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Does sexual pleasure actually fade with age, or have we been asking the wrong questions? Host Michelle sits down with Kinsey Institute Senior Scientist Dr. Cynthia Graham to bust the biggest myths around menopause, masturbation, and sex after 60. Drawing on global research, Dr. Graham reveals why orgasm quality often improves with age, how solo play can ease menopause symptoms like poor sleep and mood swings, and practical ways to navigate shifting desire and keep intimacy thriving. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Sexual pleasure doesn't have an expiration date.Masturbation may offer benefits during menopause.Sexual health needs to be part of routine healthcare at every age.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 – UK study findings on masturbation taboos among young women 00:12 – Introduction of Dr. Cynthia Graham 01:02 – Debunking the myth that sexual pleasure has an expiration date 01:53 – Dr. Cynthia Graham's career origin story and early contraceptive research 02:51 – The European six-country study on sexuality in older adults 03:47 – What keeps sexual science researchers excited 04:08 – Data insights on sexuality, aging, and intimacy in older adults 07:31 – Historical gaps in older adult sexual health research 08:49 – Motivation for studying sex toy use in women aged 60+ 09:50 – Study results: Orgasm quality and ease among aging women 11:40 – Prevalence of sex toy usage: Solo sex vs. partnered sex 14:02 – Clinical guidance for healthcare providers to normalize pleasure topics 14:56 – Using masturbation for menopause symptom relief (sleep, mood shifts) 17:19 – Research findings on factors that enhance and inhibit sexual arousal 18:41 – Best practices for doctors taking a sexual health history 20:48 – Enhancing pleasure in older age: Planned sex vs. spontaneous desire 22:58 – Critical views on pharmaceutical interventions for low female desire 25:19 – Sexual communication as a primary predictor of sexual satisfaction 25:56 – Current trends in sex research publishing 26:47 – Future research topics: Contraceptive misinformation on social media 28:30 – Rapid-fire lightning round with Dr. Cynthia Graham 31:27 – Message for the next generation of sexual health researchers RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: Research and Professional Organizations Dr. Cynthia Graham — Clinical psychologist, Senior Scientist at the Kinsey Institute, and Editor-in-Chief of The Journal of Sex Research. The Kinsey Institute — Research institute dedicated to the study of human sexuality, relationships, and well-being. The Journal of Sex Research — Peer-reviewed journal publishing interdisciplinary research on human sexuality. Dr. Justin Lehmiller — Sexual-health researcher and collaborator on the menopause and masturbation studies. Sexual Health Alliance — Professional education and certification in sex therapy, sex coaching, sexuality counseling, sex education, and sexology. Related Sexology Lab Conversation About Sexual Health Alliance The Menopause Study That Had Women Self-Pleasuring 3–4 Times a Week | Dr. Justin Lehmiller | Episode 31 Continue exploring the research with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, who discusses the menopause studies, self-pleasure, orgasm, sleep, and what the findings could mean for women's sexual health. ABOUT SEXUAL HEALTH ALLIANCE: This episode of The Sexology Lab is sponsored by Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a global leader in professional sexual-health education since 2015. SHA provides certification programs in sex therapy, sex coaching, sexuality counseling, sex education, and sexology. Through education from leading experts, immersive learning experiences, and an international community of professionals, SHA helps advance the field of sexual health. Dr. Cynthia Graham has previously presented educational programming for SHA and shares her positive experience working with its engaged community of students and professionals. Explore professional education and certification opportunities at Sexual Health Alliance.

Can cannabis actually improve your sex life? In Episode 37 of The Sexology Lab, host Michelle Melville-Kashon sits down with researcher Amanda Moser to discuss her nationwide study on cannabis and sexual functioning. Amanda shares her journey researching cannabis and sex across adults ages 18 to 85. Participants reported increased desire, easier orgasms, and heightened sensory experiences like touch and taste. However, Amanda notes these self-reported findings depend on dosage, tolerance, and consumption methods. They also cover legislative challenges and clinical implications. Ultimately, pleasure isn't just about the finish line; it's about the moment. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Cannabis use was associated with increased sexual pleasure and orgasm satisfaction.Cannabis affects people differently, and more research is needed.Being present during sex may matter more than achieving orgasm.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 – Cannabis, Sexual Functioning & Industry Stigma 01:06 – Meet Amanda Moser ("Stoner Barbie") & Academic Background 02:47 – Bridging Cannabis & Human Sexuality Research 03:34 – Legal Challenges, Stigma & Barriers in North Carolina 05:34 – Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) Sexology Certification 06:09 – Historical Cannabis & Sex Literature Gap 07:36 – Nationwide Social Media Study Methodology 08:31 – Participant Demographics & Demystifying User Stigma 09:14 – Cannabis vs. Alcohol: Sexual Decision-Making 10:25 – Impact on Libido, Desire & Orgasm Frequency 11:33 – Enhanced Masturbation & Physical Response Cycles 12:17 – Erectile Dysfunction Myths, Tolerance & Dosage 13:08 – Sensuality Enhancement: Touch, Taste & Satisfaction 13:37 – Mindfulness, Blood Flow & Psychological Relaxation 15:08 – Universal Applicability Across Genders & Age Demographics 16:14 – Foreplay, Intimacy & Consumption Safety 17:14 – Medical Marijuana: Orgasmic Disorder & Endometriosis Pain 19:41 – Sexy Practice Guide & Sexology Resources 20:20 – Double-Blind Clinical Trials & Legal Hurdles 21:17 – Beginner Advice: "Start Low, Go Slow" Protocol 23:36 – Indica vs. Sativa vs. Hybrid Strain Effects 24:50 – Lightning Round: Books, Travel & Hobbies 26:43 – Mindfulness, Presence & Retiring Cannabis Myths 28:05 – Advice to Next Generation: Authenticity & Communication RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: Research and Professional Resources Amanda Moser — Sexologist, researcher, and educator studying the relationship between cannabis use and sexual functioning. Cannabis and Sexual Functioning Research — Amanda's nationwide self-report study examining cannabis use in relation to sexual desire, orgasm, masturbation, sexual satisfaction, and sensory experiences. Sexual Health Alliance — Professional education and certification programs in sex therapy, sex coaching, sexuality counseling, sex education, and sexology. ABOUT SEXUAL HEALTH ALLIANCE: This episode of The Sexology Lab is sponsored by Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a global leader in professional sexual-health education since 2015. SHA offers certification programs in sex therapy, sex coaching, sexuality counseling, sex education, and sexology. Through education from leading experts, immersive learning experiences, and a global professional community, SHA helps professionals develop the knowledge and skills needed to advance sexual health. Research into emerging topics such as cannabis and sexual functioning demonstrates why evidence-based education is essential for professionals working with diverse sexual-health concerns. Explore Sexual Health Alliance's certification programs and discover opportunities to learn from leading researchers, clinicians, and educators. The content shared by the Sexology Lab and its speakers is for educational, informational, and professional development purposes only. Always consult with a qualified professional regarding personal health or clinical situations.

