calibration, embodied presence, intention-setting, and speaking from connection instead of perfection • Why being a great speaker is about meaning not performance • Stories of clients who went from terrified to empowered — including introverts who now lead teams, deliver keynotes, and speak with grounded confidence • Why visibility is not a personality trait — it’s a practiced skill anyone can grow This episode is an invitation to unmute yourself, meet your fear with compassion, and step into the kind of speaking that feels like you. Connect with Stephanie • Website: https://stephaniethoma.com/ • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephaniemthoma/ • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniemthoma/ • Join her UnMute Yourself community: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/14699045/ Connect with Anna • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_holtzman/ • Website: https://www.annaholtzman.com/ • Free workshop — Let Yourself Be Seen: https://www.annaholtzman.com/beseen

What do you do when fear takes over? How do you trust yourself when your nervous system is fully activated? And how do you move through moments of fear without swinging to one of two extremes: reacting impulsively in an attempt to regain safety… or overriding your own experience and convincing yourself everything is fine? In this deeply personal solo episode, Anna explores what happens internally when fear, self-doubt, attachment wounds, and conflicting inner parts all begin speaking at once. Because often the hardest moments in life aren’t the external events themselves. It’s the inner grappling that follows. The part of you that wants reassurance. The part that wants to protect. The part that feels ashamed for having needs. The part that questions your own perception. Through the lens of a recent emotionally activating experience, Anna shares what it looked like to navigate fear in real time — not perfectly, but honestly — and what emerged about nervous system regulation, self-trust, emotional repair, and staying connected to yourself while messy and uncertain. This episode is not about getting it “right.” It’s about what it looks like to stay in relationship with yourself when you feel activated, conflicted, scared, and human. In this episode, we explore: • The difference between overreacting from fear and underreacting from fear — and how both can disconnect us from ourselves • What happens in the nervous system when we feel emotionally threatened or unsafe • How attachment stories and old fears quietly shape our reactions • Why conflicting inner parts can make self-trust feel confusing in difficult moments • Why emotional activation doesn’t mean something is wrong with you • What emotional repair can actually look like after hard moments • How to navigate inner conflict without abandoning yourself • Why “good enough” emotional processing matters more than perfection If you’ve ever spiraled, second-guessed yourself, struggled to know whether your feelings were valid, or felt caught between fear and self-abandonment, this episode is for you. Connect with Anna: 📧 [email protected] 🌐 annaholtzman.com 📸 @anna_holtzman If this episode resonated, Anna would love to hear what landed for you.