What does it take to become a sex coach in a culture where talking about sex is still considered taboo? In this episode of The Sexology Lab, Michelle sits down with Irene Cheung, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Coach based in Hong Kong and creator of Playtime Talk, to explore the cultural barriers, misconceptions, and opportunities shaping sexual-health education in Asia. Irene shares how her own struggles with partnered orgasms inspired her to pursue sex coaching and why she left a career in business and brand management to help others explore intimacy and pleasure. After hearing clients at her former beauty salon open up about their sexual concerns, she realized just how few opportunities people in Hong Kong had to discuss sexuality without judgment. Together, Michelle and Irene explore the influence of traditional Chinese family values, gender expectations, and pornography on sexual attitudes. They discuss why women often struggle to advocate for their pleasure, why men feel pressured to perform, and how shame prevents couples from having honest conversations about sex. Irene also takes us behind the scenes of building a sex coaching business in Hong Kong, from social media censorship and podcasting to certification, financial sustainability, and creating a professional community. KEY TAKEAWAYS:  Sexual shame and gender expectations are creating barriers to pleasure.Pornography is not a substitute for sex education.Building a sex coaching career requires education, community, and a sustainable business model.SHOW SUMMARY: 03:02 – Hong Kong Sexual Taboos & Demand 05:00 – Cultural Stigma & Media Portrayal 07:36 – Pornography & Male Performance Misconceptions 08:47 – Client Shame & Safe Coaching Spaces 09:47 – Normalizing Erectile Dysfunction & Pressure 11:46 – Building a Niche Coaching Practice 13:29 – Social Media & YouTube Marketing 13:42 – Female Pleasure & Autonomy 15:08 – Body Shame & Slut-Shaming Recovery 17:03 – Female Orgasm Myths & Realities 18:41 – Consent, Communication, & Faking Orgasms 21:39 – Sensual Exploration & Body Appreciation 23:31 – Passion & Purpose in Sexual Wellness 24:10 – Future of Sex Education in Hong Kong 26:23 – Online Harassment & Parental Support RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: Playtime Talk — Irene's podcast and video platform exploring sexual-health education, intimacy, taboos, and common misconceptions in Hong Kong.Sexual Health Alliance — Professional sexual-health education and certification programs.SHA Sex Coach/Sexologist Certification — The professional certification pathway Irene discusses completing.ABOUT SEXUAL HEALTH ALLIANCE: This episode of The Sexology Lab is sponsored by Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a global leader in professional sexual-health education since 2015. SHA offers certification programs in sex therapy, sex coaching, sexuality counseling, sex education, and sexology. Through education from leading experts, immersive learning experiences, and an international professional community, SHA helps people develop the knowledge and connections needed to build meaningful careers in sexual health. Irene Cheung completed SHA's Sex Coach/Sexologist Certification and shares how the program's research-based curriculum, expert educators, and professional community helped prepare her to establish her practice in Hong Kong. She also discusses the impact of attending SHA's Annual Sexological Conference in Denver, where she connected with leading researchers, educators, and other sexual-health professionals. Explore Sexual Health Alliance's certification programs and learn more about becoming a sexual-health professional. Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! SexologyLab.com⁠. The content shared by the Sexology Lab and its speakers is for educational, informational, and professional development purposes only. Always consult with a qualified professional regarding personal health or clinical situations.

What can data and engineering teach us about orgasms, arousal, and women's sexual health? In this conversation, the host sits down with Anna Lee, co-founder and CEO of Lioness, to discuss how her transition from an Amazon mechanical engineer to a sex tech innovator led to building one of the world's largest physiological datasets on female sexual function. What started as an effort to build a better vibrator evolved into a mission to bridge the immense research gap in female pleasure and empower individuals through body literacy. Anna shares insights on what pelvic floor contractions reveal about orgasms, the surprising trends hidden within hundreds of thousands of sessions, and how factors like edging, THC, caffeine, and alcohol impact pleasure. The discussion also covers the systemic challenges of building a business in the tabood sex tech industry, navigating investor biases, overcoming cultural stigma, and the future role of AI in sexual wellness. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Knowledge is pleasure.Orgasm data fills a massive scientific gapOvercoming industry taboo requires direct communication.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 – The "Magic Pill" for Better Orgasms 01:36 – Meet Anna Lee, CEO of Lioness 02:02 – From Amazon Mechanical Engineer to Sex Tech Pioneer 05:36 – What is Lioness? 06:12 – The Science of Measuring Orgasms 07:01 – Closing the Research Gap on Female Pleasure 08:43 – Surprising Trends from 500,000+ Orgasm Sessions 11:48 – What Factors Impact Orgasm Quality? 14:08 – Could Orgasms Be a "Canary in the Coal Mine" for Health? 17:15 – Empowering Relationships Through Body Literacy 20:22 – The Role of AI in the Future of Sex Tech 22:37 – The Challenges of Building a Sex Tech Business 24:48 – Pitching Orgasm Data to Investors 26:50 – Becoming a Public Face for Asian-American Sexual Wellness 28:16 – Lightning Round: Desk Trinkets, Mechanical Keyboards, and Industry Favorites RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: Anna Lee — Mechanical engineer, co-founder, and CEO of Lioness. https://www.instagram.com/annaisaverage/?hl=en Lioness — The biofeedback vibrator tracking arousal and orgasm data. https://lioness.io/ SEXUAL HEALTH ALLIANCE: Sexual Health Alliance is the sponsor of The Sexology Lab and a global leader in education for sex therapy, coaching, counseling, sex education, and sexology. Explore the Community: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ Certifications: ⁠https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertifications SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW: If you enjoyed this conversation, subscribe to The Sexology Lab on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen. And if something in this episode challenged what you thought you knew about menopause, pleasure, or sexuality and aging, share it with someone who needs to hear it 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! The content shared by SHA and its speakers is for educational, informational, and professional development purposes only. Always consult with a qualified professional regarding personal health or clinical situations.

What can dominatrixes teach us about confidence, negotiation, boundaries, and getting what we want in life? More than you might think. In this conversation, Michelle sits down with Lindsay Goldwert, journalist, author, and podcast host, to explore the surprising lessons she learned while researching her book Bow Down: Lessons from Dominatrixes on How to Get Everything You Want. What began as an unconventional idea for a book about money and professional success became a much bigger exploration of power, self-advocacy, consent, communication, and personal transformation. Lindsay shares how meeting professional dominatrixes challenged her assumptions about authority and helped her recognize the importance of knowing what you want, asking for it, and refusing to make yourself smaller. The conversation also examines the financial discrimination and censorship experienced by sex workers, and why their experiences deserve greater attention. Lindsay and Michelle also explore changing sexuality in midlife, perimenopause, relationship expectations, and the pressure to maintain a particular kind of sex life. From redefining pleasure to replacing obligatory sex with meaningful intimacy, this conversation challenges the idea that confidence, desire, and personal reinvention belong only to the young. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Power begins with knowing what you want and communicating it.Sexuality and identity can evolve throughout adulthood. Intimacy doesn't have to mean intercourse.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 – Lindsay Goldwert & Self-Advocacy in Midlife 01:48 – Inspiration Behind Writing About Sex, Kink & Relationships 02:43 – Writing Bow Down: Financial Literacy meets BDSM Philosophy 05:03 – Sex Work, Financial Censorship & Early Warnings 06:38 – Key Takeaway: Creating Your Personal "Ten Commandments" 08:53 – The Midlife Plot Twist: Rethinking Perimenopause & Aging 12:24 – Evolutionary Stress & Modern Sex Lives 14:38 – Sex Playlists & Reclaiming Your Essential Self 15:15 – Lightning Round: Writing Advice & Inspiration 18:55 – Sensuality in Daily Life & Desk Essentials 20:19 – Future Guest Recommendations for Sexology Lab 21:08 – Standout Experience with Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: Lindsay Goldwert — Journalist, author, and podcast host. https://www.lindsaygoldwert.com/  Bow Down: Lessons from Dominatrixes on How to Get Everything You Want — Lindsay's book exploring confidence, power, consent, and negotiation. SEXUAL HEALTH ALLIANCE: Sexual Health Alliance is the sponsor of The Sexology Lab and a global leader in education for sex therapy, coaching, counseling, sex education, and sexology. Explore the Community: ⁠⁠https://sexualhealthalliance.com/⁠⁠Certifications: ⁠https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertifications⁠⁠Join Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026! As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative. Secure your conference pass: ⁠⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/amplify⁠⁠SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW: If you enjoyed this conversation, subscribe to The Sexology Lab on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen. And if something in this episode challenged what you thought you knew about menopause, pleasure, or sexuality and aging, share it with someone who needs to hear it. 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! ⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/⁠ The content shared by SHA and its speakers is for educational, informational, and professional development purposes only. Always consult with a qualified professional regarding personal health or clinical situations.

What if the traits that make a man incredibly successful at work are the same ones making intimacy harder? Coral Osborne joins The Sexology Lab to explore what she has learned about high-achieving men through her experiences as a former escort, sexologist, coach, and someone who has spent years studying the intersection of sexuality, psychology, relationships, and masculinity. Coral says she repeatedly encountered successful men who could lead companies, negotiate deals, and maintain control professionally—but struggled when relationships demanded vulnerability, uncertainty, emotional honesty, and the possibility of rejection. This conversation goes far beyond the bedroom. Coral and Michelle explore "nice guy syndrome," shame-based achievement, the manosphere and red pill spaces, modern masculinity, male loneliness, vulnerability, infidelity, sexual shame, pattern recognition, and why sexuality can reveal much more about us than what we like sexually. Coral also shares how being doxxed as a sex worker ultimately led her to sexology, the coaching methodology she developed from her own experience, what she has learned from working with men, and why Sexual Health Alliance became one of the first places she felt fully accepted. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Professional success and relational success require different skills.Vulnerability isn't forced disclosure or "trauma dumping."Sexual concerns can be an entry point into something much deeper.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 - Masculine Approval Dynamics & Introduction of Coral Osborne 01:31 - Origin Story: Sex Work, Doxing, & Sexology Discovery 02:37 - Men's Struggle with Intimacy & Relationship Disconnect 05:12 - Dark Motivation & Challenges Facing High-Performing Men 08:04 - Nice Guy Syndrome & Blind Spots in Men's Intimacy 09:11 - Defining Healthy Masculinity 11:13 - Masculinity & Vulnerability Misconceptions 12:08 - Coaching Model & Shame Release Methodology 13:59 - Pattern Recognition, Desires, & Fear Excavation 16:08 - Fieldwork, Micro-Truths, & Support Ecosystems 20:03 - The Next Man Up Podcast Origin & Dynamic 22:25 - Impact of Sexology on Relationship Understanding 24:23 - Psychological Bodywork & SHA Conference Presentations 27:37 - Lightning Round: Success, Books, & Guest Recommendations RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: Coral Osborne: https://coralosborne.com/ The Next Man Up podcast: https://coralosborne.com/pod Dr. David Ley: https://www.sexologylab.com/episodes/forensic-sexuality-bias-sex-laws-david-ley Dr. Chris Donaghue: https://www.sexologylab.com/episodes/sexual-bypassing-myth-of-normal-dr-chris-donaghue SEXUAL HEALTH ALLIANCE: Sexual Health Alliance is the sponsor of The Sexology Lab and a global leader in education for sex therapy, coaching, counseling, sex education, and sexology. Explore the Community: ⁠⁠https://sexualhealthalliance.com/⁠⁠Certifications: ⁠https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertifications⁠⁠Join Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026! As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative. Secure your conference pass: ⁠⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/amplify⁠⁠SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW: If you enjoyed this conversation, subscribe to The Sexology Lab on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen. And if something in this episode challenged what you thought you knew about menopause, pleasure, or sexuality and aging, share it with someone who needs to hear it. 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! ⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/⁠ The content shared by SHA and its speakers is for educational, informational, and professional development purposes only. Always consult with a qualified professional regarding personal health or clinical situations.

What happens when researchers ask women going through menopause to self-pleasure three to four times a week—for months? Dr. Justin Lehmiller joins The Sexology Lab to unpack his latest research on menopause, masturbation, orgasm, and sexual health. His team first surveyed pre-, peri-, and post-menopausal women, then designed a longitudinal study that included an abstinence period followed by regular self-pleasure. The results challenge some of our biggest assumptions about sexuality and aging. Justin explains why menopause doesn't automatically mean worse pleasure, which symptoms appeared to improve during the study, and why orgasm and better sleep may be part of the story. We also get into vibrator myths, erotic flexibility, why doctors need to become more comfortable discussing pleasure, and why expanding our definition of intimacy may become increasingly important as we age. Later, Justin shares what he's researching next, the sexual-health books he recommends, what's actually on a sex researcher's desk, and why he loves leading Sexual Health Alliance's international study abroad programs. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Menopause does not mean the end of pleasure. Regular self-pleasure was associated with improvements in menopause symptoms.Sexual health needs to be part of healthcare.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 - Dr. Justin Lehmiller Introduction 01:41 - Origin of the Menopause & Masturbation Study 04:07 - Why Sexual Pleasure in Aging is Taboo 04:57 - Study 1: Masturbation vs. Orgasm Frequency in Post-Menopausal Women 06:53 - Why Orgasms Can Improve After Menopause 08:42 - Generational Differences & Medical Education Gaps 11:25 - Study 2: Can Masturbation Relieve Menopause Symptoms? 14:08 - The Neurological & Physical Power of Orgasm 15:50 - Customizing Pleasure & Sex Toy Learning Curves 19:23 - Debunking Anti-Masturbation Sentiment & Clitoral Desensitization 23:20 - Integrating Self-Pleasure into Medical Menopause Care  28:11 - Perimenopause Advice & Myth-Busting Hormone Replacement Therapy 31:22 - Expanding the Definition of Sex with Age 34:57 - Rapid Fire / Lightning Round 40:26 - SHA Study Abroad & Global Sexology Communities RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: Dr. Justin Lehmiller, Sex and Psychology Podcast: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/ Dr. Cynthia Graham: https://genderstudies.indiana.edu/about/faculty/graham-cynthia.html Kinsey Institute: https://kinseyinstitute.org/index.html SEXUAL HEALTH ALLIANCE: Sexual Health Alliance is the sponsor of The Sexology Lab and a global leader in education for sex therapy, coaching, counseling, sex education, and sexology. Dr. Justin Lehmiller also directs SHA's international Study Abroad programs, which combine sexual-health education with immersive experiences exploring sexuality, culture, history, and research around the world. Explore the Community: ⁠https://sexualhealthalliance.com/⁠Certifications: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertifications⁠Join Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026! As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative. Secure your conference pass: ⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/amplify⁠SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW: If you enjoyed this conversation, subscribe to The Sexology Lab on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen. And if something in this episode challenged what you thought you knew about menopause, pleasure, or sexuality and aging, share it with someone who needs to hear it. 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! https://www.sexologylab.com/ The content shared by SHA and its speakers is for educational, informational, and professional development purposes only. Always consult with a qualified professional regarding personal health or clinical situations.

When Alyssa Ljubicich joined Netflix's The Circle, producers expected her to play a particular role: the flirty, highly sexualized "sexy girl." But Alyssa was already working in sexual health—and what interested her wasn't performing sexuality for an audience. It was helping people understand their bodies, challenge shame, and build healthier relationships with pleasure. In this episode of The Sexology Lab, Alyssa shares how reality television unexpectedly gave her a platform for a career she was just beginning to build. She talks about being sexualized because of her profession, meeting the Spice Girls, giving her TED Talk The Power in Pleasure, and why she believes sexual-health professionals need real education behind the information they share online. She also explores how movies and television shape our understanding of sexuality, why myths like the hymen as proof of virginity remain so persistent, and what she's learned building a career that combines education, coaching, social media, and brand partnerships. Being a sexual-health professional is not the same as being personally sexualized. Media shapes what we believe is "normal." Training and credibility matter more than ever. SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 – Meet Alyssa Ljubichek 01:46 – Transitioning to Sex Education & Combating Misinformation 03:13 – Sex Coaching Career Paths & Personal Influences 05:13 – Reality TV Casting for Netflix's The Circle 07:23 – Format, Mechanics, and Experiences on The Circle 08:34 – Balancing Producer Expectations with Professional Boundaries 14:41 – Debunking Purity Culture and Virginity Myths 16:25 – TED Talk: History of Female Sexuality and Gynecological Research 21:09 – Hymen Myths and Addressing Backlash on Social Media 22:40 – Pop Culture and Media Literacy in Sexual Health 27:31 – Consulting for Playboy 28:31 – Brand Collaborations with Arya, KY, and Dame 31:55 – Creator Business Strategy and Pitching Brands 38:46 – Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) Certification & Coaching Impact 39:13 – Rapid-Fire Q&A, Routines, and Recommended Educators RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: Alyssa Ljubicich: https://www.instagram.com/alyssaljub/?hl=en The Power in Pleasure TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YAd4Fix4JCU SEXUAL HEALTH ALLIANCE: Alyssa's path into professional sexual-health education began with a commitment to getting credible training behind the platform she had suddenly gained. She chose Sexual Health Alliance for her education and describes SHA's coursework, community, SAR, conferences, and ongoing access to current education as foundational to the work she does today. Sexual Health Alliance is a global leader in education for sex therapy, coaching, counseling, and sex education, supporting professionals in building meaningful careers in sexual health. Explore the Community: ⁠https://sexualhealthalliance.com/⁠Certifications: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertifications⁠Join Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026! As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative. Secure your conference pass: ⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/amplify⁠SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW: If you enjoyed this conversation, subscribe to The Sexology Lab on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen. 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!

What actually happens when actors film a sex scene—and who makes sure intimacy is choreographed, communicated, and consensual? In this episode of The Sexology Lab, intimacy coordinator Jamie Monahan takes us behind the scenes of intimate storytelling in film, television, theater, and audio erotica. Jamie shares what the job really involves day-to-day, why actors often struggle more with voicing intimacy in audio than performing it on camera, and how confidentiality, clear communication, and aftercare help build crucial trust on set. We also dive into Jamie's perspective on why intimacy coordination goes beyond just stopping harm, how actors can detach from heavy emotional roles, why younger generations aren't anti-sex on screen but want authentic representation, and how media serves as real-world sex education. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Audio Intimacy vs. On-Camera Intimacy: Actors are often more confident physically acting out a scene of intimacy than voicing it.A Day in the Life of an Intimacy Coordinator: The job starts long before filming,Confidentiality Builds Safety: Actors often share private details or anxieties. IIntimacy Coordination Is Artistry, Not Policing: A common myth is that intimacy coordinators exist to police sets. Younger Audiences Want Better Representation: Gen Z isn't uninterested in intimacy in media; rather, they reject formulaic scenes that lack purpose.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 – Audio Drama Intimacy vs. Film and TV 00:27 – Meet Jamie Monahan & Introduction 01:11 – Aftercare, Mental Health, and Leaving the Role on Set 03:52 – What Intimacy Coordinators Actually Look For on the Monitors 05:18 – A Day in the Life of an Intimacy Coordinator: From Prep to Set 08:04 – Choreographing the Scene: On-the-Fly Adjustments and Script Writing 11:05 – Why Voicing Intimacy in Audio Is Harder Than Acting It on Camera 13:44 – The Vocal Technique of Sensual Sound and Lower Registers 14:28 – LIGHTNING ROUND: Awkward Props, Myths, and On-Set Signals 16:39 – Humor vs. Vulnerability During Intimate Filming 17:41 – The Power of Confidentiality and Trust with Actors 20:38 – Media as Sex Education and the Future of Authentic Human Connection RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, the premier global hub for accredited sexology certifications, evidence-based continuing education (CE/CEU), and an expansive international network of therapists, healthcare providers, educators, and sexuality professionals.Learn directly from industry pioneers and leading voices in modern sexual wellness: Explore the Community: ⁠https://sexualhealthalliance.com/⁠Certifications: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertifications⁠Join Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026! As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative. Secure your conference pass: ⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/amplify⁠Resources, people, and projects discussed in this episode: Jamie Monahan: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm5536708/  Ember and Ice: https://www.tryquinn.com/series/ember-and-ice  Heated Rivalry: https://www.instagram.com/heatedrivalrycrave/?hl=en  Chala Hunter: https://www.chalahunter.com/  Intimacy Directors and Coordinators (IDC): https://www.idcprofessionals.com/  If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us continue bringing thoughtful conversations about sexuality, relationships, culture, media, and human behavior to listeners around the world. 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! https://www.sexologylab.com/

What actually happens when actors film a sex scene—and who makes sure intimacy is choreographed, communicated, and consensual? In this episode of The Sexology Lab, intimacy coordinator and intimacy director Jamie Monahan takes us behind the scenes of intimate storytelling in film, television, theater, and audio. Jamie shares how her background as an actor and director led her into intimacy coordination, what the job really involves, and why the role is about much more than preventing something from going wrong. We also dive into Jamie’s work with Quinn Audio on Ember and Ice, featuring Heated Rivalry actors Connor Storrie and Hudson Williams. Jamie explores how intimacy can reveal character, why consent and aftercare matter on and off screen, how audio erotica creates new opportunities for immersive storytelling, and why better representations of intimacy in media can shape the way audiences understand sex itself. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Filming intimacy is far more technical than it looks. An intimacy coordinator is both a creative collaborator and an advocate. Intimate scenes can tell us something important about characters. Consent on screen matters off screen, too. Intimacy coordination isn't only about stopping harm.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 – Why an Actor May Still Need an Intimacy Coordinator 00:27 – Meet Jamie Monahan 01:20 – Jamie's Most Unexpected Fun Fact 01:45 – What Filming a Sex Scene Really Looks Like 03:00 – What Is Quinn Audio? 04:00 – Behind Ember and Ice 04:40 – Romance, War, and the Intimacy Arc 06:05 – When Romance Fandom Crosses Into Audio Erotica 06:55 – Are We in a "Smut Renaissance"? 08:20 – Sex Scenes Should Tell Us Something 09:20 – What Heated Rivalry Does Differently 10:30 – Consent as Character Development 11:35 – Media Is Sex Education, Whether We Like It or Not 13:10 – From Actor and Director to Intimacy Coordinator 14:00 – The Sexual Assault Scene That Changed Her Career 14:40 – "Your Body Doesn't Know the Difference" 15:00 – Discovering a Brand-New Profession 16:20 – Following Curiosity Into a Career 17:30 – What Does an Intimacy Coordinator Actually Do? 18:40 – Why This Role Became Necessary 19:20 – No More Surprise Nudity on Set 20:00 – You Can't Remove Power Dynamics 20:45 – What If an Actor Doesn't Want an Intimacy Coordinator? 21:05 – One Bad Experience Doesn't Define an Entire Profession 22:00 – When the Bigger Star Says, "I Don't Need One" 23:00 – "I Know He's Not a Creep" Misses the Point 24:00 – Making Intimacy Coordination Standard Practice RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, the premier global hub for sexology certifications, evidence-based continuing education (CE/CEU), and an expansive international network of therapists, healthcare providers, educators, and sexuality professionals.Learn directly from industry pioneers and leading voices in modern s//xual wellness: Explore the Community: ⁠https://sexualhealthalliance.com/⁠Certifications: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertifications⁠Join Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026! As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative. Secure your conference pass: ⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/amplify⁠Resources, people, and projects discussed in this episode Jamie Monahan: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm5536708/ Ember and Ice: https://www.tryquinn.com/series/ember-and-ice Heated Rivalry: https://www.instagram.com/heatedrivalrycrave/?hl=en Chala Hunter: https://www.chalahunter.com/ Intimacy Directors and Coordinators (IDC): https://www.idcprofessionals.com/  If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review! 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! https://www.sexologylab.com/

Trauma doesn't stay neatly contained in the past—and it doesn't stay outside the bedroom. In this episode of The Sexology Lab, we sit down with Amanda Jepson, SHA-certified and AASECT-certified sex therapist and trauma specialist, to explore how trauma can shape desire, pleasure, trust, touch, attachment, communication, and relational safety. Amanda explains why trauma-informed sex therapy often requires slowing down, building safety first, and helping clients reconnect with their bodies and sexuality at their own pace. We also talk about affirming care for erotic minorities, the risks of clinician bias, how Amanda chooses between modalities like EMDR, CPT, narrative therapy, CBT, and DBT, and what good care actually looks like for queer, kinky, non-monogamous, disabled, larger-bodied, and otherwise marginalized clients. Plus, Amanda shares how current political realities are showing up in the therapy room—and why community, supervision, curiosity, and ethical self-reflection matter more than ever. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Trauma can affect sexuality even when the trauma itself wasn't sexual. Trust, nervous-system regulation, desire, touch, vulnerability, attachment, and orgasm can all be impacted.Trauma-informed sex therapy moves at the client's pace. Safety and stabilization come first, followed by trauma processing and then deeper reconnection with pleasure, sexuality, and relationships.Clinicians have to examine their own bias. Erotic minorities can be harmed when professionals pathologize, judge, minimize, or over-romanticize identities and behaviors based on their own beliefs instead of listening to the client.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 Trauma & Sexuality 00:42 Erotic Minorities 01:54 Origin Story 04:00 Fluid Labels 04:32 Sensate Focus 05:48 Overcoming Bias 06:58 Clinical Gaps: OCSB 08:26 Taboo Porn & Guilt 12:35 EMDR, CPT & CBT 18:12 Safety & Stabilization 20:21 Fight or Flight vs. Orgasm 23:54 Somatic Coping 25:38 Ready for Reconnection 28:28 Kink, BDSM & CNM Trauma 31:52 Polyamory Affirming Care 36:56 Therapist Humility 38:22 LGBTQ+ Across Politics 45:28 Ethics: Community & Military 46:53 Post-Traumatic Growth 47:54 Rapid Fire Myths & Skills 49:45 SHA Experience RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, the premier global hub for sexology certifications, evidence-based continuing education (CE/CEU), and an expansive international network of therapists, healthcare providers, educators, and sexuality professionals.Learn directly from industry pioneers and leading voices in modern sexual wellness: Explore the Community: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/Certifications: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertificationsJoin Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026! Modern intimacy is evolving. As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative. Secure your conference pass: https://www.sexologylab.com/amplifyResources and concepts discussed in this episode include: Amanda Jepson: https://colorfullifetherapy.com/ Sexual Health Alliance: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ EMDR: https://www.emdria.org/ Tell Me What You Want by Dr. Justin Lehmiller: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/books/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW: If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review. Your support helps us reach more people with thoughtful, evidence-informed conversations about sex, relationships, trauma, and human behavior. 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! https://www.sexologylab.com/

Today in The Lab, we sit down with Dr. Nazanin Moali, licensed clinical psychologist, certified sex therapist, and host of the Sexology Podcast, to unpack one of the most common concerns in modern relationships: low desire. Dr. Moali explains why so many people mistakenly believe something is "wrong" with them when they aren't spontaneously in the mood, and how understanding responsive desire can completely change the way we think about intimacy. We also explore the hidden factors that quietly erode desire—including chronic stress, nervous system dysregulation, emotional safety, body image, mental load, relationship dynamics, and the myth that great sex should always happen effortlessly. Plus, Dr. Moali shares practical strategies couples can use to reconnect, communicate about sex, and cultivate desire over time instead of waiting for it to magically appear. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Most people experience responsive desire, meaning desire often follows arousal—not the other way around—and there's nothing broken about that.Stress, emotional safety, mental load, and disconnection have a profound impact on desire, often more than libido itself.Great sex isn't effortless—it requires communication, curiosity, and intentionally creating the conditions where desire can thrive.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 - 00:44 – Debunking the Myth of Spontaneous Libido vs. Responsive Desire 01:48 – Dr. Nazanin Moali on Clinical Sex Therapy and Modern Intimacy 04:16 – Hollywood Misconceptions: Understanding Responsive Desire in Relationships 06:16 – Nervous System Dysregulation, Burnout, and Low Sexual Drive 08:45 – Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Movement, and Regulating Stress for Pleasure 11:21 – Building Emotional Safety, Healing Trauma, and Overcoming Bodily Disconnection 12:48 – Overcoming Long-Term Relationship Predictability with Erotic Novelty 13:56 – Mapping Your Erotic Template and Using an Erotic Journal 16:56 – Cortisol Overload, Body Image Issues, and Navigating Sexual Shame 17:59 – Libido Killers: Antidepressant Side Effects and Perimenopause Hormonal Shifts 18:43 – Practical Insights from the Sexology Practice Guide 19:43 – Managing Desire Discrepancies and the Myth of Effortless Intimacy 21:18 – Sexual Communication Strategies: Sexy Happy Hour and Intimacy Menus 22:24 – Domestics Resentment: Chore Inequity and the Parent-Child Relationship Dynamic 27:12 – Rebalancing the Mental Load and Sensory Overload for Caregivers and Moms 27:42 – Dr. Nazanin Moali’s Journey Founding the Sexology Podcast 31:16 – De-stigmatizing Taboo Intimacy Topics, Kink, Pegging, and Sexual Education 32:45 – Content Creation Tips for Aspiring Sexual Health Podcasters 34:11 – Why Sex Feels Like a Chore: Shifting from Goal to Experience RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, the premier global hub for sexology certifications, evidence-based continuing education (CE/CEU), and an expansive international network of therapists, healthcare providers, educators, and sexuality professionals. Explore the Community: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/Certifications: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertificationsJoin Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026 Modern intimacy is evolving. As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative. Secure your conference pass: https://www.sexologylab.com/amplifyMore from this episode's guest at: Dr. Nazanin Moali: https://oasis2care.com/Sexology Podcast: https://sexologypodcast.com/The Erotic Mind by Jack MorinSUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW: If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! www.sexologylab.com

What kind of relationship actually works for you—and how much of that answer comes from what you genuinely want versus what you've been taught a relationship is supposed to look like?In this two-part conversation, we sit down with Dr. Eli Sheff, sociologist, certified sexuality educator, longtime researcher of consensual non-monogamy, and Director of Sexual Health Alliance's Advanced Certification in Consensual Non-Monogamy. Drawing on more than 25 years of research, Dr. Sheff takes us beyond the stereotypes surrounding polyamory and into what people's relationships and families actually look like. In Part 2, we turn to Dr. Sheff's groundbreaking longitudinal research on polyamorous families with children. After decades of following these families, her findings challenge one of the biggest assumptions about consensual non-monogamy: that unconventional relationship structures inherently create instability for children. Instead, her research highlights resilience, emotional intelligence, strong support networks, and the importance of what she calls polyaffective relationships KEY TAKEAWAYS: Dr. Sheff's long-term research challenges assumptions that children raised in polyamorous families are inherently confused or unstable; the families in her research demonstrate significant stability, resilience, emotional connection, and social support.Strong polyamorous families often rely on polyaffective relationships—lasting emotional bonds that can remain important even when sexual or romantic relationships change. The quality of relationships, communication, consent, and support may tell us far more about a family's well-being than whether its structure fits conventional expectations.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 - 02:56 - Common Mistakes in Consensual Non-Monogamy & Navigating the Unicorn Hunters Phenomenon 02:56 - Unpacking Threesome Dynamics: Deconstructing Male Fantasies and Pornography Expectations 06:13 - The Evolution of Consensual Non-Monogamy in Academic Research and Psychology 11:00 - Debunking Myths About Polyamorous Families: Resilience, Emotional Intelligence, and Child Support Networks 16:50 - How Children Form Relationships with Parental Partners in Polyamorous Homes 20:05 - Overcoming Societal Stigma and Understanding Boundaries in Polyamorous Parenting 23:53 - Lightning Round: Media Representation, Pop Culture Portrayals, and the Reality of Non-Monogamous Lifestyles 27:51 - A Message for the Next Generation: Releasing Shame and Embracing Sexual Health and Relationship Diversity RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, the premier global hub for sexology certifications, evidence-based continuing education (CE/CEU), and an expansive international network of therapists, healthcare providers, educators, and sexuality professionals. Learn directly from industry pioneers and leading voices in modern sexual wellness: Explore the Community: www.sexualHealthAlliance.com Certifications: www. sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertifications
Join Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026! Modern intimacy is evolving. As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative. Secure your conference pass: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/sha-annual-conference-2026More from this episode's guest and topics discussed: Dr. Eli Sheff: https://elisabethsheff.com/ The Bonding Project: https://www.bondingproject.com/ Sexual Health Alliance Advanced Certification in Consensual Non-Monogamy: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/consensual-non-monogamy-certification SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW: If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! ⁠www.sexologylab.com⁠

What kind of relationship actually works for you—and how much of that answer comes from what you genuinely want versus what you've been taught a relationship is supposed to look like? In this two-part conversation, we sit down with Dr. Eli Sheff, sociologist, certified sexuality educator, longtime researcher of consensual non-monogamy, and Director of Sexual Health Alliance's Advanced Certification in Consensual Non-Monogamy. Drawing on more than 25 years of research, Dr. Sheff takes us beyond the stereotypes surrounding polyamory and into what people's relationships and families actually look like.In Part 1, we explore the many ways people build relationships, from monogamy and polyamory to swinging and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. Dr. Sheff introduces the Bonding Project, explains how to determine which relationship structure might work for you, breaks down common mistakes people make when opening relationships, and tackles everything from unicorn hunting to couples privilege. There is no single relationship structure that works for everyone. Monogamy, polyamory, swinging, and other relationship styles come with different expectations around emotional intimacy, exclusivity, autonomy, and commitment.Before trying consensual non-monogamy, it's important to consider not only how you feel about having additional partners, but how you would feel about your partner having those same opportunities.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 – Non-traditional Relationship Models and Cornerstone Needs 00:21 – Introduction to Dr. Eli Sheff and Consensual Non-Monogamy 01:14 – Guest Icebreaker: Dr. Eli Sheff's Background in African Dance 01:54 – Overview of The Bonding Project Relationship Test 03:56 – Audience Compatibility and Romantic Bonding Archetypes 05:59 – Inspiration and History Behind Creating The Bonding Project 08:10 – Relationship Diversity, Stigma, and Fluid Expectations 09:58 – Paid Results Expansion and Managing Polycule Expectations 11:49 – Sponsor Segment: Sexology Practice Guide Promotion 12:28 – Defining Consensual Non-Monogamy, Open Relationships, and Polyamory 13:47 – Emotional Intimacy vs. Couple's Privilege in Polyamory and Swinging 16:12 – Identifying Personal Alignment with Monogamy vs. Polyamory 19:07 – Structuring Relationship Boundaries, Open Arrangements, and Alone Time 21:33 – Sociological Differences Between Polyamory, Polygamy, and Polygyny 22:56 – Socioeconomic Requirements of Polyamory and Women's Autonomy RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: www.SexualHealthAlliance.com More from this episode's guest and topics discussed: Dr. Eli Sheff: https://elisabethsheff.com/ The Bonding Project: https://www.bondingproject.com/ Sexual Health Alliance Advanced Certification in Consensual Non-Monogamy: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/consensual-non-monogamy-certification SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW: If you loved these episodes, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights. 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! https://www.sexologylab.com/

Today in The Sexology Lab, we sit down with Midori—sexologist, educator, author, artist, and one of the pioneering voices in modern kink education. Best known for writing the first English-language instructional book on Japanese rope bondage and for leading Sexual Health Alliance's Kink Informed Certification Program, Midori shares the remarkable story behind the educator so many professionals know today. From growing up in Japan and immigrating to the United States at 14 without speaking English, to serving in the U.S. Army, discovering San Francisco's underground sex-positive movement, and helping shape modern kink education, Midori explains how questioning cultural norms became the foundation of her life's work. She also explores how attitudes toward sexuality differ between Japan and North America, why the BDSM community developed many of today's consent practices, and what professionals still get wrong when working with kinky clients. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Curiosity—not certainty—has driven Midori's career. Constantly questioning assumptions has allowed her to challenge outdated ideas about sexuality and kink.Modern BDSM education wasn't built overnight. Many of today's best practices around consent, negotiation, and safety were developed through decades of community learning and activism.Professionals can unintentionally harm kinky clients through bias, assumptions, or lack of education. Becoming kink-informed starts with curiosity, humility, and examining our own blind spots.SHOW SUMMARY: 00:00 Introducing Kink Pioneer Midori 01:23 Midori’s Origin & Early Background 01:45 Cultural Views on Sex: Japan vs. US 03:43 Questioning Norms & "Coming Out" Kinky 05:15 Contextual Shame in Japanese Culture 07:28 Sensory Sensuality & Eroguro in Japan 10:34 Negotiation & Communication Gaps in Japan 12:54 Bringing Consent & Negotiation to Japan 13:14 Promo: The Sexy Practice Guide 14:13 Common Mistakes Therapists Make with Kink 15:56 Trauma Assumptions & Pathologizing Kink 16:51 Consensual Non-Consent vs. Non-Consensual Kink 18:33 The Spectrum of Non-Consensual Kink 20:20 How Therapists Can Signal Kink-Inclusivity 22:02 Networking & Outing Yourself to Doctors 23:56 How the DSM-5 Shifted Kink Stigma 26:26 Lightning Round with Midori 26:27 BDSM Prevalence & Big Misconceptions 26:40 Overcoming Biases as Sex Professionals 27:43 The Book That Shaped Midori’s View on Desire 28:23 Empathy & Slowing Down for Relationship Safety 28:51 Why Kink-Informed Certification Matters 29:46 The Future of Sex Education & Gatekeeping RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at SHA events and educational programs. Learn more at: Sexual Health Alliance: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ Midori: https://planetmidori.com/ Sexual Health Alliance Kink Informed Certification: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/kink-informed-certification-program The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/seductive-art-of-japanese-bondage-midori/1004747883 San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI): https://www.sfsi.org/ The Kinsey Institute: https://kinseyinstitute.org/index.html Leather Archives & Museum: https://leatherarchives.org/ Carol Queen: https://carolqueen.com/ Annie Sprinkle: https://anniesprinkle.org/ Patrick Califia: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/contributor/patrick-califia/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW: If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us continue bringing thoughtful conversations about sexuality, relationships, and human behavior to listeners around the world. 🎙️ Thanks for listening to The Sexology Lab. We'll see you next week. https://www.sexologylab.com/